Sex Games

ANNE

HOOPER

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Dorling

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Kindersley

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CONTENTS

Introduction 6

The Rules of the Game

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Losing your Inhibitions

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Playing with Props

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A Change of Scene

II4

Getting Wet

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Dining with a

Difference

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X-Rated

Games

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Happy Ann

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Bedtime S

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GREAT SEX (:AMES

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The sexiest relationships I have enjoyed were those where trust and exciteme1tt were so profound that my partner and I felt we could do absolutely anything in bed. "Anything" included spontaneous lovemaking, routine lovemaking (nothing wrong with that}, and playing at sex games.

1 didn't arrive at games playing until I had gained confidence, bur I'm ver>' glad Igor there. I've had fun- I wouldn't have missed it for a1tything. Yet, to begin with, it wasn't eaS>' 10

6

INTRODUCTION

play. I found it difficult to understand that if games are going to remain erotic you have to stay firmly in the character that the game decrees. Everything depends on not being allowed to change )'Our mind halfway through. For example, if you suddenly stop being strong and

instead become wimpish, the illusion is instantly shattered. And good sex games are all abour creating illusion and stirring up the imagination.

So, tO aid and abet every potential Games Masrer or Nlistress, I have outlined in this lirrle book a few potent tips to get the blood running and the juices flowing (figurarively speaking, of course).

CREAT S£X GAMES

HOW Til~ BOOK WORKS

Likr an)' gJme, tt St'< game must have rules. h cannot funcrion without them. So the first section o( the book looks specifically at \\holt 1t IS chat )'OU hope ro get out of games playing. And 1t line~ up ~me b.ls•c rults that art absolutely necess.Jry to tn_)uf't \\h,u )OU are gomg ro do is both tff«ti\·e and ~rc. The fir>t games art low-key and promote the growth or acctpu.n(e and trusr. Tht'SC art followed at various pomiS rhtOu,~:hom the rcxc b)' .. Sctnarios ... Scenarios are sexual Mones that you might like tO act out with your Jo,·tr or quitt simpl)' read out loud in bed on a warm summer·s afternoon. The later

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INTRODUCTION

games involve using "x roys, pun1shmcm and reward systems, mild restraint, and fctishmte Sp«l;tiiUC>. (n order to practice punishmtr~t :and ~'"ud, you n~ to bt (;~miliar with some pretty powerful inccntt\·cs. I outline these m my final chapr« and hope that they go a long way toward completely blowing rour mind - not to mcnuon ocher pe1ns of rour body.

l don't believe: that it is only unusual people: who play sex games. I think the most ordinary among us naturally play like children when we arc with someone: we adore. [simply offer a few fun ideas for sex gnrnc~. ((you want ro rake them on board, I hope you have a great time. lf you don't., I just hope you have an enjoyable read.

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\Virhour rules there can be no game.

This

doesn't

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that you are

forced to

stare

the

rules formally between the two of

you.

However,

it

docs mean that

you

must

establish the

limits of a game

clearly

to yourself,

must be prepared to sti

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to

them whatever happens, and must nor

hesitate ro talk them through with your

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o( a Carnes :llas<u/Mistr<SS comt'S dutetly from the darl:u caverns o( ffll<l(;l. l'•tl") dommatrix is a Games .Misutss. E\·tty malt commanding stx .. sla,·es"

is a G:arnes ~hmer.

h need not be so extreme, but the concept o( the Games Master/Mistress is a good one.

i=irst, ir implies that someone is in charge, which can be reassuring ro nervous beginners. Stocond, becoming Games Mas:rer or MistrtSS is the ba.sas of SOmt' entertaining g;,mmg m 1rstlf. Thtrd. m order to be a ~:taSter or ~t1.smss )'OU om! to hc trustWonhy and dtptndablt- n01 ptrhaps rhe qualtria: you rna)' ha,·e fine thought of. Men and wO<nen who play ''" games are often more trusting than couples wnh more traditional relationships.

So here are the aims ar1d the rules of the g.Jme.

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it-IF. AIM OP Tilt. GAMii

YOUR AIMS

What you wa111 to promote • Your panner's rrust. • Your panner's excnemem. • Your panner's eager anUci~Uon. • Your pan:ntr's X·rat«i unotgmauon. • Reassurance rhat your own behavior IS acceptable.

• The self-belie( thar you con lead the game well. • Your

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arousal.

• Truly itnagin:nivc way{j ro experience sex.

\tlhar you waut to pre~111 • Scaring your panntr.

• Taking your panner roo far, roo fasr. • Huning, or in an)-";J.)' rhrc3tenmg. your partntr hcyond what you havt cstobhshcd as mutuaUr accepr3bl~. In m:IR) countr.ts St)(;U.ll acriviries thar im·olve ph)·sicJII) hurung others. even if rhey are consenting aduh'), is 1lltgal. • Losing co~trrol of yourself when you arc the Gam<.-s Master/Misrrcss.

TUE RULES OF THE. CA;\·1E

ESTABLISHING A CODE WORD If you ar< playing a sex game in wh.ch your ~rt~r is at rour mere)', )·ou may ~ makmg a m1srake if you stop the action the first ttme )·our partner asks you to do so. This l i btcaust although your partner may be a little =red, the) may also be delighted at the same time. The l'\~o·o emotions often go hand in hand. .. Stop, srop,"' can actually sometimes mean ··This is amazi11g, please don't stop ... So how can )'OU rell when you really ought ro srop?

The solution to the problem is to establish a code word. This can be 3 word that you ha\'t agreed to beforehand that indisputably moans •Stop right now ... The minute the code word

IS uuer~, )·ou must always stop immecharely.

llowc,·cr. using: a code word is l't'.tll)· on!) su1table betw«n lovers who know each ocher wtll. In a firsr·time sex situation, actions of this kind could '"ell be interpreted as aggressive.

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THe AIM Or Tttr CAME

YOUR ACTIONS Moves )'OU may make • You may:

touch; fondle; caress; stroke; offer fantOISICS: 2-Sk for fantasies; use sc~ toys.

• \Vith your partner's consent )OU m~y:

establish a sarety codt- word; dominarc; submit; use light bo11dage; tempt~ tickle; ranralize; photograph; usc sex toys; tell call stories.

Moves you may not make

• Take the aaion beyond the ngr<ed limits. • Disregard a parmrr·s use or the sarery code word.

• Expose a panner publ.cly (and thts mdudes showing photographs or )'OUr se'ual aCU\'Itin

to others).

• Bring in any third party (unless thts is by firm murual consent).

• Physically or emotionally hurt or damage your lover.

TIIC RULES OF THE CAME

GAINING EACH OTHER'S TRUST As we discuss the use of safety code words 1n sex g.oamn~ it becomes clear that

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order for any '"safety agreement• to work, you and your panner must trust each other implkirly. Wuhout complete trust~ sex gotmes simply do not work. There's not a lot of point in sening

up elabor;lte safety pr<Cllutions if deep down you fe01r your wishes will be disregarded in any case. If you are tense and nervous, your own sexual experience will be nt bes-t poor nnd at worst threatening. In such circumstances,

the first rule of the game is: DON'T DO IT.

YOUR FIRST ~10VES Your OWII personal ruks

Establish your own uusrwonhiness tn the rorloes< days of the rebtionship by stopping any ocm oty

the m1nute )'Our partner indjcates that thi:s i$ what they wam. (By chis I am not advocating

restraint games-J am srressing the importance of setting up trus-t at the very outset.)

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TI1E AIM Of' 1'11E GAM£

lntrodua: your partner 10 :aspects of your world other than sex. Ltt rhtm St't you in the conttxt of rour friends, and of your fntnds'

good opinion of you. TIN mort you O{Wn "P

to th.,.., tin more su11re they t<•ll {ul. Thonk '"honest"" to yourself. fn order for someone ro find you reliable, you actually must w rehable.

\VIJat yo11r part11er sho11ld bo able 10 expect • Th<tr you see them a~ n SCpllr.ue, vulncrnble human being.

• That you will ask thrrn about their feelings.

• That you will truthfully sr:ue dctgils about

yourself. If you are ntr\'OUS, s..l)' so. But he

positive as well, saying something hke: '"The

rruth is that I ha.·m't done much of thos kmd of thing before. But I get a strons sense from

knowing )"OU dtat thiS IS goang 10 fttJ gtC3t.~ • That you will gi .. ·e your p:~rtner ume 1f that

·~ what they want. The mort l~lld bJck you are about getting into sex g.:unes, the more your partner will tniSt you.

LOSING YOUR

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you wanr to

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ayer, you

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to possess a fair degree of

self-confidence.

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The moves on

the

following pages are

designed ro help you

lose inhibitions

and

establish a sense that anyrhjng you do

with your lover is great by them!

LOSING YOUR INHIBITIONS

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Gam<S play= ar< ofr<n bolder and mor< dra1naric rhan romanttC loYtl"S. And

s-ince drama doesn•r come spontantOusly ro t\'errone, this next S«fion outlines

some possible prelimin;try imc:tc:~t~.

SETTING THE SCENE

Jr's nor just your own actions that make a ~xual encounttr sp«i31-It can

~ the ambience of the room that you a~ using. A goc:hic bedroom wnh an

iron four·post<r bed and blood·r<d drapes is naturally gomg to make a stronger impact than a shabby room, with a broken-down wJrdroix': in one corner and a chair with one ltg missing in the other.

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TAKE 'TIIINCS Cf'NTLY

REHEARSAL IS GOOD

If you feel nervous. remember that r<hearsal helps. There is no law ro say rhar you an~r r:tke ume to t-<plore rour fanrasitS. You might s<an by Stmply ulkong them through. That way. you "ill f .. l safe. And wh<n )'OU see that not hong awful happens, <hen perhaps you woll ~ a liulc bolder ne« rime.

juSt because you r<he.usc somcrhiolg scxu.1lly doesn't mean thai it must be artif.cial. In fact, if it fetls thott way, then you may need ro rake things very slowly indct-d. '111e whole point about anything sexual, be it quick or slow, is rh:u ir 4ihould f~l wonderful.

Going into new sex ideas slowly, so th~t they are graduated, is a way of r~ssuring borh yourself :and a nervous lover. Afrtr all, mos< people do look for "hand-holding• as thty disco•·cr new sexualla)·trs ro their pc:rsonalny.

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AI wars remetnbcr-nobod)' has to play any s<< g.1me they doslike. You c3n say '"NO!'". rlght from the ourser.

LOSINC YOUR INIIIBITIONS

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One of che best se• skills chac you can l<am as

che an of truly letung go. ThiS means feeling complecdy 31 home in your bod)• and focusmg

exdusi,·ely on 1he eroiiC sensations thai you are giving and rtcti,·mg.

SEXUAL SELF-CRITICISM

\'t'e ofcen worry abouc wh•c "elook hke durmg Kx. R:nhtr than g1vmg ourwlvtS up ro rht

momtnr, an mntr ,·oice 5a)'$ chings hke, "I must look

nd1culou.s! .. We an fall inro

che rmp of feeling anx1ous about how we smell, tasrt or even sound. All ol chese

concerns can diminish our sexual repertoire

so that:

EROTIC BODY CONPIDENCE

• we srop making love with the light on

• we stop making love in cenain positions • we may refuse sexual acts that we: enjoy because we feel ~If-conscious.

LOVE YOUR BODY

The answer co this problem IS twofold. First, make an effort ro keep your

body in <he best possible shape.

~lake an obi«ri\'C 3sst$Smtnl

or

rour body :;md then decide i( you want tO

change anrthing. Sut remember: never ny co conform to idtalized mtdia images of anracri,·tntss. Simply aim for sm311 improvements that will make you feel sexually confident. Stcond~ if you can't change anyching, then learn to love your body exactly che way it is. If you do chis, your parrn<r w•ll feel the same. People always respOnd to those who are posiuve. Being open and uninhibited are rwo of the sexiest qualities n person can possess. Also, :tsk yourself if you C\1_{Cr re.lll)'} scrutinize your p;trtner•s body during sex? If you don't, rhen isn't it highly unlikely chat chey will do ir co you?

LOSINC YOUR INHI8JT10NS

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When d~ing for St"X, tht ruks are s1mplt. Wear t&ght dorhes that t:mphas•7c the cuncs and contours of your body and draw tht C)'t

10 rhc genitals, chest, or bunocks. Clothes should b< extremely dirf.cult to take o((

(lhe idea being thnt you tease your

partner into submission while remaining inaccessible), or

extremely co1sy ro remove.

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LOOK THE PART If you ort gomg lo play sex games. )'Oil wa,lto look afld ful sexy ati!Jc outset.

SEXY OKtSSII'IG

Subvert your normal dress codC"S: 1f )'OU drns down in your e-·eryday life, drrss up for sex. I( you normally drrss very """"'rvati,·dy, drns prOvOCltiVtly. Shockmg your panner by

wearing $()m("'hing uM"Cr«ted ai"·OJ)'S has erortc powt:r. Add realism to fanta~ by dnessmg the par1 -devOte a special par1 of your wardrobe to st< pm<$. If (as a female) you usually wear

pale, quiet cosmec:K:s, try cxpc:rimcnnng wnh dttp crimson lip-stick. Huge dark lips arc seen as unavtN.111y sensual. And guys, don't forget, somc wol'nen love men who wear eye shadow.

THROW A FANCY DRESS PARTY

The condition of cntr)' is that guests must dress as their

favorite ~xual fcrish or famasy.

• Tight, shon leather- anything made of !rather- has sado-m:asochistic O\'tnoncs.

• Fal.e fur- this suggests d«adtnce. tspecially if you a~ iUked beneath a fake fur t03t.

• Uniforms- symbols of authonry are always sexy. Dress up as a policeman, fi~man, docror, nurse. or reacher. Servant and schoolgirl uniforms suggest )Crvihty and innocence.

• Cross-dressing- try to crt:.ttc at least a moment's uncertainty

as ro your true gender.

LOSJNC YOUR 1NH181TJONS

FUN

WITH SEXY

Underwear has an important symbolic value

in that it is rhe last item of clorhing you

remove before sex. \Vhen u1\derwear ls silky and SC>.J', it can have a wonderful aphrodisiac effect, making you feel great and ensuring that

your partner is longil1g to ger their hands on you.

SEXUAL SHORTHAND

As with. any cosnmlC, underwear can help you play a sexual role wirh conviction. If you are

a woman and you w:.1nt tO play innocent

and virginal, choose pure white underwear

in silky fabrics. Confidence and experience is

conveyed by black suspenders, stockings, panties, and bra. lf you want co make a

br.11.en statement of lust, wear a red bustier.

Use u11denvear as a sexual shonhand ro rdl your partner what k_jnd of sex yot• want.

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FUN WtTH SEXY UNDERWEAR

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Take off each other's underwear with your teeth. The onl)' thing you're allowed tO

use

your h:.1nds

for is her bra cl:.1sp.

Men have fewer t)'pes of underwear to choose from but, nevenheless, should nor get complacem about Ullderdothes. Instead, buy something your parmer will find :mractive. Slack, silk boxer shorrs are a good start. If you don't know what she likes, try the follo'\'ing exercise.

EROTIC UNDERCLOTHES

Draw up a list with your partner of the types of underwear )'OU

find sexy and those that you cannot stand. Somerhing like: Sexy:

• Tight shorts {men & women) • See-through bras • Black straps • L)'Cra • Bright white underwear u,sexy:

S111rs & Stripes boxer shorts • Anything yellow • Socks • Tights • Strap marks

LO\ING YOUR INHIBITIONS

U ~·ou'rt' not u~ to ~tnppm~ .. tht following tXt"I'CIW' can help. Stand 1n front nf 3 full·ltnF-th mirror. pretend th<n ~ou'rt alone-and \t"l')" slow I)· t.tkc off all of ~·our clothes. Take tunt 10 rtall~ look ~u )"OUr body Ill the mirror and touch }'Our'\elf m whatt\t"r w:1 y you w:un to.

l)f.tJIIf.RATf. lli\QVOCATION

\Vomt, If you .tre complete!)• comfortable undrc:,sm~ fur rour parmrr, ann for dehl">er3te teasing. Look: him in the err and

\lo'' h rtmO\ e rac.:h garmc-nr, caressing rour skin :.ts )"OU go.

\\'htn ,·ou Jrt we;armp; only your undtrwtar, ttOlst h1m h~

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If it makes rou f«l b<tttr, or loss

shy. Itt your man hidt in the ne'\t room and watch you around the

side of the door.

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.. )owing down the

p.tct e,·m more.

t-mall~. tum ' our Nck: on

htm. and shp

'our panr1es off.

\feu There is a right

war and a wrong way of f!C'Illn~

re:,dr for sex. Take ir slowlr. l)on't end up ~t;.1rk naked except for your \oek:,. The best wa)' is to undl't'\~ eac:h orher. C:\'Cn

1t ~·ou e-nd up r1ppmg the clrnht~ off.

TIPS FOR STRIPP"G

• A\Otd garments thou )OU haH co pull O\C'r ~our htad.

• Don't we-ar ughh or sod.\.

• Drop e-ach ~-umrnt on thC'" tloor ~•s '·ou

take u off.

• Wear sexy underwear rhat rour partner h.lS never seel'l before.

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LOSING YOUR IN'HIBITJONS

MAKING

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~ Wear a piece of erotic jewelry under your • l dorhes and ask your lo"er to undress you. Or

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give erotic jewelry as a sexy presem. Choose a \ . / roe ring, ankle bracelet. navel dcconuio•l, or

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~";.;)(~ waist chain. You carl even buy genital jewelry. EROTIC PIERCING

There is a generation of people who associate body piercing with sexual feelings. A ring through rhe nipple, 'her 53}'· feels sensual ro rhem and fascinates their partner. Piercing is ccHainly an excellent way ro draw attention tO a particular part of the bod)', such as navel, lip, tongue, or eyebrow.

TO TATTOO OR NOT TO TATTOO

A tanoo is a major commitment - once the skin has been injected with indelible dye. you gai1l a bod}' adornment rhat

lasts for a lifetime. Nevertheless, many people e1)joy rhe

psychologk.al thrill of having a ranoo. Hidden tattoos, on the

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,\1AKJNG TI-lE BODY EROTIC

n1ner arms. lhighs. and buttocks can be sexy discoveries for

lo\·ers ro make. Even rhe genitals c.an be tattooed.

Less permanent options :ue henna tattoos or those that lasr for lUSt a (ew dars and can be removed with oil. You carl even have

temporary rauoos custom·madc. Give your lover a surprise:

.1pply a temporary t:lttoo and then tell rhem rhat you have a 'l'Crct on your body rhat only they can find.

I HE TATTOO AS ART

f.utoos arc rcga rdcd by m;my people as works o( Illustration. \XIhen you see .. ome of the amn.ing 1.1pancs<.· .. body suirs, .. rou \!t'r an inkling as ro why they might believe this. One heavily tattooed man even wenr so far as to sripulare rhat when he died his skin should !.,..,• removed so that it mighr ~o on permanent display!

LO~INC YOUR INIIII\11 10N~

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Good ~x oftc:n contJ.IO\ Jn tlemc:m of humor •. md u~1n~ bod~

painrs IS :a wonderful W3) to h,\\t tun. t\pl(lrt ~uur partntr\

body. o;;harc-mumac,- and troet~l)nl • .and rt\·tn ro chaldhood .111 at rht sanK umt. Noc U') mtnuon frc:lmJt ~rtac afttrw;~rd!

USE YOUR HA:->I)S A:->0 FI,GF RS

U~ pamts thai -'fC' ~~~ntd for U\t on lfo~t (a(C' Or bod~. and tf

y·ou don'r ha\t an~. unprO\IS<' wuh hP\u,k. i)()n't worn ahou1 u.smg a p.untbru\h - tht Stnsu.ll plta~urt of dappmf! ~-our fingers m the p..llnt ·~ r.ut of the e\ptrlen('t. Or \'OU C:Jn CO\((

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'·our hands m ramt and lta\'t hand prnus all O\tr ea4.:h ocher. Afterward. bathe to{:tthtr 0111d ~oap each ocher\

fHumc:d h<Klr a11 o"er .

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CETTIKC StiXY WITit BODY I•AIN1'\

GAMES

• Usc: glo,v-in-thc-dark paim and turn the li~ht.l off. • Gi,·e your p:lrtner ~• sex change: p.tint brcours on hun nnd J penis on her.

• Paint a fruit planer on your parmer's

bod>·

u~mg the cun·t"S Jnd contours of the bodl to suggest the fru1h.

• Paim her nipples ;~nd then t;~kc prmt~ on a blank

sh..,,

o( pap<r.

• Or.1w patterns on her buttocks and then jo:C't

her to "u on you.

• Blind(old your panncr and then color-.:ode difftrtnt parrs of thtu boch. Asl them to chOOW" a ~olor and then Stimulate that .area.

• \X'rne a stxual fa\·or on your ~nncr's b~ck.

l'tut don't ddivcr 1t until they guess what 11 ·~· • Lick oH <dibl< paims.

-I OliiNG YOUR. INHIBITIONS

The skm tS the body·s most un.x,..~~ploucd \tX organ. ~1assagmg ,·our potrrner ts .1

utuque wa>' to fed close_ gin 01nd t"tcetH

hhs)ful sensations and kindle paS!ttOn.

Mas.!tage c01n be a sensual excrc-ist m ItS own

ri~hr or a prclodc tO sex. You don'r need ~til)'

spccinl skills in nrdcr to perform scnsu01l massage-ju10t )'Our h;111ds .tnd a \'1\'id imn.~in;uion.

ASSHlBil YOUR MASSAGE PROPS

~l:.lcc a props bo' for massage games. This is uthcr hke .t

chaldrcn's tO~ bo\ t\cept that. mStead of tO}S. )OU filln \\llh ot d1\ tf'St assortment of f.tbncs. household lttmto~ and other r•mlc obi«"· Pt<k obJects that feel soft and comfonon11. such as s1lk scan~. feathers. soft make-up brushes. and furr)' fabno but also mclude things that pro\'oke non~l sensauons. For e~arnt>lc, ~ rubbtr glove. a hairbrush. a rolling p111.

n punucc ~tone, a tennis ball, a furry paim roller

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~EN~UAL MA\\t\GE

!clean!}. some smooth p<bbl~. some piJSuc food wrnp, a ribbon.

• string of beads. a pm, a forl. a pt«e of leorher, and some PVC. :"\ow you·re- all St1 to ttSC )Our ~nnn-\. sensory sk1lls.

A SE:-ISORY VOYAGE

Ask your partner to he do" n and put on a blindfold so that he conccmrarcs exdush·d)' on rhe ~en~:1t10ns he tS about to

receive. Tell him that he I ) gotng to be treated to a tactile fe:.tst. Smrt b)' stroking hun with a

makc·up brush on his remplcs, then his

hurtocks. then the soles of hi< feet. The ··massage .. rhat follows should I~ ns diverse .md crt":Jti\'e as pOSsible. For example. drag rhe fork lightly across ho< chesr;

10\INC )'0UK INHIBITIONS

tt')C h•s scnsmnt)' to tmr pm-pnd::s .311 o'er his body; c:trt"SS ht' grnorJI< "orh thr ru~h<r glo-e: use t~ hairbrush to brush h11

puhic haor: press lM !X'bbi<S onto tho palms of hiS hJnd<. mJS<>j:< tho ha<Ls of hi\ thtghs ""h t~ rolling pin. Tty tOU<hons h1>

~morals worh all those dilf<rmt obt«t>· ~l.akt ~·our m.3ssagt as inreracri\'t a~

po~1blc. Ask quesuon~ such .•s:

"Cm )'0" feelt/Jis?"

"Om you {eel it bcr~r ''Do )-oulik~ tb.~t?"'

Pan oft~ fun of tho mJ<<>t:< is asking tht r«iplf'nt to J!Ut~~

\\·hat the ffi3Ss=lgt tO~ IS (and S«tng h•s f,tct when he finds om later on). ~IASSAGE-THF. BA~IC~ h's also an opponuniry ro

d~>eovcr which partS of r()ur lo\tor's bodr aft' mosc

anJ

lt-.rn r«<pth·r to dtll<mll 'YIX'S of tOU<h -\Jiu.tbk Information dut }Otl c.tn score up and usc

later whtn )"Ou make 10\'t.

The only guidelines (or p.ivin~ :' llHW>:tp.e are: keep )'Our hands in contact with the skin as much a~ po~s•blt. nsk fot feedback, and don't do anythmg th:n hurts. You can make your massage

~uokes good and smooth h~ U\tnP, m:~s.uge o1l on your hands. Ask your panntr to ht n:.ktd on a warm to" el.

You don·r nt'fil 311 t'(~n·s reptnoue of strokes to give a good nussagt: JUSt rt"membtr ro use- dttp l.nt.ldmg pressure on muscular areas such 35 tht shoulders. h.ack. buttocks. 3nd rhighs.. and gc-nclc (e;uhcnntt )trokc:~ on dclu:atc arc-as such as thr lace, joints. and belly. If 111 doubt, use a grntlc gliding stroke with flrtf hands all over rhe body.

I 0 \INC YOUR INI-IIHITIONS

LEARNING TO El'JOY

J#!To-aclt

Belt~'~ It

or

not. SC"Ir-couch 1$ a good way of l~ammg to f«-1 confid~m -or at lnsct confident in rourself. TherapiSts worlmg with women t'Cptriencmg difficulry reaching org.'lsm found ch~u the more they itOt to know thcir bodies and sexual responses. rhc more ccrrnu1 the women felt nl><)tlt mher aspecrs of their lives.

Hert'4l how to proceed. J)rcpare in advance. Make sure you

have a wanQ, comfonable room, and above alit complete pn,·ac)·· Thmk about any erotic props that you would like to

uSC': 3 book o( ~\iu.1l fantasies. massage 011, a sex toy. or s1mplr a ~b~~ of'' me. Thrn makc sure these art dose to ,·ou. TAKE IT SLO\\IY

Don't be m a rush to undress - srart br touching yourself through your clothes and cor1centrare on the ,•arious sc-nsat1on~ in a W3)' that you may nor have time to with a partner. R.uher

than touchm~ )'Our gtr1it<~ls straight away, caress your lip11. neck, n1pple\, nnd belly with your fingertips.

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LEARNJNC TO FNJO'' S£Lf·TOUCH

TEASE YOURSELF

Slowly undrt'$$ rourstlf. Pur somt n1a,sagc otl on rour hand~ and txplort rhe conrours of your body. If )Ou find,,..., of musclt tension, knead rh~m awa\ With ~·our hands. Srrokt and rub )Our

pubic area and bt1nockst but don·, acruall)' rouch rour genirols. Kttp your<elf

aroused by touchin,;

erogenous arcns o( your body then starr ro fleetingly touch ~·our genitals. Focus on rhe sensations all over your bod)

;and lis.t~n carefully to your breathing. ~lake a nOise 1f )·ou tt'd like it and In ~·our mmd wande-r into trofic famas>·· ~ow concentrate

more on your

genitals, but resist rhe

t.O~ING YOUR INHIBITIO~\

urge to ma~turh:HC' to O'ltJ.Sm. If you art" getting roo e\:cucd. slow dm\n. l>rttC'nd that you are teasing a)o,C'r. In thl\ \\.1\. l«p youN"II on th< brmk ol orpsm lor l0-30 mmutcs.

AFTER PI A)

\~hen )Ou h3\C' rta,hed orgasm. don't Jump up omd f.!t't dre-ssed. ln\te.td. II<' back and cnjo~· the post-org.·umac feclanJtS of rcla,anon. Close: )'Our eyes and concentrate on hre~uhms.: dt"tpl). 1\hl\'C' )'Our palms in btg cirdes .-round your belly :uld, if you feel like 11. drilt oil into n light sleep.

Clt.\:-<(.1 YOUR ROUTINE

•

•

₎

Be <''pcrimcnral when you masrurh:uc. ()o than~~ tho:u you wouldn't norma II~ do. Tou(h

yoorsdf "1th dtfftrrm

I

I.EARNIN(': TO I NJOY H LF-TOUCH

,

f

c

ti0/1

I

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M

Think of the sessaon u 1n aet of srlf-lo'<'· BC'Jic,-e rhar you ckscn·e ('\'C'r} erotl( st'll\;IUOn th.u ~ou <.:m SI\C' rourself. Don't jUR obtdw:mh sc:roke )Out ~ktn. \bke rhts an OCC'3Sion for gi\·ing yourwlf .1 scn~ual umC' an m.1n> wa~·s-htnct" the suggesrion of a drmk. You mtJtht lik<' to put on gorgeous music, or curl up on a ~hccpd.:111 r\tg. Don't hrsitale to add massag<" oil or a vibrator, tf that jf; what you would like.

textures- a silk scarf or a 'rrin~ of he.u.b. ~l."hll'h:ue in front

of rhe mirror, looking ar )·our,elf from dtffc.·rcnt angles. Cover your<clf in oil. Put ynur ftn~er' nl your mouth and <'Xplore ,·our rongur and the in\td<" nf \'OUr l'h«h. Describe what ~·ou are domg out loud. \b,turhatr \\tth thr other hand. Do it m

3n unu\uJI place". Be 1mcnthr ,,;th hou«h<~d prop•. And r<m<mh<r

I OS INC YOUR I~HIBITION\

SHA

RI

NG

!YaataJ;teo

Sh;mng a fanras~ as ch~ bnr son o( spomane'Ou .. ~x ~:.tmt. Thcrt ut lors o( ways o( actmg our the blue mo,•es of your imagmar.on: )'OU c.:'Jn wear costumes. you can d«orate your bedroom. or you cJn rt:ly purely on imagination and rolt·play.

Get rogerhcr with your partner, and discuss the fnmasies thnt you eniO)', tho~e that )'Ou :lre ambivalent abour, omd the ones chac you dislike. This helps estahli<h che ground n•les for game-playmg. 8t

complerdy hon~st, bur also he non-judgmental. You can txpl;un to

your p3rtner rhat ,·ou don't w.1n1 ro ~~-a panicular (anus,. bur

don·, criticize rh~•r ~xu3l1r~·.

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focu~ on

somtonc who IS

~IIAI~INC I ANrASIE!t

nor your IO\'tr, r~ad wuh cauuon. Ahhough you may know that rou ha,·~ no tnttnuon o( ~1«-pm~ '' nh your new colleagut" at work~ you an e<astl~ m3kt your p;~nn~r fed ln.s«u.r~.

E:-;ACTI:-IC FA:"TASIF.S

ChOOM 3 fa,·orire S(''( scent from a f·lm. such as the food S«ne

m 91

1 \Veeks. and reootn;u;r •t m the St1mc pl<~<."e with the same props. \'\1_{atch your sex scene 10 .1 rmrror for a cinematic c((ect.} \'Cirite dowu difft'rt'nt famas}' roles or clunlcttrs or1 pieces of paper. For ex.-.mple. :;l:we, teacher. virgin. or

prisoner-or maybe someone famous-:u1d then interact in character.

Pick a fantasy rheme and deror.ttt rour be-droom 10 th3t 5tylt- m.nbe .1n onenral boudotr. a Kmtld Surra·

~·le palace bedroom. a bcodoutn tern

or a dm full of ~' CO)~

EXPLORING TABOOS

Some people '"·orrr that the~r (ant;Ut~S

are a sign o( a deviam scxuahty. for instnnce, frunasies about the same 5('<,

I 0\ING YOUR I~HIBITION\

or~'\': uwol\llljo\ fore<'. can make people fed worriNI :1bout thetr un,on!.CIOU\ mom·toS. Attua11y. the mosr common rxplan.1non tor f.:anraf>tn IS rh;.11 we arc naru1'31ly drawn ro rhmg., d\JI wr pcr(CI\t J\ torbtddcn. n.JuJt}u-~-. or taboo. H0\'1.'('\·tr. ahhou~th chnc c-. boos arc (f"()(]c in our lfNI~Inataon~

we don't us.u;~lly want tht-m to h.:appm m r<al hfe. b<cau"' rhey would probohh

.tffttt the "safe." e"eryda~· m1a~c:-s rh.n we proJect. lf ~·ou ha\'e a fant;l~r that

)'Ou are ner\'Ous about, here 1:, a g~ulte to help you.

SHARINC I ANTA'ICS

£hmlafY ,

l'toajJjJtiW

RC'\·caling fanusits takes cour.age. \X'e may fc:ar shocking our pamxr or bring rhe ob)<a o( humor. ndocuk. or .-om disgusr. The wa~· to O\'tf"COmf chis as. to makt a pact 10 t.akt rums to swap fantasies. Scan gnnl)'. and prog,ttSS-1\tlr .spi« up your

fanms•es. The only 01hrr rule is thou your rcsp«tl'-e fanmsies must be of equal .. \';tlue'". For instance, if rour partner describes an exoric fam.uy. then yours must be equally wild.

COriNG WITH FEARS

Choose one -strand'' or .t~Jle(t of \uur (.tllt.lS~ ~kltd explain it

to ~·our p.anner. Tite -.tr:and \'OU <.:hoo)o(' !lhould be symbolic and should capture thr mo~t erotu,; J\pt'(t o£ ,-our fanrasy. For e-<:ample. if you famastu ahoUI ~•n~ot forr;;td to ha'e sex by .:a stromger. tell your partner rhat \OU Y.OJnl h1m 10 make to,-e to ,·ou when you are lt-.Jst t'\':pt\:tm,:: 11 .and 1h.a1 he must cominut' has stductton e'en if ~·ou prore~t. Dun·t for!:tt: 11 IS ,.1ral to

build rules IntO game-. hke th1s. Alwa~~ haH a pre·arrangeJ code \\'Ord th.U tHhCr of ~·ou CJn USC at any point

if you want the ~.1me to stop. (See The Rules of

the Game, 011 page 14.)

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I

LOqNC YOUR INHI81Tl0NCI

CREATING

Jceae&

~test of us th1nk of htdrooms as 1ust places to sl«p. 81$ mistake. I or pbccs to sleep ue nor a1 all the samr .u plat.:t'S en which co h:a\C sex. Tht a1mosphcre is scnouslr deffrrent. GOTHIC RITES

Focu~ )'Our im;tgination on a black wrought·.ron four-poster

bed fc,cooned wuh deep blue drapes that rumblr over the

Slr\lt) .1nd wind MOttnd the posts. The lightin~ IS strl~rl)' ~.:andlr

power. \\'dX dnppmft i\~181F"Cf Gcx"l st.-c .mel ,ooJ StX (JmtS -rt'/Uift tl stX)' Jttt,,spf~rrr. CRI ATINC: ~Cf'NECI

from a sih·er candelabra wh.Je a r<'<l shade tS pulled down across the wmdo\\. What do you ftc'l as )'Ou ~r in. hall·hidd<n b) the gloom? Anticipauon? Curiosity? Fear? Already

~our pulse is racin}! :.nd

your mind roars through a

series of darker possibilitit.·:,. You arc a little aroused

before another move IS m:ule. for n sex game in an atmosphere

like this, you m1ght pretend to ht a monk and a novice nun.

~IOORISH IMAGES

\\ .. e gain td~ of stnsu.aiJt) from '"h;ar "c S« around us. If ~·ou

find )·ourself in a TurkiSh room. for .-ample:, drap<'<l with th< purples and t<'Cls of th< dcS<'n, • lo" pl.rform bed and lay<tS of brightly colored rugs, what do ~·ou thmk of? W'hat comes to my mmd ls crnwlm~ across th:u '''dl" htd, plarmg, mm·emenr, and

exploration - ma)'be prctcndmg 10 be n sl:wc :'lnd the sultan. or the frightene-d virgm seduced h) 1hc p~r.m: of the desert.

LOSING VOUR. INHIBITIO~S

-IK THE BATHROOM

If you w:~nt ro rr:msfonn a room quick!)'· the bathi'Oom is ideal: turn rhc light off and just add candle-s. perfumed oil, bouquets of flowers. :lnd clouds of steam. A beauriful bur casual bt·ach

hmcl in Los Angeles decorates its bathing facilities in rhe

following way: e:~ch bathroom possesses a huge window that

opens into the bedroom so rhar you can sit in ~·our swirling jacuzzi and look through both rooms ro the picture window on rhe far side of rhc bedroom displ:lyi,,g rhe beach a11d the sea. The scene in (,·om ol }'OU is am:1zing: it's g.rcen and blue and bleached ou1. It feels like the best kind of holiday.

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CR.EATJNC SCENE!)

TRANSFORMING YOUR OWN BATH DECOR

Nor everyone has the Pacific Ocean as a

backdrop. bm who is to say we cannot create our own simulated view? Think seriously about faking a window in rhe

bathroom door h}' positioning on the door

a painting or photograph of:

• the sea (stimulates ideas of lat)' summer sexuality)

• rhe sky (Eastem notions of spiriw:;~l sex)

• rhe rrOJ>ical rai11 forest (a1most roo hot to move, dripping

wet as in fevered sex).

ACCESSORIES

Good accessories really make

a sensual b:uhroom. Tr}' lirrle

booklets of love pOetry dotted

around the room, a basket of

sweet-smelling night1ighrs. exotic

bathsalrs, roma1nic music, or a handful

or

fresh crlmson rose petals scattered

<~cross the swirling green waters o( the bathtub.

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PLAYI

NG

WITH

When

you

move

from

the

sensua

l

world

of

massage

t

o

th

at of sex games,

th

e

first

thi

n

g

that

yo

u

ca

n in

co

rp

orate

inro your

love

lif

e

a

r

e certa

in

se

nsual

props

and

accessories.

If

you've

n

ever ex

peri

e

nced

the teasing

of velvet or

the

s

l

ither of

si

lk

across your quivering skin, you

now

have a variety of new joys and

delights

to

anticipate, over the following

pages.

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SEXY

AC

CESS

ORIES

FOR

~lost of the bt-st sex g.Jmn u~ props-ittrns that t"tnd Jnc.f tnhanct rht .li.:U011. If Stta1ghr sex is ~·our t3vomr. rhcn a

'ihrator still mJnagcs to add to the cxcutmcm. If )omethm~ darker gets )'Our pul~c racmg. blindfoldst r~stramr(i, ~~"< w~i. cardull)' chosen presents, or lcucrs that leave you ~rcamn1)t ,,II

extend your e'<pem~nce of se•1sualur. Or'l rhe followu1p. P<'~!:C'i I dcscnbc in detail some chotec uems rhar you mis:,ht ..:on\tder

usinJ.t with your partner to deepen your own shared ~e\u.1l

C'<~rtetl«. Bqtm wnh rhe ha~tc but sensual blindfold.

.

(c/10/t

ltj.M

• Don't uta blindfold tOO 11ght. You will cut tnto ,·our rumcr\ t'\·ti. whtch could bt ,.t~· painful.

• Dnn 'r uc J hhndfold roo loosd~·. (Unltss paru:ll (itght l i n~ll·\1 Jli p.trt of·' game!)

l't''t hltndfolds ~•rc slc:cping masks w11h el.1stic h;~nd;;,

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SEXY ACCF.\\ORit<. I OR l'l.AY£RS

A blindfold offers a stnst of hrlrle•><•l<'<>. h leiS you feel "ulnerabl<. You don't know wfk"~ ~-ou arc

''hm

,·ou wear 1t. You ha\'t no

Jea what obsudcs you m.1\ ht-(3~,.·mg. Your mtnd SCJrts: r.acing as

'"" •magin<' <hr hal3rd> 1ha1 lk' OU<>kk '""' ocubr ra~ Jnd your an.'<~' Jr..·ds JtO up Jnd up.

It ts these swirlmg emooon~ 1h.u 1he ot!t\ltc Gamts \l.hter/~1i.srrcss p•cks up on .md ),,gel) uses. For

l'\Jmplc. mos[ game~ o( rc~tr.Hm tndude some 'ers1on of a so(r ~cari

ttt•d around rhe

t.'' e~ or 01 black 'l·h-cl eye mask. It\ not jusr that '"'(' pla~·rr (~Is ~r('.Utr pnddc~ • s.tnsualiry as •· ~~~ rhere •· ,und ;~nd blmd. It IS ,o thar he offt-rs an

l'f1ot.1ling sight co }'Ou. "h' Games :\lisrrcs.s.

PLAYING \\'111-1 I'ROI'S

SEXUAL

:httiation fltttea

All drt"Ssed up m INther or rubbtr and look10g for SOI1lt'\\ ht-re

to go? \Vh;u abou1 a mp to 1he G.llnlC\ Ac.1dcm>? PerhJ~ ~ou would like to qualify as a Games ~l:.lMer/~t.stre-ss offtl~t.lll~? l~ut ,(you "'ould, )'OU will have w pa~ .. the inititnion rltt''·

(

HI..F THE TEST You and ~·our panntr &:an r.1ke rums trytnF. the

following- thl· rcciptcnt <hould be blindfolded throughout! • 1dtntlf} thc odor'i o( " ' · You'r< oUer<d ,1 \'atle£}' o( Ur\U\UaJ

-.cents and .1~kcd to "JY wh1ch ~-ou J~MKIJtt

\\ith wh.u oasp«r of

the stx a..:t. llu,•)C

\1 "-UAI INITIATION RIT~S

m~ht .ncluck: the ~C'Ilf of ma~ltt o1l, ra,p•muon from the armpit. the odor o( ruhher. seminotl fluid. and v3g!ll.tl juice,,

• ldenufy r.u:ttle tempr;mons. You Jre offered

\Jnet~ of unu .. u.1l mareraals and te\turC'\ co cunmcnt on. Tht<.( mtght tndudt: ~Ilk. ,,lt1n, fur, r~,:.uhcrs. icr. toothpa,tc, or lubttl·:tun~ 1clly.

• Jdemifr rhe accr"m•co:; of restr.1iru. You arc subject·

J to the ,ens.u•an o( l'x-10g. hghth )pdnkc:d t\\'ith a

.

"""

.1oJ '· c.n<d 1 '"'h .1 " " logh"' eo~hl bomboo), p;1ddl<d wnh a

.,,,tf sufde c.u--o'-nmt>rtatl~. or sumuiJied \\ nh a fur mlt. The

j'n7e (or guessm~ r1~h1 ''an extl';'l ~p;1nkmg.

• lc.lel\tif>• the mixture of pleasurt· .and pain. You are subjected t•, ,tunularion wuh tee cutx-s: then ruhbed with deep heat;

.

f

ctio11

l

t/J

~or men and womtn panicularl)' ,u'\ccptible to nipple ~tunul:uion. \OU might hkc to l.;now rhat onC'

nt rhc ~·car 2000\ hnrsclling sex t<l~'"S was the mppiC' c13mp!

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1) Ntpple cl•mps II

I

' dtlachable mrd cbam u~rglus rntiJ

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f

~

_s,

~

••

having )'Our ears softlr brearhcd into. then nibbled~ ro fedin,g your neck kissed. licked. and then sofd~· bitten: to h~\'ing )'Our

nipples first sucked. then lightly bitten.

• The Stallion. Your undergarments are paned and yotn

gcnit:.1ls exposed. The final pan of the test is ro sec if yott can

last long enough during interc<,urse for )'Our examiner to have an orgasm without doing so yourself.

• If ~·ou pass this rest, you will be awarded rhe J>rize for Achievement. This consists of telling your parmer ex~ctly how you would like to have a climax.

TAKE THE ADVA~CEO TEST

On ::mother occasion. yot1 may like ro play a similar game with

)'Our partner. This time, make the situation (eel that little bit more vulnerable and daring-e11su~ that there is no blindfold. You might:

• tie up the initiate with liglu restraints. usmg silk (

)

Q cords to secure their hands to the head of the bed

• or handcuff ~·our partner by one ha1ld only to

'

ff

" \

the foot of the bed

(

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-->

)

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_{mclude vaginal pctlerrauotl wuh a vancty of}

5j

different sex toys

:i

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• or an01l penetration with small vibrators or plugs.

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SEXUAL INiiJA'rJON RITES

To rnake the test harder. forbid them at constant intervals to experience dim~lx. Threaten them that if the}' do climax, they w1ll have failed. \XIhich can only met'ln one thing. They will lu"e to re·take the test on another occasion, utnil rhcr have

performed tO your complete sruisfaction!

\CCESSORIES

,\.;examiner for the Games Acadern)• you will need:

• "quares of S..1ti11. silk. vd\'Ct

• .1 fur miu. feathers. icc. lubricating jelly.

ol( 'ome orher sex lubricam

,1 paddle, a cane. a cat·o'·nine-tails nipple resrraims

<liken cords. "s"fe" handcuffs v.1ginal and anal vibralOrs tnd plugs.

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PI.AYINC \VI I'll IIROI•\

FANTAS

I

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I

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II

r!JJ!iarfo!dr

Perhaps as a rt'Suh of thc~r amp.11rtd \asual othahl). ~hnd pt'Oplc Oh('n dC'\'tJOp a g~.1rh tnhallCC'd IO('n\(' Of hCJriO~ (..('n.11ft ftQI\("t.

gt1 easlh• translated anro anttm0\1 nlC'.lnan~. m.1k11\j.! thcar mmd~ co~raMc of r.cm!t J\\J~ to the~~ dr.1m;ul(' sccn.art()), \\ 'hk:h as

\\'hy usang a blindfold \\ hf'n lo\cmalm~ (Jn C:OI'l(tntratt the mind wondtrfull). For a hlondrold flolm< rh•r " I>Jwd on 3 lon~­ standing and \\add) popular 'f'-U.ll tantJ\\, cmuLur tht' Jtrt'oU salmt scrttn sur Rudolph Vak-mmo. an lhc Shttk:

FOR THF \\'0\IA'

81mdfold \OUr woman .1nd tell ht"r ,·ou Jrc takanJ.t her uuo the h.uem of d Turkash sultan. ~Iller ht I\ t\lrcmth· u}tl>. ~he·~ not

allowed 10 let t>·cs (m hm1. Should 'lht t\'t~n br caught pccpmg. \he \\'Ill

he under .,emcncc of caalul~.

In the h.ucm sht wall ht• :mended by eunuchs.

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f'ANTASIES \~'ITII 8LINDf0L.0~

Th<SC <unuchs must prq>are her for the sultJn. Thos pr<p>,.,.toon ... ~mSISlS of oiling and <ln()mtmg hf'r bod~ ~nd thtn SUmul;aung h<r groarals so th;n she is -rtad) • for rht ~rton lang. Your JOb

.. ro pia} the roles of the eunuchs Jnd rht suh.1n. OR THE ~IA:-1

P. mdfold your m•m and tdl ham )Ou Jrt takmg ham IntO a "'.trtm of cxmic females. The~ women arr :lllowtd to use hun

., .tn}' wa~· that rhtr des1rc. As you ndc hun )'0\1 ('.111 forhid hun · • dunax. Manapul.ue his body wirh your h;~nd) to place him an

.\ h.ue\'er position IS appropriate. The more rou u4!t him while

· ·rhtdding him to climax, the mure l1kdy he tor: lO disohC}' you.

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PLAYING W11'H PROrS

FUN WITH

[Yeat/te;

~

One of the most exotic touch temptations to come out of San Fr;.1ncisco in the heady da)'S ot the 1970s was the peacock feather m;.1ssagc. J)eacock feathers look gorgeous. skim across rhe skin. and tickle the innocent recipient inro wriggling submission. The

best scenario of all was when two gorgeous, near-naked young men armed themsel\'ts with plumes and p\11 thdr eager female

'hems through 311 hour of touch ecstasy. And there was not even any sex invoked! For these games you will need two peacock fe-athers or :.dtcrnativcly osrtkh plumc.>s and talcum powder.

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• Check first char )'Oul' parrner is not allergic to feathers!

• Don'r tie knots too tightly.

• Only pia)' tying-up gam('S if you h,a\'C' rour partner's consem and use a code word.

FUN \'t1_{1TH f'F.ATHERS}

SO HERE'S WHAT YOU CAl' DO

• Sweep rhe plume upward on the inside thigh from knees w genitals '"accidentallr .. k110Ckin{t the genitals as you reach them.

• Sprinkle your partner wirh talcum powder and use the

fe.uhc:rs to sweep it ~lCI'OSS her body.

• Write .. I love you .. with the quill O\'Cr and over agai11 on

your partner's naked bl'easts.

• Tickle every inch of your parmcr's skin.

• Use rhis peacock

touch as a sensual

nMssage preliminar>'·

)OFT STROKES \troke your pamlt!r :nth a feather to .'•wid erotit1Sm (JI1d ·•rc"rease arousal.

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SENSUAL

!Ya&ics

FFASTI'-:G Tit~ 1\0DY WITH FABRICS

Equ1p )"OUr'l<'lf \\Uh '(fUJrt"S of Silk. \-~het. and fur, U~tnt: 3 Jon,.: scr01nd o( '<'l,rt, hltndfold your partner <tnd lead them nuo .1n excr~~t\th he.urtl room. ~lake sure that the room 1~ alre.tdy

'K:Cmcd with perfume or wirh n hurmns: -.wert 'mcllnlJ: mccnsc. As they stand

there blindlr, tell thc.-m that

)fN\UAI I A8RICS

rhc\ now hJ\ e ro ~ubnut to anything you

..:hoc~ co do ro them. llus is rhe cue ro

rwithtlr doth<> off slowly. and lay them

on J <OU<h or • htd co>tr<d by • larg<

p1n:-e o( \th·n. Tellrhem it is imperarh·e that the} he \\Uh tht-~r kgs apan.

IIFIGHTE:--1 THFIR ANliCIPATION

~ow is the cue to 'Otroke t\cry 111ch of their skin with each of

the sensu:1l fabrks that )'OU h:wr on hand. You can whisk the

f.thrics across the main pare of their hod)', tickle, nnd tease them with each m:uen:tl, :~nd (mnll)' U(e the materials (or .tt.:rual massaging. A lithe lllnt the) \\Ill be wondering wharls

..:omg to happe-n he-tween thttr left'· You keep them waiting. hnall~~ repeat the proce·s-. wuh thetr genu.tls.

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• mjkes them (eel cspcci.1lly \'ulncrablc • encour.1gcs thetr fantJ.)It~.

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PLAYING \t'ITH PROPS

A SEXY

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Give your partner a soulftll and sexy experience with this

Russian-style sex ad"enrure. Tell your story :.1nd :JCt it otu

a«ordingly. You will need a fur rt~g or CO<tt for this g;:tmC:.

You arc RtlSSi:m nnhles rravtling at high speed across rhe

snowy landscape in your troika. \'Vrapped in a fur rug, you arc

prorec-red fron1 rhe biner Russian winter. Suddenly.

A SEXY FUR FA:-.ITASY

the troika is brmall~· halted. Brigands seize rou and haul you from rhe sled ... Strip.- they say, and. in the bitter cold1 you

peel off all your garmcms. You know you will free--t:e to dearh.

Then. as the bris:ands leave. they toss the fm n.1g toward you,

laughing at your nakedness. \'<'rapping it around you, you

nagger wward a wooden hm on the rim of the forest. After

\'OU ha"e built a fire there, you eventual!~· fall asleep.

In the morning you wake up to find your partner rubbing the fur .teross your body and between ~·our legs. Suddenly you are seized

.uound the waist and turned oruo }'Our hands and knees. You arc

t.1ken from the rear. Your p:lnner's hands reach forward and

~timukue rou from 1hc from. As you sink down in the throes

of climax. yot• hear the whine of fhc wind across fhc

snowdrifts outside. You know >'Ou wor1'r be

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In rhe f'irst of these g.amcs. rhc man is Games Master. In the second game. lite woman is Games Mistress. As with all

imaginati\'e sex ~ames. the first rule is rh:n you must make

tlbsolurel~· cerr:un your actions will be welcome.

HAl>PY U>-:·SIRT~IDAY

"Today;· says the Games Master, "is your un~hirrhd<t~'· .. He

produces a beaurifullr wrapped p.-.ckagc. h i~ your choice

whether or nor rou unwrap it, but if you do. rhe act of

unwmppi1'g means that you agr<"e ro fall in with anything he

then commands. Since only a serious masochist would NOT

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there must in actual fact be no possibility of being watched.

mtcrrupted, or in anr way expOsed ro the public.

PLAYINC WITH VIBRATORS

unwrap the pared. }'OU naturallr do so. Inside is a ri11y. pencil· ,Jim. ladi~· "ibraror. "Take off your panties,·· orders the

Gam<-'S ~laster. He sits on the sofa and orders you ro lie across h1-. knee. He then begins

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kle and stroke your genitals.

"'\(•o.:t. the Games ~·laster produces the ladies vibrator, and rf("aS\IrCS your clitoris and labia with the slim vibrating pe11Cil. ··Keep your eyes closed ar all mnes now ... he commands. As you

\hediently shut your lids you :.1rc plcasurabl~· aware that he has ~h1ftctd the tiny \'ibrator from your clitoris w your vagina. Or

·l.h he? This vibrator seems to have expanded so that it fills you

:~'· :\nd ir twists and whirls inside }'Our vagina i11 the most

exrraordiMr~· manner. How am such a

tiny vibrator produce

Pl AYING ~'ITH PROP~

Tht' Gamt'' X1.Uit'r\ \tcrtt? At the stalotC "hen: vclu do'-t '·our

eyes hC' S\\ n .. ~ eM ~hm pencil ,·ibrator for a laflttr. dual. vibr.uor \\hh.h httJ!hCm' boch \OUr UJ:maiJnd '"J.u)rJI ri('J\Ufe.

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The Game~ \ll~tff'' tdl .. ~·ou th;u 1f you w,mt to pl.n on rht>

tt'3nl \OU mU\.f If\ UUI tor 11. (fad only In ,1 f4sh1n. \OU ,1ff (Omm.m,t.;J ro ,,u..:h the bJII ~he p1t..:hes to y·ou. [t \'OU dorl't catch u. you w•lll'lc.-pum~hec.t. Het rhro"' :ate nllf'W, .. ,,hfc:

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field. Pun ... hmcnt ·~ loutninlot. "Kneel down," shl' ..:omm.1nc.k From bch•nd ~ou f(.-.:1 her .Hto.11.:h :1 hatd hand aromulthc: h,h\'

of yout J)t.'lll\ and ,1 pla,uc le,,sh winding (rom th1' hanc.l hetwccn your h.·~ ... md round the back of \'OUI' huuc~h.

.. Ans\\cr chts qucsuon ... ~commands. lOc qut"Uion. "hm 11

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\lbr.uts. E,·enrually. sM ka'~ rht" \lbr.m~ ~and on full rinlt" \\ helt" Slmuhanco'"''

mass."1gmg ~·ou by hand. A~ you d101a\,

yo\• wonder if maybr rou .1..:1uJII} passed tl.e rest after all!

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today. Sam. ol rw >r< 'I""'Jih dnt!!Jl(d lor addmoool

ditoral Sflmul3tK>n. or tc.uurc m1a~1n.111't' t-Xlt3$.

B.1St( \'rlmlfor tt'ttb \'m·elt)' t'lbrators r·1br.1tor tltmr.rl strmul.uor ''on-It)' mppl«" Jnd 1·.1gm.JI nbr.JIOT BtiNI'.J t·.J.c:m.ll II.JIIs lnurth.Jng«".Jbl~ be.Jd$ (or nbr.Jtors to I"JT)"

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You don't ha\'C tO be 3 fetishist co admire your

lover's appcttr:mce when he or she dresses up in shiny black rubber. And did ~·ou ever stOp to

think what it feels like to wear rubber?

It dings tO every J>Qrc of your skin. grasps and squeezes your

flesh, slips. and slides as you exude yOtlr sweer-smelling bod~·

odor inside its tight confines. nlc heat that your bodr

generates~ trapped inside this sensual

coating, raises temperatures in more ways than one. Rubber lovers report

fetling so feverish, they fall upon each other with passion.

DOi\UNATION

Rubber clothes are

a great prop for

plttyi11g sensual

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GETTING INTO RUBBER

DRESSING GAME

• Dress for a date in dose·firring black larex. Tall black boors are a ).·lUST. \XIithout giving your partner

any warning in ::tdvance, arrive at

~'our meeting place, dad

accordingly. You will look great.

• Back ill your aparllntnt. hand your partner ::1 boule of special oil and ask

hint/her m rub it in - to your outfit!

• \'V'hen it comes co taking the omfit

off, make sur~ that your underwear

{also rubber) is rhe specialist sort thar allows for lo"emaking without

removal.

• 1-land your partner the boule of

oil and ask hirn/her tO rub it into the naked parts that are

now exposed.

• Then rob him/her with oil and slip and slide back and forrl1 all over each other.

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shows for l~th<"r Jo,t~ .ut J. regular potn of rht fa\hton ~son~

GA~1 ~S

• t-fold your own fashu>n \how. \XIhcn your

pJrtner burs, forcr them to ,,.,,. in kind.

• Or~s up in le-.atN-r for ~x. Put on fetish

underwear. and 10~1st th;u 'our p3nntr

dOC'S lll.;t\\tSC bdort" ~·ou ;~~r« tO stx.

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.t .. uc food '' r.tp 11M\ not h.wc bt~n your fir.,t choice of

'm~. but It (Jn ~ .. ut-tch provoc4!mc .1nd .. urpr.,tngl~ ''''" '' htn u~ 10 tm.tf,t:man,-c wa.ys. You t.:Ould u,·: \\ lndm~ ~·our r.umcr\ torso in sut.:h J \\ J~ .1\ to makc- htr

.hts 1m out fro~n rhc '":IPJ'>IIlg. "uh the.· ntpplts righrlr ... hed in tht pla .. r•~..:

\\ tndtn!t hetwcct1 vour partner's legs ~ th.u her l.thi.t .uc

"f'l.'d open under·' JJ,er of pl-asu.: foc:xl wr.1p that d«S not oM.rtu"-'t rhe ft'ltt.U"-"t" tor~ ,·agina.

Or around ht) ~rorum ro form a k1nd of testes rmg. or Jround the shaft of

h1s penis with onl)' rhe head lefr free.

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THE PRISONER GAME

Forbid the prisoner ro make 31l)' move herself. Undress her,

linger over her breasts and genimls, and "interfere" with her.

Tell her rhat as a criminal she must be punished.

EQUIPMENT

You will need some lengths of light chain or silk tics. Ideally,

rhc prisoner will have pierced nipples and nipple rings. If she possesses nipple rings, slip the chain or ties through these, take

1t tO her rhigh and secure it so that it will be difficult for her ro mmt \('ry far wirhout the chain or silk

: e r.lllm~ on her breast.

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CREATING A 801'1.'0

TORTURE THE PRISONER Your ronure might consist of:

• wrapping the chains aromld her breasts and tweaking her n1pples. or brit:fly slipping on a pair of nipple clamps and '1hratinH these. (You can now buy vibrating nipple damps) • wr<tpping the chains between her bunocks and slipping them ~etween the folds of her vagina then masrurbaring her like this • treating her body like a table and eating off her

• relli1tg her tO kneel on all fours and, as you masturbate her, ~•rder her tO keep completely still. If she moves. rou

'"II fltop rour action

• moving rhe chains ro each side of her inner

:h1ghs and riding her yourself.

< O~IFORT

• W)U bi,d fur. ensure ···.u slut t5 com{ortablt.

J•i.AYING \VITU I) R 0 r '

There is a swathe o( people who feel extremely powerful in their everyda~· lift- and who are hatht:d in 'elf-confidence. Yet it is these people who need co ht> raken to extrcmt•s in order w feel so small th:H the)' C:lll rektx. purring rhemsckes torally in

the versatile hands of rhc Gaml":.. ;\lacoter/).lisrress.

THE SELF·ABASEME:-JT GA.\IE

This is a game based on teasing and works well with powerful

men who respond erotically tO humili:uion.

• Persuade your man ro he tied up. If he compkuns. tell him

you will promise him :.:nyrhing he likes aftcrwardco.

• When he is slT.,ppcd up in aco provocative a tn~Hlner as possiblr (you might wind the ties :uound his

genitals), rrll him: .. So you dwught you were

going ro get all kinds of sexual favors

for agreeing to this. You poor fool. You really fell for it. didn"t you?

What a stupid man you arc!"

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AT I-llS EXI'tKc;E

• :"JO\\ tlt ... crihe hi, need~ to him and tell him

how pathtric rhcr ~ue. Explain ro hull th:.u you

know he would lik(· to do X. Y. and Z. Then

... neer at th~t idtas.

• St.lnd Ill from of him and ma"furb;.uc. just

doS<" enough ~o rh:u he can :.1lmost touch you

- hur 1lOI quite ... ! .. I'd hct you'd likt-w do

1hi ... :· you might say. as rou continue with

\Our sel(·stimulatiOil ... Oh. rhat feclco good:'

• If C\"Cil more ~eH·ahotscm<.•nt is whott he

-.rave.,, lead hun ::~round like a dog. ride him like a

hor,c •• md Joke ;,1hout his bizarre nt-eds as you do so.

• finally. give him a pay·oU by stimulating his genitals, ;dlmg hun as ~·ou do so that he haco absolurdr no

... lm1ce Om tO take whatever imerfert>nce you choose ro

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partner. this game could be distressing.

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Caning and spanking may sound

like painful experiences ro some, but to many people a lighr slip of the hand or a pl:.1yful blow with a carpet beater brings the blood pleas..1nrl~· ro the surface, ringling, and warming the skin- all precursors of erotic arousal. This degree of

spanki1lg or caning stmgs. hut ir does not hurt. If your partner•s administrations begin lO cause

pain, call a halt. Pretend pain is one thing, real rorrure is rorallr Ul\acceprable.

TORTURE I'ROPS

Domittation clothing and props will euhat~ce caumg.

THE SIC STICK

SAFE INSTRUMENTS

Carpet beaters. paddles, spawlas, whisks, and sofr flails do

~OT hun. Crops, rulers. and canes DO hurr~ so only use 1hem ~paringly.

GAME - WHERE WOULD YOU LIKE IT? • Jn this game you offer your pttrtner light spanking or ~aning-whichever will be most acceptable.

• You ask '"\'\fhere would you like it? Here or there?''

\'\1hen your panner says "Here," then spa1lk or cane

,omewhere else.

• When your parmer protests, then do it somewhere dse again. The idea is to tease and tantalize.

Of course, sometimes you will spank in the desired place. Sur the aim is ro frustrare your partner as much as ro satisf)' them. But why frustrate yot•r partner? Because it rouses people.

-\nd any arous.al increases sexual curn·on.

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plt:asuuhlt p •. un. PlonC\1 c.uctully. they arc .1lso humomu .. ep•sodc-. ... mc.:c the~ depend on the conundrum ot rhe "~mc.l'" and thr ··double hmd." These douhle b1nd') c.m he produ~rJ h'

arr~111gmg the g<trnc m ~uc;h J wo.1y that the plarer (Jnnm "'"·

wh:ltt'\'er thC)' do. ~or cx;.unpk·. you e-srablish rul~:.., .H the

bcguuunA- hut then. as you pia~ the g:1me. you 'iuddcnly

ch:1nge rho'e rule'\ wuhout warr1u1g. You llllf)()'>~ new

A KIN[)INCi ACKt~MENT

thresholds.. You ddibt-rattl)· ouran~r che

ria~-so that somtho'' \OUr p;anntr n~n:r .:tts 1t quue nght.

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hcry (ln'le ~ou p.1ddlc ,-our 10\tr. ht: mu_')c \.1~ -rtunk you.

-• If he forgers bci:au~ he\ ~o:Mne-d ,\\\J) b~· the ercmdsm of the :.trokc. he mu'f

tx-rerlalized with .-another ~rrokc.

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p.1ddl' and tt.oear an eye m.uk for thts ~njoyable

SfJa~tking game.

• If he doesn't s.ound rnrhuStil(OfiC enough. J'>:lddlc harder.

• If he sounds too enthu,mstt,, JCUI\C hun of over-doing it.

• ~lake him counr the 'Croke,, but chcr1 •nstst 1hat he's got it

·,, rong-cven (or tsptctalt~·~ when he hasn't,

'\FETY PRECAUTIOXS

\\orl out what ~our ~rtncr \\Jilt~

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talc 10 the wa} of ... n.~ment. Do noc: 1mpow-\'OUr o" n tcka~. If lOU are spanking..

~,·move all rings from )OUr fmtttr\ r.~r. If you are ttmp(ed (0

~ .tne lightly, try the mc;rrument om on ) our own hand first! \nc.l when you knO\\ jmt how nluch of .1 sung it provides.

1111k carefully before admnliSICI'Ing hlow' to rour parmcr.

PLAYING WITH PROPS

The room is d:.uk. A single c:.1ndlc burns in a corner. You le:.1d your slave into the room and

order her to take off all her dothfs, There is a block sheet draped across rhe bed. The bed

must C'irher be m:.1de of meral or be a four· poster bed. so thar there is somewhere

you can tie your slave up to.

PUNISHING THE BAD SLAVE

Your partner has been a bad slave. and

you expbitl ro her that bad slaves must

always he punished for their wrottgdoing. Order her to kneel against the bed. \X'hen she does so, tie her h:.mds with soft tics

(men's tteckties serve well for this purpose}. securing one ro each side of

the bed. Pull her arms forward as you ric her wrists, so that hc.-r naked rC'ar

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h exposed ~md her genitals are fully in view. This will make her feel mo•·e helpless and at the mercy of your desires.

Then yc)u leave rhe room. just when she rhinks you have forgotten about her, you re·enter. And discover rhat she has

moved slightly. n1is is total!)' forbidden. you tell her, and SO .. he must be punished. She protests, but unsuccessful!)'· You mi~ht punish her h)' rubbing her honom fir-sr so that it gets

w.trm and chen spanking it lightly to give her a shock. Each wne you come back inro the room

\OU discover she has moved. atld

the punishment continues. You ·1ught lightly cane her.

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