Core Erotic Blueprint Evaluation

Core Erotic Blueprint Evaluation

When we discuss someone’s blueprint or wiring, we are referring to the part of the body’s physiology or neurology that determines or controls something. Likewise, a person’s Core Erotic Blueprint (CEB) refers to the fundamental way that one is erotically wired and reveals the best paths for their sexual arousal. This wiring is like a blueprint that can provide a person detailed information as to what types of sexual responses they may have, what needs they have, and what types of strengths and weaknesses they may have, as it relates to their sexuality.

A Core Erotic Blueprint is created from a combination of both our genetic make-up and how we were brought make-up. For example, people who were not provided with lots of touch and sensation while growing up may live in the shadow of a particular wiring and tend to have a hard time feeling what is happening in their bodies. Conversely, those who were provided with lots of touch and sensation while growing up are more likely to more deeply connected to their bodies and thus would be more conditioned towards the positive expression of the Sensual type CEB.

Fortunately, while we all have a core blueprint, due to neuroplasticity we are each able to create new wiring, thus expanding our expression of our own

sexuality and opening the doors to what will bring us, and our partners, pleasure! The CEB Evaluation allows a couple to look at their individual wiring, as well as their partner’s, and discover how they may work together to create enhanced sexual compatibility.

The following questions are provided in order for you to determine what your Core Erotic Blueprint may be. If you have a lover, have them answer this as well so that you may compare notes.

1. During foreplay, I prefer:

a. Emotional connection and the anticipation of what is about to happen

b. A hot bath, massage and slow kissing

c. Psychological power plays, restraint, and dark fantasy d. Who needs foreplay?

e. All of the above equally

2. I am most turned on when:

a. My partner’s arousal increases. The more aroused they get the stronger my arousal

b. I can get out of my head and relax more deeply into my body c. I am doing or fantasizing about something considered taboo d. My partner is naked and ready

3. I have sex in order to:

a. Experience something transcendent and connect emotionally b. Feel pleasure and connect more deeply to my body or my lover’s

body

c. Overcome shame, let go of responsibility, or play d. Have a release and feel more relaxed

e. All of the above are equally reasons why I have sex

4. During MOST erotic encounters, I would consider myself:

a. Extra Sensory b. Romantic c. Out of the Box d. Mostly Visual

e. I am equally all of the above

5. My favorite type of music to make love to:

a. Sacred, new age, chant, or classical

b. Has to be the right song....something soft and sensual c. Something grindy, edgy or dark and moody

d. Doesn’t matter

e. All of the above are equally good

6. Read the following scenarios and choose the one that is MOST arousing to you.

a. I can feel the energetic connection between my partner and I. I know from the eye contact that they are right there with me. I feel electricity between us as our bodies get closer and closer together. When touch comes, it feels as though a jolt goes through me. I close my eyes and sense my sexual energy expanding out as if I were making love to the divine.

b. A soft fur mitt runs over my skin. I delight in the sensation and a soft moan escapes from my lips. Massage oil is applied to my skin and I am being deliciously and sensually stroked, fingertips grazing over my genitals, teasing for a moment, and moving on. I writhe as my whole body awakens to the erotic.

c. “Don’t move,” my lover commands. He/She holds my wrists to the bed and I feel their power. A hand goes around my neck as

another goes to my nether regions. “I’m exploring my property,” my lover exclaims. I know I will be taken tonight and the play sends thrills through my whole body.

d. No foreplay needed. My partner is naked and ready for

penetration. The sex is intense as we thrust passionately together. The orgasm is even more intense and highly pleasurable. We lay together panting and satisfied.

7. When I fantasize, I:

a. Have thoughts of something bigger than myself, experiencing myself far outside of my physical body, making love to the divine. I see vivid colors as I focus on emotional connection.

b. Imagine romantic scenarios where I am able to luxuriate in sensual play such as slow dancing, eating an amazing meal, being deeply in love, having hot baths or long slow erotic massages before sinking into highly pleasurable lovemaking.

c. Think about overpowering someone or being overpowered by someone, fantasize about “out of the box” sexual practices such as impact play (spanking, slapping, paddling, etc.), restraint

(handcuffs, ropes, spreader bars, etc) or other kinky activities. d. Picture penetration or prefer to watch adult films

e. Use all of the above

8. During sex, I find myself thinking most about:

a. I sense more than I think. I sense emotions my partner may be feeling or things that are hard to explain.

b. My mind thinks about all kinds of things – what I didn’t finish at work, how my body looks, something distracting in the room, etc, etc… c. A specific fantasy. Maybe it’s being so irresistible my lover must take

me, maybe it’s about being spanked, or maybe it’s about being tied up!

d. If I’m thinking, it’s usually about my orgasm or my genitals or the hotness of my lover.

e. I think of all of this in equal amounts.

9. What turns you off the most?

a. Direct genital touch given too soon or lack of a sense of connection b. Being stuck in m head, tension or distraction

c. Lack of something naughty or overwhelming shame/guilt d. Too much complication

e. All of these turn me off equally

10. What do you dislike most about sex?

a. It’s too physical and base b. Sexual fluids/the mess

c. Feeling guilty or weird during or afterwards

d. When there isn’t an orgasm or the orgasm is too quick e. None of these. I like everything about sex.

11. What best describes you when things go wrong?

a. I easily get over sensitive and/or feel misunderstood by my partner b. I tend to feel worried, tense and distracted

c. I feel shame about my desires and shut down my pleasure d. I get focused on my performance and having or not having an

orgasm

12. What BEST describes orgasms you would like to have?

a. Bigger than myself, kryatic, transcendent, mind-altering, spiritual b. Full–body, extended, slow, deep, connected, simultaneous c. Powerful, taken or controlled by another, owned, out of control d. Just as long as I have one any orgasm is great

e. All of the above are equally pleasing

13. When it comes to touch, I prefer:

a. Hovering over my skin b. Long slow sensual strokes

c. Nibbles, scratches, and love taps d. Direct genital touch

e. All of the above are equal

14. During sex, I MOST enjoy:

a. Feeling a sense of oneness and connection to something greater than myself

b. Igniting all of my senses into whole body orgasmic bliss c. Surrendering (being ravished) or taking control (power) d. Penetrating or being penetrated

e. All of the above are equally enjoyable

15. Which sex to do you MOST prefer?

a. Visualizations and breath b. Fur, feathers or massager

c. Restraints and impact toys (hands, paddles, crops,etc) d. Vibrator, dildo, or genitals are good enough

e. All of these are equally pleasurable

16. Which sex technique do you think you would like to do the MOST?

a. Hand/Heart Eye Gaze: Sitting across from one another, hands on our hearts, breathing and gazing into each other’s eyes, feeling our connection and oneness. As we breathe we pulse our pelvic floor muscles to build more erotic energy and intensity between us. We use our intention to send lust/love to each other and orgasmic pleasure moves up our spines. The anticipation builds as we envision the transcendent lovemaking that is about to come…

b. Witnessing the Sensory: After a delicious warm bath together where we took turns bathing each other with great smelling soaps, one of us is blindfolded and naked on the bed. The room is warm and the glow of candles flickers in the clean space. Hands slowly and luxuriously run over skin, then feathers, then fur…then tastes begin with delicious chocolates and succulent fruits. Kisses spread from chests to nether regions as moans escape lips…

c. C: Playful Restraint: We look into each other’s eyes as the restraints are placed on wrists. They are tightly pulled, feeling safe and

secure. Ropes expertly bind the restraints to our bedposts. Now the ankles, legs spread, secured and helpless. Now this restrained body

is ready to be played with, spread eagle, exposed, and waiting to be taken…

d. Sex Positions: I know the position that brings me the most pleasure and that gets me to orgasm. Sometimes it is good to mix it up, so a pillow is placed under the pelvis. We focus on genital-to-genital contact, penetration never felt so good…

e. E: All are equally enticing.

17. When I took this quiz, I:

a. Felt anticipation – What else is possible?

b. Thought hard about the answers – I want to answer these correctly. c. Got excited about being freer – I’m not so weird.

d. Felt frustrated – Why does all this matter? Let’s just do it. e. All of the above.

What Is Your Blueprint?

Mostly A’s: You are Energetically Wired

People with an Energetic core are highly sensitive. They live in the realm of

emotion. The more pleasure their partner feels, the more aroused they become. Anticipation may often be more arousing than actual sexual touch.

Positive Aspects: Highly sensitive, turned-on by energy play, turned-on by their partner’s pleasure, easily orgasmic through variety of routes.

Shadow Aspects: Short circuit with direct genital touch, effected easily by negative emotions or thoughts, more interested in being out of their body, may judge sexuality as not spiritual

Fed By: Energy play, anticipation, partner’s arousal, transformational sex, meditation, yoga, expanding outside of their body.

Mostly B’s: You are Sensually Wired

People with a Sensual core often complain that they have a hard time getting out of their heads. They need to relax in order to have sex. They are highly sensual creatures affected by smell, sight, sound, touch and taste. They tend to be interested in slowing down and being romantic.

Positive Aspects: Highly sensual, could swim in sensation for hours, brings color to sexual experiences, loves to give and receive sensual play.

Shadow Aspects: Stuck in their head, can’t get present, judge themselves harshly, body image issues, tend to want perfection, hard to let go.

Fed By: Sensation play, toggle activities that help them relax (massage, bath, exercise, cleaning), reminders of pleasure throughout their day.

Mostly C’s: You are Kinky Wired

Those who are Kinky wired are most turned on by “out-of-the-box” sexual encounters. They may have had shame about their kinky desires and not allowed themselves to indulge in sexual activities that seem weird or different than the norm.

Positive Aspects: Can be turned on by psychological play only, usually have a rich fantasy life, they enjoy variety and creativity in sexual play, ultimately they are about experiencing sexual freedom and extraordinary sexual experiences.

Shadow Aspects: May have been shut down by shame or guilt that overrides their desires, may confuse fantasy with what they really want to experience, and they usually judge themselves or have been judged by others. Kinky types may get stuck in a particular fantasy that becomes their only route to orgasm.

Fed By: Any sexual play that is outside of their personal “norm” or that fits into their specific fantasy.

Mostly D’s: You are Sexually Wired

The Sexually wired people are most accepted in our culture. Men, especially, are expected to be Sexual. The Sexual types are easy to turn on and they are sexual stereotype. The opposite of a Sensual type, Sexual types have sex in order to relax.

Positive Aspects: Easily turned on by visual or touch stimulus, can go from zero to orgasm fairly quickly, techniques work well with them and they are very fun to play with in bed.

Shadow Aspects: Can be focused on the end goal – orgasm, they are usually outcome-driven and miss the journey to orgasm, are most likely to experience performance anxiety and are sometimes oblivious and self-focused during sex.

Fed By: Visual Stimulation, adult films, sex techniques, genital focus, experiencing an orgasm, sexual variety, nudity, erection or wetness.

Mostly E’s: You are a Shape-Shifter

Shape-Shifters can play in all the realms with ease and joy. Some Shape-Shifters are naturally this way and others learn how to wire themselves to be able to play with anyone!

Note: You can also be a combination of two or more of these. For example, if you have equal amounts of A and B, you are an Energetic/Sensual. Or equal B and C you are a Sensual/Kinky. We usually have a primary and secondary core wiring.

Positive and Shadow

Each type also has a positive and a shadow. Make a note to see if you are living more in the positive or in the shadow of each type.

Here’s a little guide:

Question #1: If you answered D, give yourself 1 point for Sexual shadow. Question #7: If you answered B, give yourself 1 point for Sensual shadow. Question #8-10: Give yourself 1 point for any letter A – D.

Now take a look at where you mostly answered in the shadow. While your Blueprint may be for one type of wiring, you can at the same time be living in the shadow of another type. This is only if you answered differently for your shadow than you did for your core wiring.

Cuffed, Tied and Satisfied, by JAIYA

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