how to talk to women so they find you totally irresistible By Christopher Williamson
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Preface
”The great question that has never been answered, and which I
have not yet been able to answer, despite my thirty years of
research into the feminine soul, is ’What does a woman want?’”
– Sigmund Freud
Why does dating seem so confusing and illogical? No matter how much we think about the dynamics between men and women, nothing seems to make sense. Men have always asked themselves questions such as:
What defining characteristic makes women love some men and never notice others? Why do women say one thing but mean another?
Why is it so hard to start conversations with women? Do similarities or opposites attract?
What really attracts women?
Maybe famous psychiatrist Sigmund Freud couldn’t answer the question, “What does a woman want?” but you can be certain by the end of this book you’ll have the answer.
As we embark on this journey to understand the differences between men and women take notes and refer to them often. They’ll help you grasp the concepts and jump-start your success.
Contents
Chapter 1: How To Meet Women... 7
Fear... 7
Approach Excuses ... 7
Why Men Approach Women ... 9
‘Real Man’ Test: Will He Talk To Me?... 9
Women’s Ultimate Fantasy...10
Powerful Beliefs ...11
Power Approach Technique...11
Bad Opening Lines In Clubs...13
Where to Meet Women ...14
Hesitation ...15
Approach Anxiety Action Plan ...15
Step 1...16
Step 2...17
Step 3...17
Continuing Steps ...18
The Bar Bet ...18
Persistence ...19
Gradual Improvement ...19
Start Conversations with Everyone ...20
Indirect Approaches ...21
Classrooms ...22
Parties ...22
Clubs and Bars ...23
Chapter 2: How To Talk To Women ... 24
Section 1: Flirting Introduction...25
What Is Flirting? ...25
Why Is Flirting Important?...26
Interpretation...27
Flirting Instincts...28
Anti-Flirting ...28
Flirting vs. Rapport ...29
Section 2: Flirting Components ...31
Verbal Flirting...31
Non-Verbal Flirting...34
Section 3: The “Playful Conflict” Flirting Formula ...38
Playfully Disagree ...38
Playfully Accuse ...38
Playfully Compete...38
Section 4: Flirting Qualities...39
The 3 Qualities ...39
Confident Flirting...40
Playful Flirting...44
Sexual Flirting...46
Without The 3 Qualities...51
Chapter 3: First Conversations With
Women... 52
People Want What They Can't Have ...52
Sucking Up vs. Playing Hard-To-Get ...53
Section 1: Phrases, Games and Pickup Lines ...54
Cute Line ...54
“Who Would You Do?” Game...54
Pickup Lines Game ...55
“We Should Start Our Own…!” Role Play Game ...56
Conclusion ...57
Section 2: Body Language ...58
Posture...59
Eye Contact ...60
Head Positioning ...61
Nervous Body Language ...62
Flirtatious Body Language ...63
First Impressions Last ...64
Chapter 4: Phone Dynamics ... 65
How To Get Phone Numbers ...65
Initial Resistance ...65
Power Question: “Am I prepared with something to say?” ...67
How To Call Women...67
Text Messaging Women...68
Text Message Battles ...72
How To Act On The Phone...73
Word-for-Word Phone Conversation...73
Genuineness ...75
Examples: The Flirting Formula During Dates...75
Shopping ...76
Mini Golf ...77
Movies ...78
What To Talk About On Dates...79
Good Topics ...79
Deadly Topics ...79
Chapter 6: Dating Guidelines... 80
1. Answer demographic questions with sarcasm...80
2. Kiss her by the end of the date ...81
3. See her once a week for two months...82
4. Cultivate the ability to not care...82
5. Be a gentleman ...83
6. Look sharp...84
7. Reward women for good behavior...85
8. Compliment women on their personalities ...85
Chapter 7: Intimacy With Women... 88
Preparation ...88
Flirtatious Mood ...89
Suggestive Mood ...90
Section 1: Sexy Body Language...90
Smile With Your Eyes ...90
Slow, Deep and Deliberate Speech ...91
Personal Space ...91
Section 2: Sexy Talk ...91
Oranges Dialogue...92
Magic Pen Dialogue ...92
How To Turn Women On...93
Chapter 8: Flirting Action Plan ... 95
Model The Masters ...95
Big Personalities...96
Chapter 1: How To
Meet Women
Fear
No it’s not heights, spiders or even the dark. Men’s ultimate fear is starting conversations with women. For most men, approaching women is close to the scariest thing they’ll ever do in their entire life. I’m not kidding!
Most men don’t start out afraid of approaching women. There’s always a story behind it. One day a man decides to approach a woman but instead of getting the outcome he expected he is embarrassed, humiliated or laughed at. He concludes that all women dislike him. It only takes one harsh rejection to cause a man to never approach another woman for the rest of his life.
Living this life of unhappiness, he sometimes “gets lucky” with the occasional girlfriend, but she’s usually not someone he truly deserves. Unfortunately he doesn’t believe he can do any better and never bothers trying ever again. Well, I’ve got news for these men. Even naturals and super-stud Casanovas get rejected. Everyone gets rejected; it’s part of life.
The solution is not to avoid rejection but to understand that it’s normal and to deal with it. Unfortunately, the only way to get rid of this intense emotional state called fear is to face it. I know you didn’t want to hear that, but this is the only real way to end your fears forever. The solution to this problem will be explained later. First we must understand what really stops us from making a move.
Approach Excuses
Let me tell you a story.
Away for the summer at his beach house, John noticed a woman he wanted to meet. John walked down towards the waves as she played around near the water’s edge, laughing and giggling with her friends. Witnessing the potential interaction, I saw that the group of women knew exactly what was going on. By just lingering around near the water for a long time, looking stupid in the process, John managed to make the girls feel uncomfortable, dampening his
chances should he eventually speak. But he never actually went over and talked to the group of women. When he came back I asked him, “What happened?” He replied, “I looked at her, now she needs to do the rest!”
Sadly John didn’t understand what the role of a masculine man was. He was so fragile he couldn’t even admit he didn’t have the guts to approach them. Do you think these women would start a conversation first?
No.
Part of being a masculine male involves being the leader, decision-maker and initiator of all interactions. If you don’t go over and talk to a woman it’s very unlikely she will come over and start a conversation with you. What causes this fear is an imaginary voice in one’s head.
Excuses come from doubt, from not knowing the outcome of a situation, from lack of confidence. With this state of mind men invent outrageous excuses to keep themselves from meeting new women and simultaneously protect their fragile ego.
Excuses allow the ego to feel safe and unbroken, reinforcing the view that nothing could have been done in the particular situation anyway. The brain becomes so creative that it makes up an excuse for every single situation where it’s possible to meet women, so men never take action. If you make excuses, you are only cheating yourself.
Here are the common excuses:
• No, she’s probably got a boyfriend.
• No, if she has a boyfriend he might beat me up. • No, she looks busy; I won’t disturb her.
• No, she’s with her friends.
• No, she’s on the dance floor; it’s too loud to talk there. • No, she looks bitchy and mean.
• No, she’s sitting at a table. • No, she’s walking past me. • No, she’s way out of my league.
These excuses are rubbish! Women in relationships are often flattered to have men approach them and a simple “Thanks anyway” ends the conversation. Ninety-nine point 999 per cent of the time men won’t do anything, even if they’re right next to their girlfriend when you talk to her. And finally, women want to be swept off their feet as if “by magic”, so there is no excuse not to interrupt her daily routine.
Men also raise and lower their standards within seconds, claiming that women are too attractive or not attractive enough. This excuse simply becomes an
endless loop that ultimately gets men nowhere. “If you continue to do the same things, you’ll always get the same results.”
If you continue to make these excuses to yourself, don’t expect your dating situation to ever change. The ability to change your thinking and beliefs also changes your results in the dating world. So what happens when men don’t feed their minds any excuses to meet women? They freeze.
“Oh, I want to meet this woman. Umm, what do I say? I need something creative to say. What can I say, what can I say?”
While the man thinks of something to say the woman gets up and leaves, and the man misses his opportunity.
Why Men Must Approach Women
Let me ask you this: Would you decide to date a woman that you’d only spoken to over the phone but didn’t know what she looked like? You’d be very
interested in her physical appearance before you’d consider showing interest in her personality or interests.
Just as men need to see evidence that a woman is appealing (physically
attractive), women also want to see proof that men possess masculine qualities like confidence, and the ability to lead situations. So before you can date any woman you need to go through a series of tests that prove your masculinity.
‘Real Man’ Test: Will He Talk To Me?
As we’ve mentioned, there are only three vital steps to attracting the quality of woman you deserve. These are the flirting actions: comfort, interest and desire. These are action steps men must take to prove themselves.
In the eyes of women, if men cannot perform these three steps they are not attractive.
In order to see if men possess the qualities they seek women set up favourable situations to test men’s masculinity, whether they’re consciously aware of it or not.
One test a woman uses to filter out weak men is to see if her beauty intimidates them. Do you think men are considered masculine if they are scared in the presence of a beautiful woman? Heck, if a man’s scared of a woman how’s he ever going to protect her? Your duty as a man is to approach the woman and make the first contact with her.
If you’re not willing to walk up to a woman and open your mouth because you’re too scared, then she already knows you’re not the man she’s looking for. Period.
This may seem cruel but it’s the harsh reality of attracting women you’ve never met before. Don’t wait for a go signal like eye contact or someone to introduce you. Just take action.
Do you feel even more intimidated by the thought of approaching an extremely attractive woman? The more beautiful the woman, the harder it is for a man to start a conversation with her. This is just one of the ways women filter out men that don’t fit their image of the ideal man.
Exceptionally beautiful women wear the most stylish clothes, coolest sunglasses and sexiest tans, and often don’t smile when walking through the world.
Why?
Their image screams, “stay away”, and less confident men are often so intimidated by this aura that they decide to do nothing.
This sneaky strategy can be employed by a woman to filter out the less confident men from ever approaching her, ultimately saving her lots of time. She only wants to date the most masculine and fearless partners possible.
The same rules apply in isolated settings. If they’ve been talking in front of a roasting fire with romantic lighting and seductive music, the man must still make the first move or nothing will happen. Even if women are ready and willing they almost never take the first step.
It’s all part of testing men. If men can’t initiate and escalate the situation, women won’t be interested. Waiting for the man to lead allows the woman to assess the sort of man she’s dealing with and gives him the opportunity to attract her. Women are drawn to men’s leadership qualities. Their instinctive habits are to passively observe males with strong masculine behaviour. They’ll watch men as they approach and compete, rather than walk around and start these interactions themselves. For these reasons men must approach women.
Women’s Ultimate Fantasy
Another way to make sense of this is to imagine women’s ideal scenario. A woman’s dream is to meet a masculine and charming man in an ordinary,
everyday place. Having the entire situation “just happen” is perfect. These ideas come from the fairy tales we’ve been taught since an early age.
The stories always go something like this: a knight in shining armour, risking his life, rides to the castle, defeats the dangerous creature and saves the princess from her misery.
Men may find these tales childish and stupid, but to women these stories take on greater meaning. They love these sagas of romantic heroes facing danger, risking their lives and leading women away to live happily ever after. The story of
Prince Charming is the model for women’s ideal man. Women want to be “swept off their feet”. Women want to be approached.
Powerful Beliefs
The successful man holds only powerful positive beliefs that allow him to approach beautiful women everywhere without even hesitating.
After having enough positive experiences to reinforce their beliefs men lock powerful beliefs into their minds. These powerful beliefs are the only things that separate success from failure.
Positive Beliefs: • Women love sex. • Women love me.
• I have nothing to lose. It’s her loss.
• I’m just going to talk – let’s see what else she has going for her. • If she’s not interested that’s OK, there’s plenty more women.
Some of these beliefs may seem arrogant but that’s because success often breeds arrogance. Once men experience success the power often goes to their heads. But after a time men go from shy, to arrogant and finally, humble.
Whether a man stays arrogant or becomes humble, no man can just believe “women love me” without some sort of experience reinforcing their belief. So to start transforming these beliefs we will now explore the powerful technique used to approach women confidently and without fear of rejection.
Power Approach Technique
Have you ever felt nervous asking someone for directions? What’s about the time? Chances are you approached these people confidently and without a blink of hesitation because you sincerely wanted to know the information you were seeking.
No sweating palms, thumping heart or nervous screeching voice. The reason most men get terrified when they conceive the thought of approaching a beautiful woman is because they associate getting results with the interaction. They burden themselves with so much pressure by believing they have to make her laugh, get her number or get a kiss or else they are a loser!
Putting the pressure on yourself by saying that “you must get this girl” would make anyone extremely nervous. If you simply change your mindset when thinking about women you take the pressure off and allow yourself to start conversations with them easily. A great way to start approaching women is to find one thing that you sincerely want to know and use it to initiate
conversations.
Here are 11 examples of sincere questions you can ask women.
Club
Hey guys, what time is this place closing? Hey, do you guys know who the DJ is? Hey, do you know what this song is called?
Hey guys, have you tried vodka and cranberry juice? Is it nice?
Shopping Mall
Hey, where’s the closest coffee shop around here? Hey, where’s the best shop with sexy clothes for guys?
Super Market
Hey, what tastes better oranges or mandarins? Hey, is it just me or is it cold in here?
Anywhere
Hey, I just bought these jeans and was wondering if I made the right decision. What do you think?
Hey, I was thinking of getting this tattoo drawn on my upper back, (show picture of tattoo) what do you think?
Hey, what’s the time? (careful it's hard to come across natural with this one)
Information or opinions as mentioned above work quite well if they’re things you sincerely want to find out from people. A sincere question helps you come across cool and calm because you’re tricking your own mind to forget about the outcome and just flirt with women.
Ask her anything, but the idea is to disassociate you from trying to “get results”. You’re not trying to get her number, kiss her or impress her. Your only goal is to learn from the experience.
This mindset takes the pressure off getting results. When your goal is to learn from the experience you can’t fail because no matter what happens you’ll always
saying nothing at all. Here’s the difference between a negative and positive mindset in these situations.
Mindset
Less effective: I must get this girl’s number. I hope I don’t stuff it up.
More effective: I wonder what she thinks of my shirt. Maybe this girl knows where the shop is.
This technique is very powerful in helping men get over their initial fear of approaching women for the first time. Some might argue that using a sincere question is manipulation because you’re trying to get something from the woman indirectly. Yes, you are trying to get the experience of approaching women you’ve never spoken to.
If you have a question or opinion you sincerely want answered, there should be no problem approaching a woman, because you’re not putting pressure on yourself to get results. Use this concept as a set of training wheels to get you started approaching women today.
Bad Opening Lines In Clubs
When most men talk to women they fall into the trap of asking the same boring non-flirtatious questions every other guy has already asked her. It’s funny how we laugh at these questions with our friends and realize they have no positive impact, yet when our palms are sweaty and our minds are racing these are the stock standard questions we come up with in order to quickly break the
awkward silence. Do you come here often?
Almost every man has used this line when he is scared and has run out of things to say. Verbalising these words can quickly make you seem just like every other man out there.
Can I buy you a drink?
What’s she suppose to say? “No, please don’t buy me a drink”. Men approach women in bars and clubs using this pathetic icebreaker thinking they have a great technique. Not only is this line used all the time but also the implication behind the line makes you seem weak.
THAT MEANS: his self-esteem is so low that believes he needs to buy me a drink to keep my attention and he only likes me for my looks because he hasn’t even spoken to me yet. Oh well I’ll take the drink and maybe even thank him but I’ll head back over to my friends straight afterwards.
Sadly some men believe this is the greatest flirting technique ever invented. Just don’t be surprised when she takes your drink, thanks you, and disappears.
Where to Meet Women
The question isn’t where do you meet a lot of women; rather, what sort of woman are you looking for? Decide what sort of woman you’re looking for and start going to places where these women spend their time.
Everyday Scenarios
Just by picking the right time and day you’ll get a completely different group of people in the same place. First decide what you’re looking for.
• Athletic women Go to your local gym between 4 and 6 pm • Fashionable women Check out malls on Saturdays at 1 pm • Outgoing women Hit popular clubs until about 2 am • Intelligent women Go searching at colleges and universities
during the hot months of the semester when everyone’s outside.
Online Dating
One great way to practice flirting and get a real feel for talking with women is to join some dating sites. With millions of people worldwide looking for the perfect match, why not? Many online dating sites have instant messaging (IM). This is different from email, where you send a message and get a reply one, two or three days later. IM allows you to talk to women that are online now.
You look at a woman’s profile on the website, check if she is someone you want to talk to and then click the link to get started. You type messages and get a text reply only seconds later. It’s basically a simulated conversation where you type messages back and forth in the comfort of your home.
Would there be any attractive women on these sites? You’d be surprised. The Internet isn’t just for techno-whiz people any more. Nowadays millions of people are trying out online dating services – yes, even beautiful women.
Hesitation
If you hesitate to approach women your mind will come up with more and more reasons why you should stay away.
A good general rule is to not even think about it. Just start walking towards the woman and ask her a curious, sincere question. The longer you wait the harder it will be to get started. You must be 100 per cent certain you’re going to approach or else you won’t do it.
Momentum is a powerful thing.
If you can speak to a woman within the first five seconds of seeing her it’ll be only natural to keep talking to more and more women throughout your day, but if you hesitate then you’ll continue to hesitate and get nowhere. Momentum is a very powerful influence on the human mind. Make it work for you.
Approach Anxiety Action Plan
“Action is the real measure of intelligence.”
Napoleon Hill
Basically your success depends on two stages: • Meeting women
• Dating women.
Even if you’re not dating women maybe you’re still meeting them. But if you’re not meeting new women on a regular basis there is no chance of dating them. So I want to address how to approach and meet women you’ve never talked to before.
You’ll learn how to do it effectively and get dates.
As we all know, it can be very scary to approach women. As humans we are wary of the unknown. When we are uncertain what’s going to happen in situations we get scared because we don’t know the outcome.
Often the reason we feel anxious is because we want something from the situation and we’re afraid of failure. The mentality is, “I’ve got to get this number/date or else I’m a loser.”
I’m about to outline a very powerful way to overcome that fear, explode your confidence and successfully meet women.
Here’s what I want you to do:
Go down to your local major mall or shopping centre.
I don’t want you to go to clubs or bars, for a specific reason. They’re too loud. Women will be socializing in large groups, which will intimidate most men, and even if you do approach a group the women won’t be able to hear what you say because of the music.
If you’re going to a shopping mall between Monday and Friday you’ll find more women there between 3 and 5 pm. If you’re planning on going down Saturday or Sunday be there around 12 to 2 pm.
What I’m going to give you now is an exact step-by-step guide to action. If you follow this guide you cannot fail.
Step 1
If you have a watch, hide it, then approach a male. Yes, you are going to approach a man! There is nothing sexual about this; it’s about proving a point. Simply approach a man and ask him the time.
As human’s we have an amazing ability to learn from experience, and it’s much more effective than simply learning from reading. If you can learn from an experience and feel the emotion associated with that action you’ll learn a lot more (and faster) than just reading from books.
What we are doing here is the “power approach” concept, which is asking people sincere questions.
You must ask an individual something you genuinely want to know. Make sure you don’t know the time when you ask the question or you’ll look stupid. A sincere wish to know will come across cool and calm in your voice, body and words.
The reason we’re asking a guy first is to show you how easy this task can be when you ask someone you’re not sexually interested in. There is no fear, anxiety or pressure on you.
There is no fear of rejection, because you never wanted anything from this man in the first place (except to know the time)!
Now wouldn’t it be great to harness this energy and attitude when speaking to a woman you are actually interested in?
Step 2
Approach a woman you don’t find attractive and ask her, “Can you tell me which is the best coffee shop around here?” Yes an older woman or somebody that you wouldn’t particularly like to meet from first impressions.
When you have her reply, just say, “OK, thanks, bye!” Easy!
You won’t freeze.
You won’t be lost for words. You won’t change your attitude. You won’t stutter.
You won’t embarrass yourself. You’ll be confident.
You’ll be calm.
You’ll come across normal.
Women are attracted to the confidence in men. Step 1 requires you to approach a man; step 2 asks you to approach a woman you have no sexual interest in.
By approaching people you aren’t interested in you learn to approach without anxiety and without the fear of loss.
This is exactly how you should act around women you do like.
By performing the first two steps you’ve already stepped outside your comfort zone, talking to people you don’t know. Many people find it difficult to even do this.
If you find it hard to complete these steps, stop for a minute and look at the significance they could have on the rest of your life. Think what a wonderful girlfriend or exceptional wife you could find by just taking the time to boost your confidence. Aren’t these easy steps worth that happiness?
Step 3
Approach a woman you do find attractive and ask her, “Hey, what are the best clothing stores for guys around here?”
Listen to her reply, say “Thanks!” and walk away.
You’re already in a shopping centre, so she’ll definitely have an opinion. It’d be nice to hear her opinion because women will always have different opinions from you on what are the best clothing shops.
But if you don’t want to sincerely know where the best clothes for guys are, you’ll come across as fake and most likely get an awkward response. In this case, find a similar question to discover your own way of acting natural during
conversations with women.
Continuing Steps
If you do these steps you’ll have already done more than most men will ever do, but there’s one final step.
Approach a woman you find attractive and ask her, “Do you know what time (your shopping centre name) closes today?”
Listen to her reply, then say, “OK. Thanks. So what are you doing here today?” You’ve started a conversation with her! Continue talking to as many women as possible and take the interaction as far as possible. If you begin to struggle again, just repeat steps 1 and 2 until your confidence is re-energized.
As you approach more and more women you’ll realize it’s quite easy, but until then you’re learning from the experience.
Because these steps seem so simple and straightforward most men won’t do them. Very few people actually follow direct instructions because they’re lazy or don’t think they’re necessary. They think, “I know how to talk to other guys I don’t need to do that!”
But they’re missing the point. It’s about learning from the emotions associated with the experience to build your confidence. If you can’t fearlessly approach women use these steps.
The Bar Bet
Verbalizing your intentions to make them a commitment
It can be very difficult to motivate yourself to approach women. And you need a kick-start.
Take a mate or a few friends to a bar or club and place bets – yes, that means money! – on who will get the most numbers, kisses, dates or whatever. Whoever wins gets the stash at the end.
Powerfully changing the intent of the situation will give you a new approach to the whole thing. How would you act if you knew you just needed to walk up to women to get their numbers in a casual, almost indifferent way, because your intention is to “not lose 50 bucks?” Powerful stuff.
Persistence
The quality of persistence is one of the most valuable characteristics a man can have. It’s the attitude of someone that doesn’t give up when things look like they’re not working out.
He fights on and usually finds success, just around the corner, when the average man would give up. Had he stopped he would never have found success.
Persistence will help you progress quickly when you start putting these techniques into action.
Frequently, women act cold or laugh at men while they talk to women. This especially happens with very attractive women. Of course this is where most men give up, feeling uncomfortable with the situation and assuming the women dislike them.
Well, I can verify from many past experiences that, if a man persists and
continues to interact with a woman who has shown him no signs of interest, she eventually warms to him and starts liking him.
Women often use such behaviour as a shield or a way of weeding out the weaker men. The stronger men know exactly what they want and are willing to hang in there. These women are testing for true masculinity by throwing them the
hardest tests in the very beginning. By passing them, the men prove they are the real deal, true masculine men.
Now this doesn’t mean you should stalk women even though they’ve made it perfectly clear they don’t want you around. Persistence when meeting new women means not even considering rejection and working towards finding someone that is of interest to you – rather than wishing somebody will like you. Can you see the difference there? Learn to persist and you’ll quickly push past the first signs of failure to find success.
Gradual Improvement
Men often get upset if the first conversation they start with a woman doesn’t turn into a date. Listen very carefully. It’s very unlikely your first meeting with a woman will turn into a date.
Understand things will go wrong at times; it’s part of the process. Ideas don’t always go according to plan. Instead of focusing on getting results, focus on getting experience. When you realise how powerful this principle is and utilise it correctly, success will come. Think about your situation this way:
No matter how good you are with women, if you get five numbers a day,
or no dates all year,
today is the worst you will ever be.
Tomorrow you’ll try something new, learn from that experience and grow. Maybe you’ll go for approaches in a local bar
Maybe you’ll try a new sincere question. Maybe you’ll attempt a new angle.
Whatever it is that you choose to develop, it will only make you stronger through experience.
Start Conversations with Everyone
One thing you should learn to do in order to eliminate anxiety when meeting women is to approach everyone – not just beautiful women, not just women, but everybody. When you learn to socialise naturally it only becomes easier to start conversations with people everywhere.
Some men can readily strike up a conversation with another guy, but they just can’t approach women.
They often become very picky and talk their way out of meeting women – for example, by finding almost invisible faults in their appearance. They’ll avoid talking to any woman except someone that resembles their dream girl.
Unfortunately, when they actually see someone that resembles their dream girl, they’re so out of practice they freeze up and are completely lost for words. This becomes a never-ending circle where they rarely ever meet new women. Don’t make this mistake. Just make a habit of talking to everyone you cross paths with on a day-to-day basis.
Men often wonder how to stop an attractive woman on the street. A simple “Hello” as you walk past is enough to build your confidence – and if you’re ready, stop her to get her number.
Over time it’ll become “only natural” to talk to beautiful women everywhere, allowing you to date the women you always thought were reserved for the rich and famous. Build your confidence, develop your masculine side, and success is inevitable.
Most men spend their lives waiting for the right woman to fall right into their lap. While this idea sounds appealing, you’ll usually end up with a woman you’re not happy with or even worse, no woman at all.
Women are looking for men who are willing to take risks and show their courage. While trying to gain a woman’s attention indirectly or from a
distance isn’t recommended there are certain circumstances where a few powerful techniques help to gain recognition and celebrity-like status before you even introduce yourself.
Indirect Approaches
Social proof is an interesting piece of psychology that affects every human. Everyday we are faced with hundreds of decisions to make:
What jeans should I wear? What cereal should I eat? What shoes should I buy? Who’s advice should I listen to?
To help us make these decisions we look to people we trust and see what they are doing and follow them. Because we have so many decisions to make, our lives become much easier if someone makes decisions for us.
The reason leaders are so valued within our society is because they are rare and stand apart from the majority of people. Jay Abraham, a marketing legend that understood human psychology once said, “People are silently begging to be led." So if you can lead others and influence them, you can influence women you’re trying to date.
Distant flirting is only useful to make women notice you in situations that aren’t favorable for direct one-on-one encounters.
Here are several example scenarios you could use social proof to get a woman’s attention. It won’t always be necessary and won’t always produce the results you want but if you find yourself in a situation where there’s a lot of distractions distant flirting can work. The best three places for distant and indirect flirting are:
Classrooms Parties
Classrooms
Scenario: You’re in a learning environment and the woman is on the other side of the room.
You can make eye contact if she’s looking but there’s a much more powerful way to make yourself stand out from the crowd. Using your most confident and loud voice simply ask an interesting question, make a funny joke or voice your
opinion on something to the teacher. By simply saying anything you’re standing out from the crowd and projecting confidence in front of a group. If the funny comment makes 25 people laugh that’s great social proof for the woman when you introduce yourself after class.
HE JUST: made a joke and made the entire class laugh
THAT MEANS: he’s funny, intelligent, social and everyone likes him. If everyone likes him then I think I like him too.
If your contribution to the class wasn’t embarrassing or stupid you’ll have a much better response when you talk to the woman. This is one of the rare
opportunities where women can actually see you as a celebrity and can trust you the minute you approach them.
Parties
Scenario: The woman is at the party but is always crowded with other people.
While you can’t make jokes that everyone at the party can hear you can still use social proof to your advantage at a house party. People tend to stay for extended periods of time during house parties so you have more opportunities to delay speaking to your woman of interest.
If the woman is hard to get hold of, speak to all of her friends. Introductions build your social proof and allow you to intercept her conversations with the people you’ve spoken to previously. This way the friends you’ve spoken to happily introduce you and build social proof for you automatically. “Oh Sarah, this is John, he’s really cool.”
HE JUST: got introduced by my best friend.
THAT MEANS: my friend, who I love and trust, likes this guy. If she likes him then so do I.
This technique isn’t necessary but it can give you an edge over the other guys who’re competing for the same girl. This way when the woman is talking to another man you tell her friend (someone she trusts) that he’s no good for her and make her friend pull the woman back to your circle. This flirting technique improves your chances of succeeding in very competitive situations.
Clubs and Bars
One advantage at parties that you don’t have in clubs and bars is a feeling of common interest. At parties everyone knows the birthday girl or boy, or at least knows someone who knows the birthday person. In clubs you don’t have this rapport.
Clubs and bars are more dangerous that house parties. Everyone is a stranger and there are hundreds of people in a very small venue. So how can you impact some distant flirting in clubs and bars?
Flirting with her friends, while ignoring the woman you want.
Why would you ignore the woman you want? It’s much easier to get the attention of a woman who’s not getting any. If the woman knows she’s the most attractive woman in the group she wonders why she’s not getting any attention. Remember, what is not earned is not valued. Again, when her friends like and accept you so does she.
HE JUST: walked up to our group and gave everyone attention but ignored me. THAT MEANS: he thinks I’m not attractive. Is it my hair? My clothes? My body? What doesn’t he like about me? I’ll fight for his attention and find out for myself.
You must remember social proof only works because other people like you. While women can easily decide to like you because their friends do it’s even easier for them to dislike you because their friends do. Only use social proof in sticky situations where direct flirting isn’t possible.
If you can’t make anyone respond positively to you don’t try this technique until you have more social experience.
Chapter 2: How To
Talk To Women
Before you can really understand what works to attract women you must first understand why it works. Flirting Basics concentrates on what flirting really is and how it works. The four sections are:
Section 1: Flirting Introduction
Here you’ll learn exactly what flirting is and why it’s necessary to attract the women you’ve always wanted. You’ll learn a lot about female psychology and how they determine their partners.
Section 2: Flirting Components
Section 2 focuses on the verbal and non-verbal tools needed to begin flirting. While sections of this chapter may seem like common knowledge and other sections might seem off topic, men need to realize the
importance of these tips.
Section 3: The “Playful Conflict” Flirting Formula
This one page summary, gives you an overview of flirting and how to apply it to every single situation including the 4 formula components to make flirting work properly.
Section 4: Flirting Qualities
This section focuses on important types of flirting. It not only explains why these techniques work, the complex interpretations that make women feel attracted to this behavior, but it also contains dozens of step-by-step examples that you can start using right away.
To get the most out of this section take notes. You’ll retain double the information and start to get results twice as fast by writing things down.
Section 1: Flirting Introduction
What Is Flirting?
The concept of flirting is very difficult for men to understand. Interestingly all women know exactly what flirting is and know how to use it. Often times women initiate the act of flirting in the hope that men will notice and follow along. Yet when that woman realizes the man wasn’t flirting she gets
disappointed and moves on.
Often date opportunities are missed because men don’t “get the message” and never realize that woman are interested. Knowledgeable friends watch these interactions and say, “So did you get her number? She was really into you!” The man surprisingly replies, “But she didn’t say she was!”
Women know flirting is uncontrollably magnetic because they RESPOND to it. Similarly, men know exactly what a beautiful woman looks like because they RESPOND to her uncontrollably.
“Uncontrollably magnetic” is a strong phrase, isn’t it?
Most men find it extremely hard to believe that flirting makes them look powerful and irresistible in the eyes of women. Whether men realize it or not, for women flirtatious communication is the equivalent of a woman’s beautiful looks for men.
This problem starts when women expect men to understand their unconscious needs. Whether you’re a man or a woman, you can only understand what others want in relationship to your own experiences . For this reason most men don’t even see the significance of flirting.
Why don’t women just tell men to flirt with them?
If women are attracted to flirting the same way men are attracted to beautiful women why can’t they just give men a hint? If we swap the scenario, it’s like saying: “I’ll keep dating you but just loose 7 pounds, wear this sexy dress from now on and put on more make up.” Not a very effective strategy is it?
Both men and women are looking for partners that already have these qualities. Men want women who look beautiful and women want masculine men who know how to flirt. To effectively meet, date and keep women, men must learn how to flirt.
Flirting To make playfully romantic or sexual overtures. Provided by Dictionary.com
In short, flirting is vaguely and playfully suggesting sexual interest in somebody. Think about how you nurtured friendships with the people in your life. I
doubt you and your best friend grew an incredibly strong bond by simply sharing experiences, fears, memories, secrets and other personal information with one another.
Although personal experiences build relationships you can’t expect to build trust and togetherness on that level with someone you’ve just met. When we meet people for the first time our interactions should be light-hearted, fun and playful. Once our impressions are made and we enjoy the company of another person we begin to open up to them and nurture that relationship.
But when trying to attract women, leaving a stunning first impression is the hardest part of the whole experience. Both men and women have been
socially conditioned to act very reserved around strangers and acquaintances. The problem is if you act like a stranger around new women, that is all you’ll continue to be-- a stranger.
So how do you talk to beautiful women and make them want you more than anything in the world? What is the driving force responsible for leaving an unforgettable first impression on women and the true essence of flirting? Emotion.
Let me ask you a question. Why do you think women are addicted to romantic novels and soap operas while these forms of media repel most men? They are full of emotion. Women are unconsciously drawn to these media forms the same way men turn their heads and watch a beautiful woman enter the room.
Women are attracted to an emotional connection; men are attracted to physical beauty.
Novels and soap operas wouldn’t be read or broadcasted if they didn’t contain conflict, drama, tension and emotion. So if women are actually addicted to strong emotion doesn’t it seem logical to use this form of communication to attract women?
Why Is Flirting Important?
Why don’t women just tell men they like them? Women who give men a hard time, playfully hit them or poke their tongue out at them are actually
communicating their interest in these men. Flirting is important for one simple reason. It is the language of attracting women. Men and women are biologically different which means they think and act differently too.
If they think differently, then they talk and communicate completely differently as well. In order to get women to feel sexually attracted to you, you need to speak differently-- you need to flirt.
If you are not having success with women then obviously it’s time to try
something different. In order to be phenomenal with women you need to make sure you learn to speak their language. The goal of flirting is to attract women and make them realize you have all the qualities they’re looking for.
Interpretation
Let’s say you’ve been talking to a woman for several minutes and you pinch her hat straight off her head and she tries to snatch it back from you as you constantly hide it behind your back, smiling and laughing. Does this seem like an absurd thing to do? You’re saying, “Won’t that screw up my chances of dating her?” In fact, by doing this you’ll most likely increase your chances of dating the woman. Why do you think this simple act would be so powerful in attracting women?
It’s not what you say or do, but the meanings behind a statement or action that make women find you irresistible.
No matter what you do, whether it’s show up late, laugh at her, buy her gifts, compliment her, grab her hand, smile at her or turn away, women are
interpreting what these things mean.
HE JUST: playfully took my hat off my head and made me chase him to get it back. THAT MEANS: He is very confident, funny, secure, in control, hard to get, playful and really fun! He’s not just interested only in my looks because he’s not sucking up to me like all the other guys. He’s actually kind of mysterious and I’m not really sure if he likes me or not. I like this guy.
That’s a lot of great qualities for doing something as simple as harmlessly playing with her hat, isn’t it?
All the flirting techniques throughout this book are designed to project powerful qualities to which women are attracted. Women love confidence so act in a way that shows you’re confident. Even simple acts without words, such as stealing her hat, project many powerful characteristics about you.
Flirting Instincts
To understand flirting better think of it in terms of a courting ritual. Just like other animals look for the biggest tusks, most colorful wings or physical strength, a woman looks for a man with enough confidence to protect her. Instead of colors or tusks think of humans as using their voices as a complex courting process designed to attract the opposite sex.
Unfortunately men often experience rejection or use flirting at inappropriate times, which leads to associating flirting with pain and failure. From then on they never try to play or flirt with women because they believe it ‘doesn’t work.’ Just like exercising a muscle, once they stop being flirty and fun because the pain of rejection is so strong they slowly lose those skills.
Anti-Flirting
The biggest mistake men make when interacting with beautiful women is speaking emotionless conversation.
While starting conversations with women seems hard enough it appears even more daunting to keep a great fun conversation going.
When men hang around with their friends they laugh, make jokes, have fun and don’t take things too seriously, but strangely when a man suddenly finds himself interested in a beautiful woman he usually becomes very reserved.
He stops laughing He stops making jokes He stops teasing He stops having fun He stops being flirtatious.
When in the presence of a potential date, instead of keeping up the friendly vibe he has with his friends he suddenly becomes boring. He won’t make jokes or laugh with the woman; he won’t play around like he does with his friends and he takes things way too seriously.
Why?
Why do men change their actions around women usually without even realizing it? Men are afraid to lose their only chance with a particular woman and that ultimately turns them into Mr. Serious Man. Men get so nervous talking to beautiful women that they lose all creativity and can’t make interesting conversation. Fearful that they might say something rude or challenging they resort to boring “walking on egg shells” conversations, which results in no
emotion. While men can tell you that it’s important to not be boring when interacting with women, they don’t even realize they’re doing it. Remember this simple law.
1 When you fear loosing a woman you become cautious. 2 When you’re cautious you become serious.
3 When you’re serious you become boring. 4 When you’re boring women aren’t attracted.
5 When women aren’t attracted you don’t get a date.
Men have such a strong “I must have this girl” attitude that the more they desire a woman, the more serious and boring they become in their poor attempt to date them.
Although films and television strongly encourage the idea of begging women, it doesn’t work. These values are used to evoke emotion for the movie experience and in some cases suggest that buying into this behavior leads to success. It always seems like Mr. Romantic is doing the right thing by standing outside a balcony window every night singing love songs, reading poetry and bringing flowers until his dream girl finally falls in love with him.
While these actions may seem romantic and work in movies, we don’t live in the movies; we live in the real world. Women can smell manipulative men miles away and don’t respect their child-like behavior.
Remember always acting playful and silly around your brothers and sisters when you were growing up? Whether you were older or younger usually determined who was in control of the playing. If you were older, you’ll probably recall calling your siblings harmless names, hiding their toys and making them beg for them back.
But unfortunately as men grow into adults they forget their playful instincts and try to “make logical sense of everything.” Before reading this book you may have heard of the term “flirting” but never really understood what it was or thought it wasn’t necessary to attract women. As you learn the flirting techniques within this book you’ll recall other times during your life when you behaved like this. Remember them and bring them back.
Flirting vs. Rapport
Rapport: Relationship, especially one of mutual trust or emotional affinity provided by Dictionary.com
As we can see from the dictionary definition above “rapport” is a
relationship involving trust and the ability to like somebody. The fastest way to build relationships with people is to share personal information about yourself with another human being. When you talk to a woman and talk
about things you have in common or experiences, you are building rapport. The longer you talk to someone and discuss a wide variety of topics the more rapport you build.
Rapport is how you constantly nurture and grow your relationships with friends, family and anyone with which you come in contact. The most common mistake is starting with rapport and trying to build a sexual attraction later on. Here’s the simplest way to remember how to interact in any given situation.
1. Flirt till she’s attracted to you.
2. Then maintain the flirting and begin to reveal personal information about yourself.
It’s the information about yourself that helps build relationships – your name, job, dreams, hobbies, interests and memories-- but it’s the emotions you evoke through your personality that sparks attraction-- your confidence, security, sense of humor, leadership, mystery and playfulness.
Never try and build rapport without first being flirtatious, fun and playful. Without showing proof that you’re desirable she has no reason to be interested in you. Nothing has set off the attraction.
Talking about hobbies, life ambition, careers and education can be
fascinating conversation and can work if you’re flirtatious but most men who start on the boring demographic questions find it difficult to transition into a flirtatious mood later.
Most men have the urge to get into these questions first and then try to be playful and flirtatious, attempting to make her sexually aroused after they have already become friends. This rarely works. Instead, you’re about to learn how to become irresistible with flirtatious communication.
Section 2: Flirting Components
The term flirting may still seem very confusing. As we break down the different forms of flirting you’ll realize that it is much more than just the words you say. 55% of flirting is body language, 38% on is your voice characteristics and only 7% is what you actually say.
Verbal Flirting
Voice Tone Voice Volume Voice Speed Voice Smoothness Spoken WordsFinding the right words to say to women continues to be the hardest thing for men to overcome. Comedians often say, “It’s not what you say, but how you say it” and they are completely right. A single word response such as “What?” can be interpreted dozens of ways depending on the characteristics of the voice. It could be angry, surprised, uninterested or curious. Say, “what” in using each of these emotions and note the difference in your voice. If you want to successfully flirt with women stop thinking about the right words and start to deliver your words in a confident and irresistible manner.
Below are the verbal flirting characteristics that are responsible for attracting women.
Voice Tone
Women often say that deep voices are extremely sexy. Deep voices are sexy because they represent a cool, fearless, in control personality. A deep
masculine voice is universally more attractive to women and helps distinguish your voice from all others. This sort of voice becomes very important in
isolated and private settings when you’re together with women. How to deepen your voice:
1 Place your hand on your chest
2 Say a few words and note the feeling on your hand 3 Stop talking and begin to hum
4 Lower the tone to increase the bass in your voice. 5 Note the feeling on your hand
7 Admire your new, confident, attractive voice
You don’t need to have an extremely deep voice but it should be deep enough to communicate that you’re comfortable in the presence of women. If you notice when you talk to women your voice becomes squeaky from nervousness use this technique to compose your voice.
Voice Volume
Sometimes for fun I ask women what they like about men. While consciously women want their men to be, “nice, caring, romantic, etc”, unconsciously they want men who are masculine. When I ask what they like, these women respond with things like:
“I like a man who holds himself well” “I like a man who knows what he wants” “I like a man who’s sure of himself”
“I like a man who’s not intimidated by me” “I like a man who’s not nervous”
While from first glance these qualities may all seem different they are in fact all the same. Unconsciously women want confident men.
Part of a confident voice is the volume you project. Confident men flirt with loud, strong and clear voices. Unconfident men speak with soft, weak and muffled voices that project fear and low self-esteem. If you want to get the attention of women start speaking with a louder voice.
If women intimidate you, chances are your voice is very soft. Boost your voice to a volume that “seems” too loud and you’ll speak at a comfortable volume.
Because you’re not use to speaking at this volume it will seem very loud; don’t worry, practice makes perfect.
Voice Speed
Public speaking is a great fear for most people. When somebody stands up to speak you can tell exactly how confident they are just by the speed of their voice. When we talk to our friends we speak in a cool calm voice and at a reasonably slow pace . If you hear a terrified person make a speech against their will, you’ll hear the fear in their voice. Unconfident people speak at an unnaturally fast pace to “get it over and done with”. They are so
uncomfortable at public speaking that they rattle off their speech so fast most people have trouble getting the main points.
nervous. For men who are terrified at meeting women here’s a great tip: Speak at half the speed you think you should be talking and you’ll most likely be talking at a natural pace.
Voice Timing
Comedians are funny because they deliver their jokes with great timing. Learn to add emphasis, pauses, pace changes and fluctuating vocal tone.
If you want to know exactly how to talk to women study some of the most confident public speakers and coaches of our time. Go to seminars and listen to confident people speak on TV, noting the characteristics of the speakers.
A lot of men say they know what makes a confident voice and how to project one but when it comes time to approach women and use this confident voice they freeze up. Just knowing something doesn’t make you an expert; you must put what you know into practice.
Spoken Words
The words you speak have very little impact on your ability to attract women. Having said that there are words or lines you can say that will repel women so fast you won’t know where she’s gone.
Lines that define women as sexual objects, creatures of desire or nothing but a shell of physical beauty don’t work. You can’t flirt with women by being too direct about your intentions. “Hey cutie,” “babe,” “hot stuff” are terrible lines for first impressions. As mentioned before, women interpret the meaning behind your words, so think about these words from a woman’s perspective. Whenever in doubt always use the formula below designed to transform action into
meaning.
HE JUST: said “Hey sexy”
THAT MEANS: he’s only interested in my looks. I know this because he’s never met me before and doesn’t know anything about me. If he’s saying things like this without getting to know me then he just wants to sleep with me.
Having said that, there are exceptions to every rule. Some men can walk up to women and have them charmed by saying the above phrases. Usually these men have much more experience and know what they’re doing. In learning to flirt for the first time realize that everything can work when you understand the deeper meaning behind your actions.
More Than Words
As we move onto non-verbal flirting remember that flirting is much more about how you use your voice rather than the words you say. This point has been repeated, but with good reason.
When a friend talks about the success he’s had he’ll tell his friends the lines he used rather than what he did and how he acted. These friends then go and tryout their newly found pickup lines only to get harshly rejected. They
conclude the lines don’t work and give up. If they realized that flirting is more about the delivery than the lines, everything would make sense to them.
Non-Verbal Flirting
Throughout the next several chapters you’ll discover many examples and illustrated diagrams of verbal and non-verbal flirting you can use to attract women. But before we explain flirting during steps of the dating game, it’s necessary we highlight the important non-verbal aspects all women notice even before you open your mouth.
Body Language
Body language is how you communicate your feelings through your eyes, facial gestures, stance, posture and movements. It’s called body language because it’s a universal language that all people can understand no matter what language they speak.
An angry person frowns, yells, and makes fast agitated movements while a sad person moves very little, is very quiet and curls up into a ball, hiding from the world. Body language is significant because the best body language interpreters in the world are women.
Women are very good at interpreting body language for one reason:
It’s the basis for determining whether a man is irresistible or not. While men primarily focus on women’s physical beauty, women focus on how men ‘hold themselves.’ Are they confident? Do they have self-respect? Do they have high self-esteem?
Did you know that women could know how confident you are just by the way you stand? Confident men are irresistible to women the same way beautiful women are irresistible to men. For this reason women always interpret men’s body language. Here’s an example.
HE JUST: walked past with his back hunched over and had his eyes fixed towards the ground.
THAT MEANS: he’s very unconfident, probably has low self-esteem, is shy, probably doesn’t have very good social skills and would be very boring and possibly doesn’t have many friends.
Surprising? Did you ever think that the way you hold yourself determines how women view your personality and social status? The message here is that body language and “the way you hold yourself” is extremely important when flirting. Throughout the later chapters you’ll see illustrated diagrams that show you non-verbal flirting (body language) that all women are unconsciously drawn towards. These non-verbal techniques will accompany the verbal flirting to achieve
maximum results.
Energy
Energy is the fuel that keeps us going throughout our day. Without energy
people can’t do anything except sleep. Do you remember a time when you had to be somewhere and interact with people but you had zero energy?
People in our world don’t value their bodies anymore. We believe we have to stay up late and study for exams or go out every weekend and party till 5 am. With this fast-paced, instant gratification society we live in today we want
everything and we want it now. This occurs because we over eat, stress ourselves out and pack too much into every day, which ultimately burns us out. No matter how energetic you are you could definitely use more energy during your day. People who lack energy are very grumpy and have no passion for life. Can you remember a time when you were really tired and felt upset but couldn’t explain it? Even though you were around people you loved, for some reason everyone was just making you angry?
Lack of energy is the answer.
People who don’t have enough energy to flirt come across as boring, emotionless and monotone in their speech. If you want to show women you’re an exciting and irresistible man, first you need the energy to prove it. Lacking energy is also linked to laziness. Surprisingly while approaching women can be scary for some men, a lot of guys simply don’t approach because they lack the energy and are thus lazy.
Successfully meeting, flirting, attracting and dating women takes a lot of energy. How can you possibly impress women without energy? Here are three tips for endless amounts of energy.
Energy Tip 1: Get Proper Sleep
While the average adult needs around 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep most people only sleep 7 hours.
While this doesn’t seem very bad, if you followed this sleeping pattern for one year you would lose 504 hours sleep! That’s 21 days of sleep. As you can see over time this adds up and is often responsible for sickness, lack of concentration and even depression.
While most people’s lifestyle isn’t this extreme everyone has experienced sleepless nights. Below are some tips for better sleep, more energy and thus greater ability to flirt and attract women.
Avoid caffeine
When people feel tired the first thing they reach for is caffeine. Coffee and other caffeine drinks affect everyone differently but some can find it difficult to sleep even after only one cup of coffee before dinner.
Avoid alcohol
While alcohol makes you feel drowsy and helps you sleep, it often wakes people up after only several hours sleep and stops the body from entering the deepest stage of sleep where the body heals and recovers itself. This is often why people feel so sluggish after a night of hard drinking.
Go to bed early and get up early
The earlier you go to bed the better. When electricity didn’t exist humans when to bed when the sun went down, nowadays we stay up way past our bedtime. Your body is conditioned to do most of its recharging between 11pm and 1am. If you go to bed after these hours everyday you’ll constantly be tired and sluggish.
Don’t stimulate the brain before bed
If you watch TV, exercise or read suspenseful books before bed you’ll find it hard to sleep. Make it a habit to unwind an hour or two before bed rather than
suddenly trying to sleep after an energy-intensive activity. Keep a Rhythm
Give your body a routine it can stick to by going to bed and waking up the same time every night. No one can go to bed the same time every night but make the effort to have a sleep routine a majority of the time. People who try to
routine like that makes it very difficult to change your sleeping patterns to more suitable hours.
Listen to mellow music
If you find it hard to unwind before bed listen to soft, mellow music. Stay away from heavy rock and techno if you want to sleep.
Hide your clock
Staring at your ceiling for more than an hour is frustrating enough but if you turn over to your clock and see that it’s been two hours that just increases stress and makes it even harder to fall asleep. Make sure there are no visible clocks in your room when you sleep.
Just remember that the more sleep you get the more energy you have and the more energy you have the better you flirt with women.
Energy Tip 2: Energizing Exercise
Everyone knows that exercise is good for you but how many people do you know that actually jog or swim on a regular basis?
If you can motivate yourself to do between 30 – 60 minutes of moderate paced exercise every morning, you’ll feel totally energized. If you haven’t exercised for several months you may get some minor muscle pain until your body adapts. After only a week you’ll see enormous changes in your day-to-day activities. You’ll be faster, happier, stronger, healthier and more positive.
Lots of exercise = lots of breathing = lots of oxygen = lots of blood circulation = lots of energy
Energy Tip 3: Eat in Moderation
Most people feel tired when they wake up, between 3 – 5pm and 11pm. It’s during these times that people have an urge for sugar to give them a kick-start. Even though eating sugar and caffeine make you feel like you have instant energy, these foods make you sluggish and tired only hours after ingesting them. Instead walk around, listen to music, and socialize to reenergize yourself. Now that you understand what is necessary to flirt with women, it’s time to explain the types of flirting that attract women. Even though the actual words you say have very little impact on your success, learning to use the right flirting techniques will make you do the right things, skyrocketing you automatically to being successful with women.
