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Manifesting

Money

And

Much

More

By Gerri Ratigan

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This book is dedicated to problems, issues, people who’ve driven me crazy and mostly to my own fear. Without them how could I have gotten this far? I look forward to letting you go with love………..

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Who is Gerri Ratigan? Gerri is a life coach, speaker, writer, creator of the Manifestation Project and spiritual seeker. Gerri has helped hundreds of people create great lives, improve their relationship with money and learn to deliberately attract the life that is right for them. You can learn more at www.manifestationproject.com.

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Forward

I am delighted to introduce Gerri Ratigan´s new book, because I believe you´ll find that her personal point of view and authentic voice makes real some principles that can all too easily be abstract.

Follow her ideas and example - and like her, you can embark on an adventure that brings you results that your heart wants and that gives you far more than you may have

expected.

Don´t miss her insights into the kind of universe we live in - friendly, and helpful -- and very, very responsive. For many of us - confirmation that this is so...in a world that is full of too much strife and difficulty -- can be one of the best insights you receive.

Gerri provides many kinds of support, to help make it easier for you to experience the reality and benefits of what she shares with us. This book provides one kind of support - I encourage you to watch for what else she offers, from time to time - so you can

experience and have more and more kinds of practical support. Some of which will be just right for you.

-David Burnet

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Special thanks go to:

My sons, Nick and Lee, who give me a great come back when people ask how I can stand teenagers, “Ah, but my kids are wonderful!” You both make me proud, you make me laugh and you remind me of how incredibly successful I am. If all else were to fail in my life, I would still die an extremely successful woman because I was able to support you both in becoming the amazing young men I see unfolding before my eyes. My great coach, David Burnet, who’s stuck with me through an incredible roller coaster ride for the last two years of my transitioning life. Thanks for being there through all this messy adjustment I’ve been through, coming back when I needed you and being a rock when I’ve been a mess. My wonderful friends, Lin Murphy, Andrea Mincsak, Clare Mertz, Barry Levine, Sue Schell, Margo Mastromarchi, Michelle Marks, Gretchen Sunderland, Athena Burke, Alex Stier, Bill Blatter, Shara DiSarro, Sue Holdren, Don Warren, Teresa Scicchitano-deWall, Rod and Debbie Aldrich, Penny Hill, Randall Hogue, Merci

Miglino, Paul Noonan, Joan Oliver, Marcy Perlmutter, Cheryl Richardson, Paula Scardamalia, Stephanie Sicko, Margaret Weinland, the powerful coaching of Drew Rozell, my coach Shale Paul who passed away in 2000, but continues to guide me, the memory of my dad, my sister Kelley, her husband Chuck, and their daughters Shannon and Ericka, my brothers Bob and Jeff, my mother, my sons’ friends who keep me

laughing and happy to have you hang out in the basement creating music, Edith Simpson, Lynn Neal, Dennis Keefrider, the people in the chatroom at Cupid.com, all my clients past and present and members of the Manifestation Project. My coach at Prosper

Learning, Dang Ing and pinch hitter, Gil McIff, Sean and Marco of Mudfunk for making this enthusiastic fan feel welcome when I go out to see you, and Brian Edgerton. But mostly, thank you to this amazing journey called life and the constant lessons I’ve learned about how to live abundantly. Thank you, thank you…

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CONTENTS

Chapter 1 - Introduction –

Basic Truths -

Money and the

Law of Attraction - a Personal Note………9

Chapter 2 - One Personal Experience

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Chapter 3 - The Law of Attraction –

The Law of Attraction

- Abundance Adrenaline - Think, Believe, Feel - Vibration,

Energy, Emotion – The Four Steps to Manifesting – At the Market

– Focus and Knowingness – Affirmations – Faith and

Gratitude………...14

Chapter 4 - Attracting Money –

Three Spiritual Approaches

to Money – Joy………..22

Chapter 5 - Thoughts Fuel our Power to Create –

A

Light Bulb Goes on – The Spotlight Shines Brighter – The

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Quote or What it Really Means – More Games – Grooves in the

Road………..24

Chapter 6 - Words –

Two Word Exercises – Let Yourself Be

Light – Heavy Words – Awareness of Words – Truth Spoken –

The Energy of Words – Childcare Fiasco – The Power of

Journaling – the Sound of Ahh and Selling the House………..30

Chapter 7 - Belief –

Self-Esteem – The Wave-Maker Machine

– Our Deepest Beliefs – Belief Shifters……….37

Chapter 8 - Emotion –

The Shudder of Poured Drinks –

Cosmic Roll of the Dice – Light and Love for Your Unique Life –

Wounded Child to Accomplished Adult – Friends to Remind Us –

Addiction to Negative Emotions, Ego and the Drama Queen – Be

Success – Negative Emotions vs. Painful Emotions –

How to Feel Better………44

Chapter 9 - Feelings –

A Newly Inspired Approach to Meeting

Men – Inspiration to Help Mom – A Horrible Day

Transformed……….54

Chapter 10 - Actions

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Chapter 11 - Emotional Money History

– Broken Jar

Meant More – She Personalized Money………..60

Chapter 12 - Knowingness –

Profound Knowing………63

Chapter 13 - My Story

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Money Section:

ARTICLES, QUESTIONS TO JOURNAL AND PONDER AND PROSPERITY READINESS TEST® -

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Manifestation and Spirituality Section:

INCLUDES ARTICLES,

MANIFESTATION RATING TEST®, AND MEDITATION -

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Personal Foundation and Self-Care

: INCLUDES ARTICLES,

WORKSHEETS: REWRITING YOUR SCRIPT, BOUNDARIES, TOLERATIONS

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Success Section: -

INCLUDES ARTICLES, HOWS YOUR SUCCESS

COMMUNITY TEST, MEDITATION TO BREAK ADDICTION TO FAILURE

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Miscellaneous Section:

- INCLUDES ARTICLES ON PARENTING AND FOR

TEENAGERS

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Quotes

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THE DIVINITY OF MONEY

Chapter One

Introduction

You can attract great wealth by doing what you love. This book will show you how. Your money experience is a reflection of your beliefs about your value in the world. Your experience of wealth tells volumes about how you see yourself. So doesn’t it make sense to learn different beliefs?

Perhaps you too have fallen into the trap of believing that doing more of what you don’t like will bring you what you desire. I invite you to suspend that belief and consider being open to the possibility that there’s a better way.

What if I could convince you that the hard work philosophy is a lie? Would you like to sidestep the ulcers, dyspepsia, heart disease, broken relationships and other stress induced problems? You can! The Universe wants you to have fun, to play, to enjoy abundance, happiness and love. I will show you how!

Basic Truths

The following principles will be examined using personal experience and exercises: ! Positive energy = Attracts positive money experiences

! Negative energy = Less life and enjoyment of money ! It’s all about you

! What you focus on gains life ! What you resist persists

The exact meaning of these will be woven throughout the book. By the time you are done reading you will have learned a number of approaches to manifesting the abundance you wish to have in your life.

Money and the Law of Attraction

Money has been called “congealed energy”. It is a means of exchange that flows from one to another. By holding it too tightly out of fear or ignoring its lessons, we cheat ourselves of its gift – which is to enrich our lives. Unfortunately, for too many it becomes

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the primary focus and leads away from true prosperity. Many people forget to enjoy loved ones and the wonders of this world and instead focus on the pursuit of money. Still others allow money to become a source of constant worry and keep them from enjoying the perfection of the present moment. They forget to be grateful for all they have out of fear of some future scarcity. Ideally, money should flow out of generosity and love to ourselves and others. It is our servant in achieving our Vision in life.

This book is meant as an introduction to the Law of Attraction, vibration and spirituality and how they work with money. There’s been much written about these topics, yet much more needs to be explored so we may learn to more effectively apply it in our lives. These are new and exciting areas, and yet this material has been around for centuries. We are learning how to channel source more effectively, and it takes some getting used to. Adapting ourselves requires adjustment emotionally, mentally, and physically. It’s going to be a stretch to live joyfully. But, of course, you’ll love the results!

In particular, I will address the thorny subject of money and how it relates to Spirituality or the Law of Attraction. In brief, spirituality is not the same as religion, though all great religions include spirituality. I consider Spirituality to be about having a direct

experience with God, All that Is, Source, or the Universe. Spirituality is the extent to which one follows his or her own inner guidance which is God’s way of communicating with us. It’s not only about having this direct experience and listening to our inner guidance. Spirituality is also about working at building a higher vibration and holding a knowingness or faith that things will work out as they should. Faith is having a

knowingness even when evidence is contradictory.

I will write about thoughts, words, actions and emotions among other things in detail simply to offer some easy awareness for you. However, don’t feel it’s a rigid system you must follow in order to achieve nirvana. The idea is to inspire and give you some tools that will increase and hold you in a high vibration. Apply them where it feels in alignment with your joy. Some things in this writing may work to your advantage and offer you help you can incorporate without struggle. Go with those. Leave the struggle alone. You can read this again and find you are ready for more. Again, go with what is easy and makes you feel good. You’ll also find a number of articles, questions to ponder and exercises in Chapter 14. These are offered as a bonus I hope you’ll take advantage of. I suggest you work with the exercises that resonate with you.

Many people experience poverty while having an abundance of wealth. This book focuses more on satisfaction and fulfillment with life and one’s financial situation than merely the acquisition of more.

A Personal Note

There are some great sources out there to learn about the Law of Attraction and Money. I’ve included a reference guide at the end. What I’ve tried to do here is give my own story and struggles while incorporating the Law in Attraction in my own life. The concepts are wonderful and beautiful, yet the real world presents challenges to

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implementing these ideals. Let me reframe that – the ego presents challenges! My hope is that my story will inspire you to live the Law of Attraction more fully.

I have been fortunate to have had some wonderful training and to have worked with some very powerful coaches who’ve taught me much about these subjects. I have to confess that I have not read volumes of information on these subjects. Rather, I’ve worked diligently to apply these spiritual principles in my life. I believe growth is about the application, not about acquiring more knowledge. Of course, knowledge is great stuff, but a shift in feeling is the true goal.

This is a compilation of material I’ve taught for at least 5 years now. I started

researching this for personal reasons. Frankly, money has been a difficult topic for me throughout my life. I still have work to do on it, but the improvements I’ve experienced have been powerful. This material works. As you take advantage of the exercises and allow the lessons to open your heart, money will enter your life more easily. Just as a caution though, this is not really about working hard so that you’ll earn more, though you’ll find more money coming to you. This book is more about allowing wealth consciousness to be in your life now.

You’ll see later in this book that you can enjoy doing what you love, that the Universe will provide for you and that you can also live abundantly and well for doing it. As a matter of fact, following your joy is the only true abundance there is.

I’ve also been taught some powerful exercises to focus more effectively on what I want and sidestep resistance. I am excited to share this information with you.

I promise that by reading and applying the material here, your path will be eased, your ability to create what you desire will be made simpler, and you will enjoy more

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Chapter Two

One Personal Experience

Once I was in a marriage based in large part on what we lacked in terms of money and other things. We shared a strong negative bond about money. Our shared belief that others had more than us kept us stuck in a cycle of lack. We reinforced the idea for each other that if we worked really, really hard at things we didn’t like that we might

eventually earn enough to live a more abundant life and perhaps see a path to some savings. Most – oh wait, let me correct that – ALL of our interaction about money was about how much we didn’t have and how difficult things were. It got so bad that I remember my ex-husband once complaining about my wasting a bar of soap to clean some paint brushes – a bar of soap! What’s interesting about this is we were never ever in a true financial crisis. We always had enough to eat and a roof over our heads. Sadly, we could have also had more joy and laughter if we’d allowed it into our hearts.

Now even though we lived out of fear of not having enough (and you’ll see soon enough why this is such a poverty inducing attitude), we did set a priority to put our children first. Going against the norm which stated that every family must have 2 full time incomes, we’d agreed that I should stay home to raise our sons. If I could do it again, I would have approached this choice with spiritual strength and the knowingness I will write about here. However, these mistakes were just part of the process for me, so in that regard they were exactly what I needed to experience.

Although I am very grateful for our two very well adjusted young men, we suffered the continuous self-questioning that can accompany making a choice that’s counter to popularly held beliefs and practices. We were under the widely held delusion that there is only a limited amount of abundance to go around and that by choosing to spend time doing what we loved, we were doomed to suffer financially.

Of course, now I realize that that is bunk, but at the time this delusion caused us a

considerable amount of pain. I remember one particularly painful episode about money in which my ex-husband and I were lamenting about how little we had. It’s curious that it led me to cleaning my house more furiously. Somehow I thought that I could fix things by doing more. I realize that some of you may think that my reaction was silly, but believe me its common. I subconsciously believed that more non-productive work would alleviate our financial constraints. Perhaps you’ll argue that working harder is effective at bringing more money on the job, but that is a myth that harms people. Struggle and work do not bring money – even when we think it does. What you’ll learn through reading this is to harness inspiration. Inspired action will create prosperity and the life of your dreams. Uninspired work only leads to stress and back problems.

Looking back I see that it was the mentality we held, and not our choice to focus on our children, that created the financial scarcity we experienced. I was always second

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guessing myself, feeling jealous of what others had and thinking that perhaps I should have done this or that differently or somehow I could fix it or make it better – if only. Let’s move forward to shift your perspective before you suffer one more moment of struggle! By using the techniques here you can.

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Chapter Three

The Law of Attraction

When I was in college I remember making a casual comment to a very practical and cynical friend that when I knew I could afford something, I would find a way. Looking back I realize that was a huge mistake because he responded by shooting down that theory. And being so wobbly in my belief system, I allowed his doubt to pierce my faith. Now I wish I had had the guts to maintain my own conviction because I was on to

something important.

So one aspect of being able to manifest is to go against the crowd and follow your own intuition. It took me many years to get that. I hope you get it more quickly than I.

The Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction has been taught by spiritual teachers for centuries and states that like attracts like. What you know, expect and believe in your heart becomes the truth for you. Have you ever had the experience of finding the money for something simply because it was important? At one moment, you could not fathom having enough to pay your basic bills and then something occurred that made you have the money.

For example, people donated much more money than they ever imagined they could afford after the events of September 11. Similarly, most of us find the resources for emergencies like traveling to see a dying relative or to help a loved one in crisis. Because the crisis forces us to see beyond our own habitual limits, the money is found.

Abundance Adrenaline

Everyone has heard about the phenomenon caused by being thrown into an emergency without time to think. There are plenty of stories like the tiny woman who finds the strength to lift a car off her child.

Well, we have all experienced abundance adrenaline. We temporarily forget our limiting beliefs and become mighty in our ability to attract abundance. What if we could access the power to manifest abundance more effectively or without having to wait for an emergency or horrible tragedy like September 11?

The power to deliberately create as opposed to reacting to crisis is within us all. Abundance adrenaline illustrates the point perfectly.

Unfortunately, we just tend to go back to our limiting habits and belief systems and settle for what our history tells us is our reality. But that does not need to be your reality. You have the power to choose.

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Think Believe, Feel

One great way to choose is to learn how the rich think. Surely you have heard that the rich get richer and the poor get poorer! Well rich people are thinking rich thoughts and know how to be rich and poor people are thinking poor thoughts and know how to be poor. I am not saying we should look down on anyone for having had some difficult circumstances. It is true that our system provides an unfair distribution of advantages. Yet at the same time, there is enough wealth in this world for everyone to live opulently. This is a paradox, I admit. But the Universe is reflecting our beliefs on a systems level as well as individually. So while those born into wealth have the advantage of having learned how to be rich, those of us born into the middle classes or poverty have the advantage of knowing what it feels like to lack.

This may not sound like an advantage, but it is actually is. How else can one know true happiness without having known its opposite? How else can one know what wealth truly is without having gone without?

So not only is this an advantage in that it helps those who succeed from nothing

appreciate their success, but it offers even more. Without the impetus to move out of a mediocre financial situation one may never learn to appreciate its opposite and fully embrace fulfillment. In order to manifest wealth, one must learn how to feel fulfilled first. Feeling is one of the steps to manifesting you will learn about later in this chapter and in the chapter on Techniques for Shifting.

I am guessing you’d not only like to be wealthy, but along with that, feel the fulfillment that goes along with knowing all is right with the world. You will learn to have them both. Makes you feel a little sad for those who are born wealthy then right? (Ok, perhaps that’s a bit of a stretch for you, but stay with me!)

Yet it is true that many of us have a more difficult time manifesting wealth due to our conditioning. But by now you are starting to realize that this is not the end of the story. The good news is that our wealth is ultimately not about external circumstance, it’s a reflection of internal programming. And, this programming can be changed!

Vibration, Energy, Emotion

When I was younger, I reacted the way many of us do to the perceived unfairness of our system. I felt this was a sign of our unjust establishment, and expended a bunch of angry, negative energy railing against the injustice. At other times I beat myself up for not doing enough or not being valuable enough to make the money I wanted. I even compared myself to others I perceived as having more and diminished my own value. Shame and blame like I experienced are of a low energy or vibration. They are an emotional frequency. These lower frequencies generate little power to attract good things, and in fact only attract more of the same low energies. Neither of those energy levels worked very well as I just stayed stuck in financial mediocrity.

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Later, working in human services, I projected the energy of a martyr believing my sacrifice was what was needed in the world. By accepting less, I would somehow allow others to have more. Of course, what I got was less.

Fortunately, books and teachers appeared to help me reshape my experience! Now I know enough to choose something other than blame or personal shame. Through my study, I’ve learned to be much more deliberate about my energy. If I can manifest wealth with the background I had, you can too!

I’ve learned that the Universe is infinitely abundant and expansive and wants us all to accept light and wealth. That is our work. Our own joy and abundance is how we heal others.

I will be using energy, vibration and emotion somewhat interchangeably here. Place high importance on these. Energy, vibration and emotion are your power to create. They are the most valuable resources you have available to you. No matter where you are in your life, you have the power to draw all you desire to you.

I have had the privilege of working with a number of people in my coaching practice who’ve had almost instantaneous results by becoming aware of a vibration they’ve had about energy and deliberately changing it. Some doubled their incomes almost

immediately. Learn to vibrate in alignment with your desires like they did and you become the creator of your life.

The Law of Attraction teaches that everything comes down to the beliefs we hold and the knowingness we have about our state of affairs. Since money is such a charged issue, the attraction laws work even more strongly as we’re sending out such charged positive or negative energy about it.

The things we put our attention on become reality. Most people habitually react unconsciously to what’s going around them. Therefore, they keep putting focus on unwanted events or things over and over again. Because what you focus on becomes your reality, you keep repeating the same things in your life and most likely are wondering why you’re having such bad luck.

But it’s not luck at all, its ignorance and poor use of the power you have within you to create exactly the life you want. You can learn to stop perpetuating the same states over and over again. No matter where you are or what your current situation, you can create a great life using the Laws of Attraction.

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The Four Steps to Manifesting

In my coaching work with individuals and in my program, the Manifestation Project, I have created 4 steps to help people remember how to work with their internal power to access the Law of Attraction more easily. These are:

Step 1: Recognize, accept and be with what is not working

By learning to observe ourselves and our lives without judgment we set the stage for the kind of personal development that enables us to live brilliantly, blissfully and in

alignment with our deepest desires. We can build the capacity to attract all we desire by using current circumstances to learn to vibrate more effectively. Unfortunately, most of us have a habit of blaming external factors for what is happening in our lives. For example, we blame the economy for our sense of lack or the weather for not feeling sunny inside. Instead, I suggest you accept what you have created with an attitude of detachment. As a participant in the creation of your world, learn to send out different energy that will create an experience more to your liking.

Step 2: Learn from it

Everything happens as a result of our beliefs. We constantly send messages to the Universe regarding who we really are and what circumstances we have grown the capacity to handle. What you are seeing in everyone and everything around you is a mirror of your internal beliefs about your reality. That person or situation that annoys you so much is telling you something about you. Again, remove the blame here. Practice detached observation and take advantage of this opportunity to learn how to vibrate differently.

Step 3: Feel, know, be what you wish to manifest

Learn to reach for the best feeling possible. Feeling is vibration. By becoming aware and taking responsibility for our vibration, we can learn to more deliberately align ourselves with our highest selves and create exactly what we want. Vibration is your power to attract. Vibration is the feeling you send out. Vibration is emotion. We can learn to feel differently and thus draw what we wish to us. Knowing and being is your faith. Move forward expecting what it is you desire. Be that. Know. Radiate a state of wealth consciousness from every cell in your body. When you see things that appear to be contradictory to what you are working at manifesting, continue to know. What you are seeing are signs, and the things you must address in order to grow into the person who can be what it is you wish to be.

Step 4: Accept and play with what shows up

This world is a gigantic playground for us to grow and explore. Lighten up and have fun with all this. There’s some idea out there that spiritual growth has to be serious, boring and regimented. This world is filled with wonderful things to enjoy. Take advantage of them, play, explore. We are constantly being shown reflections of what we send out to the Universe. The lessons are always there for you. When you can accept them in a playful manner, the work becomes a joyful adventure. When something shows up in

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your experience, see it as fuel to build your capacity to deliberately create. Have fun with this. Ask yourself what vibration you were sending out that caused this particular thing to happen in your life. Laugh about it! Be loving toward yourself and make adjustments in your approach without judgment. The Universe has a great sense of humor.

At the Market

I am reminded of the Universe’s humor by the following experience:

One day while driving to the market, I said a silent prayer for help with my tendency to become impatient. Impatience is really a lack of faith, so being a person committed to living faith, I really wanted to handle this.

When I arrived at the market, I picked up my few items and got in line in the express lane. The woman in front of me obviously had more items than the limit, and as if that wasn’t enough, she questioned every price and took her time paying and seemed to be doing everything possible to drag this entire transaction out. I felt myself becoming more and more impatient. Looking around for other check outs that might be available, I was feeling angrier and angrier. It seemed this woman was there deliberately to annoy me! Then the woman looked at me in a knowing way and apologized for the delay. In retrospect, something about her look made me realize what was going on. Within minutes, I remembered my prayer and had to laugh. I had asked for help with my impatience. What better way to improve my patience than to give me one of the most challenging situations I could imagine to build my patience! I took a deep breath and gave thanks for this answer to my prayer.

Focus and Knowingness

Know that the Universe wants you to have all you desire. What you want, wants you. When you are ready, it will appear.

Many people will debunk this concept that focus becomes reality. Because they have expended so much energy wanting more and not getting results, they believe focus is not a worthwhile emphasis. I can certainly relate to this as I’ve spent a lot of time wanting money myself. But let’s look a little more closely at this. What is the real belief you are generating with wanting? Do you actually feel that you have it? Or is the belief more a focus on what you don’t have? How much of your energy is tied up in a holding pattern of reacting to what is not going well, focusing on that and then getting more of it? Most people have at least one area in their lives where this happens. Remember your world is a mirror of the vibration you are sending out. So you are getting exactly what you believe. Generally, most of us keep on getting more of what we don’t have because our focus is on the lack or simply on the repeated results they keep getting.

Shift to knowing that abundance is there for you now. Know it. Feel it. This world is a gigantic field of possibility. Be grateful! Everything you want is right here now. One way to stay in a high vibration about something that is not currently manifesting is to be in the now. In this moment nothing is really wrong, is it? Isn’t everything that’s

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And, this is not about denial either. I am not suggesting that you temporarily medicate yourself by buying things you don’t need or can’t afford. I am, instead advocating gratitude acceptance of what is and the faith that you will create what you desire including a positive cash flow.

Take a deep breath, appreciate and enjoy this moment and know that the Universe will lead you to exactly where you need to be. There are always many things to be grateful for now. Practice gratitude for what is going well. Be in gratitude for what is not working as well. Perhaps that sounds contradictory, but everything that’s occurring in your life is there to teach you something. Your task is to welcome life as it is while maintaining detachment knowing that things will manifest as they should. Detachment is letting go. This means you have faith and trust that the Universe will handle things. At the present moment, you don’t need these things you desire because everything is working perfectly. You never need these things because in this moment everything is handled. You know they will appear when necessary. You know the Universe will bring what’s perfect. Know that you have all you desire. You do. The Universe sends you what you believe.

I admit it can feel like a dilemma to know that something is there when its not. At times it can seem like a cruel paradox to be required to know in your heart that you have it all when in the throws of not having it all. But this is precisely where our power to manifest is. Knowing comes first. Knowing comes before having. Doing is not necessary except from inspiration.

Our strength lies in our faith, our being, knowing, feeling and the expectation that we will learn all we need to create our world. When we forget that, we get into the realm of magic or looking outside ourselves to be saved. This distinction between magic and my own power was made clearer to me through doing affirmations.

Affirmations

Affirmations are a popular exercise taught by many great spiritual teachers. Perhaps you are familiar with them. The idea is to write positive present tense statements about what you wish to have. Affirmations build one’s belief and are a very good practice when done to build spiritual power. But they can also keep one stuck in a negative pattern when the affirmation is not matched with belief.

For years I worked with affirmations and wrote “I am a millionaire, I am a millionaire”, over and over again. Well, it wasn’t working for me! It actually led to my feeling like I was a loser as it seemed that everyone else was getting results! When I finally put the affirmation work up against the concept that the vibration or feeling is the true power, I realized my true vibration was not that I was a millionaire. I was actually feeling quite differently. I was only emphasizing that I was not anywhere near being a millionaire. If I didn’t have the feeling someplace inside me that could connect with that thought and have a belief in the truth of it, I would only set myself up for continued failure. In truth,

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every affirmation I wrote while feeling like it wasn’t going to work, just kept me away from my goal.

It became clear that I needed a foundation to grow a true belief in this. You see, it’s pretty much impossible to go from scarcity thinking to wealth consciousness in one jump. I’m not saying it’s completely impossible, but my point is that I needed to honor how I was feeling and work with that. Affirmations are done to build spiritual strength or faith. As we build spiritual strength we increase our capacity to turn on good feelings more easily. And, good feelings are the stuff that attract. By the way, it’s a great idea to eventually build up to feeling and radiating the vibration of peace as often as possible. Peace is the highest vibration.

However, one must walk before running. To jump to peace requires a bridge. For most people, building capacity for wealth consciousness comes a little at a time. Peace about money is a high ideal for many that requires a huge foundation. But you can begin now to take the steps to get there. And along the way you’ll enjoy great results. So instead of an affirmation I could not match vibrationally, I found one I could. I started writing, “I generate all the business I need.”, “I generate all the business I need.” That felt right to me and like something I could attain.

Faith and Gratitude

The Law of Attraction is working all the time. You get what you are, what you vibrate, what you know in your heart to be true. That’s why so many of us keep getting the same stuff over and over. We react to current circumstances and think that’s what we have to accept. Yet we can learn to deliberately create through the Law of Attraction – being, knowing, feeling, and expecting is our power.

One simple way to shift into attracting more great stuff into your life and ramping up the power of being, knowing, feeling and expecting is through gratitude. Appreciate the breath that fills your lungs, the food on your table, everything around you, people and situations. Even when they are not to your liking they are your creations and have much to teach you. Look at these wonderful things and be in awe of them.

No matter how much you've messed up in your life, the Universe is always inviting you to participate as a co-creator. We are Gods and Goddesses.

Will you join this new way of being? The best way I can describe it is to have faith. I am not talking about external faith in a doctrine. This is faith in the heart – the feeling! The following quote from Abraham Hicks “Ask and It Is Given” says it best.

“When there is something that you desire and it has not yet manifested, and you cannot yet see the path through which it will manifest, and you are discouraged, then you are forgetting that you are an Eternal Being and that you never get it done. But when there is a new, unfulfilled desire, and instead of torturing you with its absence, instead it calls you with its idea—then you are Source Energy, physically embodied, and right on track.

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Law of Attraction says, that which is like unto itself is drawn. So, if you stand in an awareness that you don’t have enough money, and you talk about it and you feel around it, and you perpetuate a continuing vibration of not enough money, even though you’re asking for more, and even though you may be offering action which should accommodate more—more cannot come because it is vibrationally different from the vibration that you are usually offering.

And so, an attitude of satisfaction about what is, an attitude of making the best of what is while you are eagerly anticipating an evolution of what is- - that’s the perfect vibrational stance.”

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Chapter Four

Attracting Money

For many people, money is a difficult thing to manifest because it comes with so much baggage. Money is a highly emotional, socially challenging, self-esteem laden and guilt inducing issue. We learn attitudes from our family of origin and from society in general. We crawl into self-imposed corners, create walls, drag our feet and procrastinate when confronted with opportunities to make more. We fall into despair, limit ourselves, brag or become bullies over it. Indeed, it appears that our quality of life and death depend upon money. However, our experience of wealth is not the external we believe it to be. We can learn to live in wealth consciousness and enjoy life fully. No matter where you are you can create wealth. Whether you have much but cannot seem to hold on to it, or you’ve always struggled with making enough to make ends meet, you have the power within you to live abundantly.

Three Spiritual Approaches to Money

First let’s get past the misconceptions about spirituality’s relationship to money. People have created some interesting spins on the convergence of spirituality and money consciousness. Shakti Gawain’s approach is my favorite model for understanding. Gawain has created helpful distinctions between 3 spiritual approaches to money in her book “Creating True Prosperity”.

The Materialistic approach is the typical view we see in the prevailing industrialized world now. Acquisition is the name of the game. The idea is to accumulate as much as possible and die with the most. Competition and winning are the important elements in the materialist approach as social status is tied to bank accounts and high status

possessions. There are winners and many more losers in this view. For many people, the stress associated with this predominant approach to money has led to serious

consequences. We expend too much of our precious life energy in jobs we hate in order to play this game. We forget what’s really important to us. We loose sight of our true dreams or perhaps we never took the time to find out what would really make us happy. There is nothing sadder than a life lived in service to a false idol.

In direct opposition to this is the Spiritualistic approach. Here one renounces worldly goods and chooses a higher calling through spiritual devotion. Adherents live a life of poverty and simplicity choosing to receive all enrichment from direct connection with Spirit.

Unfortunately, until recently, many of us thought these were the only two options. This sure caused some problems because they both have some serious drawbacks. The

materialist approach is too shallow and disregards the heart and soul. There have been far too many people who’ve expended their precious life energy on pursuing money because they were taught that this was the most important thing in life.

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On the other hand, the spiritualistic approach is far too severe for most people. It doesn’t allow for much of the beauty of this world to be found in culture, music, food and life in general. And, in at least one way, the spiritualistic approach shares a deficiency with the materialistic approach. They both waste precious life energy. While the materialistic approach leads people to waste time on financial pursuits, the spiritualistic approach encourages turning away from much of the pleasure in life. Why throw aside joy in life now in the hopes of attaining a reward upon death? Besides that the Spiritualistic approach would be far too boring for me!

The last view about money and spirituality from Gawain’s book is the New Age

approach. What a relief this is! Here is an alternative that offers the richness this world has to offer now and a spiritual perspective to live from at the same time. It stresses that what we focus on becomes our reality. This world is a playground of wonderful

adventure, wealth and joy. We can be connected to spirit and surrounded by abundance. As a matter of fact, this is the spiritual experience now on earth. Its here to be enjoyed.

Joy

As has been stated by many teachers, we are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. Life is our spiritual work. Learning to live in alignment with our soul is our work and that brings joy, wealth and fulfillment to us right here and right now. We don’t need to wait for an elusive reward after we die. We don’t need to deny the beauty and fun in life. The reward happens now. The punishment happens now as well. Well, if you want to call it

punishment. Actually, mistakes, setbacks and the like are simply opportunities to learn. You choose. You are learning how to create. The extent to which you align with your life purpose is the extent to which you experience joy now. And the extent to which you experience joy is the extent to which you light the way for others. It’s a pretty great concept, and I love that about my work. Joy brings more joy to yourself and others. Who could ask for a more delicious scenario?

So I will let you in on a secret then. It’s not about the money, but about enjoying life and finding that as we live our truth and our authenticity, life flows. When you can

completely trust and let go, the resources just appear in amazing ways. Know with your heart and soul. Opportunities which are in alignment with our gifts and our joy present themselves for us to create the money necessary to live well. Paradoxically, the more one embraces the spiritual, the less one needs material comforts. So this truly is not about the money, but about knowing you have it all already, knowing you deserve it all and being open to however the Universe presents the path for you to enjoy your greatest desires. You can have it all. You can live well and love what you are doing. You can be in bliss and the beauty of the dark moments, do work you love and have relationships which nurture you. All the support and comfort that enhance a fulfilled life are there for you and your loved ones as well. This life is about learning to own all that joy. I wish you joy as you explore this for yourself.

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Chapter Five

Thoughts Fuel our Power to Create

Thoughts are simply random neural firings in the brain until we learn to take

responsibility for them. We can choose to master our thoughts or they will master us. Mastering thoughts is a life long discipline that could mean more vibrant health, wealth, improved relationships and unbounded personal fulfillment. Thoughts are that important.

For most people thoughts are just old tapes that keep repeating themselves. They can come from triggers stored in our bodies, reactions to old memories called up by a long forgotten smell, a configuration of events or items similar enough to elicit an automatic response, or some other stimulus that activates a neural connection. When we look at thoughts this way its no wonder we feel like victims in this world. Thoughts heavily influence our emotions and emotions are our power to create our lives.

But it is possible to take control of our thoughts and reprogram ourselves for success in any and every area of our lives. In fact, it’s imperative to do so. If you wish to become a deliberate creator of your life, be aware of your thoughts and build your capacity to change them. Your power is not in the external world. It starts from within with the thoughts you allow yourself to have. Remember, the rich think rich thoughts and the poor think poor thoughts. And since thoughts produce emotion and emotion is your power, thinking well is an awfully good idea.

A Light Bulb Goes On

My first realization about my own negative thought patterns came spontaneously when I recognized I had been spending an inordinate amount of time ruminating over an old abuse I’d suffered. I was regularly feeling bad and even wishing my life away with thoughts about how many years it had been and how much better I’d be if I could just get some more years away from it! I was constantly thinking thoughts like “It’s been x number of years since he hurt me”. “I’ll be OK someday.” “I wish I hadn’t been there then, so maybe he wouldn’t have done that to me.” “If only I hadn’t said xyz” “If only I hadn’t done that.” As you can imagine, my energy was low, my vibration was low and nothing was working well in my life.

Thank goodness there are some wonderful resources out there though. Books helped me build strength. Counseling helped me heal. Coaching taught me about principles like the ones in this book. Coaching also helped me apply the principles in a way that worked for me. I was able to take back control of my obsessive thought patterns. Learning to take responsibility for my thoughts has given me huge amounts of energy.

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It’s great when you are able to independently recognize negative thought patterns. But this is often not the case. More commonly, we need others to raise our awareness of negative patterns.

The Spotlight Shines Brighter

Some years ago, I had become so used to complaining about not having money that it was completely unconscious. The habit was so ingrained in me that it never registered as a problem until my coach pointed it out. I’ll never forget her telling me that I sounded “a little victim-y”. I must say that it was painful to hear that. No one wants to face their tendency to repeat the patterns they learned from their parents. But it served as a liberating wake up call. We all carry these old patterns learned in childhood. The tendency to behave as we were trained by our primary role models – our parents - is universal.

Do I discern shutters of aversion at this? Sorry, but it is our universal reality. Being our parents is much more pervasive than you probably like. Dealing with habits that don’t serve is the first step to moving beyond them. Breaking free of these patterns frees you to build the capacity to create your life deliberately.

I had to work hard at building my awareness of old thought patterns in my every day life. It wasn’t comfortable to recognize I was speaking from a scarcity mentality at all.

Remember, we can become immune to our own bad habits. We all need objective outsiders to tip us off on occasion.

Then it’s important to carry the awareness through in real life. Working with a coach or counselor is great. But you don’t always need a professional to help you become aware. I recommend building a support team. Cultivate friendships with people who care about you and who will be honest with you. Ask them what they see you could improve in terms of your wealth consciousness. Do you speak negatively about the possibility of becoming wealthy? Do you sabotage yourself? Do they hear you complaining about the price of things or how much money you make? Other people can provide you with valuable information.

The Objective Awareness Game

In addition to outsider feedback, learn to be the objective observer of your own life. Make it a game. The Objective Awareness Game will help you raise consciousness of thoughts and behaviors that you habitually practice. First identify a general thought or behavior that could benefit from more wealth consciousness. When you have found a specific example of a thought or behavior to be transformed, realize that all you need do is notice it. Be non-judgmental, send it light. There is no reason to do battle. Just observe it. If need be, you can continue the game by creatively brainstorming for solutions either alone or with a partner or partners. After coming up with solutions, anticipate possible obstacles and solutions for those. The important thing is to keep this fun and creative throughout. Have fun with your new skills and try on the different solutions in your real life. Sometimes you’ll win, more often you’ll loose, but then again you will never loose as you’ll get better and better with each attempt.

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Here’s how I started out playing the Objective Awareness Game: I put aside a full day to observe myself. If I had it to do again, I would have started out by loving myself and sending myself light. I would have made it clear with myself that whatever happened I wouldn’t judge myself. I recommend these steps as they make change so much more effortless.

The idea for the day was to simply gain information. I set an intention to follow my thought patterns as much as possible. This is much easier when practicing mundane tasks, so a day that is not too busy is ideal. Through this process, it became clear very quickly that I was caught in a pervasive negative thought pattern. What I found was startling.

I started the day by looking in the refrigerator and thinking about what we didn’t have and “Oh My God, how am I going to pay for more food”. Then I brushed my teeth and observed thoughts about having to pay for the dentist. Looking in the closet, I had thoughts of what I didn’t own and how I wished I could buy nicer clothes. This thought process was unbelievably ingrained in me! All these thoughts were occurring throughout the day and I wasn’t even aware of them. These were the habitual thought responses I sent out to the Universe. And since we get exactly what we focus on, guess what? I received exactly what I was sending out. In that instance I understood what I was doing and how perfectly this Universe works. I got exactly what I focused on - more lack. It’s a great idea to carry around a notebook and record every observation you notice. Just spending a minute writing after each segment of the day really builds awareness. (To

take this a step further, I recommend you take the Prosperity Readiness Test at the end of this Report to help you build your awareness.)

I just shared two simple experiences that helped raise my own awareness. Of course, the value of awareness is that we can get an understanding of what needs to change in order to build wealth mentality. One experience came through self-observation, and one came through having it reflected back to me by a trusted confidante. These two kinds of feedback helped me build my capacity to recognize what was going on in my mind. And by understanding my mind’s tendencies I build the capacity to choose new thoughts and change my mind to create the life I desire.

Most of us will have to break through our own limiting egos in order to change though. We can delude ourselves into thinking that our thought patterns and negative emotions are us. They are not. They are of the ego.

It’s essential to raise awareness of thought patterns. Step back and notice what’s going on with your thoughts. Become the observer of your life. Don’t underestimate the power of simple thought patterns. Thought patterns are not who you are, but we are under the delusion that thought patterns are us. The idea that Thought Patterns ‘R Us is simply a giant lie brought about by the collective ego to make you forget you’re of the Light. Your

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true spiritual work is to think thoughts of your connection with Spirit. Spirit wants you to live brilliantly.

An expanded version of a biblical quote or what it really means:

“As for me and my house, we will break the bondage of old patterns of negative thinking. We will think thoughts of a brilliant life that serves the God within seeking expression here on earth.”

My thought patterns from the past had the power to hold me in poverty thinking and thus kept me living a poverty experience. If I had let them, they could have continued to hold me there.

Sadly, most people are living in unconsciousness about how they create their lives. However, that does not have to be your reality. By building your awareness you take the first step toward the freedom to create your life deliberately.

This is something I continue to work at on a regular basis. The first step is to build awareness. The Objective Awareness Game helped build an awareness of what I was doing. Without knowing where I was, it would have been quite difficult to know where to move next.

So now that I knew I had a negative mental habit, it was time to work at changing it. Otherwise, this negative mental habit would continue to attract negative circumstances from the Universe. If left uninterrupted, negative mental patterns will prevent positive things from coming into your life, repel positive people and generally make life unappealing for yourself and everyone around you.

Granted, many people feel safe in their familiar negative energy and there’s a lot of bonding that goes on over negative energy. You’ll have no problem finding people who’ll commiserate with you in focusing on increasing your pain and negativity. But if you want a great life, I invite you to lift yourself out of that gravitational field!

I do warn you that it requires building a new ethereal body, reprogramming your mind and cells, dropping some negative friends and surrounding yourself with new positive influences. The shift may be disorienting and feel like culture shock. But I guarantee that the adjustment will be worth it!

More Games

So how do you change negative thought patterns? Here are a few ideas that I suggest you work with:

1. Play the Objective Awareness Game:

a) Send love to yourself – do this consistently and not just when playing the game!

b) Identify a thought or behavior that is not serving your highest good.

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c) Remember all you need to do is notice it and maintain freedom from judgment

d) Identify a specific example of the thought or behavior e) Send the thought or behavior light

f) If desired, brainstorm solutions either alone or with others g) Anticipate obstacles and brainstorm solutions to those h) Have fun

i) Make mistakes and learn from them j) Do it again

2. Set aside one day to observe your thoughts. Use some, all or none of the elements of the Objective Awareness Game. It’s often easiest to notice thoughts while doing routine activities, so instead of admonishing yourself for not observing all day, just observe in these routine moments. You will become stronger with practice.

3. Say “STOP” whenever you notice.

4. Replace the thought with a loving thought toward yourself or another person.

5. Adopt the phrase “No judgment” to protect yourself from having bad thoughts about your bad thoughts!

6. Wear a rubber band around your wrist and snap it each time to recognize a negative thought.

7. Write alternative thoughts and rehearse them

8. Set a timer and think as negatively as possible during that time only

9. Take the Prosperity Readiness Test at the end of this Report 10. Get a Life Coach to support you

Much of the above suggestions would fall under what is called thought pattern

interruption. I encourage you to incorporate thought pattern interruption in your life for the sake of building a life that works for you. By noticing negative patterns and then replacing them with positive patterns you take more control of your life. Positive thought patterns build a richer, more joyful and abundant life. Who wouldn’t want that?

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Grooves in the Road

I think of thought patterns like a dirt road with grooves worn into it. Some of those grooves are more entrenched than others. The path the grooves follow can lead me anywhere in life, but sometimes I forget and am deceived into believing that my only choice is to take the well worn route and thus get the same old results. But then I remember that I am the driver along the path and my carriage is there to serve me. The path represents my life, the carriage is my journey and I decide. Before I became

conscious, I allowed the carriage to just keep falling into the same grooves over and over and I was consistently brought to the same places and experiences in life. But I learned and I continue to learn. I’ve had to pull that carriage out of those ruts a lot. Sometimes it only required that I give a little tug of the wheels to move out of the rut. Other times I’d have to get out and put a blanket or even a ramp under the stuck wheel and rock back and forth until I could free my carriage. And still other times I’d have to call in a professional tow truck. But I have to tell you, I much prefer the tow truck to a mediocre life.

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Chapter Six

Words

Another piece of the knowingness puzzle is words. We’re often taught to be careful of saying things we’ll regret as if it’s only about how it will be perceived by others. But there is much more power to words than this.

For many years, I could not speak the name of the person who’d abused me. Though the sound of his name may not have had power for others, the act of transferring his name from a thought in my head to a word that passed my lips, gave it too much power over me. Likewise, it was painful to hear his name mentioned. There is still, in fact, some residual pain at hearing it, though it does not control me. In fact it gives me a sense of assuredness that I’ve become so much stronger and at peace with myself.

By using words you are bringing the power of your vibration to a whole new level. Notice the difference in how you feel when you say certain words. There is incredible power in them.

Two Word Exercises

Try the following experiment: Get yourself some paper or a journal and a pen. Find a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed for a few moments and sit comfortably. Be with your body and mind as fully as you can. Acquaint yourself again with your body and your mind. Be open to whatever sensations occur for you now. Take a long full breath and exhale fully. Now say the words “I am good”. How does that make you feel? Write down whatever subtle or not so subtle things you notice. Now say “I am bad.” What do you notice now? Write down your observations again.

Another exercise is to simply note the difference in energy you experience with words. What do you notice about how your energy is affected when saying these words or phrases: ! Power ! Strength ! War ! Dispute ! Lighten up ! Relax ! Peace ! Hostility ! Mother ! Father

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! Male ! Female ! Husband ! Wife

How do each of these words makes you feel? Where do you feel it in your body? What images come to mind? How would you rate these words on a scale from one to ten regarding their ability to make you feel good?

Let Yourself Be Light

One phrase that I find extremely powerful is “Lighten up”. I feel the power of this immediately. It seems to cast out the demons of negative thought very well for me. I was always attracted to the Christmas song “Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas, Let Yourself Be Light”. Even before I had any awareness of the power of words, that phrase attracted me on some level. Check in with yourself right now and notice how it makes you feel to use the words “Lighten Up” and “Let Yourself Be Light”. Words that make you feel good are your nourishment, your power to attract all your desire. Write them, say them, sing them, read them.

Heavy Words

I remember as a child having a strong negative experience of the power of words.

Though the details are vague for me, the feeling was so strong it felt like I had committed violence. Simply put, I remember sitting at my grandmother’s home. A male relative a few years older was sitting there with me on the couch. I have no memory of the

disagreement we had or even if we had a disagreement, but I said the words, “I wish you were dead.” I know I felt anger when I said it. But upon saying those words, I felt the most horrible sense of shame that those words came from my mouth. I know he felt bad too as he began biting his nails.

Now I am not saying that a child can so simply affect another’s life or death, but the words did feel like I had done something horrible. And, in fact, what I had done was begin the steps toward a manifestation that neither of us wanted. That’s how most of us spend our lives – in complete ignorance of the power of our words and how they begin to create. I never knew what to do about that and so I pushed it aside. Looking back, I wish I’d had access to some help for that incident, but none was available at the time. Using those words had a negative affect on both of us. The words tore into his soul and I felt it and it tore into mine. This is the first time I have ever written or spoken of that incident in my life and I hope that by doing this I am sending light to the soul of my relative who has since passed away.

Awareness of Words

Throughout this book I seek to help you build awareness in all areas of you life. Your awareness is your strength. By becoming aware of what you habitually say you can stop yourself from saying words with little or negative power and use more positive language. Make it a habit to always find the most positive way to say things. Your words have incredible power, so use them to create abundance. Try changing “I don’t make enough

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money to buy that”, to “I am open to finding ways to buy that”. Change “This is too expensive” to “When I’m ready I’ll consider buying something like this”.

These are subtle differences, but the feeling behind the words is more empowering. The words will reach back and influence your thoughts and reach forward and affect your actions in a positive way. Do you see how this shift will make you feel like you have choice and control over your money? And notice that feeling or emotion is one of the aspects of enhancing knowingness as well. So by strengthening words we strengthen positive emotion. You always have the choice to speak words of wealth or words of poverty.

This does not mean you ever have to lie. I am not advocating telling people you own a Porsche if you do not. But you can speak of the wonderful things you have and match those words with conviction from your heart. Those who live and speak gratitude attract more opportunity. Speak from your wealth and know that it will build. Speak from knowingness that things will work out for you. Choose words that say you are wealth, love and joy. You are.

Truth Spoken

As I eluded to earlier, many years ago, in my early teens I’d been taken advantage of by an older boy. I had allowed myself to be victimized and this affected me for years. I never said anything to him about it and like the child that I was, I assumed something magical would happen to change him or the situation. I hadn’t yet learned I needed to speak up for myself.

My opportunity came one evening some years later when I was about 19 years old. I was out at a popular night club with some friends and a man grabbed my arm and pulled me over to him. I was surprised to see that it was this abuser from my past. Being a little happy from the drink and atmosphere I forgot about the abuse and was delighted to see him. He immediately started the lines and seduction, and I stepped back and said “You know, I remember you’d said that I would never find another lover as great as you. Well, I gotta tell ya, having been out in the world I’ve realized, you aren’t anything.” All the while I had a big smile on my face.

His face dropped, I don’t remember what else was said, but I walked away with a huge positive shift in energy. I said what I needed to say. The negative energy left my body and I was free. It was about much more than words too. It was about letting it go and not caring what he thought. I spoke my truth without the need to change him at all. I was free.

The Energy of Words

From vocabulary, spoken with confidence, to allowing the words to pass freely through our throats and out completely through our lips without holding back our expression, we tell people much about ourselves through our words. Have you known people who shut down their words? A lack of confidence is often mimicked through speech. How about people who hold themselves back from speaking their truth? Blockages occur in our

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energy systems when we ignore our need to speak. The Universe seeks to express itself through you. When you ignore the flow seeking to move with you and through you, you shut down your power to attract abundance. This blockage of energy affects many other areas in life beyond just money. So many people stifle their words for fear of losing a job, for fear of not fitting in or because they feel they don’t know as much as others. It’s an unfortunate reality that many (perhaps most?) institutions discourage differences of opinion by not allowing people the chance to speak their words. It’s common for leadership to claim to allow people the chance to speak, yet at the same time there is too often an underlying culture of fear and conformity.

However, this is not entirely the organization’s doing, for the fear resides in the hearts of members as well. How sad that we have been conditioned to repress our truth and that we are also guilty of repressing other’s truth in service to bureaucracy. When people do not speak their truth they bottle up negative energy and it wrecks havoc on their physical bodies, infects relationships, and harms their emotional and spiritual health. When institutions do not allow open communication, they lose the opportunity to adapt, grow and evolve.

The negative energy that comes from repressed words must be expressed. Unfortunately, many people continue to bottle it up until they explode. As I am sure you’ve

experienced, this is usually an inappropriate expression often leading to negative consequences.

Childcare Fiasco

Many years ago a friend of mine had agreed to help me out with childcare. Almost immediately, I noticed her becoming cold toward me, but when I asked if anything was wrong she always said everything was fine. One day I called her and explained I’d be picking up my son from school and he would not be coming to her place after. I was shocked when she started screaming at me that I was taking advantage of her. Now keep in mind I was paying her as well, so I truly felt we had come to a mutually satisfying agreement. I tried to talk to her but she maintained that I was just an awful person. I called her later to try to discuss it, but she said she no longer wanted to be friends with me.

The next time I saw her at a school function she was obviously upset to be around me, but since she had indicated it was over, I had to let it go. Looking back on this, I realize I can be a rather disorganized person and forget to make advance plans for things so I tended to be pretty spur of the moment when making arrangements with her. Without further input from her, that is all I can conclude.

But with a number of years to reflect on this, I see that what happened is that she did not speak her truth. It’s likely that she never wanted to watch my son in the first place. But instead of telling me, she allowed a minor misunderstanding to build up to a point of exploding and losing a friendship.

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How many times have you exploded at someone when you really should have expressed your concern? Or have you been on the receiving end of an emotional explosion, accusing you of deliberately disregarding their feelings, hurting you in some way or being rude somehow? These usually come with no warning. The person did not speak what they needed to, repressed it and exploded. As I’m sure you’ll recognize, that’s not such a great thing for relationships.

The Power of Journaling

Negative emotions affect many aspects of our lives so it’s important to clear them up. But sometimes finding appropriate verbal expression is difficult. Writing the words may be the answer.

I often recommend that clients allow free expression of the written word through journaling. When feeling negative emotions try the following: In your journal, allow yourself the freedom to write whatever nastiness, regurgitation, therapeutic release, and pettiness you wish. Say it all! I remember a number of times being so furious with my ex-husband that I wrote all kinds of terrible things about him. I let it rip! I wrote that he was a jerk, and a %&#!, among many others. By the time I was finished, I felt a lot better. My words allowed me to clear the blinding rage out and allowed me to think more clearly. When I was finished, I was ready to have a level headed conversation.

When complete with this, ask your guidance if further work should be done on this or not. Sometimes, when I am experiencing a particularly strong emotion, I start with the journaling and then follow it up with a ceremony in which I burn the pages to symbolize letting go of the situation. By doing this and similar exercises to get myself feeling better I move into a higher vibration. After all, your life energy is all you have and is the fuel you need to attract wealth.

The Sound of Ahh and Selling the House

I’d like to close this section with an attraction success story of my own. This is about sounds, which are the basis of words. Sounds have vibrational frequencies that attract. That’s one good reason to be mindful of your words as well! Using sound, and in particular, something called Japa Meditation, I was able to manifest the sale of an unmarketable house. I used Wayne Dyer’s audio program “Meditations for Manifesting”, which includes a full description of the program.

Briefly, the sound of Ah is universally used for pleasure in all languages. And, of course, feeling good and pleasurable and associating that with your desire attracts that which you desire to you. The sound Ah is also found in every word for God – Buddha, Brahma, Jesus…… First, I’d like to take you through a brief history of my seemingly impossible house problem and how I accessed the Law of Attraction to lift myself out of it.

Years ago, my ex-husband and I purchased a home we could barely afford in the school district we wanted and moved in with our 10 months old son. It was on a major highway, situated on a hill with no access to sidewalks. It was cute and served our needs at the time, but we knew we didn’t want to stay there.

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