Sexual Magnetism
by Etienne Charland
2011
© Shamanic Seduction 2008-2011 by Etienne Charland All rights reserved.
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Contents
Introduction to Sexual Magnetism ... 4
Chapter 1: Sexual Magnetism Concepts ... 7
Do You Really Want to Change? ... 7
Seven Misconceptions of Spirituality ... 9
What is Sexual Magnetism? ... 12
Chakras System ... 14
Social Conditioning ... 20
Masculinity... 23
Femininity ... 25
Life Purpose ... 30
Eastern vs Western World ... 34
Chapter 2: Healing Methods ... 40
Awareness ... 40
Acceptance and Love ... 45
Letting Go ... 48 Natural Grounding ... 50 Reiki ... 59 Tantra ... 64 Alchemy ... 74 Energy Weaknesses ... 77 Alchemic Visualizations ... 80
Natural Grounding Journal ... 82
Chapter 3: Sexual Magnetism Applied ... 84
Emotional Communication ... 84
Language ... 87
End of the Game ... 89
Approach ... 93
Progression and Kino Tricks ... 97
Kissing and Closing ... 103
Sex ... 107
Relationship Management ... 109
Social Life ... 111
Conclusion ... 115
Introduction to Sexual Magnetism
There has been a lot of talk lately about natural game, the laws of attraction, and the effect of our emotions on our environment. Good information about these topics is scattered throughout many different sources, so it’s very hard to put the pieces together. In this book, I will describe what sexual
magnetism is, how it works, how to get there, and how to apply it. I will give you the tools you need to keep progressing on your own and resources so you can dig deeper into several subjects.
When I first started writing this book, I intended it to be an introduction to the subject just to explain the fundamental concepts. However, it turned out to be much more complete. I could still write another book to take this foundation and go even deeper. As a matter of fact, this updated edition has some extremely powerful breakthroughs added to it. It is still just the tip of the iceberg.
This book is about enhancing your success with women. Sex is like air: it is not important unless you don’t have any. It is our birthright as human beings to have an abundance of air, love, and sex, and you can repress human
nature only up to a certain point. Unfortunately, social conditioning has repressed this aspect of our lives, and we see all kinds of problems such as forty-year-old virgins and a 50 percent divorce rate. You have two choices: either you continue in the same direction as others, or you look for real answers. By buying this book, I suppose you want real answers and you
want to be part of the solution. By working on your sexual magnetism, you will heal people around you and help shift the dynamics of our society.
Keep in mind that this isn’t a book you should understand logically. Instead, you should unlearn all the logical patterns you have in your mind and feel the concepts described in this book. Instead of taking notes, take the time to fully feel and visualize the concepts, then let them sink into your
subconscious. The concepts this book describes are very deep, but you will only understand them based on your current level of consciousness. If you read this book again in two months after having several real-life experiences, you most likely will understand the book in a totally different way. Think about it this way: when you learn lots of stuff at school, you usually get a headache. But this book is different. It is a book about unlearning and feeling. As you unlearn old concepts and become aware of how you work internally, your brain actually becomes wired differently, so you may find it hard to concentrate, you may feel very tired, or you may experience
repressed emotions coming to the surface. Sometimes you may find you aren’t ready to accept the consequences of breakthroughs. Keep in mind that all of this is normal, so if you really want the results—and you wouldn’t have bought this book otherwise—it’s worth going forward.
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onto your old beliefs. None of these frequencies allow transformation to happen. How important is it for you to transform your life? What are you ready to give up for it? It’s not just about giving up financial resources. It’s mostly about giving up old ways of thinking and involving yourself in the process. There is no space to receive without giving up anything.
In the first chapter, we will explore basic concepts to help you understand how emotions work. In the second chapter, we will explore several healing methods that will allow you to unleash your potential. Finally, in the third chapter, we will talk about how sexual magnetism applies in the real world to help you achieve concrete results.
Chapter 1: Sexual Magnetism Concepts
Do You Really Want to Change?
Most people want to change their results and are willing to change their thoughts and actions, but to experience lasting success, they must also change as a person. Changing at your core means forgetting about the self you’ve known for so long. It means letting the way you identify yourself die in some way and allowing yourself to be reborn in a new way. It means taking responsibility for all that happens in your life, taking power over your own life, and taking action.
People around you most likely don’t want you to change. Changes in you will put them out of their comfort zone, and they likely often take advantage of your current situation in some way. They also expect you to be who you have always been, so it will take time for them to adjust to your new self-image. It might also mean breaking relationships that don’t serve you anymore, such as letting go of your friends in your hometown who play World of Warcraft all day.
If you’re not too afraid to keep going after reading this, changing at the core and dropping your ego is the most rewarding thing you can do. For example, if you use positive thinking and learn to approach women but don’t heal what makes you unattractive as a person, you might get phone numbers, but overall you’ll achieve limited success. Until you take a time-out and heal the issues making you unattractive at your core and take power and
responsibility over your own life, all the actions you take will not bring the success you deserve, no matter how much you work for it.
So how do you change as a person? Don’t expect it to happen overnight, as it may take months or years. However, you can make small progress
overnight every day!
Here are some tips to get you started:
- Don’t use your past stories as excuses for yourself. Have you heard of Martin Deschamps? He only has half of his left arm, two fingers on his right hand, and only one leg. He is a very famous rock singer, and he plays bass and piano like hell! If he can do it, and if a black man can be the President of the United States, you have no legitimate excuses. None. Period.
- Most people identify themselves by their issues, qualities, and characteristics. So you can’t just let go of your identity! Instead of
identifying yourself by your issues, identify yourself by what you want to accomplish in your life. You are a life force moving through your life.
- If you have trouble figuring out what you’re here to do on this planet, say “God, please show me my life purpose, and I will forever be your humble servant,” and really mean it.
- Let go of people who hold you back; instead, surround yourself with people who support you.
- Travel to countries with totally different cultures, such as those in South America or Southeast Asia, for at least three months. Traveling will open your mind to different realities and help you understand how your local culture is limiting you. Even better, learn the languages of these cultures, as you can’t fully understand a culture without speaking its language. It will help you think outside the box.
- Resolve to look at issues inside yourself before trying to force things on the outside. Awareness is curative.
These suggestions may require you to look at your life from a different perspective, but your results will be well worth it.
Seven Misconceptions of Spirituality
People have all kinds of ideas, often vague, about spirituality—that is, when they’re not rejecting it altogether. Here are the seven most common
misconceptions you’ll see around yourself about spirituality. It should make it all more realistic and interesting!
Misconception 1: Fear God!
The church and Catholics, among others, teach their followers to fear God and that you must be good not to be punished. That’s indeed what’s written in the *English* translation of the Bible, but not in its original language. They used the word “fear” since there’s no word in the English language to
describe the original concept. What the original language really meant was that you should revere God in the sense that every cell of your body vibrates, not out of fear, but out of love and passion. Change the word “fear” to
“revere,” and the meaning of the Bible completely changes!
Misconception 2: Religion is spirituality.
First of all, religion is a group experience whose main purpose is to protect the group, primarily from physical threats such as disease, poverty, death, social crises, and even war. Religion is rooted in first chakra energies. Spirituality, on the other hand, is an individual experience directed toward releasing fears of the physical world and pursuing a relationship with the divine.
Misconception 3: Meditate for awareness.
Most people who are into meditation try to become aware of themselves to raise their awareness to energies. For example, in Thailand, the monks who meditate in temples to be connected to universal energies aren’t that healthy because there’s another important aspect of the connection: being grounded in the physical world and to our instincts. Ideally we want to have the base of our spine solidly grounded to Earth energy and the top of our crown grounded to universal energy, with both energies flowing through our bodies. Both groundings are equally important: we can call it to walk both on Earth and in Heaven.
We try to become aware of ourselves to overcome our limitations, but many of us either try to control our emotions or become calm and passive. This is especially a problem for women, as it is in their nature to respond to their environment and to flow like water. It’s important to be aware of our fears and limitations, but it is equally important to surrender to our instincts and gut feelings. We don’t even need awareness to surrender to ourselves! However, many of our behaviors are rooted in fears and need to be unlearned.
Misconception 5: Sexual equality.
Feminists wanted sexual equality and we got sameness. At first sight, the idea of balancing yin and yang (feminine/masculine) energies may seem to support this concept. However, the truth is, sameness is repressing both masculinity and femininity, and we end up in a gray zone in between. Yin and yang refer to sexual polarity and contrast: having a strong masculine presence like James Bond or having a strong feminine presence like Thai women. Yin-yang balance means to have a strong polarized presence without the neediness since we can get the energy of the opposite sex from within ourselves.
Misconception 6: God is your father.
and follow His will, you ARE part of God! We are all Gods, and we can take the responsibility for what we create in our own lives and in the lives of others. If you unite with God, your “father” will never create something that goes against your will, and you will never create something that goes against the will of your “father”. It will inspire you as much as you influence it.
Misconception 7: Good vs. bad.
Good and bad are merely judgments. In fact, things you do with good
intentions can have bad consequences, and things you do with bad intentions can have good consequences. For example, some parents overprotect their children for their good, but as a consequence, these children become
reserved and unable to take responsibility for their lives. Or a guy can punch another guy, injuring him badly, and that injury can cause him to change his attitude and improve his life. Good and bad are lies: there is only acting out of love and acting out of fear. In the examples above, the parents are
overprotecting out of fear, and the guy may be punching the other out of love for integrity.
What is Sexual Magnetism?
With some guys, you can sit down with them for a coffee and you instantly feel comfortable, and while talking with them, you forget about your
problems. Then, suddenly, another guy sits down and it feels awkward. When he leaves, you say “this guy had bad vibes.” The truth is, the way you feel about yourself affects the way people feel around you.
Girls see the first guy I mentioned and say things like, “there’s just
something about him.” If you understand what makes them feel that way and you peak into the right state of mind, girls may start saying “there’s
definitely something about him!” or “Oh my God, did you see his eyes?” when they see how much the life sparkles in your eyes.
Sexual magnetism is about having girls attracted and turned on by your mere presence. To understand how this magnetism works, it is important to
understand two basic principles:
1. We are all emotionally connected. This might sound either ridiculous or obvious, but think about it for a second. Where does your intuition come from? Some call it energies, some call it God, and some call it quantum physics, but the principle remains the same.
2. Nature is sexual. Mating and sex are supposed to be intuitive, simple, and effortless, or we wouldn’t be here today. So why is this not the case? Social conditioning and fears are covering up our human nature. If your energies can lift a woman’s emotional repression, she will become flirty and sexual the way she was meant to be, but you must first get back in touch with your emotions. When you walk down the street, you may see these independent women who seem in their bubble, who aren’t aware of what happens around them, who won’t look at you in the eyes and who probably won’t even notice you. We are meant to connect effortlessly with each other. If you go to a third-world country where there is less social conditioning, you will
To have sexual magnetism, you must get back in touch with your emotions and with human nature. You must unlearn all the concepts society, family, and friends imposed on you. Go to Thailand for three months, and you will realize it is a completely different world. You will realize how limited the reality is in your hometown. You must let go of your fears, even though most of them are subconscious. As you remove all this baggage, you will feel lighter, you will have more energy, you will feel happier, and you will look younger. Universal energy or life energy flows within each of us, but as it flows more and more through you, you will feel it more.
When people feel good with you, they want to stay around. If you make more friends, more girls will want to be with you. In fact, the more you connect with people around you, when a girl has sex with you, it feels more like making love than just fucking. Through sex, your strong energies
amplify and heal her, and the sex is much better. Your orgasms will be much stronger and spread throughout your whole body instead of just being a dump-like feeling in your dick.
Women get much more value out of the relationship than you do but I’m sure you will enjoy them too.
Chakras System
The chakras system provides a great way for us to understand our emotional system. It consists of the seven main energy centers, or energy wheels, in
our body. Our emotional system is actually more complex than that, but we’ll use this system since it is easy to understand and complete enough for our practical use. Here we will view chakras from a seduction perspective, but you can also apply chakras to business and healing.
Each chakra represents an aspect of our lives and has a specific vibration frequency and color. Energies are vibrations. Emotions are energies in motion. Light and colors are energies of specific vibration frequencies. Energy is at the base of everything: all that is created in this world is the consequence of energies.
Each chakra provides an angle from which we can look at our lives and diagnose problems. If you have problems with your family, you might feel pain at the base of your spine. If someone betrays you, you might feel pain in your solar plexus. If your girlfriend dumped you, you might feel pain in your heart, and if you have headaches, it might mean something you’re doing isn’t in alignment with your life purpose. Interestingly enough,
chakras have the same colors as a rainbow, and the colors appear in the same order.
The seven chakras go from the base of your spine to the top of your head. When chakras are open properly, the base chakra is grounded in Earth energy and the top chakra is grounded in universal energy. Energy flows up through you from the Earth to the Universe and down from the Universe to the Earth, spiraling around each chakra, making chakras spin like wheels. All that energy radiates around you, creating your aura.
Most people are stuck in tribal issues and sexual issues, which are the two lower chakras. By awakening your other chakras, you will recover your intuitive abilities, gain control over your life, and attract sexual and financial abundance.
The first chakra, often called the root chakra, represents survival, friends, family, and the grounding to your human instincts. It is located at the base of your spine at the center point between your legs, behind your genitals. It is
associated with the color red. Focus your mind on your root chakra and visualize the color red. Notice how you feel, the grounding to the physical reality, the actions intuitively flowing out of you, the stability with your family, tribe, money, house, and other needs you require for survival. If you feel pain, stuck, or negative feelings in your red root chakra, pay attention to these tensions. Notice how it feels, and try to describe it and write the
blockages. The spot at your root chakra is sensitive and it is very pleasant when a girl touches it during sex.
The second chakra, often called the sex chakra, represents sex, creativity, money, and relationships. It is located at your navel and in your back at the same position. It is associated with the color orange. Focus your mind on your sex chakra and think about the color orange. Notice how you feel: you should notice sexual desires, creativity, magnetism, abundance, spontaneity, and fluidity. Tensions, pains, and negative energies indicate issues in those areas of your life. Describe and write down any uncomfortable feeling in your orange sex chakra in as much detail as possible. Usually, you don’t even have to find solutions for your issues: you just have to let them go. When you put your hand on a girl’s lower back, it makes her feel more light and spontaneous, especially during sex, since it activates her sex chakra.
The third chakra, often called the solar plexus, represents personal power, vitality, self-esteem, integrity, and sexual polarity. It is the sensitive spot in the middle of your body, right below where the ribs join together in the center of your torso. It is associated with the color yellow. Focus your mind on your solar plexus and visualize a yellow burning sun. Notice how you feel: the power and control over your life, self-esteem, masculine presence, honor,
confidence, integrity, and honesty powering up your life. Describe and write down any pain or uncomfortable feeling in your yellow solar plexus. If you feel an uncomfortable tickling in your plexus, it might indicate the person in
this spot as it is very sensitive. If hit here, a person can be knocked down and lose his breath.
The fourth chakra, often called the heart chakra, represents self-love, unconditional love, and compassion. It is the middle chakra and the central powerhouse of the human emotional system. It is associated with the colors green and rose. Focus your mind on your heart chakra and feel the green color, then feel the rose color, then visualize a burning ball of fire in fusion that looks like a small sun with the plasma moving. Notice how you feel, the passion for life, the sparkles in your eyes, the self-love, the love for others, the
compassion, and the love for all the objects around you. The opposite of love is fear. Pay attention to any fears you feel in your heart and describe them on paper in as much detail as possible. If it helps you, you can then burn the paper to symbolically get rid of your fears and move on. You can’t truly love and respect others if you don’t love yourself first, because you are then
merely using people to fill a void within you.
The fifth chakra, often called the throat chakra, represents self-expression, communication, and the power of choice. It is located in the throat and is associated with the color blue. Focus your mind on your throat chakra and feel the color blue. Notice how you feel: the ease of expression, spontaneity, boldness, freedom, and choices. When there’s something you should say but you keep it to yourself, you feel a tension or pain in your throat. Focus on any fears you feel in your throat and describe them on paper in as much detail as
possible, such as fears of being judged, ignored, ridiculed, or rejected if you share your thoughts. That’s all it is—just fears, nothing more.
The sixth chakra, often called the third eye, represents the power of the mind, laws of attraction, intuition,
clairvoyance, and intuitive wisdom. It is located on your forehead and is associated with the color indigo. We are all connected by our emotions and intuitions through a web of creative spiritual energy. Whatever you focus on consciously or unconsciously is attracted into your life and affects people around you, and that includes whatever you fear. Focus your mind on your third eye and visualize the color indigo. Notice how you feel: you should be aware of emotions around you, your karma, wisdom, and intuition.
I believe most people are clairvoyant, but they usually don’t know how to interpret what they see. Have you ever had a headache? Great! You are clairvoyant too! That means something you are doing isn’t in alignment with your life purpose. As you let go of your headache and other feelings, you start seeing the next layer of emotions underneath it. Pay attention to any stuck feelings or blockages in your indigo third eye and describe them on paper in as much detail as possible. You will use this chakra to set your intention of what kind of people you want to meet.
The seventh chakra, often called the crown chakra, represents our divine connection to God, awareness of universal energies, consciousness, life purpose, and
abundance. It is the sense of being connected with everything. It is located at the top of your head and is associated with the color violet. Focus your mind on your crown chakra and notice how you feel, the grounding into universal energies, the transmutation of your personal power and ego into the power and ego of God, the light flowing through you and shining around you, abundance and circumstances flowing to you, and a sense of inner guidance and life events flowing one after the other. Write down on paper the
advantages and disadvantages of accepting the full power and ego of God, as well as any other uncomfortable feelings in your violet crown chakra. You sometimes experience the union through this chakra during love-making, when you are merging with a woman and you can feel her.
You had all these abilities when you were born, but then social conditioning and all kinds of fears blocked them out. When you remove the crap covering your purity, your chakras open, and your energies ground to the Earth and into consciousness. We can call this to walk both on Earth and in Heaven.
If you want to learn more about chakras, you should read Anatomy of the
Spirit: The Seven Stages of Power and Healing from Caroline Myss, a New
York Times bestseller.
Social Conditioning
Are you proud of your nationality? Having love and acceptance for your country and culture is great. However, your pride for your country, culture,
and yourself is likely holding you in a fixed pattern of thoughts and prevents you from thinking outside the box.
The truth is, if you were born in a different country, such as Thailand or Argentina, you would be a completely different person. Who you think you are is merely the result of social conditioning outside your control. You are being programmed daily by your family, friends, school, work, television, newspapers, and ads to accept their beliefs as the only reality that exists.
If you work all day for ten years to make your payments and put money aside for your retirement and believe that’s life, and your friends tell you that’s life, and your family tell you that’s life, and the media tells you that’s life, that’s bullshit. Saying something that is false a thousand times doesn’t make it true. The truth is, there are people out there who have the freedom to do whatever they want, who make a real difference in the world, who have a rich social life, who have several girlfriends, and who travel all around the world. Each person lives in his or her own reality and attracts people and events matching that reality.
You can change the reality in which you live by changing who you are and the energies you project. You live in a free country, which means you’re free to have and express whatever programmed thoughts you want, but you
should also be free to be who you want to be.
To change your reality, you must become aware of what affects you and your emotions. Television is good only for conditioning you with fears. Turn
you leave your job and go abroad with only a backpack, your coworkers may think you’re nuts, and your family may think you’re nuts, but don’t let them or anyone else affect your reality. You have all these fears of being judged, fears of the unknown, and fears of not having stability. That’s all they are—fears, and nothing more—but you must learn to let go of your fears. We will explore how to do this in Chapter 2. You must also become aware of all the people and sources altering your life, emotions, and beliefs without your consent.
For example, all of the following are forcing their beliefs on you: • You see a photo of a hot stripper
• You see an ad for a new car
• Your father tells you what to do with your money • Your mother tells you how to live your life
• Your sister tells you to be nice to women
• Women flaunt their boobs in your face all the time • Newspapers tell you to save your money
• Television news anchors tell you to put your money in new government funds
• Your friends expect you to like the same things they do
• Your school mates judge you if you don’t wear the latest styles • People treat you like shit if you can’t bring enough money for your
family
• You see on television over and over again that you would have more girls if you had a nicer car . . .
ENOUGH!!! Seriously, enough of all this bullshit. All these bullets of influence are conditioning your reality. The only way to stop being
influenced by all these bullets is to fully become aware of what’s affecting you. Once you are fully aware of a source of influence, you can make conscious decisions instead of having the source affect your subconscious. Whatever you focus on will affect you, so focus on what you want in life and please, mute the television during the ads.
Once you get free of all these bullets pulling you in all directions, you will feel a peace of mind that is priceless in itself, and you can start seeing things clearly and objectively.
Masculinity
Though the image of an alpha male has been discussed over and over again through history, the concept is still unclear for most people, especially in a culture where alpha men and sexual polarity are repressed.
For clarity, here is what an alpha male is: 1. An alpha male radiates confidence.
2. An alpha male feels GREAT about himself.
3. An alpha male has a clear mind so he can think clearly.
4. An alpha male has integrity and stands for what he cares about.
5. An alpha male is free from his own patterns of thoughts and emotions. 6. An alpha male is free to feel (and attract) whatever he wants to feel (and wants to attract).
7. An alpha male is aware of the influence others have on him, including family and close friends.
8. An alpha male is emotionally unaffected by the media, social pressure, social expectations, prick teases, and anything else.
9. An alpha male is free to have and to pursue his own will, no matter what people think.
10. An alpha male doesn’t give a shit what people think.
11. An alpha male is sexually satisfied and doesn’t need to pursue women, so women pursue him instead.
12. An alpha male is emotionally grounded in nature.
13. An alpha male brings the emotional, innocent, carefree, joyful, and pure woman out of her social repression, which naturally leads her to want sex from him. Emotions and nature have been mostly repressed in our modern society.
14. An alpha male doesn’t need to fight for his rights. He expects people to respect his rights and they do.
15. An alpha male is not afraid to step out of his comfort zone or to express himself.
What an alpha male is NOT:
1. Someone who seeks to control people around him.
2. Someone who has big muscles or a nice car. The brain matters too. 3. Someone who brags about how good he is.
4. Someone who is arrogant, snobbish, or full of himself.
Where do you see yourself in all this?
Femininity
We have been conditioned to believe sexy skirts, fake boobs, lots of skin, and stripteases represent women’s sexuality. We have been conditioned to believe that independent and strong businesswomen are ideal for long-term relationships. All that is bullshit! That’s social conditioning. When you get to know these women better, you realize that behind their hot, sexy asses is usually an insecure, empty, and boring woman. Once you’ve banged her and the sexual pressure is relieved, you don’t want to see her again and you especially don’t want her to speak; but you usually don’t get that close, you just want her. Many of these independent women have nonexistent sex lives and they can’t maintain a relationship. Just look at all the divorced stars on the front page of gossip magazines to give you an idea; you don’t want to play that game. Independent women simply lack the ability to connect with others. Energetically, women are designed to receive. When a woman gives too much energetically, such as independent women tend to do, her sexual chakra locks.
If all that is shit, then where are the real women who will support you, take care of you, and fulfill you sexually and emotionally?
The feminist movement has massively repressed women’s femininity because it was perceived as weak. They wanted equality, but instead they got sameness. Masculinity is like fire, and femininity is like water. Which
one is stronger? Water cools down fire. Masculinity is like a hammer and femininity is like wind. Think one is stronger than the other? Good luck trying to shape a cliff with a hammer; however, if you let the wind shape it, no matter how long it will take, it will transform the cliff.
These images are very abstract, so let’s view this concept in a more concrete way. Thailand, where you can find some of the purest feminine women, is the only country in the world that has never been conquered. It is called the land of smiles, and many people consider it a paradise. In fact, many
American men go there, fall in love with a woman, and bring her back, and their connection is way deeper than just about money. I don’t plan to marry any time soon, but if I were ever to marry, I would be much more likely to marry a Thai woman than an American woman. These women are so happy, light, carefree, supportive, feminine, giggly, energetic, and friendly, it’s refreshing. With them, there’s no drama, no hassles, and no power struggles. I mean, just being around these women is a breath of fresh air, even if you don’t sleep with them.
Then you come back to your country, and women don’t even look at you. You might talk with a girl while waiting for the bus and expect to continue the conversation after getting in, but she will sit down somewhere else. When girls like you but have no clue how to connect with you, they bring all kinds of drama and power struggles. Even when girls really like you and call you every day, they’re so busy with school and work it’s hard to even meet once a week.
Makes you wonder . . . where are the real women!? If you know what a real woman is and what she feels like, she is within every girl you meet. If you expect her to behave in a natural way and respect her, she will tend to show more of that side of her. If your natural reality is so strong that it makes people comfortable around you, it will lift the repression of her femininity. Don’t expect miracles though. If an independent woman connects with you, behaves naturally, goes with the flow, and sleeps with you, she will probably take her independence and aloofness back the next morning because that’s the way she is.
Seriously, two people are involved in mating, so you are only responsible for 50 percent. If you’ve done a lot of self-improvement work and you still find it a hassle to meet girls, then maybe the problem is not within yourself. If women were behaving naturally, it would be simple to connect to each other, and the girl you met at the bar would match you up with her single
girlfriend. If it doesn’t happen that way but you’ve done your part, then it’s not your problem! If girls don’t do their part, what else do they have to offer? Get that burden off your shoulders. It’s not your fault if you don’t get laid; girls aren’t doing their part because they lost touch with their feminine nature because of social conditioning.
The funny thing about natural women is that you don’t even think about sex when you’re around them, yet it just somehow happens.
Sex is the byproduct of connecting with a woman. If you’re having good conversations and are thinking too logically, you will build rapport but end
conversations with her, are very in touch with your emotions and
masculinity and have strong sexual magnetism, her attraction will build, you will connect, and sex will just somehow happen without having to force it. When you have sexual magnetism, either you connect or you don’t. After all, why would a woman not sleep with you if you have a good connection? Personally, I always sleep with girls on the first or second meeting, or never.
Normally, women should heal you emotionally and help you develop as a man by their mere presence. This is still the case in Southeast Asia, South America, third-world countries, and most of the world. However, in our modern country, since women have lost touch with so much from their nature, you have to find a way to balance your energies by yourself, to detach yourself emotionally from external influences, and to extend your energies into women to bring out their natural core. It is at least ten times harder than it should be, but you have to go through it anyway. It is much easier when you can see the road ahead and realize what’s really going on.
I could try to describe what masculinity and femininity are with words, but you really have to gain the intuitive awareness of it, not the bare logical understanding that words represent. In Chapter 2, we will explore natural grounding, a relational meditation technique that will allow you to sense what feminine energy really is. After being in relation with such purity, many people reported getting to tears and feeling liberated and stronger.
Women have been massively repressed, and the secret is to pull their
feminine and carefree side out of them. Ninety-five percent of women sleep with the 5 percent of men who have enough inner strength to do that.
Here is what an alpha woman is:
1. An alpha woman doesn’t care what people think.
2. An alpha woman responds to the way people feel and is very spontaneous.
3. An alpha woman radiates joy, lightness, and playfulness. 4. An alpha woman loves herself.
5. An alpha woman chooses what man she lets in.
6. People are comfortable around an alpha woman and don’t even think about sex.
7. An alpha woman draws the masculinity out of men around her. 8. An alpha woman enjoys the present moment and flows through life. 9. An alpha woman doesn’t have a business agenda.
10. An alpha woman is nice and cares about the people around her. 11. An alpha woman is very intuitive and has a sixth sense.
12. An alpha woman is aware of what’s happening all around her.
What an alpha woman is NOT:
1. Someone who dresses very sexily to get validation from people. 2. Someone who tries to be sexier and smarter than other women around
her.
3. Someone who seeks to control others.
This image of female sexuality is very different than what is portrayed on television and in magazines, and valuing it instead of sexploitation is the key to success with women.
Life Purpose
Most successful naturals have a clear path they are walking through life, and women join them along the way. Some other people are just doing the same thing over and over again week after week without getting anywhere, and they can’t spark any attraction from women. So what is your life purpose?
I don’t think there is a clear answer to this question. I followed my gut and walked on my own path way before I knew where it would lead. I just felt something was wrong with my life and with the world around me. At the end of college many years ago, I just knew I had to go overseas for my practical training, and not to France. Out of sixty graduates, four of us went abroad, but I was the only one headed to a country other than France. I ended up in Finland, and that started a series of events that transpired over several years all around the world.
I had no clue where my path would lead, but I followed my gut. Now that I look back at all the experiences and challenges I went through, I couldn’t think of any faster path to get to where I am now. The adventures allowed me to open my mind, the challenges strengthened me, and they all happened at the perfect time; or rather, I accepted them perfectly when they came. Whenever challenges happen in your life, remember that you can always
take great benefits from them. If life were too easy, you wouldn’t be able to develop your potential.
I don’t think you have to decide your life purpose. Instead, you should uncover it and follow your gut feelings day by day as your path unfolds. We all have strengths, weaknesses, and backgrounds, so we will all walk a different path and contribute something different to the world. As you apply this book to awaken your energies, your strengths will develop and your life purpose will try to manifest itself, so you must know how to listen to it.
To flow through your life, you must free yourself of the shackles holding you back. You must move out of your parents’ house and learn to solve your problems by yourself. If you are stuck in an unsatisfying job that doesn’t lead you where you want to go, don’t be afraid to quit that job. When you develop your magnetism, it becomes much easier to find the right job because you can attract it into your life instead of searching for it. Even if you’re not the best at what you’re doing, if you are pleasant to be around and you relieve the stress in your work environment, every employer will want to keep you. If you have a child, you have more responsibilities, but that shouldn’t prevent you from going abroad with the child, because he or she will get much more out of travelling than from school. Also keep some distance from your friends holding you back and spend time with the ones who support you. Remember that you are the average of the six people you spend the most time with. You must cut all the cords and attachments to set yourself free.
Being free from the outside is one thing, but you also have all kind of ropes and fears holding you back from the inside. We will explore several
techniques to liberate those internal ropes and set you free in Chapter 2.
Once you are free and willing to do whatever you have to do next, then what? Say this to yourself, and really mean it: “God, please show me my
life purpose, and I will forever be your humble servant.” This is a very powerful prayer; keep repeating it to yourself. Learn how to listen to yourself. Listen to your dreams. Listen to your gut.
As I am writing this (in April 2009), a lot is going on around the world. The worldwide financial system is going haywire, Mother Nature is going crazy, the poles are melting, animal species are disappearing, forests are being depleted, the planet’s consciousness level is rising, and feminine energy is increasing. I can’t think of a single aspect in the world that isn’t changing, but continuous change is the nature of life.
Sometimes, when I have great breakthroughs that shift my core, my behaviors don’t match anymore with my new self, so I stop all of my
behaviors one after the other until I become very passive. Then I sleep a lot while my core shifts and restabilizes. I gradually start getting active again and build new behaviors one after the other while making everything I do more effective than before. The whole process can last between a day and a week, based on the size of the breakthrough. I heard many people say that the planet’s awareness level is rising and that the earth’s energy is shifting at its core, which I also feel is true. If that’s the case, the process the economic system is going through seems very similar to the process I go through when
I change. The current economic system doesn’t fit with the new
consciousness level, so it shuts down and transforms. This process works just like trees shed leaves in the autumn: the leaves fall down when they are not necessary anymore to compost the ground and give birth to something new.
Currently, it’s not our governments who control the world, but the banks. Whoever prints a country’s money gains control over it. The worldwide economic system is designed to be extremely complex so nobody
understands what’s going on. Your taxes don’t serve to pay for services. Taxes serve to pay for federal debt, but what is that debt? What is money anyway? It’s a fiction. We live in the real world, not in a fictional one. Now the authorities want to centralize the world banking system to establish better control and to install the Amero as a new currency for North America. In response to what is going on around the world right now, the authorities are going way too far in their desire to control the population. I may be wrong, but I predict that the plans for worldwide financial authorities will not work and that we’re not done with the financial crisis. The planet’s new consciousness doesn’t support the system anymore, and people are standing to free themselves instead of living in a fiction-controlled world. We’ve still only seen the beginning, but the more I see, the more I believe we are on the verge of a new era, an era where we are free not only from emotional bounds but also from physical bounds in the system. Many people have discussed a prophecy that the year 2012 will be the end of the world, but it won’t: it will be the end of the world as we know it and the beginning of something new— an era of freedom. I haven’t read the prophecy, but the more I see, the more I
transformation. Actually, by applying this book and raising your consciousness level, you will have an impact.
Eastern vs Western World
Anyone who had experiences with women in both the Eastern and Western worlds will tell you that results are different. In many cases, the results people get from this e-book depends on where they are geographically
located. This is normal since there are two people involved in dating and you only are responsible for 50% of it.
What I call the Eastern and Western worlds is really an abuse of language since I consider Mexico to be in the Eastern world and Australia to be in the Western world. These statistics of divorce rates around the world best define what I call the Western world.
Source: http://www.nationmaster.com/graph/peo_div_rat-people-divorce-rate
The divorce rate in America is 7 times higher than Greece, 9 times higher than Thailand and 15 times higher than their neighbors in Mexico. Russia and Puerto Rico also have high divorce rates but probably for other reasons.
I will speak from personal experience to express the difference. I was
month behaving exactly in the same way. In 30 days, 18 girls ended up kissing me. I wasn’t even going out every day and I was sick for a week.
Women were aware of who I was through eye-contact. The difference in Montreal (and other places) is that I can walk half an hour downtown in a summer shiny day and count the people I have eye-contact with on one hand. People are in their bubbles, disconnected from each other, unaware of each other. Unfortunately, this also impacts the experiences you can live these women.
The way a woman does something is the way she does everything. If it is hard to connect and to have a relationship with a woman, it will also be hard to have chemistry and live a decent experience with her. As a rule of thumb, the easier it is to start a relationship, the better the relationship will be.
I also noticed that in the Western world, the people having the most friends at their parties were some people closest to the collective thinking of the social matrix.
I went to an event called CEO Space in Las Vegas where there are several hundreds of spiritual leaders, entrepreneurs and inventors. It was completely the opposite over there. I was always surrounded by a few great women (unfortunately few of them were near my age). There was two gorgeous 18-year old girls who wanted to be models and they were alone most of the time. Their aloof energies didn’t fit with the open and cooperative environment. When you go out of the hotel into the city of Las Vegas, there’s a huge contrast! That event really has its own energetic space.
The point is, when you live within the social matrix, it is easier to relate with many people when you are closer to the collective thinking because you are more similar. I have a friend who is absolutely amazing with women. He plays the social games, he’s very charismatic and persuasive and he tells people what they want to hear. He’s amazingly good and building up stories and complicated lies and women hear what they want. They love him! He’s also a very reliable person so he has real qualities.
However, I don’t want to have to do all the work he’s doing to get women, I don’t want to lie and I don’t want to go through the drama he often
experiences.
At some point you have to ask yourself… how much of your soul are you ready to exchange to fit what people want of you? What kind of experiences do you deserve? What do you really want to live? What kind of women do you eventually want to settle with?
It is really a personal decision to start aligning yourself with the simplicity of life.
You could compare this to creating great wine experiences. You could take the best wine in the world and give it to people in Quebec and they wouldn’t really care. Why? Because appreciating fine wines isn’t part of the culture. You are the fine wine. If you want to live passionate and intimate
emotions doesn’t matter at all. It changes nothing to your qualities and you deserve better. You don’t ask itinerants to evaluate wines. Why would you let some women with deep emotional wounds tell you what you’re worth?
If you live in the Western world and can’t find a quantity of people who are authentically open and connected to their soul, first look for quality people. There are always foreign women and spiritually evolved women who are more detached from the collective thinking. Once you have quality people, then you can surround yourself with more people of that quality.
In my two years in Montreal, I have met some of the most amazing, inspiring and wise people. The challenges also allowed me to grow tremendously. Open environments allow you to learn. Challenging environments allow you to grow. Both are good for your own evolution.
Even if you just want to get laid, sex isn’t the same with every woman. Sex is an intense energetic experience. The more energy flows through a
woman’s body and the more feminine she is, the better sex will be. The more aloof, emotionally disconnected and masculine she is, the worse sex will be. Sleeping with an aloof independent woman after sleeping with a vibrant feminine woman is like going from driving a BMW to driving a Ford. Once you try the luxury, there is no reason to go back, especially when the luxury is easier to connect with.
If you live outside the United States, Canada and England, everything presented here will be easier to apply and you can live a crazy lifestyle. Otherwise, you may want to consider traveling abroad for several months to
experience what life can truly be. You deserve the best experiences. Don’t settle for less.
Many people like to talk about these issues. Many people like to complain and to go abroad to avoid them. Many people like to ignore these issues. But… almost nobody wants to BE the change they want to see in the world. That’s where the power to transmute your life lies in. The consciousness level of the planet is currently rising with the rise of the divine feminine energy. The planet energy shift will reach a peak at the end of 2012 (see the blog article What’s Happening Right Now for 2012 for more information).
http://www.shamanicattraction.com/blog/2010/06/what-is-happening-right-now-for-2012/
The consciousness shift combined with my business growing combined with the changes you and many other people are making in your own life
combined with LOTS of other things currently happening is enough to shift the dynamics of the Western societies within a few years. By 2013, you will have much more inner strength than you have right now and the dynamics of the society around you will be very different. You can amplify the shift by being part of the change and by appreciating life and women at the same time. Adapting yourself and playing social games will not bring any results that can compare to this.
We will explore techniques to detach you from the collective thinking in the chapter Energy Weaknesses.
Chapter 2: Healing Methods
Awareness
Several ways to heal your energies and emotional wounds exist. Generally speaking, the most effective methods are the simplest.
In medicine, doctors consider a disease to be rheumatism or a bacterial infection. When working with energies, a headache, fear, or insecurity is also considered a disease. Split into its parts, the word “dis-ease” means a body that is not at ease. In fact, cancer, heart attacks, and all other diseases appear in your energies well before they manifest concretely. The body has the ability to fully regenerate itself when at ease. If you heal your energies, they will heal your diseases and keep you in good health. My dentist never told me teeth could regenerate, but I had a dozen decaying teeth heal by themselves. Several people have healed from cancer and even from HIV, among other medical miracles. When you are in an alpha state, at peace and in touch with your intuition, your immune system is much stronger, so you are very rarely ever sick.
The simplest way to heal your energies is by increasing your awareness. Awareness is curative. Your subconscious issues affect everything you do and every aspect of your life. When you become fully aware of an issue, you can make a conscious choice about allowing it to affect your life or letting the issue go. You don’t have to solve or figure out your issues; instead, you just have to let them go. In fact, as soon as you become aware of an issue, it
will start to fade away. When you explored your chakras in Chapter 1, you explored your blockages. As you did so, they started to heal.
All your physical issues come from your emotional issues, and all your emotional issues are emotional blocks. An emotional block is not only a cancer or a headache, but also it is any feeling that is less than pure love, joy, bliss, and peace.
The gray feeling of not being in touch with your emotions is an emotional blockage as well. Allow yourself to fully feel that stuck sensation through your whole body, and then follow that feeling inside you with your mind. Follow it deeper, deeper, and ever deeper inside yourself. You might feel roots of issues and blockages reaching down to your core, awakening memories and events. Follow the feeling again deeper and deeper down to its deepest source. When you feel the blockage at the end of the chain of roots, pass your mind around it to cut the attachment. The whole tree of issues will start to fade, like when you cut a spiderweb.
You may not feel all these details and that’s okay. As you work on your energies, they will become clearer. Just pay attention to whatever you feel and don’t filter anything. You’re not sure if you feel something or not? It’s there, it’s there, just assume it, don’t filter it. If you think a girl is interested in you but you’re not sure, then she is.
Pick any tension you feel in your body and allow yourself to feel it fully. Follow that feeling deep inside you, deeper and ever deeper. Take some time
to do that with your most important blockages. You can also do it in the bus or in the shower every day.
Now let’s take another feeling, approach anxiety. What is that feeling? Take the time to follow it deep inside. You get approach anxiety when you try to get something from women. The attachment to the outcome takes your power away by making you dependent on the outcome. When you don’t need anything from anyone, approach anxiety is nonsense and people can’t reject you because you’re not trying to get anything. From our new reality, these concepts are obsolete. But still, fears can be associated with them.
What’s an advantage of having approach anxiety? Don’t think about it—just say the first feeling that comes to mind. What’s a disadvantage of having approach anxiety? What’s an advantage of having approach anxiety? It might keep you safe in your comfort zone. What’s a disadvantage of having approach anxiety? It might prevent you from meeting women. Repeat these two questions to yourself and answer them right away at least twenty times each. As you become aware of advantages and disadvantages, the emotional charges start fading and other advantages and disadvantages show up.
Repeat this exercise until you feel neutral and indifferent about the concept of approach anxiety. You can use this advantages/disadvantages technique with any other issues. The truth is, there are always advantages to your behavior or you wouldn’t do it.
Then you might say you’re shy and uncomfortable around women because you were humiliated publicly as a child at school and have a whole story behind it. The story is totally irrelevant. There’s a point in life where you
must stop confirming your old reality and start rewriting it. You don’t need to prove yourself to your former schoolmates or anything like that, and there’s nothing to figure out. You just have to let go of the emotional wounds and focus on what you want and rewrite your story. You’re no longer that guy who gets humiliated in public. You’re that guy women go nuts for. If someone tries to humiliate you, you couldn’t care less, and it rolls off your back while that person makes a fool of himself.
Your desire to be unique and your sense of being detached from others is your ego. We are all human beings. All men are wired the same way and all women are wired the same way. If you identify yourself by your qualities, your strengths, your issues, and your personality, it’s holding you back. If you really want abundance in life, you should have the freedom to be whoever you want to be at any time. For any outcome you may want, there is always a certain way of being that will allow you to achieve it. Your sense of being different or your sense of being a certain way prevents you from being all the other ways. If your egotistic mind thinks you are this strong man who doesn’t take shit from anyone and who is always right, then you cannot learn from people and you will stay with whatever results you have right now. If your egotistic mind thinks you have to struggle for money because you are poor, then it prevents you from feeling and attracting
financial abundance. If you view yourself as an engineer, a policeman, or an athlete, then you cannot be or experience anything else. To let go of your ego means to let go of all these fake identities to be whoever you want to be to achieve your highest potential. When you let go of your ego, you kind of let your old self die so you can be reborn as a consciousness of God. You
universal consciousness. You can still do the same work and you’ll be more effective at whatever you are doing since your mind is clearer and more focused. However, in many cases, you may find what you are doing right now isn’t aligned with your life purpose, in which case the best choice may be to leave or change your job and follow your inner guidance.
There can also be unexpected consequences to raising your awareness and healing your issues, so it’s good to be aware of those as you can’t improve if you don’t accept the consequences. Energy flows within each of us, and removing energy blocks increases that flow. In the same way, increasing the flow of energy within you dissolves more energy blocks. However, most of your issues are unconscious, and when the flow of energy increases, it uncovers a new layer of stuck emotions so you may feel very chaotic for a period of time. Also, you attract things in your life that match your energies, but when you liberate a layer of blockages, it sometimes seems to summon hell and attract many things that match what you released. When you get tested on your new reality, accept the challenges and keep moving forward with your new way of being. Once the chaos has passed, you will attract more abundance into your life.
There may also be people around you who don’t do anything with their lives and who just hold you back. You may lose touch with some people along the way, and you may have a period of life that is quieter. In the end, you will build a social circle that is much richer than before with people who support you and who live with integrity.
Exercise 1: Following Blockages
1. Focus on a negative feeling in your body.
2. Allow yourself to feel the emotion throughout your body.
3. Pay attention to the negative feeling and notice all the details.
4. Follow the feeling deeper and deeper to find its root.
Exercise 2: Advantages & Disadvantages
1. Focus on an issue you have.
2. Say an advantage of having that issue without thinking about it.
3. Say a disadvantage of having that issue.
4. Repeat twenty times.
Acceptance and Love
Some people working to improve their lives ask me when they will reach true happiness. You work on healing yourself to reach illumination, then what? What will you do once you reach that perfect state of being? You will live happily forever? If all you care about is uniting yourself with universal energy, then shoot yourself and you’ll get there.
Life is a path, not a destination. You are walking that path right now. The challenges you face in your life are what allow you to grow, so you should be grateful for them.
You are as far as you think you are from true happiness. Even if you had plenty of girls who wanted to sleep with you, you wouldn’t reach that
happiness because nobody can fulfill you. Happiness comes from the inside, not from the outside, and it is as simple as accepting your life as it is. When you reach that state where you are happy with your life even if it’s not perfect, your life starts to change, much like a flower under the sun.
You still have issues and blockages to liberate. So what? You can live with them, at least for now. Rejecting them and feeling bad about your life isn’t going to help. Feeling bad about your slow progress does nothing at all to help you improve, so that feeling is useless. Let it go.
Another thing that really helps is to take time every morning to think about all the good things in your life and be grateful for them. Also take the time every week to list all the good things that happened during that week. The more you focus on what you want and on the progress you make instead of focusing on your lack of progress, the more you will grow.
What I am about to say may sound weird at first, but think about it for a moment. I am grateful for the repression of femininity in our culture. There has been abuse toward women, and women’s true nature wasn’t respected. The feminist movement gave women space to grow at the cost of their feminine nature. The scarcity and repression of femininity allows us to realize its beauty and importance when we see it. The repression of feminine energy to an intolerable level was a required step to allow it to come back stronger than ever.
The next time you take the bus or metro, look at the person next to you and say in your head “I’m sorry, I love you.” Look at each woman around you, no matter her age and looks, in the eyes if possible. For each of them, say five times in your head “I’m sorry, I love you,” then look at the next person. It will shift the energies with pure love. You can also think about anyone or any aspect of your life and keep repeating “I’m sorry, I love you.” This is the easiest form of remote healing, and it really works.
When you interact with a woman, love is the positive emotion of appreciating her. However, that pure emotion is often mixed up with negative feelings of neediness, attachment, and jealousy. You should separate these feelings to keep only the positivity of pure love. You should allow yourself to fully appreciate women around you while letting go of any attachment.
In the same way, lust is a mix of appreciation and attachment. When you feel lust, allow yourself to feel the love for her feminine nature and let go of any attachment that is clinging onto your solar plexus.
Exercise 3: Gratefulness
1. Write down all the positive things that happened since last week. 2. Take some time to feel grateful for all these things.
3. Repeat this exercise every week or every morning.
Exercise 4: I Love You
2. Look at a woman next to you, in the eyes if she looks at you. 3. Repeat in your head “I’m sorry, I love you” five times. 4. Repeat steps 2 and 3 on all women around you.
Letting Go
One of the most important abilities to master is letting go of stuck emotions on demand. Emotional blocks don’t have to be solved or figured out. You just have to let them go.
An emotional block is either an emotion or something you resist, such as fear of public speaking, or an emotion or something you hold on to, such as the attachment for your nice car. Either way, it creates a contraction around emotions, preventing energies from flowing properly.
Take a pen and hold it firmly in your hand. The contraction of your hand around the pen feels the same as the contraction around your fears. Your pen is stuck in your hand, but you could let it fall on the floor just by letting it go. It’s exactly the same with your fears. I know it sounds too simple to be true, but it really is.
All emotional blockages are fears in all kinds of forms. A fear is looking for validation, looking for control, or looking for security. Some people buy that nice new car or fancy dress to get validation from women and friends. Some people use hypnosis or get a higher social status to try to control their
environment. Some people avoid expressing themselves or avoid meeting new people to keep their security. All these things—validation, control, and security—come from within you, so you shouldn’t have to look for those outside of yourself.
Visualize interacting with a woman and notice your fear of rejection. That’s looking for validation and looking for control. Accept and allow yourself to fully feel this feeling, so you stop resisting it. Now, let the feeling go, so you stop holding onto it. Allow yourself to fully feel the fear of rejection
throughout your body and contract to hold that feeling a few seconds. Then relax and let it go. Notice how it feels a little bit lighter. Repeat this at least twenty times or until the feeling is gone.
Every time you do this, you are letting go of the contractions and unmaking the nodes. The change is subtle but instantaneous and permanent. Practice accepting and letting go with all negative feelings you are aware of. If you feel disconnected from your emotions, you can let that feeling go in the exact same way. By doing that, you’ll get back in touch with your feelings and then you can release them.
Once you get used to it, you can associate accepting with breathing in and letting go with breathing out. Then, you can focus on a negative feeling like fear or anxiety, just breathe, and the feeling will fade away. Letting go is easy and effortless: the challenge is to become aware of your issues, and when you let them go, more will show up. It’s like peeling an onion: you do it layer per layer. You can do this all the time—before sleeping, at work, in a
Letting go is really something you must get the awareness for. It’s like learning to ride a bike when you were kid. You could read the best manual on the subject to know how to hold your back, how to put your hands, how to turn, and how to brake. But you would get on the bike and fall down! Why? Because you had the knowledge, but not the awareness. You would get on the bike again, gain awareness of your body balance, and then you could ride. Then, you could be off the bike for forty years and you would still be able to ride. That’s the difference between knowledge and awareness.
Exercise 5: Letting Go
1. Focus on a negative feeling.
2. Allow yourself to fully feel the feeling. 3. Let the feeling go.
4. Repeat twenty times.
Natural Grounding
We explored previously how modern society has repressed femininity. Ironically, one of the most powerful techniques to balance our energies is relating to pure feminine energy. Traveling to third-world countries such as those in Southeast Asia or South America for at least two months is a great way to ground yourself in a more natural reality, as you WILL be affected by your new environment. It takes about a month in a different country to start sinking in the energies of the place and to internalize changes. When
you come back home after a few months abroad, you will feel so much more at ease with yourself and girls will notice you are somehow different.
I know it is not easy for everyone to go traveling for several months at a time, so I can recommend another way to relate to pure feminine energy. Watch music videos of very specific artists who have such purity in their voice that they bring you to tears. Due to the omnipresence of the social matrix, there are no such artists from our modern countries or that you would ever see on TV, so I can’t recommend any resources from Canada, the United States, or England. Most of the purest artists are from Thailand, and there are a few good ones from Iceland, Ireland, and Germany, among other countries.
When you listen to music that makes you very emotional, it lifts and heals the repression life has imposed on you. It brings you back in touch with your emotions. Crying and being emotional is often seen as weak in our culture, but think about it: men who achieve the most in life are very passionate about what they do, and tears of joy are the liberation of inner wounds. Being in touch with our emotions brings us lots of strength, passion, and control over our lives.
Before doing hardcore natural grounding, it is good to listen to background music to put you in a state where you feel good and emotional. Get music from Hans Zimmer (Germany), Enya (Ireland), and Björk (Iceland). You can listen to it while eating or while cleaning your apartment. This music will put you in a meditative state. It is much better to get the full albums, but you
