When I was a kid and living with my father, his new wife used to make me sit and watch soap operas with her. Even if they were out of town, her friends who were babysitting me used to make me watch them, too. I got into them for a while, but they also kept me in emotional turmoil. As a man I really didn’t like it. But the women seem to thrive on them.
I could not stand the Friday cliffhangers. It used to drive me crazy. But the women would thrive on the emotional tension from Friday to Monday. It seemed to give them some kind of energy. They loved it. They lived for it. They had to have it like an addiction.
Once I stopped watching soap operas, I found that I was much more calm. And I noticed that if I began to be around a television that was showing a soap opera, I would get all tense and nervous. I wanted to get away from the television as quickly as possible. But the women were drawn to the TV, like a moth to a flame.
I believe that being off-balance, and wondering, and tense from soap operas give women a very similar feeling, if not the same feeling, they get from being around a master seducer.
If you think about it, the master seducer is doing the same thing with the woman as a soap opera does.
> He keeps her off-balance, but not too far off-balance.
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> And he keeps the tension, especially the sexual tension, at just the right heat. He knows the perfect temperature and timing for each woman.
Even though most men do not like the drama that most women like, we must be able to create a sense of drama for them. We don’t necessarily have to feel it in our bodies, but we must be proficient at creating enough drama so that she sees us as a challenge and exciting. Enough of a challenge and exciting enough to tune in on Monday to see the cliffhanger resolved. On Monday she gets to see if her analysis is correct. And it doesn’t matter if it is her analysis of a soap opera or of YOU.
The romance novel and the soap operas have an already made path in her mind and her emotions. You might as well use something that is a ready in existence instead of trying to form new pathways.
I once asked a geologist about where to go to find gold. He told me that I should go where gold has already been found. He said, “You don’t go trying to find gold in new places. Use the maps that others have already plotted out - the maps where gold has been found.”
Teri Tells:
I’m going to have to beg to differ. I love romance novels but I HATE soap operas.
Soap operas move TOO slowly. I can begin watching one I haven’t seen in years and know what is going on in less than one show. Keep that in mind – some women don’t want things to move as slowly as a soap – some of us are more in tune with an adventurous romance movie!
In the same sense, you want to use the methods of master seducers and how they get into the minds and hearts of women. They have discovered the routes already - the naturally occurring routes. Not only the naturally occurring routes in women, but they have discovered their own routes that are naturally occurring in themselves as men and master seducers. It is in all of us. We just have to find it.
And it is much easier to use the maps of those who have found it before us. Why reinvent the wheel?
Don’t have any master seducers around to ask? Another thing you can do is ask women what they find so appealing about romance novels and soap operas. Or you might want to get specific with them about certain shows or books that they really liked. When you find out that kind of information, you get pretty specific information about them. What that information does is identify major points of interest on her map.
It is like looking at a map for a vacation where you have picked specific points interest that would be fun and exciting to visit. When you have plotted them out and planned your route, you don’t think about the points in between those places you want to visit. Your main energy and focus becomes where you’re going. And you begin to think about and fantasize what it’s going to be like.
When you ask a woman questions about romance novels or soap operas or any drama for that matter, you begin to plot out her internal points of interest. Remember these points. They will become very useful to you if you decide to pursue any kind of relationship with her. Each of us has a different map and points of interest.
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If you were excited about going to Yellowstone National Park, and someone started talking to you about Glacier National Park, they would be more of a distraction. But if they decided to start talking about Yellowstone Park and they had been there, you would begin to listen more closely. You would listen more closely because they were now talking about something that was of interest you.
In the same sense, when women talk about emotional or dramatic points of interest to them, they are giving you clues about how to get into their minds, hearts, and emotions. These keys will bypass most of the social structures she may have put up against you, or any man. It gets you in the door, and if you’re good enough, it keeps you there.
Here is a very important point. The closer you can get to emotions that are similar to those experienced in romance and love or sex, without talking about them directly, the more chance you have of hooking up her internal feelings to you. Just like when Pavlov’s dogs were trained to respond to a bell, you are training her heightened emotions to respond around you.
If you can get a woman to keep responding in highly pleasurable ways, with high tension, her unconscious mind will begin to associate you as the cause of these emotions. Her unconscious mind and her conscious mind will begin to find reasons to be around you and to experience even deeper emotions and tension, and your presence.
Once you have some rapport with her, you can begin to talk about some of her deeper emotions by talking about those scenes in a soap opera or romance novel - scenes like lovemaking and the tension that builds before. When you talk about it from the standpoint of a book or movie, you are not directly asking her to experience those emotions. But when
she begins to think about what those scenes mean to her, she can’t help but access the emotions. They will begin to rise in her.
Once again, the more intense emotions you can have her access around you, the more chances are that her unconscious mind will figure out that you are the reason for those emotions. Then the unconscious mind finds ways of wanting you around to create more for her.