Domestic Violence. What you need to know

Domestic Violence Domestic Violence

What you need to know

Domestic Violence Domestic Violence

„ A pattern of controlling and/or assaultive

behavior that one person inflicts on another.

„ Includes adults, children, teens, elderly and vulnerable adults.

„ Crosses all socio-economic, religious, racial,

ethnic, cultural, class, age and disability status

groups.

Domestic Violence Warning Signs Domestic Violence Warning Signs

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Does your partner:

„ Insult you in public or in private?

„ Check where you’ve been and who you’ve talked to?

„ Put down your friends and family?

„ Limit where you can go and what you can do?

„ Destroy your belongings?

„ Tell you that jealousy is a sign of love?

„ Touch you in a way that hurts or scares you?

„ Prevent you from leaving the house, getting a

job or continuing your education?

Are You Afraid?

Are You Afraid?

„ Are you afraid your partner will harm you or your children?

„ Afraid because you do not have the financial resources to leave or the emotional support of your family?

„ Worried because your partner has threatened to take the children or hurt other members of the family?

„ Do you feel somewhat responsible for your situation?

„ Do you think the relationship will work if you

can just show your partner you’ll always be

there for him/her, no matter what?

Are you in danger? Tell someone now

Thurston County Court Clerk’s Domestic Violence Liaison 360-709-3275 SafePlace 360-754-6300

National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE(7233) Thurston County Sheriff’s Office 360-786-5500

Did you know

Did you know … …

„ That on average, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day.

„ In 1999, 1,642 murders were attributed to intimate partners.

„ 74% of the murder victims (1,218 total) were women.

U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics 2000

If you experience any of these behaviors, please remember you are not alone-protect yourself and get more information about domestic violence. National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799- SAFE(7233) TTY TDD 1-800-787-3224

You are not alone

Are you in danger? Tell someone now.

Thurston County Sheriff’s Office 360-786-5500 Lacey Police Department 360-459-4333

Olympia Police Department 360-753-8300 Tumwater Police Department 360-754-4200 Yelm Police Department 360-458-3100

Tenino Police Department 360-264-2626

Evergreen State College Police Department 360-867-6832

And that

And that … …

Since 1997, at least 209 people died at the hands of domestic violence abusers in Washington

State. Consistent with the national trends, about one-third of women who are murdered in

Washington are killed by their current or former intimate partner.

Washington State Domestic Violence Fatality Review, December 2002

Are you in danger? Tell someone now.

Thurston County Court Clerk’s Office D/V Liaison 360-709-3275 SafePlace 360-754-6300

National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE(7233)

How are your children affected?

How are your children affected?

„ 90% of children from violent homes witness domestic abuse within the home.

„ 63% of all boys, age 11-20, who commit

murder, kill the man who was abusing their mother.

„ Daughters of abused women are six times more likely to be sexually abused as girls from non-

abusive families.

„ Child victims of severe violence have a two to four time higher rate of trouble making friends, temper tantrums, failing grades and problems at school or at home.

„ Abused children are arrested by the police four times more often than non-abused children.

„ Children in homes where violence occurs are

physically abused or neglected at a rate 1500%

higher than the national average.

And That

And That … … .. ..

Is That What You Want For Your Is That What You Want For Your

Children?

Children?

Are you in danger ? Tell someone now.

„ National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE(7233)

„ SafePlace 360-754-6300(24hrs)

„ Crisis Clinic of Thurston County 360-586-2800(24hrs)

„ Thurston County Sheriff’s Office 360-786-5500

„ Lacey Police Department 360-459-4333

„ Olympia Police Department 360-753-8300

„ Tumwater Police Department 360-754-4200

„ Yelm Police Department 360-458-3100

„ Tenino Police Department 360-264-2626

„ Evergreen State College Police Department 360-867-6832

Statistical Reality Statistical Reality

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An abuser who beats will do it again and again, and again.

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Study after study shows the abuse, if anything, will worsen each time.

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Sometimes the abuse leads to the hospital as it did

when a 29-year-old Massachusetts woman was kicked repeatedly in the head by an ex-boyfriend.

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Sometimes it leads to death.

What can you do to help yourself What can you do to help yourself

„ Learn about domestic violence.

„ Call 911 for emergencies.

„ Seek medical attention if needed as soon as possible.

„ Ask about your legal rights.

„ Work out a plan to protect yourself and your children that includes: emergency

arrangements for safety, escape routes,

telephone, access to car and keys, important

papers and phone numbers.

Obtain a Domestic Violence Obtain a Domestic Violence

Protection Order Protection Order

„ Any person 16 years or older.

„ A victim of domestic violence.

„ A domestic violence victim is anyone who is physically assaulted or threatened with bodily harm by any of the following individuals: family or household members, spouses or former

spouses, dating or former dating relationships, intimate partners, roommates, or people with children in common.

Who may obtain this Order

What a protection order can do What a protection order can do

for you as the petitioner for you as the petitioner

„ Restrain him or her from committing acts of domestic violence.

„ Exclude him or her from your residence.

„ Prohibit him or her from harassment and/or contacting you.

„ Award temporary custody to one parent,

establish temporary visitation, and restrain a

parent from interfering with custody.

And And … …

„ Order one or both parties to participate in treatment or counseling.

„ Prohibit the removal of children from the jurisdiction of the court.

„ Award temporary use of a shared vehicle and

possession of essential personal effects.

An order for protection

An order for protection can not can not

„ Order child support, maintenance income, or assign property to either party.

„ Establish permanent child custody, or the use

of the family home.

How and where can you obtain How and where can you obtain

this order?

this order?

„ You will complete forms petitioning the court for a temporary order.

„ You will be asked to describe the most recent events and/or threats and a history of domestic violence.

„ A Judge or Commissioner will review the paperwork and may ask you questions. A

decision will then be made on whether to grant

or deny the order.

And And … …

„ Orders can be obtained at Family and Juvenile Superior Court.

„ The forms and assistance are free and are located at the Family and Juvenile Court Division of the Clerk’s Office.

„ Office hours are 8:00am to 5:00pm Monday through Friday.

„ You do not need an attorney to obtain this

order (pro se).

What does a Domestic Violence What does a Domestic Violence

Protection Order cost?

Protection Order cost?

„ There is no cost for victims of domestic

violence.

Law Enforcement response if the Law Enforcement response if the

order is violated order is violated

„ Arrest is mandatory for violations of the

“restraint” provisions of the order.

„ Possible criminal or contempt charges may be

filed against the respondent.

If you have witnessed domestic If you have witnessed domestic

violence you can help violence you can help

„ Call the police immediately.

„ Offer assistance to the victim. Often the victim feels alone with nowhere to run.

„ Help the victim to develop a safety plan.

„ Become informed, ask for information on domestic violence from your local law

enforcement agency or the Court Clerk’s DV

Liaison.

Sexual Assault Sexual Assault

may include one or more of the may include one or more of the

following following

„ Rape

„ Child molestation

„ Sexual misconduct with a minor

„ Indecent liberties

„ Voyeurism

„ Incest

„ Custodial sexual misconduct

„ Indecent exposure

What can you do to help What can you do to help

yourself:

yourself:

„ Learn about sexual assault.

„ Call 911 for emergencies.

„ Seek medical attention as soon as possible.

„ Ask about your legal rights.

„ Report to your local law enforcement agency.

Sexual Abuse Hotline 1-800-656-HOPE(4673)

Obtain a Sexual Assault Obtain a Sexual Assault

Protection Order Protection Order

Who may obtain this order

„ Anyone 16 years or older.

„ A victim of nonconsensual sexual conduct or penetration with fear of future danger.

„ This order can be filed on behalf of a victim by another.

„ A prosecutor can request this order if a criminal case is pending.

„ The order is filed in the county or municipality

where the victim resides.

What a Sexual Assault What a Sexual Assault

Protection Order can do for you Protection Order can do for you

as the petitioner:

as the petitioner:

„ Prohibit contact of any kind with the petitioner, and can be tailored to meet your specific

needs.

„ Restrain respondent from coming within a

specific distance of petitioner’s work place,

residence, school, etc.

How and where can you obtain How and where can you obtain

this order?

this order?

„ This order may be obtained in Family and Juvenile Court, District Court, or Municipal Court.

„ Petitions and affidavits alleging nonconsensual sexual conduct or penetration are filed with the court.

„ A Judge or Commissioner will review the

paperwork and may ask you questions.

And And … …

„ The Judge or Commissioner will then grant or deny the temporary order.

„ A second hearing is scheduled in two weeks.

„ After the second hearing, a permanent order may or may not be granted by the Judge or Commissioner.

„ You do not need an attorney to obtain this

order (pro se).

What is the cost of a Sexual What is the cost of a Sexual

Assault Protection Order Assault Protection Order

„ There is no cost for victims of nonconsensual

sexual conduct or penetration.

Law Enforcement response if the Law Enforcement response if the

Sexual Assault Protection Order Sexual Assault Protection Order

is violated:

is violated:

„ Arrest is mandatory for violations of the

“restraint” provisions of the order.

„ Possible criminal or contempt charges may be

filed against the respondent.

If you or someone you know is a If you or someone you know is a

victim of sexual assault:

victim of sexual assault:

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Contact one of the following agencies for assistance

„ Local law enforcement 704-2740

„ Monarch Children’s Justice and Advocacy Center 493-7469

„ SafePlace 754-6300

„ Partners in Prevention Education 943-0780 ext. 205

„ Thurston County Clerks Office 709-3275

Court Phone Numbers Court Phone Numbers

„ Thurston County District Court (also serves Lacey) 360-786-5450

„ Olympia Municipal Court 360-753-8312

„ Tumwater Municipal Court 360-754-4190

„ Yelm Municipal Court 360-458-3242

„ Tenino/Rainier/Bucoda Municipal Court

360-264-4157

Court Addresses Court Addresses

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Thurston County Family and Juvenile Court 2801 32

Ave SW Tumwater WA

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Thurston County District Court 2000 Lakeridge Dr SW Olympia WA (also serves Lacey)

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Olympia Municipal Court 900 Plum St SE Olympia WA

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Tumwater Municipal Court 555 Israel Rd SW Tumwater WA

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Tenino Municipal Court 149 Hodgden St S. Tenino WA (also serves Rainier/Bucoda)

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Yelm Municipal Court 105 Yelm Ave W. Yelm WA

Thurston

Thurston County Family and County Family and Juvenile Court

Juvenile Court

2801 32

Ave SW, Tumwater, WA 98512

Map to Family Court

Map to Family Court

Driving

Driving Directions Directions

From I-5 North/South

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Take exit 104 (Hwy 101/Aberdeen/Shelton).

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Exit on first off-ramp (County Courthouse/ South Puget Sound Community College).

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Stay in left lane and at stop light, turn left onto Crosby Blvd.

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At second stop light, turn right onto Mottman Rd.

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At stop sign turn left onto RW Johnson Rd.

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Turn right onto 32

Ave SW Family and Juvenile

Court is on the left.

Thurston County Courthouse Thurston County Courthouse

Complex Complex

2000 Lakeridge Drive SW Olympia, WA

Thurston County Courthouse Thurston County Courthouse

Complex Complex

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Coming from either north or south on I-5, take Exit 104 off of I-5 onto

Highway 101.

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From Highway 101, take the Cooper Pt. Road,

Automall Drive, Crosby Blvd. exit. From Cooper Point Rd., turn right at the traffic light onto

Evergreen Park Drive and continue approximately 3/4 mile. Turn left onto Lakeridge Drive for

approximately 2 blocks.

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The Courthouse is located

on the right.

Let Us Help You Take Let Us Help You Take

Control of Your Life Control of Your Life

Ask for help. Contact any of the following agencies to assist you:

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National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE(7233)

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SafePlace 360-754-6300(24hrs)

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Crisis Clinic of Thurston County 360-586-2800(24hrs)

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Monarch Children’s Justice and Advocacy Center 360-923-1884 ext.102

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Salvation Army 360-352-8596

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Thurston County Clerk’s Domestic Violence Liaison 360-709-3275

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Thurston County Sheriff’s Office 360-786-5500

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Lacey Police Department 360-459-4333

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Olympia Police Department 360-753-8300

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Tumwater Police Department 360-754-4200

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Yelm Police Department 360-458-3100

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Tenino Police Department 360-264-2626

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Evergreen State College Police Department 360-867-6832

This presentation was made possible through the efforts of…

Thurston County Sheriff’s Office

STOP Grant