ADVANCED
SEXUAL
PRACTICES
VOLUME 2
Consisting of:
Scroll III: The Sexual Practices
And
Scroll IV: A Little Extra Insight
BY
NOTICE OF INTERNATIONAL RIGHTS
The entire work, worldwide except in the Republic of Cyprus, © 2003 Quaral Trading Ltd.
The entire work, within the Republic of Cyprus, © 2003 Aralzon Institute Ltd.
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise without the written permission of the copyright owners.
“Advanced Sexual Practices”, “ASP”, “Aralzon” and the star/flower device are all registered trademarks of Aralzon Institute Ltd.
DISCLAIMER
CAUTION: All the practices contained in this book are powerful and do
work. As such they will have significant and marked effects on your body, your energetic system, your character and your life as well as on your sexual practice. The decision to use and apply the knowledge and techniques presented herein is yours and yours alone. Neither Sebastian Heller nor The Aralzon Institute nor Quaral Trading nor any other person, entity or body corporate will be held responsible for any effects, adverse or otherwise, resulting from the use or application of the material
presented here. If in doubt as to the suitability of any of these techniques to you yourself (due for example to your age or physical condition) then meditate more deeply and get to the point where you can make up your own mind, trust your own judgment and take responsibility for your own life. If in the meantime you deem it wise or helpful to seek the advice of external authorities (for example, your doctor) then do so. It is
recommended that if you're in poor physical condition or during sensitive periods of your life (for example sickness, pregnancy) you exercise care and caution in your use of some of the techniques presented here, if you use them at all.
Outline of Contents
VOLUME 1
Scroll I: The Foundation Practices I) The Meditative Practices II) The Five Tibetans (plus one)
Scroll II: The Orgasm Practices I) The Male Orgasm Practices II) The Female Orgasm Practices
VOLUME 2
Scroll III: The Sexual Practices I) Advanced Sexual Practices level I II) Advanced Sexual Practices level II
Scroll IV: A Little Extra Insight In twelve parts
Table of Contents
VOLUME 2
Scroll III: The Sexual Practices
I. Advanced Sexual Practices: level I Foreplay
Oral sex
Cunnilingus Fellatio Thrusting techniques Male thrusting techniques
Deep thrusting
Circular thrusting Spiral thrusting Shallow thrusting
Deep / full thrusting Deep / shallow thrusting
Drawing strokes
Full and long thrusting Curved and long thrusting Combinations and variations
The variation of thrusting techniques Female thrusting techniques
The standard thrust: woman on top The straight thrust: woman on top The standard thrust: woman on bottom The circular thrust
Thrusting in doggy-style Thrusting together
Sexual positions
Man on top positions Woman on top positions Rear-entry positions Side-entry positions Standing positions Sitting positions
A note on the use of sexual positions Coming together
Taking sex deeper
The mystical purpose of sex Anal sex
Ending the sexual session
The prevention of ejaculation
Homosexuality, lesbianism and bisexuality
Choice of sexual partners and the wisdom of the body Control and letting go
II. Advanced Sexual Practices level II
The deeper mystical purpose of the union of the sexes Placing your mind in your partner’s body
How to tell when your partner has an orgasm Exchanging energies
Directing energy into your partner Drawing energy from your partner Clearing the effects of mixed energies Chakric alignment
Continuous, mutual, full-body orgasm Chakric melding: an introduction Chakric melding: the technique
Orgasming as one within a melded chakra Clearing the effects of a chakric meld The soulmerge: an introduction
The soulmerge: the technique Orgasming as One
Preventing and limiting the soulmerge Controlling and modifying the soulmerge The purifying effects of the soulmerge
The soulmerge and astrology The Sun / Moon effect The wider effects
Balancing your chakras and the softening of the natal chart Going for conception after a tantric session
The three stages of sex / lovemaking
Lovemaking: an example of sexual practice at ASP II Spirit joining
Scroll IV: A Little Extra Insight
1. The deeper aspect of the chakras 2. A deeper insight into astrology 3. The nature of karma
4. The nature of beauty
5. Soulgroups, soulmates and twin flames 6. Love and its nature
7. Loyalty, fidelity and freedom 8. Treating your partner well
9. Internal balance, sexual energy and health 10. Tastes and odours
11. ASP and the spiritual path 12. Sex magick
Extras and Appendices
Annotated bibliography and other resources Glossary
Appendix I: The chakric cores
Appendix II: Human physical anatomy Appendix III: Human energetic anatomy The Aralzon Institute
Dedication
This book is dedicated to Venus, in memory
of the days of friendship and passion. Mostly
passion. My lady, truly have you mastered
the art of being a woman. When the time
comes, I’ll be here for you babe. With great
love, Sebastian.
Scroll III: The Sexual Practices
The mere use of all that you have attained so far through your practice of the techniques given in Scrolls I and II – greatly enhanced awareness, sexual energy and sensitivity along with the ability to have deeper, more prolonged orgasms – is sufficient to guarantee you a vastly improved sex life. The primary function of all of these, however, is more as a necessary foundation – a foundation which can be greatly built upon using specifically sexual techniques. It is these specifically sexualtechniques which we shall cover in this scroll.
Advanced Sexual Practices level I (ASP I) deals with the more practical, mechanical aspects of lovemaking: thrusting techniques positions and their uses, mutual genital orgasms and so on. There are some energetics involved, but nothing really that extends much deeper than what you have covered already. The purpose of the practice at this level is, primarily, to refine the external form of lovemaking into a pure, effortless symphony where everything flows naturally in perfect
harmony.
Advanced Sexual Practices level II (ASP II) deals with the very much deeper, far more esoteric aspects of lovemaking. The work at this level is almost exclusively energetic. It is in this section that techniques dealing with the energetic exchange between partners, chakric melding, the effects of a close sexual partner on your character and your life and the merging of souls is covered. The primary purpose of the work at this level is to teach you how to take lovemaking and its pleasures to the very deepest and most profound levels possible. It is in fact lovemaking as practiced at this level that all the preceding work and techniques have been laying the foundation for, have been building towards: soaring to the greatest heights and reaching the greatest depths of the profound art of sex.
As with the orgasm practices, though the techniques given here are complete in themselves, they are nevertheless still best taken as a starting point rather than as a rigid set of rules which must be followed. Once you have mastered them and they are all flowing easily and naturally then play with them: combine them in different ways, use them for different purposes, change them and develop them in your own direction. In other words, find your own path, your own techniques and your own way of doing things – learn to be your own person and so become truly, fully free.
I. Advanced Sexual Practices: level 1
Whilst it is at ASPII that the deeper, more profound techniques are covered, the more mechanical techniques presented here are both a
necessary foundation to ASPII and a pleasure in their own right. Widening and deepening your knowledge and understanding of these more mechanical aspects of sexual practice cannot but help to improve your lovemaking sessions. Further, it’s very possible that you will have some sexual partners with whom you will not want to or will not be able to take the practice much deeper than as covered at ASP I. In such instances, the techniques presented in this section will form the primary basis of the quality of your sexual sessions. All the more reason to master them for their own sake then.
Foreplay
In standard Western sexual theory and practice there has been a massive overemphasis placed on foreplay. So much so that many women have come to rely on it for their only orgasms during the entire sexual process and that for many couples it plays a more prominent role than sexual intercourse itself. This approach is deeply flawed. On the one hand because the arts of which foreplay consists are not there to be taken solely as a sort of aperitif to the main course, they are pleasures to be undertaken and enjoyed in their own right, for themselves. And on the other hand because if you have a high enough level of sexual energy and are with the right partner, no preliminaries to or preparation for
lovemaking should be necessary. Both physically and mentally /
emotionally the mere presence of your partner combined with the sexual focus of either one of you should be sufficient to make both of you eager and ready. Of course, mentally you are helped in this process if, through past experience, you have come to know and expect truly fantastic
lovemaking, as should be the case once you have mastered the practices presented in this book; it is difficult to become excited and enthusiastic over the prospect of sex if it is normally mediocre, disappointing and conducive but to limited, shallow, energetically draining pleasures. Fortunately, that should not be the case for you ever again.
Finally on this front, it must be said that women especially (but some men too) often become very attached to foreplay because in terms of lovemaking itself their partners are at best incompetent and at worst absolutely hopeless. Though by far the greatest amount of responsibility for your own orgasms rests on you and not your partner it must be said that a basic level of rudimentary ability, e.g. not to ejaculate in 2 minutes
flat, is necessary on the behalf of your partner. Without this, no matter how great your skill, it is very difficult for the sex between you to ever become really orgasmic and satisfying for either one. Sex is, after all, something of a joint effort.
The primary reason however not to focus on the various arts of foreplay over those of lovemaking itself is that it is simply not possible for any other physical activity to lead to as high a level of pleasure or as deep a feeling of closeness between two souls as that which is accessible through lovemaking. Therefore by shifting the emphasis from
lovemaking to foreplay you are shifting the emphasis from the deeper and more profound to the shallower and more superficial. And while
shallowness can be very pleasant and highly enjoyable it is hardly a very worthy focus in any area of life. Its one perceived advantage – that it does not entail any real degree of opening up of the core of your being – is in fact a self-perpetuating disadvantage because it keeps you locked to the cycle of closedness, shallowness and aloneness.
Nevertheless, all of this does not mean that foreplay should be omitted if it is necessary, desired or needed by one of the partners. It takes many people much time to open themselves up mentally and emotionally in order to be ready to and fully comfortable with making love with a new person (or sometimes to make love at all with anyone at all). And this mental and emotional comfort – the absolute certainty and acceptance that you really want to be here now making love to this particular person – is essential if your sexual practice is to proceed
anywhere beyond the most superficial of purely physical levels. Foreplay gently and gradually prepares and opens up the physical. Because
everything is connected this causes the energetic structures which
constitute the mental and emotional parts of your being to open up also. Consequently, foreplay can actually help you and your partner to take your sexual practice to a deeper level. However, this is rather like temporarily remedying a problem rather than actually solving the problem itself. And that problem is accepting your sexual nature, embracing sex itself and, most importantly, being completely open mentally and emotionally to your partner. This does not mean self-indulgently airing all your thoughts and emotions to your partner, trying to convince her or him of their validity. This is just your conscious personality seeking control and approval and will likely produce many more problems that it solves. Instead, mental and emotional openness is achieved by realizing there is nothing fear: you are you and you know what you are; it does not matter whether your partner accepts it, judges you, loves you or anything else. You are in the relationship to give and not to receive, to love not to be loved and so what you receive and
are stable and certain within yourself in this way partners who judge you, fight with you and don’t love you won’t come into your life. Like attracts like and fear draws that which you fear unto you. Once both partners have this degree of mastery, this deep calm and stability within
themselves then they will both be completely open mentally and
emotionally to each other because they will be free to be so. At the end of the day the only thing which is stopping you from being completely open in this way is yourself – your own ego personality, your own fears and your own demands. Once a good degree of self-mastery is attained the only purposes of foreplay between lovers is either to prepare and open the physical – and a strong sexual thought on the part of either partner (for they are connected) will be more than enough for this – or for the novelty and relaxing lightness of foreplay itself (but in this case foreplay is not being used as a tool but enjoyed and appreciated for what it itself is and has to offer). Finally on this aspect of the topic, mental and
emotional openness which comes from the core of your being is much deeper and more total than a mental and emotional openness which is temporarily produced as a result of foreplay or even as a result of words, gestures, physical beauty or a feeling of being accepted. It is for this reason also that the greater the degree of your self-mastery, the deeper and more profound will your lovemaking be.
The arts of foreplay: kissing, caressing, stroking, biting, pulling, scratching, rubbing, licking and oral sex beyond the basic techniques are not covered in this book. Primarily because no deep esoteric knowledge or training is necessary to be able to be very competent at them, but also because mastery of the arts of foreplay is in no way conducive to the real deepening and heightening of sexual practice. Further, to
comprehensively cover all the arts of foreplay in a complete and detailed manner is a massive undertaking and would easily fill an entire good-sized book on its own. Such a project is in the planning stages, though as a DVD not a book, and will eventually be released by The Aralzon
Institute. Until then, for those who are interested, the basics of oral sex are included here.
Oral sex
Oral sex does not, cannot, lead to the highest summits and the most profound depths of the sexual experience. The necessary energetic
connections simply cannot be established through oral sex. Due to this consideration we look at oral sex only briefly in this book and cover only the basic techniques regarding it. The full arts of oral sex, in all their
variety, will be covered in a DVD planned by The Aralzon Institute entitled: “The ASP little box of tricks”.
Nevertheless, oral sex can be enjoyable for its own sake and can sometimes be useful as a warm-up to intercourse itself. Also, going about oral sex in the right way can help you to learn an important conceptual lesson, namely: do not do something only to please another; you yourself should also actively enjoy everything you do too. That way you’ll do it more totally, and with relish. As a consequence your partner will enjoy whatever you’re doing a lot more too. Many men don’t like the taste or the smell of their partner’s vagina and many women don’t like the taste or the texture of their partner’s semen. True, a certain amount of internal purification is necessary to make one’s love juices actively pleasant in taste and smell. But more importantly you need to learn to: 1) be willing to try to learn to like the taste and smell of your partner’s love juices; and then 2) actually do learn to like and enjoy the taste and smell of your partner’s love juices. It is true that it is an acquired taste and smell. But so too are those of coffee, beer and tobacco amongst other things.
To just do what you like is a lazy approach, an approach too self-indulgent of your currently established state of being. You must learn to like what is good for you, what is best for your path and the goals you wish to attain. Only then will doing what you like have any deeper meaning, purpose or value to it. With this in mind let us turn to the basic techniques of oral sex. Who says sex can’t be educational? And in more ways than one at that.
Cunnilingus
In cunnilingus the main focus of your attention should be her clitoris. With a tongue you simply cannot provide the necessary
stimulation to produce any significantly worthwhile sensations anywhere else. That having been said you can at the start, and later on too if you like, lick and suck at the opening of her vagina and stick your tongue inside her vagina. For you, the advantage of doing so is that you get to really properly taste her love juices. For her, the benefit is more
psychological / emotional: it lets her know that you actively enjoy her taste and smell and so allows her to relax into, and so enjoy, the whole process a lot more.
In cunnilingus there are two basic ways in which you can hold your tongue:
1) Rigid and pointed. When your tongue is held in this way you can only effectively stimulate her with the tip of the tongue. However, a greater degree of accuracy and more force also is possible in your stimulation if you hold your tongue rigid and pointed in this way.
Dg. III-01: Holding the tongue rigid and pointed
2) Soft and broad. When your tongue is held in this way lighter and gentler stimulation is possible. Also you can stimulate her using most of the upper surface area of your tongue which allows for a much longer stroke.
Dg. III-02: Holding the tongue soft and broad
One last point before we get started: to do cunnilingus correctly, at least when you’re still just starting out with a particular partner, you really do need to be able to see what is going on. So leave the light on, light some candles or go for it during daylight hours. Let us turn to the technique then, step by step:
Start with a more circuitous approach for women tend to prefer a gentle, more indirect start. Gently stroke her genital area with your hand. Look at her genitals appreciatively. Take a good deep smell. Lick the vagina itself a bit, tasting her love juices. All this is for your own pleasure and enjoyment mainly but it also lets her know that you truly like and appreciate her pussy in all its aspects. And so she can relax and be comfortable.
When you’re both ready, turn your attention to her clitoris. To start with you might want to use your fingers to gently rub her clitoris through her clitoral hood. However, when the time comes to get in there with your tongue, pull back the clitoral hood with your fingers and hold it back, exposing the head (and perhaps some of the shaft) of her clitoris. It is the head, the tip, of her clitoris that you’ll be paying the most attention to from now on.
Dg. III-03: Pulling back the clitoral hood
With your tongue held rigid gently flick it across the surface of her clitoris such that it only just touches her clitoris. Use a down to up
motion. That is to say your tongue moves up and down but only comes into contact with her clitoris when moving from down to up. The
movement can come either from your moving your tongue itself, or from your holding your tongue rigid and stationary and moving your whole head, or a combination of the two.
Alternatively you can use a soft, broad tongue instead. Gently lick across the surface of her clitoris using as long a portion of the upper surface of your tongue as you can. Again do so in a down to up motion such that your tongue touches her clitoris only when moving from down
to up. If you’re holding your tongue soft and broad, and so stimulating her with the length of the upper surface of the tongue, then it is also possible to produce the required movement by covering your lower teeth with your bottom lip, sticking your tongue out so that it rests on the bottom lip and curls down to touch your chin and then moving your jaw up and down whilst keeping your head stationary. The result will be a lapping motion of your tongue over her clitoris, produced by the
movement of your lower jaw. This is a good technique to use when you want to perform cunnilingus for an extended period of time as the jaw muscles are usually much slower to tire than either the neck or the head muscles.
Dg. III-04: The cunnilingus jaw motion
Until she becomes more aroused her clitoris is very sensitive and so you have to be gentle in your initial stimulation for it to be pleasant for her. As her degree of arousal increases you can make the stimulation you apply more intense. To do so increase both the pressure of the
stimulation and its speed. Or one or the other if you want to take things a little more slowly. The more aroused that she is the more intense the stimulation that she can take – and will want – on her clitoris. Whereas at the start such harder stimulation would just be uncomfortable and
unpleasant for her.
Even more intense stimulation can be applied by sucking her clitoris into your mouth and flicking your tongue across it. If you do use this approach, make sure you don’t touch the clitoris with your teeth. The clitoris is and remains very sensitive and touching it with your teeth will do nothing to enhance the sensation for her and will probably feel
actively unpleasant to her.
You can make the stimulation more intense still by suckling upon her clitoris like a baby suckling at its mother’s breast. With each suckle also move your tongue across her clitoris, in time to the suckle. This technique produces very powerful, very intense sensations for the woman though and so shouldn’t be used until she is very aroused and close to orgasm. Even then most women won’t be able to take this for more than a minute or two.
After the first few minutes of cunnilingus, once she has begun to get properly aroused you can enhance the sensations for her by inserting a finger or two into her vagina and stimulating the muscular ring near the opening of her vagina, and also her g-spot. Unless she’s feeding her clitoral stimulation – and coming orgasm – inwards and upwards there’s little point in stimulating her deep point or cervix during cunnilingus as doing so won’t significantly enhance her experience by much. Some
women also like to have a finger or two inserted into their anus during cunnilingus. But some women don’t like this so check the reaction from your partner before proceeding with this.
As she approaches orgasm just keep on doing whatever you are doing. Don’t stop or slow down the pace or decrease the pressure. If you like, and can, you can increase the pressure and/or the pace somewhat though. As her orgasm starts, just keep on going. Once the first strong orgasmic wave has occurred you may want to slightly reduce the speed and pressure of the stimulation you are applying, but don’t do so by too much. The continuing stimulation serves to continue her orgasm and she will not be best pleased if you stop now. When her orgasm finishes she will tilt her hips away from you or gently move your head away from her genitals. Generally, the clitoris is too sensitive after (outwards) clitoral orgasm for any direct stimulation of it to continue. So relax, shake your tongue and jaw muscles out and move away. Now turn to intercourse where a much higher degree of depth and intimacy is available for both of you.
Fellatio
Whereas women tend to prefer a more circuitous approach, men prefer a direct, to-the-point approach. Grab his penis with one hand and start masturbating him slowly, whilst fondling his testicles with your other hand. Appreciatively. Lovingly. Enjoying what you are doing. But only for a few strokes, 10 at the most. Then get your mouth into action.
If you like, you can lick once or twice around the head of his penis in a circular motion and also up and down the shaft. Then take the head of his penis into your mouth. This is where most women tend to be let down by poor technique. The best way to do it is as follows. Open your mouth fairly wide, about ½” -1” wider than what is necessary to slide his penis into your mouth. Keep your lips extended over your teeth as you do so, so that if you were to look into a mirror your teeth would not show at all. Also keep your lips rigid enough so that you can then close your jaw fairly tightly over his penis without your teeth touching his penis in any way. Instead, you lips will press firmly and strongly onto his penis. If you practice this in a mirror without anything in your mouth your lips will form a tight “O” shape.
Dg. III-05: Standard lip position for fellatio
So you’ve got his penis in your mouth. The next step is to introduce suction to the process. A really strong vacuum is made by
sucking as hard as you can on his penis and then making the vacuum even stronger by moving your tongue back and up with the motion coming mainly from the middle section of the tongue, and doing so as if trying to suck an extra little bit of air in from between your teeth.
Dg. III-06: Making the suction extra strong
Keeping your tongue in this position not only increases the strength of the vacuum within your mouth, it also means that your tongue will stimulate the head of his penis as your head bobs up and down.
The final step in this process is to grip his penis with one of your hands directly below your lips. Grip with your hand using roughly the same amount of pressure that your lips are applying to his penis further up, or more if you wish.
So: you have his penis in your mouth with your lips applying a strong pressure to it. There is a strong vacuum within your mouth and your tongue presses up against the underside of his penis. You have your hand on his shaft gripping it with roughly the same degree of pressure as your lips are exerting.
Dg. III-07: The basic art of fellatio
Now simply begin to move your head up and down so that your mouth slides over the length of his penis. Move your hand at the same rate, in time to the motion of your mouth.
And that’s the basic fellatio technique. To give your cheek
muscles a bit of a rest you can alternate the strong suck with twisting your tongue around his penis head whilst his penis is in your mouth. You can use your free hand to massage his testicles or his perineum or you can stick a finger or two into his anus to stimulate his prostrate.
If you wish to play about a bit you can use one of these alternatives to the basic technique:
1) Hold your mouth open with his penis inside. Now circle your head around so that his penis moves around inside your mouth in a circular motion. Watch your teeth, and use your tongue to enhance the process. This technique is good to use if you don’t want him to come just yet.
2) Only partially close your mouth over his penis. Go slowly and on each upstroke breathe a full lungful of air in through your mouth. The cool air will waft over his penis as you do so. On the down stroke breathe out a full breath of air. The hot air from your lungs will waft over his penis as you do so.
3) Suck hard just on the upstroke. On the downstroke massage his penis head using the length of your tongue from tip (at the beginning of the downstroke) to root (at the end of the downstroke).
The techniques of deep-throating and throat-fucking are too involved to go into here. They will be fully covered in the above mentioned planned DVD though: “The ASP little box of tricks”.
At any rate, when he does come, swallow. If you have yet to
develop a taste for his semen swallow immediately, fast and repeatedly: it will feel good to him and you’ll barely taste anything at all. Normally women automatically wait for a while before they begin to swallow, and this is why the taste of semen lingers in their mouth afterwards. If you begin to swallow as soon as he starts to ejaculate you really will taste very little, if anything at all. Alternatively, if you are at the stage where you actively enjoy his semen and its taste, then take your time about it – swish it around in your mouth a bit and then swallow it at your leisure. But whichever way you go about it, do swallow. And not just because he wants you to. You can compare spitting his semen out to how you’d feel if after going down on you he started spitting, gagging and wiping his tongue and then went to brush his teeth. You’d feel he wasn’t really enjoying it, that he just did it for you and that there was something undesirable or unpleasant about your genitals and their taste and smell. Swallowing his semen you can compare to how much more enjoyable cunnilingus is for you when you know that your partner is not just doing it for you but because he actively wants to, enjoys doing it for himself. A lot more enjoyable for both of you this way isn’t it? Nowadays, in the West, whilst most men have learnt to at least try to give a woman
pleasure, women have yet to learn to at least try to give a man pleasure. A lot of them think that just doing the bare minimum themselves and letting the man do what he wants is enough. This is a lazy, unmasterful, undeveloped attitude. You should actively enjoy pleasing your partner. And not just in sex but in every area of the relationship. Which,
incidentally, is the key to getting what you want out of both your relationship and your man.
Thrusting techniques
With all of these techniques focus first on becoming technically competent at them. Once you have begun to attain technical competence the technique itself will soon begin to become intuitive and will start flowing naturally and effortlessly. At that point you can release your focus to enjoying the sensations and energetic movements that the
different techniques produce, both in you and your partner, and observing how these techniques relate to the other practices.
Male thrusting techniques
Skill in thrusting is far, far more important for a man than for a woman. Other than the increasing and directing of his sexual energy thrusting is practically the only tool that a man has at his disposal to use to fetch a woman to orgasm during lovemaking. Not only that but the use of advanced thrusting techniques help you to really get to know your partner internally, all her sensitive and tingly spots, what makes her heat up the most effectively and what doesn’t really work for her, how she reacts to various depths, angles, strokes, etc. during the various stages of lovemaking and how all of these are affected by her moods and by your other actions during lovemaking. As you make love, try to pay attention, energetically, internally and esoterically more than externally (see ASP II for details on how to do this) to all of these factors. It is indeed good practice to be as aware of your partner as you are of yourself during the whole lovemaking process, but more on this later. For now just try to pay attention and notice her responses. On a slightly different note the use of many of these techniques helps in the mastering of ejaculation control – useful if you’ve skipped straight ahead to this section without focusing on the orgasm practices sufficiently to master what’s covered there
(tempting to do, I know, especially if you already are in a sexual relationship. And why not?) Finally, there is the consideration that thrusting is essentially a very yang, a very male activity: it is the man’s job far, far more so than it is the woman’s. All the more reason to make sure that you are competent at it. In all of the following descriptions “entering” refers to the inwards stoke not the literal entering of the vagina and “withdrawing” refers to the outward stroke not the literal
withdrawing of the penis. At no point during the thrusting techniques should you actually fully remove your penis entirely from your partner’s vagina.
Deep thrusting
This does not refer to the full thrust – all the way in and all the way out – but to entering the vagina as deeply as you can comfortably go and then never really pulling out anymore than 2” or so from there. The big advantage of this stroke is that it enables you to remain continuously deeply inside your partner and yet also allows stimulation to continue. It is for this reason that, in the deep stages of lovemaking (as in ASP II) it is
this stroke which you will be using almost exclusively, and only gently at that (you will find that excessive movement interferes with the sensations and energy movements, both for you and your partner). Due to the nature of the stroke it produces far more stimulation for the woman, especially in and around the cervix, than it does for the man, if used during the later stages of lovemaking. This is because during these later stages, and especially after a few orgasms, a woman’s vagina will distend (open up) quite significantly causing the portions of her vagina towards the entrance to be comparatively tight, gripping the base of your penis, and the deeper portions to be comparatively open.
Dg. III-08: a) An unaroused vagina b) A fully distended vagina
Due to this difference in the level of stimulation between the man and the woman this technique can also be used to fetch a woman to orgasm without there being any real danger of “falling over” into ejaculation.
The technique then. Push your penis into the vagina as deeply as it can comfortably go. All the way if possible but maybe less depending on the length of your penis and the depth of your partner’s vagina.
Especially if you are in the early stages of lovemaking do so gently and be careful not to hurt your partner by ramming your penis into her cervix with excessive force.
Dg. III-09: Entering the vagina fully
From this point a variety of movements are possible including a gentle back and forth practiced by pulling out only by 2” or so before pushing back in. This version of the stroke is useful when both you and your partner want some hard, animalistic fucking yet you yourself do not want to risk being pushed into ejaculation.
Dg. III-10: Deep and straight thrusting
This version of the stroke is best used to strongly and continuously stimulate her deep point and can lead to some very powerful deep point / uterine orgasms for her very quickly. However, in the later, deeper stages of lovemaking, for example when soulmerging, deep thrusting is best used to stimulate your partner’s cervix. One way to do this is with small circular movements either around the cervix in the space between the hump of the cervix, the end of the vagina and the vaginal walls.
Dg. III-11: Deep thrusting – strong cervical stimulation
Or on and around the cervix itself
Dg. III-12: Deep thrusting – smooth cervical stimulation
Flicking the tip of your penis across the tip or the whole of her cervix in a side-to-side motion is also an option.
Dg. III-13: Deep thrusting – side-to-side cervical stimulation
In practice this is most easily achieved by first pulling your right hip away from her whilst pushing your left hip towards her and then pulling your left hip away from her whilst pushing your right hip towards her.
Dg. III-14: Side-to-side cervical stimulation – hip motion
Keep the penetration deep whilst dong so and it will cause the side-to-side movement described above.
If instead of flicking your penis across her cervix in this side-to-side motion you do so in an up-and-down motion:
Dg. III-15: Stimulating the cervix and the clitoris at the same time
…then you are also able to stimulate her clitoris at the same time using your pubic bone. This technique is best when used with a variant of the missionary position. In practice it is most easily accomplished by resting at least a part of your weight on her and then moving your whole body horizontally back and forth either by pushing with your toes or by pulling with your arms
Dg. III-16: Stimulating the cervix and the clitoris at the same time: in practice
This produces both clitoral and cervical stimulation at the same time and can be very intense for her. In order to “hit” the clitoris just right she can either arch her hips or you can lift and control her buttocks using one hand.
Once you are competent at the basic technique, play with it. You could, for example, experiment with varying the speed and / or strength of the stroke. Or you could try stroking exclusively along the left side of the cervix in an up/down motion. Or combine the slight in / out
movement with the circular movement to produce a spiralling motion onto and then off of the cervix.
Dg. III-17: Spiralling the cervix
Circular thrusting
Circular thrusting involves moving the tip of your penis around in a circular motion at one steady depth within the vagina. It is most useful for stimulating the cervix and as an alternative basic stroke to the straight in-out.
Dg. III-18: Circular thrusting
When you are still starting out on the path of Advanced Sexual Practice you will probably find that alternating between straight in-out thrusting and circular thrusting greatly helps in the control of the
ejaculatory urge. Later on, you’ll find that deep, gentle, circular thrusting is a great way to continue the stimulation in a sensuous way during the deeper stages of lovemaking.
You can vary circular thrusting by varying the speed with which you circle, the size of the circles and the force which you use. Small, gentle circles are especially good for stimulating the tip of your partner’s cervix whilst big, forceful circles are good for stimulating both your partner’s cervix and her deep point using one thrust. This latter is
achieved by angling your partner’s hips upwards (for example by placing 2 or 3 pillows under them when in the basic missionary position), and then rubbing across your partner’s deep point on the “up” portion of the circle, whilst rubbing across the bottom of her cervix on the “down” portion of the circle. In order for this stroke to be useful and effective it is best to use it only considerably into the sexual session when your partner’s vagina is well distended and both her deep point and her cervix are very receptive to stimulation.
Dg. III-19: Using the circular thrust to stimulate both deep point and cervix
Spiral thrusting
This entails moving deeper into the vagina using a spiralling motion and then moving shallower within the vagina also using a spiralling motion.
Dg. III-20: Spiral thrusting: a) the in-stroke b) the out-stroke
It is rather like stirring a deep pot of stew. The advantage is that the penis is always at an angle within the vagina, rather than entering or exiting straightly, and can therefore press more strongly against the various parts of the vaginal walls. Practice this technique along different lengths of the vagina. This technique is best used to move from thrusting at different depths of the vagina in a way other than straight and direct. For example when moving from shallow thrusts to deep thrusts. As you do so it enables you to press against parts of the vagina that the straight and direct thrust just can’t reach. Such a movement is also subtler and less forceful.
Shallow thrusts
Shallow thrusting refers to strokes which penetrate no deeper than about halfway into the vagina, often much less than that. Predominantly they are useful for hitting the g-spot, and also the sensitive, usually
significantly tighter ring of muscle at the very opening of the vagina. For detailed instructions on where the g-spot normally is and how to find it refer to the female orgasm practices section, or ask your partner. The shallow thrust also produces especially strong sensations for the man as the head of the penis is moved back and forth through the tightest area of the vagina.
The technique then is to pull back to the very opening of the vagina.
Dg. III-21: The shallow thrust: as far out as you go
And then to push in slightly or until you hit the g-spot.
Dg. III-22: The shallow thrust: as far in as you go
In practice hitting the g-spot is easiest for most men using rear-entry positions such as doggy-style. Men with a very high angle of erection however, whose erect penis nearly pushes against their belly area, should also be able to quite easily reach the g-spot using front entry missionary style positions if they use a hand to lift and direct their
partner’s hips or place a pillow under their partner’s buttocks. For other men this is also a possibility too, but is in practice a little more difficult. Again, experiment with the depth of penetration. Try hitting the rear wall of the vagina opposite the g-spot, varying the angle of
penetration in other ways, using circular as opposed to direct movements, etc.
Deep / full thrusting
This is the most traditional and the most popular of the Taoist thrusting techniques. The technique is to alternate a set number of deep thrusts with a set number of full thrusts. In the translations which you will nowadays read of the old writings you will find that most patterns which are recommended take the form of a large number of deep thrusts (e.g. 9, 8, 5, 3) alternated with one full shallow thrust. What they are really recommending is a series of deep thrusts interspersed with one full stroke where you withdraw right to the very opening of the vagina and then push all the way back into the very depths of the vagina. You do not intersperse the deep thrusts with one shallow thrust of the sort described in the previous section. That really would tend to destroy the whole rhythm of your lovemaking, and is an example of the confusion which often arises out of poor translations of classic texts. The key advantage of interspersing the deep thrusts with the one full thrust in this way is that, provided your penis is large enough and your partner’s vagina is tight enough, the one full thrust pushes more air out of the vagina thereby creating a greater vacuum within the vagina which produces a very pleasurable sucking sensation on the penis and the cervix during the subsequent deep thrusts.
Step by step then:
1) Thrust at a deep level for a number of strokes, using any variety of deep thrust that you wish
Dg. III-23: Eight deep strokes
2) Withdraw to the very opening of the vagina being careful not to break the vacuum by coming too far out
Dg. III-24: The full thrust: outstroke just completed, in-stroke about to begin
3) Push your penis relatively fast and quite forcefully deep into the vagina once more thereby forcing more air out of the vagina and strengthening the vacuum.
And then return to step 1) once more. Incidentally, don’t get caught up in counting your exact number of deep thrusts. They don’t have to be exactly the same between each long, full thrust. Let the rhythm establish itself naturally and instead pay attention to the sensations produced and to your partner.
Deep / shallow thrusting
You can also of course alternate actual shallow thrusts as described in the “shallow thrusting” section with deep thrusts. Should you choose to do this a good few shallow thrusts more than the simple one
mistakenly recommended by the modern translations of the old Taoist classics would be necessary to build up any significant g-spot stimulation. And at any rate once you have built up such stimulation there is little point in then letting it go to waste by moving to cervical stimulation which you then let go to waste by returning to g-spot stimulation and so on. Far better to focus on shallow thrusts and g-spot stimulation for a while, build up the energy, give the vagina time to distend, and then move the energy and the lovemaking deeper by progressing to cervical
stimulation. Perhaps focusing on g-spot stimulation for a while once more when you sense that your partner is at a point where this move will bring her to a good orgasm. Then return once more to the deeper
thrusting. Certainly alternating the deep/shallow strokes in a set, fixed pattern during lovemaking seems to have little point to it other than interrupting the stimulation of both partners and so the rhythm and flow of the whole thing.
Drawing strokes
The left side of the penis corresponds to the left testicle and to the left side of the body and the right side of the penis corresponds to the right testicle and the right side of the body. Consequently if you wish to bring the left testicle into play more fully, for example in order to draw it in closer to the body, then stimulate the left side of the penis more. Similarly if you wish to balance the energies between the left and right sides of your body. It is the drawing strokes which are used to achieve this.
The technique then. Move your hips to the left by about 2-4” so that the base of your penis is no longer on a straight vertical line with the opening of the vagina but is instead offcentre by those 2-4”. The tip of your penis remains in the vagina.
From here push your penis into the vagina all or most of the way. You should feel the stimulation far more strongly on the right side of your penis than you do on your left
Dg. III-27: Drawing strokes: all the way in
Then pull farther out to return to the starting position as above, again feeling the stimulation more on the right than on the left side of the penis. Rather than utilizing a straight thrust you can alternatively use a more drawing stroke achieved by keeping your left hip stationary whilst moving your right hip forwards and back.
Dg. III-28: The drawing stroke: hip motion
This produces a more fluid motion and a steadier sensation. It should be obvious how to vary the above technique in order to stimulate the left side of your penis more than the right. You can also use this technique to balance the left and right sides of your partner’s body or to move energy between the two sides.
Curved and long thrusting
This is the standard thrust often used almost mechanically by many men where the penis is pushed all the way into the vagina and then
withdrawn until the very opening. This stroke can be an excellent one to use in the middle stages of lovemaking if it is modified to produce greater finesse rather than being used in a pumping piston motion to fetch you to quick ejaculation. By the middle stages of lovemaking the sexual energy should have heated up and expanded sufficiently to allow the whole penis and the whole vagina to be very sensitive and receptive to sensations, rather than their sensitivity being largely limited to specific, localized areas. That is why this stroke is so good to use during those middle stages: it allows the full length of the penis to rub against the full length of the vagina.
To perform this stroke push the penis all the way into the vagina as far as it will go, ensuring that the majority of the motion originates from the hips alone rather than from the movement of the body as a whole which is a different technique.
Dg. III-29: Curved and long thrusting: a) as far out as you go b) as far in as you go
Once the penis is in as deep as it will go withdraw it as much as it is possible to do without taking it out of the vagina altogether, which is again achieved using movement of the hips alone. Then push it all the way in once more.
One of the best and simplest ways of refining this stroke is simply to slow it down. Lots. Make it a very, very slow and sensuous stroke during which you pay attention to every sensation and feel every bit of your penis and of your partner’s vagina. Also notice the energy
movements and the other, more physical, reactions that this stroke produces both in your partner and within your own body.
The two most important of these is that this stroke can be used to spread the natural lubricants of the vagina throughout the entire length of the vagina, and also this stroke helps to strengthen the man’s erection if it is receding or reducing.
Other methods can be used also. You can enter fast and hard on the in stroke only to withdraw with infinite slowness and tenderness. Or vice versa: enter slowly and sensually, withdraw with speed and force. This last produces a feeling for both of you rather akin to your
penetrating your partner for the first time, as at the very beginning of lovemaking, except again and again and again. You can also try varying the angle of penetration and the rhythm.
Full and long thrusting
To perform this stroke push the penis all the way into the vagina as far as it will go, in as straight and direct a way as possible. In order for this to be possible it is necessary if you are using a missionary-type position to support your body weight on your hands or elbows and move the whole torso. Otherwise the thrust will turn into a more curving motion which is the previous technique.
Dg. III-30: Full and long thrusting in missionary
Once the penis is in as deep as it will go withdraw it as much as it is possible to do without taking it out of the vagina altogether, which is achieved by moving your whole body forwards as shown in Dg. III-30. Then push it all the way in once more.
Slowed down this too is a very good thrust to use during the middle to later stages of lovemaking. However, because it involves a lot more movement on the man’s part, over a long period it is a lot more tiring, and so distracting, for you than curved and long thrusting.
Essentially there are basically six ways in which the process of thrusting can be varied: angle of entry, direction of thrust, speed, force, depth and rhythm. In slightly more detail:
Angle of entry: rather than entering the vagina straight on you can
begin off-centre resulting in an angled stroke. We covered doing this to the left and to the right in “The Drawing Strokes”. Above, below and diagonally are other alternatives.
Direction of thrust: The thrust itself does not have to proceed
straight in and then come straight out again, though this is one very nicely balanced option. It is possible to curve the thrust upwards for example so that the head of the penis stimulates the g-spot and the base of the penis on the side facing away from your body pushes against the ring of muscle around the vaginal opening. Other forms of such curving strokes are possible, as are circular strokes and also changing the stroke halfway through e.g. from straight to curving.
Speed: It is possible to thrust: quickly, slowly or somewhere in the
middle. And to do so, on the instroke, the outstroke or both. To stop or pause at the end of the outstroke, the end of the instroke, in between or not at all. And to vary the speed halfway through a stroke.
Force: The power behind the stroke. Usually felt more on the
instroke than on the outstroke. It is also possible to make this power energetic rather than physical.
Depth: How deeply you choose to enter the vagina and up until
which point you choose to withdraw.
Rhythm: The timing of the strokes in relation to one another.
Whilst an irregular rhythm does occasionally have its uses, for example to break a pattern or in between changing thrusting techniques, as a rule a regular rhythm is preferable. This does not mean to say that you have to keep all your strokes limited to one fixed speed. Rather what is important is that there is some sort of consistency, regularity and order to your thrusting – you are not just flailing spasmodically all over the place. You can, for example, steadily increase both the depth and the speed of your thrusting so that each stroke is both faster and deeper than the one before, provided that the increment by which you do so is fairly consistent each time. This consistency is important because your body along with your partner’s body and the more subconscious aspects of her mind, tend to like and need some sort of predictable regularity on the basis of which to know what to do: relax and allow the energy to build up? Go for the orgasm? Enjoy the sensuality of the sensations? This is not possible if there is no real degree of regularity on the basis of which to come to this sort of understanding.
It is on various combinations of these six aspects of thrusting that the thrusting techniques presented in this section, and indeed all thrusting techniques, are based. By varying these six aspects in different ways you yourself can develop your own thrusting techniques. The key factor is to do so in a way which enhances lovemaking both for you and your partner. To do this, pay attention to both your own body and energies and to your partner’s body and energies and then make your decisions on the basis of that. It would be foolish for example to move from a forceful deep, straight thrust to a gentle, shallow thrust just as your partner is on the very verge of orgasm. If you must change your thrust at such a point far better to go for a stroke which continues this deep stimulation such as a deep circular thrust. At any rate, practice, develop your awareness, and it should all flow easily and naturally very soon indeed.
The variation of thrusting techniques
Whilst the man is still learning mastery of ejaculation control variation of thrusting technique is a useful tool for him to employ. As he feels himself approaching ejaculation he can change to a stroke which gives him less stimulation thereby preventing himself from ejaculating. The main problem with doing this though is that, provided the two
partners are reasonably energetically aligned, it is precisely when you are approaching ejaculation that your partner will also be nearing her orgasm. This is because as you get nearer to ejaculation your penis fills with huge amounts of energy which of itself causes your partner also to come very near to her orgasm. Likewise, if she approaches orgasm her vagina fills with huge amounts of energy which of itself causes you to come very near to ejaculation. The real solution is not to retreat from your orgasm by changing to a less stimulating thrusting technique which will prevent both of you from orgasming and so leave you both feeling unsatisfied. Rather what you must do is master the orgasm process so that when you feel yourself approaching ejaculation you can direct that energy into an internal orgasm thereby removing the urge to ejaculate or you can send it into your partner causing her to orgasm and then directing the energy that her orgasm releases to produce your own internal orgasm.
The ramification of this all is that you can then use variation of thrusting techniques to enhance both your orgasms rather than to merely help you control your ejaculatory urge. The basis on which to do this is to realize that the physical movement is intimately connected to the orgasmic and energetic aspects of sex. At the start of sex for example, the energies are usually just beginning to warm up and you are both quite a way from orgasm. Consequently a deep, forceful thrust would be
inconsistent at this stage. Rather a gentle, partial stroke would be more appropriate to the energetic and physical nature of this stage of
lovemaking. Conversely, when you are both approaching a powerful orgasm a shallow, light thrust would not be satisfying. You will want a deeper, more intense thrust which provides you both with stronger sensations and a greater sense of union. Something such as a deep spiralling thrust would therefore be more appropriate.
Finally, when you are actually changing from one thrusting
technique to another you very rarely want there to be a big jump between the sensations produced by the two different techniques. Occasionally a big jump has a pleasing drama and forcefulness about it, but more usually it is more satisfying for the lovemaking to flow and dance effortlessly rather than jump all over the place. In practice this is achieved by ensuring that the thrusting technique to which you intend to change is appropriate considering where the lovemaking and the orgasm process is going and then melding the one technique into the other. As a rule, when you are both approaching orgasm thrust deeper or faster or more
forcefully or a combination of the three. And when you both want to focus more on the sensuality of the lovemaking thrust more slowly, more fully and more gently. For example, say you are using long and full thrusts and are both approaching orgasm. Consequently you both feel the desire for more intense, closer stimulation. So you decide to change to a deep back and forth thrust. You then do so smoothly by decreasing the extent to which you draw out of the vagina whilst also increasing the attention you pay to your partner’s cervix at the deepest end of the stroke. Whilst doing so ensure you don’t lose any of the controlled power so characteristic of skilful thrusting at the close-to-orgasm stage. Within the space of 3 or 4 strokes the transition between thrusting techniques should have been fully effected.
An important point regarding thrusting during orgasm which must be made is that women generally like some sort of stimulation to continue during their orgasm – it helps to make it more intense, satisfying and total for them. Without this sort of continued stimulation many women feel that they have had only half an orgasm. Conversely, men tend to prefer to stop altogether during ejaculatory orgasm. However, once you have learned to orgasm internally without ejaculation you should find that it is perfectly possible and also more satisfying for you to continue to thrust, albeit more gently, during your orgasms. Most women also, prefer this sort of more gentle stimulation during the orgasm itself. Should your partner prefer a harder, more intense stimulation during her actual orgasm you could try using a thrusting technique which stimulates her very
intensely but you only comparatively mildly, such as the deep circular thrust.
Once you are aware of all this though detailed focus on technique isn’t really that necessary. With a little time and a lot of practice all of this should flow effortlessly and naturally.
Female thrusting techniques
To be honest thrusting is not really a very female activity. Due to the physical mechanics of it all it is difficult for a woman to achieve the same degree of skill in thrusting that it is possible for a man to attain. Further, a woman’s pleasure does seem to become more limited by taking the active role in this way than a man’s pleasure is limited by his taking this form of active role. Far better then to let him do the great majority of the work is this area. In terms of the mechanical aspects of lovemaking a woman’s skill is better focused on the more internal muscular stimulating techniques such as milking. Nevertheless, it is useful for a woman to develop some degree of skill in thrusting for the times when she wishes to stimulate her man in this more active, external way as well as to use to signal to her partner what she wishes him to do and to enable the two of you to thrust together, in unison. Also, combining basic female thrusting techniques with internal muscular techniques can produce some truly exquisite sensations for both you and your partner.
The standard thrust: woman on top
The standard thrust is effected by means of hip movements very similar to that employed by men when they are thrusting. Due to its reliance on hip movement rather than leg muscles this is the one thrust which it is relatively easy to maintain over a long period of time when you are on top. Despite this, it never fails to surprise me how few women are aware of this thrusting technique and how even fewer are competent at it. Hopefully this is one of the many things which this book will go some way towards rectifying. To perform the standard thrust then, the first thing you have to do is assume the right position: astride your man, leaning forward, with your outstretched arms supporting a good portion of your weight. This is in order to allow you a good degree of freedom of movement with your hips. The up-thrust is then effected by curving your hips as far back as you can. Your lower back should curve upwards as you do so, and your perineal region will rise considerably above the
upper surface of your partner’s torso. The down-thrust is then effected by curving your hips forward as far as you can. Your lower back should curve outwards as you do so and your perineal region will move
downwards to rest on, or very near to, the upper surface of your partner’s torso.
Dg. III-31: The standard thrust: woman on top: a) fully down b) fully up
This thrust can be varied by changing the speed at which you curve your hips back and forth and also the degree to which you move them back (which determines how far out of your vagina your partner’s penis moves to) and forward (which determines how deep into your vagina you move your partner’s penis).
The straight thrust: woman on top
The straight thrust is the name given to moving in such a way that your partner’s penis goes from being held at or near the opening of the vagina to being deep within the vagina, possibly with the head pressing against your cervix. In the woman on top positions this necessitates an up and down movement of the whole torso which is achieved by means of the flexing of the leg muscles.
Dg. III-32: The straight thrust: woman on top
The precise way in which the leg muscles are flexed to produce the upstroke is dependent upon the specific sexual position being used. The downstroke can either be achieved through the effects of gravity as you allow your whole upper torso to return to the initial starting position or if you are in a sexual position where you are leaning forward taking a portion of your weight on your hands it can be effected by pushing backwards using your arms and shoulder muscles.
Dg. III-33: The straight thrust: the downstroke
No form of rocking, grinding or hip movement can, in this sort of position, achieve anywhere near the same effects. It is because this thrust is dependent on some sort of flexing of the leg muscles that the extent to which it can be varied with regards to speed, force, direction of thrust, etc. is severely limited, even once you have developed good leg muscles through your practice of The Five Tibetans or other exercises. You can however alter the depth of the thrust quite easily by varying the extent to which you come up/go down. The angle of thrust is also easily changed by placing yourself slightly off-centre to your partner’s penis. This will enable you to better direct the penis to where you want it to go, an effect
which can also be achieved by altering the angle at which you hold your hips. And, more internally, by contracting your internal vaginal muscles to fetch specific parts of your vagina into closer contact with your
partner’s penis.
Finally, it is very worthwhile combining this thrusting technique with the internal milking technique. For example, during a full upstroke simultaneously perform a pulling milking contraction and then follow this with a pushing milking contraction on the downstroke. Or vice versa. The standard thrust: woman on bottom
This is achieved using a back and forth curving movement of the hips.
Dg. III-34: The standard thrust, woman on the bottom
It is far easier to vary the thrust when in this position than when on top. This thrust is most useful as a “signal” to your partner as to what you want him to do: for example thrust faster if you want him to go faster, deeper if deeper, pull away if shallower etc. Also it is useful to practice it a bit in order that the two of you can perform joint thrusting techniques comfortably and easily. Finally, you can use the same arc of motion, except holding it steady at a particular point, in order to angle your hips and so your partner’s penis to stimulate specific areas within your vagina when it is your partner who is doing the thrusting.
The circular thrust
This thrust involves moving your hips in a circular motion to produce a stirring movement of your partner’s penis within your vagina.
Whether you are on the top or the bottom, the motion of the hips is the same. It is worth experimenting with varying the size of the circles along with the depth at which the penis is held to produce different effects and sensations. For example you could try small, deep circles to stimulate the cervix or large, fairly shallow circles to stimulate the g-spot. Also practice combining the circular thrust with the straight thrust to producing a spiralling movement, both when on top and when on the bottom.
Dg. III-35: Circular thrusting
The rear-entry position commonly known as doggy-style – and other positions like it – affords you far greater control of the thrusting process than is possible in any other position. It will, however, probably be necessary to tell your partner to keep still before hand. In this position all the thrusting techniques we have covered so far, both those involving moving the whole body and those involving moving primarily only the hips, can be used with ease.
Dg. III-36: Thrusting in doggy style
This allows for a good little trick to use in the very early stages of lovemaking where the penis is held no deeper than the bottom third of the vagina and a variety of circular, spiralling and straight strokes are used to massage the penis head. It is in these early stages of lovemaking that doggy-style rear-entry positions are best used because they do not allow for the alignment of the energetic centres of both partners which is
necessary in the later, deeper stages. You might also want to take a look at the various thrusting techniques covered in the section “Male thrusting techniques” – it shouldn’t be too hard to figure out how to adapt the techniques given there so that you can perform the female equivalents yourself. Do bear in mind also that whilst doggy-style is the easiest
position for most women in which to perform the more involved thrusting techniques it isn’t too much harder to perform them in most woman-on-top positions either. So feel free to experiment and decide for yourself what you like best.
Thrusting together
Thrusting together requires a little coordination and a good
intuitive connection between the partners but it is well worth the effort for it can produce some truly amazing results and sensations. A good basic thrust to begin with to help you to get used to moving together in this way is the basic back and forth stroke. With the man on top, he pulls
outwards whilst the woman pulls backwards.
Dg. III-37: Thrusting together – the outstroke
Then he pushes inwards whilst the woman pushes forwards.
Dg. III-38: Thrusting together: the instroke
Practice this until it flows quite naturally and masterfully and you are both used to moving together in this way, easily and fluidly changing
such things as the speed, the depth of penetration, the angle, the force of the stroke etc. Then learn to do the same with the woman on top.
Another good technique to try is for one of you to thrust circularly whilst the other thrusts back and forth.
On a more advanced level you can both use circular or spiralling thrusts, except in different directions (one moves clockwise, the other anti-clockwise) using different sized circles or spirals and, with practice, at different speeds. This can result in some very different sensations for both of you.
Sexual positions
There is a vast plethora of possible sexual positions and an equally vast number of books available telling you all about them. However, it is not really worth spending huge amounts of time learning, memorizing and perfecting all of these, not to mention acquiring the necessary flexibility to perform some of them. The returns in terms of variety, intensity or depth of pleasure so acquired simply do not justify it. Though by all means feel free to work your way through them with the handy assistance of a reference book and then make up your own mind. An easier and quicker approach is to learn the basic positions on whose variation the vast plethora of positions is based (with only a few
exceptions). These are: man on top, woman on top, rear-entry, side-entry, standing and sitting upright. Combined with, where appropriate, either a face to face approach or a front-to-back approach. It is these basic
positions along with some of their basic variations which we shall cover in this section. Regarding the variation of the basic positions it is worth realizing that there are 2 basic ways in which this is done. The first is by varying the way in which the woman holds her legs. Closer together and drawn up towards the body tends to make the vagina shorter and tighter; spread apart and held further away from the body tends to make the vagina longer and more open. By holding each leg at a different position it is possible to affect the left and the right sides of the vagina separately. And by placing one or both of the woman’s legs in such a position that they will be moved as the man thrusts it is possible for the way in which the vagina is internally held to be varied over the course of each thrust. Secondly, by varying the relative positioning of the hips (e.g. straight on, slightly off-centre to the right etc.) it is possible to vary the angle of entry of the penis into the vagina. Thereby changing the course of the entire thrust. This can be used to stimulate different parts of the vagina, and of the penis, and to produce deeper or more shallow penetration.