50 Tips for Attraction

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Attraction Mastery Vol. I

50 Amazing Tips For Guaranteed Success With Women

by Scott Patterson

http://www.chickmagnet101.com

How You Can Finally Get That ONE Girl You’ve ALWAYS WantedÆ Click Here

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Introduction

Let's be honest here…

The dating scene can be quite intimidating!

While there might be thousands of available women in your area, you have almost no chance of success if you don't know how to approach and or get them interested in you. Now if you're like most guys, you may have trouble talking to women or thinking of what to say in order to make them attracted to you. In fact, you're probably missing golden opportunities to meet beautiful and interesting women.

From my experience with my website, I've discovered that many guys need help in a variety of areas with women. For instance, here are some of the common questions I receive from my readers:

• Where do I find available women?

• How can I approach them without using some lame pick up lines? • What can I say to a woman to make her attracted to me?

• What do I talk about during my first conversation?

• How can I get a woman's phone number and set up the initial date? • Where should I go on my first date and what I should say?

• How can make things more intimate and perhaps seduce her?

As you can see, I get a lot of questions about how to meet and attract women.

So for the past months, I've been busy helping hundreds of guys learn how to succeed with women.

That's where this ebook comes in…

I've taken my best tips created this report to give you a crash course on attracting women. So sit back, read these 50 tips, then implement them into your life!

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Mental Game

Tip #1- How to Improve Your Self Confidence

If you've ever tried to attract a woman, then you know your success depends on your self-confidence.

The more confidence you have, the better off you'll be!

So what should you do if you lack self confidence around women? Well here are a few tips you can use to raise your self-esteem:

1) Learn to relax

Before approaching women, put yourself in a relaxed state by paying attention to your posture and body. Then concentrate on a positive outcome from the conversation you're about to have. If you can remove all expectations you'll become more relaxed around women. So remind yourself that any negative outcome won't affect your life.

2) Try meditation and exercising

There are certain activities (meditation, yoga, and tai-chi) which will make you more relaxed. By practicing these exercises, you'll be able to put yourself into a positive state whenever you need it, including the times when you're trying to pick up women. So if you're serious about building self confidence, try one of these activities.

3) Use your strengths

One quick way to build self-confidence is to write down all of the qualities that make you a great person. Then whenever you're faced with a situation where you're not feeling confident, just recite the affirmations about your positive qualities.

By mentally reviewing your strengths, you'll be able to quickly ramp up your levels of confidence.

4) Positive at all times

It's widely known that guys who smile and have a positive outlook tend to attract more women.

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© 2008 Scott Patterson – All Rights Reserved http://www.chickmagnet101.com So no matter what you're feeling inside, ALWAYS have a upbeat attitude and do your best to be a guy who women enjoy being around. What's funny is even when you *fake* a confident personality, you'll eventually develop this personality trait!

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Tip #2- How to be the MAN that women want

Today I was reading a book on changing your lifestyle, when I came to a sudden

realization. Sometimes the best way to attract a woman is to work on YOURSELF first. In other words, you have to learn…

How to become a MAN!

The truth is a LOT of women are fed up with dating guys who act like little boys. If you can learn what is attractive to women, then you’ll stand out from these low status men. So why is it important to become a MAN?

Well it's simple. By being a REAL man, you'll exude a variety of positive characteristics. And these core set of traits can help you become more naturally attractive to women. The question is- What virtues should you develop?

Well in my opinion, there are a number of strong character traits you should develop. Here are just a FEW of them:

• Honor • Integrity

• Passion for life • Goal orientation • Confidence • Humility

• Calmness under pressure

• Generosity to friends, family and even strangers • Leadership

• Courage and conviction • Decisiveness

• Humor

Now you might be overwhelmed by the number of traits I’ve described. It definitely sounds like a lot to work on. But if you want to become more attractive to women, then you MUST do your best to work on all these areas of your life.

I challenge you to take each trait and rate yourself on how well you fit this description. Then discipline yourself to improve on EACH of these character traits.

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Tip #3- Eliminating Your Approach Anxiety

Approach anxiety happens to the best of us! We’ve all had that terrifying fear of walking up to women and initiating a conversation.

The truth is these anxious feelings can be traced back to early human development. Back then, there was REAL danger in approaching women. If you talked to a female who was attached to another man, you could get smacked over the head with a club.

As you can see, approach anxiety is a NORMAL feeling that we all get. But should you let it control you?

The obvious answer is NO!

Although approach anxiety is commonplace, you should NEVER let it control you. Remember that we've all been at this point in our lives. The best “Pick Up Artists” in the world are the guys who overcame these feelings.

Now if you want to overcome your own anxious feelings, then you should follow the same technique I used to move beyond approach anxiety…

Talk to every woman you encounter!

Many budding PUAs make the mistake of ONLY approaching women during a specific time during the week. Then they build up a LOT of anxious feelings about initiating conversations with women.

The solution to this problem is pretty easy. Instead of only approaching a girl during your trips to bar or club, you should initiate conversations with the women you encounter throughout the day.

The beauty of this technique is you do NOT have to worry about trying to "pick up" these women. Instead you're using opportunities to PRACTICE your conversation skills and reduce nervousness. The point I'm trying to make is you can quickly ELIMINATE your approach anxiety if talking to women becomes second nature.

To get started, all you have to do is initiate conversations with the women you encounter throughout the day.

For instance, here are some girls you can talk to:

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• Women who sit near you in class

• Any girl who helps you in clothing stores

• Females who work with you

• Women that you encounter on trains and subways

• Any girl waiting on the line with you

Remember that you DON'T have to use a smooth opener or conversation starter. Just start talking to them in a normal manner.

Approach anxiety is something which all men have at some point in their lives. But you should NEVER let it control you. If you make it a habit to talk to women

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Tip #4- Overcome Your Fear of Rejection

One major stumbling block to your success with women comes down to your ability to handle rejection. The simple truth is many guys have built up a MAJOR fear of rejection. If you have this phobia, then you're severely decreasing your chances at meeting and attracting the kind of women you want.

Now there is a way to quickly overcome this fear. All you have to do is implement a trick my friend John taught me called "Going Kamikaze". The technique is simple. Every time you see an interesting woman, you approach WITHOUT hesitation.

To be honest, I don't always agree with some of John's routines, but there is something to be learned about initiating conversations without thinking about it. He succeeds with a lot of women simply because he has no fear of rejection. While John knows he MIGHT get rejected, he's able to remove all negative thoughts from his head and focus on the moment.

He's able to overcome HIS fear of rejection because he acts on instinct rather then dwell on what could go wrong. But what he does is NOT for the weak of heart. If you're uncomfortable with talking to ANY girl, then you need to take drastic measures to get over your feelings of possible rejection.

A great trick I learned about eliminating the fears of rejection is to understand it's more important to think about the present moment rather then any negative thoughts which you might have. All you need to do is focus on enjoying the conversation and having fun with the girl, rather then "trying to score".

Instead of letting your fears control you, try to reprogram yourself to approach without hesitation. So if you see an interesting woman, approach her with the SOLE intention of just striking up a conversation. When you tell yourself that you're JUST having a

conversation becomes easier to eliminate your fears.

What's funny is when you approach lots of women you'll discover it's not as bad as you think. After awhile your fears will slowly diminish. And your overall success will increase.

If you follow my advice and learn how to approach automatically you'll discover your fear of rejection can be overcome.

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Tip #5- The Real Truth About The ‘Nice Guy Myth’

In this tip, I am going to talk about "The Nice Guy".

Now there are a lot of guys who try too hard with women. Typically these men are always ready to buy gifts do favors for girls "they like". But because of their supplicating behavior, they end up repelling women instead of attracting them.

Without going into too much female psychology, the nice guy presents no challenge to women. Most of them want a guy who interests them and presents a challenge.

As a result, you HAVE to demonstrate that you're a challenge to any woman you're trying to attract. This means you should create a strict set of standards and then ONLY do things if they comply with your personal code. Furthermore, you should challenge women if they're disrespecting you or not matching up to your expectations.

While you might feel weird or think you're disrespecting women, there are strict rules for attracting them. By not kissing a girl's ass and doing everything she asks, you'll get rid of the 'Nice Guy' persona. This will help you transform yourself into the kind of guy who all women desire.

The final way to stop being the proverbial nice guy is to learn how to be confident around women. This is especially true if they challenge or try to reject you.

By carrying yourself with an "I don't care what happens" attitude, you'll act like a man who isn't concerned about the outcomes of an interaction with women. In fact, you'll look like you're not trying too hard.

So if you want to stop being a nice guy, you should set up a code of conduct and

transform yourself into a confident guy. Then you'll become an interesting and exciting person.

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Tip #6- How to Overcome Your Sticking Points

When it comes to women, we ALL have certain strengths and weaknesses. For instance, some guys are great at approaching women, but can’t create attraction. And others can display a confident personality, but don’t know how to use openers.

Unfortunately being “great with women” comes down to your ability to OVERCOME your weakness rather then relying on your strengths.

What does this mean to you?

Well, if you want to increase your success with women, then you MUST identify the specific obstacles (Often known as ‘Sticking Points’) that are holding you back. Then once you’ve spotted these weaknesses, you should work on fixing them.

I suggest a simple technique. Analyze the ways you try to meet women and break down the different obstacles into SMALL manageable steps. By doing it this way, you’ll identify and laser-target the problems you’re experiencing.

For instance, here are a few sticking-points that affect a LOT of guys • Being controlled by approach anxiety

• Showing low status body language

• Knowing the right way to approach women • How to start talking to women

• Understanding Indicators of Interest and when a woman is flirting • How to go from an opener to having a REAL conversation

• Getting a woman’s number and setting up a date

• Knowing how to progress from a date to a *physical* encounter

As you can see, there are a lot of ‘sticking points’ that hold guys back. Perhaps you have a few of them.

Part of being successful with women is accepting that you aren’t perfect. But it’s also about identifying your problem areas and having the courage to fix what you can. My advice is to analyze the things you’re doing wrong. Then FIX them! If you can overcome your sticking points, then you’ll experience a dramatic growth in your game. Ultimately this will help you transform into the kind of guy who can naturally attract a woman

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Tip #7- Why Your Fear of Failure Is Holding You Back

"Oh my God, I can't just walk up and talk to her. What if I fail?"

This is a TOO common statement I hear from guys. A lot of men are afraid to simply approach a woman and initiate a conversation. They're showing their fear because of one thing: FAILURE.

The fear of rejection is an incredible powerful emotion. It can prevent you from taking that first step towards attracting a woman. One of the more common reasons for this anxiety is worrying that women will mock or ridicule you in some way. While this might happen, it's better to face this fear than run away from it.

If you allow fear to control your actions, you'll miss out on many opportunities to talk to women. Now I know anxiety is a commonplace thing, but you should NEVER allow it to dictate what you can or can't do. Instead of letting it control your actions, you should learn to embrace your failures. And here's the reason why…

A great comparison for dating is comparing it to baseball. In this sport, a guy is a "Hall of Fame Player" if he gets a hit 3 or 4 times for every 10 at bats. You should follow this same philosophy when you're talking to a woman. Just understand that failure is part of the whole process. Even the guys with the BEST approach techniques will meet a woman who won't be interested in them.

It's important to remember that failure is a positive not a negative. You should learn to use it as a learning experience and use this opportunity to increase your overall "dating skill set". So the next you "strike out" with a woman don't get frustrated. Just analyze the interaction and ask yourself:

• Did I talk to fast/slow/loud? • Did I demonstrate higher status?

• Was she available or does she have a boyfriend? • Did I successfully create a dynamic conversation? • Was I funny, charming and confident?

When evaluate your *performance*, you can learn a lot from your mistakes. Then you can apply them when you next talk to a woman. When you eliminate your fear of failure and understand that it's a GOOD thing, then you'll see a dramatic increase in your dating success.

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Tip #8- Stop Worrying About Your Looks

When it comes to dating, guys have a LOT of fears. Whether they feel they're too bald, too short, or too fat, some men feel their personal appearance prevents them from talking to women.

So the question is this:

Is your appearance THAT important?

Well the short answer is NO. But let me explain my rationale…

As men we're primarily attracted to the stereotypical "Hot Girl". And according to popular men's magazines all guys desire thin, blonde-haired, and large-breasted models. (While you might have different tastes, this type of girl is statistically found to be the most popular type of woman among men.)

Now what's interesting is women are attracted to different things then men. First off, each woman has varied tastes in men. What they find attractive really depends on their

personality. Some love large hulking men, while others are attracted to thin, intellectual types.

In addition women are PRIMARILY attracted to traits which are not based on personal appearance. Things like confidence, goal orientation and humor are all traits which can attract a woman.

Obviously this is good news!

No matter what faults you might find in your own appearance, you can still be VERY successful with women. If you know how to demonstrate an attractive personality then it becomes EASY to succeed with women.

So the moral of this post is to STOP worrying about your looks. Instead try to focus on these things:

• Being cocky/funny

• Knowing how to build confidence, • Developing great openers

• Being able to demonstrate higher value • Eliminating self limiting beliefs

When you develop these core traits your looks won't matter. You'll be able to attract beautiful women through your own unique personality.

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Tip #9- How Your Failures Can Bring You Success

The way you view an event determines how much you can learn from each experience! What do I mean? Well, it’s simple. How you view the world has a direct impact on your success with women. If you beat yourself up every time a woman rejects you, then you won’t make any progress with your dating life.

On the other hand, if you develop a positive attitude about life, you’ll discover how to learn from each experience and grow as a man!

Awhile back I discovered an interesting thing about men and how they view rejection. Whenever a guy is turned down by a woman, he uses “self-talk” to beat himself up. If a guy is rejected by a girl, he thinks there must be something wrong with him!

So in order to experience DRAMATIC growth in your dating life, you must learn to develop a positive outlook on EACH interaction with a woman. Regardless of the outcome!

In order to do this, you can try a simple technique I learned from NLP and cognitive psychology- The REFRAMING Technique

The reframing technique is easy to learn. Whenever you’re faced with a potentially negative outcome, you learn to discover the positive results from the situation. This means asking yourself what BENEFIT you just received from this “negative” situation. While you may think it sounds like a lot of “psycho-babble”, I’ve discovered that reframing is an excellent way to LEARN from each experience. And by doing this regularly, you’ll experience dramatic success with women.

Here’s an example of how reframing would work:

Say you learned a brand new opener that you want to test out. You head over to your local bar and approach 10 groups of women. The problem is all 10 groups reject you! Most guys would view this as a negative experience and feel that they’re not “good-looking enough” to attract a woman.

However, YOU understand the importance of reframing. You look at this situation and examine what benefit you’ve just received. By being “rejected” by 10 women, you have concrete proof that the opener does NOT work for you. This means that you have to go back and find a new way to approach women.

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© 2008 Scott Patterson – All Rights Reserved http://www.chickmagnet101.com Plus by approaching 10 groups of women, you’ve just acquired ten new experiences you can use to overcome your approach anxiety. Simply by initiating conversations with this many groups, you’ve learned that approaching isn’t as hard as you once thought.

In order to MASTER your success with women, you should adopt a positive outlook at everything you experience. And by implementing the “reframing technique”, you’ll discover that every negative outcome will help you grow as a person!

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Approaching Women

Tip #10- The Best Way to Start a Conversation

"How can I initiate a conversation with an attractive woman?"

This is ONE major question I receive all the time from the readers of my newsletter. What happens is these guys see interesting women, but have NO CLUE how to approach and start talking to them. Typically they make the mistake of reciting a corny pick up line they heard from their friends.

Now let me tell you a little secret about pick up lines…

THEY NEVER WORK!

Sorry for shouting, but it drives me nuts when I hear some ass use a cheesy pick up line straight from the 70's. Not only are pick up lines offensive to women, but they actively telegraph your interest. (This is a bad thing to do)

So the question is how can you initiate a conversation without using a pick up line? Well it's simple. All you have to do is use an OPENER!

What is an opener?

Basically an opener is ANY conversation starter you use which attracts the interest and attention of the women you're approaching. You use it to begin a conversation which gets women talking instead of putting them in an awkward situation.

It differs from a pick up line because it sparks conversations and solicits their opinion. Also openers don't come across as sleazy and creepy. When used correctly you appear as a guy who is innocently asking a woman's opinion.

Openers work because:

1) You're not telegraphing your intention 2) Women love to give their opinions 3) You can act funny AND interesting

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© 2008 Scott Patterson – All Rights Reserved http://www.chickmagnet101.com The key to crafting the perfect opener is to make it an open-ended question which involves all the people in the group you're approaching. All that's required is for you to walk up to a group, ask their opinion and get them talking.

So the opener should NEVER be a question that can be answered with a quick YES or NO response. Instead the conversation starter should get the group talking and make them interested in what you have to say.

Now here are few rules you can use to craft a good opener:

Step 1- Use a time constraint

If a group thinks you'll only stay for a few minutes, they'll respond more positively to your opener. If you attract their interest and attention, they won't care if told them that you would only take a few minutes of their time.

Step 2- Make your opener interesting and funny

In order to be perceived as an interesting guy you should keep your opener fun and lighthearted. Try to fabricate an opener from your life or use something which can develop into a great topic of conversation.

Step 3- Give them a reason why you're asking their opinion

To make spark the curiosity of the woman you're approaching you need to give a reason WHY you're asking them a question. In other words, you shouldn't seem like you're randomly walking around the room asking questions from random strangers. Simply tell them that you were having a conversation with your buddy and you needed an opinion from different people.

Now that you understand the principles behind an opener, it's time to create your own. What you should do is sit down and create 3-4 different openers which match your personality. Just think of funny or interesting things within your life and then create an opener around it.

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Tip #11- The ‘3 Second Rule’ for Approaching

Like I said before, you can eliminate your approach anxiety by talking to every woman you encounter. When you practice talking to women ALL the time, this skill will come to you naturally. Then approaching them won’t seem as difficult.

Now in addition to talking to every woman you see, today I wanted to discuss a technique which is equally important. It’s called ‘The Three Second Rule’ for approaching women. The process is simple. Whenever you see an attractive woman, you give yourself ONLY three seconds before approaching her. Once you think of an opener, you approach her WITHOUT hesitation and initiate a conversation.

The idea behind this technique is to prevent approach anxiety. When you take a long time to approach, negative thoughts could make you nervous about talking to her. And you might even “psych yourself out”.

In other words when you hesitate on the approach, you’ll diminish your chances of success.

But when you only take three seconds to initiate a conversation, you’ll have NO chance of letting approach anxiety affect you. In other words, you won’t have time to think about what could go wrong. Instead you focus on what you want to say THEN approach her. What’s interesting is ‘The Three Second Rule’ can make approach women by reflex. If you do it enough, you’ll start conversations without thinking about it! Then you’ll be a lucky guy who has very LITTLE approach anxiety.

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Tip #12- 5 Items You Need For Approaching

If you want to succeed with women, then you have to remember a lesson many us learned as a Boy Scout:

"Always be prepared"

Yes, by making certain preparations each night you'll experience a dramatic increase in your success.

What I mean is this. The items you carry can have a direct effect on your ability to attract a woman. If you think ahead and carry certain "critical" things, you'll be prepared for specific scenarios which come up in the dating game.

The following are 5 of the most important things you should carry every time you go out to meet women:

1- Pen or Cell Phone

One of your primary goals when meeting women is to get a phone number or set up a date. Now unless you have photographic memory, you'll need some way to jot down a girl's digits. That's why it's ALWAYS important to carry a pen or cell phone with you.

2- Lighter

While you might not be a smoker it's still important to carry a lighter. During the course of an evening, you'll probably encounter a few women who need a light. You can easily use your lighter to initiate a conversation.

3- Camera

Having a camera is a great way to demonstrate higher value around women. When working a bar/club environment, it's important to be perceived as fun and exciting. You can use a camera to demonstrate this quality by taking fun pictures of you and your friends.

Also a camera is a great way to initiate a conversation with a woman. Simply find an attractive girl and ask her to take a picture of your friends. Then after she takes the picture, you can use a cocky/funny routine to continue the conversation.

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© 2008 Scott Patterson – All Rights Reserved http://www.chickmagnet101.com The quickest turn off to a woman is having bad breath. To prevent this, you should carry an assortment of breath mints and gum. Usually mint flavor gum or Altoids can

dramatically improve your breath and will prevent you from offending any girl you've met.

5- Condoms

Obviously you understand the importance of using condom. If your late-night adventures end in a sexual encounter, it's MANDATORY to carry protection with you. The

responsible guy should be concerned with protecting both himself and his partner. So be smart and carry condoms with you.

Like I said at the beginning of this article, it's important to be prepared for the common things that occur when you're meeting women. By carrying these 5 items, you'll prepare yourself for all the different things which can occur during an evening.

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Tip #13- Identifying Her Attraction Signals

Women constantly send you messages through their body language. Whether they’re attracted or repulsed by your presence, reading these cues can make ALL the difference when you’re trying to attract them.

So if you don't detect their body language signals, you’ll COMPLETELY miss out on many golden opportunities.

What’s interesting 90% of a woman's communication is done through her body language. (The guys who are successful with women KNOW how to read these subtle cues and can act according to what they see.) So if you DON’T know what women are telling you, then you’ll ONLY have a 10% chance of understanding what women really want. Why is it important to be able to read their body language?

Well there are times when a woman will subtly use her body language to indicate interest. If you don’t know how to read these signs then you won’t know to approach or engage her in a conversation. Thus you might miss out on an incredible girl.

What REALLY annoys me is there are some guys who IGNORE obvious signals from woman. Often I’ll see a girl purposely initiate eye contact with a guy, and he stands there doing nothing with a stupid expression on his face.

She’s already demonstrated interest. So all he has to do is walk up and start a conversation.

It’s that easy!

What’s insane is guys spend SO much time trying to "pick up chicks". But they seem to miss out on the subtle cues women send them. If you learn how women flirt with their body language, then you can dramatically stand out from other guys.

So the solution is this: Don't be like one of those guys who do nothing!

Take the time to pay attention to women’s body language. After doing this for a couple of days, you’ll notice a WHOLE new world of subtle communication happening.

Then once you become comfortable with their body language, you can look for specific attraction signals. Then all you have to do is walk up and start a conversation.

So if you ever encounter a situation where a girl is making eye contact, you know she’s probably interested in talking to you. Just get off your butt and do something!

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Tip #14- Hidden Opportunities For Meeting Women

There will be times when an attractive woman will send you flirting signals. If you can detect these signals, then you’ll have a great opportunity to talk to an interesting girl. As gender roles evolve, it's become socially acceptable for women to be obvious about their attraction to guys. This includes flirting, making “forward” eye contact and even approaching YOU. So if you pay close attention, you’ll discover women are sending obvious attraction signals.

When you receive a sign of attraction, you should take action. If a girl is giving you direct eye contact, then you know you’re being given an invitation to approach her. But when you don't do anything, you'll miss out on a golden opportunity.

So here's an easy technique to try. Next time you’re out, try to make eye contact with the different women you find attractive.

When you see a girl who locks eyes with you, give her a warm smile. If she smiles back or does a quick VERTICAL scan (ie: checking you out), then you know she is

demonstrating a classic sign of interest. Obviously you're receiving an opportunity to approach this woman with very little risk of rejection.

Don't hesitate!

Immediately walk up to her and initiate a conversation. Because she’s demonstrated a major sign of attraction, you know she’s interested in you. So you don't have to worry about what to say or do. Just be natural in your approach and use a good opener. By taking the time to lock eyes with women and giving them time to check you out, you're creating your own opportunities. If you regularly do this, you’ll discover it’s easy to initiate conversations with girls.

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Tip #15- Why You Should Approach Groups of Women

Approaching a woman can be scary for a lot of guys. And this is especially true when she’s surrounded by her friends. That's the reason why some guys wait till a woman is alone before approaching her.

But there is a MAJOR problem if you only approach women who are by themselves. When in a public setting, MOST women will never travel alone. So this makes it quite challenging to find a girl who isn’t surrounded by her friends.

And even if you DO isolate a girl, she’ll be standoffish. A woman has a natural tendency to distrust ANY guy who approaches her when she doesn’t have the protective shield of her friends.

So the solution is simple- You HAVE to learn how to approach GROUPS of women. It’s a fact that attractive women are RARELY alone. This means at some point, you have to become comfortable with approaching groups of girls and engaging them in a

conversation.

Now the best strategy is to approach the group and talk to ALL of them. Not just the girl you find attractive.

The best way to do this is to use an opener. Then from their responses, you can transition into a conversation and demonstrate higher value.

Just remember that your main objective for approaching a group of women to gain acceptance from EVERY person. Once they “like” you, it’ll become easy to shift your focus and work on the objection of your attention.

For instance, you can use an opener, tell a few stories/negs, then “suddenly” notice the girl you like. From that point, you talk t her and do some qualifying.

Then if you’re getting the enough indicators of interest, you can isolate her. The best way to do this is to say something like: “Can I borrow {her name} for a couple of minutes. I

promise to bring her back.”

After that, you bring her to a different area in the venue, and work on your rapport/attraction building skills.

Now you might be a little scared about approaching GROUPS of women. But you have to realize that this is a natural feeling that all guys get. If you understand the principles in this post and practice your approach, this feeling will quickly diminish!

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Tip #16- Making Strong Eye Contact

As you know by now, confidence is the key ingredient to demonstrating a high status personality. When you approach with confidence, you dramatically increase your success with women.

So how do you display a confident aura? Well, I’ve found the best is to show a dominant presence with your body language. And this starts with the eye contact you give.

Strong eye contact means a lot of things to women:

#1- It shows that you’re used to being in control #2- It demonstrates you’re not afraid of women

#3- It provides the first example of high status body language.

What I recommend is simple. Whenever you’re out meeting women, allow your eye contact to hold SLIGHTLY longer then what’s considered socially acceptable. In a way, you’re acting like you’re trying to figure out if you’re looking at something you like. What's interesting about this form of communication is it sends a different message to people, based on their gender. Men will find lengthy eye contact to be a challenge or an aggressive action. On the other hand, women find these guys to be confident and sexual. You can also use eye contact to approach women. Whenever you lock eyes with a woman, you can give her a simple smile. If she smiles back, you know she’s probably willing to be approached. Contrary to using openers, this is a more natural way to start talking to women.

Confidence is necessary ingredient to creating attraction. If you feel like you lack this characteristic when talking to women, then I recommend you work on the eye contact you give. Simply follow the advice I gave, and you’ll find that it’s easier to display a more self-assured presence around women.

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Tip #17- How to Isolate a Woman from Her Friends

A couple of days ago, I reviewed basic body language when approach a group of women. Today, I want to cover a related topic- Isolating your target from her friends.

The goal of any approach or opener is to get you into a conversation with a group. As long as you demonstrate high status and transition to an interesting discussion, then you’ll find that most groups will accept you.

But you have to remember ONE important thing. The goal of any approach is to attract a specific woman. (Ie: Your Target). If you’re simply talking to the group the whole night, then you’ll minimize your chances of attracting your target.

Whenever you approach a group, you should focus on ISOLATING her from her friends. Then once she’s alone you can work on building more attraction and comfort.

The process of isolation is actually fairly simple. First you want to look for genuine signs of attraction. If you don't see any IOIs (Indicators of Interest), then you should make a decision- switch your focus to another woman or cut the conversation short and move on. Now if you notice that you’re target is demonstrating a few flirt signals, then you know she is open to being isolated. At this point, you want to direct your attention to her and start building more direct attraction. By now her friends will pick up on the fact they're developing a one-on-one conversation.

When this becomes obvious, say to your target:

“Hey ____ , I want to show you something”

Then turn to her friends and say:

“I’m going to borrow your friend for a bit, I promise to bring her back”

What you want to do is create a pretense for showing her something in a quieter location. Or you can simply tell her that you want to walk around the venue a little bit and she should join you. By acknowledging her friends, you’re also demonstrating that you have social intuition and you’re not going to do anything creepy.

Then once you’ve isolated your target, you can do a number of things like build more attraction, establish rapport and initiate physical contact. Just remember that the best way to make a woman remember you during the initial interaction is if you make a lasting impression. And the best way to do that is to get her away from her friends and work on establishing that connection.

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Attracting Women

Tip #18- How to Demonstrate Strong Body Language

Being attractive to women sometimes doesn’t depend on what you say. Instead it can depend on the tone of your body language.

It’s been said that almost 90% of your communication is done through non-verbal cues. If you’re not displaying the right kind of body language, then the best openers and routines won’t be able to help you!

So the solution is simple. If you want to demonstrate high status, then you must know the secrets of giving off positive body language. When you do this, you’ll be perceived as a confident and dominant guy!

And here are six ways you can show incredible body language around women…

#1- Eradicate Weak Body Language

The first step to fixing your body language is to eliminate all body language traits that are considered weak. Women can instantly detect a man who isn’t confident. So in order to make INSTANT improvement, you MUST become sensitive to the body language traits you’re displaying.

For instance, some weak traits can include: • Having your hands in your pockets • Fidgeting or showing nervous energy • Talking to people with your arms folded • Slumping your head or shoulder down • Looking uncomfortable in social situations • Not taking up space

• Walking fast everywhere you go

• Leaning towards women during an initial conversation

What’s interesting is you can make dramatic change to your body language simply by eliminating these behaviors.

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• Keep your chin and head up

• Position your feet and legs at shoulder length apart

• Have your hands at your side or have only ONE hand holding a drink in front of you (Bar environments)

• Keep your back straight

#3- Take up space

The confident guys in the world are NOT afraid of others. This is especially true in social situations.

An easy way to eliminate your fear is subtly show your dominance and leadership by taking up space wherever your go.

The good news is can be easily done. Whenever you’re in a public environment, try to spread out a little. Instead of folding inwards when you’re surrounded by other people, position your body so you’re taking up the most amount of space.

#4- Be relaxed

A confident guy is somebody who can ALWAYS show a relaxed pose in ANY situation. So if you want to demonstrate high status, you must display a casual aura around women. By displaying a relaxed (yet confident) attitude, you’re showing that the little things in life don’t phase you. And here are a few ways to do this:

• Your eyes concentrate on the person in the conversation

• When talking to women at a bar, you lean back and show that you’re comfortable • You never let your eyes dart around a room

• You spread out and look comfortable when sitting down • You breathe through your stomach instead of your chest

By showing a relaxed pose, you demonstrate a LACK of nervous and inferior body language traits

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displaying “needy” body language. Instead of showing that you’re “ready to please” you want to demonstrate that you move on YOUR own terms.

One of the core traits of a beta male is being a guy who is ALWAYS ready to do favors for women. If somebody needs help, the beta male will instantly come running.

Instead of showing this inferior personality trait, you should move slowly and with a measured attitude. By taking deliberate actions with every step, you'll force people to pay attention to your schedule not theirs.

#6- Face away from women

You can tell a LOT to women without opening your mouth. If you walk up to a woman, invade her personal space and make your intentions obvious, then you’re demonstrating the fact that you’re trying to “pick her up”.

Now when you’re first talking to women, you DON’T want to make your intentions obvious. Instead of invading her space on the initial approach, you want to put her at ease. The best way to do this is to avoid directly facing a woman.

One of the principles of body language is we tend to be uncomfortable by people who face us directly. So instead of positioning yourself right in front of her (or a group), you should approach her to the side. If you can end up side-by-side or at an angle, you'll reduce her nervousness and tension. And this will help show that you’re not investing too much emotionally in the outcome of the conversation.

Your body language provides your first impression to women. If you know how to demonstrate high status with it, then you can easily show an attractive aura. By applying the six traits I discussed in this post, you’ll be able to show confident and alluring body language around women.

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Tip #19- Knowing When She’s Interested In You

When you know when women are attracted to you, it becomes easy figure out which ones are available.

But there is one MAJOR problem when you ONLY rely on indicators of interest. Many women (who already have boyfriends) display the exact same signs of attraction that single women demonstrate. This can include direct eye contact, smiling at you, playing with their hair, and having dilated pupils.

What's annoying is we all respond to body language signs that indicate attraction. So it gets frustrating when woman in a committed relationship displays these same signals. Usually this means that you’ve wasted time that could be spent talking to an

AVAILABLE woman.

The good news is there are specific signs of attraction that are ONLY used by available women. If you know how to identify them, it becomes easy to locate a girl who wants to meet a guy. So when you're looking for women to approach, try to identify these signals:

• A flushed appearance or blushing when you look directly at her.

• Showing the inside of her palms and hands to you.

• Positioning her body towards you.

• Making attempts to get you to look at her or be noticed by you.

• Isolating herself from her friends so you’ll approach her.

As you probably know, it’s pretty frustrating to be in a conversation with a woman who is already taken. But if you’re able to decipher her body language and know that she’s single BEFORE you approach, you’ll quickly increase your overall dating success. Simply pay attention to the five signs of attraction I discussed in this post. Then you’ll discover that there are available women out there who WANT to meet you!

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Tip #20- How to Be the Alpha Male

What’s the secret to being attractive to women?

Well, there are a lot of traits that women find attractive in men. This can include BOTH your looks and your personality. Specifically women are incredibly attracted to the guy who acts demonstrates high status (or act likes an alpha male).

So if you want to be attractive to women, you must project a high status personality. But what exactly does this expression mean and why is it attractive to women?

There is a simple reason for cultivating a high status attitude with females. Almost ALL women want to be with the guy who stands out from the crowd. Basically they want guys who are equal to or better then their own social status.

Think of it this way...

Really attractive women are constantly being "hit on" by guys. Because it’s

IMPOSSIBLE to date every man who talks to them, most girls have developed simple mechanisms for "weeding out" the losers. When a guy immediately hits on a girl, she'll place him in the "Lower Status" category.

Attractive women typically have high status. Therefore most want a guy who is equal or GREATER then their own status.

So what does this mean to you?

Well it’s easy. Whenever you first meet a woman, you must immediately demonstrate a high status personality. Even if she’s gorgeous, don’t give her compliments or show that you’re attracted to her. Instead QUALIFY her and tease her. If you show that you’re not enamored with her looks (like other guys), then she’ll wonder if you might be an

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Tip #21- Displaying Your Confident Smile

As I emphasize in this ebook, your personal appearance is a MAJOR factor in attracting women. While good looks aren’t mandatory, you must ensure that you’re doing your best to display an interesting AND unique look. And a huge part of your appearance is

displaying a confident smile when you’re talking to a woman.

The truth is the first thing a woman will notice about you is your smile. If you smile (and have a positive demeanor) around a woman, you’ll increase your chances of attracting her. So from the FIRST moment you make eye contact with a female, you MUST give your best possible smile.

Now the question is- Why is smiling so effective?

Well smiling is effective for many reasons. When you’re smiling, you're telling a woman these things:

1) You enjoy her company

2) You like what she is saying to you

3) You are an upbeat person with a positive outlook on life 4) You’re a fun guy

As you can see, smiling is the cornerstone of a great first impression. In fact, I think it’s one of the key steps towards attracting a woman. By smiling at a woman you’ll get her to like you. Here’s why…

If you study human nature then you know that when people smile at us, we usually return the gesture. So when you smile at a woman, she’ll probably give you one back. In a way you've given her a subconscious reason to immediately like you.

So if you want to increase your success with women, make sure you’re smiling when talking to them!

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Tip #22- Show Your 'Rock Star' Attitude

One thing I find interesting is how ‘rock stars’ can easily *score* with women. From what I’ve seen, all a guy needs is a guitar or microphone and he’ll have the pick of ANY woman around him. In fact, some rock guys literally have women beg them for sex. From Led Zeppelin all the way to a local cover band, musicians have it easy when it comes to attracting women. All they have to do is get on stage and women will become hypnotically captured by their presence.

Now you probably think that rock guys attract women because of their fame or money. However this isn’t the case. What ‘rock stars’ have is the ability to stand out from the crowd. Unlike the average guy, these dudes know how to dress AND act in a unique manner. Furthermore, they’re good at projecting a mysterious image which women eat up!

What I find interesting is there are LOTS of musicians who really suck at their craft. But they still manage to attract HORDES of women! So it shows that even the worst

musicians have something which girls find incredibly seductive.

And this theory holds true for even the crappiest cover bands at your local bars. While these guys are ONLY playing the songs from other bands, they still know how to draw women to them like a magnet.

So what can you learn from this?

Well it’s simple. Almost all rock stars succeed with women because they know how to stand out from the crowd. Unlike the average guy, they’re not afraid to dress differently or demonstrate an outlandish personality.

While you don’t have to play an instrument, you can learn a lesson from how rock stars act. To be more like them you should do the following:

• Wear something unique • Peacock a little

• Be energetic and exciting around your friends • Talk to everyone

• Be the life of the party • Demonstrate higher value

The reason a 'rock star persona' is successful is it helps you stand out from other guys. In other words, by when you display a positive, “alpha male” personality, women will know that you’re different from other guys.

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© 2008 Scott Patterson – All Rights Reserved http://www.chickmagnet101.com The reason is simple. Deep down, ALL women want passion and excitement in their lives. (That's probably why romance novels are so successful). By displaying an

outlandish personality around a woman, which makes you stand out, you'll represent the excitement she's probably missing in her life.

But there is something important you should know about being different. In order to be attractive to women you should ONLY do things which are both original AND

interesting. An easy way to do this is to observe how other guys act and do the EXACT opposite.

The more you stand out, the more women will notice you. So think of new ways to dress, how to talk to women and your general attitude. If you can make them DIFFERENT from other guys, then you’ll be viewed as a unique and attractive guy.

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Tip #23- Become the Fun Guy!

It’s happened to ALL us! There are times when the process of meeting women can

become tedious. Since the art of attracting women requires a TON of effort, it can be both stressful and tiresome. And sometimes it just doesn’t seem worth your time.

Often a night out can include:

• Spending money

• Having to project a confident and energetic persona at ALL times • Approaching dozens of “sets” or groups of women

• Going out night after night

• Being rejected by women when you’re approach techniques aren’t working

As you can see, there is LOT involved with trying to learn the subtle art of the pick up artist. So it’s only human if you sometimes forget the MAIN reason that you’re on this path.

But there is something you must always keep in mind…

If you’re not having FUN during this whole process, then you’ll have LITTLE chance of success. The truth is what we feel inside is always shown on the outside. So if you're not having fun when you’re meeting women, then you'll project a bored looking demeanor. And when this happens, you’ll KILL your chances of success.

What’s the answer? Well it’s simple. You must learn to enjoy the whole experience of meeting and attracting women. Have fun out there, EVEN if you fail.

Also, when you go out, it helps if you’re enjoying other things BESIDES trying to meet women. For instance, you can check out a new band, have fun with your buddies or simply talk to women because you want to meet a new person.

The more you enjoy yourself, the more you'll project an aura of positive energy and confidence. Then trying to meet women won’t seem so tedious.

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Tip #24- The 'Catch and Release' Technique

Building attraction is absolutely vital when you meet a woman for the first time. If you can't make her physically interested, then you stand LITTLE chance of getting her number or setting up a date.

Now it's actually fairly easy to approach a woman and create that initial spark. But what you do at this point can MAKE OR BREAK your chances of success.

When you initially talk to a woman, you'll discover a period where you're getting to know her. If you're good at flirting and conversations, you'll be able to create that spark of chemistry. Normally at this point a LOT of guys will continue to talk and focus on increasing her attraction. Instead of doing this, try to implement what I like to call the

'Catch and Release' technique. It works like this…

During your conversation, there will be a moment when the discussion is going really well and she's flirting with you. What you want to do is find a specific time where the conversation could stop or progress to the next level. Typically women expect men to make the conversation more intimate (ie: get her number, set up a date or kiss her). Now instead of taking the conversation to the next level, you tell her that you have to back your friends. Then as you leave, casually mention that you'll talk to her later. Then walk away, and rejoin your friends.

If done correctly, the 'Catch and Release' technique will drive her crazy. She'll wonder why you're not talking to her and will make attempts to get your attention again. Later in the night, you can approach her again and resume your conversation.

What's great about this technique is you make HER work for YOUR attention. As a result, she'll try harder to build attraction. The harder she has to work, the more of a "prize" you'll become.

Normally I like to implement the 'Catch and Release' technique in an enclosed

environment (bar, club, etc.) at the beginning of the night. Since I know I'll probably see her again, I like to use it to "work the room".

If you have a string of 4-5 conversations that ALL went well, you can use this technique to increase your chances of getting a number, setting up a date or going home with her.

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Tip #25- Persistence AND Proactive: Two Traits You Must Have

Well, here's a tip that I'm a little hesitant to discuss. So I urge you to read and understand it FULLY before you follow my advice.

Anyway, the tip is simple! When meeting (and dating) women you have to be PERSISTANT.

Now before you go out and start stalking every woman you meet, let explain what I mean about persistence. When I talk about this attitude, I mean that you shouldn't be afraid to follow-up with a woman where there is some chemistry. I DON'T mean you should stalk every girl you "really like".

So when I tell you to be persistent, I mean you should make an effort when it comes to pursuing women. In other words, don't listen to your buddies and wait 7 days to call her. Nor do I mean you should blow her off every time she wants to hang out because you want to "seem cool".

Instead actively call her and set up dates. Remember that most women let guys make the first move. If you're waiting around for her to call, then you might miss out on an

opportunity with a great girl.

Also it's important to remember that woman have busy lives just like you. So while she might be interested in you, there could be outside factors which require her attention. A woman might still have interest EVEN if she's not making the first move. What this means is it's up to YOU to follow-up and set up a date.

Now there's the reverse side of being persistent. Eventually you'll encounter a girl who won't return your calls. This is the point where your persistence must STOP. If she doesn't return a number of your calls then she doesn't want to talk to you.

I know this sounds harsh, but you should NEVER stalk a woman who has no interest in you.

So remember that persistence is a great attitude. Don't be afraid to follow-up with woman and set up dates. But always remember that there are certain times when it's important to stop pursuing a woman and move on!

In addition to persistence, there’s an equally important trait: Being Proactive. Like persistence, being proactive will increase your success with women. But what’s funny is many guys think playing games is the best way to increase attraction. In other words, they follow the advice of waiting 5-7 days before calling a girl. The logic is women will be attracted because they're forced to do the pursuing.

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Think of it this way. Women, like men, get busy with their lives. After grabbing a woman’s number, you’re in direct competition for her time against her job, family, and other guys. When she gets busy, she’ll probably have to ditch something in her life. And since you've just met her, it’ll probably be YOU.

Now once she decides that you’re expendable, all your efforts will have been wasted. Once this happens you only have yourself to blame. By not calling her, you've killed your chances of making a connection to that girl

As you can see, being proactive is an incredibly important trait to develop. When you pursue women and immediately make the first call (within 2 days), you'll stick out in her mind. As a result, your success will dramatically increase.

When you develop a proactive personality, you'll become the guy who has more women in his life. You’ll date more and will have more opportunities for finding someone special So ask yourself which guy gets laid more:

The guy who waits for women to call first?

OR

The guy who is proactive and quickly follows up with women?

Just remember that getting a phone number is the FIRST step in the dating process. If you become a proactive guy, you’ll have the skills for turning those digits into dates and fun times!

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Tip #26- Never Fear Other Guys

When you’re out meeting women how do you deal with other guys?

This is an important question to ask yourself. Whenever you’re out approaching women, you’ll DEFINITELY encounter situations where an attractive woman has a few guys with her. If you’re like a lot of guys, you’ll assume one of them is her boyfriend and move on.

This is a mistake!

Just because a woman is surrounded by guys, it doesn’t mean that she isn’t

AVAILABLE. So do yourself a favor and don’t DISQUALIFY yourself before even taking a chance and approaching her.

Remember this- ALL girls have a few male friends. So you’ll often see available women with guys around her. But they might be her friends instead of her lovers. Actually she probably WANTS a have a guy to approach her, because other men haven’t had the courage to talk to her.

In fact, I HIGHLY recommend should ALWAYS approach a girl if she's surrounded by guys. Because you never know who is available and who isn’t. If you approach and then find out that she’s dating one of the guys, then you can quickly move on.

What I recommend is to use an opinion opener which I learned from The Art of

Approaching system. Usually type of conversation starter is a way to approach a group in a friendly, but not too aggressive manner.

Once you use your opener, you ask questions to the group and find out how they know each other. By doing this, you can quickly learn if the target woman is dating any of the guys. If you discover that she's single, then you can transition and isolate her from the group.

By approaching women surrounded by men, you're taking action which scares other guys. The result is you'll approach LOTS of women who want to have guys talk to them. Which makes it easier to get more numbers and dates.

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Tip #27- How to Anchor an NLP Memory

One of the earliest techniques used within the “seduction community” was implementing Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) to meet women. Many “seduction gurus” have long understood the importance of using basic psychological principles to make women more attracted.

To be honest, NLP is a hard concept for many guys to learn. Often it seems hokey or too mechanical to work in the real world. But there’s one NLP I regularly use that can help you increase your overall success with women. It’s called “Anchoring”.

The idea of anchoring is simple. You take a neutral item that has NO emotional connection to a woman, and you use it to trigger a positive emotion within a woman. Through a shared experience, she’ll always think of YOU when she looks at this object. With anchoring you basically create a fun memory that floods her with positive emotions. Ultimately this will get her to think about you when you’re not around.

Now this concept may seem a little abstract, so let’s talk about an example of how anchoring can be used in your dating life.

Whenever you meet a woman, it’s likely that some popular music will be playing in the background. To anchor this memory, start singing along with the song…OFF KEY! As long as you’ve already demonstrated high status, she’ll laugh and probably join in. While I’m normally against doing anything that projects a low status attitude, this technique can be a funny way she can remember you. In fact, it’s so powerful, she’ll think of you WEEKS later when she hears this song. It’s that powerful!

Here’s an example of how it works:

Over a year and a half ago, there was that dreadful song “You’re Beautiful” by James Blunt. One day I was at a bar talking to a girl, when the song came on. I start this whole bit about how I thought James Blunt was gay and they should play this song every time somebody acts a little “fruity”. Finally, I started singing the song in this high falsetto voice.

While this might seem a bit weird, it really connected to this girl. I hung out with her a number of times after that night. And every time I saw her, she would start singing “You’re Beautiful” in a high voice whenever somebody started acting a little gay. The way I anchored that song created a frame of reference that was really powerful. To this day, I bet she still cracks up every time she hears that song.

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© 2008 Scott Patterson – All Rights Reserved http://www.chickmagnet101.com The point is simple. When you meet a woman, you want to stand out in a positive and funny manner. And a great way to do this is to anchor some popular song that she’ll often hear when you’re not around.