The Next Evolution of
The Next Evolution of Pickup
Pickup
From the Stre
From the Streets of the Seduct
ets of the Seduction Community to the
ion Community to the
World of the Social Community
World of the Social Community
"This will
"This will change the change the game game forever..."forever..."
The Most Important Missing Component to all
The Most Important Missing Component to all of Pickup, Meetingof Pickup, Meeting and Attracting Women, ating, and !eduction that "ill Accelerate and Attracting Women, ating, and !eduction that "ill Accelerate #our $ame Exponentiall#%
#our $ame Exponentiall#%
&#' $a(riel Angelo
&#' $a(riel Angelo
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it, please do so% it, please do so%
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+isclaimer' &# continuing on from here, #ou understand and agree that this is for entertainment +isclaimer' &# continuing on from here, #ou understand and agree that this is for entertainment purposes onl#, and that "e are in no "a# held responsi(le for an# action #ou take or ma# take as purposes onl#, and that "e are in no "a# held responsi(le for an# action #ou take or ma# take as a result of "hat #ou learned
Introduction Introduction
.i, I*m $a(riel% .i, I*m $a(riel%
And "hat I*m a(out to share "ith #ou "ill change the "a# #ou And "hat I*m a(out to share "ith #ou "ill change the "a# #ou think a(out pickup and meeting "omen, forever%%%
think a(out pickup and meeting "omen, forever%%%
.ave #ou ever reall# "ondered "h# some people /ust get this .ave #ou ever reall# "ondered "h# some people /ust get this "hole meeting "omen thing the ver# first fe" times the#
"hole meeting "omen thing the ver# first fe" times the# learned this stuff and start getting immediate results, "hile learned this stuff and start getting immediate results, "hile
others learned like forever and going out (ut are still struggling0 others learned like forever and going out (ut are still struggling0
That*s (ecause the# are missing the most essential core That*s (ecause the# are missing the most essential core
component that makes pickup and meeting "omen "ork that component that makes pickup and meeting "omen "ork that ever#(od# is leaving out%
ever#(od# is leaving out%
1ou are a(out to discover a revelation I came upon "hen I "as 1ou are a(out to discover a revelation I came upon "hen I "as tr#ing to improve this area of m# life also, that "ill change the tr#ing to improve this area of m# life also, that "ill change the "hole communit# on its head and the "a# #ou look at this "hole communit# on its head and the "a# #ou look at this game%%%
game%%%
My Story My Story
Well, I could "rite a complete auto(iograph#, (ut I "on*t (ore Well, I could "rite a complete auto(iograph#, (ut I "on*t (ore #ou "ith that as I kno" #ou "ant to get into the real goodies of #ou "ith that as I kno" #ou "ant to get into the real goodies of
this (ook, (ut I also "ant to let #ou kno" "here I*m coming this (ook, (ut I also "ant to let #ou kno" "here I*m coming from%%%
from%%%
I came from
I came from a strict fama strict famil# up(ringing% il# up(ringing% M# parents M# parents movedmoved around a lot,
around a lot, and I eventuall# grand I eventuall# gre" up in e" up in a ver# small a ver# small to"n% to"n% AsAs t#pical as it "as al"a#s (eing the ne" kid, I "as constantl#
t#pical as it "as al"a#s (eing the ne" kid, I "as constantl#
teased and made fun of for ever#(od#*s self3amusement, and so I teased and made fun of for ever#(od#*s self3amusement, and so I isolated m#self from all forms of social human interactions and isolated m#self from all forms of social human interactions and avoided them as much as possi(le, and (ecame a loner, didn*t avoided them as much as possi(le, and (ecame a loner, didn*t even have a single friend gro"ing up%
even have a single friend gro"ing up%
I thought that m# pro(lem "as going to automaticall# solve I thought that m# pro(lem "as going to automaticall# solve itself as I got older, (ut nothing "as further form the truth%%% itself as I got older, (ut nothing "as further form the truth%%%
4h, not onl# "as I terri(le "ith "omen, (ut "ith people in 4h, not onl# "as I terri(le "ith "omen, (ut "ith people in general, sociall#%
general, sociall#% It "as so It "as so (ad to the (ad to the point that I point that I even thoughteven thought that I had some sort of social disorders, like Asperser*s
that I had some sort of social disorders, like Asperser*s s#ndrome%
s#ndrome%
It "as utter
It "as utter torture% torture% I "as deprI "as depressed and didn5t (other essed and didn5t (other leavingleaving the house, until I snapped and hit a threshold that enough "as the house, until I snapped and hit a threshold that enough "as enough, and didn5t care an#more and /ust "ent out (# m#self enough, and didn5t care an#more and /ust "ent out (# m#self "ithout an# goal in mind (ut to /ust get out of the house%
"ithout an# goal in mind (ut to /ust get out of the house%
Man, "as I em(arrassingl# horri(le in social gatherings in ever# Man, "as I em(arrassingl# horri(le in social gatherings in ever# possi(le "a# from (eing creep# to almost getting arrested, (ut I possi(le "a# from (eing creep# to almost getting arrested, (ut I learned and practiced m# social skills and cali(rated them%
learned and practiced m# social skills and cali(rated them%
.o"ever, in m# struggle m# luck# (reak came "hen I met these .o"ever, in m# struggle m# luck# (reak came "hen I met these gu#s "ho "ere not onl# good "ith "omen (ut people in
gu#s "ho "ere not onl# good "ith "omen (ut people in general%
general% The# The# "ere "ere naturall# naturall# social social "ith "ith ever#(od#,ever#(od#, hencehence social natural
social natural%%
The# took me under their "ings and I learned from them and The# took me under their "ings and I learned from them and "ent out and experimented, and that "as "hen I reall# noticed "ent out and experimented, and that "as "hen I reall# noticed a difference%
a difference%
There "as something a(out these social naturals* (ehavior that There "as something a(out these social naturals* (ehavior that the# "ere unconsciousl# a"are of, as most people "ho are good the# "ere unconsciousl# a"are of, as most people "ho are good at something don5t reall# kno" ho" to explain ho" the# are at something don5t reall# kno" ho" to explain ho" the# are doing it, the# /ust do it naturall# "ithout thinking, (ut I did doing it, the# /ust do it naturall# "ithout thinking, (ut I did coming from a conscious different perspective%
coming from a conscious different perspective%
To make a long stor# short%%% To make a long stor# short%%%
$raduall#, I started to perform sociall# at their high3octane $raduall#, I started to perform sociall# at their high3octane social level and the friends "ithin the social natural5s social social level and the friends "ithin the social natural5s social circle, "ho first 7uestioned "h# even let, me, this loser sociall# circle, "ho first 7uestioned "h# even let, me, this loser sociall# a"k"ard gu# to hang out "ith them, started to like me and a"k"ard gu# to hang out "ith them, started to like me and (ecame close (uddies%
(ecame close (uddies%
Th R!lation Th R!lation
!o no" #ou kno" m# stor#%%%"hat does it come do"n to0 !o no" #ou kno" m# stor#%%%"hat does it come do"n to0
%%%#our social skills% %%%#our social skills%
9or me, I never took that opportunit# to develop m# social skills, 9or me, I never took that opportunit# to develop m# social skills, and there are a lot of us "ho didn*t either (ut "on*t
and there are a lot of us "ho didn*t either (ut "on*t
em(arrassingl# admit it: and that*s ok, it is not our fault% em(arrassingl# admit it: and that*s ok, it is not our fault%
It could have (een%%% It could have (een%%%
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• "e "ere raised in a unsupportive environment that "as"e "ere raised in a unsupportive environment that "as
not conducive to human interactions not conducive to human interactions
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• our famil# "ere not social people and discouraged us fromour famil# "ere not social people and discouraged us from
interacting "ith others and even other people discouraged interacting "ith others and even other people discouraged us
us
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• "e "ere over3sheltered"e "ere over3sheltered
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• "e "ere (ullied causing us to (e lonel# outcasts"e "ere (ullied causing us to (e lonel# outcasts
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• "e avoided it"e avoided it
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• "e didn*t like it"e didn*t like it
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• "e "ere restricted"e "ere restricted
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• "e "ere homeschooled"e "ere homeschooled
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• "e "ere the geeks;the nerds"e "ere the geeks;the nerds
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• "e moved around a lot%%%%"e moved around a lot%%%%
%%%and man# other countless reasons #ou can think of %%%and man# other countless reasons #ou can think of
.o"ever, "e can still learn this and (e even (etter than those .o"ever, "e can still learn this and (e even (etter than those "ho have (een social all their lives (ecause "e come from a "ho have (een social all their lives (ecause "e come from a different perspective and understanding than most people, and different perspective and understanding than most people, and this gives us a conscious a"areness of (oth sides of the coin this gives us a conscious a"areness of (oth sides of the coin having personall# gone through them ourselves%
having personall# gone through them ourselves%
"hy do " Nd to Larn
"hy do " Nd to Larn Ho# to $ Social%Ho# to $ Social%
No" "h# do "e need to learn ho" to (e social0 No" "h# do "e need to learn ho" to (e social0
Well, a long time ago (ack to our o"n ancestral da#s, "e lived in Well, a long time ago (ack to our o"n ancestral da#s, "e lived in colonies and tri(es%
colonies and tri(es% We needed this We needed this tri(e to survive, tri(e to survive, other"ise ifother"ise if #ou take one
#ou take one mem(er out mem(er out he or she he or she "ould die% "ould die% It "as /uIt "as /ust ver#st ver# (asic primitive social (ehaviors%
(asic primitive social (ehaviors%
We "ere l
We "ere like machines% ike machines% The men "oulThe men "ould hunt and prd hunt and protect theotect the tri(e "hile the "omen "ould take care and nourish the
tri(e "hile the "omen "ould take care and nourish the #ounglings%
#ounglings%
Prett# much it "as the same t#pe of social (ehaviors ever#da#, Prett# much it "as the same t#pe of social (ehaviors ever#da#, nothing fanc# and sophisticated social skills "ere re7uired% nothing fanc# and sophisticated social skills "ere re7uired%
The# do the same things throughout the da#, ever#da#, and feel The# do the same things throughout the da#, ever#da#, and feel and think a(out the same things, like ro(ots%
and think a(out the same things, like ro(ots%
It "as /ust (asicall# like onl# hanging around "ith #our famil# It "as /ust (asicall# like onl# hanging around "ith #our famil#
>2;<;?86% >2;<;?86%
And to this da# "hen #ou hang out "ith #our famil#, does it And to this da# "hen #ou hang out "ith #our famil#, does it take that much effort to interact "ith them0
take that much effort to interact "ith them0
No, #ou5re most relaxed and re7uires the least amount of social No, #ou5re most relaxed and re7uires the least amount of social skills effort%
skills effort%
.o"ever, as societ# evolved, human (ehaviors started to get .o"ever, as societ# evolved, human (ehaviors started to get sophisticated: no longer "ere "e acting on the simple, same old sophisticated: no longer "ere "e acting on the simple, same old da#3to3da# (ehavior, (ut different human emotions emerged in da#3to3da# (ehavior, (ut different human emotions emerged in us that caused us to act in more complex "a#s%
us that caused us to act in more complex "a#s%
We started to converse more "ith outsiders, no longer /ust We started to converse more "ith outsiders, no longer /ust people in our tri(e (ut those from man# different tri(es% people in our tri(e (ut those from man# different tri(es%
And fast3for"ard to toda#, the "orld has (ecome ver# glo(al And fast3for"ard to toda#, the "orld has (ecome ver# glo(al and diverse, re7uiring much more advanced social skills and and diverse, re7uiring much more advanced social skills and "ill continue to re7uire more sophisticated social skills to strive "ill continue to re7uire more sophisticated social skills to strive in toda#5s societ#%
in toda#5s societ#%
We are not used to dealing "ith these man# people and having We are not used to dealing "ith these man# people and having man# different relationships and having these different societies man# different relationships and having these different societies running into each other, so no" "e have to have "a#s of dealing running into each other, so no" "e have to have "a#s of dealing "ith this and harness our social po"ers%
"ith this and harness our social po"ers%
No longer those "ith the strongest (rute ph#sical force have the No longer those "ith the strongest (rute ph#sical force have the po"er, (ut those "ho have the most social savviness do%
po"er, (ut those "ho have the most social savviness do%
We are living in a social societ#, and to get "hat "e "ant "e We are living in a social societ#, and to get "hat "e "ant "e have to (e sociall# a"are and skilled to maneuver successfull# have to (e sociall# a"are and skilled to maneuver successfull# ahead, unlike our ancestors "ho /ust used (rute force to take ahead, unlike our ancestors "ho /ust used (rute force to take "hat the# "anted%
"hat the# "anted%
9or meeting "omen, "e can*t (ash them on the head "ith our 9or meeting "omen, "e can*t (ash them on the head "ith our clu(s and drag them (# the hair to our caves%
clu(s and drag them (# the hair to our caves%
The la"s and modern societ# do not tolerate and punish these The la"s and modern societ# do not tolerate and punish these outdated (ar(aric (ehaviors in our more civilied "orld%
outdated (ar(aric (ehaviors in our more civilied "orld%
9or most gu#s toda# in meeting "omen, "e have to groom 9or most gu#s toda# in meeting "omen, "e have to groom ourselves, makes ourselves look good, go out, approach them, ourselves, makes ourselves look good, go out, approach them, talk to them, get them attractive to us, get their num(er +if "e talk to them, get them attractive to us, get their num(er +if "e can*t seduce them, get them on the phone, make them meet up can*t seduce them, get them on the phone, make them meet up "ith us, talk "ith them again, get them attractive again, and "ith us, talk "ith them again, get them attractive again, and then tr# to seduce them to make them our girlfriend%
then tr# to seduce them to make them our girlfriend%
That*s a lot of "ork don*t #ou think, unlike our ancestors "ho That*s a lot of "ork don*t #ou think, unlike our ancestors "ho /ust cut to the chase0
/ust cut to the chase0
The truth is, "e are (ecoming more of a super societ# and more The truth is, "e are (ecoming more of a super societ# and more interconnected "ith each other, and this "ill continue to happen interconnected "ith each other, and this "ill continue to happen and even faster as the populations increase exponentiall#%
and even faster as the populations increase exponentiall#%
!o "e have to evolved into sharp social3(eing, and "e can meet !o "e have to evolved into sharp social3(eing, and "e can meet people that can add values to our life enriching it for the
people that can add values to our life enriching it for the (etterment%
(etterment%
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Fro& Sduction 'o&&unity to Social
Fro& Sduction 'o&&unity to Social 'o&&unity'o&&unity
.aving (een involved in the !eduction Communit# m#self, I did .aving (een involved in the !eduction Communit# m#self, I did notice a fla" that it "as focused so much on picking up "omen notice a fla" that it "as focused so much on picking up "omen that it failed
that it failed to mention the to mention the most important pmost important part of all art of all #our (asic#our (asic social skill that (uilds upon and set ever#thing else%
social skill that (uilds upon and set ever#thing else%
No" "h# do "e need to learn social skills for pickup0 No" "h# do "e need to learn social skills for pickup0
&ecause social skills is the foundation for pickup, if #ou have &ecause social skills is the foundation for pickup, if #ou have (ad social skills #ou*re not going to get far in #our pickup skills% (ad social skills #ou*re not going to get far in #our pickup skills%
1ou see, a lot of us gre" up "ithout developing our social skills 1ou see, a lot of us gre" up "ithout developing our social skills and that "as the (eginning cause for our lack of skills in
and that "as the (eginning cause for our lack of skills in handling "omen%
handling "omen%
And the diagram (elo" depicts the process "here most gu#s And the diagram (elo" depicts the process "here most gu#s "ho are struggling to learn pickup for a long time%
"ho are struggling to learn pickup for a long time%
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The# are missing the (asic social skills, as #ou can see is the The# are missing the (asic social skills, as #ou can see is the empt# "hite area, and so the# learn pickup skills, the #ello" empt# "hite area, and so the# learn pickup skills, the #ello" area, that (uilds on top of that empt# (asic social skills:
area, that (uilds on top of that empt# (asic social skills:
therefore, the# have a "eak foundation and the reason "h# therefore, the# have a "eak foundation and the reason "h# hardl# achieving an# result and making learning pickup so hardl# achieving an# result and making learning pickup so much harder%
much harder%
Dearning pickup skills "ithout this (asic social skills, #our Dearning pickup skills "ithout this (asic social skills, #our pickup skills can eventuall# crum(le%
pickup skills can eventuall# crum(le%
Th E!ol!d Pic(u) Artist *a(a Social Artist+ Th E!ol!d Pic(u) Artist *a(a Social Artist+
The (igger picture is to focus on #our social skills% The (igger picture is to focus on #our social skills%
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!ocial skills can (e applied to all parts of #our life, from social, !ocial skills can (e applied to all parts of #our life, from social, personal, dating, and even professional +like have #ou thought personal, dating, and even professional +like have #ou thought a(out ho" marketing is almost like meeting "omen "hen comes a(out ho" marketing is almost like meeting "omen "hen comes to closing the deal0
to closing the deal0
Wh# not (e a social artist "ho is highl# sociall# skilled and have Wh# not (e a social artist "ho is highl# sociall# skilled and have all aspects of #our social life handled rather than /ust picking up all aspects of #our social life handled rather than /ust picking up "omen0
"omen0
&eing a social art
&eing a social artist is an ist is an art of courseart of course% % The art to The art to (e the designer(e the designer of #our social life (ecause #ou design the social d#namics
of #our social life (ecause #ou design the social d#namics
interaction the "a# the# "ant to (ring the outcome #ou "ant, interaction the "a# the# "ant to (ring the outcome #ou "ant, and picking up "omen is /ust one element of it%
and picking up "omen is /ust one element of it%
When #ou are naturall# sociall# skilled, having "omen in #our When #ou are naturall# sociall# skilled, having "omen in #our life is natural, almost too eas#, like (ecomes secondar#%
life is natural, almost too eas#, like (ecomes secondar#%
So Ho# can ,ou -!lo) ,oursl to Bco& th
So Ho# can ,ou -!lo) ,oursl to Bco& th Most SocialMost Social Prson ,ou can $%
Prson ,ou can $%
.o" can #ou improve #our social skills no", "hen #ou are not .o" can #ou improve #our social skills no", "hen #ou are not sociall# skilled in the first place to socialie effectivel# to (uild sociall# skilled in the first place to socialie effectivel# to (uild #our social skills0
#our social skills0
uite a dilemma, huh0 uite a dilemma, huh0
.ere "e have an example of Fcan*t find a /o( (ecause #ou don*t .ere "e have an example of Fcan*t find a /o( (ecause #ou don*t
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have experience, and #ou don*t have experience (ecause #ou have experience, and #ou don*t have experience (ecause #ou can*t find a /o(%F
can*t find a /o(%F
People "ill tell #ou the onl# (est "a# to improve #our social People "ill tell #ou the onl# (est "a# to improve #our social skills is to get out there and socialie and talk "ith as man# skills is to get out there and socialie and talk "ith as man# people as much as possi(le%
people as much as possi(le%
1es that is
1es that is true% true% There is There is nothing like learning (# nothing like learning (# doing%doing%
&ut that is like thro"ing #ou on an deserted island all (# &ut that is like thro"ing #ou on an deserted island all (#
#ourself and tell #ou to /ust survive and F$ood luck, #ou can do #ourself and tell #ou to /ust survive and F$ood luck, #ou can do itGF, "ithout the necessar# e7uipments%
itGF, "ithout the necessar# e7uipments%
1ou need the right tools first to help #ou learn ho" to socialie 1ou need the right tools first to help #ou learn ho" to socialie effectivel# "henever #ou are out in social gatherings, and the# effectivel# "henever #ou are out in social gatherings, and the# "ill also help #ou in terms of learning social cali(ration%
"ill also help #ou in terms of learning social cali(ration%
I call this #our
I call this #our socia$ilitysocia$ility , #our tool(ox (asicall# of #our social , #our tool(ox (asicall# of #our social mo/os, like #our techni7ues, stories, humor, lines, 7uestions, mo/os, like #our techni7ues, stories, humor, lines, 7uestions, routines, openers, and conversational materials that can (e routines, openers, and conversational materials that can (e pulled out at an#time to (e used%
pulled out at an#time to (e used%
Comedian al"a#s have their tool(oxes stocked "ith /okes and Comedian al"a#s have their tool(oxes stocked "ith /okes and routines (efore going on stage%
routines (efore going on stage%
The tools #ou "ould "ant to have the most are great stories, as The tools #ou "ould "ant to have the most are great stories, as telling stories are prett# much the (iggest things that fuel #our telling stories are prett# much the (iggest things that fuel #our social interaction%
social interaction% .ave plent# .ave plent# of them of them in #our in #our arsenal%arsenal%
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&uild up #our socia(ilit# and "hen armed "ith these tools #ou &uild up #our socia(ilit# and "hen armed "ith these tools #ou can practice them to develop #our social skills, and #ou can stop can practice them to develop #our social skills, and #ou can stop rel#ing on them as #our social skills improve%
rel#ing on them as #our social skills improve%
Eventuall# #ou start understanding the pattern of a good social Eventuall# #ou start understanding the pattern of a good social d#namics interaction%
d#namics interaction% 1our social 1our social intuition "ill intuition "ill sharpen (#sharpen (# kno"ing ho" one particular response "ill trigger another, and kno"ing ho" one particular response "ill trigger another, and #ou "ill kno" ho" to control an# social interaction%
#ou "ill kno" ho" to control an# social interaction%
Social Structurs Social Structurs
What is it a(out people "ho are ver# social0 What is it a(out people "ho are ver# social0
The# al"a#s seem to (e great conversationalists and have a lot The# al"a#s seem to (e great conversationalists and have a lot to talk a(out no matter ho" irrelevant or random the topic is, to talk a(out no matter ho" irrelevant or random the topic is, and are 7uick in generating responses%
and are 7uick in generating responses%
Hnfortunatel#, not all of us are sociall# "itt# and have Hnfortunatel#, not all of us are sociall# "itt# and have
spontaneous conversational materials to talk a(out ever# time spontaneous conversational materials to talk a(out ever# time related to that particular situation%
related to that particular situation%
That "as "h# (efore I mentioned #ou "ant to (uild a large That "as "h# (efore I mentioned #ou "ant to (uild a large social tool(ox of #our mo/os to avoid (eing the 7uiet one% social tool(ox of #our mo/os to avoid (eing the 7uiet one%
No" #ou are pro(a(l# thinking%%% No" #ou are pro(a(l# thinking%%%
"So now I have to memorize a ton
"So now I have to memorize a ton of stories, routines, andof stories, routines, and
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conversational materials until my mind
conversational materials until my mind exlodes!"exlodes!" No, that is the good ne"s%
No, that is the good ne"s%
1ou don*t have to memoried a "hole lot of routines to have 1ou don*t have to memoried a "hole lot of routines to have tons of conversational materials, if #ou /ust memoried the tons of conversational materials, if #ou /ust memoried the structural formula of those routines, (ut most importantl#, structural formula of those routines, (ut most importantl#, develop #our o"n Fsocial structures%F
develop #our o"n Fsocial structures%F
What is a social structure0 What is a social structure0
It is #our ver# o"n structural formula for generating uni7ue It is #our ver# o"n structural formula for generating uni7ue ne" responses in an# form of social interaction%
ne" responses in an# form of social interaction%
I*m prett# sure #ou have heard a(out using canned scripted I*m prett# sure #ou have heard a(out using canned scripted materials and routines for interacting "ith "omen and getting materials and routines for interacting "ith "omen and getting them attractive to #ou%
them attractive to #ou%
.o" a(out instead of memoriing the routines and canned .o" a(out instead of memoriing the routines and canned materials, "h# not /ust learned the formula and structure of materials, "h# not /ust learned the formula and structure of
those canned materials and routines so that "a# #ou can plug it those canned materials and routines so that "a# #ou can plug it into #our social structure for #our current particular social
into #our social structure for #our current particular social
situation to generate ne" conversational materials ever# time on situation to generate ne" conversational materials ever# time on the spot%
the spot%
People "ho are sociall# skilled al"a#s coming up "ith 7uick People "ho are sociall# skilled al"a#s coming up "ith 7uick responses have, "ithout realiing it, developed a lot of social responses have, "ithout realiing it, developed a lot of social structures (uilt upon each and connected from all the socialiing structures (uilt upon each and connected from all the socialiing
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the# have done making it easil# and 7uickl# for their the# have done making it easil# and 7uickl# for their
architectural social mind to guide them in generating 7uick architectural social mind to guide them in generating 7uick response su(consciousl#%
response su(consciousl#%
Think of it like a much more completed social (lueprint for their Think of it like a much more completed social (lueprint for their mind, compared to those "ho are unskilled%
mind, compared to those "ho are unskilled%
If #ou "ere a math geek like I "as, do #ou remem(er the If #ou "ere a math geek like I "as, do #ou remem(er the 7uadratic formula, "ell it looked something like this' 7uadratic formula, "ell it looked something like this'
All #ou had to do "as memoried this one little formula, and All #ou had to do "as memoried this one little formula, and #ou could prett# much do all sorts of alge(ra pro(lems%
#ou could prett# much do all sorts of alge(ra pro(lems%
4ne of the most famous structure in improvisation is Fthe #es 4ne of the most famous structure in improvisation is Fthe #es and%%%F "here #ou agree "ith "hatever the other person said and and%%%F "here #ou agree "ith "hatever the other person said and add more
add more details to details to continue the continue the flo"% flo"% ust kno"ing ust kno"ing this onethis one little formula structure, and #ou can act out a "hole lot of little formula structure, and #ou can act out a "hole lot of improvisational scenes%
improvisational scenes%
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/aria$ls R)lac&nt Social Structur /aria$ls R)lac&nt Social Structur
4ne example I teach in m# (ook
4ne example I teach in m# (ook th Art o Social Naturalth Art o Social Natural applies to s
applies to stor#telling , is tor#telling , is that that #ou alter the #ou alter the details of #our details of #our stor#stor# template to add the elements from #our current situation into template to add the elements from #our current situation into that stor#%
that stor#%
4ne of those structural alterations #ou can do to #our stories to 4ne of those structural alterations #ou can do to #our stories to make them interesting and uni7ue ever# time is
make them interesting and uni7ue ever# time is /aria$ls/aria$ls R)lac&nt
R)lac&nt%%
The facts and varia(les replacement makes the stories sound The facts and varia(les replacement makes the stories sound refreshingl# uni7ue
refreshingl# uni7ue and different and different ever# time% ever# time% &asicall#, the m&asicall#, the mostost eas# and common form of varia(les replacement #ou can alter is eas# and common form of varia(les replacement #ou can alter is the
the time and lacetime and lace%%
If #ou "ere /ust telling some mundane things to a girl that If #ou "ere /ust telling some mundane things to a girl that
happened over a #ear ago /ust for the sake of telling it to fuel the happened over a #ear ago /ust for the sake of telling it to fuel the interaction, she "ould (e "ondering "h# #ou "ere telling a interaction, she "ould (e "ondering "h# #ou "ere telling a stor# that long ago, unless #ou had some sorts of moral lesson stor# that long ago, unless #ou had some sorts of moral lesson learned or something that extremel# impacted #our life, like #ou learned or something that extremel# impacted #our life, like #ou almost "ent to /ail%
almost "ent to /ail%
The more up3to3date and modern the stor# is, the more impact it The more up3to3date and modern the stor# is, the more impact it "ill have regardless ho" trivial it is, and I "ill even go as far to "ill have regardless ho" trivial it is, and I "ill even go as far to sa# that #ou can tell /ust a(out an#thing as long as it is /ust
sa# that #ou can tell /ust a(out an#thing as long as it is /ust
happened (ecause it is understanda(le that #ou are still feeling happened (ecause it is understanda(le that #ou are still feeling the after3effect of it%
the after3effect of it%
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.ere is a simple example if this reall# did happen to #ou and .ere is a simple example if this reall# did happen to #ou and #ou said this to a girl'
#ou said this to a girl'
JI sa" the cutest little dog "ith a Moha"k
JI sa" the cutest little dog "ith a Moha"k 0 &onth a1o0 &onth a1o (ack at (ack at #hn I #as at ho& in LA
#hn I #as at ho& in LAG G .o" do .o" do the# pull the# pull that off0Kthat off0K
No" notice the difference (et"een that first one and this second No" notice the difference (et"een that first one and this second one'
one'
JI sa" the cutest little dog "ith a Moha"k
JI sa" the cutest little dog "ith a Moha"k 2ust a scond a1o2ust a scond a1o (ack at
(ack at **wherever current location you are near at wherever current location you are near at + +G .o" doG .o" do the# pull that off0K
the# pull that off0K
The first one is, J"h# are #ou telling me this no"0K The first one is, J"h# are #ou telling me this no"0K
The second one is more profound for it /ust happened to #ou, The second one is more profound for it /ust happened to #ou, and she can also feel "hat #ou are feeling a(out a cute little dog: and she can also feel "hat #ou are feeling a(out a cute little dog: and as a added (enefit, this can also (e used as a natural simple and as a added (enefit, this can also (e used as a natural simple opener, and the /ustification in her mind that #ou*re asking her is opener, and the /ustification in her mind that #ou*re asking her is (ecause it /ust happened%
(ecause it /ust happened%
Therefore, this (ecomes #our structural stor# templates (ased on Therefore, this (ecomes #our structural stor# templates (ased on #our real life, #ou can tell all the time "ith varia(les
#our real life, #ou can tell all the time "ith varia(les
replacement, and no longer do #ou have to memorie a "hole replacement, and no longer do #ou have to memorie a "hole lot of routines that are not #our o"n'
lot of routines that are not #our o"n'
3I sa# th cutst littl do1
3I sa# th cutst littl do1 #ith a Moha#( 4444444#ith a Moha#( 4444444444 $ac( at444 $ac( at 44444444445
44444444445 Ho# do Ho# do thy )ulthy )ull that l that o%6o%6
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.ave general stories (ased on #our life and experience or take .ave general stories (ased on #our life and experience or take an interesting stor# #ou kno" making it happened to #ou, and an interesting stor# #ou kno" making it happened to #ou, and replace the time and place to keep them ne" and fresh, "hile replace the time and place to keep them ne" and fresh, "hile keeping the stor# templates* theme, event, and ever#thing else keeping the stor# templates* theme, event, and ever#thing else the same%
the same%
!a# for example, if something "ere to have happened to #ou 8 !a# for example, if something "ere to have happened to #ou 8 months ago, #ou could replace that
months ago, #ou could replace that variale of timevariale of time , 8 months ago, , 8 months ago, to have happened this "eek or last "eek or earl# this month or to have happened this "eek or last "eek or earl# this month or #esterda# or even earl# that da# to keep up it fresh, or the# "ill #esterda# or even earl# that da# to keep up it fresh, or the# "ill (e "ondering "h# #ou are telling them something from over 8 (e "ondering "h# #ou are telling them something from over 8
months ago: in fact, "h# do #ou still care after 8 months0 months ago: in fact, "h# do #ou still care after 8 months0
Lemem(er the most up3to3date the time of #our stor#, the more Lemem(er the most up3to3date the time of #our stor#, the more impact it "ill have "hen #ou tell it, (ecause it "ill feel like onl# impact it "ill have "hen #ou tell it, (ecause it "ill feel like onl# /ust no", since that event happened to #ou%
/ust no", since that event happened to #ou%
Sayin1 Good$y to M&ori7d Routins Sayin1 Good$y to M&ori7d Routins
No longer do #ou have to memorie a "hole lot of routines that No longer do #ou have to memorie a "hole lot of routines that are not #our o"n, "hen #ou plug in #our present situation
are not #our o"n, "hen #ou plug in #our present situation
+"here #ou are at in the interaction into #our social structure of +"here #ou are at in the interaction into #our social structure of #our openers, stories, and other conversational materials%
#our openers, stories, and other conversational materials%
Dearn to recognie and (e a"are of social structures of not /ust Dearn to recognie and (e a"are of social structures of not /ust "hat is attracting "omen, (ut (eing good "ith people in
"hat is attracting "omen, (ut (eing good "ith people in
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general, exchange stimuli of positive emotions: and it is going to general, exchange stimuli of positive emotions: and it is going to help #our (rain make these (etter connections to "hat social help #our (rain make these (etter connections to "hat social structure should #ou use for this particular situation to get the structure should #ou use for this particular situation to get the desired outcome #ou "ant%
desired outcome #ou "ant%
If #ou have a routine #ou used all the time that "orks for #ou, If #ou have a routine #ou used all the time that "orks for #ou, strip a"a# ever#thing else and tr# to understand the structure strip a"a# ever#thing else and tr# to understand the structure and pattern to "h# it "orks, so #ou can come up "ith ne" ones and pattern to "h# it "orks, so #ou can come up "ith ne" ones on #our o"n on the spot%
on #our o"n on the spot%
Think a(out recogniing these social structures like (uilding an Think a(out recogniing these social structures like (uilding an architectural (lueprint for #ou su(conscious mind as a guide to architectural (lueprint for #ou su(conscious mind as a guide to generate 7uick responses%
generate 7uick responses%
The more structures #ou have recognied, the faster it is to The more structures #ou have recognied, the faster it is to
generate these responses and think 7uickl# on #our feet, "here generate these responses and think 7uickl# on #our feet, "here "ithout them #our (rain is stuck "ithout the structures to guide "ithout them #our (rain is stuck "ithout the structures to guide it%
it%
Eventuall# #ou "ill get to the point "here #ou don*t have to Eventuall# #ou "ill get to the point "here #ou don*t have to think a(out them, ever#thing "ill /ust come out of the top of think a(out them, ever#thing "ill /ust come out of the top of #our head%
#our head%
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Final "ords Final "ords
If #ou "ant to improve #our dating and social skills fast, go out If #ou "ant to improve #our dating and social skills fast, go out a lot, even go out (# #ourself if #ou can so #ou "on*t have that a lot, even go out (# #ourself if #ou can so #ou "on*t have that safet# securit# of the other person to come (ack to, and learn and safet# securit# of the other person to come (ack to, and learn and recognie the patterns and social structures that control the
recognie the patterns and social structures that control the response outcome (# making mistakes if #ou have to, and then response outcome (# making mistakes if #ou have to, and then cali(rate for next time%
cali(rate for next time%
4nce #ou have done that, ever#thing "ill (e su(conscious and 4nce #ou have done that, ever#thing "ill (e su(conscious and automatic and here #ou have N4T /ust Natural $ame%%%(ut automatic and here #ou have N4T /ust Natural $ame%%%(ut $LEAT Natural !ocial $ame%
$LEAT Natural !ocial $ame%
When #ou have the social skills, meeting and having people When #ou have the social skills, meeting and having people from all "alks of life adding value to #our life and enriching it, from all "alks of life adding value to #our life and enriching it, meeting "omen is natural almost effortless, #ou "ill (e meeting meeting "omen is natural almost effortless, #ou "ill (e meeting them through their social circle and their friends social circle% them through their social circle and their friends social circle%
I reall# hope #ou en/o#ed this (ook, and #ou got a lot out of it I reall# hope #ou en/o#ed this (ook, and #ou got a lot out of it that "ill help #ou start mastering #our dating as "ell as #our that "ill help #ou start mastering #our dating as "ell as #our social life%
social life%
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