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I nt r oducti on

UNFAI R SEDUCTI ONS I N AN UNFAI R WORLD

Many peopl e who r ead t he rough dr af t of t hi s book wer e upset by par t s of i t . I nvar i abl y, I ' d hear t he same compl ai nt . "These tact i cs you' r e t eachi ng pr obabl y wor k r eal l y wel l . We t hought t he par t s on power and conf i dence and on meet i ng women wer e gr eat . But some of t he act ual seduct i on t echni ques ar e down r i ght di shonest and unf ai r . They r eal l y don' t gi ve t he woman any choi ce. Why don' t you j ust l eave t hem out of t he book? Then no one coul d possi bl y have any obj ect i ons.

" Ok. Let ' s get t he "unf ai r " char ge out of t he way. Yes, some, and I mean SOME of t he seduct i on t act i cs i n t hi s book coul d easi l y be cl assi f i ed as "unf ai r . " And, t r ut h t o t el l , I had some ser i ous moral r eser vat i ons about put t i ng t hem i n t he book. However , "unf ai r " and "f ai r " ar e r el at i ve terms. I f you and I ar e i n a boxi ng match, and we ar e bot h f i ght i ng by t he r ul es, t hen i t i s t ot al l y unf ai r f or me t o ki ck you i n t he nut s and poke you i n t he eyes. You ar e f i ght i ng by t he r ul es, and so shoul d I .

But , i f YOU st ar t f i ght i ng di r t y, I wi l l f eel under no mor al obl i gat i on

what soever t o cont i nue t o stand t her e l i ke a f ool and t ake i t . I ' m goi ng t o t oss out al l t he r ul es and f i ght t o wi n, no mat t er what i t t akes.

Unf or t unat el y, when you deal wi t h women, you may of t en f i nd yours el f i n t hat t ype of si t uat i on. They expect you t o pl ay by t he r ul es, but t hey f eel per f ect l y f r ee t o do what ever THEY want . For exampl e, l ot s of women ar e mor e t han happy t o spend your money and t i me, and gener al l y l ead you on, l et t i ng you t hi nk you have a rewar d ( sexual ) comi ng. They t al k about sex on t he dat e, t ouch you a l ot , and ACT ver y seduct i ve. Then when you make a pass , t hey f r eak out and scr eam about what ani mal s men ar e, how we' r e onl y af t er one t hi ng. Or t hey l et you have i t wi t h t hat f amous l i ne "I ' m j ust not at t r act ed t o you. " Maybe you f i nd out t hat she was j ust usi ng you as a soci al " spare t i r e" because her boyf r i end was out of t own f or a f ew weeks and she di dn' t want t o si t at home al one and l ook at t he f our wal l s .

Of cour se, i f you real l y want t o be a " gent l eman" you may not f i nd any of t hi s out unt i l t he t hi r d or f our t h dat e. You don' t want t o behave l i ke an ani mal and make a pass on t he f i r st dat e, do you? So you hol d of f awhi l e, and t hen t he sl ap i n t he f ace hur t s even mor e.

Now, any chi ck who pul l s t hi s of f DESERVES t o be on t he r ecei vi ng end of t he most unf ai r t act i cs you can use. You ar e under no moral obl i gat i on t o be her vi ct i m, and you ar e a f ool i f you per mi t i t .

So, by al l means, pl ay f ai r wi t h a woman unt i l she shows you t hat she i s pl ayi ng unf ai r wi t h you. As soon as she st ar t s t o pul l shi t , t hen ei t her wal k away

compl et el y or l et her have i t wi t h ever yt hi ng you have i n your arsenal .

And whi l e we' r e on t he subj ect of f ai r , i s i t "f ai r " t hat t he good- l ooki ng and r i ch guys shoul d get al l t he beaut i f ul women whi l e you and I have t o set t l e f or t he dogs? Are you any l ess deser vi ng of compl et e sexual sat i sf act i on t han some pr et t y boy who was bl essed by genet i cs and Daddy' s bank account ? Why shoul d you j ust meekl y r ol l over , and accept a si t uat i on t hat SUCKS, good buddy, when you

can be get t i ng your shar e, and t hen some!

Somet hi ng el se t o consi der : When i t comes t o sex, women have a massi ve power advant age. I t ' s r el at i vel y easy f or even a f at , ugl y tr ol l t o obt ai n sexual sat i sf act i on. Al l she has t o do i s go to any bar or cl ub, act even mi l dl y f l i r t at i ous, and be wi l l i ng t o put out . She' s sur e t o get l ai d, i f not by t he

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best l ooki ng guy, t hen at l east by someone. I t ' s much har der f or even a decent l ooki ng guy to get sat i sf acti on, sexual l y.

FOR GUYS, GETTI NG LAI D I S A CHORE. FOR WOMEN, GETTI NG LAI D I S A CHOI CE.

Never f orget t hi s di f f er ence i n t he bal ance of power bet ween t he sexes. The t r i cks and t act i cs you' l l l ear n i n t hi s book wi l l make you one of t hose r ar e guys who i s on t he choi ce si de of t hat power equat i on.

Whi l e we ar e her e I bet t er make somet hi ng el se cl ear . I do NOT bel i eve t hat sex i s t he be al l and end al l of r el at i ng t o women. Nor do I bel i eve t hat i t i s al ways necessar y or even DESI RABLE t o use t he t act i cs out l i ned i n t hi s book, ( whet her f ai r or unf ai r ) t o get a woman t o sl eep wi t h you. I t i s cer t ai nl y

poss i bl e t hat t he par t i cul ar woman you f ancy may be smar t enough and have enough good sense t o want you j ust as you ar e, wi t hout any games or bul l shi t on her par t . She may al so be sane and psychol ogi cal l y heal t hy enough t o expr ess t hat desi r e nat ur al l y, wi t hout any hang ups or gui l t games. You mi ght even f i nd -gasp - t hat t he f r i endshi p and i nt i macy you shar e wi t h a l ady ar e mor e i mpor t ant t o you t han sex. When you f i nd a l ady l i ke t hi s, cher i sh her as t he r are

t r easur e she i s. Hang on t i ght , and don' t l et go!

Unf or t unat el y, based on my own exper i ence, and t he exper i ence of hundr eds of men I ' ve i nt er vi ewed, most women do not f i t i nt o t hi s cat egor y. I wi sh t hey di d -t he REALI TY i s -t ha-t -t hey do NOT! The real i -t y i s -t ha-t you, as a man, are goi ng -t o be sexual l y at t r act ed t o many, many women, ver y f ew of whom ar e goi ng t o

nat ur al l y desi r e you, and who you can al so r espect , l ove and admi r e.

Many of t hese women ar e goi ng t o be hung- up sexual l y, depr essed, suf f er f r om l ow sel f - est eem, eat i ng di sor der s, al cohol i sm, et c. Heck, I even br i ef l y dat ed a

woman who t ur ned out t o be bul i mi c, al cohol i c, and was al so secr et l y a hooker ! Top t hat f or a dat i ng di sas t er st or y!

Now, you may deci de, t he heck wi t h i t . I f you can' t at l east l i ke and respect a l ady, and i f you have t o resor t t o tacti cs you l ear ned i n a book, t hen i t j ust i sn' t wor t h i t , and you wi l l ski p deal i ng wi t h such l oser f emal es al t oget her . I cer t ai nl y can r espect t hat choi ce; i t ' s t he choi ce I event ual l y made mysel f . But onl y YOU can make t hat choi ce. Even i f you do, t hi s book wi l l st i l l be of gr eat val ue t o you, because you wi l l l ear n f ant asti c t echni ques f or i mpr ovi ng your conf i dence, meet i ng and pi cki ng up women anywher e, any t i me, and how t o qui ckl y r ecogni ze and swi f t l y el i mi nat e al l t he nut t y- l oser s BEFORE t hey get t o empt y your wal l et , bend your br ai n, and ki ck your hear t i n. You' l l be abl e to get r i d of t he di r t , so you can enj oy t he di amonds.

A FEW MORE WORDS BEFORE WE GET ON WI TH THI S BOOK

Ther e' s one bi g mi st ake t hat al l t he so cal l ed " Pi ck- up Chi cks " books seem t o make. That i s, THEY DON' T TELL YOU HOW TO HAVE THE CONFI DENCE AND POWER TO ACTUALLY GO OUT AND USE ALL THEI R GREAT " SEDUCTI ON" SUGGESTI ONS.

Thi s i s a CRI TI CAL mi st ake. Gr eat advi ce does you no good at al l i f you can' t act ual l y go out and APPLY i t . Al l i t r eal l y does i s make you f eel wor se, because now you know what t o do but you STI LL can' t do i t . At l east when you wer e

i gnor ant you had an excuse.

Thi s book wi l l NOT make t hat mi st ake; i n f act t he whol e f i r st sect i on i s dedi cat ed t o showi ng you how t o have t he conf i dence and power t o be abl e t o

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easi l y use and appl y t he t act i cs i n t he ot her t wo sect i ons of t he book. We' l l al so show you how t o use your own cr eat i vi t y so you can devel op your own

seduct i on tacti cs t hat per f ect l y f i t your uni que per sonal i t y and ci r cumst ances. Not bad f or one l i t t l e book, huh?

A FI NAL WORD

Thr oughout t hi s book, I wi l l be l ayi ng down cer t ai n i deas t hat you woul d do wel l t o memor i ze and use. I suggest you get some 3 x 5 i ndex car ds t o wr i t e t hese i deas down so you can go over t hem as you need t o. There wi l l al so be exer ci ses t o do. I t i s ESSENTI AL t hat you DO THE EXERCI SES. J ust r eadi ng t hem wi l l get you nowher e.

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Chapt er One

THE ONE ATTI TUDE THAT I S THE KEY

TO HAVI NG I RRESI STI BLE APPEAL TO WOMEN

AND GETTI NG LAI D WI TH THE WOMEN OF YOUR DREAMS

Once, one of my super - scor i ng buddi es i nvi t ed me t o go t o a par t y wi t h hi m. Not havi ng much of a soci al l i f e anyway, I accept ed t he i nvi t ati on, and besi des, t hi s guy REALLY knew how t o get l ai d. I sor t of l ooked at mysel f as bei ng one of t hose smal l sucker f i sh t hat at t ach t hemsel ves under neat h a shar k' s mout h and l i ve of f t he bi t s t he s har k s pi t s out .

Anyway, we wer e wander i ng ar ound t hi s huge apar t ment compl ex, l ooki ng f or t he par t y. We wer e wal ki ng down a hal l way when we pass ed an open door , and t her e was a part y goi ng on, but i t was def i ni t el y NOT t he part y we had been i nvi t ed t o. Thi s was a f or mal af f ai r ; ever yone was ver y wel l dr ess ed, and my buddy and I

were bot h wear i ng j eans and scr uf f y t enni s shoes.

Thr ough t he door way I saw a st unni ng bl onde i n a l ow cut dr ess , sur r ounded by guys t r yi ng t o hi t on her . My buddy saw her t oo, l ooked at me, and went r i ght i nt o act i on. I saw hi m wal k i n t he door , cut t hr ough t he cr owd of guys, say somet hi ng t o her t hat I coul dn' t hear , and hand her a car d and a pen. She wr ot e somet hi ng down, and out came my buddy, smi l i ng ear t o ear . He had got t en her phone number !

I asked hi m what he sai d, and he tol d me, "I j ust wal ked i n t her e, l ooked at her, and sai d, `Excuse me. I saw you t hr ough t he door way, and unl i ke t hese

gent l emen her e, I don' t have t i me f or smal l t al k. I ' d l i ke t o t ake you out . Can I have your home phone number ?'

Now, i t ' s not al ways necessar y t o be t hat di r ect . But i t i s necessar y t o gr asp and use t he at t i t ude my buddy had, t he super - at t i t ude whi ch wi l l get you l ai d mor e t han any l i ne, t r i ck, good l ooks, f ancy car or f or t une. The at t i t ude i s: I MAKE NO EXCUSES FOR MY DESI RES AS A MAN.

I MAKE NO EXCUSES FOR MYSELF.

I MOVE THROUGH THE WORLD WI THOUT APOLOGY.

Do you r eal l y want t o get l ai d wi t h al l t he women you coul d ever possi bl y want ? Then STOP MAKI NG EXCUSES FOR YOURSELF! Don' t make excuses f or want i ng t o l ook at

a beaut i f ul woman. I f you' r e caught l ooki ng, and she asks what you' r e doi ng, t el l her ! ! Tel l her you' r e enj oyi ng st udyi ng j ust what a per f ect l y beaut i f ul

body she has, and t o heck wi t h her i f she' s t oo upt i ght t o appr eci at e a r eal man who doesn' t apol ogi ze f or knowi ng what he want s!

St op maki ng excuses f or want i ng t o meet a woman! St op maki ng excuses f or want i ng t o ask a woman out , and most of al l st op maki ng excuses f or want i ng t o FUCK t he l i vi ng shi t out of a woman you want ! Thi s ki nd of di r ect , power f ul , go f or i t -at t i t ude i s an i ncr edi bl e t ur n on f or women t h-at can' t be be-at en!

Li st en! I t i sn' t even t he wor ds you use t hat convey thi s at t i t ude! I t ' s your t one of voi ce, your f aci al expr essi ons, your post ur e, t he speed at whi ch you speak, ever yt hi ng non- ver bal about you wi l l show t hi s at t i t ude f ar more t han wor ds.

Thi s doesn' t mean you have t o be ar r ogant , or l ack a sense of humor . You can be war m and f r i endl y at t he same t i me you ar e bei ng di r ect and powerf ul . The key i s

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f i ndi ng t he bal ance. Once you do you wi l l not be abl e t o keep women away f r om you.

Now, i t ' s easy to t al k and t el l you t hat you shoul d have t hi s att i t ude, but t hat won' t hel p you to act ual l y get i t . That ' s why t he next coupl e of chapt er s are so i mpor t ant . They wi l l show you how t o i nst al l t hi s at t i t ude i n your sel f so that you aut omat i cal l y f i nd your sel f l i vi ng by i t i n your appr oach t o women. You won' t even have t o t r y or t o "t hi nk about i t . " I t wi l l j ust happen.

Her e' s t he ot her at t i t ude/ bel i ef you' l l want t o mast er i f you r eal l y want t o be a success at sc or i ng wi t h women l i ke a madman.

I DON' T GET RATTL ED BY SETBACKS BECAUSE I LEARN FROM MY MI STAKES.

I r emember wat chi ng a TV show wher e t he host was i nt er vi ewi ng a movi e

st ar / kar at e champ who shal l go namel ess. The host asked hi m what t he secr et of hi s success was, and t he kar at e guy l ooked at hi m i n t hat wooden way of hi s and s ai d:

" When I f i r st st art ed out compet i ng i n Karat e Tour nament s, I wasn' t t hat good. I got beat a l ot , but I al ways l ear ned f r om my mi st akes. I nst ead of cr yi ng over my l osi ng, I j ust st udi ed what I woul d have t o do di f f er ent l y the next t i me, and whenever I met t he same guy agai n or a di f f erent guy i n t he same si t uat i on, I ALWAYS cr eamed ' em. "

Look - unl ess you ar e unusual l y l ucky, chances ar e you ar e goi ng t o make a f ew mi st akes as you pr act i ce t he i deas i n thi s book. And, as great as t hese tr i cks are, t hey won' t work ever y si ngl e t i me.

Unl ess you know how t o l ear n f r om your mi st akes and accept and occasi onal l oss, you wi l l get nowhere. The most successf ul guys I know at scor i ng al l have t wo gr eat st r engt hs: They have t he f i r st power at t i t ude we' ve j ust l ooked at , and t hey al so know how t o accept get t i ng rej ect ed wi t hout i t bot her i ng t hem and t hey l ear n f r om t hei r mi st akes.

Ok. As I pr omi sed, l et ' s get on t o t he next coupl e of chapt er s whi ch wi l l show you how t o act ual l y l i ve t hese at t i t udes i nst ead of j ust r eadi ng about t hem.

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Chapt er Two HOW TO I NSTALL

THE SUPER GET LAI D ATTI TUDES I N YOURSELF SO YOU USE THEM AUTOMATI CALLY

Ther e i s one smal l poi nt you have t o get bef or e you can use t hi s exer ci se. Take a mi nut e t o i magi ne your sel f r i di ng i n a r ol l er coast er . See your sel f si t t i ng i n t he f r ont car , r i di ng up and down.

Now, make anot her pi ct ur e of a r ol l er coast er , but t hi s t i me, do NOT see

your sel f i n t he pi ct ur e. See i t as i f you wer e act ual l y l ooki ng out of your own eyes, si t t i ng i n t he r ol l er coaster . Ri de f or a f ew moment s.

Now, whi ch one of t hose f el t more r eal i n your body? I ' l l bet anyt hi ng i t was t he second ki nd. An i mage or goal onl y appear s r eal t o your mi nd i f i t comes i n t he second f or m, as i f you were seei ng i t t hr ough your own eyes.

THE FAI LURE TO UNDERSTAND THI S SI MPLE DI FFERENCE BETWEEN THE TWO KI NDS OF MENTAL PI CTURES PEOPLE MAKE I S THE SI NGLE BI GGEST REASON WHY MOST PEOPLE

NEVER REACH THEI R GOALS.

You coul d i magi ne your sel f act i ng conf i dent and power f ul unt i l you ar e bl ue i n t he f ace, but unl ess you gi ve your mi nd some cues as t o when i t i s goi ng t o t ap i nt o t hose pi ct ur es you wi l l get NOWHERE. You wi l l never t ap i nt o al l t hose gr eat r esour ces you' ve been i magi ni ng.

For ease we are goi ng t o cal l t he f i r st ki nd of pi ct ur e, wher e you do see your sel f , pi ct ur e t ype 1, and t he second ki nd of pi ct ur e wher e you do not see your sel f , pi cture t ype 2.

Ok. Now t hat we have made t hat cl ear , l et ' s get on t o t he exerc i se. St ep One:

Recal l a t i me i n your past when you f el t conf i dent and powerf ul . A t i me wher e you f ul l y f el t t he way you' d l i ke t o f eel ar ound women. Thi s can be anywher e and about anyt hi ng - a gr eat gol f shot you made, or an "A" book r epor t you di d i n school .

St ep Two:

Cl ose your eyes, and see your sel f i n t he f i r st ki nd of pi ct ur e, goi ng t hr ough t hat exper i ence agai n.

St ep Thr ee:

Now, st ep i nt o t he pi ct ur e, and see t he event s as i f you wer e act ual l y l ooki ng out f r om your own eyes. See what you saw, hear what you hear d, and f eel how good i t f el t i n your body. When t hose f eel i ngs of conf i dence and power r each t hei r peak i n your body, r each over wi t h your r i ght hand, and gi ve your l ef t wr i st a squeeze. Run t hr ough t hi s t wi ce mor e, gi vi ng t he same squeeze i n t he same pl ace. Thi s wi l l t r ai n your mi nd t o r ecal l t hose f eel i ngs of power and conf i dence

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St ep Four :

Thi nk of a si t uat i on or ci r cumst ance wher e you woul d l i ke t o be mor e power f ul wi t h women or mor e poi sed or what ever i t i s you' d l i ke.

St ep Fi ve:

Pi ct ur e i t t he second way, as i f i t wer e goi ng on and you wer e seei ng i t t hr ough your own eyes.

St ep Si x:

As you do so, r each over wi t h your r i ght hand and squeeze your l ef t wr i st , t r i gger i ng your conf i dence anchor . Thi s wi l l t r ai n your mi nd t o aut omat i cal l y cal l up t he f eel i ngs of conf i dence and power when you are i n a si t uat i on l i ke t he one you ar e seei ng t hr ough your own eyes. You won' t even have t o t hi nk about doi ng i t , whi ch i s t he advant age. ( And t hat ' s why anchor i ng wor ks wher e

"posi t i ve t hi nki ng" won' t , because of t en by t he t i me you get your sel f t hi nki ng pos i t i vel y, i t ' s al r eady t oo l at e. )

Now, once you' ve done t hi s, I want you t o do i t agai n, but t hi s t i me I want you t o pi ck di f f er ent ci r cumst ances wher e you' d l i ke t o use your "power att i t ude" t hat we t al ked about i n t he f i r st chapt er . Make one a si t uat i on wher e you see a beaut i f ul woman you' d l i ke t o t al k t o. Anot her coul d be maki ng a pass at a woman back at your pl ace. Go through t he si t uat i on wi t h t he f i r st ki nd of pi ct ur e,

seei ng your sel f i n t he pi ct ur e. Then st ep i nt o t he pi ct ur e, and go t hr ough i t , f eel i ng what i t woul d f eel l i ke, l ooki ng t hr ough your own eyes. Do t he same

t hi ng f or t he second "l earni ng f r om your mi st akes" att i t ude. See your sel f maki ng a mi st ake, f eel i ng ok about i t , and l ear ni ng what ever l esson you need so you can do i t di f f er ent l y next t i me. Then st ep i nt o t he pi ct ur e and see i t t hr ough your own eyes.

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Chapt er Thr ee BELI EVE I T OR NOT,

HOW TO HAVE EVEN MORE CONFI DENCE WI TH WOMEN

A gr eat deal of success and power wi t h women has not hi ng t o do wi t h how you act and f eel about t hem, but a l ot t o do wi t h how you act and f eel about your sel f . What we' r e r eal l y t al ki ng about her e i s SELF- RESPECT.

Pl ent y of men who woul dn' t t ake a bi t of cr ap f r om anot her guy t ur n i nt o down r i ght spi nel ess wi mps when i t comes t o women. Whet her t hey ar e r el i vi ng ol d dr amas wi t h a mommy t hey coul dn' t pl ease as chi l dr en, or ar e scar ed f or some ot her r eason, t hey put t he woman f i r st .

Ot her guys have a sl i ght l y di f f er ent pr obl em. They may not t ake any cr ap f r om a woman, but get t i ng l ai d i s SO damn i mport ant t o t hem t hat t hey l ose si ght of ot her pr i or i t i es. I n a sense i n l oses al l t he f un aspect s, and get s t o be a compul si on.

Guys l i ke t hi s may wi n t he bat t l es, but t hey ar e def i ni t el y l osi ng t he war . Women may be ni ce addi t i ons t o your l i f e, and i f you f i nd t he r i ght one, you mi ght even chose t o make her part of t he cent er of your s. But a l i f e spent doi ng not hi ng but chasi ng women i s a pr et t y st upi d one.

I f t hat i s your pr obl em, t hen pul l your sel f up shor t f or a mi nut e, and ask your sel f i f you mi ght be mi ssi ng some of t he ot her pl easur es l i f e has t o of f er . You mi ght be shocked t o l ear n t hat a qui et eveni ng at home wi t h a good book can

act ual l y be mor e st i mul at i ng t han a bor i ng dat e wi t h a huge br east ed bi mbo wi t h a r oom t emper at ur e I . Q.

So her e' s a hi nt f or i ncr easi ng your conf i dence wi t h women: STOP NEEDI NG THEM SO MUCH! And a good way t o do t hat i s goi ng out and f i ndi ng a hobby t hat you can r eal l y enj oy. Somet hi ng t hat get s you AWAY f r om women.

Not onl y wi l l t hi s i ncr ease your conf i dence as you are on t he pr owl , i t pr ovi des a gr eat escape f or when t hat speci al l ady you are wi t h put s a bi t of st r ess and st r ai n on your br ai n, as t hey so of t en wi l l .

Per sonal l y, I pref er Bi g Mout h Bass Fi shi ng. Most women hat e even t he t hought of some i cky, sl i my f i sh f l oppi ng al l over t hem, and woul dn' t even consi der aski ng t o go al ong wi t h you. And besi des, I enj oy cat chi ng somet hi ng wi t h a bi g mout h, and bei ng abl e t o i nst ant l y thr ow i t away i f I f eel l i ke i t . Women ar e not so easy.

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Chapt er Four

STI LL MORE CONFI DENCE AND POWER WI TH WOMEN!

Here i s a magi c wor d t hat wi l l br i ng you l oads of success wi t h women, and get you l ai d l i ke cr azy. I t works wi t h al l women, but t he more beaut i f ul t he woman, t he bet t er i t works. The word i s: NO!

That ' s r i ght . No! The same wor d t hat wi l l keep a puppy f r om wet t i ng t he car pet wi l l al so keep a woman f r om shi t t i ng on you!

You must say no t o a woman once i n a whi l e, when i t i s over an i ss ue of i mpor t ance, and when you mean i t .

No mat t er how gor geous, or gr eat i n t he sack or how ot her wi se wonder f ul she may be ( and who el se but such a goddess coul d possi bl y begi n t o deser ve t o be i n YOUR company?) you must be wi l l i ng t o wal k away f r om her i f you can' t deal wi t h

her f r o m a pos i t i on of s el f - r e spec t .

And sel f - r espect , my f r i end, i s mostl y a mat t er of what you say no t o. I t ' s a boundary set by what i s not permi t t ed, t ol er at ed or al l owed. And whi l e i t may be negat i ve f r om t hi s semant i c sense, i n r eal i t y i t i s t he most power and posi t i ve f or ce you have goi ng f or you. When a woman senses i t i n you, she knows s he' s f ound somet hi ng she' s i nst i nct i vel y want ed si nce she r eal i zed she' s f emal e: A MAN SHE COULD NEVER HOPE TO CONTROL.

I know t hi s i sn' t easy. I t hur t s, r eal l y hur t s t o have t o wal k away f r om someone you r eal l y di g because she i sn' t t r eat i ng you r i ght . But l ove can of t en be l i ke a st r eet f i ght , and r emember t he st r eet f i ght er ' s number one r ul e: I gnore t he pai n and car r y out your of f ensi ve wi t h ever ythi ng you' ve got . I f you can pul l t hi s of f , you wi l l wal k wi t h a conf i dence and power t hat women of al l ages wi l l be abl e t o sense. And mor e i mpor t ant l y, you' l l l i ke t he guy who l i ves i nsi de your ski n.

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Chapt er Fi ve

YET MORE CONFI DENCE AND POWER WI TH WOMEN

Geor ge S. Pat t on J r . , t he hel l - f or - l eat her Gener al of Wor l d War I I f ame was once asked what he t hought of hi s r i val , t he Br i t i sh Fi el d Mar shal l Mont gomer y.

Pat t on r epl i ed, "He' s t he best Gener al t he Br i t i sh have. But he' s more

i nt er est ed i n not l osi ng t han he i s i n wi nni ng. Unf ort unat el y f or many men,

t hat ' s t hei r at t i t ude t oward women. They wal k on egg- shel l s, caut i ous as can be, hopi ng agai nst hope t hat t hey don' t make a mi st ake.

I f you want t o have DYNAMI C power wi t h women, begi n t o f ocus on what you want , and what you ar e goi ng t o do, not on what you mi ght l ose or what ' s goi ng t o happen t o you i f you don' t wi n. Of cour se, gi ve t he ri sks a gl ance. But don' t f ocus on t hem.

Focus on what you desi r e. What wi l l i t be l i ke when you' r e wi t h t hat woman you want ? What wi l l you see? What wi l l you hear ? What wi l l you f eel i n your body? These ar e t he ki nds of quest i ons t hat wi l l get you exci t ed about and ai med at

wi nni ng, i nst ead of cr i ngi ng at l osi ng. Even i f you know you have some

compet i t i on you' l l be abl e t o gi ve i t your best shot , because your maj or f ocus wi l l be on your out come.

I n s hor t :

GLANCE AT WHAT YOU MI GHT HAVE TO LOSE, BUT FOCUS ON WHAT YOU WANT TO WI N.

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Chapt er Si x

HOW TO FAKE LI KE YOU ARE WARM AND FRI ENDLY

When I was i n col l ege, and st r uggl i ng j ust t o get a dat e, l et al one get l ai d r i ght and l ef t , I knew one guy who ALWAYS had gr eat l ooki ng women ar ound hi m. He seemed t o know pr act i cal l y ever y gi r l on campus, and t hey' d al ways come up t o hi m and gi ve hi m hugs and ki sses. No, he was not a coke deal er or a pi mp. Of al l t hi ngs, he was an evangel i st .

Now, I ' m cer t ai nl y not advocat i ng J esus Fr eaker y as t he way t o get your weeni e wet . But you mi ght t ake a f ew l essons f r om t hi s guy, Chr i s. I ' d wat ch hi m go t o wor k on women who wer e absol ut e st r anger s and wi t hi n a f ew mi nut es, t hey' d be l aughi ng and punchi ng hi m pl ayf ul l y, somet i mes gi vi ng hi m hugs. I f i t wer en' t f or t he Lor d, Chr i s woul d have been t he bi g st ud on campus.

And what was hi s s ecr et , a secr et I hope YOU use t o l aunch you on t he way t o get t i ng l ai d l i ke a bandi t ? Hi s af f i ni t y and war mt h made women f eel ADORED. He di dn' t come on al l hot and heavy, l i ke a hungr y wol f on t he pr owl . He came on wi t h al l t he f r i endl i ness and f un at hi s di sposal - as i f t hese st r ange women wer e l ong l ost f r i ends t hat he dear l y l oved.

And t hey bought i t ! Even t he chi cki est woman, who i s ver y upt i ght about bei ng a sex obj ect , want s t o f eel l oved and speci al . And j ust by t he warmt h i n t he t one of hi s voi ce and hi s smi l e he made t hese gi r l s f eel as i f t hey WERE l ong l ost f r i ends .

Look at i t t hi s way: Even t he nast i est per son f i nds i t har d t o r eact f ear f ul l y or angr i l y t o someone who makes t hem f eel l oved and appr eci at ed.

I suggest you make t hi s AS I F pr i nci pl e part of your bag of t r i cks. The next t i me you appr oach a woman who i s maki ng you bur st out of your pant s wi t h l ust , t r y put t i ng asi de t he l ust and t ur ni ng on t he warmt h.

Conveyi ng warmt h and af f i ni t y i sn' t so t ough - j ust t hi nk of how you l ook and sound when you see a ni ece or nephew, or even a pet t hat del i ght s you. No, I am not suggest i ng baby t al k as a way of scori ng babes. I ' m t r yi ng t o gi ve you an exampl e of wher e i t ' s nat ur al f or you t o behave t he way I ' d l i ke you t o t r y behavi ng wi t h women.

The i mpor t ant pr i nci pl e t o appl y her e i s t hat THE MEANI NG OF YOUR COMMUNI CATI ON I S THE RESPONSE I T GETS. I f you use a t one of voi ce or a f aci al expr essi on t hat makes women f ear f ul or suspi ci ous, t hen no mat t er how cl ever your wor ds ar e, t he message you convey t o her i s t hat she shoul d be af r ai d and suspi ci ous of you. I f voi ce t one and physi ol ogy ( and agai n I don' t mean your appear ance per s e, but r at her your post ur e and f aci al expr essi ons) are so cr uci al i n how women r eact t o you, t hen what i s t he key t o pr oduci ng voi ce t one and physi ol ogy? Your bel i ef and expect at i on about your out come.

I f you bel i eve you are goi ng t o get r ej ect ed t hen you are ei t her goi ng t o convey f ear, and make her f earf ul or el se you are goi ng t o t r y t o beat her t o t he punch and act so obnoxi ous t hat she r ej ect s you r i ght of f , so you don' t have t o wai t t oo l ong i n suspense f or your negat i ve pr edi ct i on t o come t r ue. You j ust want t o get i t over wi t h qui ckl y so you act ual l y pr oduce t he humi l i at i on t hat you

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By cont r ast , i f you act as i f you t r ul y wer e someone who ever yone l i ked and r ecei ved war ml y, t hen t hat war mt h i s what your t one and physi ol ogy wi l l convey, and t hat ' s t he response you wi l l get , ni ne ti mes out of t en. I ' m not sayi ng you' l l get l ai d wi t h ever yone you appr oach, but sel dom wi l l you have a nast y exper i ence ei t her . And any woman who doesn' t r espond posi t i vel y t o war mt h and af f i ni t y i s ser i ousl y si ck and shoul d be avoi ded at al l cost s anyway.

PRACTI CE EXERCI SE: OK, I know t hi s one i s goi ng t o SEEM a l i t t l e si l l y, but i t ' s goi ng t o hel p you get l ai d l i ke CRAZY, so j ust do i t !

St ep One:

Remember t he wor ds t o t he pl edge of al l egi ance. I n case you don' t her e t hey ar e: ( You may st and and put your hand over your hear t i f you so choose. )

I pl edge al l egi ance t o the f l ag of t he Uni t ed St at es of Amer i ca, and t o the Republ i c f or whi ch i t st ands, one nat i on, under God, i ndi vi si bl e, wi t h l i ber t y and j us t i ce f or al l .

St ep Two:

Pract i ce, out l oud, sayi ng t hese words wi t h al l t he warmt h and f r i endl i ness you can must er .

St ep Thr ee:

Pr act i ce sayi ng t hem out l oud as i f you t hought t hey wer e the f unni est t hi ng i n t he wor l d and you mi ght cr ack up l aughi ng at any moment .

OK, so you f eel a bi t si l l y pr act i ci ng ( and i f someone shoul d cat ch you t hey may t hi nk you' ve j oi ned t he J ohn Bi r ch Soci et y) and i t seems wei r d. But j ust

r emember

-I T -I SN' T SO MUCH WHAT YOU SAY TO A WOMAN, BUT YOUR TONE OF VOI CE WHEN YOU SAY I T! ! ! !

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Chapt er Seven

GETTI NG HER ATTENTI ON

THE KEY TO PI CK- UPS WHEREVER YOU ARE

I have a br ot her who' s i n adver t i si ng - more speci f i cal l y he wr i t es newspaper and magazi ne ad copy. I once wat ched hi m at wor k, and he sat f or about t hr ee hour s and t hen wr ot e one sent ence! One sent ence!

I asked hi m why he t ook so l ong on one sent ence and hi s answer st uck wi t h me: I t ' s t hat f i r st sent ence t hat det er mi nes whet her t hey even read the r est of t he ad!

Look at meet i ng women l i ke an ad man who' s wr i t i ng copy f or a newspaper ad. Maybe one out of a hundr ed r eader s i s act i vel y l ooki ng f or t he pr oduct you ar e t r yi ng t o sel l , and t hey wi l l r ead your whol e ad no mat t er what t he headl i ne says.

The r est of t he r eader s coul d car e l ess . They ar e busy f l i ppi ng pages, t r yi ng t o get t o t he comi cs sect i on or t he sport s page. They wi l l onl y st op i f somet hi ng gr abs t hei r at t ent i on.

So i t i s wi t h t he aver age chi ck. I n a f ew l ucky si t uat i ons, your l ooks al one wi l l snag her . But t he rest of t he t i me you won' t have much chance of sel l i ng your pr oduct unl ess you gr ab her at t ent i on and gr ab i t f ast . ( I know, you want t o gr ab somet hi ng el se, but t hat comes l at er . Ani mal . )

Bel ow are some of t he best ways t o gr ab a gi r l ' s at t ent i on. Keep t hem i n mi nd as you r ead t he next f ew chapt ers .

Humor

Appeal i ng to her cur i osi t y

Put t i ng an unusual or unexpect ed t wi st on an ol d, cl i che pi ck- up Rol e pl ayi ng

Faki ng l i ke you al r eady know her Appeal i ng t o her ego

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Chapt er Ei ght

HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN YOU' VE J UST MET

FEEL LI KE SHE' S MET THE MAN OF HER DREAMS

The next st ep af t er you' ve got her at t ent i on i s t o i nt r oduce your sel f and get her name. I hope you ar e smar t enough t o do t hat wi t hout my advi ce.

Then you' ve got t o cr eat e t he i l l usi on of r appor t . For t hose of you who don' t know what r apport means, t he di ct i onar y def i nes i t as: "Accor d, af f i ni t y, r el at i ons mar ked by har mony. "

The t echni ques you use t o cr eat e r appor t wi l l var y accor di ng t o t he t ype of pi ck- up you ar e usi ng. Of cour se, we' ve al r eady gone over t he pr oper way t o use your t one of voi ce.

Her e ar e t wo ot her ver y sneaky and power f ul ways t o cr eat e r appor t wi t h a woman. You shoul d use t hem when you' r e act ual l y on a dat e as wel l as when you f i r st

meet a woman. They t ake some pr act i ce t o mast er , but wor k qui t e wel l . MI RRORI NG

Ther e once was a ver y power f ul and successf ul hypnot i st by t he name of Mi l t on Er i ckson. When you ar e t hr ough wi t h t hi s book you may wel l want t o bui l d a shr i ne t o Er i ckson, because t hi s man i s goi ng t o hel p get you l ai d more t han havi ng a mi l l i on dol l ars cash and a body l i ke Scharwt znegger .

Er i ckson coul d hypnot i ze anyone, even t he most r esi st ant pat i ent or cl i ent . One of t he ways he di d t hi s was by mi r r or i ng t he br eat hi ng of t he pers on he was hypnot i zi ng.

Now, I ' m goi ng t o pause f or a mi nut e so you can go t hr ough your " Bul l shi t "

r eact i on. But mi r r or i ng someone' s br eat hi ng i s a ver y power f ul way t o make t hem unconsci ousl y f eel i n t une wi t h you. Er i ckson woul d wat ch t he r at e of hi s

cl i ent ' s breat hi ng and t hen begi n t o mat ch i t wi t h hi s own br eathi ng, or wi t h t he pace of hi s speaki ng. Or he' d t ap hi s chest wi t h hi s hand i n t i me t o t he per sons breat hi ng, and t hen begi n t o gr adual l y sl ow t he t appi ng. The per son' s br eat hi ng woul d sl ow i n t i me t o t he t appi ng!

Mi r r or i ng wor ks because your unconsci ous pi cks up and i s awar e of t hi ngs your consci ous mi nd has no knowl edge of . To convi nce your sel f t hat t hi s i s so, t r y t hi s exper i ment :

Get a f r i end of your s and have t hem cl ose t hei r eyes. Ask t hem t o keep t hei r eyes cl osed, and guess what you ar e doi ng.

St and i n f r ont of t hem, and begi n speaki ng. As you do so, sway your head f r om si de t o si de.

Ask t hem what you ar e doi ng.

Of cour se, t hey wi l l be abl e t o t el l you you ar e movi ng your head back and f ort h. Now, ask t hem how t hey knew t hey' l l t el l you t hey coul d hear t he di f f erence i n how you sounded.

Now, t r y i t agai n, but t hi s t i me ask t hem t o keep t hei r eyes open. Ask i f t hey can hear t he di f f er ence now, and of cour se t hey can' t ? Act ual l y, t hey CAN hear t he di f f er ence, because t hey st i l l have t he same pai r of ear s - t hey j ust ar en' t CONSCI OUSLY awar e of i t . But unconsci ousl y, you bet t hey ar e!

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I n t he same way, i f you mi r r or a chi ck' s br eat hi ng, or her t one of voi ce, or r at e of speaki ng, or even a par t i cul ar gest ur e she uses, on a consci ous l evel she won' t not i ce. I f she does not i ce on a consci ous l evel , t hen you are bei ng t oo obvi ous and she' s ei t her goi ng t o t hi nk you ar e a wei r do or ar e maki ng f un of her , and nei t her of t hese wi l l scor e you poi nt s.

But i f you do i t subt l y, t hen al l she wi l l know i s t hat f or some odd r eason she sur e seems t o f eel r i ght down comf ort abl e wi t h you, ol d buddy, as i f she' s l oved you f or year s!

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Chapt er Ni ne

SOME GREAT METHODS AND GREAT PLACES TO PI CK UP MORE WOMEN

THAN YOU AND A FRI END

COULD POSSI BLY HOPE TO HANDLE

I NCLUDI NG THE ONLY TWO PI CK- UP LI NES I N THE WORLD THAT WORK SO WEL L

THAT THEY CAN GET YOU LAI D AUTOMATI CALLY ECOLOGY WARNI NG! ! ! ! ! ! !

You ar e about t o l ear n some ver y ef f ect i ve met hods f or meet i ng women. Whi l e al l of t hem are ef f ect i ve, some of t hem mi ght not be r i ght f or you t o use i n an over al l sense. I f , f or exampl e, you need t o work on bei ng more di r ect , t hen usi ng some of t he t r i cki er met hods t hat r el y on get t i ng a woman' s at t ent i on vi a some ki nd of pl oy mi ght hur t you i n t he l ong r un. Use your own best j udgment and t r y to t hi nk l ong t er m.

Si ngl es Bar s

Even t hough I don' t par t i cul ar l y car e f or si ngl es bar s, I guess I am obl i gat ed t o t el l you some ways t o wor k t hem. Her e ar e some t hi ngs t o keep i n mi nd i f you want t o use si ngl es bar s t o pi ck up women:

Women i n si ngl es bar s ar e sor t of l i ke mot or cycl e cops. Mot or cycl e cops have hear d ever y st or y i n t he book f r om peopl e t r yi ng t o tal k t hem out of t i cket s. Women i n si ngl es bar s have hear d ever y st or y and l i ne ( i f t hey ar e hal f way decent l ooki ng, t hat i s, and i f not , who car es?) t r yi ng t o t al k them out of t hei r pant i es .

Si nce you ar e r unni ng agai nst t he odds, you ar e goi ng t o have t o go t hr ough some number s bef or e you get a pi ck- up. Unl ess you ar e a movi e st ar or l ook l i ke a Gr eek God, f i gur e about 10 "no' s" ( woul d you bel i eve, "f uck of f ") f or ever y yes, i f you ar e l ucky. So pi ck an appr oach you enj oy doi ng, si nce you are goi ng t o have to use i t a l ot . Per sonal l y, I pr ef er a f unny appr oach, because I l i ke get t i ng a l augh, enj oy a woman wi t h a sense of humor , and gener al l y have f un wi t h t hi s angl e of at t ack.

Si nce most bar s ar e so l oud, what wi t h hundr eds of peopl e t al ki ng at once, and mor e of t en t han not , musi c bl ast i ng as wel l , BRI NG A PEN AND SMALL NOTE PAD! ! ! Thi s wi l l save your voi ce and al l ow you t o communi cat e!

Keep movi ng, and don' t l et a l ess t han opt i mum r esponse st op you. Thi s i s a number s game, and i f a part i cul ar gi r l i sn' t gi vi ng you t he r esponse you l i ke, cut bai t and move on t o gr eener past ur es.

OK. Her e i s my f avori t e si ngl es bar met hod. I t i nvol ves usi ng a not e pad and pen. What I do i s pi ck out a gi r l t hat i nt er est s me, scri bbl e t hi s not e, and hand i t t o her :

"Hi , " I ' m t aki ng a sur vey on bad l i nes. Ci r cl e whi ch one you t hi nk i s t he wor st . " 1. `Come her e of t en, sugar pant s?'

" 2. `Hey, baby. Can we go out i n t he col d and hug?' "3. `Hi . I ' m t aki ng a sur vey on bad l i nes. ' "

Thi s al most al ways get s a l augh. When i t doesn' t , I j ust wal k away, because i f t he chi ck can' t t ake a j oke, t hen t o heck wi t h her . But , as I sai d, t hi s i s a

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f un, enj oyabl e appr oach f or me, i t ' s uni que and di f f er ent , and i t ' s a good opener.

Ther e ar e l ot s of var i at i ons on t he basi c not e pad and pen appr oach. You coul d pr et end you ar e wr i t i ng a book f or men and want t o sur vey women on t he best ways t o meet t hem i n bars . But t hi s appr oach mi ght arouse some suspi ci on, and I ki nd of t hi nk i t ' s mor e common t han you' d bel i eve.

Happy Hour s

Your l ocal r est aur ant or bar ' s happy hour i s a gr eat pl ace t o meet women. They go t here t o r el ax and unwi nd af t er wor k, and t hat means al cohol consumpt i on, and pl ent y of i t . So, you al r eady have one st r i ke i n your f avor , because t hei r

i nhi bi t i ons ar e goi ng t o be a l ot l ess t han nor mal .

The " t aki ng a sur vey met hod" wor ks bet t er i n t hi s set t i ng t han i n a si ngl es bar , as women ar e, as I sai d, l ess suspi ci ous. You' r e pr obabl y bet t er of f sayi ng t hat you ar e wr i t i ng a book f or men and you ar e wor ki ng on a chapt er on bad l i nes. Ask t he women you meet t o t el l you t he wor st pi ck- up l i nes t hey' ve ever hear d. They' l l be mor e t han happy t o t el l you- one of t he t hi ngs women do most when

t hey get t oget her f or dri nks i s t o chi ck about men, so you' l l pr obabl y be r i ght on subj ect ! Thi s i s a f un appr oach, t hat adds some humor t o t he st al e "best ways t o meet women sur vey" appr oach. You' l l meet l ot s of women, and some of t hem ar e bound t o go f or you, out of sheer number s al one. Who knows, you mi ght f i nd out t hat some of your f avori t e l i nes ar e act ual l y t he ones women t hi nk of as bei ng t he wor st ! That al one woul d make i t wor t h your whi l e!

Wai t r esses

One of t he t hi ngs I not i ced when I was f i r st t r yi ng out si ngl es bars and happy hour st r at egi es was t hat t he wai t r esses were al most al ways bet t er l ooki ng t han any of t he f emal e cust omer s! Take a good l ook next t i me you go t o t hese pl aces and you wi l l see t hat I am r i ght .

I l ove pi cki ng up wai t r esses. Ther e i s f ar l ess pr essur e, t hey have t o tal k t o you, and you can t ake your t i me. Unl i ke a gi r l you meet i n a bar , who you wi l l mor e t han l i kel y never see agai n unl ess you get a dat e, you can pr et t y much know wher e and when t he wai t r ess of your dr eams wi l l be.

I shoul d poi nt out t hat wi t h wai t r esses, as wel l as sal es cl er ks, and ot her " wor ki ng women" you have t o deci de on a one st ep or t wo st ep appr oach. By t hat , I mean t hat i f t hi ngs seem t o be goi ng r eal l y good on your f i r st meet i ng, you can ask her out r i ght on t he spot . I f not , you can t r y t o bui l d more r apport on l at er vi si t s, bef or e you hi t her f or t he dat e or phone number .

Wai t r ess Bai t

As wi t h any pi ck- up, key f i r st st ep i s t o get your t ar get s att ent i on. Her e ar e t hr ee good ways t o do t hat :

1. The cl ever l i ne appr oach. Here' s a l i ne t hat I ' ve used t i me and agai n. God must have whi sper ed i t i n my ear, t he f i r st t i me I used i t . I t works when you ar e i n a si ngl es bar or other bar or r est aur ant t hat has l ot s of f emal e

cust omer s, and your t ar get i s busy ser vi ng dr i nks. J ust l ook at her and say, " I j ust want ed you t o know t hat ni net y- ni ne per cent of t he women who wal k i n t hat door woul d ki l l t hei r own mot hers t o l ook hal f as good as you do. "

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Thi s i s pr obabl y t he most ef f ect i ve l i ne you wi l l ever use. I t ' s one t hi ng f or a beaut i f ul woman t o hear t hat a man t hi nks she' s good l ooki ng, but i t i sn' t

r eal l y t hat bi g a deal t o her . Af t er al l , she al r eady knows i t i s t r ue, and may even be t i r ed of hear i ng i t .

But , women bei ng such cat - l i ke cr eat ures, not hi ng pl eases t hem mor e t han t o know t hat t hey ar e SO beaut i f ul t hat ot her women hat e t hem f or i t and are i nsanel y j eal ous! Even t he most j aded, har d- ass ed woman woul d l ove t o bel i eve t hi s i s

t r u e !

2. The di r ect appr oach. Her e, you ar e di r ect , but you al so acknowl edge t he r eal i t y t hat you are a st r anger t o her , and t hat you r espect her need t o earn her l i vi ng wi t hout bei ng har assed by pi ck- up art i st s. Wal k up to her and say, " I don' t mean t o i nt er r upt you whi l e you are worki ng, but I j ust want ed you t o know t hat I t hi nk you' r e one of t he most at t r act i ve women I ' ve ever s een, and I ' m r eal l y gl ad I worked up t he cour age t o i nt r oduce mysel f t o you. "

Tel l her your name, ask her her s, and t hen l et her get back t o wor k. Chances ar e, she' l l be so i mpr essed, she' l l come over t o t al k to you. Thi s l i ne i s ver y f l at t er i ng, and what r eal l y makes i t wor k i s t he l ast bi t about "wor ki ng up t he cour age t o meet you. " I t i mpl i es t hat she' s so beaut i f ul t hat you j ust had t o over come al l t hat shyness j ust so you coul d get a chance t o meet her . Women eat t hi s l i ne l i ke candy and i t wi l l get you l ai d by wai t r esses, sal esgi r l s and t he l i ke wi t h st ar t l i ng f r equency.

3. The di r t y, sneaky, f ake l i ke you ar e i n show bi z appr oach. Her e i n L. A. , 99. 999% of t he bet t er l ooki ng wai t r esses are aspi r i ng act r esses, wai t i ng f or t hat bi g br eak. Some of t hese women ar e so gor geous t hey woul d make you dr ool i n your pant s, and t hey ar e r i pe f or someone who t hey t hi nk can hel p t hem al ong i n t hei r car eer . Now, keepi ng i n mi nd t he ecol ogy warni ng at t he begi nni ng of t hi s chapt er, l et me t el l you how I st umbl ed on t o t hi s scam and how i t can hel p you t o sl eep wi t h t he most beaut i f ul women ar ound.

At t he t i me I st umbl ed on t hi s appr oach, I had a r oommat e who wor ked f or a smal l aer ospace r esear ch company. They had j ust moved i nt o a sui t e of of f i ces t hat pr evi ousl y had been occupi ed by a t al ent agency. Openi ng a cl oset one day, t hey di scover ed a f ew hundr ed pi ct ur es of ver y good l ooki ng act r esses who were

appl yi ng f or a rol e i n a f i l m.

My r oommat e br ought about a hundr ed of t hem home, and as I was goi ng t hr ough t hem, sl obber i ng al l over mysel f , i t suddenl y occur r ed to me t hat :

Most of t hese gi r l s wer e pr obabl y worki ng as wai t r esses t o support t hemsel ves. What bet t er way t o get f avorabl e at t ent i on f r om some cut i e pi e wai t r ess t han t o wal k i nt o a bar or r est aur ant wi t h t hese and j ust st art goi ng t hr ough t hem. So, t hat ' s what I di d. And sur e enough, bef or e l ong, a ver y gor geous young f ood and dr i nk ser vi ce t echni ci an ( bur eaucr at ese f or wai t r ess) came by t o see what I was doi ng. I t ol d her t hat my si st er r an a company t hat makes movi es f or TV ( whi ch happens t o be t he t r ut h, but don' t wor r y i f you don' t have a si st er t hat does t hat , you can t al k about my si st er i f you f eel gui l t y) and t hat she want ed me t o go t hr ough t hese pi ct ur es and sel ect t he ones I t hought wer e t he most

at t r act i ve. Nat ur al l y, t hi s sweet i e pi e was an aspi r i ng f ut ur e Oscar wi nner , and asked i f she coul d get a r esume t o me. I sai d i t woul d have t o be f ast , as my si st er want ed t o know by t omor r ow. Of cour se, she i nvi t ed me t o come back t o her pl ace af t er wor k to get t he pi ct ur e, and wel l , we had a f ew dr i nks and. . . .

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The key t o t hi s met hod i s not t o make i t seem l i ke you ar e bl ackmai l i ng her . Tel l her you woul d be happy t o submi t her pi ct ur e and r esume t o t he r i ght

pers on. Af t er you have agreed t o t hat , THEN ask her out . The t hreat of you not doi ng i t i f she doesn' t accept hasn' t been made, and ni ce guy t hat you ar e, you woul dn' t even t hi nk of i mpl yi ng i t . But she mi ght be af r ai d of l osi ng your good wi l l , and so wi l l accept . Tr y t o get her t o go out wi t h you on t he spot .

Now, some of you may be wonderi ng, " Wel l , i t sounds gr eat . But what i f I don' t have a r oommat e who happens t o wor k f or an aer ospace r esear ch company t hat happens t o be i n t he same of f i ce t hat used t o be used by a t al ent agency?" Good quest i on. What you do i s put a si mpl e ad i n your l ocal paper al ong t hese l i nes:

" Model s want ed! Al l expenses pai d, pl us $500. 00 phot o shoot i n Tahi t i ! Send 8 x 10 t o: Your Name Pr oduct i ons, Your Addr ess. "

That shoul d get you some ni ce r esponses. St r eet and Super mar ket Pi ckups

One of t he t oughest pl aces t o pi ck- up women i s r i ght on t he st r eet , and t hat ' s why I l ove i t ; i t ' s a r e al c hal l enge.

Of cour se, one of t he easy ways out i s t he ol d " t aki ng a sur vey" met hod, but t hat i sn' t near l y as much f un as usi ng l i nes.

The absol ut e key t o st r eet pi ckups i s t o be ver y upbeat , happy, war m and f r i endl y. Do NOT come on heavy on t he st r eet . Women ar e nat ur al l y ( and j ust l y) caut i ous i n t he bi g ci t y.

Her e' s a gr eat st r eet pi ck- up f or you t hat wi l l al so wor k i n a super market . I cal l i t t he compl i ment st r i ng.

Pi ck out your t arget , t hen wal k al ongsi de her . Fi nd one t hi ng about her you can genui nel y compl i ment , t hen say:

" I l i ke your hat . "

She' l l say "Thank you. "

Then say, " I l i ke your wat ch. " She' l l say "Thank you. "

Then what you do i s pause, sor t of l ook at her si deways f or a moment , and say wi t h as much char m and good humor as you can:

"Come t o t hi nk of i t , I l i ke ever yt hi ng. "

Ni ne t i mes out of t en t hat wi l l get a bi g l augh. I f she doesn' t l augh, she' s a ver y upt i ght chi ck and you' d j ust get r ej ect ed i f you st r ai ght asked her out anyway.

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" My name' s _ __ _ __ __ . By what name ar e you cal l ed, you shi ni ng exampl e of genet i c per f ecti on?"

( I know t hat sounds cor ny but i t wi l l get a bi g l augh. Tr ust me. ) Once she t el l s you, you say,

" You know, I can t el l you' r e woman wi t h f ant ast i c good t ast e. And you know how I know t hat ?"

She' l l ask how.

" Because you l augh at al l of my j okes. "

She' l l l augh agai n. Then you hi t her wi t h anot her l augh l i ne.

"Do you bel i eve i n i r r at i onal and sel f - def eat i ng i nf at uat i on at f i r st si ght ?" She' l l l augh agai n. I f she says yes, t hen you shoul d j oki ngl y l ook heavenward and say,

" Thank you, God. Woul d you l i ke t o get a cup of cof f ee?" I f she says no ( t o t he i nf at uat i on quest i on, not your cof f ee i nvi t at i on) , you say,

"Gr eat . Then I ' m not bei ng i r r at i onal i f I ask you t o have a cup of cof f ee ( or some f r ozen yogur t , or what ever i s near by and conveni ent ) .

What ever t he response, you want t o t r y t o i nvi t e her t o do somet hi ng wi t h you, i n a publ i c pl ace, r i ght t hen and t her e.

I f she says she' d l i ke t o, but i s i n a hur r y t o get somewher e, ask her out f or t hat eveni ng, i f i t i s at al l f easi bl e. Say somet hi ng l i ke "I ' d be ver y

f l at t er ed i f you' d have di nner wi t h me t oni ght . " Be di r ect , but char mi ng at t he same t i me, and don' t back down! Your ver y di r ect ness i s par t of what makes you appeal i ng, and when you combi ne i t wi t h char m, a smi l e, and t he abi l i t y t o make her l augh, you ar e real l y goi ng to hi t her har d. And that bi t about bei ng

"f l at t er ed. " Wel l , f or some r eason I can' t f i gur e, t hat wor ks ver y wel l . Make sur e you add t hat i n. I t ' s l i ke you' r e sayi ng t hat t he ni cest compl i ment about your sel f woul d be t o be seen i n publ i c wi t h her .

Thi s appr oach wi l l al so wor k wel l i n a super mar ket . I t ' s uni que, di f f er ent , f unny, di r ect , and f un and r omant i c f or you and her . I di scover ed anot her gr eat super mar ket pi ck- up tot al l y by acci dent . I was suf f er i ng thr ough anot her at t ack of hay- f ever dur i ng al l er gy season, so I went t o the l ocal Osco dr ug st or e t o get somet hi ng f or i t . As I was wal ki ng al ong I spi ed an i ncr edi bl e honey weari ng ver y t i ght j eans and an equal l y t i ght T- shi r t . As I wal ked by her , I had t o

sneeze, but t he sneeze woul dn' t come out , so I paused r i ght next t o her as I st r uggl ed t o sneeze. I not i ced her l ooki ng at me, and i nst ant l y my magni f i cent l y sl eazy br ai n phoni ed up a scam.

Wi t h one f i nger up t o my nose, as i f I wer e about t o sneeze, I sai d t o her , " Do me a f avor . Pound me r eal l y har d on t he back. "

She sai d, " Ar e you sur e?" I s ai d, " Yes . "

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She gave me a good sl ap, and I sai d, "Wel l , i t di dn' t hel p the sneeze, but I t hi nk I j ust f el l i n l ove. What ' s your name?"

Then I hi t her wi t h t he ot her l i nes you' ve al r eady seen. Unf or t unat el y, she was mar r i ed. Oh wel l . But I ' ve used t he l i ne on ot her occasi ons wi t h success. I t ' s a number s game, good buddy, a number s game. But you' l l f i nd t hi s " sneeze" l i ne wor ks wel l i n j ust about any publ i c " non- pi ck- up" set t i ng, such as t he beach, par ks, et c. Tr y i t , and you' l l see i t ' s nothi ng t o sneeze at . Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. That ' s what ' s cal l ed an aut hor ' s r i ght t o abuse hi s r eader s.

How To As k A Woman Out

When You' r e Bot h I n Fr ont Of Ot her Peopl e

Once I was i n bar ber s hop, get t i ng my hai r cut , and an i ncr edi bl y sexy l ady was wai t i ng her t ur n. She was weari ng a ski r t t hat was so short t hat you coul d

easi l y see her j ui cy t hi ghs. Her l egs wer e scr eami ng out t o be mi ne, but what coul d I do? Al t hough I was busy chat t i ng wi t h her i n f r ont of t he barber and t he ot her peopl e wai t i ng t hei r t ur n, I coul dn' t gr aci ousl y ask her out r i ght t her e i n f r ont of ever yone, coul d I ?

I st art ed r evi ewi ng my ot her opt i ons. I coul d hang around af t er my hai r cut , and wai t f or her t o f i ni sh, and t hen hi t her as she was comi ng out t he door , but t hat woul d be l ame, and ki nd of scary f or her .

Wel l , I di d a l i t t l e ment al exer ci se t hat r eal l y hel ps me when I ' m st umped f or what t o say. I made a pi ct ur e i n my mi nd of mysel f , si t t i ng i n t he barber chai r . Then I saw pi ct ur e of mysel f st andi ng a f ew f eet a away, wat chi ng me si t t i ng i n

t he bar ber chai r .

Somehow t hi s ki nd of " ment al di st anci ng" mysel f f r om a si t uat i on al ways hel ps. Sur e enough, t he r i ght wor ds came t o mi nd.

I sai d t o my t arget , "Let ' s see. You' r e a knock- out i n the l ooks depar t ment , you have t he gr eat t ast e t o l augh at al l my j okes, and you' r e al so ver y sweet . And l i f e i s so unf ai r t hat i t ' s got t o be t he case t hat you' r e ei t her mar r i ed or have a boyf r i end, or bot h. "

Thi s got a l augh f r om ever yone pr esent , most i mpor t ant l y her . " Act ual l y, I don' t , " she sai d.

By t hi s t i me, i nst ead of bei ng an embarr assment , i t had t ur ned i nt o gr eat

ent er t ai nment f or ever yone pr esent , and she was enj oyi ng bei ng t he st ar of t he show. You coul d have cut t he si l ence i n t hat pl ace wi t h t he bar ber ' s st r ai ght r azor , as ever yone wai t ed t o see what t he out come woul d be.

" Thank you, God" , I sai d, l ooki ng heavenwar d, hol di ng my hands t oget her i n mock pr ayer . Anot her l augh f r om al l assembl ed. Then I l ooked at her , smi l ed, paused, t hen sai d, "I ' d be ver y f l at t er ed i f you' d have di nner wi t h me t oni ght . " She sai d, " I ' d l ove t o. " We set t he t i me, and she gave me her addr ess on a pi ece of paper and i t was one of t he most enj oyabl e and r omant i c eveni ngs I ' d ever had. And her l egs f el t as good as t hey l ooked.

A Last Di t ch Met hod That Wi l l Al most Al ways

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Thi s met hod wi l l wor k 9 t i mes out of 10 and r eal l y knock a woman out . You shoul d use i t onl y af t er she' s ref used your i ni t i al of f er f or a dat e. I ' ve seen i t mel t women who had no i nt erest i n me what soever and i ni t i al l y r ef used t o go out wi t h me.

I t wor ks l i ke t hi s. Fi nd out when your wai t r ess, or st or e cl er k, or ot her wor ki ng gi r l i s on shi f t . Go t o your l ocal f l or i st and get a ni ce bouquet of wi l df l ower s and such made up. Don' t go f or a dozen r ed r oses; t hat i s way t oo heavy.

Wr i t e on t he card, " To ( Her name) , f r om your secret admi r er. "

Then have a buddy del i ver i t on or bef or e her shi f t . I f you can' t get a buddy t o do i t , t r y t o t al k a passer by i nt o doi ng i t . Peopl e usual l y enj oy hel pi ng out when i t i s a mat t er of l ove. Cor ny, ai n' t i t ?

Wai t a f ew days, bef ore you go f or t he pi ece de resi st ance. Go t o your l ocal T-shi r t st ore, and have t hem make up a T- T-shi r t . I t shoul d say, " I AM YOUR SECRET ADMI RER. " Put t hi s shi r t on under a but t on up shi r t or j acket , and t hen wal k i n on your honey pi e' s shi f t . Wal t z up t o her , t ap her on t he shoul der , and open your s hi r t or j ac ket .

Now, t hat wi l l make an i mpr essi on. You wer e cl ever , di f f er ent , uni que, and went t o al l t hat t r oubl e j ust f or her . ( Never mi nd t hat you onl y have t o pay f or t he shi r t once, but can use i t over and over agai n. J ust make sur e i t st ays cl ean, so i t doesn' t l ook used - t hat wi l l r eal l y bl ow i t f or you! ) Af t er she get s t hr ough huggi ng you, or even ki ssi ng you, t el l her you' d l i ke t o see her , and you' r e wi l l i ng t o go t o some ef f ort t o do i t , and t hen some. Then ask her out . I f she' s got any smar t s and hear t at al l , she' l l go f or i t . Thi s i s a gr eat , f un met hod, and i t r eal l y works l i ke a charm!

By t he way, i f you don' t have a l ocal T- shi r t shop, and want t o t r y t hi s, you can or der a shi r t f r om me. Speci f y Smal l , Medi um, Lar ge, or X- t r a l ar ge, and whet her you want t he gi r l ' s name put on t he shi r t , so t hat she knows f or s ur e you di d i t speci al l y f or her , or whet her you want t he pl ai n, " I AM YOUR SECRET ADMI RER" message. I t ' s t went y bucks, t o t he same addr ess and same name you sent your or i gi nal payment f or t hi s book.

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Chapt er Ten

SLASHI NG COMEBACKS FOR SLEAZOI D SLUTS!

Women ar e not al ways sweet and f r i endl y, dyi ng t o meet you, and eager t o f ul f i l l your ever y desi r e as a man. At t i mes t hey can be downr i ght nast y.

Who says you have t o put up wi t h i t , f el l as? Her e ar e some wi cked r epl i es t o her bi t chy put downs, t o l et her know j ust who' s i n charge!

HER: I ' M REALLY NOT I NTERESTED I N MEETI NG YOU.

YOU: One of t hese days you ar e goi ng t o see a man acr oss a r oom and you' r e goi ng t o want t o meet hi m but i t ' s not goi ng t o happen because he' s goi ng t o

i nt ui t i vel y pi ck up on your i ncredi bl e capaci t y f or r ude behavi or . Al t er nat i ve One:

YOU: Thank you f or showi ng me how war m and f emi ni ne you ar e. Al t er nat i ve Two:

YOU: You' ve got a l i t t l e pi ece of snot hangi ng out your nose. Al t er nat i ve Thr ee:

YOU: ( Gazi ng at her upper l i p) Gee. I t ' s amazi ng what t hey can do wi t h el ectr ol ysi s t hese days.

Al t er nat i ve Four :

YOU: ( pul l out a t ampon whi ch you shoul d car r y f or j ust t hi s pur pose) Her e. I t ' s got t a be t hat t i me of t he mont h!

Al t er nat i ve Fi ve:

YOU: I ' m a l onel y per son t r yi ng t o over come my shyness and you' ve j ust sl ammed me back i nt o my shel l f or mont hs. I hope you' r e happy.

Al t er nat i ve Si x: