JUDGMENT
/
FORGIVENESS

‘The
 only
 time
 to
 look
 down
 on
 someone
 is
 when
 you
 are
 helping
 them
up.’


Jesse
Jackson
 


Key
Words:


WOUNDS:
Humiliate,
Project,
Blame,
Pride,
Anger,
Punish,
Criticize,
 Persecute


BALMS:
 Deepen
 to
 God,
 Stay
 True
 to
 Divine
 Laws,
 Feel
 into
 your
 own
wound,
Self‐responsibility,
Forgiveness


Judgment
 arises
 from
 reason,
 projection,
 self‐criticism,
 belief,
 and
 assumed
 moral
 and
 emotional
 superiority
 over
 another.
 It
 is
 a
 whole
 bag,
 a
 veritable
 mélange
 of
 pride,
 anger,
 wounding
 and
 punishment
mixing
together
to
create
judgment
over
yourself,
and
 therefore
another.



Judgment
 is
 always
 taken
 from
 a
 lofty,
 hierarchical
 and
 separated
 position.
However,
within
society
there
is
a
false
judgment,
where
 no
 one
 can
 judge
 another
 outwardly,
 yet
 inwardly
 and
 to
 friends
 the
game
continues.
This
inner
secretive
dialogue
builds
up
layers
 of
 resentment
 and
 resistance
 and
 again
 blocks
 the
 person
 from
 truly
 feeling
 their
 own
 wounds
 and
 past
 issues.
 False
 judgment
 leads
to
false
forgiveness.



Another
lie
begins
with
the
dreaded
sentence
“My
truth
is
that
I….”


And
 so
 it
 begins
 again.
 As
 soon
 as
 someone
 says
 this,
 one
 knows
 they
are
speaking
from
a
Wound.
How
can
there
be
a
MY
truth
and
 YOUR
 truth,
 and
 what
 happened
 to
 THE
 Truth?
 We
 all
 have
 to
 realign
 every
 piece
 of
 ourselves
 to
 this
 One
 Truth,
 within
 which
 your
 own
 personal
 wound,
 belief,
 preference
 and
 opinion
 matters
 not.
Commit
100%
to
One
Truth
and
give
up
your
little
version
of
it.


You
 will
 be
 much
 happier
 with
 no
 personal
 truth,
 which
 is
 really
 the
 coagulation
 of
 your
 personal
 story
 and
 wounding,
 left
 to
 hold
 onto.




When
in
the
feeling
of
being
judged,
it
is
the
murky
shadows
within
 the
 corridors
 of
 your
 soul’s
 wounding
 that
 picks
 up
 the
 energy
 of


your
‘persecutor’,
and
later,
when
you
are
alone,
starts
to
replay
the
 tape.
 The
 voice
 of
 the
 wound
 uses
 the
 energy
 it
 receives,
 and
 projects
it
back,
teasing
and
belittling
with
this
trance
like
hypnosis,
 building
 yet
 another
 layer
 within
 to
 eat
 away
 at
 your
 self‐esteem.



Judgment
 snuffs
 out
 your
 expansive,
 radiant
 self.
 It
 contracts
 life‐

force
 and
 snarls
 at
 love
 with
 its
 projections,
 its
 blaming
 and
 naming,
its
shunning
and
shaming.



Who,
 what,
 and
 which
 part
 of
 yourself
 do
 you
 feel
 angry
 or
 resentful
towards?


Do
you
feel
you
owe
someone
a
debt?



What
is
‘wrong’
in
your
life?



How
do
you
judge
your
partner?



Do
you
blame
your
parents
and
childhood
for
how
you
are
today?



Do
you
judge
others
and
the
world
for
the
way
they
lead
their
lives?



Do
you
judge
others
‘flaws”?



Do
 you
 judge
 the
 life
 you
 have
 led
 and
 the
 decisions
 you
 have
 made?



Do
you
condemn
others
and
the
world
for
how
they
are?



Do
you
silently
judge
people
when
they
are
talking
to
you?



Are
there
‘shoulds’
in
your
life:
I
‘should’
have
done
this,
I
‘should
 do
that
..’


When
 we
 are
 belittling,
 condescending,
 snobbish
 and
 patronizing,
 we
are
judging.
Discernment
is
different:
noticing
the
truth,
waiting
 for
a
moment
to
digest
it
and
bring
it
into
the
heart,
and
then
acting
 on/
expressing
that
truth
in
a
loving
manner.



Even
when
we
are
being
judged,
if
we
can
ask
how
we
can
help
that
 person
in
that
moment,
then
a
change
can
happen.
Ask
them
if
they
 are
OK.
It
can
all
dissolve
in
the
radiant
field
of
forgiveness
that
is
 instantly
felt
when
the
other
feels
you
are
in
a
space
of
love.
If
you
 do
not
take
anything
personally,
then
there
is
little
to
forgive.
If
you
 are
willing
to
keep
doing
this,
then
you
will
get
a
glimpse
of
it
again
 and
again,
until
it
becomes
permanent.
Be
honest
and
humble,
and
 help
will
come
to
you
in
ways
you
cannot
imagine.
Of
course,
if
this
 judgment
 and
 projection
 is
 untruthful
 or
 unloving,
 you
 can
 also
 choose
to
simply
walk
away
and
not
receive
this,
which
is
an
act
of
 self‐love.
 Either
 of
 these
 two
 actions,
 at
 different
 times
 and
 with


different
people
may
be
appropriate,
but
one
will
only
feel
so
in
the
 moment.
They
both
work
at
different
times.



Judgment
is
the
heartbeat
of
duality.
Judgment
is
the
critical
voice
 bleating
 inside
 your
 wound,
 criticizing
 yourself,
 others,
 and
 the
 world.
 Nothing
 is
 good
 enough
 for
 the
 judging
 mind,
 and
 nothing
 can
match
up
to
its
standards,
that
funnily
enough
even
you
do
not
 match
up
to,
even
though
you
righteously
assert
you
are
‐
until
it
is
 pointed
out
to
you
that
you
are
not.
This
voice
states
that
you,
and
 others,
 are
 not
 good
 enough.
 This
 sucks
 the
 joy
 out
 of
 life.
 Stop
 fighting
 and
 routing
 your
 energy
 into
 your
 protective
 fields
 and
 defending.
Honesty
is
the
key
to
this.



Critical
actually
means
life
threatening.
To
be
critical
means
you
are
 threatening
your
very
life,
and
to
continue
being
critical
means
that
 your
life
will
in
some
way,
wilt,
end,
and
die.
Judgment
blocks
life
 force
from
flowing,
and
your
heart
from
fully
opening.
To
actually
 observe
 what
 judgment
 does
 on
 a
 cellular
 level
 is
 to
 see
 the
 contraction
 of
 ALL
 your
 cells,
 shrinking,
 twisting
 and
 distorting
 their
 naturally
 fluid,
 perfected
 shapes
 and
 forms.
 Judgment
 is
 a
 cellular
signal
to
cut
off
love
from
the
rest
of
your
being.


Judgment
is
the
beating
heart
of
duality,
fed
by
guilt,
shame,
fear
of
 feeling
 emotions,
 and
 pain.
 It
 reveals
 the
 unexplored
 parts
 of
 yourself
 that
 you
 sweep
 under
 the
 carpet.
 Whether
 it
 is
 judging
 oneself
or
another,
the
belief
is
the
same:
I
am
separated
from
feeling
 part
of
myself,
and
therefore
I
cannot
feel
you
either.



Where
there
is
Judgment
‐
there
is
blame
and
shame.


Where
there
is
blame
and
shame
‐
there
is
less
than
/
more
than.


Where
 there
 is
 less
 than
 /
 more
 than
 ‐
 there
 is
 measurement
 and
 comparison.


Where
 there
 is
 measurement
 and
 comparison
 ‐
 there
 is
 right
 and
 wrong.


Where
there
is
right
and
wrong
‐
there
is
good
and
bad.


Where
there
is
good
and
bad
‐
there
is
Judgment.




If
 one
 of
 the
 Wounds
 still
 exist
 ‐
 ALL
 the
 Wounds
 exist.
 All
 are
 interconnected.



It
 is
 usually
 easier
 to
 give
 to
 others,
 but
 not
 to
 Self.
This
 is
 such
 a
 common
occurrence.
Why
do
we
hold
this
idea‐belief
of
sacrifice?
Is
 it
genetic
or
hardwired
into
us,
perpetuating
and
creating
a
sense
of
 guilt
perhaps?



Sacrifice
 affects
 the
 very
 foundation
 of
 a
 being.

 One
 sacrifices
 to
 deny
their
self
or
to
avoid
their
own
pain,
to
rescue
others
to
avoid
 the
 hole
 in
 their
 own
 life,
 acting
 out
 of
 a
 belief
 and
 false
 wisdom
 from
their
wounds.
In
this,
one
gives
away
everything
that
sustains
 them,
gives
away
their
honouring,
love
and
responsibility
for
their
 own
 self,
 and
 dilutes
 their
 true
 loving
 connection
 to
 life
 and
 God.


Sure,
it
may
LOOK
like
Giving,
but
it
is
usually
a
cover
up.
There
is
a
 belief
 here
 that
 if
 I
 give
 enough
 then
 ALL
 (but
 not
 me!)
 will
 be
 supported.



What
 does
 guilt
 feel
 like?
 Heavy,
 slow,
 tired,
 thick
 sludge.
Guilt
 is
 what
 perpetuates
 the
 idea
 of
 sacrifice.

 Once
 you
 have
 given
 yourself
 away
 and
 know
 it,
 guilt
 arises.
Then
 may
 come
 anger
 towards
 Self
 and/or
 outrage
 towards
 others.
One
 needs
 to
 be
 an
 adult
with
enough
self‐responsibility
to
recognize
that
this
process
 is
about
NO
ONE
OR
NO
THING
ELSE
‐
ONLY
about
their
Self.




When
a
person
is
ceasing
victim
mode
(that
does
not
mean
that
it
is
 all
 necessarily
 gone)
 they
 are
 beginning
 the
 work
 of
 self‐

love.
Ultimately
 it
 ALL
 comes
 back
 to
 you,
 and
 the
 sooner
 one
 cognizes
 and
 accepts
 it,
 the
 sooner
 you
 can
 initiate
 the
 process
 of
 forgiving
yourself.
Underneath
the
anger
is
always
grief.
It
is
Grief
 that
breaks
the
final
wall.

Grief
is
the
sweetest
emotion
because
it
 brings
it
all
home
to
Self
without
shame
or
blame:
Grief
expresses
 the
pain
of
lost
innocence.
Self
trusts
when
it
truly
FEELS
it's
own
 innocence.
And
 sometimes
 that
 takes
 reflections
 from
 others
 to
 remind
us
of
our
own
innocence,
that
it
is
possible
to
have
and
feel
 that
innocence.



A
FEW
FOUNDATIONS
OF
JUDGMENT
 


Assumption.
From
your
own
belief
system
and
personal
truths
you
 have
an
idea,
and
project
that
what
is
true
for
you
must
be
true
for
 another.
What
is
right
for
me
must
be
right
for
another.
This
is
very