Some of the techniques within this book are sexually and emotionally powerful. Although these techniques and activities can have dramatically positive effects on your (and your spouse’s) physical and emotional well-being, people that have high blood pressure, heart disease or a generally weak condition should proceed slowly. If necessary, consult a physician before implementing any included techniques.
Nothing within this publication should be considered medical advice. How To Put Your Wife In The Mood™ is a publication of SPI Publications. Additional copies of this publication can be obtained at:
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Additional Christian Marriage And Sex Resources
You can also find the following resources for improving your Christian marriage and sex life onwww.ChristianSexHelp.com:Sexual Skills For The Christian Husband
Sexual Skills For The Christian Husband was written specifically for
Christian husbands. It includes all of the latest scientific research regarding male sexual response, pleasure, and orgasms. Unlock the Vault Of A Lifetime of the Most Intense, Satisfying And Frequent Sex You’ve Ever Had...Sex That Leaves You Both Exhausted And Refreshed With Pleasure... And Bonds You Together Like "Relationship Super Glue"...
Have Sex As God Intended For You And Your Wife...With Intensely Pleasurable Sexual Sensations And "Soul Bonding," Experiences That Can Only Be Found Within The Christian Marriage Bed.
Sexual Satisfaction For The Christian Wife
Sexual Satisfaction For The Christian Wife is the perfect complementary book to Sexual Skills For The Christian
Husband. It was written specifically to
help Christian women to become more sexually responsive and fulfilled...no matter their past experiences. It includes all of the latest scientific
research regarding female sexual response, pleasure, and orgasms. Learn how to unleash any woman's sexual response and satisfaction! Learn the secrets that have helped thousands of Christian women to go from non-orgasmic to multi-orgasmic! Susan Irwin has put together a step-by-step roadmap that will lead any woman to a more pleasurable and fulfilling sexual life.
Premature No More
Premature No More is the result of
Robert's personal struggle with PE, early in his marriage and his subsequent
overcoming of this issue. He has addressed the issue of PE in his other books…but never in this detail. There was so much ground to cover that he felt that it was necessary to create a resource specifically dedicated to overcoming PE.
It contains the same step-by-step solution that he utilized to overcome his own problem with PE and is the same approach that he recommends to the men he personally coaches.
The real message of this book is that there IS hope. If you are willing to learn and follow a few simple techniques, you CAN overcome premature ejaculation and its negative effects in your marriage and sex life.
When Your Husband Is Never In The Mood
When Your Husband Is Never In The Mood will give you support, comfort and,
more importantly, solutions to help you help your husband to overcome his lack of sexual desire.
If your husband struggles with a lack of sexual interest, this book is the answer. Co-written by Susan Irwin, this book provides all of the secrets to re-igniting any man's libido. Low male sexual desire is one of the biggest, yet least talked about, problems that many Christian marriages face. It causes untold frustration, pain and resentment within marriages.
Fortunately, this is a problem that can be relatively quickly and easily overcome...if you utilize the right strategies and techniques...in the right way! This book has helped hundreds of couples to transform their married sex lives.
Tastefully Illustrated Sexual Positions For Christian Couples
With Tastefully Illustrated Sexual
Positions For Christian Couples, you
won't have to settle for even one more boring night in your sex life. You'll learn the advanced sexual positions, tips, tricks and techniques that are the surest way of bringing fun, excitement and endless variety to your married sex life. Without a doubt, the biggest cause of marital and sexual frustration is...boredom! If you don't start making your sex life an adventurous journey, filled with new and exciting things to explore and do, neither of you are going to be all that excited about sex anymore. That is exactly why we have created a "first of its kind" new book, "Tastefully Illustrated Sexual Positions
For Christian Couples." In just minutes
from now, you can have the most
comprehensive resource of fun, sexy and creative positions for Christian couples ever!
Sexual Fun And Games For Christian Couples!
Sexual Fun And Games For Christian Couples will help you to take the sexual
part of your Christian marriage to the next level!
In just minutes from now, you can have the most comprehensive resource of fun, sexy and creative sex ideas for Christian couples ever...right at your fingertips. This book includes...
Over 50 Ideas For "home made" sexual accessories.
Over 30 Ideas For Exciting Sexual Environments.
Over 200 Sex Games And Activities Over 100 Creative Lovemaking
300 Sexual Questions For Christian Couples
300 Sex Questions For Christian
Couples will be the "spark" that ignites the
sexual passion in your marriage again! Before you can communicate, sexually, you need to learn how to
communicate...verbally.
The questions in this book are specifically designed to allow you and your spouse to learn everything possible about each other's sexual needs, desires, likes and dislikes. With 300 Sex Questions For Christian Couples, you will find it infinitely easier to learn your spouse's deepest, innermost thoughts and emotions regarding sex.
And, we have proven, for over ten years, that the REAL first step to a better sex life is...better communication!
The Keys To Better Sex In Christian Marriage
The Keys To Better Sex In Christian Marriage Collection is the result of over a
decade of our research, counseling and writing. It contains virtually every resource we offer:
-Sexual Skills For The Christian Husband -Sexual Satisfaction For The Christian Wife -Premature No More
-When Your Husband Is Never In The Mood -The Ultimate Guide To The G Spot
-Tastefully Illustrated Sexual Positions -Sexual Fun And Games
-She Loves God, Me & Sex! -300 Sex Questions
-101 Romantic Ideas -Sexy Coupons
-Healing Touch Massage -The Art Of Kissing
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Introduction ...8
Building A Flame Of Passion In Your Marriage...13
Surprise…Men And Women Are Different ...16
Changes You CAN Make...19
Sexual Communication ...26
Foreplay Is The Way...30
When Two Become “One” ...38
An Intercourse On Intercourse...40
But What About The Butt? ...45
Maintaining a Good Erection...47
Erectile Dysfunctions ...49
Romance (What She Wants So You Get What You Want)...55
Introduction
This book is for those husbands that are struggling to find a greater level of satisfaction and fulfillment in their married sex lives.
Over the past decade, I’ve received thousands of letters from husbands that are dealing with the emotional pain of feeling that their wives are “never” interested in sex.
This is ironic considering I’ve received an almost equal number of letters from wives struggling with their husband’s lack of sexual desire.
I don’t mention it because I think you’ll find this irony (even slightly) amusing. You won’t. You are too frustrated and upset about your current level of sexual
frequency and your wife’s apparent total lack of sexual interest to find just about anything amusing.
But, I do think it’s relevant. Why?
Because the first thing you have to know is that most wives, given the correct circumstances and a skilled lover as a husband are capable of being very sexually interested and involved and passionate.
The first mistake many men make when they tell me their wife is “never” in the mood for sex is that their wife is “different” or “unusual” or has some “unique” physical or spiritual or childhood issues that are the unconquerable obstacle to them ever knowing what it would be like to have a frequent, variety-filled and mutually satisfying married sex life.
Don’t get me wrong.
There are wives that are truly (and aggressively) non-sexual. I’ve dealt with hundreds of them. And, frankly, you may be married to one. But…Chances are you are not.
And, if you’ll trust me on this fact (for now), you’ll significantly increase your odds of (relatively) quickly and easily increasing your married sexual frequency,
excitement and fulfillment.
If you start with the assumption that much is within your control and that, possibly, your wife’s current disinterest in sex is (at least partially) the result of your past actions (or non actions) then you too, in a very short time, can be experiencing everything you always hoped married sex could be!
I’ve been planning on writing this book for years because, almost every day, I get an irate letter from a husband asking why we offer a book for women called “When Your Husband Is Never In The Mood” and we didn’t offer a similar book for men.
I hate not being able to help.
But, I didn’t actually sit down to put pen to paper though until late last year when I was blessed to be a part of one of the most radical and (almost) immediate
transformations I’ve seen in a married sex life in over ten years.
I was working with a new personal coaching client, Jeff, a husband who (literally) spent a month complaining about his wife relative to their sex life before he would evenattempt to follow any of my advice.
He had been married for fifteen years and claimed that sex had been bad or practically non-existent for thirteen of those years. And their marriage got started off on the wrong foot; they married sooner than they planned because she was pregnant and then after they were married she had a miscarriage.
Her family was overly protective and strictly religious and neither her mother nor any of her sisters were still having sex with their husbands.
His wife was onlyphysically capable of being interested in sex one day per month and she gave no clues when that day was.
She was slightly overweight and had body image issues.
When they did have sex, she would simply lay motionless and mute.
They had four young children, one of them disabled, and it meant that she never had the time or energy to “get around” to sex.
Wow. Just re-stating that list brings back the frustrations and negative emotions of that first month of counseling (his and mine).
And then, when he was finished giving me all of the reasons he was doomed to a sexless future, he came to the conclusion that he was going to pursue a divorce because it was his only option.
I charge money for personal coaching and I don’t usually market it as “you give me money and I’ll convince you divorce is your only option,” so I was a little worried about his investment.
He decided that before he started the divorce process he would take my advice to “do something (anything)” instead of spending any more of his (paid) time telling me it was useless.
And he did…
And here is an excerpt from one of his emails justone week into him applying some of the concepts in this book:
“As for moving into sex master mode...not a worry... working with you was about sex, as you know, but it was not the whole point, as I have always said. The fact that Amanda and I have already had aremarkable sexual experience was powerful and impactful. But, if that is all it was, I wouldn't be so impressed. Clearly, my approach changed. But, more surprisingly, Amanda changed on a dime.
A switch flipped, and she is connectable now. She is present.
It's not just in bed, though certainly also in bed. But, for the past couple of days, she is remarkably different throughout the day; she is in the moment much more. Not dissociating.
Not seeking to avoid connecting to me. THAT is what makes this good. The sex is the icing on the cake, and the most describable difference.”
And after two weeks...
“Last night, we replicated the simultaneous orgasm experience. Effortlessly, again.
We had been somewhat flirty throughout the day.
When we got the kids into bed and went into our room, Amanda got in bed and asked if I wanted to watch a movie. I said, ‘uh, no, maybe later, but I've been waiting all day to get in bed with you.’
We got partially undressed and I just stopped to hug her and was lying very still. She said... ‘what are you waiting for?’
I laughed out loud and said, ‘okay, I guess you're ready?’ She said, ‘I've been waiting all day too!’
Clearly, you can see our situation has changed dramatically.
She asked me to do the same thing I did the night before, which was fine by me. And, hello... she asked for something specific.
And, it took her no time to get off, which enabled us to come together, again. WOW…”
And after only three weeks…
“I eventually encouraged her to get into bed. I'm not sure how it happened exactly, but she was different. I could tell a bit when the movie started. But, once she got into bed, it was clear.
The cold hard outer shell that had encased her for years had cracked and it crumbled away.
When I hugged her, she responded enthusiastically. When I kissed her, she kissed back.
When I touched her, she touched me more.
This was not the Amanda I have encountered for so many years.
I couldn't really believe it. I must have told her 10 different ways how amazing she was being and how I was so glad to have Amanda back... the one I met 15 years ago. WHERE had she been all this time?
She was smiling. She was participating. She was relaxed.
I was laughing at the unusualness of it, and the greatness of it. It was powerful.
Amanda had given every cue that she was interested.
And, she is not near ovulation, so that was rare, as you know. I locked the door and we began.
I stimulated her some first, but chose to initiate intercourse with an idea. She actually asked me to do her with my hand.
That's not unheard of, but it's rare, normally she just waits for me to do it, and then typically tells me to stop if she's not in the mood, i.e., not ovulating. Anyway, I told her to wait a minute and I would.
Before long, while were having sex, I stimulated her manually as well. She was extremely responsive.
In the past, when I have tried to manually stimulate her during sex, she has always stopped me. This time, she didn't.
This time it was easy.
I am writing with some graphic detail. I don't mean to be crass. This is nothing you don’t hear all the time, I am sure. And, more importantly, I am telling you a story to make a point that has great significance.
For the first time in our history of 15 years, Amanda and I orgasmed simultaneously.
It was great. And, quite frankly, there was no challenge to it. I don't know what to say. This is nothing I would have expected two months ago, one week ago, or yesterday…”
I was so thrilled and grateful for the changes in this man’s marriage and life that I knew that I had to get off my butt and get this book written.
It was time to end the pain and suffering of all of those good husbands and men that are suffering needlessly from an unnaturally low sex marriage.
And, I hope and pray that this book will be the first step in your journey to transforming your married sex life.
Trust yourself (you are wiser than you think about this sex and relationship stuff). Trust God (he actually prefers that your sex life and marriage is fulfilling).
Trust me (a little). The advice in this book has helped hundreds of personal coaching clients to transform their sexual relationships.
Start with yourself. It is not only possible, but likely, that you can start the ball rolling by being a better partner and lover and that, in no time, like Jeff, you can be amazed at possibilities you didn’t believe existed.
Robert Irwin
Building A Flame Of Passion In Your Marriage
You’ve probably wondered what better sex in your marriage would be like or how it could be improved.
In the beginning of your marriage, sex was outrageous and passionate. In those moments when you weren’t ripping each other’s clothes off, you replayed in your mind the sex of that morning, the sheer force of your orgasm, the words she spoke over lunch or in bed, and the subtle looks your wife passed your way. You daydreamed about your wife’s naked body and the sex that you will have that evening. Your heart pumped faster, your breathing became shallow, and you felt that pleasant warm tingle between your legs. In the beginning, sex took over your body and your mind.
But for many, over time…married sex changes.
Your sex-intoxicated mind gradually sobers up and returns to work, responsibility, and the other aspects of your marriage and life in general.
Keeping the sexual spark alive in a marriage or in a long-term relationship is easier said than done.
However, couples who take time to cultivate and maintain healthy and satisfying sexual relations tend to be more connected with each other and do not suffer from depression, heart problems and other health maladies.
The daily routines of life — whether careers, children or financial responsibilities — challenge couples to keep alive that flame that initially brought them together. From a practical standpoint, there’s less time for sex and intimacy as
relationships develop and individual partners take on more responsibilities. Furthermore, aging brings on a host of physical conditions that can affect life in the bedroom. These include sexual dysfunction, cardiovascular conditions, arthritis and rheumatism, and a host of other problems.
Whatever the reasons for brewing trouble in the bedroom, whether emotional or physical in nature, the good news is that many such problems are easily treated. Moreover, troubles in a couple’s sexual relationship are often signs of other problems, and can serve as a warning sign for still bigger troubles ahead.
The worst thing that can happen to a relationship is that a sex life becomes routine and boredom sets in.
But in today’s fast-paced life, filled with dueling responsibilities, a sub-par or absent sex life is a common problem.
Sexual fears, taboos, and attitudes, as well as withheld negative feelings and secrets choke off spontaneity, energy, and pleasure in married sex.
Sharing sexual fears and sex secrets as well as sexual peak experiences and sexual fantasies is a powerful way to deepen the intimacy in your relationship and boost the passion meter in your marriage.
Signs of a low sex marriage could include:
1) You only have sex one or two times per month. 2) Sex has become a chore.
3) You only have sex when it has been previously scheduled. 4) You don’t feel intimate after making love.
5) Sexual fantasies about your spouse are non-existent.
6) It seems that you are the only one who wants to have sex because your spouse doesn’t show any interest in sexual intimacy at all.
7) There is no sense of adventure or spontaneity in your love making with your mate and/or neither of you are very frisky in the bedroom any more. Lovemaking is the most magnificent celestial experience. While making love, we forget about our past and feel absolutely no worries of our future; everything freezes in time and we live in the very moment.
Sex may not be the bricks in a marriage; but if it isn’t, few would deny that it is the cement which holds the bricks together.
Individual and mutual misunderstanding of the really important role which physical relations play in keeping marriage and families together is a principal causing factor in the rising divorce rate throughout the world.
In the early stages of a romantic relationship, wives are full of passion and excitement and often experiment with lots of different positions and approaches and explore their likes and dislikes.
As they get to know each other better, they tend to settle into a routine. This is a crucial point in a sexual relationship.
It is boring to go through the same routine week after week if it doesn’t culminate in good mutual orgasms.
Most sex relationships go through patches where everything is not as it should be. The key to solving issues is good communication and knowing when to seek help.
It is unlikely that a sex life in trouble will improve greatly if work is not put in on the whole relationship. Of course, there are times when both partners may be steamed up and the sex works wonderfully. But apart from these spontaneous and happy times, couples often complain that they don’t make love as much as they did, or that one or both partners have lost the urge.
Ninety percent of women reported that they wished their partner kissed them more or with more passion.
Sixty-five percent of women felt their partner did not have a good kissing technique.
Men may lose interest in sex if their wife is very aggressive in bed or out, nags him to do better sexually, or if she keeps complaining that he doesn’t do his share of the housework, and your wife may feel a lack of interest sexually for similar reasons, including a perception that her man never says he loves her unless he wants sex.
In this book you’ll find tips for a fulfilling sex life plus advice on common sex problems.
Surprise…Men And Women Are Different
The primary sexual objective of a human male is to get his penis inside your wife and to discharge his sperm into her. The average male is more interested in sex than the average female and is much more likely to feel very strong urges to have intercourse, take sexual risks regardless of the consequences, be unfaithful, and try paid for sex.
The slightest thing can set a man off could be the sight of your wife’s cleavage, a well-shaped bottom, a good pair of legs or even a whiff of perfume.
Romance is something that adults seem to crave.
Women tend to want to be romanced to get into a sexy mood and men are often deeply romantic regretting the fact that romance is disappearing from a long-term relationship which could seriously affect the dual act.
There are many reasons for this unhappy state of affairs include long working hours for one or both partners, daily commuting, stress, feeling that life is completely out of balance, resentment in the relationship and fatigue.
Because of the busy world, men often deny simple miraculous measures to get rid of boredom that shallows their sexual relation with their female partners; such as celebrations, flowers, surprising your wife, kindness and understanding, a kiss, carry her photo, back rubbing, romantic weekend at home, fill the bedroom with flowers, watch a romantic film together, or keep special places unique. Women have high expectations for nearly every area of their lives, but when it comes to sex, they settle for less.
Most women keep their dissatisfaction with sex a secret, leaving their partners in the dark.
Whereas men, if they have trouble with sex, it’s a crisis. They run to the doctor and say ‘I need something for this.’
Women don’t do that. They just sort of stuff it down and push it further down on the list.
Sex gets shoved to the bottom of the “to do” list for women and when they do have sex it becomes just another task.
Women are not getting their emotional needs met during sex. An orgasm might not be the point.
Many women strive for unrealistic physical perfection seen in the media and are unhappy with some aspect of their physical bodies.
Women don’t ask for what they want in bed, fearing their partner will be hurt or leave them.
Some women did complain about difficulty reaching orgasm or lack of sexual desire, but frequently they just felt an overall letdown regarding sex.
Not knowing why they feel so deflated after sex, women assume it’s their fault or they just don’t bring up the topic to their partner.
Women don’t have a clear awareness of their sexual desires because of social, cultural or religious beliefs that label such female wants as shameful.
Outside pressures impact your wife’s view of her body, which can make having sex even less appealing.
Understand that her sex drive is less constant than yours; adapt your sex life to suit.
Your sex drive fluctuates little from day to day. However, your female partner’s sex drive is likely to be much more variable, up one minute and down the next, in accordance with the variation in her sexual cycle.
Her most sexy days are generally before and after her menstrual period. When she doesn’t want sex, ask her to masturbate you or give you oral sex, or at the worst, do it yourself. Being able to accept this gracefully is one mark of an emotionally mature man.
Married men and women, on average, have sex with their spouse 58 times a year, a little more than once a week, according to data collected from the General Social Survey, which has tracked the social behaviors of Americans since 1972.
But there are wide variations in that number.
Married people under 30 have sex about 111 times a year and it’s estimated that about 15 percent of married couples have not had sex with their spouse in the last six months to one year, according to Denise A. Donnelly, associate professor of sociology at Georgia State University, who has studied sexless marriage. Another factor to consider is that for some women, feelings of guilt and shame learned in early childhood may interfere with adult sexual function and may affect one or more phases of the sexual response cycle.
Sex has been claimed to produce health benefits as varied as improved sense of smell, weight loss, stress reduction, increased immunity, and decreased risk of prostate cancer.
Frequent sexual intercourse was held to reduce the risk of common cold and other infection.
Married men and women, on average, have sex with their spouse 58 times a year, a little more than once a week, according to data
collected from the General Social Survey, which has tracked the social behaviors of Americans since 1972.
Sexual intercourse is the act of penetration of the male penis within the vagina and causing rhythmic movements until both the male and the female achieve their orgasms.
It is also known as coitus, making love, having sex or sleeping with your partner. The physical changes are the first to occur. These are the erection of the male organ and the lubrication of the vagina in the female.
Changes You CAN Make
Sexuality in marriage is a great gift and a gift to be enjoyed and nurtured.
Whether your low or no sex marriage is due to mismatched sexual libidos, anger, boredom, tiredness, infidelity, childbirth, erectile dysfunction, power issues, medications, depression, or some other issue, marital disaster could be around the corner.
Try a little spontaneity.
Instead of making love only at night after the kids are in bed, seduce your wife when the urge strikes.
Flirt with your partner in public.
Showing her that she is desirable will feed the flames and send you two running for the bedroom.
Put a sexy note (a description of your favorite fantasy) in your partner’s purse or car.
Call your wife at work during a lunch break (or send her an e-mail) and tell her exactly what you want to do to her after work, and do it later.
Make love just before you are expecting company.
The urgency of the sex and the forbidden secret will keep you hot for a week.
Sexual pleasure comes in an amazing range of flavors and everyone has a favorite. But your marriage sex suffers when you insist on always going back for more of the same.
Just varying your marriage sex routine in simple ways is enough to excite you and your partner into passionate lovemaking.
Actually, simple variations on a familiar theme seem to be the simplest and most effective way to spice your marriage sex life.
Kinkiness, ranging from slightly unusual to downright bizarre, is also one way to get your brain and genitals all fired up.
Role playing Erotic talk
Discussion of fantasy Striptease
Sexy games
Sexual pleasure comes in an amazing range of flavors and everyone has a favorite. But your marriage sex suffers when you insist on always going back for more of the same.
All of the above will transform any routine marriage sex into a hot, passionate love affair.
Make time for sex.
Make lovemaking a top priority in your marriage.
Preferably, increase the frequency of your sexual encounters.
Studies show that lovemaking elevates the levels of brain chemicals associated with desire. So the best way to increase your hunger for sex is to have sex. We all take sex very seriously.
Most of us are very performance oriented.
It is time to grow up and become like kids again.
Laughter, spontaneity, lighthearted playfulness, humor, role-playing and childlike exploration are basic techniques of lovemaking.
It is time to play and discover the joy and fulfillment while aligning your body, heart and mind in sex.
There are many times in a loving and sexual relationship with your partner that situations develop that might make you feel embarrassed with someone you are not close to.
However, with your loving sexual partner, you should be able to feel relaxed and at ease enough so that you can laugh with each other and continue to arouse each other and be aroused sexually.
Practically all women are insecure about their bodies. Don’t just say she is beautiful, show her.
When you are undressing for bed and she is naked before you, fall on your knees before her.
Caress her, smell her, run your hands over all those soft curves.
She may think you are being silly but if you are consistent about how much you love her body, she will love you for it.
Don’t always leave your lovemaking till bedtime.
After a meal and a bit of television viewing the tiredness and strains of the day tend to catch up, leaving you with one desire only to sleep.
Try having sex before supper.
Go straight to bed with a cup of tea, a glass of wine, a few snacks and a mind to devote yourself to your partner for the next 90 minutes.
Decide to see a film right after work. Do enjoy the film and remember that the object of this exercise is to enjoy each other more. So, hold hands and kiss and snuggle up together and have fun.
Make sure that you do plenty of kissing, and arm stroking between mouthfuls. You’ll want to tear each other’s clothes off right there.
On the other hand, people make the mistake of believing that sex should always be spontaneous.
Pick one night a week to be a regular sex fixture.
Send a text or e-mail to your wife on your special days saying, ‘Please fit me into your crowded schedule tonight!’ It never fails.
Being grouchy all day or ignoring your spouse during the day hurts your chances of having a positive lovemaking experience that evening.
Remember that sex isn’t going to be perfect each time.
Don’t compare your sex life to the ones you see in movies or on television. Recognize that abstinence now and then can be beneficial to your relationship if you start to lust after one another more. Don’t talk about sexual problems in your bedroom or at bedtime.
Don’t blindside your spouse. If you want to talk about sexual problems, let your spouse know (without placing blame) that you think the two of you need to have a talk about your sexual intimacy. Set up a time to have the talk.
If you don’t want to create more problems in your sex life, don’t purchase any sex advice books without discussing the issue with your spouse first.
Talk with one another about your expectations, your fears, your desires, your concerns, and be honest.
Don’t be afraid to talk about what you like sexually and what you don’t like. Good lovemaking starts long before you reach the bedroom, so before any date, have a bath.
Everyone smells: some women like the smell of male sweat, others don’t, but no one likes the smell of stale sweat.
Teeth are as important as the groin and armpits.
Don’t forget to brush them after your bath. When kissing your wife, or even sitting close to her, she won’t want to smell your bad breath.
Avoid a heavy meal before sex.
Be careful with drinking. We all know drinking increases a man’s desire but decreases his ability, but not everyone realizes it also affects your wife’s sexual response.
Be careful with drinking. We all know drinking increases a man’s desire but decreases his ability, but not everyone realizes it also affects a woman’s sexual response.
More than two or three drinks and some women may be loving but physiologically limited.
You may have noticed that men seem to regard dirt of any kind with less distaste than women.
If you turn up in bed with your armpits smelling of stale sweat, your foreskin harboring that special aroma, and your feet smelling like a slice of cheese, you’re not going to get much further until you’ve taken a quick trip to the bathroom. There’s nothing as unpleasant as a shaving rash. Show her you care by shaving before sex, unless she’s expressed a desire to feel this sign of your manliness. Be a good lover, and romance her from time to time. Women love romance. It makes them feel special, and it makes them feel wanted.
Your partner wants to know that you cherish her, respect her and want her to the exclusion of all other women. This is what turns her on and makes her desire rampant sex with you.
You can do this in many ways –
Leave a card for her to find after you’ve left the house, saying how much you love her and how much you appreciate her lovemaking.
Call her from your workplace and tell her you really fancy her and think she’s incredibly attractive.
Send her flowers unexpectedly.
Set the mood with candles and light music.
Don’t worry about getting sounds of the forest or anything like that. But you’ll want generally soothing, calming music or at leastsomething she enjoys. Set up the candles so that the whole room illuminates to an orange glow. Give her a massage before having sex.
This may seem as a simple advice, but you can’t underestimate its importance. Massage calms your partner and gets her primed for sex.
Start from the top like a regular massage and slowly work down to massaging her inner thighs and other parts close to her vagina.
Another good massaging technique is to firmly massage the pelvic area with lube.
The pelvic area of your wife is located between her vagina and about two inches below her belly button. This alone can give your wife an orgasm if you get her really hot.
Another simple technique you can apply when having sex is the “Pelvic Push”.
Another simple technique you can apply when having sex is the “Pelvic Push”. When having sex simply apply pressure or firmly rub this area.
This puts more pressure on what is going on inside her.
This will heighten her pleasure and lead her to orgasm quicker.
You may have to settle on your bed in place of a massage table, but it’ll do just fine.
Get some massage oil. Simply having this will make it appear like you know what you’re doing. You’ll need this stuff because it not only lets your hands glide freely, it also warms her muscles.
The result is complete relaxation.
Start with very slow, broad strokes that cover her entire back and legs (she should be naked with just a towel over her butt). But don’t neglect her arms and legs.
Some women go crazy when you massage their arms all the way to the hands. As you work up momentum, increase the pressure you apply.
You really want to focus on working the entire muscle, using your entire hand. As you end the massage, whisper something in her ear and buckle up!
Even if you don’t have sex right then and there, you can be assured shell be in a giving mood the next time you go at it.
Cook her dinner.
This one gets her excited because it shows you can do something other than shoot hoops.
But don’t try some fancy dish you probably can’t pull off.
If the food sucks, you’re basically back where you started. Try easy recipes like spaghetti or ravioli. Then, throw in some spices to class it up.
Just like a massage, you should set the mood before dinner.
If and when she asks to help, tell her to sit down and relax. Then go ahead and give her some bread, wine, or at least beer to nosh before the main course is ready.
Maybe let her lick a spoon to test the sauce.
Don’t focus completely on the food, you have to keep the conversation going, this shows her you can do two things at once.
When the food is up, serve her first and act like you care if she likes it.
You’ll know if you did well within the first few bites as women have an amazing ability to eat in a sexy way.
Start to feed her with your fork and rejoice in the fact that you’re much closer to sex than you were an hour ago.
Give her a gift.
Obvious sex-inducing gifts include handcuffs and KY.
But for a classier approach, consider getting her some expensive lingerie. These things are incredibly skimpy, so the gift will tell her you appreciate every part of her body and she has nothing to hide.
Take a shower with her.
Encourage her to hop in the shower with you before bed. Ideally, this will lead straight to shower sex.
One good position is to sit on the side and have her sit in your lap with her back to you.
If the shower head reaches, grab that thing and use it on her. She loves it and you look like an expert.
Even if you don’t have sex in the shower, you still have a great chance when you get out.
Encourage her to leave her towel on as you both watch TV and relax.
There’s no need to rush into clothes, the towels provide easy access for both of you. Plus, she appreciates your cleanliness and will be likely to explore parts she may otherwise shy away from.
Under no circumstances, should guys force anything on their wives. Don’t assume your partner is comfortable in her own skin.
A survey of 3,500 British women, by the bathroom equipment company SHUC, found that one woman in ten feels so embarrassed about her body that she turns the lights out before taking off her clothes.
The average woman still spends a lot of time every day beating herself up about her weight and looks.
Nakedness increases that vulnerability, so be sensitive to her insecurities and, if you think that your partner looks great, tell her.
You should get away for sexy breaks in order to perk up your sex life. You do any essential laundry and housework midweek and reserve one night for shopping for all those light, tempting, luxury, sexy foods you don’t usually allow yourselves.
A survey of 3,500 British women, by the bathroom equipment company SHUC, found that one woman in ten feels so embarrassed about her body that she turns the lights out before taking off her clothes.
Then, set your answering-machine before work saying that you’re away and the scene is now set for your sexy break at home.
Creeping into your house on this night, making sure no one spots you, is all part of the fun. So refuse to answer the doorbell during the weekend.
There are several advantages to this break-away-at-home as it’s much cheaper than going away, there’s no traveling involved, you can sleep as much as you want, you can catch up on all those recorded videos that you’ve kept meaning to view, and you can have sex in your own bed right through the weekend.
Couples who not only work, but who are parents too, have double the problems when it comes to romance.
But this is a period in your life when you really need all the close and loving contact you can get. So, it’s important to arrange time to enjoy each other’s bodies as much as possible.
Cultivate every relative you can muster, and gratefully accept all offers of baby-sitting for nights, days and whole weekends.
Grandparents are the usual source of doting help, but childless aunts and uncles generally long to play part-time parent, and they’re often so brilliantly inventive at activities, that your kids won’t want to come home.
Get together with the parents of all your children’s friends and fix some sleepovers for your 10-year-olds and older.
This modern trend, which kids love, can really give your relationship a boost. Of course, you’ll have to take your turn at being the host family and finding space for half a dozen kids and their sleeping bags, but this is a small price to pay for the freedom you’ll get on the other occasions when your kids are the guests. The important thing for parents is to try to recreate the feelings you had as a couple before you had children.
Try to keep your romantic levels topped up by having a child-free meal in the evenings wherever possible and try at these meals to dress up for each other and also to discuss topics that don’t include your children.
When you create a romantic setting, then you keep your love alive and you create an atmosphere in which sex is not just possible but likely.
Sexual Communication
Communication is the key to a healthy and active sex life in a marital relationship, so talk with one another more.
Share with one another your sexual desires.
Talk with one another about your expectations concerning lovemaking as false or unmet expectations can hurt your marriage.
Sexual intimacy is a continuing process of discovery. True intimacy through communication is what makes sex great.
Sex in a long lasting relationship can deepen and become a richer experience. No matter how many times you have made love to each other, the wonder and awe of mutual attraction can still be there.
When life becomes busy, and schedules are hectic, plan for sexual encounters with one another.
Make sex one of your main priorities. Try to set the mood in advance.
If you want to have good sex at night, start the foreplay in the morning.
Let your spouse know you care and are thinking about her throughout the day by notes, e-mails, phone calls, hugs, etc.
Discussing intimate things can sometimes be embarrassing, but you need to know what each other are thinking, wanting, and feeling. Try to put the embarrassing feeling behind you.
The theory that men know everything about making love and pleasing your wife is not true.
No two women are alike.
There is no way your man can know what his wife feels, what really turns her on, and what she needs to have an orgasm, unless she communicates and lets him know. So, don’t be afraid to ask!
It has always been said that the man should be the one to start the love making. Throw that theory out of the window!
Some men like when their wife takes control and starts the love making. Let her know that it is okay if she takes control sometimes.
There is no way your man can know what his wife feels, what really turns her on, and what she needs to have an orgasm, unless she communicates and lets him know. So, don’t be afraid to ask!
You would be surprised how many wives are dying to switch it up and take control more often. This alone might change everything in your love life! Try showing your wife what you would like for her to do.
Choose the right time to talk to your spouse, about the need to rejuvenate the ‘spark.’
Ensure that you do not strike up a conversation about the same during the working hours.
While talking about the sexual problem with your wife, be sure not to play the blame game.
Instead of pointing fingers at each other, work together in order to reach a
resolution, about the matter. This way, you will ensure that your partner is aware of what you exactly need.
Discuss your concerns and issues pertaining to the subject in a polite way, so that your wife doesn’t feel that she is offended.
Being able to look at yourself and at the unit is essential in evaluation of the issue.
Don’t sugarcoat the situation.
This is not the time to beat around the bush.
Be sincere and honest with yourself. Be sincere and honest with your spouse. In order to deal with the problem the cause and severity of the situation must be evaluated.
Now if you do not truthfully face the cause, you are wasting time. The solution could be as simple as increased communication. This is your wife which you have chosen to share your life with. Discuss the issues.
Discuss your concerns.
Be open to assistance. There are some great resources out there to be explored. Even sexually experienced men and women can be shy about asking for what they want in a sexual encounter, whether this means a particular position or activity (like oral sex), or a different approach to lovemaking (like taking it more slowly, for example).
But men often make assumptions about what your wife wants based upon what they’ve done with other women.But women aren’t all the same.
If you don’t ask for what you want, you’ll end up feeling resentful and disappointed, feelings which are bound to leak out in some way in your relationship.
Take the time and trouble to understand what your partner really wants from sex.
Don’t ever talk about your last wife’s ability in bed in a way that might suggest a comparison.
Also, don’t make comparisons about other wives’ willingness to try new positions or new sexual adventures.
If that’s what you want with your wife, just ask, simply and directly.
Many sexual activities can seem exciting, but they often don’t leave things the way they were before…if you both aren’t prepared to try them.
You may find once the excitement has died down, there’s a legacy of
resentment, so treat the subject carefully if this is really what you want to do. You need to work out how she feels about the idea before you start launching into the subject.
Women are generally more emotional than men. Let your wife know how much you love her and how close you feel to her.
Women like to feel emotionally close to their partner when they are intimate. Unresolved conflicts will interfere with your sex life, so take the time to apologize for anything you might have done wrong.
Both of you will feel better, and your intimate time together will be more special. Women can enjoy physical closeness without sex. Sometimes she just might want to cuddle and feel close to you.
If you are tired after a long day, do not give up and go off to a slumber.
Instead, ask her to sit close to you so that you can feel the warmth of her body next to yours.
Bask in the ‘warmth’ of her body for the next 15 to 30 minutes.
If possible ask for her bare skin. Once you are in such close physical proximity, chances are that she starts stroking your body to show that she is being aroused gently.
You may not have to exit your comfort zone to arouse sexual thoughts in your wife.
It could just be that you need to try out different ways or different places to have sex. Try it, you might be surprised.
Even try different strokes of foreplay to check whether this turns her on. Wives need reassurance all the time.
Tell her in as many words, that despite all the differences that exist between the two of you, you still love her and cannot love anyone else as long as you are with her.
Let her know that you value her presence in your life and want her every night, even after so many years. You would be surprised at what such frank
Foreplay Is The Way
Sex is the art of lovemaking and should be done with passion.
Try to satisfy your partner first and then work on your own satisfaction. Foreplay is the language of love, so make more time for foreplay.
Your wife needs to be properly aroused before starting sex; otherwise, it will not be an enjoyable experience for her.
Each partner has their own variations to foreplay and may discover some mutual fetishes and then play accordingly.
They can fondle each other’s bodies especially breasts and nipples, deep-throat tongue kissing, oral stimulation of the male organ by the female partner, or oral stimulation of female genitals by the male partner.
The average woman takes 15 to 20 minutes of stimulation to achieve an orgasm; the average man takes 3 to 5.
If you are not bridging this gap, your relationship will be turning for the worse. Women take a lot of foreplay while men do not.
Women take longer to get aroused than men, and often find touch to their genitals or breasts without adequate foreplay to be simply irritating.
If you dive straight onto her vulva, clitoris, or breasts, because that’s what you’d like her to do with your penis, you’re probably going to find that you aren’t welcome.
Women become aware of their desire to be touched sexually by being touched on their non-sexual areas first.
So take it slow, put feeling into what you’re doing, and above all treat her clitoris with care.
Just like your wife’s clitoris, her nipples are sensitive and need to be treated with respect at first.
A lot of women will tell you that nipple play is very exciting; it sends a direct tingle of sexual excitement to their vagina and clitoris.
But you have to time it right.
Teasing her nipples with your lips and tongue, maybe even your teeth, might excite her, but if you do it too soon, it’s more likely to make her shriek with pain rather than delight.
Sit snugly together, hold hands and talk romantically to each other. Your woman needs to be properly aroused before starting sex; otherwise, it will not be an enjoyable experience for her.
You will start enjoying your sexual encounters more once you make foreplay a mandatory part of it.
Foreplay is just like the warm-up that you do before the exercise. It increases sexual stimulation and prepares you for pleasurable sexual activity.
Make certain that your partner knows how attractive you find her by paying as much attention to kissing her, complimenting her, and generally spoiling her.
Don’t neglect the breasts and other erogenous zones. Just don’t rush into sex and focus attention immediately on the genitalia.
Take it slowly. Learn to massage.
This can easily shade into great foreplay, especially if your partner is tired or stressed.
Learn to concentrate on your partner’s bodyand what she wants you to do. There are many erogenous parts in the body that can arouse your partner. Avoid concentrating only on your own body.
Kissing is considered to be a very important part of the sexual activity. You can consider that sex is incomplete without kissing.
Women love to kiss very much and become aroused when they are kissed by their partner. Thus, you should make it a point to remember to kiss your partner more during sex.
Don’t drool all over her mouth while kissing.
Most women don’t like wet or sloppy kisses (although some women do enjoy them during sex).
Don’t keep your lips stiff and rigid.
You’ve got to keep your lips soft and sensuous. She needs to be able to feel your lips.
Don’t keep your lips closed. Open your lips; women don’t enjoy kissing just a slit on a guys face.
Bear in mind the hands should not be used to prevent the woman from going anywhere or to clamp her head into one uncomfortable position.
Remember most women like men to toy gently with their hair.
Keep in mind that using your tongue is not required for kissing, if you are not experienced, save the French kissing (kissing using your tongue) for later. Lots of the greatest kisses are all about the lips.
Don’t neglect the breasts and other erogenous zones. Just don’t rush into sex and focus attention immediately on the genitalia.
Caress her lips by brushing your lips back and forth against them, lick the outside corners of her mouth, and try using different pressures and movements to gently explore your partner’s lips.
Notice how good her lips feel against yours, and try different things to make them feel even better.
Close your eyes when you feel your lips touching hers. Looking into the other person’s eyes while kissing is not very comfortable for most. Closing your eyes takes the feeling to an altogether different level.
Maintain good oral hygiene. Smokers beware. No woman likes kissing a man whose mouth smells like an ashtray.
Use mouthwash, mint, etc. to keep your breath fresh. If your wife turns away or pulls back, then wait. She may not be ready. If so, then respect her decision. A kiss should be two pairs of lips meeting each other, not one pair forcing itself on the other.
Most women really appreciate a good kisser; it’s such a romantic and intimate act as it can communicate to your wife exactly how you feel about her.
Most women think of kissing as one of the most romantic things there is, and they value a man who knows how to do it well. So learn how to kiss sensitively, put some feeling into your lips as you do it, and don’t just resort to sticking your tongue in her mouth and wiggling it around.
The sensitive spots that make her shiver with delight might be behind her knees, in the crook of her elbows, across her belly or on her earlobes, but if you don’t find them, she’ll assume you’re not really interested in her pleasure and probably mark you down as a second rate lover, selfishly concerned only with getting your penis into her vagina as soon as possible.
You need to take the time to find out what turns her on, and where those
deliciously sensitive bits of her body are to be found. That’s the kind of thing that will make her see you as a considerate lover, and that will make her want to please you, which means you’ll have a much better time in bed.
You probably know that her vaginal lubrication is the equivalent of your erection. But the fact that she’s wet doesn’t mean she’s ready for sex. In research, it’s been shown that even when women are very wet they may still not feel aroused mentally.
In short, your wife has to be ready both physically and mentally for sex. It’s wrong to assume that as soon as her vagina is juicy, you can just stick your penis in and she’ll be happy. Far from it, she will show you when she wants you in there, and,
You need to take the time to find out what turns her on, and where those deliciously sensitive bits of her body are to be found. That’s the kind of thing that will make her see you as a considerate lover, and that will make her want to please you, which means you’ll have a much better time in bed.
no matter how wet she is, you would do well to wait until there’s no doubt she wants to be penetrated.
Your wife has to feel ready to accept you into her body, and that may be some time after she’s physically ready for sex. When you understand that, you’re a long way down the road to being a considerate and desirable lover.
Make it clear that you desire her. Nothing turns your wife on more than the fact that she is loved and desired by her man. Yet “love” is such a powerful word that it’s wrong to use it unless you actually feel it.
The words “I love you” have the power to melt your wife’s heart and open her body to you. So be careful how you use them.
If you desire her, and tell her so, you make her feel appreciated and womanly, which will turn her on.
You can also say something like, “You are so beautiful.”
The art of this kind of communication is not to make her think you want her only for sex, but to convey how much you appreciate her and her feminine sexuality, to tell her how much you appreciate the joy and pleasure that her body and mind can give you.
We all know that men like their penises to be stimulated early on during sex, and with a firm pressure.
This is so different to the way women like to be touched: women appreciate a gentle touch to the clitoris as it’s a very sensitive organ, and you can’t handle it in the way you want your penis to be touched and expect her to respond by getting aroused.
It’s best to work up to touching breasts and vagina by kissing and touching around them first.
The clitoris is extremely sensitive, and most women dislike being touched there too early on in lovemaking.
As a general guide, it’s only after being kissed, caressed and touched elsewhere, all over her body, belly, back, neck, shoulders, and indeed touched enough to become so aroused that she is producing vaginal lubrication, that your wife is ready for her wife to approach her clitoris.
Too much touch is not only irritating for her but can also be quite painful. Once your wife is aroused, touching and licking on and around her clitoris can be extremely exciting for her.
This is so different to the way women like to be touched: women appreciate a gentle touch to the clitoris as it’s a very sensitive organ, and you can’t handle it in the way you want your penis to be touched and expect her to respond by getting aroused.
Gaining more knowledge is the first step to improving your performance in bed. Learning new skills, techniques and information can help you satisfy your wife more than ever before.
The clitoris is located at the very top of the vaginal opening, hidden underneath the flaps of skin commonly known as the “vaginal lips.” When it is stimulated it fills with blood and is more noticeable and easier to locate.
You need to understand that the “clit” is sensitive, about twice as sensitive as your penis head. Your wife’s clitoris is many times more sensitive than any penis ever was. This is because it has ten times as many sensitive nerve endings in its glands, which is much smaller than a man’s.
You may need to be reassuring about how she smells as a lot of women think their vulva is dirty, no matter how much you tell them it’s delightful.
Of course, if it is a bit ripe, then why not have a bath or shower before sex, using non-allergenic, pH balanced washing products which won’t irritate her sensitive parts in the same way as soap.
Be tactful!
Don’t say anything about her body which will hurt her, she’s got enough cultural baggage about female smells, fluids and bodily appearance to last her a lifetime, and if you add to it, you might not be getting good sex anytime soon.
Be gentle and have a semi-soft touch.
Stimulate the surrounding areas first so it has time to get moist and swell up. The best way to stimulate the clitoris is to use your tongue, fingertips, or penis. When you stimulate it, start out slow and work your way up to a faster harder motion.
Some women like it rough while others do not. You will need to figure that out on your own.
It is sensitive and too much roughness is only going to feel unpleasant to her. But even though your wife may find it incredibly erotic and powerful when you stimulate her clitoris, she will almost certainly want you to focus on other parts of her body as well from time to time: her nipples and breasts for they are two of the most erotic and erogenous zones on her body; her belly, neck, lips and face; and her buttocks may be aching for your touch and caresses as you make love to her.
If you’re using your fingers to play on or around her clitoris, then you’ll certainly need some lubrication, either her natural vaginal juices if she produces enough, or saliva, frequently replenished from your mouth.
This will give you the perfect opportunity to kiss or lick her vulva, which can be as delightful for you as for her.
If you prefer, you can use some artificial lubricant instead.
You must use a water-based lube if you are going to wear a condom later on when you penetrate her.
When you ask women to name their favorite sexual activity, many of them will say it is oral sex.
Women love the wetness, the warmth of your tongue on their labia and clitoris, the intimacy and the symbolic act of love that it entails.
So if you’re not making sure she receives adequate cunnilingus or masturbation, she will become unsatisfied and withdraw from the relation and the same is true if you don’t masturbate her from time to time.
If you are kissing your partner and leading down to the belly button with no intention of going further, you will only frustrate her.
If you aren’t going to go down, then don’t head down there.
If you are going to give her oral sex, then planting kisses from her mouth and neck down to her breasts and stomach to her hips and thighs is a good way to get her excited.
When you are kissing her thighs very close to (but not on) her genitalia, she will become moist with desire to feel your lips on her vagina.
Give her left thigh a couple of soft, passionate kisses, then do the same on her right thigh, but as you go from one to the other, make sure to very gently brush your face against her vulva - but very lightly and quickly, as if it is happening by accident.
Do this a couple of times and this is almost guaranteed to get her wet. After teasing her vagina and getting it wet and not giving it any pleasure, slowly start applying a little more pressure on it and you will probably feel her thrusting her vagina into you because it is now aching for satisfaction.
Don’t repeat the move more than 5 to 6 times because at a certain point, teasing becomes frustrating and will turn her off.
When you feel her desire has built up enough, start giving her very light kisses around and on her vagina and gradually focus in on her clitoris with harder and harder kisses and eventually get some licks in there too.
This move feels extremely exciting for the woman when she is still wearing undies as you are kissing and licking her vagina through them because it feels like even more of a tease that way and makes it that much better when you finally take them off. Tease her as you make love.
Try this: when you are giving her oral sex, stop and do something else - ask her to give you some oral sex, for instance.
This will let her arousal drop a little, so when you start giving her oral sex again, her arousal has to build up once more.
If you repeat this a few times during your lovemaking, she will have a much more powerful orgasm when she does eventually cum.
Have your wife kneel in front of you on her knees and hands.
You’ll want this to be a comfortable experience for her, so make sure her knees are padded with carpet or pillows.
If she has long hair, you might want to have her put it in a ponytail so it will not get in the way.
Tease your wife.
Get her really worked up by tracing a feather down her spine or gently massaging her body before you begin the spanking.
Try spanking her lightly and work your way up with more force.
Spank different parts of her butt to see which places she likes it and which places she doesn’t.
Focus on the places that she likes it, but do not spank the same spot for too long or it will turn red and become painful.
Use different things for spanking.
Most people start off with their hands, but if you visit a sex toy shop, you’ll find many whips and paddles that are made for spanking your wife.
Of course, make sure she’s okay with it before using a new object in the bedroom.
Also,make sure that you have a safe word set up that you both recognize to mean “stop” when you are spanking her (or doing anything else).
The word should be something not related to sex (“baseball” or “rain”) and
something that you will not be confused about when hearing and when your wife says the safe word immediately stop the spanking.
In sex, women “come” first.
Part of being a good lover, of course, is being able to last long enough in bed that your partner is fully satisfied, meaning she has been able to have an orgasm through intercourse before you ejaculate, (provided she is able to have an orgasm that way.)
There are alternatives, if you find that you can’t last long enough in bed for her to cum as part of vaginal intercourse.
For example, you can bring her to orgasm through oral sex or masturbation before you enter her and indulge in intercourse.
Part of being a good lover, of course, is being able to last long enough in bed that your partner is fully satisfied, meaning she has been able to have an orgasm through intercourse before you ejaculate, (provided she is able to have an orgasm that way.)
Do it by oral sex, masturbation, using a sex toy, or whatever.
But give her pleasure before you have an orgasm yourself because very few women ever orgasm through vaginal sex alone, and in some ways it may not even be that important to your wife. Many women appreciate sex because it feels nice, or because their partner gets pleasure from it.
There are certain things you should absolutely never do when you want to get oral sex from her.
Don’t try to force her head towards your erection as a hint that she should give you oral sex.
If you want her to give you head, ask her for it, and when she’s doing it, if you’d like her to do something different, tell her, and don’t just resort to those kinds of crass movements.
Be courteous and don’t expect her to deep throat you.
Semen can taste unpleasant, so she may not want it in her mouth. If she’s willing to try taking your semen, then prepare yourself by eating pineapple (they say it makes semen taste nicer).
Do not ask her to swallow after you’ve had curry, beer, or asparagus, because she’ll probably never go near your penis again.
When Two Become “One”
Men don’t always appreciate how much penetration means to your wife: it’s the ultimate act of trust and love, and when your wife gives her body to a man she makes a great emotional investment and perhaps takes a significant risk. So this act of love requires sensitivity on the part of the man and that can be demonstrated in many ways:
By looking into her eyes as you push your penis into her vagina. By asking if you may enter her.
By taking her strongly with manly pride as her wife, when you know that’s what she’ll appreciate.
By being sensitive to her needs at all times.
The key thing is to penetrate her with respect and appreciate the honor she is paying you by taking your penis into her body.
Penetrate her sensitively and mindfully every time you do it.
Sure, it can be exciting to rip your clothes off as you rush to the bed, and it can be very exciting to have intercourse with your clothes on, your penis thrusting out of your pants, her underwear pulled to one side to expose her vagina as you push into her from behind. But sex is not always so frenetic and urgent, and most of the time you’ll want to take it more slowly and romantically.
Trying to get into her before she’s ready or willing to be entered is a huge mistake.
You need to skillfully judge the moment to enter her, whether with a finger or two, your penis, or indeed anything else, so that you don’t go in before she’s ready. That means before she’s mentally and emotionally ready, she may well be wet enough long before she wants anything put inside her vagina.
You can judge this with experience by her desire, expressed in verbal or non-verbal form, to be penetrated.
One helpful sign is a gentle wave-like motion of her hips, or a kind of thrusting motion as she raises her vulva towards you.
It is extremely important to make sure that your wife is sufficiently aroused before you try to enter her.
When she is fully ready, her vaginal muscles are relaxed, her vulva is swollen and full of blood, and she is lubricating.
If you are trying to get inside her before that point, you it is no fun for her. The key thing is to penetrate her with respect and appreciate the honor she is paying you by taking your penis into her body.
However, she probably wouldn’t let you know that, so it is your responsibility to make sure she is ready.
You can always stay on the safe side and when you think she might be ready, give her vagina a few nice smacks with your penis and this is sure to get her juices flowing.
Nothing seems to be as much of a turn-off for your wife as a man who can’t enter her gracefully.
It’s not a problem if you occasionally have to ask her to guide you in. Indeed, if it’s a straight choice between you blindly pushing your penis at her for five minutes before you finally find her vagina, or just asking her to lend a helping hand.
An Intercourse On Intercourse
A lot of guys think they should be silent during sex, but unless you speak up, your partner has to guess what’s doing it for you and what isn’t.
If you’re respectful about it, your wife, who wants to please you, will appreciate some directions.
Guys sometimes get hung up if your wife doesn’t get slippery enough for easy penetration.
Don’t worry about it.
Some women tend to get wetter than others, and how much natural lubrication your wife has can change from day to day. It varies by the phase of her
menstrual cycle.
Compliment her body during the sex.
This will add more passion to your sexual encounter.
Avoid making sex mechanical. Make it more passionate by making sounds and screams when you enjoy certain acts of your partner.
It is very necessary to make the sexual encounter playful.
You should remember that sex is not a serious act; it is a playful act in which both the partners actively participate.
Play different games to make your sex life spicier and to avoid the boredom. Women usually like men who are playful in sexual activity rather than serious. Thrusting hard until you come without thought for her pleasure is one of the great mistakes.
From your wife’s point of view, there’s nothing worse than a guy who gets so carried away with his own pleasure that he just thrusts away until he comes, without so much as a thought for what she might want.
Certainly, there will be times when she is just happy to see you take your pleasure in her body, and come with a powerful and massive ejaculation, but most of the time she’s going to want to be in on the act in a more active way!
Some women tend to get wetter than others, and how much natural lubrication a woman has can change from day to day. It varies by the phase of her menstrual cycle.
From a woman’s point of view, there’s nothing worse than a guy who gets so carried away with his own pleasure that he just thrusts away until he comes, without so much as a thought for what she might want.
