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How to Act In Social Settings (Answer to Brent)

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Module 2: How to Act In Social Settings (Answer to Brent)

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nce again, it’s Ross Jeffries, your master, expert, teacher, coach, guide, mentor and seduction guru.

Brent wants to know how to work social settings. How do you warm up a room so that you’re not seen as a predator? How do you act in a social setting when you first meet women so that their interest is kept in just you? He also quotes a study that says women know within two minutes whether they’re going to sleep with you or not. He wants to know if that’s true or if it’s just a pop-culture idea.

Let’s review and define our terms. What do we mean in this context by “social setting”? In the context that Brent presents his question, we mean a bar, club or other similar meat market environment.

He’s referring to an earlier module in which I said that you have to open the entire room. When you’re working a club or bar, you spend the first hour being friendly with everyone. You set aside picking up women in any way for the first half hour to hour and take on the mindset that the world is your set.

Whenever pop culture or pop psychology tells me something, or I hear something on “Oprah,” I almost always assume it is totally wrong or a gross misstatement of the actual scientific study. In my mind, pop psychology and pop culture are stupidity and dumb-ass brainwashing. Does a woman know within two minutes if she’s going to bang you? How does a woman

know that she feels anything for a guy?

We, as Speed Seducers, want to look deep into the process level of how women move through the emotional world. When a woman says, “I feel attracted to him,” how does she know that? I don’t mean her reasons, like, “He’s good looking. I like the way he touches me.” I’m talking about the how. If the woman says, “I’m not attracted to you,” how does she know? This is looking for process, not content.

Here’s a gold-key understanding: Speed Seduction® is first and

foremost not about what you say or how you act.

I’m not saying those things don’t matter because they do. However, it’s first and foremost about a different way of looking at women and understanding how women create their internal, subjective, emotional states. What are the processes that drive and create those states? What are the internal building blocks of the emotional states that drive the behaviors that we want from them?

You must have this understanding, or the rest of Speed Seduction®

becomes mumbo-jumbo. Always look for the process, not the reasons. In Speed Seduction®, we have the SRT, Signal Recognition

Technology, question which is, “When you really feel a deep attraction

for a guy, what’s the first signal or first flow of feeling you get inside that lets you know you really want this guy?” By the way, did you see the embedded commands, “feel a deep attraction” and “feeling you get inside”?

I want you to ask a better question. Don’t ask, “How should I act to get women to notice me?” or “How should I act in a social setting?” Instead ask, “What do I train myself to notice?”

Having said all of that and having reminded you again of the bedrock foundation of fundamental questions we ask as Speed Seducers and what we pay attention to as Speed Seducers, here are my answers.

It’s almost certain that some women will feel a subjective flow of feeling that they label as attraction or connection, or where they even know, “I’m going to sleep with this guy.” Some women will feel that flow of feeling within minutes or even seconds of meeting a guy. I don’t doubt that. Whether they label it attraction, intrigue or “I know I want him,” I

don’t know, but I’m sure that some, if not many, women feel that.

But that does not equate to her sleeping with a guy or even doing anything with him. If that were the case, then any time a woman felt any attraction for a guy she’d wind up f***ing him, and we know that’s not true, if for no other reason than that guys blow it, women just don’t feel enough attraction, or something gets in the way.

The fact that she’s feeling some kind of desire, interest or attention doesn’t mean that she’s absolutely going to sleep with the guy.

The next point is a little bit tricky. Women will not sleep with a guy unless they do feel something like that flow of feelings. Just because she does feel that flow of feelings isn’t sufficient to get her to sleep with you. However, feeling that flow of feelings does have to be there for the f***ing to happen, but it being there is not sufficient by itself for the f***ing to happen.

Probably when they do f*** with a guy, they look back at it and conclude that, because they did feel that flow of feelings for the guy, it meant they knew they were going to f*** him. It’s a little bit convoluted, but it is a convoluted process that women go through.

Here’s the most important point. Don’t f***ing worry about it. With Speed Seduction®, you can easily create the flows of feeling, the internal

processes and imagery, and all the things that allow a woman to convince herself that she must f*** you.

If I had a nickel for every woman who told me, just prior to her sleeping with me, that she wasn’t attracted to me, I’d be rich. Come to think of it, I am rich. Occasionally, if I hear, “I just want you to know that nothing is going to happen,” I’ll say that, and I always get laid when I do. I’ve said, “If I had a nickel for every woman who’s said something almost identical to that, just minutes or hours before she f***ed my brains out, I’d be rich. Come to think of it, I am rich.”

We, as men, tend to take the states of being attracted to a woman, aroused, filled with desire and “it’s on right now,” and clump them into one big ball of lust.

When we see a super-hot-looking girl, we don’t need to go through a chain of, “I’m interested. I’m attracted. I feel desire. I feel arousal. Now

I’m ready.” Either we clump them all simultaneously into one thing, or they happen so quickly in sequence that for all intents and purposes they may as well all happen simultaneously.

Women are different. Just because a women is feeling interested, it doesn’t mean she’s feeling attracted. Just because she’s feeling attracted, it doesn’t necessarily mean she’s feeling desire. Just because she’s feeling desire, it doesn’t necessarily mean she’s feeling arousal. Just because she’s feeling arousal, it doesn’t necessarily mean she’s feeling, “It’s on right now.”

Often, women will not only bounce back and forth between those states, but they will also insert a state of doubt or hesitation in between those things. Women tend to be able to compartmentalize, not just the different levels of their consciousness, but also their emotions.

Part of being a master and understanding and handling women, not just in terms of the seduction but also throughout the relationship, is understanding that fundamental difference in how men and women organize their emotions, at least around this idea of sex and f***ing.

Module 3: Self-Conscious

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