Seductive Body
Language System
Table of Contents
Disclaimer ... 4
Introduction ... 5
What is Body Language ... 7
How Body Language Developed ... 10
Eliminating Weak Body Language ... 12
13 Traits of High Status Body Language... 21
Three Problem Areas to Monitor... 38
Making Adjustments to Your Body Language ... 43
Speaking in a High Status Manner... 46
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Introduction
At some point in your life you’ve probably come across an advertisement which makes large promises about
increasing your success with women. In fact, the majority of the products in this niche make you think that their
system is the only one that can help you improve your
dating success:
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The simple truth is the Internet is filled with companies
that all make guarantees about their product. (I’ll even admit that I made a few promises in the salespage of my product). The truth is almost every “seduction” system
you’ll encounter will give you the guarantee that their system will work for any guy- Even someone who
wasn’t born with good looks or a naturally attractive personality.
So why do companies make statements like this? Well the
truth is they say it because it’s actually true! While good-looking guys have an initial advantage when it comes to women, the any guy can have lots of success with women. Even if he has a major flaw that’s prevented him from doing well in the past!
In fact, there are numerous stories of “no so good looking” guys dating uber-attractive women. I personally know 3 or 4 men like this.
What’s their secret? The first thing that separates these
men is they understand the nature of attraction and how it works with women. Next, they have extreme confidence in themselves which helps them project a powerful vibe. Finally, they understand how to use their body language in a way that makes them attractive to most women. And that’s what we’re going to cover in this report. In the next 40+ pages, we’re going to focus on what I call the
“seductive body language” system. The truth is 90% of what you say to women is done through your body
language. If you get it right, you can easily attract them without saying a word.
It’s my hope that you take the information in this report and dramatically improve the subtle mannerisms that you’re displaying whenever you’re talking to a girl. By making a few corrections to your posture and non-verbal communication, you’ll subtly show that you’re a confident
guy who has always had incredible success with women.
Now with that being said, let’s talk about body language and why it’s important…
What is Body Language?
It’s been said that 90% of our communication is non-verbal. Without saying a word, your mannerisms tell a woman all she needs to know about the type of man you are.The right kind of body language can display a powerful
presence. And the wrong kind can make you seem weak
or needy. Furthermore, you have about 3-5 seconds to make a first impression. As a result, it’s important that
your body language is sending the correct message to women.
Over the last few years, I’ve come to the realization that body language is one of the most important ingredients to attracting and dating women. While strong body language can help you demonstrate the qualities of a sexually confident man, the weak kind tells people you’re uncomfortable in social situations.
If you want incredible success with women, you have to
master your non-verbal communication. Specifically, you
need to eliminate all the behavior that delivers the wrong kind of message to women. Furthermore, you should understand why women are attracted to certain types of body language and how to use this information to your benefit.
So what exactly is body language?
Well, body language is a term that describes all the communication that’s done through our mannerisms,
physical behavior and spatial interaction. Without
It can tell people you’re dominant guy. However, it can also communicate the message that you’re a weak, submissive person.
Body language includes things like:
λ Eye movement
λ Social and intimate touching
λ Hand gestures
λ Speed, pitch and modulation of your verbal communication
λ Location and proximity of your hands/arms
λ Posture
λ Personal location in relations to others
λ Facial expressions
λ The way you walk
Pretty much everything you physically do involves body language. A guy who is in total command of his non-verbal communication can easily attract any woman. He knows that a simple look can deliver a powerful message that’s simply not achievable with words alone.
What’s going to be challenging to you is women are 10x more in tune with detecting and deciphering body language cues. Early on in their lives, they learn how to
communicate on this level. So your average girl can look at a guy and have an intuitive ability to decipher his moods
and general attitude.
Your typical guy, on the other hand, doesn’t have a developed ability to pick up on subtle body language
signals. In fact, MOST guys were never taught the subtle nuances of how to communicate without saying a word. In simple terms, YOU are at a disadvantage when talking to women. On a subconscious level, most will know if you are OR aren’t attracted to them. So you must be
constantly vigilant about the message that you’re sending.
One wrong signal and you’ll hurt your chances with a woman!
The good news is body language is like any other skill. By understanding it, you can use it in your favor. By
practicing and implementing the techniques in this report,
you’ll develop your non-verbal communication to the point where you can demonstrate the attitude of a Superior Alpha Male without saying much to a woman.
How Body Language Developed
There are biological reasons why body language became our primary form of speaking of communication. Over the last few thousand years, we’ve developed it as a way to send specific signals to other members of our species. We use it to show things like happiness, hostility, friendship,and fear. Most importantly, we developed body
language as part of an elaborate courtship ‘dance’.
Every animal has its own specific mating ritual. Birds sing to attract mates. Deer develop large antlers. Lions fight for supremacy. And humans use non-verbal
communication to demonstrate their availability. What’s interesting is we developed body language as a way to speak to one another when we could only use grunts and gestures. So most of our mating ritual involved the use of body language because that’s the only way we could make others understand our intentions.
As I discussed in my Flirt Mastery course, the evolution of humans depended on females picking the right partner. Most of the time, they gravitated towards the alpha male of our species who represented the best chance for females to produce healthy, active children.
What often happened was these dominant guys had a large number of sexual partners and were able to pass their
genes to a lot more children. And the weaker males often
had difficulty with finding partners willing to help them pass on their inferior genes.
Body language was a way that an alpha male could
impress the females. In a way, he would intimidate other potential partners by displaying a dominant posture and
look. This form of communication was a not-so-subtle way to show a woman that her offspring would have the same
genetic qualities that made him stand out from other guys.
And as we evolved, females would subconsciously look for
guys with these qualities. Any guy who lacked them would
have a reduced chance of passing along his genes.
The body language of early humans is still used today to communicate our social standing. When a
man and woman meet, they unknowingly engage in their own specific mating dance. In fact, much of the “dating
game” is done on a non-verbal level. By understanding
the specific qualities of body language, you can deliver the same message that helped your predecessors find a mating partner.
Now that you understand why body language is important, let’s move on to how you can make sure you’re
demonstrating a confident appearance whenever you’re in a social setting…
Eliminating Weak Body Language
Now that we’ve discussed the body language of the alpha male, let’s move on to the other guy…We’ve all met someone who displays weak body language. He’s the guy who communicates the wrong message around women. This is someone who you meet and intuitively know that he’s not very good with women. He doesn’t have to say a word, but you’re already convinced
that the ladies are not knocking down his door to date him.
It’s not what he says, it’s how he acts! On some level, you’ve picked up on his body language and gotten an
uncomfortable vibe from being around him. In essence,
his non-verbal communication is telling you that he does NOT have the confidence to attract many women.
We’re all different in how we display body language. Some can command a powerful presence. Others display the
weak aura that’s naturally repulsive to a woman. The
important thing is to identify the parts of your body language that’s sending the wrong message. Then
once you’ve identified these problem areas, you have to actively work on eliminating these self-defeating
mannerisms.
Women can instantly spot a guy with low self-esteem. The
Low Status Males of the world exhibit very specific body
language. To improve your non verbal communication, you
have to find out if you’re guilty of demonstrating any of these qualities. For instance, I’ve identified 7 major body
1 – Leaning In
Leaning towards a person is one of the quickest ways to
demonstrate a submissive attitude. It’s similar to when a
dog rolls on his back and shows you his stomach. When you lean into a person, you’re surrendering your power and subconsciously giving an indicator that he or she
has higher social status.
When it comes to women, you have to approach with the mindset that you have an equal or superior social
standing. By leaning in, you’re sending the message that
this woman has a higher status than you. It basically says:
“You are the leader in this interaction and what you have
to say is more important then anything that comes out of my mouth...”
What you need to do is adapt a very relaxed posture. In fact, I recommend you lean away from the person you’re talking to. This is a subtle way to signify you’re
comfortable with the encounter, and you’re not very concerned with the outcome.
Now if you’re having trouble with hearing a woman, simply
speak louder. By talking in a commanding voice, you
communicate that you’re a confident guy who is used to people listening to him.
2 – Awkward Touching
The way you touch a woman can make or break an
interaction. (That’s why I thoroughly cover this topic in my Flirt Mastery course). A guy with weak body language
message. Instead of attracting a woman, his touch will actually make her feel uncomfortable.
Awkward touching should be avoided at all costs. While it’s important to touch women to build sexual tension, you should do it in a way where it’s a natural part of a conversation. So never touch her in a way that’ll make her feel uneasy or uncomfortable.
When you touch a woman, it should be in the right way and at the right time. This means never touching
her unless in a nervous or hesitant manner. If you’re establishing physical contact like you're asking for her
permission, then she’ll subconsciously pick up on this vibe.
So assert yourself, look for an opening, and be deliberate. One of the best ways to touch a woman is to make it part of the conversation. When you first meet her, you should have high energy and talk about fun topics. With this mindset, you’re going to create a lot of sexual tension. When you go to touch her, it should be come from a natural extension of the conversation. At first this will be
light touching on the arm to make a point or a quick ‘high five’. Later on, you’ll touch in a more dominant manner
like hugging and throwing your arm around her.
The important thing to remember about touching is that it should be done from a place of high social status. Act like you’re comfortable around women and you’ll deliver a powerful vibe.
Now before we move on, let me quickly mention something…When touching a woman, it’s important to closely observe her reaction. If she seems uncomfortable, then this is a clear indicator that you’re being given
feedback that you are not doing enough to build her levels of interest. Use your touch to calibrate her level of interest. Not as a way to grope or make her feel uneasy.
3 – Approval Seeking
A Superior Alpha Male doesn’t seek the validation of others. He moves through life without apology. In a social setting, he does what HE wants rather than what others want.
The exact opposite of this man is someone who shows
approval seeking body language. This is when a guy
has such low self esteem that he feels the need to act a certain way in order to be “accepted” by the group. Without saying a word, he’s saying that he needs that validation of other people to feel good about himself.
You demonstrate this behavior by doing the following:
λ Leaning towards women
λ Smiling too much
λ Keeping your head down
λ Make yourself physically smaller when in a crowded venue
λ Raising eyebrows to comments
λ Letting others control or dominate the conversation
λ Using self-deprecating humor too much
λ Agreeing with everything a person says
The truth is approval seeking behavior does nothing to create attraction. In fact, women can sense when a guy
tries too hard to win the attention of others. They see it
as a weak way to show submission to the dominant members of a social group.
So forget what you've heard about mirroring or mimicking a person’s body language… While this might
help you during the rapport stage, it’ll only make you seem weak when you first approach a woman. Instead, get her to mirror your body language! Showing a high social status personality is one of the quickest ways to get a person to follow your lead and make them sync with your mannerisms.
You don’t want to show too much interest early in an interaction. Rather then demonstrating an approval
seeking attitude, you display body language that makes it
seem like you don’t immediately care about the outcome of a conversation.
Face women at an angle, control the conversation, and take up some space. Be the guy who isn’t afraid to show a confident, yet aloof attitude when he first meets people.
4 – Nervous Tics and Fidgeting
One of the biggest red flags for a woman is when a guy has too many nervous tics or fidgets. This type of behavior immediately tells her that he’s uncomfortable around women and doesn’t know how to behave. When a woman sees somebody with these mannerisms, she thinks: “This guy is a wreck! Stay away!!!”
Nervous body language can include a number of different actions. Some are pretty minor, while others can be really obvious. Here are some of the more common nervous tics:
λ Licking your lips
λ Playing with any body piercings you have
λ Nervously laughing after you speak
λ Using a pregnant pause like: “umm, “well”, “uh” or
“so”
λ Clearing your throat or coughing too much
λ Darting your eyes around the room
λ Scratching anywhere
λ Cracking your knuckles (this one really disgusts women)
λ Smacking your gum or chewing loudly
Remember, the Superior Alpha Male is relaxed and at
ease during a conversation. Unnatural or spastic body language gives the opposite impression that you’re trying to make. When you’re in a social setting, you want to monitor your mannerisms and eliminate any of the tics that could be holding you back.
5 – A Weak Handshake
Your handshake is a tool that can communicate a powerful message about your personality and who you are as a man. If it’s firm, then you give the aura of confidence. On the other hand, if it’s limp or clammy, then you’ll seem weak, submissive or just plain creepy.
While you don’t have to give someone a bone crushing
command attention when meeting a person for the first time. Simply greet people with a firm grip and give a little
bit of pressure if you’re meeting a man. If it’s a woman,
use the same type of shake without the pressure. And
take her whole hand, not just her fingers.
A firm, single up and down shake says many positive things about you. Strength, power, confidence,
fearlessness, and authority are all communicated through this type of solid greeting. While this might seem like a minor thing, many guys have found themselves in a weak
social position by not giving people the proper type of handshake.
6- Being a Follower
You can learn a lot about a guy’s social standing by where
he positions himself when he’s talking to others. A leader
is someone who is the focal point of the group. He’s the one everyone else looks to for validation and decision
making.
You can tell a guy is the leader among his peers by the
way he stands. The guy in charge will generally be in the
center with the rest of the group facing (even slightly) towards him. When he speaks, the rest of the group will listen to what he says.
Many guys demonstrate weak body language when they
position themselves as follower, not a leader. A woman will often look at a group of guys and subconsciously try to determine their social standing. By hanging on the fringe and following another guy’s lead, you’ll demonstrating to women that you’re a submissive person.
When in a group, you must establish yourself as the leader. Position your body in a way that everyone else has to direct their attention to you! If you have to, stand in the
middle and lean back against an object. This will force
everyone else to face you during a conversation. Furthermore, think about the way you move with your
friends through a crowd. A leader is generally the person
in front. He’s the one who determines where to go and the path to follow.
And if you're ever in a situation where you MUST follow somebody, don't automatically follow their path through the crowd. Choose you own route and say hello to others on the way. Now you aren’t a follower; you are a well-liked man who takes the time to visit with his many friends.
Followers don’t attract many women! At best they get
the girls who aren’t wanted by the alpha males of a group.
With your social group be the guy in charge. Make the decisions and show the subtle body language that you’re used to being in a dominant position.
7- Giving Up Your Power
The final (and probably most important) behavior to eliminate is giving away your social power. Guys often hurt their chances for success by being too needy around women. They hover around a girl, follow her
where she goes and hang on her every word. A confident
guy doesn’t supplicate himself to women! He speaks in commanding tones and shows almost dismissive body
If you feel like you are displaying the wrong kind of body language to attract women, here's what you
should do:
Go out to social venue, and watch the guys with high social status. (Trust me they’ll be very easy to spot! They’re the
ones who are surrounded by attractive and interesting women.)
Pay close attention to how they act. Look for the way they stand and how they're interacting with others. I guarantee everyone else's body language gives these guys status (in
other words, they lean towards him, they look for approval and they're the Betas to his Alpha.) You’ll discover these
men do very little to give away their social power. Instead, they position themselves in a way that they become the center of attention.
Remember body language is an expression of how we
perceive ourselves and our core belief system. If you think
badly of yourself, then you'll probably project that kind of attitude. Conversely, if you eliminate the behaviors I discussed in this section, you’ll develop a powerful mindset which will help develop a confident attitude around women.
13 Traits of High Status Body Language
Gaining a confident look is not just about eliminating weak body language. Actually it’s more important to focus ondeveloping traits that are attractive to women. So instead
of being overly concerned with what you’re doing wrong, it’s often easier to concentrate on displaying a dominant social appearance with your body language.
If you study the Superior Alpha Male, you’ll notice how he demonstrates a number of qualities that make him attractive. Without saying a word, this guy tells women that he’s an interesting guy that they want to meet. In this section, we’re going to discuss 13 of these body
language traits. These are the most important forms of
non-verbal communication that send a powerful message to women. (While some of them have already been
discussed, they are important enough to briefly review!) :
I. No Need to Please
The mark of a true Superior Alpha Male is the ability to avoid seeking the approval from others. Unlike most men, this guy has enough confidence to never display behaviors that indicate a low social standing. He concentrates on what he wants and doesn’t really concern himself with the behaviors of others. This is the essence of the “no need
to please” attitude you should demonstrate in a social
setting.
My advice is to always hold back on giving approval to a woman until she does something that warrants your attention. This shows the woman that you need to get to know her better, and that you aren’t too eager. As the
conversation progresses you can you start to open up and adapt a more interested posture.
You can demonstrate a no need to please attitude through your body language. While you want to be fun
and have high energy in an interaction, you don’t want to
show that you’re overly interested in a girl.
I’ve found you can quickly show this attitude (and build
some serious sexual tension) by doing a little push-pull
with your behavior. One minute you’re having fun and laughing. Then you’re serious when she says something that might “disqualify” her from your attention.
Here are some subtle ways to show this behavior with your body language:
λ Furrow your eyebrows
λ Look around as you’re talking
λ Give her a ‘not convinced’ expression
λ Keep a straight face
λ Lean away from her
Remember you are trying to appear nonchalant, not rude! You want to make her work a little for your attention, but not act in an insulting manner. No movements, a subtle lack of interest, and a straight posture are enough to keep her interested in winning your attention.
This behavior should say that you are secure in your abilities and don't have anything to prove. You're indifferent to the outcome of this conversation. If this woman doesn't to be with you, it’s no big deal. You are a man with options.
II. The Confident Look
There is a certain pose that typifies the essence of a confident man. In a social venue, it’s a way of standing
that commands attention. Even when you're not talking to a woman, you should display this look. Here’s a quick breakdown of a confident pose:
λ Chest Out
λ Shoulders back
λ Head up
λ Feet shoulder length apart
λ Toes pointed straight ahead
λ Weight evenly distributed on both legs
λ Hands out of your pocket and at your side (or with a
drink your hand)
λ Eyes centered on the people in your group
λ Smiling and having fun
Furthermore, the confident guy is not afraid to take up a
lot of space. He spreads out and needs a lot of room to
stand.
Be like this guy by widening your stance. Anchor yourself to the ground and command your space! You don’t have
to be physically large to have a big presence. Women are
drawn to men who boldly assert themselves. The will not be attracted to men who withdraw and let others to intrude in his personal space.
III. Strong Eye Contact
Eye contact is a crucial element to developing the
Superior Alpha Male look. In fact, it’s a major part of the entire dating and courtship ritual. When a man and a woman look at each other, they deliver a powerful message about their levels of attraction. In a way, it’s a subtle way to size one another up and test for sexual
chemistry.
Eye contact is even important in body language with other
guys. Holding a lengthy gaze with a man is often
perceived as an aggressive action. With the wrong person, it might start a verbal or physical confrontation. Typically, the situation is resolved when the weaker make finally looks away, avoiding a violent encounter.
What’s interesting is the eye contact that causes confrontations with other men can help you create attraction with women.
When you lock eyes with a girl, maintain your gaze. Let her
be the first to look away. You want to maintain the eye
contact just a little bit longer than what is normally acceptable in a casual social situation. Women find this
very intriguing. This look lets her know that she is dealing
with more than a sweet gentleman. It’s the gaze of a
guy who is a sexually confident male.
Another critical element of eye contact is how it’s specific to the social context of a situation. Different scenarios
have different comfort levels, and therefore call for
different behaviors. For instance, if you're in an elevator, or in otherwise close proximity, your eye contact will be much shorter than if you're looking at a woman in a bar.
So always take your environment into account and make the appropriate adjustments!
Establishing strong eye contact with a woman is a hard thing to do at first. Because you’re pushing the limits of social norms, you may feel a bit awkward. You want to do it in a confident manner, but also avoid the “creep zone” that’ll scare her off!
To avoid coming off as the “weird guy”, practice
maintaining eye contact with women. Make a game out
of making connections to the people you encounter every day. You don't even have to engage them in conversation. Just lock eyes with women and hold it for a brief second or two. You’ll find that many will be lock eyes back on you and give signals that they’re interested in you approaching them!
IV. Walk with Purpose
The Superior Alpha Male has a unique way of walking. In fact, you can often spot this guy simply from the way he moves. His walk is slow and with purpose. Think of those movies where they film the main character in slow motion moving confidently towards his purpose. Try moving this
way!
A confident walk has many crucial ingredients. They can include:
λ A natural, graceful motion.
λ Eyes and head looking forward, fixated on a point in the distance
λ Chin up and parallel to the ground
λ Arms swinging from the back and shoulders, not from your elbows
λ Butt tucked into to propel you forward
The essence of a good walk is a relaxed, but confident attitude. You don’t want to do anything that’ll make you seem weak. This can include mannerisms like slouching or drooping your shoulders. It should be similar to the way you stand… Walk with purpose and confidence!
A good walk tells people that you have a sense of purpose, but you’re not too concerned with getting it. This is a crucial attitude to portray when you are approaching a
woman. You want to seem confident without too excited.
I recommend you analyze the way you walk. If you’re not displaying many of the traits that I describe, then work on these problems areas.
A great way to improve your stride is to carefully study the body language of confident people as they walk. Politicians,
actors, and rock stars know how to move. By studying and mimicking their behavior, you’ll adapt a type of movement
that’s very powerful around women.
Another thing is an attractive walk begins with a strong
core. One of the quickest ways to improve your stride is to
work on your abs, obliques, lower back. Extra crunches at the gym will strengthen your midsection and cause you to stand taller and move with more power.
The Superior Alpha Male isn’t afraid to take his time to get places. Furthermore, he has a confident gait in his steps which give off a powerful sense of presence. Making small adjustments to the way you walk can have a
V. Always Be at Ease
A Superior Alpha Male should be comfortable in all
situations. To make this happen, you need to ensure that
your body language gives off an aura of relaxation. Even when meeting a woman for the first time, you want to act in a casual manner, like the outcome of the conversation isn’t that important. In other words, lean
back, widen your stance, and take up some space.
A relaxed attitude is hard thing for many guys to learn. As we’ve discussed, neediness makes your average guy too
“outcome orientated”. Often he’s so obsessed with trying
to ‘pick up’ a woman that he forgets to relax. The
successful men are the ones who understand the nuances of a social interaction and can maintain a casual look. Unfortunately, it’s hard to demonstrate a relaxed look if you don’t feel that way. You can’t fake this attitude. While you might think you’re behaving in a casual manner, a woman will easily spot your anxious attitude. A quick way to develop a relaxed state of mind is to use the
affirmations that we discussed in the Superior Alpha Male report. These daily reminders can do wonders for building a more relaxed appearance around women. For instance, here are some affirmations that you could successfully use:
λ “I am relaxed in all situations”
λ “I am not concerned with any drama”
λ “I am confident no matter what happens”
λ “I am calm even when others get upset, worried or angry”
A relaxed attitude is another crucial part of being a Superior Alpha Male. When you display this attitude, you’ll subtly demonstrate that you can handle any sort of problem that might arise.
VI. Smile at People
One of the first things a woman will notice is your facial
expression. When you start a conversation with a dour
look, she’ll make the assumption that you’re a pessimistic person and not much fun to be around. On the other, a
dazzling smile can work wonders! By approaching with a
friendly expression on your face, people will be more inclined to want to meet you.
Through a number of studies, it’s been proven that a positive facial expression can affect a person’s mood. When someone grins at us, we usually return the gesture. So if you give a smile to a woman, she’ll generally return the gesture. In a way, it’s a subtle technique for giving her a reason to like you.
What else does a smile tell a woman? Well, there are
a number of messages that you send a woman when you smile. For instance, they tell a woman that:
λ You enjoy her company
λ You like what she’s saying
λ You’re a positive, upbeat person
Now there is a disadvantage to smiling. While women love guys with a friendly demeanor, they don’t want to be around the “grinning fool” who won’t stop smiling. You want to approach with a friendly attitude, but lower it
after a few minutes of conversation. Then use it whenever
you adopt a playful attitude. The expression on your face should make you appear to be fun. Not like some creepy dude who can’t stop smiling!
VII. Sexual Communication
When you first meet a woman, you want to send a number
of powerful messages. One of the things you’re trying to
communicate is your sexual confidence. Within a few minutes of a conversation, a woman should know that you’re comfortable with sex and you can “handle your
business”. And this message is sent through your
actions, not your words!
One of the best ways to communicate sexuality is through your touch. As I discussed in Flirt Mastery establishing physical contact should be done in a confident manner.
At first you’re going to lightly break the touch barrier through social gestures like “high fiving”, handshakes and
light touches on the arm. Later on, you’ll want to more
assertive with your touching to the point where she knows the two of you are communicating sexuality through your body language.
You want to be deliberate and open about touching.
When you’ve built attraction and rapport, your touch should be something that provides the catalyst for a seduction. In fact, you can often touch a woman to gauge
her level of interest. By invading her personal space,
you’re testing to see if she’s interested in being kissed. If
a woman allows you to run your hands along her neck and hair, then this indicates she’s ready to be kissed. Another way to communicate sexuality is through the pace
and tonality of your voice. When you first meet a woman,
you’re going to display the fun attitude that’s attractive. But after build attraction and qualification, you want to slow down the cadence of your speech.
A slow, but deliberate way of talking is an excellent way to show there’s a high level of sexual chemistry between the two of you.
VIII. Leading Women
Life rewards those who take bold action. The successful guys of the world are the ones who understand the importance of taking action and being in control of their destiny. When it comes to women, boldness comes in the form of being a leader and controlling interactions with women.
Don’t hesitate when you see an attractive woman. Instead, train your body to act on impulse. As it’s commonly said:
“He who hesitates, Masturbates!”
As we’ve learned, the leader never orients himself to a woman. He is the guy in the room who everyone else mimics. When talking to a woman, have the mindset that she’s in the conversation because you are allowing her to have your attention!
Furthermore, the leader controls the location and speed of
an interaction. He doesn’t wait for a woman to make a
move, he’s the one who grabs her hand and moves her to the place he wants her to be. You can demonstrate the leadership by where you place your hands. A guy in control simply puts his hand on a woman’s lower back and guides her to an appropriate spot in a venue. He’s always in front, and grabs her hand when moving through a crowd. Men often make the mistake of hoping a woman will be the first to “make a move”. Don’t be one of these guys! You can control most of the interaction by stepping up and being the guy who takes command. You’ll find that doing this every time is a great way to turn an innocent
conversation into something more…
IX. Playfulness
Never be the guy who sits sullenly in a bar, hoping a girl will notice and approach you. This “brooder personality” doesn’t attract women. Usually it makes you become the
invisible man in a room full of singles. Instead of being the
quiet guy in the corner, you want to become the playful person that everyone wants to meet.
From the moment you walk into a venue, you want to be
the guy who is laughing and enjoying a good time with his friends. Your attitude should be so energized
that strangers want to join your group, because you seem like you’re having the most fun!
Instead of being overly concerned with meeting women, direct your body towards your buddies and simply have
fun! Then when you spot an attractive girl (or group of
Sidebar: One technique that I use for a quick opener is to have fun with my friends for a few minutes. Then pull out my digital camera, and ask a nearby girl to take a picture of me and my friends. Once I’ve started the conversation, I’ll do light teasing and even promise to take a picture with her
When you’re around your friends and enjoying yourself, people will take notice. Just relax and have fun. This kind of casual body language is very attractive to women. Women directly correlate fun to feeling sexy. If she sees you laughing and having fun, you’ll tap into the emotional, pleasure center in her brain.
So no matter what you feel like inside, always project a fun attitude when around women. Leave the sullen or boring behavior for home. You’ll be surprised at how faking a fun
time will actually help you enjoy yourself.
X. Teasing Women
Treat a woman like she’s an interesting person who is bothering you. One of the best expressions I’ve heard
on this technique is to think of her as your “bratty little
sister” who won’t leave you alone. This is a great mindset
to have because you’ll project a confident aura where you’re not really afraid of what she thinks.
Your body language should project this vibe when you’re interacting with women. The attitude to have is you’re enjoying a conversation with a woman, but teasing her at the same time. In fact, one of the quickest ways to
initially break the touch barrier is to do it through the frame of teasing and playing around.
So while you’re saying something, you punctuate your comments with some form of physical contact. Here are some of the things that I recommend you do while
verbally teasing a woman:
λ Poke her
λ Hug her
λ Pull her towards you then push her away
λ Squeeze her knee
λ Tickle her
This type of body language is a great way to build sexual tension. Sometimes your saying nice things, then you’re teasing her. And sometimes you’re giving physical validation then you’re pushing her away.
Now, you’ll often hear a woman say stuff like “Stop that!” or “You’re such an asshole!” If this is done with a smile or laughter, then you know it’s time to pay attention to her body language, not her words.
On the other hand, if she appears uncomfortable, back off and try something else. A woman’s non verbal
communication is the clearest indicator of a woman’s thoughts. So pay attention to how she’s acting, then directly respond to these cues
XI. Be Dominant
Demonstrating high status body language is not just about teasing a woman or acting funny. There are times when
you have to show the strong, masculine side of your personality. On a subconscious level, women love to feel safe and protected. With your body language, you can show a woman that you’re able to be the guy that protects her.
Being dominant is not about acting like an obnoxious, chauvinistic pig. It’s more about controlling interactions and subtly showing that you’re a guy who can protect women. One way to do this is to do the same things that a
gentleman would do.
For instance, here’s what a dominant male would do around a woman:
λ Position himself to the outside of a curb when walking down a sidewalk
λ Hold a door for her whenever entering or leaving a building
λ Put yourself in front if a dangerous situation happens
λ Guide her through a room with your hand on her lower back
λ Offer his arm to a woman whenever walking to a place
λ Open her car door first
You might think this behavior is kind of antiquated. And that’s the reason why it’s so effective. Modern society has created a ton of confusion about individual gender roles. By behaving like a guy who can “take care” of a woman, you’ll stand out from the rest of insensitive assholes of the world.
Sometimes you’ll get a girl who gets really uptight about this “chauvinistic” attitude. This is actually a good thing!
Any woman who gets upset over a bit of gentlemanly behavior is someone you probably wouldn’t want to date. Therefore, acting in a dominant manner can help you eliminate the girls who would probably turn out to be nightmare to date!
XII. Act Cool
There is a certain vibe to a guy with high status. You can often easily pick him out from the crowd. Usually he’s at the center of attention. Others face him and they seem concerned with seeking his approval. This guy, on the other hand, is pretty calm and collected. He’s not
concerned with what others think of him. In fact, he’ll say something and not even care what people think of it. As you know, status is one of the keys to attracting a woman. They want to be with a man who is “better” than the rest. Your body language tells people how much
social status you have. A guy who doesn’t act overly
concerned about others projects a kind of “cool” attitude. When you act this way, a woman will perceive that you’re a guy who is confident about his place in the world.
In order to demonstrate the quality of “cool guy”, you have to work on the way your body reacts in a social situation. First off, you have to eliminate all the approval seeking behaviors that’ll hurt your chances of displaying this attitude. Here’s a recap of those actions:
λ Leaning towards women
λ Smiling too much
λ Keeping your head down
λ Raising eyebrows to comments
λ Letting others control or dominate the conversation
λ Using self-deprecating humor too much
λ Agreeing with everything a person says
Next, you want to practice minimizing the behaviors that project a low social status attitude. Usually this is the tendency for guys to wait for a specific response whenever they say something funny or make a comment to women.
Waiting for a reaction from a woman is one of the
quickest ways to show a definite lack of “coolness”. A lot of the material that I cover in my Flirt Mastery course is designed to help you get an emotional response from women (happiness, laughter, anger and jealousy). The problem lies in being too concerned with a woman’s reactions whenever doing a routine. A Superior Alpha Male doesn’t worry about the reactions from others. He
primarily does things to amuse himself.
To show a cool vibe with your body language, you want to makes sure you’re not acting too concerned with how other people act. In a way, a dismissive, egotistical stance can make you seem like you’re confident to not care about what others think.
XIII. Have High Energy
While it’s crucial to display a cool, relaxed attitude, it’s equally important to demonstrate high energy when talking to women. Now it might not seem possible to have lots of energy while being relaxed. The truth is you can show
both attitudes at the same time without sending a
conflicting message…
A high energy, but cool guy, has fun when he meets people. He engages women in a conversation, tells interesting stories, and is out to have a good time.
However, he never seems to really care what people think. When telling a story or showing something to a girl, it almost seems like he’s there to amuse himself. So you can be both fun and relaxed at the same time. It all comes down to not really caring what others think.
A high energy guy attracts women like a magnet. He is the guy who can “bring the party” to a group of people. He has the attitude of knowing he’s fun and can generate that excitement when talking to people for the first time. With women, you want to use your energy levels to improve their state of mind. If they’re down, then you want to bring them up. And if they’re already in a happy state, you’ll make them even happier! The energetic guy is someone who enjoys “providing value” to everyone he meets!
Now, there’s a rule of thumb for the amount of energy you demonstrate. It should be directly proportional to the
environment you’re in. In a loud dance club, it’s
important to have extremely high energy. This will help you stand out from the pounding music and flashing lights. However, if you want to meet a girl in a coffee house, then you should reduce your energy level. You don’t want to approach somebody and come across as a “crazy speed
freak”. The best thing to do is to meet someone at their
energy level or slightly higher. This will help you act in
The Three Problem Areas to Monitor
I know we’ve talked a lot about different parts of body language. As a result, you might be wondering how you can get started with improving your non-verbalcommunication. That’s why in this section we’re going to cover the three major areas where I see many guys make mistakes.
If you have trouble with demonstrating a high status personality, then I recommend you first work on these areas. You’ll find that making a few simple adjustments
can have an immediate improvement to the signals that
you’re sending women…
#1 – Your Hands & Arms
Ever feel like you don’t know what to do with your hands?
This is problem that almost everyone has at some point. You want to keep them in a comfortable position, but you also want to avoid putting them in your pockets. The simple truth is the position of your hands is important to how a woman perceives you. A guy with his hands in a dominant position can easily show a confident demeanor. So first off, keep your mitts out of your pockets. When you place your hands in your pockets, it’s a subconscious signal that you’re uncomfortable in social situations. This is a quick way to demonstrate a low status attitude to women. To fix this problem, I recommend you place your hands in the following areas:
λ At your side
λ In front of you and part of the conversation
λ With a drink in your hand
Or if all else fails…
λ Hooked into the front belt loop or over your belt buckle, fingers splayed and pointed towards your crotch. (This
is the stance of a guy confident enough to demonstrate sexuality)
There’s another critical ingredient to where you should places your hands. You never want to position in a way that has your arms folded across your chest. This is probably the most common way of showing discomfort and
unease. Almost every person in the world knows that a
person with arms folded is uncomfortable or bored.
I have a recommendation for this… don’t do it!
Folding your arms across your chest is one of those little,
but crucial, body language mannerisms that can hurt your
success. If you want instant improvement with women, then I suggest you actively monitor your behavior and see if you’re folding your arms across your chest.
If you find that you’re doing it, then immediately stop! If you have to, put an item in each hand, so there’s no way you can fold your arms.
#2 – Your Facial Expressions
As I discussed in the previous section, a lot of guys go through the world with a sullen expression on their face.
While they might be having fun, they’re not showing this attitude to the people around them. A frown (or lack of
expression) basically tells people that you’re not a fun
person worth knowing.
A smile can have an amazing effect on people. This positive facial expression can send a powerful message to the people you meet. It tells them that you’re happy
to see them and you’re enjoying yourself. At the right
time, a smile can make someone feel special. This is an emotion that you want to create everywhere you go. My suggestion is to practice smiling at every person you meet. This includes friends, co-workers, strangers, and even the cashier at your local McDonalds! While you might think this is easy, it’s actually a lot harder then you would think. Most people aren’t used to smiling at strangers. But I promise that giving a smile to everyone you see can dramatically improve the way others treat you! A dazzling smile is probably the best way to attract a woman. If you don't smile naturally, take the time to practice it. It’s an incredible tool that can be your secret
weapon. By following this recommendation, you’ll develop
the habit of smiling as a reflex every time you approach a woman.
Finally, I want to quickly discuss one of the ‘sticking points’ when it comes to smiling. Some guys have physical problems with their mouth (like stains on their teeth or bad
In my opinion, there’s no excuse for not smiling. If you have a ‘busted grill’, then do something about it! Brush 2-3 times a day, floss and regularly use breath mints. If you have permanent damage to your teeth, then go to a dentist. Never let an easily fixable problem prevent you from attracting a woman.
#3 – Your Eye Contact
The eye contact you establish with people delivers a powerful message. It can tell someone that you’re either a dominant or submissive person. And since we’re focusing on developing a Superior Alpha Male personality, you want a woman to see you as a dominant guy!
As we’ve discussed, eye contact is different with each
gender. With guys, a lengthy gaze is often seen as a challenge. While I recommend you make strong eye contact with everyone you meet, you don’t want to start a fight. I suggest you make eye contact with men, but don’t do it to the point where you get your ass kicked.
With women, you want to establish dominant eye
contact. A simple strategy that I suggest is you look at
her eyes about 1 second longer then what’s normally socially acceptable. You’ll notice that this technique can actually have an amazing affect on how you’ll be perceived by females.
Strong eye contact is one of the ways to demonstrate a
sexually confident attitude. With the right kind of gaze,
many women will be intrigued by your boldness and will give you an opening to approach them.
Now if you have problems with lowering your eyes whenever you meet someone’s gaze, then I recommend
you try this simple exercise. Spend one day making eye
contact with every woman you encounter. Do what I
suggested before and hold it just a little bit longer then most guys would. When you do this enough, you’ll train yourself to give women a powerful gaze!
Making Adjustments to Your Body
Language
Body language is a projection of your internal thoughts and feelings. When you’re in a positive state,
you’ll be more likely to show an upbeat attitude that’ll be more attractive to women. To exhibit a confident aura, you have to have to make sure you maintain a “positive
state”.
When you’re not feeling particularly happy or comfortable, it becomes a challenge to maintain confident body
language. In a way, your attitude can declare your low self-esteem like a flashing neon sign. There is no distinction between the mind and the body. If you're feeling insecure, then your body language will reflect this attitude.
In order to affect a positive and lasting change to your body language, you have to become acutely aware of what
your non verbal communication says about you. Then,
practice the techniques that I’ve previously discussed. One of the ways to dramatically improve your body
language is to do an evaluation every 30 minutes when you’re in a social situation. During this “spot check”, you’ll do a quick review of the mannerisms that you’re displaying. For instance, here are some questions you can ask yourself:
λ “Am I in a positive state of mind?”
λ “Am I smiling?”
λ “Am I making eye contact with people?”
λ “Am I demonstrating any approval seeking behavior?”
λ “Am I giving off the right kind of energy?”
λ “Am I demonstrating a relaxed vibe?”
λ “Am I being a fun guy?”
With this evaluation, you’re quickly monitoring your body language then making the appropriate changes. Doing this on a regular basis can have an amazing impact on how you’re perceived by people. Eventuall, you’ll arrive at the point where you won’t even think about what to do. Your
body will do it naturally!
Now before we move on, I want to emphasize the importance of not obsessing over your body language. While you want to monitor your behavior, you don’t want to overanalyze it to the point where you become an
“emotional basket case”. Fix what you can and then move
on!
If you still have problems, even after doing this exercise, then you might need to get some outside help. An easy way to evaluate your body language is to ask for the opinions from the people you trust. Get your friends to give their honest (even brutal) opinion about your non-verbal communication when you’re in a social situation. Furthermore, you can try teaming up with a friend who is also interested in improving his dating skills. After going out, the two of you can give constructive criticism to each other about the mistakes you’re making.
Finally, I have another “quick fix” way to improve your body language. You can try my movie technique. One night when you go out, pretend that a camera is constantly
behaving as if many people are watching your every move. The sensation of being closely monitored, even an
imaginary one, will help you identify specific body language that you would like to change.
Your body language can communicates all the traits that women find attractive. When you monitor and make adjustments, you’ll dramatically improve the message that you send women. So do the exercises I discussed in this section and you’ll experience a dramatic improvement to your body language!
Speaking in a High Status Manner
A lot times, it’s not the words you say that’s attractive to women. It’s how you say them. A man with a confident and powerful voice can be very seductive a woman. Someone like this doesn’t even really to say that much. With just that sound of voice, he can easily attract women.The way you speak to a woman can often determine
your success. Developing a powerful voice can be an incredible way to demonstrate a naturally attractive vibe. When a woman is turned on by how you say stuff, you won’t have to work as hard at thinking of stuff to talk about. As a result, it’s important to work on your speech and develop what I like to call “High Status Speech”.
In order to develop this behavior, here are four areas that you need to concentrate on:
1 – Your Speed
Guys often show their anxiety and nervousness by talking too fast during a conversation. The Low Status Males have a tendency to talk to women in a rapid-fire manner. This is usually resulted from a feeling that they have a limited
amount of time to impress a woman. So they feel the
need to talk fast as possible to cover the “important” things.
Unfortunately, rapid speech doesn’t help you demonstrate a confident personality. It usually comes out as a garbled mess that women find hard to follow. When talking to a guy like this, a woman is often left with her head spinning.
A confident speech pattern is slow and clear. A guy
who talks this way doesn’t fly through his conversation. Instead he knows the things he says are interesting, so he isn’t too concerned with taking some time.
One of the best ways to develop this type of speech is to monitor your speed. You’ll find that many times you talk
too fast, especially in an uncomfortable social
environment. When this happens, make it point to cut your speed down to about half of what it normally would be.
Furthermore, another great technique to try is the
deliberate pause. This is a conversation tactic where you
purposefully stop the conversation right before you say something interesting. It’s a powerful way to get a person to hang on your every word. Plus, a little suspense goes a long way. You want a woman to wonder what you’re going to say next!
2 – Your Volume
The volume of your speech is another way to demonstrate your level of confidence. A Superior Alpha Male speaks loudly because he knows people want to hear what he has
to say. Conversely, a weak guy tends to have a soft, low
voice.
Now in order for you to build attraction through your conversation, you have to be heard. If your voice isn’t loud enough, then you’ll quickly lose interest from women. This is especially true when it comes to noisy venues like bars or clubs.
Since you generally have to talk over ambient and
competing noise, it’s important to become comfortable
with speaking in clear, commanding voice.
You may feel uncomfortable speaking this way, but trust me; you will be quickly ignored if you try to engage a woman with a soft meek voice.
Try practicing at home by reading from a book. You want
to carefully read the words and speak in loud voice in a natural manner without shouting. A quick tip is to
pull the air from your diaphragm, not your chest.
3 – Your Modulation
A monotone voice can quickly put a person to sleep. A great example of this can be seen in the movie “Ferris
Bueller’s Day Off”. In one funny scene the teacher (Ben
Stein) puts his entire class to sleep with his monotone, boring voice.
Don’t talk to people like a robot! Nobody wants to
listen to a voice with no emotion or passion. An expressionless voice does little to attract attention. It’s actually one of the quickest ways to demonstrate that you probably live a boring existence.
To develop a more interesting speech pattern, you have to
learn how to modulate your voice. To do this, you
practice using your voice to express different emotions. This can include humor, anger, sadness, and happiness. Furthermore, try fluctuating the volume and speech patterns whenever telling a story.
A great way to learn how to modulate is to listen to a famous comedian or radio personality. You’ll hear how
they can express a wide range of emotions through the power of their voice. Record some of these guys and then practice the way that they speak. After awhile, you’ll learn how to develop a rich voice that’s full of interesting
nuances.
4- Your Pitch
Women go crazy over a deep voice. Now, most of us aren’t blessed with a powerful voice. But it is something you can develop. Through a bit of practice, you can learn how lower the pitch of your voice whenever in a social interaction.
The trick to deepening your voice is to speak directly
from your diaphragm, not your throat. You should pull
all your sound from your core. Take deep breaths and
imagine the air being pushed out from your lower stomach. This is similar to the training that they do in the military. You’re simply developing a commanding voice without taking any sound from your throat.
To practice this technique, place the palm of your hand on your diaphragm and speak. If you feel that the sound is coming from your throat, then you’re doing it wrong. You want to feel a vibration emanate from your chest. Keep practicing till you can consistently pull sound from your diaphragm.
Some Examples…
It’s been said that one of the physical traits that woman likes in a man is a masculine voice. The problem it’s hard to describe what this sounds like. So, my best advice is to listen to the men who have a powerful way of
speaking. For instance, here some men who are widely regarded as having attractive voices.
λ Winston Churchill
λ Barry White
λ Barrack Obama
λ James Earl Jones
λ Sean Connery
λ Howard Stern (and many other radio personalities) Each of these men have trained their voice to provide a soothing sound to the listener. I recommend you listen to
audio recordings of these guys and see how they use all
four elements that I discussed in this section. You’ll find each one of them talks in a slow, deep manner that uses a wide range of emotion!
Conclusion
Well we’ve the end of the Seductive Body Language report. I hope you learned something about
communicating with women on a non-verbal level and why it’s important for creating attraction.
Just remember that 90% of the message you send women is done on an intuitive, level where you don’t have to speak a word. So if you want to project a confident, masculine attitude, you have to ensure that your body language is telling women the right things.
By following the advice that I outlined in the book, you’ll have a powerful demeanor that’ll attract women, on a subconscious, yet primal level!
Good Luck!
