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PRAISE FOR DAVID DEIDA
“Finding God Through Sex is the deepest, most alive, insightful book I have ever read on the wonders and subtleties of sexuality as a spiritual path. It inspires us to the knowing of total openness to who we are as the lover and the beloved … until we disappear into love.”
GABRIEL COUSENS, M.D. Author of Spiritual Nutrition and the Rainbow Diet
“David Deida’s writings give both men and women rare insight into the pro- found and transformative realms of spiritual sexuality.”
CHARLES MUIR Author of The Art of Conscious Loving
“The openness, the love! What lively new language David Deida finds for the unsayable!” COLEMAN BARKS Author of The Essential Rumi
“In the area of sacred intimacy, David Deida is holding a lightening bolt. He sheds an astonishing light.”
MARIANNE WILLIAMSON Author of A Return to Love
“David Deida’s teachings on this central human concern, sexuality, emanate from a deeply trustworthy source. He has undergone his own rigorous training and practice, which manifests in precise, gentle, and thorough teachings. Many spiritual traditions, including Zen, have excluded or marginalized the sexual experience. David’s work fills this gap, and gives us a mature approach for bringing the energetic, emotional, and physical experience of sex into our life and practice. And like Zen, the fruition of David’s work is openness, compas-sion, and love.” GENPO ROSHI Author of The Eye Never Sleeps
“Finding God Through Sex is an enlightened, uninhibited sexual guide for anyone seeking to improve mind, body, and intimate relationship. David
Deida practically and skillfully brings the ancient knowledge of integrating sex and spirit to the modern couple. Enjoy!”
HAROLD BLOOMFIELD, M.D. Author of How to Survive the Loss of a Love
“He pulls no punches and brooks no weaknesses … his insights about male/ female interaction can’t help but stimulate a more active understanding of this
complicated dynamic than a galaxy of Mars/Venus clones.”
NAPRA REVIEW
“David Deida must have the biggest balls in contemporary spirituality. Being able to teach and live integrated sex, relationship, and transcendence is no easy task. It requires immense courage, wisdom, and, above all, fearless lov-ing. In Deida, all this gets included in one radical teachlov-ing. Deida gracefully illuminates and integrates the rawness of sex, the polarity of the masculine/ feminine relationship, and the heart’s true desire to transcend it all. Through
the communion of duality in its most obvious play, the realization of Love/ Oneness that lies at the very heart of us is recognized. Deida is this love’s true poet, helping us to get real, get wild, open up, and be truly liberated.”
VIJAY RANA The Watkins Review
“I have been exploring the subject of sacred sexuality for more than ten years and find David Deida’s perspective radical, profound, and extremely effective. In David’s teaching, sex becomes an adventure in opening to love, as love. His deep insights on the differences between masculine and feminine spirituality are unique and unparalleled in my experience. His wisdom has touched me profoundly and I recommend his work to anyone who wants to transform
their sexuality and their life.”
FINDING
GOD
THROUGH
david deida
Foreword by Ken Wilber
Awakening the One of Spirit
Through the Two of Flesh
FINDING
GOD
THROUGH
Important Caution
Please Read This
Although anyone may find the practices, disciplines, and understandings in this book to be useful, it is made available with the understanding that neither the author nor the publisher are engaged in presenting specific medical, psychological, emotional, sexual, or spiritual advice. Nor is anything in this book intended to be a diagnosis, prescription, recommendation, or cure for any specific kind of medical, psychological, emotional, sexual, or spiritual problem. Each person has unique needs and this book cannot take these individual differences into account. Each person should engage in a program of treatment, prevention, cure, or general health only in consultation with a licensed, qual-ified physician, therapist, or other competent professional. Any person suffering from venereal disease or any local illness of his or her sexual organs or prostate gland should consult a medical doctor and a qualified instructor of sexual yoga before practicing the sexual methods described in this book.
Sounds True, Inc., Boulder CO 80306 © 2002, 2005 by David Deida
All rights reserved. First edition 2002 Second edition 2005
SOUNDS TRUE is a trademark of Sounds True, Inc.
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner without written permission from the author and publisher.
Published 2005 Printed in Canada
ISBN: 978-1-59179-273-4
eBook ISBN: 978-1-59179-850-7
Library of Congress Control Number: 2005924954
Previously published by Plexus, 2002 as Finding God Through Sex: A Spiritual Guide to Ecstatic Loving and Deep Passion for Men and Women
table of contents
Foreword …… XI
A Note to the Reader …… XIII
PART I: SURRENDER
…… 11. Surrender Everything …… 7
2. Surrender Through, Not To …… 13
3. Surrender Only Into Love …… 17
4. Surrender Beyond Emotions …… 23
5. Make Love to Obliterate Your Partner in Love …… 31
6. Let Go of the Body …… 41
7. Unguard Your Heart …… 51
PART II: OPENNESS
…… 678. Do Sex As Open Feeling …… 73
9. Free Attention in the Midst of Pleasure …… 93
10. Go Out, Not In …… 109
11. Always Make Love With the Divine …… 113
12. When Your Partner Hurts You, Give Your Partner Love …… 125
PART III: DESIRE ……
14914. Magnify Desire Through Sex …… 161
15. Convert Animal Lust to a Fury of Love …… 175
16. Use Desire As Transmitter of Gift …… 189
17. Never Break the Thread of Sex …… 201
18. Be Sexually Available to Love …… 217
19. Use Your Dark Side to Increase Energy …… 225
20. Use Domination and Submission to Magnify Desire and Polarity …… 239
21. Embrace Your Darkest Desires in Love …… 251
PART IV: REMEMBRANCES ……
25922. Honor Feminine Inspiration …… 261
23. Combine Sexual Energy With Consciousness …… 265
24. Earn the Feminine’s Trust …… 269
25. Worship the Divine Through the Form of Your Partner …… 275
26. Do Sex to Serve Others …… 277
27. Do Sex to Enlighten the World …… 279
28. Make Love As If Death Were Imminent …… 281
David Deida Resources …… 283
