Attract and Seduce Book

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Attract And Seduce

A 4-Step System For Attracting

Beautiful, High-Caliber Women and

Becoming The Most Interesting Guy In The Room

By Byron Seingalt

Foreword by David DeAngelo

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Let's Get Started!

If you like what you learn in this book, how about watching, listening and interacting!

There are how-to training videos and cheat sheets that help you memorize, step-by-step exercises that go along with

each chapter and a community of fellow students.

Visit:

http://stylelife.com/AttractAndSeduce/train

or text your email address to (310) 589-3568

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If your father talked to you about women, it was probably to rehash stories from his glory days, that all began

with, “When I was your age…”

If your pals talked about dating, it was probably locker room bluster, full of exaggeration and tall tales about

their self-described prowess with women.

If your female friends consoled you about your social life, it was probably empty platitudes about being yourself and how every woman wants

a nice guy while you watched them run off with the bad boy.

If men’s magazines, television shows, and advice columns provided tips, it was probably ridiculous oversimplifications about how you just

had to be confident.

This book is dedicated to all those people who love you and care about you. But who nonetheless led you astray for years.

Because everything they told you about dating is wrong.

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All rights reserved. This book contains material protected under International and Federal Copyright Laws and Treaties. Any unauthorized reprint or use of this material is prohibited. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system without express written permission from the author / publisher.

DISCLAIMER: The information in this book is for informational and entertainment purposes only. Neither Stylelife, nor the authors, nor the publishers of this book takes any responsibility for the use or misuse of the information it presents. You assume full responsibility for the consequences of your own actions. It is only to be used in a conscientious, ethical, mutually beneficial way, and only with the fully educated and informed consent of all parties involved.

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Endorsements

"Teaching you authentic ways to attract a woman, this step by step guide will change the game and help you to master skills every woman wants you to have, even if she doesn’t know it yet. We want to be seduced!" - Jaiya, world-renowned sexologist, author of Red Hot Touch, founder of New World Sex Education and creator of Super Hero Sex Mastery (Missjaiya.com).

"Thank you for teaching men not how to trick chicks, but how to become real men – how to communicate effectively, and how to share their true value with someone. I’m not using “techniques” anymore; I am sharing the wonderful man I have become, while not making many common mistakes." - Entice, OACS Member

"As a woman who coaches men on how to attract women, I'm very selective with what I endorse. I was expecting to hate this book BUT I didn't. It's an exceptionally well-written book on the topics of attraction and seduction." Marni, founder of the WingGirlMethod.com.

"I feel like I have life back into me, when it comes to approaching women; I talked to more girls in one night than I had in over a year." - Adam

"This is only the beginning of my journey to grow into my best self with confidence, courage, and influence. I have nothing to be nervous about and with these tools and skills, I can accomplish so much more in anything I do." - Kieran

"You taught the material with the perfect dose of theory & examples. I had a very clear idea of what I had to do in the field. This has

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not only contributed to my romantic skills, but is now bringing closure to an essential part of my life & my identity." - Jerry

"This is a big step in the process of where I want to get in life, and I know that this has made me a better person." - Jed

"I'll keep it pretty simple: I've never had or done anything that has changed my world significantly like this has." - Paul

"My sex with women has never been better, my self-confidence is great, and women want me." - Houston

"Thank you for opening a whole new reality to me – a reality that I had denied since childhood, but had thus far only been able to chase with nothing more than a vague, hope and what determination I could muster. I can't wait to continue to explore this beautiful reality and the art of seduction which is the key to its door." - Jason

"I feel like I can start to see clearly now. I've been in a mist my whole life, thinking everyone else's advice was to blame for my instability to make it anywhere, but you have shown me that the mist was of my creation and I was the one keeping it going. You have also shown me I can clear the mist and forge my own path. Everyone's journey begins with one’s self, and because of you, I've been able to look at myself and see who I'm meant to be. My journey begins now; I can't wait to see where I end up." - William

"Getting to know a sensible, fun, ethical, 'keep them comfortable' way to seduction is something all guys ought to learn - you do it better than anyone." - Rick

"I want to thank you for giving me a change, for the better, in my life. You're like a wizard from another world. Now that I have this

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knowledge, I can use it to be successful with women and get a better life." - The European

"Thanks for making a huge impact on my life – you've helped me become not only a better person, but a better lover!" - Aaron

"I just wanted to thank you so much for sharing your time and wisdom with us. I am 100% committed to not just changing myself, but becoming a phenomenal seducer, and doing everything I can to embody the principles of the art and passing them on in a way that will add value to the world." - Dave M.

"Your insights have shifted my perspective on what is possible. This is truly a system for improving your life and maximizing the influence that you can have. I'm more excited about my future than ever before." - Ryan

"You have taught me what is possible – things I had never realized. Words can't express the gratitude and warm feeling that I have for you!" - David R.

"The journey you've taken me on was awesome! I feel as though the ceiling on my potential has been blown open and my limits, which I had put on myself, have been destroyed!" - Jason A.

"I liked the lessons where we practiced openers. It allowed me to watch the women I was talking to and notice their reactions for the very first time. I also really liked the identity storytelling. It really made everything come together for me!" - Mark

"What I got out of it was that in the end the greatest success comes from being present, open, active listening, and interacting with the present

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moment and being genuinely interested in the words you are sharing and the people you are meeting." - Shahin

"A simple, comfortable question does make a lot of difference when approaching a group. It's far better than my usual, drunken, 'Hey ladies.' Thanks for all the great tips." - Ricardo

"You deconstructed every step to its very core and added all the missing pieces and put them all back together. It has helped me realize what I've been doing wrong, doing right, and given me the self-belief to get tight with my game and become my greatest self." - Dan

"I've never had my perspectives broadened, changed, and improved this much before. My mind was blown with every word." - Jeff

"You teach a neglected skill set with patience, thought, and practicality. I’d never approached a girl in a bar. Now, I can!" - Edward

"My moment was when I set aside everything I came in with, and used your lines. It became too easy to go in and keep talking." - Josh

"I feel so much more confident in myself and that I don't need to be afraid of trying to approach. I feel it is in my body, even my walking feels a lot more confident." - Marshall

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Acknowledgements

I wish to personally thank the following members of the original Attract and Seduce / OACS project for their contributions, suggestions, corrections, ideas and other help in creating this book:

Dennis Y., Luis M. C., Steve G., Kenny, Joshua, Richardo, David B., Sandor, Brian, Pedro, Richard K, Xabi, Henri, Anthony, Wes, James, NJ, Tom, Yousef, Josh, Adam, Shane, Tony, Jamal, Will, Greg, Hasan, Luca, Robert, Andrew, John, Brandon, Frankie, Mike, Chris, Linus, Tim, Jason, Carlos, Travis, Victor, Alex, Nova, Samuel S. R., Hdr, Medieval, Brian C., Luther Chance, Joe, Vladimiros D., Scott O. Jr.

Also, a shout out to the following individuals who used our Attract & Seduce / OACS conference calls, forums and reddit community to give me feedback, improvements and ideas and without their contributions and support this book would not have be what it is today:

HypnoK., VG., Bscha., Doublekb., Rosen., Natur., Sparky., KKav., Eaude., Coolb., Vitv., Miguel, Sanhoj., Kenny., Rkrish., JackS,. Kotg., Mufasa., Tony, Travis, Design, Muhammad, Pheomatar, Jamel., Cadillac, Linus, Alex, Primate, Keith, Jimmy, Cliff, Rick_H., Andrew, Arturo, Imbue.

And everyone else I may have forgotten to give thanks and praise to. I love supporting and helping you. You are my big why and it’s a deep and profound pleasure to watch your personal transformation. If your name is missing or misspelled, please send me an email ([email protected]) and I'll make sure to include it right away.

Finally, I'd like to thank Neil Strauss and the entire Stylelife Academy team!

Byron Seingalt a.k.a. Evolve

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Foreword by David DeAngelo

David DeAngelo, founder of the "Double Your Dating" company, acknowledged dating advisor and serial entrepreneur.

www.DoubleYourDating.com/AttractAndSeduce

If you know anything about me, David D., you probably know this much... I’ve spent a lot of time thinking, learning, and teaching what it takes to become insanely successful with women, dating, and relationships.

When I look back at that trip… a journey that involved going from lonely and dateless, to meeting and dating tons of mind-blowing women, to the life-changing relationship of my dreams with an amazing Total-10 woman… know what I came to value most?

It was the priceless opportunities that presented themselves along the way to:

1. Learn what I didn’t know from smart, tuned-in people who genuinely shared my same goals and dreams.

2. Teach other men what I learned so that they didn’t waste precious time out of their lives suffering through the same frustrations, setbacks, and failures that I did for so long.

This in mind… today I couldn’t be more excited about this opportunity to introduce Byron’s groundbreaking “Attract And Seduce” book… it truly fits the bill perfectly when it comes to “all of the above.”

From the moment that I began reading, I immediately recognized Byron as a kindred spirit and an exceptionally gifted teacher with invaluable ideas - that’s how I know for a fact that this book will help light the path and speed the journey toward your success with women as well.

From Byron’s bedrock-solid observations about how a man’s inner beliefs, attitudes and mindsets make or break him with women… to a different game plan for grabbing any woman’s attention… to laser-focused, step-by-step techniques for communicating with women in all the right ways to literally attract and seduce them… it’s all here.

Which brings me to a personal note that you can file under “near-and-dear to my heart”:

I’d like to make special a shout-out to the concepts and instructions Byron weaves throughout these pages on becoming the kind of confident, fascinating, genuine man that high-quality women instantly respond to.

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As I learned how to become successful with women and in life from the “Masters” (also known as the guys who get natural, effortless results) it didn’t take long for me to discover that creating this confident mindset is what it’s really all about... the absolute Holy Grail when it came to turning the ship and beginning to succeed with women.

In fact, I pretty much categorize my life into two eras - B.C. (before confidence) and A.C. (you guessed it.)

In “Attract And Seduce,” Byron approaches this critical “core” subject in innovative, interactive ways that aren’t just about getting results… they’re about changing your entire life through the tools you need to feel confident and attractive around women at last.

To me, that’s the whole ball-game... and a very big deal... because, harsh reality is, failing to learn these skills is often the biggest tragedy we’ll endure in life as men.

If we continue to lack the ability to feel confident within ourselves and then communicate that confidence to women… if we don’t learn how to spark interest and attraction… if we have no clue how to make women want to be with us… it seeps into and sabotages almost everything else in our lives as well.

It casts a long shadow over everything we do. It makes us trudge through life feeling like there’s a weight on our shoulders, or like something’s missing, or that there’s something we’re “hiding.”

Our failure with women basically interferes with all of our hopes and dreams and everything we want for the future.

Not good.

That’s why, today, I couldn’t be more glad that you’ve added “Attract And Seduce” to your personal set of tools for getting this part of your life handled.

Byron hits it out of the park in these pages, and I know for a fact that you’ll get a lot out of this.

So what are you waiting for? Start reading…

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Lesson #1: Read Me First - The Call to Action

I wanted to make a different book – an interactive book in which I give you how-to videos, audios and downloadable cheat sheets for each chapter that will quickly make hundreds of light bulbs go on in your head and expedite your romantic potential.

By engaging all your senses and showing you how it’s done, you'll be able to learn how to attract and seduce beautiful, high-caliber women faster than with any other book. We’ll give to the tools to learn while you’re on your smartphone, iPad, Kindle, in your car, when you work out - anytime, anywhere on any device.

In my opinion, if you practice the material in this book you should be able to accomplish these five goals:

1. Become a more confident person and present yourself in a way that women find intriguing and interesting.

2. Approach and meet new women in social settings, through dating apps and online. And you’ll do it efficiently and effectively.

3. Attract women using your authentic personality and identity.

4. Understand "the chemistry of love;" what sparks attraction, and what causes people to stay together and begin healthy relationships. 5. Avoid “the friend-zone” by understanding the root of romantic

relationships; the principles that allow a woman to see you as a potential lover, boyfriend or husband.

To get started and see how this works, grab your mobile phone and text your email address right now to (310) 589-3568 or visit

http://www.stylelife.com/AttractAndSeduce/train (clickable link) or scan the QR Code on the next page.

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Not only will you get to instantly watch the how-to training videos, I'll also reward you with a digital copy of this book that you can read anytime, anywhere and on any device.

Why is this important? Why should you care?

Because with this interactive book, you're not only going to learn how to attract and seduce beautiful women, you'll also learn how to become the most interesting and confident guy in the room.

If this doesn't sound compelling, I’ll give you even more reasons to try this out in every chapter with special bonus training videos, audios and cheat sheets that I think will get your attention, engage and entertain you.

Let’s begin!

Byron Seingalt a.k.a. Evolve Los Angeles, California Stylelife Academy

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Chapter 2:

Attract & Seduce:

The Most Powerful Method of

Seduction in the World

"The secret of getting ahead is getting started." - Mark Twain

Welcome to the beginning of the life that’s waiting for you.

I have something I want to share with you. It's a powerful way to improve your relationships, attract more lovers, and improve your overall communication with everyone you meet. Once you learn it, you'll have the skills to attract high-caliber women and gain power, love, and friendship with anyone.

I'll introduce you to guys who've mastered the art of attraction and seduction, so you can hear and learn from their stories. I can prove to you that it works whether you're meeting women online, on dating apps, in a bar or in a coffee shop, from London to Los Angeles to Hong Kong. It will work everywhere in the world, with any type of woman you could possibly meet.

The system is ancient; it's been around since the dawn of civilization. For better or worse, it's changed the course of history.

It works for men and women, gay or straight. It works in politics, business, and romance.

It has changed the world, and it can change your life.

So, what is it? What is this powerful system that can bring you love, power, and respect?

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It's the carefully guarded and practically timeless art of attraction and seduction.

More specifically, it's a system for understanding and mastering how attraction and seduction works.

You may be thinking that the power to attract and seduce is something some lucky guys are born with. I thought that too. Luckily, we were both wrong.

Attraction and seduction is a skill that can absolutely be learned, and it can absolutely be taught. I know because I've done both. I've had some great teachers who taught it to me, and I, in turn, have taught it to countless students.

It's a system used by freshman college students, A-list celebrities, and everyone in-between. I've taught them all, and seen them use it – in person. And if you pay attention and keep reading, I promise you that what you will learn can change your life for the better.

So let’s talk about you.

If you're reading this, you've probably had at least one lover, girlfriend, or wife in the past. Or maybe you're a virgin, and you crave the experiences everyone else seems to have. In any case, you probably want more out of your romantic life – whether it’s to have some wild nights, to find someone special, or simply to master the ability to walk up to and have a great interaction with anyone you want.

Good news! You're about to learn a new model for attraction and seduction. Something no one has taught you before. In short, it's a four-step system that focuses on a very linear process of transforming from stranger to soul mate.

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In this chapter, you're going to learn what those four steps are. As we proceed, I'll go more in depth on how to recognize where you are in the system and what to do.

Now, this is more than just a book. It’s an interactive experience.

I want to make sure that you understand all the tips, tricks and concepts perfectly. Which is why I have prepared videos that show you how you do it, as well as cheat sheets that summarize important information and the most up-to-date material.

All this complimentary training material comes along with this book. You'll find the instructions to access it at the end of each chapter. I've made sure that you have access to all the tools you'll need to learn the model I'm presenting. The links will connect you with video, audio, and texts that are bursting with tips and strategies for learning seduction.

This may all sound like too much. But it’s just enough. I love teaching attraction and seduction. I love seeing my students’ faces when a light bulb goes on in their heads because they just saw something they’d been doing wrong their whole lives and are now going to fix it forever. Or they suddenly understand why this is an art, and that they can finally master it.

I love getting calls and emails from guys telling me that they've had some crazy adventure with someone they previously felt was out of their league. I love hearing about how this helped to strengthen a relationship, or fixed a problem at work. I love it when a student falls in love and the love is reciprocated. I just plain love this art form. It means the world to me, and that's why I'm so excited to share it with you.

So, this book is not just another book about dating, flirting and meeting women.

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It answers the questions that men have had about what women want since the dawn of civilization. It contains simple and proven techniques that allow you to hack into a woman's mind and attract her with a power that you've always had, but never realized.

Whether you are looking for a girlfriend, or want to get out of the "friend zone"; whether you want to get your ex back, or discover the secrets behind one-night-stands, this "dating book for smart guys with a dry spell" is a guide to mastering the art of attraction and seduction.

From the first moment you meet a woman's eyes, to starting a conversation with her, to getting to know each other, to exciting nights in the bedroom, to exotic adventures with the woman you love, I'll teach you all things romantic, and it all works. Remember, when it comes to attraction and seduction, it’s the small steps and simple changes that produce huge results.

You will learn how to gain unstoppable confidence with the "Heroic Mind Shaping Exercise" that helps overcome any anxiety with women and also helps in other parts of your life. I'll also teach you how to easily spot and reverse your anti-seductive and unattractive qualities and turn them into "attraction magnets".

With this 4-step system, you'll learn how to approach and talk to women in an authentic way while building attraction through your seductive identity – and without changing who you are as a person. I'll show you how to use dating apps and websites to contact and attract women without being ignored or rejected. You'll also learn how to become the most interesting guy in the room and never run out of things to say when you’re in conversation with even the highest caliber women.

Later, we'll dive deep into my bulletproof technique to get a date with a woman without worrying about her flaking. You'll learn

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everything from the "First Kiss Technique” to sweep a woman off her feet, to making her swoon and wanting to take it to the next intimate level. Then you'll learn how to navigate the “Love Roadmap” from kissing to complete arousal.

Now, let me tell a bit about how I know all this, my own journey and why you should learn from me.

I'm a natural introvert. In high school, when you think of a guy who's good with people you wouldn't have thought of me. I was a goth kid. I had rows to spikes up both arms, red contact lenses, and a wardrobe that was all black. My social circle consisted of five guys who all played Dungeons & Dragons together. One of us had a girlfriend, so we thought of him as "the player".

To make things worse, I was super skinny, and had asthma so bad that some nights I had to use a machine to pump medicine into my lungs. Obviously, I was in no shape to be hitting on women or making powerful connections.

My first year of college I met a guy who showed me what it meant to be a seducer, and over the next few years, my life changed – I got a girlfriend, I had exciting romantic adventures, I had a social circle that started growing and growing. I spent a lot of time writing about my changes.

Eventually, the writing ended up in the hands of New York Times best-selling author Neil Strauss. He called me up and hired me to teach men (and women) to master the game at the one and only Stylelife Academy. I've been working there now for ten years. I've traveled the world teaching countless students the art of attraction and seduction – an art that I love.

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One of my favorite success stories is from a 45-year-old lawyer who'd had a crush on a woman for months. He studied the system in this book and within a few weeks, they were in a relationship. Another comes from a 22-year-old college student who'd nearly finished college without a single sexual partner: within a year his life had changed – he'd had several casual sexual partners, and even a threesome. One student used the "Identity Storytelling" exercise to make his company several million dollars, by telling just one story.

Think about it: Are you capable of becoming the kind of person strangers would love to get to know? Are you capable of achieving the romantic success you've always wished for? Are you capable of harnessing the power to sway the minds of people you meet? Of course you are.

All you need to know are the four steps that streamline the seductive process. But, before we get to the four steps, I want to give you fair warning...

After years of teaching, I've found that there are three devastating reasons guys who study this system fail.

The first mistake is something we call "The Give-up Guy". He's the one who quits before he even begins; the one who decides there's no way it will work. Here's the deal: give this system and the material a chance. I promise you'll see results. If it doesn't work – fine. Email me at

[email protected] and I'll give you the full price back for this book. Just make sure to try it first.

The second mistake is the "Looks, Power, and Fame Assumption". The idea that you must have looks, money, and/or some sort of fame or power to be attractive and intriguing to people. It's not true. It helps (I'll get into how to use these traits if you have them later), but they're not necessary.

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When I started learning this, I didn't own a car, I didn't have a job, and I had no social circle or network to speak of. It's all about following the system – a tested, proven, and simple system. It's all about learning what to do, and – more importantly – when to do it. The best part about this whole system is: once you begin to see results, it gets easier and easier.

The third mistake is "The Self-Defeater". You have to get out of your own way. If you don't, you'll be stuck where you are forever. You have to push yourself. Find motivation to move forward, take risks, and make changes. Self-sabotaging behaviors are commonplace and disastrous.

Your mind wants you to follow the path of least resistance, because it takes a lot of energy to do something new, and your mind wants to use as little energy as possible. Self-motivated people are capable of making it over that mental hump. They've trained themselves to do it.

Here's a technique to prevent you from becoming The Self-Defeater. Every time you tell yourself, "I don't feel like trying this," get a piece of paper and write down the reasons why. Then write a list of the things that won't change if you don't try. Finally, write down a day and time you're going to give whatever you're going to try a shot. Set an alarm on your phone for that day. When the alarm goes off, go try out the techniques we teach you here.

If you can just avoid these three pitfalls, you're going to do great! ________________________

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Chapter 3:

The Attract and Seduce 4-Step System

"You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play

better than anyone else. " - Albert Einstein

So, here it is: The Four Step System of Attraction and Seduction. It doesn’t matter what kind of relationship you’re looking for – this system will work. I’ve had students who’ve participated in wild sexual adventures, others who’ve made millions, and a few who’ve found the woman of their dreams and settled down. All using the same set of principles. It’s a system that will take you from starting a conversation to closing the deal.

The principles that govern this system are universal, which means you can apply them to all kinds of seductions. Whether you’re meeting a woman in a bar or on an online date, the system will work. You just need to get a grip on the principles – they are universal, and won’t change. It’s the techniques that will differ from situation to situation. Anyone learning this art should experiment with different types of venues and platforms for dating. The more experimentation you do and the more feedback you get, the better you’ll get. That said, let’s get started.

Prepare Yourself

Seduction is a journey of self-discovery. To share yourself, you have to know yourself. Most people underestimate their potential; they decide not to take risks, or put time into something that could really change their

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lives, because they fear the insecurities they’ll have to face on the journey. Some guys are scared of success: what if this all works out and they end up with someone who’s out of their league?

To prepare yourself, sit down and reflect on what you’re true motivations are for reading this book, what you are looking for, and what exactly you hope to get out of it. The best place to start is by looking at what you’re missing. Simply think about or write the answers to the following questions down.

 Why are you learning the art of attraction and seduction?

 Are you looking for love? Sex? Companionship?

 How do you think learning this will help you achieve that goal?

 When you achieve this particular goal, how will things be different?

 How will people look at you?

 How will you view yourself?

 Are you prepared to put in the time to practice this art?

 Are you prepared to make approaches and face rejection?

 How will you deal with rejection when it comes?

 What will you do to pull yourself back up when the going gets tough?

 What kind of women are you trying to attract into your life?

 What kind of relationships are you looking for?

Start here, and answer any other questions that may come up while you’re sifting through your own mind. Once you have some answers you can move on and start learning the system.

Do not skip this exercise, because it is crucial that you understand who you are and what you want before you start. Keep that kind of focus as you continue to move forward learning the art of seduction.

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If you want to learn to talk to people, then you’ll have to develop the best, most seductive identity you can. We’re going to go over that in detail later, in the chapter on generating value with your life story.

Step #1: Open

This is the beginning. The place where you spark a conversation with a woman or a group. Keep in mind that most women don't wander around by themselves to be approached by you. So, the majority of your approaches will be groups. This is also the step where most guys quit.

I’m going to teach you the principle behind what to do when you approach, and then provide a few techniques that you can use to start conversations. My goal for you is pretty simple:

 Learn to start a comfortable conversation with total strangers.

 Learn what makes people uncomfortable when they’re approached.

 Learn how to alleviate the fear of the approach. (Something we call "Approach Anxiety".)

If you feel like it’s too much, don’t worry – we’re going to break it down, and there’s plenty of supporting videos you can watch by following the instruction at the end of this chapter.

After practicing this material, you’ll have the confidence and the skills to start conversations with almost anyone – most importantly, the kind of women you've always wanted to talk to. I’ve had students who’ve never cold approached anyone before. After a few weeks of practicing the techniques I suggest in this chapter they were able to go to a bar, point out someone they wanted to talk to and, at least, make a conversation happen, if not more.

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When you’re in conversation, your goal is to build social value. Social value is relative, and is based on how interesting you are to the person or people you’re talking to. What we’re going to work on in this step is how you convey high social value in an authentic way. The goal is to make yourself interesting to the specific group of people you are speaking with. Here’s the goal for the Attract section:

 Learn to use your knowledge and showcase-able skills to build value.

 Learn to tell stories that focus on preferences and experiences to convey your identity.

 Learn how to use active disinterest to create emotional spikes in your seductions.

There are many ways to be interesting and authentic. Just about anything you do or say can be a tool for building value; it’s all about understanding how value is built and conveyed.

This is really the meat of the system: building social value. This is one of the sections you’re going to spend the most time refining. There are quite a few pieces to it, but once you’ve practiced it, your social life will shoot into the stratosphere. Once you learn how to build value, you’ll get more dates, have more sex, meet who you want, and more.

Step #3: Connect

To romantically connect with a woman, you must tell her that you’re interested. At its core, this chapter is about timing. In attraction and seduction there is a specific time when you must tell her that you are interested. Most guys have terrible timing, and little understanding of how to compliment someone effectively. In this chapter you’ll learn:

 How to give a great compliment.

 How to get the most impact out of a compliment.

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 When not to compliment someone.

Here is the problem with indicating your interest too early: Wanting to tell a woman that you’re interested in her feels very straightforward and honest. How many guys try to pick up women by simply telling them they have beautiful eyes? Too many.

Why do they do it? Because, it feels good to compliment her. Unfortunately, if a person receives the same compliment too much, it fades into the background, becoming a pattern that’s no longer paid attention to. Most attractive women have heard the same compliments thousands of times. So if you are the next guy that tells her that she has beautiful eyes, guess what she thinks? Yeah, another one of those... next.

By understanding the proper timing of a compliment within seduction, you’ll learn how to break that pattern, and give compliments that are truly felt and authentic.

The timing is key here. Pay attention to that. When you compliment someone it’s always a good thing, but if you learn to compliment someone with proper timing you can really make an impression, and change the dynamics of an interaction.

Step #4: Seduce

This is the chapter where you'll learn about going for the kiss or further. Where you learn how to set up the meeting or date. Where you learn how to move a person or group of people from one location to another. There’s one technique I’m going to teach you that will help you accomplish all of these goals and it’s called "seeding". In this chapter you’ll learn:

 How to properly seed a date or meeting.

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 How to set up an intimate moment, and what to do if you misjudge the moment.

And that’s it – those four steps will take you from approaching to a second meet up. Following all this material is everything you’re going to need to know once you’ve learned these four basic steps. The goal is to make you the total package – a person that other people envy, and want to get to know.

At the end of the book you’ll find interviews with guys who I’ve taught personally, and you can read about their experiences:

How they got to where they are. You’ll hear from one guy who maintains a healthy relationship with the girl he loves, while bringing new women into his sex life in a healthy and honest way.

How they practiced this material. You’ll hear from a former student, who’s now a coach. He went out every day, practiced, improved, and even did stand-up comedy in an effort to learn this skill.

The hurdles they had to jump to achieve success. Learn how one student went from having crippling approach anxiety to becoming a man who can approach anyone.

What kind of success they’ve all had, and how you can achieve your goals. Each student I’ve interviewed experienced more sex, a better professional life, and a steady girlfriend. Different goals – each one achieved.

It’s time to become the social superhero you’ve always wanted to be. It’s time for you to have choice when it comes to friends and lovers. It’s time to meet the people you’ve always wanted to meet. To have someone you’d only met moments ago say, “You’re the most interesting person I’ve ever met.”

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Welcome to having choice. Welcome to your new and improved social life.

Welcome to Attract and Seduce!

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Chapter 4:

Seductive Psychology, Mindset, and Inner Game

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose

face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid

souls who neither know victory nor defeat." - Theodore Roosevelt

Seduction isn’t about you. It’s about the person you’re seducing. Great seducers can put themselves in the shoes of the people they want to seduce. They can look at themselves from other people’s perspectives, and make strategic judgments about what to do next in a social situation. That's how Cleopatra was able to seduce Julius Caesar and Mark Antony. One of the most important skills you’re going to want to get familiar with is to understand what other people think of you.

The Persona Exercise

This is all about seeing the way other people view you. To do this you’re going to want to take notes and collect data. You can do this with anyone you already know. Ask them this one simple question: "If you had to describe me to someone who had never met me what would you say about me?" Then ask, "What have I done or said that makes you describe me this way?"

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Ask as many people as you can these two questions, and try to find out where the commonalities are. If everyone says you’re a nice guy, then you’re probably a nice guy. If everyone says you’re selfish, then you’re selfish. That's pretty simple, but necessary for the next step.

Now that you have this information what can you do with it? Well, the first thing you can do is ask yourself: Is this how I want to come off when I get to know people?

If you’re satisfied with the answer, great! If you’re not, then you have to look deeper, and decide if you want to change these qualities, and how you’re going to change these qualities. Later on when we get into being interesting and generating value with your life story we can start to mold your identity into a more seductive version of itself.

Each of us are going to have different traits that we want to change; it’s important early on to know what people think of you, so you can work on developing a more seductive identity over time that is authentic and powerful.

Introduction to Story and Routine Stacks

I grew up a huge fan of Kung-Fu movies. When I was a kid I used to watch the characters do their forms and katas on screen and practice in my living room. I thought martial arts were the clear path to superpowers. I had no idea what the purpose of those katas or forms were. I just thought they were awesome looking – I still do. Years later, when I started studying martial arts, in a school rather than my living room, I found out what their purpose was.

In most traditional martial arts schools, katas or forms are collections of choreographed techniques or movements. Each form or kata expresses a number of principles through the techniques inherent in the form. They may include footwork, specific punches or kicks, break-falls, a few even

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include meditative pieces. Generally, the forms aren’t meant for combat. They’re meant to be practiced repeatedly, until you understand the principles on an internal level. They’re one piece of the martial arts puzzle, but by no means everything.

Routine stacks are seduction’s version of katas or forms, with a few slight differences.

A routine stack is a collection of material that’s meant to help you understand the principles of seduction. They consist of one or more techniques for each phase of the seduction. If you’re using a routine stack to practice, then it’s important that:

 You practice saying the material out loud, over and over again before you use it. You want to make sure you know what you’re saying. This way, if the people you’re going to be talking to become confused, you can reiterate what you’re saying more clearly.

 You should memorize the material in order. There is a structure to seduction. Know where your routines fit into the stack and memorize that order.

 You recognize that routine stacks are not your entire seduction, they’re collections of techniques to practice. They can be used to fall back on, but routine stacks can’t be counted on to solve every problem.

 They’re great tools for learning seduction, because they can give you something to fall back on. If you don’t know where you are in the seduction, or you can’t think of something to say a routine stack can be a lifesaver, assuming you memorized the material.

When you know where you’re seductions going, it makes the chaos of your initial interactions more clear, which can come off as confidence,

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as long as you’re not pushy about the material. Now, let me show you the structure of a routine stack. In order to build one, the first thing you must know is the phases of interaction. For us, the phases are: Open, Attract, Connect, Seduce. You should make sure you have routines for all of the following:

 At least one opener, no more than two.

 Demonstrations of Higher Value, Games, Bar bets, etc.

 Identity Stories

 A technique for showing Active Disinterest.

 A technique for showing Active Interest.

 Seed for a date

 Seed for a bounce

You will learn how to build your very own stack later in this book. Once you have chosen your stories and routines, they should all be well memorized and practiced for delivery, body language, tonality, and volume dynamics.

And remember one of Murphy’s Laws of combat: no plan survives

first contact with the enemy. Meaning, it’s a routine stack is a stratagem,

but it’s not the whole seduction. In the field things will change. Be prepared maneuver when curveballs are thrown at you.

Conquering Approach Anxiety

Approach anxiety is the negative voice in your head telling you not to approach – it keeps you from walking towards a woman. The result is excuse after excuse for not trying.

Why is Approaching Women so Hard?

Let’s start off with the first part: Why do you have such a hard time approaching women? As with most topics related to seduction, there are

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as many different answers as there are men in the Game. However, some of the broader reasons that approaching women can be difficult include:

 Personal Experience: We’ve all had experiences approaching women where we felt hurt and humiliated. Unfortunately, our brains are hard wired to remember these more than the times where things went swimmingly well. These past experiences hold you back from approaching in the future.

 Lack of Experience: Conversely, there’s the lack of experience. You don’t approach women much, so you think it’s a huge deal and that it will inevitably end in disaster. You’ve built things up in your head so much that the fantasy of what might go wrong is preventing you from getting the experience you need to make things go right.

 Lack of Story and Routine Stack: You don’t feel like you have anything good to say, because you haven’t done the homework on your stack. This is one of the easiest things to fix, as it’s just about putting the time in on what you’re going to say. Remember that a lot of Game takes place before you even head out for the night.

 Pedestalization: You see a woman who you are overwhelmingly attracted to and you think you can’t approach her because she’s "out of your league". Apparently you haven’t seen Style standing next to his wife. A big part of what we teach you in Stylelife Academy boils down to this: Looks might matter, but not as much as you think they do, and anyway, you can overcome your "attraction deficit."

When it comes right down to it, there’s only one answer to approach anxiety: It’s approaching women over and over again, honing your approach so that it becomes better over time. This will not only build a bank of positive experiences, it will also help alleviate approach anxiety.

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Now that we know what underpins your anxiety, let’s talk about a few common problems men encounter when approaching women.

What You’re Doing Wrong When You Approach Women

So what are you doing wrong? That’s what you want to know, right? What can you be doing better so that you can build the types of positive experiences that are going to make approaching women that much easier with every approach?

 You’re Too Serious: Coming up to a woman and being very serious at first is a recipe for disaster. It makes things awkward and tense. Instead, opt for a lighter approach; one that will have her laughing, smiling and wondering who you are and what you’re about.

 You Can’t Handle a Challenge: A lot of guys blow it the second their stack goes off course. She throws a curveball your way and you lose it; That’s not an attractive reaction. Instead of bailing at the first sign of trouble, learn how to weather the storm.

 You’re Too Needy: On the other hand, you might be trying too hard to impress her, either by being entertaining or by trying to demonstrate higher value in incorrect ways or with bad timing. This comes across as needy, and neediness is kryptonite when it comes to seduction.

 You’re Paying for her Time: It’s fine to buy someone a drink or dinner, just make sure you’re not purchasing their time. If that person is sticking around for free stuff, then you’re paying for their time. If they’re sticking around because they’re enjoying their time with you, and you want to buy them something for being awesome – go for it. Also, don’t be a cheapskate, it’s just as bad as paying for someone’s time.

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 You’re Not Going Out Enough: Guess what, guys? Going out once a month isn’t going to cut it. Sure, you’ve got a life to lead. But try and head out at least a couple of times a week and practice what you’re learning. I’d argue that having more than a week between the last approach of one night and the first of the next is going to be a huge setback in terms of your comfort level.

 You Make Excuses to Not Approach: There’s always going to be a reason to not approach. However, the more you do it, the better you’re going to get at it. Any time you hear that little voice inside your head telling you why you shouldn’t approach, tell it to shut up and approach immediately.

Having approach anxiety isn't the difference between a regular man and a confident man. The real difference is that confident men experience this anxiety and push past it.

Here is a thought experiment: Would this fear still exist if you were 100% sure when you approached that the woman would be friendly, want to talk to you, or even be interested in you? In other words, if there were no risk, you'd approach her, wouldn't you?

Ask yourself: What's the lasting result of being rejected or embarrassed?

Mostly, just a bad memory; a reminder that you need more practice.

The biggest mistake is being 'too shy to try'. As Wayne Greztky said,

"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."

Your potential gain is significant! The best case is she likes you, you get her number and you go on a date. No matter what, you learn something from talking to her. You apply that knowledge next time. You

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get better. The risk versus reward for approaching a woman is in your favor. Before you approach, you'll feel your anxiety, but... this time say to yourself, "It's no big deal. I can handle this."

Feel your fear. Recognize it. Put it to the side in your mind and go! You've nothing to lose and everything to gain.

One very common question that my students ask me is, "When did your approach anxiety go away?" The true answer is, it never does. It often lessens over time, but it will always be there to a degree. Approach anxiety is totally normal.

The good news is even the shyest guys can alleviate their approach anxiety when they really try. You can too. Everyone can. So, when you're out there practicing, here are some techniques you can use to make sure the anxiety doesn't stop you from opening:

Technique 1: "It's like ripping off a Band-Aid."

If you think about approach anxiety too much and try pulling it off slowly, you’ll end up making it worse than it has to be. You just have to rip it off; meaning you just have to make the approach.

Note that the first set of the day is always the hardest, just try to power through it. Once you’ve made the first approach, the rest will be easier. You're stronger than you think.

Remember, the only reason you’re anxious is because you want to talk to those people and you’re worried about what they’ll think of you. Take a risk, and see what happens.

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If powering through doesn't work, then try slowing down and breaking the approach into small pieces. The micro-stepping technique is a little harder, but it never fails if you stay honest, and focus.

When your anxiety gets so high that it's paralyzing you, it means that you've given your mind and body too difficult a challenge. Try breaking the task down into smaller pieces.

For example, "I'm going to talk to that really attractive woman," may be way too much for you. So break the approach down into a few very small, very not scary steps.

Start like this: "I’m going to walk in her direction."

Now that may sound ridiculous, like it barely relates to talking to the woman, but that’s the point. You’re using small steps that don’t induce anxiety to help you build momentum. Once you’re moving in her direction, set another goal for yourself, "Once I’m standing near her, I’m going to say, ‘hey, quick question.’" If you can utter those words, you’ve gone past the point of no return. It would be more awkward to leave without asking the question than it would be to ask it and open the group up.

By taking it one small step at a time, you end up in conversation. The anxiety is likely surging through your body at this point, but it didn't stop you from getting to where you needed to be. Use it. Let it be a little extra energy to give excitement behind the interaction.

What’s great about this exercise is not only how effective it is, but that it works whenever you have to do something that induces anxiety. Try using it when you have to go for a kiss, or ask a girl out on a date. Small steps will lead you to success.

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The Heroic Mind Shaping Exercise: Confidence Building

Have you ever watched a movie and pictured yourself in the character's shoes? Imagine if you could take on the frame of one of your favorite heroes. This exercise will allow you to spot the positive traits in others, and help you develop them within yourself.

To do this exercise you need the steps listed below, combined with an exclusive Attract and Seduce audio lesson, which you can get by following the link at the end of this chapter.

1. Write down a list of characters with qualities you would like to incorporate into your frame. For you, that might be James Bond, Alexander the Great, Casanova, or any other person (real or fictional) whom you admire.

2. Choose the character on this list that you can most easily visualize in detail.

3. Choose a form of media that you can best experience this character with. This could be a movie, a history channel presentation, a book, a series of magazine articles, or anything else you feel would be beneficial.

4. Feel free to combine a few forms as well. Do whatever it takes for you to best understand the character to the fullest degree.

5. Pay attention to how this character walks into a room, the micro expressions on his face, the way he talks and portrays confidence. If there is a specific scene in a movie or book that you believe best portrays this character, watch or read it several times.

6. Once you have done all this, sit down in a quiet room and listen to the Heroic Mind Shaping Exercise audio file, which you can find by clicking on the link at the end of this chapter.

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Rejection and Transforming Your Critical Seductive Mind

Seduction can be a difficult art to learn, because training requires we fail in front of the people we’re interested in getting to know. These rejections can send us spiraling into self-doubt; causing us to quit practicing. We keep hearing criticisms of ourselves like "you suck" over and over. As students we know criticism is important, it helps us get better, but this inner-wingman telling us that we suck – he’s of no use to anyone. Here’s one way you can train yourself to transform him from a bad inner-wingman to a helpful one.

When it comes to practice, don’t accept criticism from yourself that you wouldn’t accept from a good wingman. A good wingman would never tell you that you suck or that you’ll never be good with women, and hopefully you wouldn’t tolerate that kind of worthless criticism. If your wingman told you that you should approach from an angle rather than walking up directly, you’d more than likely take that advice, because it’s helpful. What they’re telling you will make you a better seducer, and that’s the goal.

When it comes to self-criticism, you need to recognize that same difference. Telling yourself that you suck won’t help you, but giving yourself specific advice will. My suggestion is to carry a note card, and every time you tell yourself, "I suck" or "I’ll never get the girl" or "I’m unattractive" you’re going to take out the note card. On it you’re going to write down a helpful tip for yourself; one or more things you can do to improve your seduction. You can be harsh, pointing out your own seductive flaws, but make sure that you’re writing down ideas you can test to fix the problem. The idea here is to train yourself to replace worthless criticisms with helpful ones and quiet down that terrible wingman in your head.

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Chapter 5:

Top 12 Reasons Everyone Should Study

Attraction and Seduction

"The most amazing thing for me is that every single person who sees

a movie, not necessarily one of my movies, brings a whole set of unique experiences. Now, through careful manipulation and good storytelling, you can get everybody to clap at the same time, to hopefully laugh at the

same time, and to be afraid at the same time." - Steven Spielberg

"We know what we are, but know not what we may be."

- William Shakespeare

Reason #1

Studying Attraction and Seduction will help you to influence others.

To understand attraction and seduction, you must understand desire. Desire is the root of seduction’s power. Learning to seduce someone means leading their imagination to learn about their own desires. This is what we’re going to study: How to fulfill desires with our words, our looks, and our reputations.

If you understand seduction, you'll have a better grasp on the world around you. You'll understand why you make the decisions you make and have better insight as to why others make the decisions they make. You'll understand how the world, politicians, and advertisements influence you. You’ll learn what makes you attracted to the people you're attracted to. Seduction is a skill with a world of benefits.

Reason #2

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Many of us run into opportunity after opportunity that we miss out on. Sometimes it's just because we didn't know there was an opportunity in the first place. I have met so many people who've had crushes on friends or co-workers who felt like the deck was stacked against, and so they never made a move. They ended up as "just friends" and find out later that the other person felt the same way, and had either one of them made a move, they might be together. A tragedy of epic proportions.

Attraction and seduction can give you the awareness to see these kinds of opportunities; to understand when the deck is truly stacked against you and when you're the one in control.

Reason #3

Studying attraction and seduction will help you get to know yourself better.

A side effect of studying attraction and seduction is self-understanding. To be a great student of attraction and seduction you must learn to put yourself in other people’s shoes, to see the world from a variety of other perspectives. You have to look at yourself through their eyes and ask if what you're doing is seductive to them.

Reason #4

Studying attraction and seduction will improve your romantic, dating and sex life, expand your social circles, and grow your network.

While studying attraction and seduction you're going to make friends. It's going to happen. To practice you need to get out there and meet people, and as you'll learn when we get deeper into the system – the first step is learning to make people comfortable with you, and the second is to offer value. Doing this will make you friends.

Put yourself in a woman's shoes: a guy walks up to you, he is very comfortable to be around, he has great stories, an interesting personality,

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and helped make the interaction more enjoyable. Would you want this guy in your social circle? Of course.

Reason #5

Studying attraction and seduction will bring more adventure into your life.

People who study attraction and seduction have a great understanding of the world around them, because the art form requires it. The more you know about the world around you the more conversations you'll be part of, and even better, the more conversations you'll be able to lead. This means getting to know your city, getting to know your country, getting to know the culture around you, and discovering as much as you can about the world.

Reason #6

Studying attraction and seduction will give you choice.

Imagine seeing a woman you’re interested in talking to – at a bar, in a nightclub, on the street, or anywhere else. Now imagine you could walk right up to her and start a conversation that leads to a romantic adventure. With practice, you can have the ability to choose who you’d like to date, rather than hoping for the best.

Reason #7

Studying attraction and seduction will give you a new perspective.

To be a great seducer you have to be able to see yourself from other people’s perspectives; you need to understand how others view you, so that you can make strategic decisions about which pieces of identity to share. By paying attention to how other people think and feel, you’ll start to open up your mind to why others do what they do – and that can change your life in more ways than I can possibly contain in this short section.

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Reason #8

Studying Attraction and Seduction will expand your horizons.

The more you know about the world, the more conversations you can be part of, and, even better, the more conversations you can lead. All the guys I know who study seduction are ravenous learners. They consume information faster than anyone else I know.

If you study attraction and seduction, there will be a point where you’ll come to realize that you’ve become more interested in absorbing new information. It’s a great moment.

Reason #9

Studying attraction and seduction will make you more confident. Ask most people what it takes to seduce another person and they’ll almost invariably say, "confidence". For the most part, they’re right, confidence is a big part of it, but you can’t just be confident. You have to cultivate confidence through small successes. By practicing the techniques, and learning the principles, you’ll start to see success on a small level, and over time those successes will stack, giving you the confidence to be a great seducer.

Reason #10

Studying attraction and seduction will transform you into your best self.

The combination of self-awareness and social-awareness that comes from studying attraction and seduction will make communication easier and more effective for you. The confidence you’ll get from having put in the blood, sweat, and tears it takes to learn this skill will give you confidence in all other areas of your life. You’ll pick up new skills, go on

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new adventures, and have a legion of new friends, and as many lovers as you could want. You’ll be a new person; the best person you can be.

Reason #11

By studying attraction and seduction, you’ll make more money.

As we’ve mentioned before, seduction is not all about romance. It’s part of business too. Becoming a better seducer means becoming better at communication. The information you gain from studying attraction and seduction will allow you to think steps ahead of others and be more strategic. It will also help you navigate the complex social dynamics that exist in the business world. As you practice, you’ll find that making deals, getting meetings, and eventually making more money will come easier, because you’ll be more aware of people’s needs and desires.

Reason #12

By studying attraction and seduction, you’ll have more sex.

Seduction for most people is about sex, romance and relationships. It’s the number one goal for most of my students. If you put in the time to learn this skill, not only will you end up having more sex, it will also be with the types of women you desire, in the kinds of relationships that you want to have.

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