How to Get All the Girls You Want

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HOW TO GET ALL THE GIRLS YOU WANT!

by ARTHUR GORDON

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SECTION ONE

CHAPTER ONE

Introductions A: Who I Am

My name is Arthur Gordon. The exact person - what I look like and talk like, how old I am and where I live - are unimportant in relation to the topic of this volume, How To Get All the Girls You Want. There is nothing extraordinary about me personally.

But there is something that I have grown to feel very strongly about over the years that has had the end result of making me very effective with obtaining, handling and controlling women, beautiful women, of all shapes and sizes and colors. I felt so strongly about it in fact, that I decided to write a book. Aside from the obvious fact that I will make money for doing so, I will receive the satisfaction of getting across a strongly-held point of view, a point of view that too many males in today's society have not been made aware of as an option for them to have.

Back in the 1960's, a legal movement headed primarily by feminist organizations was undertaken in this country to make women the exact equal to men in every respect: legally, economically and socially.

And while I very much agree that the personhood of every individual should have equal status in the eyes of the law with respect to such things as the right to receive the same pay for doing the same job, the right not to be discriminated against in housing and as a consumer, etc. (but I do NOT think women should have been given the right to vote!) it is, however, a fundamental fact of nature that males and females are biologically different entities of the humanoid species.

I also believe that the hormone level and chemical concentrations, not to mention the vagina of a female and the penis of a male show and demonstrate that men and women never were, are not now and never will be "equal".

Hormone levels and chemical reactions in the brain have been proven by science to have a direct bearing on the emotional and psychological make-up of a human being. No amount of legislation on earth will ever change that fact. Women are made, in my

opinion, a certain way and should act in the manner that is their nature. (And the same goes for men.) But women have been increasingly brainwashed to believe that having a man's attitude is the thing to do in today's society. And men have been taught to

downplay the "macho" side of their personality, and instead be "warm, sensitive, caring, softer, understanding," etc.

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LOSING YOUR MANHOOD! Retaining the natural male aggressiveness makes these emotions even more appealing when they are revealed to a woman. But today's media is not teaching you that. And what has been lost is the natural male-female interaction based on the "caveman" premise of the male being strong and dominant, protector and provider, choosing and taking his desired female, and that female then providing for the man's needs and taking care of their "cave".

Women's groups have ridiculed this image, calling it primitive, using the catch phrases "this is the 70's" or "this is the 80's" or, "this is the 90's" or "this is the new Millenium". So What?! I count a maximum of 40 years. The basic premise of a man being a MAN and a woman being a WOMAN goes back thousands of years, to those very same "caveman" days. As a matter of fact, that is what allowed the human race to survive to make it out of those times: man's basic behavioral patterns.

But, since World War II, when by necessity woman left the home to enter the workplace, women have become increasingly independent of men. By taking on the traditional man's role of provider, by earning her own money and being able to buy her own things and her own car, she then became her own boss, no longer subservient to the man, no longer needing a man to provide for her. Now, not only could she have and do everything a man could, and be equal to him, she also still had the natural advantage God had given woman - her vagina, which, in a sexual connotation, is often called "pussy".

You've heard the joke that the one rejected male told the other poor sap-" Women. They've got half the money in the world and all the pussy."

(My use of the word "pussy" is not meant to be offensive. It is, however, meant to be exact. But, so as not to offend, when the sexual nature of a woman's vagina needs to be referred to in order to emphasize a point, the word "cat" will be used in its place.)

I have been accused by women's groups of being "a male chauvinist (pig)". I have been called "old-fashioned" and "puritanical". For the record, I am not a male chauvinist (pig). As I said, I believe in the personhood of every woman. Although I don't believe they should have been given the right to vote, I believe same pay same job, etc. I don't believe that just because I'm a man I am better than any woman. I don't look down my nose at women's thoughts or ideas. But I am old-fashioned. And what's wrong with that? Old-fashioned ideas, we increasingly realize, usually work better than today's "modern" approach.

Puritanical is an interesting word choice. It touches upon the religious aspect of this issue. Woman's groups have been especially active in attempting to obscure the traditional Biblical point of view. They have even gone so far as to make a non-gender Bible and get it instituted for use in several denominations.

This is the height of arrogance and brazenness. The Bible has been in existence for thousands of years. The Bible is the cornerstone of Western Civilization. The Bible

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provided the basis for the Judeo-Christian legal system. The Bible has been considered for centuries as the Word of God. Can you think of any other book that has had such a tremendous influence on mankind? But feminists want to use a sanitized Bible to further their aim of a unisex society. Having read the Bible from cover to cover, as you are supposed to read a book, gave me much insight on the creation called woman. The knowledge contained in the Bible about women is fundamental to the theory behind the method that I have outlined for you in this book.

I don't blame feminists for wanting to change the Bible. And as we go along, you'll see why too. This is why I say who I personally am is unimportant, but what I believe is important to you. The theories I advance are rooted in the timeless truths of the Bible, and those truths will be here long after the shrill voices of the feminists have faded into

obscurity.

CHAPTER TWO

Introductions B: Who You Are

The total number of copies of this book sold is expected to eventually number in the hundreds of thousands. There are, therefore, a whole lot of "you"'s when I pause to consider who you, the reader, are. And it's also a fact that you and I will probably never meet face-to-face, so I will not have the pleasure of meeting the unique individual that is You on a personal basis in order to form an opinion of who You are.

But, I do know all I need to know about you to know that you indeed can have All The Girls You Want. Using the power of deductive reasoning this is what I can

summarize about You based on the premise that you bought (or borrowed from someone who bought) this book. Starting point: this book is about How To Get All The Girls You Want. Assuming you are male, you therefore either (A) do NOT have All The Girls You Want, or maybe not even any of the Girls You Want, or maybe not even a girl at all, or (B) you DO have All The Girls You Want and you just wanted to spend your perfectly good, green money to see if I had it right.

Well, either way you look at it, congratulations are in order. Lets take category (B) first; if you do have All The Girls You Want, congratulations! You will see exactly why you do, as you continue to read this book, if you do not know why already. If you Have All The Girls You Want AND know exactly why you do, you must be thinking about writing a similar book (assuming that you're smart enough not to spend money and time to read about something you already know all about), and you wanted to see what the competition had to say. Well, after you've read this book, you'll realize that this is indeed the definitive, in-depth look at the subject, the standard by which all other books before and after will be judged, and an effort on your part to try and write and have published something similar is doomed to failure, both personal and financial. Okay? Okay. I'm

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glad we have that misconception on your part straightened out. Just kidding. Come on in, the water's fine!

Also, I know (C) wasn't a category, but if it were, it would be that you are female and you just wanted to see what was going on. Be my guest, but keep in mind the fact that I cannot be held responsible for offending you by speaking frankly and honestly to my male compatriots in my effort to lay bare the truth of the actions and characteristics of your sex for them to understand and act accordingly upon. All feminist group hate letters please address to my publisher's office. Thank you.

For those of you who fit category (A), congratulations for having the initiative to take a step towards solving your problem of not having All The Girls You Want. I now know two thing about you: you have (1) the desire, and (2) the initiative to act upon that desire. YOU HAVE ALL YOU NEED TO SUCCEED! I will provide the specific how-to.

Let me repeat the two things I know about you. 1 - you have Desire. The definition of desire is "a conscious impulse toward an object or experience that promises enjoyment of satisfaction in its attainment". That sure hits the nail on the head, doesn't it? There are few things that promise more enjoyment or satisfaction when attained than a willing female. And the good thing about Desire is that you don't have to have a lot of it to start out with, because the more you keep it on your mind, the more it grows! And the more it grows the more it stays on your mind. More on this shortly.

2- You have the initiative to ACT. This is the first level of separation between those who will always long for a beautiful girl or two to spend an enchanted evening with and those who will be able to tell you what spending an enchanted evening with a

beautiful girl is like, because they've gone ahead and done so. Fear - fear of rejection, fear of failure -is the biggest stumbling block in the attempted pursuit of the opposite sex. I'll show you how to use judo on your fear - taking the force directed at you and redirecting it to achieve your goal - in Chapter 4.

You are now going to get an unadvertised bonus you didn't anticipate receiving when you started to read this book. And guess what. What, you say? This is what: this unadvertised bonus is more valuable than the knowledge of How To Get All The Girls You Want!

Actually, the knowledge of How To Get All The Girls You Want is part of learning the Overall Truth I'm going to tell you about. And I'll let you in on a secret: having All The Girls You Want, all the time, day in, day out, year in, year out gets a little boring and sometimes bothersome. Girls calling you all the time, wanting to be with you, throwing themselves at you for you to do what you will with their sweet, luscious

bodies...ho hum...(Granted, it is a better problem to have than not having any girls at all, but success has a tendency to spoil you if you're not careful.)

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This Truth is the thing that helps to keep having All The Girls You Want in proper perspective, and adds excitement to your existence. The

Bonus I'm going to give you is The Key. I'm going to give you The Key...to Success In All The Areas Of Your Life...for the Rest of your Life!

CHAPTER THREE

The Foundation of All Success

Positive belief in your manhood - strengthened by knowledge and tempered by experience - generates Self-Confidence, which gives the power to act like a Man, and the ability to achieve goals by GOING AFTER WHAT YOU WANT.

The knowledge, wisdom, and understanding that a man accumulates during his lifetime comes piece by piece, bit by bit, as a man's internal theory of how to live life is turned daily into reality by action, or inaction, resulting in Experience, whether that experience is pleasurable or not. There is a great deal of truth to the saying "there is no substitute for experience, no G.E.D. for a diploma from the school of hard knocks". You can have all the paper knowledge and theoretical knowledge in the world; it is to no avail unless it is tried, tested and found to be True and Sound.

Let's use the world of sports to provide a comparison to illustrate the point. A player, in his first season, is called a rookie. There is nothing derogatory in being a rookie, but it is not a desired state of existence or level of skill past that first year. If

you're into your second and third year and still are playing like a rookie, then being called one is derogatory and your career is in trouble. There is, however a difference in playing like a rookie that second year and experiencing the "Sophomore Jinx". The Sophomore Jinx is when that second year for some reason seems harder than the first. This is a common occurrence when the player must learn new skills necessary to perform at the higher level of competition. Good, sound fundamentals must be established to insure consistent performance, as opposed to a way of doing things that may be initially

effective, but cannot be relied upon to be consistently effective. It is not going to do you any good to be able to "pull" one beautiful girl, have things good for awhile and then you go your separate ways, and you not be able to do it again because you don't know exactly how you were able to do it in the first place. And if you don't have the confidence of that knowledge it affects how you handle the girl you're with at the time, because you can't maintain your manhood if you have to cling to her for fear of not being able to replace her. You want her to cling to you because she's afraid of getting replaced. Because she knows you know how.

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opposed to gimmicks to attract women. And you may experience the Sophomore Jinx as you learn these new principals. But this is where the word Perseverance needs to come into full effect. (To persevere means to continue steadfastly in spite of counter influences, opposition or discouragement.)

And if you are able to do that - persevere - oh, that third year! Maturity begins to set in, and the foundation, if the player has received proper instruction and the necessary degree of actual playing time, is in place for a productive career. Each subsequent year adds to the reservoir of experiences the player has, and after a while, he's "seen it all" and can now "do it all". He is now an experienced, or seasoned, veteran. And it shows in his game.

Your progress, if you assimilate and decide to put into play the theories of this book, will be the same. After this book is read, you will have theoretical knowledge that will enable you to attain your goal of having All The Girls You Want. Your attitude toward that knowledge will decide whether or not you succeed. And your ATTITUDE is the starting point of building the proper mental foundation for success - not just with girls but in life. You must have the attitude of success in order to look for success, in order

to achieve success. Let me stress that: the starting point of success is your ATTITUDE,

plain and simple. Your ATTITUDE.

As a matter-of-fact, your attitude towards anything that is outside of your physical body can be determined by you and how you act towards it, thereby determining to a great degree how it reacts to your action. Whether it is a situation or a person, you

determine the outcome of the interaction by your action! Don't miss the heaviness of this truth.

Basic Example. A person you know says hello to you. You, in return, slap them silly; the taste comes out of their mouth. Before the physical act of your hand impacting with their cheekbone, you had to mentally determine what you were going to do. "I just reacted" you say? No, there is no such thing as a purely physical reaction. The mind makes lightning-fast decisions. The decision to slap was made by your brain, which took an evaluation of your pre-set attitude towards the subject at hand. A simple comparison of your brain's functioning is to the scan feature on today's electronic car radios. A button is pressed, and a pre-selected station is automatically tuned in.

So, your pre-set attitude determined your reaction. You obviously had a bad attitude toward the person that you slapped.

Now, imagine that right after the above incident someone else you know sees you and says hello. You, in return, smile pleasantly and return the greeting. You obviously have a pleasant attitude pre-set towards the second party.

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chain: preceding the attitude was the conscious exercising of Will in allowing the pre-set attitude to exist and be the basis for the action. In other words, your attitude determines your action. But what makes the attitude is the conscious exercising of your will. You have the ability to choose your attitude. You have the ability to "snap out" of a bad mood, right? You also have the ability to snap out of a negative pre-set attitude towards your ability to succeed - whether that is with women or other goals in life. You have the ability by exercising your will to "snap into" a positive attitude! And once the proper attitude is pre-set, your actions will come forth from that basis.

You can literally think your way to success by programming yourself for it! All you have to do is program your base attitude of Self-Confidence in order for your actions to come across as that of a Man with Total Self-Confidence. And that's how they'll be perceived. And in turn, your Self-Confidence level is further reinforced, giving you the ability to attempt to do bigger and better things - or go after sexier and more beautiful women.

Sometimes people are unable to grasp an important Truth because it is so simple. They feel "there just has to be more to it than that." There usually isn't "more to it than that"; the difficulty comes in keeping the process simple. And by not realizing how simple it really is, they proceed to complicate the solution to a problem, or actually create a problem of an obstacle when there really wasn't much of one to begin with. It's just this simple:

Man's conscious will, his freedom to choose a course of action, is his alone; man has the complete and absolute power to determine but one thing throughout life, and that's the thoughts inside his head. The ability to think and exercise reason in making decisions is the thing that sets man apart from the instinctive behavior of animals. The ability to exercise the power of will over instinctive behavior is a very valuable trait. Your will is the only thing in life over which you have complete individual control. The thoughts in your head are yours alone. And these thoughts should be treated as the living things they are. For when you take a thought from inside your head and express it by word or by action, or both, you

have made in reality an extension of your thoughts. You've given birth to your living thought or idea.

Scratch your nose. Yes, I said scratch your nose. Just go ahead and do it, I'll tell you why in a minute. Stop asking why, JUST DO IT! Do NOT read any further until you scratch your nose.

Did you scratch your nose?

Whether or not you did doesn't matter, but what you did or didn't do determined what is now both reality and history. And you decided it by your response to the stimuli received; in this case reading what I had written. You made a decision to either keep reading and not scratch, or to scratch and then keep reading. YOU, not the stimuli received,

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An example that you can readily relate to: you're paying for an item at the checkout counter and the girl ringing up your purchase is beautiful;

you would gladly let her bear your offspring, or at least practice the method necessary to do so. She hands you your change and looks you in the eyes. In that split-second, based upon your pre-set attitudes about how you relate to women, you will make a decision. You may look down, mumble thank-you and skitter away flustered. Or, you may lock your eyes with hers and look directly into her soul as you say in a strong, confident manner "Thank you", then pause for a second, making her drop her gaze and probably blush (a desirable thing-shows you got to her). At which point you then make another decision as to the feasibility of immediately following up the opening you've created for yourself, or filing the encounter away for future reference.

Same people, same situation in both examples. Same opportunity. Different action, different impression, different results. All determined by your attitude, an attitude you had pre-set in your mind like that car radio, an attitude that automatically asserted itself when that particular situation arose.

To be successful in life, you must use your power of will to make a conscious choice in your pre-set attitudes, and allow your action to come forth from the basis of Total Self-Confidence in the anticipated success of your actions.

To make yourself successful with girls in particular and life in general, you must pre-set your mind station to the success channel.

As we said a little while ago, fear is the greatest hindrance in focusing your mind properly for success. So, in the next chapter, I'm going

to show you how to eradicate this insidious enemy, how to banish fear from your mind. Once done, NOTHING can stand in the way of you being successful in life; NOTHING can prevent you from having All The Girls You Want.

THE EXERCISING OF YOUR WILL POWER CREATES THE POSITIVE STATE-OF-MIND

NEEDED FOR

TOTAL SELF-CONFIDENCE WHICH IS

THE FOUNDATION OF ALL SUCCESS!!!

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Nothing to Fear-But Fear Itself

Starting with the Stock Market Crash of 1929, the period known as the Great Depression descended upon the United States. Those who lived through it can never forget it, and those who were born afterward can never truly know what life in a country with no economic vitality is like.

But we can imagine. And it's not hard to mentally put yourself back in those days, as I'm sure that somewhere along the line you've seen those old black and white newsreels of people standing in breadlines, and selling apples on street corners, and people sleeping in the park under a blanket of newspapers.

Visualize the Depression as not only an economic one, but one of mood, as well. The moral strength of the country was low, virtually nonexistent, and the national psyche was negatively set towards the future. With every one in four workers unemployed, millions unable to buy food for their families and millions more losing their homes, doom, gloom and despair permeated the hearts and minds of the great majority of

Americans. They couldn't look back on it as we do now and know that it was to be only a temporary condition in American history. They thought it might be the end of America.

At the depths of the Great Depression, Franklin Delano Roosevelt was elected to be the 32nd President of the United States. With the nation on the brink of permanent disaster and economic ruin, President Roosevelt, in his inaugural address and throughout his twelve years in office, was able to do the One Thing that resulted in victory over the enemy and prosperity and peace for the American people.

Not only was President Roosevelt was confronted by the Great Depression while in office, but also the menace of Nazi Germany and World War II. And each time a major crisis or impending disaster loomed on the horizon he was able to do the One Thing

which you and I and anyone else who wishes to have success in life must do - realize who is REALLY the adversary in the conflict!

Well, you say, wasn't the adversary Roosevelt faced the Great Depression? Or Hitler?

No.

Isn't the person I have to convince to see things my way the adversary, or the girl I want to get involved with, isn't she the adversary? NO.

When President Roosevelt gave his inaugural address, during that speech he uttered ten words that changed the course of history - and these words give insight into the reason for FDR's success in his personal battle with polio later in life.

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these words convey strikes the proper chord down deep inside you, can change your life - if you let them.

President Roosevelt defined for the American people who the true enemy was as the battle against the economic devastation of the American economy began.

He said:

"The Only Thing We Have To Fear - Is Fear Itself."

Not whether or not our economic system was flawed, or American workmanship was inferior. Fear was the enemy in the battle.

Or in World War II, not the might and power of Hitler's arsenal. Fear was the enemy! The True Enemy.

Fear. Fear was the enemy to focus on and defeat - and the rest would take care of itself. Victory over the circumstances would come forth if the real enemy - fear - were conquered.

He knew that the instinct of self-preservation is Nature's way to preserve the species - a pause to consider different courses of action is the prudent thing to do.

But during that moment of weighing different alternatives when confronted with a particular set of circumstances, fear attempts to impose itself.

You've heard I'm sure the saying "For every action there is an opposite and equal reaction." The attempt by fear to impose itself is the attempt to counterbalance the impetus that is created when a positive thought or action is contemplated.

You've created momentum - positive momentum - with a positive thought or action impulse. Fear attempts to undermine this momentum. It does so by trying to turn the natural pause of self-preservation into hesitation - through the feeling of doubt in your mind at this critical moment.

Fear's strategy is to get you to stop concentrating on the solution to the problem or the steps necessary to implement your positive thought or action, and instead make you doubt your ability to even make the attempt or make it seem futile to even try.

Once fear has been able to sidetrack your focus away from the issue at hand, to the imagined negative results of what once was a positive impulse, its easy for the desire to maintain status quo to reassert itself, and the initial impulse to impact positively on the situation confronting you dies. You then allow the circumstances to be determined for you rather than by you, without you acting in your own best interests. No wonder so many things that you fear come to pass - you've allowed them to! And because the

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situation now seems overwhelmingly frightening, that only reinforces the negative impression of your ability to affect your destiny for the better. And the next time you're confronted with a similar situation, your positive impulse for action is weaker, and weaker, until eventually you don't even consider making the attempt to conquer

something you're afraid of. You look at the adversary, but it's fear that is defeating you

because it does not allow you to act!

Now I'd like to review what we've just discussed and focus on the words that I've underlined. This is a slowed down, frame-by-frame explanation for what can happen in an instant when you are faced with an opportunity to do something positive for yourself, be it with women or in life.

The first word underlined is attempt. Because that is all fear can do-attempt its destructive work. It is only able to be successful with your help! Why? Because fear is only a State of Mind. And remember - the one thing we can exclusively control is just that - our state of mind. For fear to be effective you must voluntarily surrender your right to control your state of mind. And this you do when you give in to fear, whether you realize it or not. Fear can have no power over you other than what you give it.

This realization is the first key to our victory over our true enemy of fear. We can decide, through the use of our willpower, not to allow fear to take root in our mind.

The next word underlined is the word undermine. Fear does not meet your positive impulse head on, like two cars colliding in a head-on collision. Instead, it looks to take the floor away from underneath you; it looks to rot the positive impulse away by taking away the desire and motivation through the next underlined word - doubt.

If you hear yourself saying "what if" as you visualize in your mind

different negative results of your initial impulse, make no mistake - the seed of doubt has taken root in your mind.

The word sidetrack is underlined to underscore how the mind works. Although your mind can assimilate many pictures rapidly - like watching an MTV video with all the quick camera images coming one after the other - it still only sees one picture at a time. Your train of thought was initially positive, and the series of pictures visualized by your mind were along positive lines, i.e., solutions to your circumstances, benefits of your actions, etc. Once fear is allowed to leave the seed of doubt, the train of your thoughts has switched tracks and is now headed toward Negative City, and bad images run through your mind with the end result either no attempt at a positive result, or a disbelieving, half-hearted attempt doomed to failure.

The word imagined is underlined because, at that point any negative results are just that - imagined! The future is not written at this point - you have the ability to shape it in a direction that is positive for you. But by holding negative images in your mind you

reproduce in life the result of those images. By the same token, not allowing fear to plant the seed of doubt enables the mind to be free of paralysis and inertia, and to stay focused on a positive plan of action.

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Don't misunderstand -caution in certain situations is necessary. But if caution leads to doubt about your ability to make the situation a positive one for you, or if you can conjure up reasons your effort shouldn't be undertaken with no effort to find alternatives to advance your cause, then you have fallen into the trap of fear.

President Roosevelt understood that if the American people had a fear of all the negative things that could happen in the future, they would be unable to have the positive willpower and determination for the task ahead. And so, by pointing out and exposing the real enemy - fear - he was able to make the country's state of mind stay on the positive tracks. Roosevelt's campaign theme song even reflected the positive attitude that was needed before positive results could hope to be achieved - Happy Days Are Here Again. And eventually happy days once again came to America.

Happy days can begin for you too in your desire to Have All The Girls You Want. Fear is the only thing you have to fear in your attempt to improve your impact on the opposite sex. If you doubt your appearance is attractive to women, doubt your ability to capture and hold their attention, doubt your ability to satisfy their desires, is it any wonder you are not successful?

All I need from you to quench these doubts is your desire to succeed with women. I will show you and teach you and equip you with all the tools to perform the task, so don't concern yourself with that. You will have no basis for uncertainty as to what to do or say or how to do it or say it. But you must provide the positive attitude towards your future success. You must not give fear a chance to place doubt in your mind.

The oriental art of judo has as its basis the principle of using your opponent's momentum or action against you to overcome them. I will now share with you a very simple judo technique to use on fear when it tries to plant the seed of doubt in your mind. Its effectiveness should not be misjudged because it seems so simple and easy.

You know that your mental state of mind invariably shows on your face and in your body reactions. For example, if you are surprised you look surprised - mouth open, eyebrows raised, maybe your hands covering your mouth. If you are sad, you look sad - mouth turned down at the corners, eyes downcast, shoulders drooping, etc. Earth, Wind & Fire sang a song called "On Your Face" which has lyrics that said, "Ain't it funny that the way you feel shows on your face? Even if you don't try it states your case." Well, by making your face in the image of an emotion - and holding it in place as long as

necessary, you begin to mentally feel the way your face is physically shaped to feel! You can't help it, if you hold the expression long enough! You can use this technique when sad or angry. Make yourself smile and laugh! Even if it's the last thing you feel like doing when you start, if you do it long enough, your mind begins to feed itself humorous

thoughts, or attempts to find humor in the situation, and your state of mind changes. And after a little while you'll be in the mood your face programmed your mind to be in. If you

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want to be serious about something, put a look of seriousness on your face and hold it - shortly you'll be in a serious state of mind - which is what all emotions are. A state of mind.

If you want to overcome fear on demand, use this technique! When you have that positive impulse or thought, and during the stage when you are considering your courses of action, and fear attempts to make its presence felt, apply mental judo by using the momentum of fear's effort to automatically trigger you to do this:

(1)-Will yourself to put a look of victory and determination to succeed on your face and imagine fire in your eyes, and

(2)-Clench your teeth together in a way that says, "I'm bulldog determined to succeed, no matter what!" (Even imagine that your have grown the square, big jowls of a bulldog on your face! I know it sounds silly on the surface, but try it just once and tell me that you don't start to want to bark if you hold the expression and visualize long enough!)

Practice this simple technique in the mirror until you can assume it instantly. Don't feel silly or stupid or self-conscious. There's nobody there but you and the Man in the Mirror, and you are, as Michael Jackson said, determined to make that change - for the positive.

If there's no one in shouting distance, you can add clenching your fists and saying very loudly "I Am VICTORIOUS AND DETERMINED TO SUCCEED!" AND KEEP YOUR TEETH CLENCHED AS YOU SAY IT!

This last part - keeping your teeth clenched as you speak while fixing this attitude in your mind is the thing that will give you the feeling of being in command. With your face saying victory, your eyes breathing fire and your teeth clenched in bulldog

determination your mind will join the party and think positive, think of ways to succeed instead of ways to fail. And fear, which is only a state of mind, won't be anything more than the impulse that you "judo" into reinforcing your initial positive impulse with the determination to move forward. Fear can actual fuel your forward momentum!

You can even use this technique right in the heat of the moment as you attempt to make conversation with a woman. I'm getting ahead of myself by giving you a technique before we're discussing techniques specifically for your use on women, but I want you to see how this has its practical application.

Asking a girl for a way to get in touch with her again-her phone number, or where she works or lives, or a date - these are the times the presence of fear is most felt. By knowing the judo technique for fear and using it at the same time you ask her the

question by keeping your teeth clenched and talking at the same time - you add impact to it. (Plus, you sort of sound like Clint Eastwood, too.) This comes across to women as

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very masculine. Also coming across loud and clear is your determination and the question you're asking is put forth as it should be in that situation - in a manly way, with the anticipation of a positive response on her part clearly in the tone of your voice. She can see your confidence in your eyes (remember, you have fire in them, and she will see it because we'll have taught you to look directly into her eyes when asking all personal questions). Isn't it logical that you will have more of a chance at a positive answer than if you put forth the question in a timid, unforceful way that shows the doubt and fear you've allowed to infest your thoughts?

Fear can become a formidable enemy if you let it. Please realize the truth of this chapter: fear is only a state of mind. Control your state of mind and you will control fear; use the impulse of fear as a springboard to your goal.

Just before his death, President Roosevelt wrote the following words we will quote to close this chapter and mark, I hope, a turning point in your life.

"The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today. Let us move forward with strong and active faith."

CHAPTER FIVE

Building Self-Confidence Through P.P.S.P.

In Chapter 7 I am going to give you specific techniques for developing the

qualities and characteristics that women find compelling, desirable and attractive. In this chapter, we will lay the groundwork for effectively understanding and using those

techniques that will affect your life. And to make comprehending these truths easy, we are going to create a mental image to picture what we are working on.

Sit comfortably in a private, darkened room where distractions will be at a minimum. Close your eyes... take a few slow, deep breaths to quiet your mind and use your imagination to visualize the following:

You've been invited to a very private and special art gallery, to take a look at a very unique painting. Imagine yourself in a mini-theater, with a small stage surrounded by curtains on the sides and across the back -you know the kind. A lone spotlight shines on an artist's painting easel, upon which sits a huge, beautiful, framed canvas.

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only seat in the house. What's more, only you can ever sit in this theater and view this painting - it is for your eyes only to ever see.

You then realize that in your hands is a paintbrush and artist's palate (the thing you put your thumb through and keep your paints on), and you have on an artist's smock, and one of those funny French berets you've seen painters wear is on your head. You are the artist of this painting!

As you look at the canvas closely, you see that the object of the painting is very familiar. You know the object very well, because it is You! The painting is a self-portrait, your personal self-portrait, which you paint in the theater of your mind. Your

subconscious controls your reactions to events and makes decisions based upon the Personal Self-Portrait you have of who you are and how you are. It does this the same way the electronic price-scanning device at your local supermarket looks over the surface of an item being purchased to find the black-and-white bar code that says how much the item is.

When confronted by a situation that gives you an opportunity to interact with a woman you find desirable, your subconscious scans your personal opinion of yourself, the Personal Self-Portrait upon which you've painted. It reads either confidence and courage, or a lack of confidence, timidity and hesitancy. It then controls the entire range of subtle, subconscious signals that you are giving off, which the woman senses and analyzes on conscious and subconscious levels. Remember this: men always impress women. You will always make an impression on every woman you meet. The only question is how you will impress her! Good? Bad? Yecchh? Masculine? Desirable? Sensual? Scardy-cat? Gutless?

Your subconscious controls the look in your eye, and the tone in your voice. It controls your entire body posture and actions - how firmly and erect you stand, and how close you stand in proximity to her or how your shoulders slump (indicating lack of self-confidence) or how you shy away. It controls the intonation of the words you formulate to say and the intent behind the words. It will always control these things. But you can control the impression your subconscious has of who and how you are through your paintbrush - your will power - by purposely, steadily, and habitually creating (painting) the picture of the person that you want to be. By having a Positive Personal Self-Portrait - P.P.S.P. - you will make your subconscious work FOR you and not against you by

broadcasting the positive subconscious signal you want to send to members of the opposite sex (and people in general).

By using the Image Builders in Chapter 7, you will begin to take firm control of the direction of your life, by developing characteristics about yourself that are positive and unquestionably the personality traits that any woman worth your time and effort will find appealing

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It will not take a lot of time per day to paint your P.P.S.P. - but the key is the time OF day that you use your paintbrush. In the morning, upon wakening, and at night, just before you go to sleep - these are the times that your subconscious is most susceptible to the picture you desire it to have of You. Ten to fifteen minutes to start will be all the time you need daily - but you must be consistent for at least 30 days to effectively begin to alter what may be years of inadequate and negative self-imaging.

P.P.S.P. is your character foundation upon which we will build by adding the detailed understanding and specific techniques contained in the second and third section of this volume.

Unless you've previously given specific time and attention to a conscious shaping of your personal self-image, you have been operating with a self-image that was mostly formed during your childhood between the ages of two and ten! And while the rest of your mind and body continued to mature, your image of self, psychologists tell us, became firmly entrenched in your mind - the paint had been applied to the canvas, and was now dry.

If you were fortunate enough to have been raised by those who understood the need for positive encouragement and reinforcement in showing you how to handle the obstacles of Life, you are ahead of the game. But there is much room for improvement by consciously seeking to influence your subconscious in exactly the way you want. If your experiences growing were indifferent or negative to actively seeking to achieve and succeed, you have work to do, but you'll be pleasantly surprised at how rapidly the

change can occur when you apply yourself. When you begin to realize the true power you have to influence and direct you life for success once you consciously decide and desire to do so, you will have much natural incentive to apply yourself. You can have a whole new world for yourself if you want it!

Do you? Do you desire to do so? Do you want to make the sustained effort required to paint your Positive Personal Self-Portrait daily? Do you really want to have All The Girls You Want? You do? Well then, when are you ready to start?

The following passage is actually the lyrics to a song I first heard while listening to the debut album of a musical group called Parliament/Funkadelic, headlined by

gentlemen named George Clinton and Bootsy Collins. The "song" was as far out as the group's name. It was a song that was unlike any other song I ever heard before or since. For twenty minutes a single electric guitar played a solo that seemed designed to lull the listener into a meditative state. And you needed to be in one to digest the full truth of the words that followed, (while the guitar still played in the background, highlighting the reading of the words). I was seventeen at the time, and I listened to that song over and over and over again, alone in a darkened room. The only way to hear it is to locate a copy of the album. But a once a day reading to yourself of the words can't help but have a refreshing, positive effect on you. Since we've given the morning and the evening to the

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Image Builders you'll be using as you paint your P.P.S.P., read and meditate on the following words sometime during the day, especially when confronted by a seemingly difficult situation. These words will give you the ability to keep things in proper

perspective.

"Travel like a King.

And Remember: A Higher Wisdom is at work for you.

Conquering the stumbling blocks come easier when the Conquer is in tune with the Infinite.

Every ending is a new beginning; life is an endless unfoldment. Change your mind and you change your relation to time.

*****

You can find the answer!

The solution lies within the problem. The answer is in every question, dig it?

An attitude is all you need to rise and walk away. Inspire yourself!

Your life is yours; it fits you like your skin.

*****

The oak sleeps in the acorn, the giant Sequoia tree sleeps in its tiny seed, the bird waits in the air, and God waits for his unfoldment in man.

Fly on, children, fly.

*****

You gravitate to that which you secretly love most. You make in life the exact

reproduction of your own thoughts. There is no chance, coincidence, or accident in a world ruled by divine law and order. You rise as high as your dominant aspiration; you descend to the level of your lowest concept of yourself.

Free your mind and your ass will follow.

*****

The Infinite Intelligence within you knows the answers; its nature is to respond to your thoughts.

Be careful of the thought seeds you plant in the garden of your mind, for seeds grow after their kind.

Play on, children.

*****

Every thought felt as true, or allowed to be accepted as true, by your conscious mind take roots in your subconscious and blossom sooner or later into an act and bears it's own fruit.

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Bullshit thoughts rot your meat. Think right and you can fly!

The Kingdom of Heaven is within.

Free your mind and your ass will follow. Play on, children.

Sail on, lady. Yeah."

CHAPTER SIX

Now Is The Time!

You've heard, I'm sure, the speech that begins with the phrase "There comes a time in every man's life..." Well brother, I'm here to tell you that your time is now! Well, wait a second. Let me clarify that. Your time - time to begin to be successful (including All The Girls You Want, of course) can be now - if you want it to be. But only if you want it to be! Do you? I mean, really?

Are you prepared to become the person that you want to be - and prepared to do what is necessary?

Another thought. Are you prepared to handle your soon-to-come fortune and success? Are you ready for the changes it will make in your life - having beautiful girls on your arm at will, the career or job success you desire; are you ready for when the image turns into reality?

Think about it. And start to get real excited. Start to see it. Start to feel it. When you go to bed tonight, stare at the ceiling and use it as a movie screen - and project onto that screen the You you want to be! It's not daydreaming... it's called Visualization. Project on the screen the You you know is locked inside. And even if at this stage you don't think you can be but you want to be, then say it anyway - you KNOW you can be! And say it again and again. Act like you believe it and you will begin to believe it. Begin taking a mental sledgehammer and smashing the self-imposed limitations on what you can accomplish in life.

But the #1 thing that you must have is a burning desire to bring about that success. And the time to start building the fire of that desire is now!

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(And don't argue with me! Since I wrote the thing I know how you need to digest these important truths for maximum benefit and enrichment.)

First, read through this entire book completely at one sitting, if possible. If not, stop at the end of the first seven chapters. Read Book II and Book III at one sitting.

Now, as I said earlier, this book is not about gimmicks. Resist the temptation to try to put any one specific technique into practice right away!

I repeat. Tomorrow, DO NOT wake up and say "Duh, I can get All The Girls I Want because I read a book on it yesterday". You will meet with failure on these attempts, and put negative brush strokes on your Personal Self-Portrait. You wouldn't read a book on karate and then go attempt to beat up a street thug, would you? No, first you would be taught the foundational principals of the art, and then, after much diligent practice, learning and studying, you would THEN go kick some butt, if you had to. Same theory here.

Instead, once you've read the entire book, just set it aside for a day or two, and do this... look and observe and absorb. Make an effort to discern the actions and attitudes of women as you encounter them during your daily routine. Pick up on the nuances of their behavior. And don't worry about the one or two that give you a look of "why are you staring at me"; you won't be doing your homework right if some of them don't. Don't be impolite or rude, but... observe. Not only observe their physical appearance, but also the attitude they project. Evaluate them the way I show you that they evaluate each other and us.

This is your first reconnaissance mission, in preparation for the assault you will make... on their minds. Before we can get the girls right, we've got to get you right. After a day or two, get the book out and read it again, cover to cover, in light of things you observed. Read it a little slower, and attempt to sink into your subconscious the attitude of what is being discussed, the feeling, the state of mind you must have to achieve. Begin the use of the image building material, and do so without fail. It is essential to your future success, for it is the actual beginning of your achievement of the goal to Get All The Girls You Want.

The Chinese say that "no matter how long the journey, it always begins with the first step." And that's so very true. Tomorrow another rising and setting of the sun will occur (if it doesn't, you and I won't have anything to worry about, that's for sure). And another day of your life will come.. and go... never able to be recovered or recaptured or lived over again. Your journey in life is being walked day by day, step by step whether you like it or not. So you might as well use the passage of time to your benefit.

(Remember - "Change your mind and you change your relation to time.") Be content to put this program of success into place slowly, but surely. Take the time to build the proper foundation to Get All The Girls You Want, so as it happens you'll be prepared for it to happen.

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You must prepare properly!

The time spent putting the desired program into place to begin to get steady and consistent results is very small in proportion to the fact that you will be receiving the benefits from this program for the rest of your life.

Chapter 7 of this book gets you specifically focusing on your self -improvement. Chapter 7 of Section Two gets you specifically focusing on women.

Your focus must come first! Let the 30-day minimum go by for putting your Positive Personal Self-Portrait in place, while continuing to be consciously aware of the actions and attitudes of the women you encounter. You will then be ready for the focus on women.

I urge you again, as strongly as possible, to use the material in this book in the manner I have directed. I know you're anxious, but hey! I want you to Get All The Girls You Want almost as badly as you do. That's why I want to make sure you get there. And when you do, I want you to write me a letter and tell me about it. It adds to my personal feelings of success to know I've helped someone else be successful.

So, when is the time to begin? Now! Now is the time to begin the road to success in life and success in having All The Girls You Want!

CHAPTER SEVEN

Image Builders

It's fairly obvious, by my statements in Chapter 1, that I hold the Bible in great esteem and with high regard. The Bible, in my opinion, contains the essence of Truth as we can relate to it, and is especially relevant as a reference source for a logical and valid explanation of how a human being's emotional chemistry works. If we are going to have an intelligent discussion on painting a Positive Personal Self-Portrait, we will have to go back to the original basis of a right and proper self-image.

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God He created him; male and female He created them."

There is tremendous relevant information contained in these 22 words that can forever change the way you look at yourself, and the way you look at yourself in relation to women.

First, notice the double emphasis given to the fact that it was man who was created in God's own image. The inference is that other creations, the category that the creation of female falls into, were created with an image, but it was man alone that was created in the image of God.

Notice also that the personhood of God is characterized as male. "...created man in His own image, in the image of God He..."

The rest of the verse points out that God created male and female, but male and female are distinctions of the entity called Man. And it is only the male of Man that has been instilled with God's own image.

This is one of the reasons why the Feminist movement has sought to remove the use of gender in the Bible in order to make it more "fair" to women. The Bible, as

originally written, is quite explicit in the distinctions between male and female. Feminists would rather have men mentally emasculated than to acknowledge the truths put forth in the Bible. You avoid mental emasculation when you know the Truth.

Knowing that you as a male are made in the image of God gives rise to several logical postulations.

Postulation #1. You do not have to create an image for your P.P.S.P., because you already have one - God's! So, all we need do is analyze God's image to find our own. How would you categorize God? Powerful? Majestic? All that is the essence of

goodness? Love? Worthy of respect, adoration and worship? All of the above, obviously, and more.

Postulation #2. An essential part of God's image is being the object of love, respect, adoration, and worship. We, being made in His image, must have inborn the same need for the above. It is the role of man to provide this for God. It is the role of woman to provide this for man.

Boy, those feminists are screaming now, I'm sure. But all I'm doing is reading what is written. Let's read some more. I Corinthians, Chapter 11, verse 3. "But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman..." Verse 7: "For a man ought not have his head covered, since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man. For man does not originate from woman, but woman from man; for indeed man was not created for the woman's sake, but woman for man's sake."

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are not here for the benefit of women, although they will act like you are sometimes, and try to make you believe that. DON'T! They are here for your benefit! (See what you miss when you don't pay attention in Sunday School?)

Postulation #3. Adding Postulation #1 and Postulation #2 together, we get

Postulation #3. If you can allow yourself to relax in the image in which you were created, and act based upon that image, women will regard you the way they were made to

respond to that image - with love, respect, adoration and worship. And you will be deserving of it.

In a sense, it's easy to do - because you are not "doing" anything, rather, you are allowing something already there to come out. But that's what makes it so hard at the same time. However, once you sink the truth of the above facts into your heart and soul, thereby releasing your subconscious to act like it was programmed to do from the

beginning, you will achieve great success with women and life because that's the way things are made to work! "Conquering the stumbling blocks come easier when the

Conqueror (you) is in tune with the Infinite." REALIZE IT- ACT LIKE IT! AND IT

(EVENTUALLY) WILL BE!

Everybody knows good quality personal character when they encounter it. It shines through whatever outward appearance is covering it. This allows you to have the inner character qualities necessary to Get All

The Girls You Want - they have universal appeal - while still retaining the individual personality traits that make you the unique person you are. And you will attract girls that are compatible with you. Other books tell you that you have to act a certain way to attract certain females. They have a particular type of female in mind - the freak. And the

conventional wisdom is that you have to be "cool" to obtain them. But that isn't true! If you are not naturally cool, you will do more harm than good by trying to be what you are not. With this program you will learn how to affect a woman to achieve the results you want no matter what her type and despite your personality, because the appeal of the man in you will appeal to the woman in her.

But to accomplish this you must have a Positive Personal Self-Portrait. There are three areas of P.P.S.P. that you must paint - the mental aspect, which is your character, the physical aspect, which can be described as striving to be properly healthy, and the spiritual aspect, which encompasses a realization and heartfelt understanding of the Big Picture.

Here is the program:

Write out the following character qualities on 5 x 7 index cards. (It's not enough to just use this book. The act of putting the qualities down on paper in your own writing has tremendous subconscious impact.)

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Every morning, when you wake up, have the cards waiting for you next to your bed. Read them slowly, in an effort to absorb their meaning and internalize their essence.

This isn't a school assignment; it shouldn't be considered a chore or bother. This can

be the beginning of a more fulfilling life, if you look at it as such.

As you read them, you'll notice that they are written as if you are already in

possession of that particular character trait. Again, this is because your subconscious will govern your actions and attitudes based upon what it perceives to be who you are now, not how you will be.

As you mentally paint these qualities of your character onto the canvas of your P.P.S.P. day after day, they become you. You'll find yourself believing in your ability to do what you desire to do because you'll believe in who you are.

Ben Franklin said that if you wanted to possess a quality characteristic, then act as if you already possess said characteristic, and you will! It's as simple as that. Painting the mental part of the P.P.S.P. occurs the instant you begin, and consequently, so do the results.

You can speed up the process by also reading your cards to yourself last thing at night. This gives the subconscious a chance to dwell on these traits throughout the night. Then, in the morning your reading will bring to the fore the impression from the night before.

When you read the cards, do so out loud if you're alone. If you are not alone, or would be disturbing others by vocalizing, move your lips as you read silently. Again, this helps to reinforce the impression upon your subconscious mind.

You will use these Image Builders for a minimum of 30 days. At that point, it should be a habit and you should desire to continue until you have the list virtually

memorized. But a minimum of 30 days has been determined as the time needed to make a lasting impression on your psyche.

The daily repetition will wear a groove in your subconscious, much the same way that a rug wears where most constantly walked upon. Thus, when your subconscious scans your P.P.S.P. to determine your response to a situation or stimulus, it will recognize the

ingrained character traits and you will automatically act accordingly.

So, without further ado, here are the character traits* designed to be the paint to apply to the canvas to create your Positive Personal Self-Portrait:

Concentration. I can bring great concentration to bear upon any subject, at any time. Or,

I am easily able to concentrate on any task, and am completely free of outside distraction. Or, I always work on things that count. In my concentration, the rest of the world cannot

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disturb me.

Efficiency. I am always efficient in everything I undertake to do. Or, I have used each

minute before it has disappeared forever. I keep productive work available for odd moments. I always achieve the desired result, with a minimum of time and energy.

Courage. I face all my problems with great courage, and thus solve them much more

easily.

Self-assurance. I have completely relaxed self-assurance. I am sure of myself in all

situations, and with all people.

Self-respect. I respect my goals and myself and have complete self-assurance in all that I

think and do. I am the equal of the best of men, and truly capable of great accomplishments.

Perseverance. I am easily able to persevere and finish any task I undertake.

Success. I am very successful in all that I do. Because of this I enjoy an abundance of all

things, qualities, and conditions necessary to the happiness of myself and those around me. Success comes easily to me.

Honesty. I am honest with myself and therefore everyone else. Organization. I am well organized in every phase of my life.

Creativity. I treat all problems as opportunities to be creative and as a result my life is

vastly enriched. I use creativity in every endeavor and thus enjoy a position of growing leadership. Or, I start every job by thinking how to do it better than it has been done before. Thinking in terms of a better way, I always find a better way. Or, I have an unusual ability to reach creative solutions to my problems. Knowing that I have this ability, my creative powers actively support my belief and I have a constant flow of new and good ideas.

Energy. I possess an abundant supply of energy and draw upon it at will; I know that the

more energy I apply to any task, the more I have to apply to the next task. Or, I start with enthusiasm and my enthusiasm activates my energy. I work with inspiration and develop my sources of energy by continuous exercise. I find that my enthusiasm builds my

enthusiasm. Or, I possess boundless energy and use it freely. I realize I must give some form of energy in return for everything I receive, and gladly give it, knowing that the more energy I give, the more I have to give.

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Memory. I have an excellent memory, not only for the immediate tasks, but also for all

experiences that I have had. It grows better every day.

Speech. I am an excellent speaker, well prepared, logical, and completely at ease before

any group. Or, I am an excellent speaker because I have knowledge of my subject and an intense desire for other people to hear it.

Reading. I read quickly and easily with great comprehension of all subject matter.

Emotions. I contact, feel and easily show my emotions to myself and to all other people.

If I'm angry, I show it and thus release it. If I'm happy, I show this. If I'm sad, I find it easy to weep and thus dispel the sadness. The ability to show emotions at appropriate times is valuable, and the mark of a mature person.

Relaxation. I am easily able to relax as deeply as I wish at any time. I use this ability to

conserve my energy.

Decisiveness. I am quickly decisive in all matters, only making sure that I have complete

and accurate data before acting. Or, I make decisions quickly. I know that by deciding quickly, I make the best decisions. I always know what to do next. By deciding

everything quickly, I am tremendously productive. Or, my decisive qualities are always awake to challenge. The more difficult the problem, the more eagerly I respond to the task, and the more intelligence is stimulated.

Self-liking. I like myself very much indeed at all times. Since this thought proceeds my

actions, I am constantly pleased with my behavior.

Goals. My goals are high, and I reach them easily and quickly by affirming them

constantly. I am dynamic in my self-improvement because I am consistent in my efforts.

Maturity. I am a mature person and consequently seek ever greater growth within

myself. I know that the evidence of my maturity benefits everyone around me.

Foresight. I work with foresight. I have this foresight because my plans are built on

ideals that maintain my enthusiasm to get things done.

Composure. I have complete composure at all times. I accept challenge and arguments

calmly and in good spirit. I recognize that disagreement is an inevitable outgrowth when groups of people engage in the problem-solving process.

Interest in people. I meet people easily and enjoy each new association. My deep

sincerity puts people at ease and stimulates their confidence. Or, I am sincerely interested in people. I find each new personality has some unique quality that enriches my

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Loyalty. I am loyal to all that depend on me.

Planning. I always plan my work. I organize my efforts for today, tomorrow and the

future. I work with my goals in mind. I plan ahead to get ahead.

Accomplishment. I take pride in a job well done. Accomplishment is my greatest

reward. I always do more than I get paid for, so that I ultimately get paid for more than I do.

Work for quality. I work for quality. I have the patience to do simple things perfectly

and thereby strengthen my skill to do difficult things easily.

Self-starting. I always do things as they need to be done. I start vigorously and promptly

each day on each new task. My energetic starts make me an achiever.

Self-education. I know that leaders are readers. I systematically study books and

magazines that increase my earning power.

Motivation of others. I successfully train others to do my work. I give those who help

me generous credit for their accomplishments. The willing support of other people is essential to my success.

Self-discipline. I know that I can do what I have to do, and I have to do what I set out to

do.

Goal Direction. Every day my goals are nearer because I stay on the main highway. I

practice resolute self-denial and keep my attention on my goals until I achieve them.

Industry. I am habitually industrious and get things done. My attitude is always will do

as well as can do.

Calm and cheerful. I am calm and cheerful. I share my inner peace and happiness with

others.

Apply these readings diligently, and after thirty days you will be able to notice about yourself the changing and improving quality of your character and actions. Your confidence level will grow and it will be noticeable to others, especially women, on contact.

You will learn to depend upon your Self more and more. Lots of time men look to have someone they can depend on to go to for advice of stability, or for reinforcement of a decision they would like to make. But there is someone else that you will now have to turn to. Your Inner Self.

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Remember, you have inside "a Higher Wisdom at work for you" - if you allow yourself to listen to it and not cloud the passageway between your subconscious and this source of Infinite Intelligence with doubts, fears and indecision.

Jesus said, "The Kingdom of Heaven is within." The book of Proverbs states, "As a man thinks in his heart, so is he."

The idea of self-reliance has this as its basis - A man knowing that he can depend on himself for his own survival. The inner strength that is generated by belief in Self is felt by all that come in contact with you. And you won't need to tell others "you've changed". They'll know it. They'll sense it. They'll see it.

And because you know you know it, you won't feel a need to brag about it. Women don't like a man to brag about himself anyway. They like a man who quietly radiates self-assurance and self-confidence.

Here are some practical applications of a P.P.S.P. that includes the characteristic of self-reliance.

Practical application #1. Being faithful to yourself in little things allows you to believe you can be faithful to yourself in big things. You will be a methodical person you know you can count on to "do it" the same way each time. For example - do you have a habit of misplacing or losing things, of being absent-minded, careless, forgetful or

clumsy? All these ways of action have their root in not training yourself to be methodical in your personal habits, not training yourself to concentrate on what you are doing when you are doing it. This is caused by not believing you are a person who is capable of being methodical in habit and action or able to concentrate on the given task at hand.

Woman are not attracted to men who are awkward or clumsy, men who have to constantly apologize for themselves for being a "doofus", or men who constantly belittle themselves for being dumb or stupid. I don't care how many Nerd-gets-the-girl movies you saw - that's just fantasy entertainment. How many beautiful women have you seen in real life with a Nerd who has the above negative aspects of nerdism? See, don't get me wrong, all you Nerds reading this. You can be a Nerd in the sense of being brainy and smart and engagingly shy and still Get All The Girls You Want. As I said, this program takes your individual personality into account. But because you are a Nerd doesn't mean you automatically have to accept the downside of the stereotype. Women respect a man whose actions and habits say that he is sure and secure in himself, Nerd or not.

Determine to develop a personal routine to handle with a deft touch the little things in your life. In Book III, Chapter 3 I'll show you how to take this personal routine and turn it into Style.

Practical application #2. Handling pressure with grace is the hallmark of a winner. Usually, the most dramatic examples of this are at the end of a basketball or football or

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