Email: Hey Marni
Just wanted to say you doing a great job and I love all the advice that you have been giving us guys. I have a quick question for you. The other day I was waiting for my train and I saw this hot girl sitting down waiting for her train also so I went and sat next to her and a few seconds later our train arrived. I didn't get to talk to her. The thing is I could tell she could have been a little interested. She even came and sat next me on the train.
My question is what would she or any woman do, for that matter, if I gave her my number and said, “hi I would love to chat with you sometime but I have to get off at the next stop?” Would a woman call even after not having a conversation, and just handing her your number?
Thanks N
My response:
No, no, no! Next time you have an opportunity like this get it on! She sat next to you on the train. Oh my God, it was as if she was saying to you please pay attention to me. If she had no interest in you, she would have made sure to sit far away from you, seeing as you made the first move by sitting next to her. Generally, any time you see a woman you like, or even ones you do not like, start talking to them. If you like them then say, "Listen, I’m getting off at next stop but give me your number. I want to take you out for xxx." If you do not get the chance to talk to them but want that chance, then say the same thing.
You can meet women anywhere and you are always allowed to talk to any woman you like. You do not need permission other than the permission you give to yourself. You are also allowed to ask out any woman you like even if you have not spoken to her for a long time. No limitations. Let the woman take care of the rejecting instead of you rejecting yourself.
Do not let an opportunity like this pass by you again or I will hunt you down! Marni
How Do I Ask a Woman On a Second Date?
Email: Hi Marni,
I would like to know how you get second dates. Should I wait for the girl to suggest that we should see each other again? Because I have read that advice from other dating experts. Is it okay to say, "I would like to do this or that. Do you want to come with me?" Or something like that?
Carlo
My response: Carlo,
Of course, you can ask for second dates if you want to go on them. I do not agree with getting her to ask you because most women will not ask you and therefore you lose out. Lead! As the man, always lead. The more you lead, the more a woman will be inclined to follow. Why? Because when you lead and take on the masculine role, it allows a woman to fall into the feminine role. That is what women want-- to feel feminine.
I actually just did a great interview with a good friend’s new boyfriend. While she and I were hanging out, she told me that the way her new BF would end each date and ask for the next one was super attractive. She said, "I had no choice but to say yes to his invite. It was direct, confident, and attractive." Here’s how he would end each date: "X, I had a great time with you. Then recalled something from the date that he liked learning about her and said it. I would like to take you on Wednesday for
dinner/movie/walk. Are you free?" The reason why it was so attractive was because he was stating what he wanted and then relayed that information to my friend. The response to that question is yes or no. Clean cut!
Try it, Marni
Is Okay to Date on a Casual Level?
Email: Hi Marni!
My name is Leslie. I'm a 47-year-old black guy. Divorced, three kids, two of which are living with me, helping them make the transition into adulthood. With my hectic schedule, I have realized I cannot really give a long-term relationship the time it needs (hence the end of my two year relationship last week). How do I date women knowing this?
Very Respectfully, Leslie
My response: Leslie,
You are asking me if it is okay to date multiple women and explore them on a semi casual basis. Correct? I am all for exploring your options and creating a life that is fun, exciting and works for you. However, once you start involving others it can become tricky because your wants may not coincide with their wants. As a note, this can even happen when both people have similar end goals.
Therefore, my advice to you is to be honest with tact. This does not mean telling a woman on the first date "Hey, I just want to let you know that I don't want anything serious and just want to have sex and fun." It means, not leading a woman down a path that is false so that you can get what you want. As long as you are being honest through your actions and not promising things that may give false hope, you are free to do whatever you want.
Number one rule: As long as you are not hurting, misleading, or being dishonest, you are allowed to do and ask for whatever you want.
Marni