Abundance Teachers’ Guide
SPEED
Manifesting
™
7 Steps to Abundance NOW
Copyright © 2008 by Lori Lynn Mitchell Gold Coast, Australia
www.speedmanifesting.com
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Personal stories in this book are true and some names have been changed to protect the privacy of the contributors.
Published by Communecate® Ltd, New Zealand 5th Edition eBook January 2009
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Mitchell, Lori Lynn
Speed Manifesting: 7 Steps to Abundance Now Print version:
ISBN 978-0-646-49416-6 1. Self Help
Introduction ... 8
Section 1. Finding Balance and Truth ... 13
Four Areas of Balanced Wealth ... 13
Money ... 14
“How Do I Attract Money?” ... 16
Others ... 17
Self ... 19
Nature ... 20
Beliefs or Universal Laws? ... 24
Beliefs ... 25
How We Form Beliefs ... 26
Changing Beliefs and Values ... 27
Beliefs are From the Past ... 28
Universal Laws ... 29
Section 2. The Process ... 32
“7 Steps to Abundance” ... 32
What’s all this got to do with SPEED? ... 32
Step 1. Know What You Want... 34
Writing About the Outcome ... 34
Playing Big ... 37
Ideas for Writing ... 38
Step 2. Imagine with Emotion ... 47
Match Your Learning Style ... 47
Visual ... 48
Auditory ... 48
Kinaesthetic ... 48
High Tech Dreamboards ... 49
Meditation ... 49
Step 3. FEEL Gratitude ... 53
Appreciation... 54
Happiness is an Inside Job ... 55
Step 4. Think Deliberately... 59
Understanding Human Design ... 59
Beyond Your Five Senses ... 60
Thinking Zombies ... 60
Chattering Voice ... 61
Quiet Voice ... 61
The Third Mind ... 62
Step 5. Beware the Power and Poison of Words ... 65
Words Create Your Reality ... 65
Talking About What You Don’t Want ... 65
Affirmations ... 66
I am ... 66
Keeping Your Word ... 68
Gossip ... 69
Words of Encouragement and Appreciation ... 69
Step 6. Take ACTION ... 72
Creating a Vacuum ... 74
Orderly Actions and Inspired Actions ... 74
Assumptive Actions ... 76
Time Integrity ... 76
Step 7. Start Circulation ... 79
Giving versus Trading ... 79
Trading for Love ... 82
Circulating with People and Ideas ... 83
Section 3. When is it Going to Happen? ... 94 Gestation ... 94 Fear ... 95 Disbelief ... 95 Resistance ... 96 Manage Disappointment ... 97 Self Image ... 98
Where There is a Villain, There is a Victim ... 98
Bad Company ... 99
Responsibility or Blame? ... 100
Stuck Beliefs ... 100
SPEED Manifesting™ Wobbles ... 101
Where is Your Focus? ... 101
SPEED Manifesting: 7 Steps to Abundance NOW ... 104
Summary ... 105
RESOURCES AND FURTHER READING ... 108
Footnote References ... 108
SPEED Manifesting™ Journal ... 109
Testimonials and Reviews ... 121
Dedication
To my husband Gary
Your constant support and loyalty have made this possible. You know that you are the love of my life.
To my mother Kathleen Baird
Your lifetime encouragement and unconditional love have allowed me to believe anything is possible.
Introduction
Standing on the 14th Hole, they tried, one after another for that elusive ‘Hole-In-One’. It was crucially important to get it now, at this hole. The stakes were great. Getting that small white ball into a hole 160 meters away with one swing meant that a great gift would be theirs; a dream of many, to own a Porsche. That day I was working for the sponsor of that hole. As I sat behind them quietly watching, I was astounded as one by one, each would talk himself out of the riches. “I won’t get it” said one. Another, “I have been playing so well I will probably mess this one up.” “It’ll never happen, but I might as well give it a go.” And then, as their team mates tried, they repeated those defeating, impossibility comments, disguised as humor.
John was a fun, friendly bloke; grey haired, moustached with a twinkle in his eye. He didn’t say much, but appeared relaxed. He looked at his ball, looked at the green. Looked again at his ball and appeared to hesitate. His eyes were closed, momentarily. Then he opened them and took his full swing. We all held our breath as his ball sailed effortlessly, bounced and landed on the green less than a meter from the hole.
No one had gotten that close. What was different about his approach? When I congratulated him on his close call as he was awarded a prize for being the closest, he was very humble and yet he did not try to dismiss his efforts. When I asked him what he had done just before the swing, he said he was picturing the ball landing in or near the hole. He said he couldn’t quite get the flag out of the way, but he could clearly see the ball bouncing on the green right next to the hole.
Extraordinary.
There was something happening with the other men and women, and it showed in their results. They were intentionally behaving in a self defeating way. They were business people at an event to increase their success and they had paid well for the event through their expensive networking club. Something was drastically wrong, yet incredibly similar about their approach to success.
On this day I realized that there was an undercurrent blocking immediate success for many people, and that the way around was a simple understanding about some basic laws in the Universe about success and prosperity. The desire to share this information was created within me on that day.
When I was growing up in Detroit there wasn’t an excess of money around and my sister and I knew it. Our single mother worked to support us and my father’s child support checks didn’t come often. When I was 12 my mother remarried a Canadian, and everything in my life changed.
We moved to Toronto and for the first time in my life we always had food in the fridge, a lovely home to live in, and beautiful furnishings.
As I grew into a young woman I realized that I never wanted to go back to the old, scarce standard of living. I got a good education and worked diligently at my jobs in the computer industry with many opportunities available to anyone willing to work for it.
I met my future husband and moved to New Zealand to be with him. I got a well paying job and again worked my way up the career ladder. Back then our mindset was focused on being out of debt and we were careful with our money, paying extra off our mortgage whenever possible. We had two children and moved into a beautiful home with a view over the city. Our children lived in a privileged neighborhood and went to a local state school in a wealthy area. I used to say that we bought there because we liked the view and had bought the ‘worst house on the best street’. Without knowing it I felt that I had to justify my wealth.
When my second child started school we realized only one of us could work, because he had a learning disability and needed extra support. So I quit my job and began a business part time from home. It didn’t bring in much income, and our finances began to slip. Then it all got tighter, tighter and finally stopped. We had a two income mortgage on one income. My husband and I were both stressed, we were both arguing a lot and we eventually both went into depression.
Suddenly my Stepfather, who had been through cancer treatment the year before, was put into hospital. I lived in New Zealand and he was in Canada. I quickly booked an air ticket to Canada. At that time I discovered brutally that I almost didn’t have enough credit available for one return air ticket. We had gotten to the end of our cash, and then we were at the end of our borrowing ability. Two hours before flight time I found myself negotiating with the bank manager for enough to cover that check. We got the extended loan, but to add insult to injury, I didn’t even make it back in time to say goodbye to my Stepfather. It was during this highly charged emotional time as I stayed with my mother in Canada that I started to review the reality of my financial situation.
Turning Point #1 - Gratitude
Then a friend intuitively gave me a book that was the catalyst for an immediate, deep and lasting change within me. It was a book by Catherine Ponder called The Dynamic Laws of Prosperity. I suddenly saw that I had been thinking and talking myself into poverty, being unappreciative and ungrateful to what we actually had been given and what wealth I had around me. I was living in fear and had very little faith in anything other than my own efforts.
As I read the book I began to understand the power of immediate manifestation. I began to pray. I had begged for help before, but I finally saw that because of my pride and the way I thought about wealth I was constantly saying ‘no thanks’ when it showed up. This time my prayer was a deep prayer of thankfulness. With certainty I thanked the Universe for showing me where I was going to get $50 for groceries for our dinner that night. This was the state of our finances.
Within 30 minutes of saying that prayer, I wandered into our study and found myself facing our
file cabinet, where we kept our bank account statements. It was at that moment that I suddenly realized that we had over $1100 in our children’s savings accounts. I was filled with thankful tears as I realized my prayers had been answered. This was the turning point for me, and my life has never been the same since that precious understanding came to me.
If I had remembered about the bank accounts before my realization of accepting Universal help, I would have said “no, it’s wrong to take from my children’s accounts”; “no, that’s their future”. Based on our real financial situation, that could be considered stubborn insanity, and it would have been again refusing the abundance that was suddenly, magically being offered to me. So I took those accounts and began to use them for the urgent cash we needed to buy food for dinner.
I began to practice creating and accepting the abundance that flowed around me and to me: when I found a 5 cent coin on the ground I gratefully thanked the Universe as if I had just been given a hundred dollar bill. When I unexpectedly received a small rebate in the mail I happily acknowledged the help being given to me. After this I stopped saying it was just a coincidence or just luck. Nothing was taken for granted.
Our wealth was locked away within the contents and equity of our house, and the immediate issue was to restart and increase our flow of cash. I began to have constant inspirations to create cash for us: I started selling my surplus books, clothes and equipment on eBay. It was amazing. Ten dollars, twenty dollars, more and more money began to be unlocked and flowed, and I was thankful throughout.
The next stage was to make a decision to unlock the money contained within our home – the equity we had accumulated over 10 years compared to the debt was actually quite healthy. But it was separated from us behind our mortgage. So we made a powerful decision to release our debt and reduce our stress. We could have made other choices – increased our income, gotten second jobs and arranged after school care. This was a personal choice, and for us, we had had enough of living ‘house poor’ while pretending to be keeping up.
For 10 years we had been dreaming of living in a warm place, and in the midst of this situation we made a decision to move to Australia. Things started to happen quickly, in perfect ways. Within a few months we had created a completely new life for ourselves living where we truly wanted. We bought a house freehold, even when real estate agents told us it was ‘impossible’ to get a house there for so little money. But we were focused on being financially free, and we did it; we found a lovely small villa within a resort complex. It was an instant community, and a fabulous way to start in a different country. Our children’s bank accounts are full again and thanks to the change from that moment on they share in the wealthy mindset and enjoy a much better life in a beautiful warm and fun place with their parents.
Turning Point #2 – SPEED
As I began to practice some of these principles consistently over the next several years I noticed that sometimes things happened fast, and sometimes things seemed to come slowly. I started looking for the similarities when things happened fast. At that point I began to see the same process working itself out continually and I began to document and test that process with others.
Then finally, I watched the process happen so quickly and perfectly during a course I took with 100 people that I had a significant insight. We were all put into groups of seven or eight people and each group was required to manifest a specific outcome within about five hours. Along with 6 other people that I did not know, in an unfamiliar city 5000 miles from home, without any visible means of support we worked on it. I shared my 7 Step process with the others and together we completed the internal (thinking) work, and then we got busy. We tried several different actions, some which worked and others which didn’t. We followed the principles outlined here to you, and when we came back five hours later, we had accomplished our task; the only successful group. As
We all live in a sea of abundance and yet some cannot seem to capture and use it. SPEED
Manifesting™ has been written for you. I know why you were given this information. I know why
you have stayed through to here. This is your story, too. Turning your life around is simple; really, profoundly simple.
As you read and absorb the material in this book your life will begin to change. Watch for the changes. They will appear as opportunities that you never thought would be offered to you. They will show up in other people and how they respond to you. Your new awareness of life and how it works will shift your reality. Expect it and great things will follow your expectations.
To use the principles of SPEED Manifesting™ powerfully, read carefully to find the clues to distinguish between manifesting and SPEED Manifesting™. Carefully hidden throughout this book is one magical key concept. Can you find it? It appears more than 50 times. Within the 7 Steps are the essential understandings and actions to manifest your desires. The key is not one of the 7 Steps, but it makes the change in the speed of manifesting possible. To get the most out of your time and this teaching, contemplate what this one key could be.
You will recognize your understanding and implementation of SPEED Manifesting™ as your life responds quickly with more loving relationships, better health and vitality, a definite flow of money to you, a heightened appreciation of the beauty around you and your ability to be present in the moment.
I wish that you receive the unlimited abundance that is waiting for you NOW, and has always been there waiting for you to accept. There is no mystery to creating the life of your dreams. It is simply a process, and when you understand that process, life flows naturally in the direction of your choices.
Prosperous blessings to you
Section 1. Finding Balance and Truth
Four Areas of Balanced Wealth
When people think of wealth, many people think purely of acquiring money and the things that money can buy. Have you ever heard of someone who sacrifices all areas of life to get money, and ends up alone, sick and unhappy, full of regrets?
On the other hand, have you also known people who are loving and great to be around and have wonderful relationships but struggle to pay their own bills or lack extra money to give to people? They justify this circumstance of lack by repeating old phrases such as “I just want to be comfortable.” “Money doesn’t buy love... health... happiness.” True Wealth is a balance of four complete areas in life: Others, Self, $ature and Money.
Money Others
Nature Self “Be Wealthy so you can “Be Wealthy so you can “Be Wealthy so you can “Be Wealthy so you can enjoy the things in life that enjoy the things in life that enjoy the things in life that enjoy the things in life that
money cannot buy.” money cannot buy.”money cannot buy.” money cannot buy.”
scales; “balance” does not mean that nothing is happening. Rather, your life is in constant motion like a spinning top. Imagine this with one area being lighter or heavier. The result of imbalance pulls the success back from any and all areas. The juice of life is missing when the balance is thrown.
Money
Money provides the way to enjoy life more fully and give you more comfort. It allows you to take care of yourself and others and to keep your health through providing more than the basics of life. It also gives you the freedom to expand your knowledge, explore the planet and have more choices for a fuller expression of life.
“Wealth as Money” is the experience of the circulation and distribution of goods and services. It represents the physical expression of everything we convert from something else. So what makes us so crazy when we think of money?
Money is neither good nor bad. It obtains its value with the agreement of those who exchange it. Some belief systems have supported the perspective that “The love of money is the root of all evils”1.
The original Greek version of this common saying has a different connotation. Through time and verbal usage the meaning has drifted away. Often it is erroneously spoken as “money is the root of all evil” which is furthest from the truth.
I use this example because it is so often misquoted and misused as a justification to keep people in a poverty consciousness. It was never intended to be a quote supporting poverty. The original idea of the complete passage explains about “coveting” using one of the four Greek words for
“Your thought about money (it is bad) “Your thought about money (it is bad) “Your thought about money (it is bad) “Your thought about money (it is bad) runs directly counter to your experience runs directly counter to your experience runs directly counter to your experience runs directly counter to your experience (it’s great to have money!)...it never (it’s great to have money!)...it never (it’s great to have money!)...it never (it’s great to have money!)...it never occurs to you that your idea about money occurs to you that your idea about money occurs to you that your idea about money occurs to you that your idea about money
may be inaccurate”. may be inaccurate”. may be inaccurate”. may be inaccurate”.
Neale Donald Walsch
coveting, “oregomai” (to stretch after). Coveting has fallen out of common usage in English, but it means ‘wanting to possess what others have’.
As for the “love of money”, in the Greek language love is described variously as “agape”, “eros”, etc. Other languages also have many different words for love. There is infatuated love, family love, passionate love, obsessive love, and so on. Yet in English there is only one word for “love”, with additional descriptive words and the sentence context to provide understanding. In the case of this quote the Greek word is actually philargyria, “love of silver” and the love here was more closely related to “brotherly love”. Have you heard of the city of brotherly love, Philadelphia? Money is a tool, not your friend. So taken this way in its fullness it is meant more about relating too closely to it, looking wantonly at what goods others have and hoarding the medium of exchange, which in earlier days was silver, not cash. Yet this simple quote has been used for centuries to justify poverty and vilify wealth.
Look around you at the world. What does your experience of poverty tell you? My experience of life is that lack and scarcity lead to wanting what others have and this coveting is truly the root of evil.
Money is a magnifier of character, and the reason many people can immediately think of all the “bad” rich people is because of this simple truth: good, rich people do not often make the news. They generally just do what needs to be done and even by being wealthy they add to the abundance through not only donations but also by spending their money, creating jobs and opportunities for others. In their silent giving they make more of a difference in many lives by simply being wealthy.
Working with financial advisors years ago as a database consultant I learned that their wealthiest clients were not often visibly so. They said “you wouldn’t know that their net worth was more than 98% of the people around them.” They drove average cars and lived in the same home they had lived for years. Some people choose to show their wealth, and others do not. Some people have a public profile attached to their wealth and so fame and fortune seem to go together, but others are wealthy in silence and modesty.
“How Do I Attract Money?”
You may have already noticed that money does not come just because you are “good”. The answer is so simple that most of us missed it: money is a fierce representation of a firm law;
money comes to those who serve value to others. Greater service value = greater money. Wealth is not a measure of goodness; it is simply a measure of use-value. It is not a measure of evil; it is an
objective result of a release of your energy.
Your beliefs about money limit your ability to accept and manifest your desires. Let go of the old belief that money is bad and start thinking about how you are going to provide greater service and value. When money comes in as payment for your value and service to the world, then it becomes
your servant. There is truly no need to chase money.
So many people act as though money is in control of their life, and because they believe that, the results show up exactly like that. Imagine you had a large pet dog in your life and he was in control of the household. What would your life be like? Imagine a whole pack of dogs in charge. Isn’t it interesting that fear would be the result? Yet this is how people respond to money, when the simple answer is, change your attitude toward your own power, train yourself to make money obedient to you, and imagine how your life would change. When you call, it comes. Once you learn to be the master of money in your attitude and thinking, it bends to your will. Then you can rightfully direct it where it provides the most increase to all through spending it, saving it and sharing it in balance.
You will notice my emphasis on manifesting money and the things that money can buy. That is because you need firstly to increase the amount of money flowing into your life so that you:
1. Pay your bills with ease 2. Experience life fully 3. Share your purposeful life
Once you remove the fearful pressure to earn money for survival you can begin to live the life you are meant to live. Deep down you know that money is only part of the equation, and to enjoy wealth in all its fullness, the purpose of money is to be able to enjoy the things that money
cannot buy. Find your greatest value to others and do it with excellence, with an impression of
Others
Wealth with Others includes the quality of relationships. Lack in this area causes heartache or an
empty lonely life. In your relationships when you try to control and dominate others to get what you want it causes conflict and unhappiness as people are suppressed and unable to fully express themselves, ultimately causing emptiness in your Self.
Relationships can be the most challenging aspect of our development, and it can be the most joyful. With children, partners, spouses, family, friends, employers and work associates the social part of our balanced wealth is complicated. Free Will reigns and yet we are all striving to agree while still achieving our own desires.
In marriage for instance, even though I have been married only once for more than 20 years, there has been a mixture of conflicts and agreement, clarity and misunderstandings, anger and joy as well as coldness and warmth. As you raise your levels of awareness and work on what the other wants your love changes and grows to a stronger and deeper state of appreciation for another and you can ultimately get more of what you want by allowing the other to have what they want within a balanced relationship.
There was a time in my marriage when coldness set in. I say “set in” because like a winter season the distance between me and my husband seemed like it would not end. We disagreed about
“If th “If th “If th
“If there is any one secret of success, ere is any one secret of success, ere is any one secret of success, ere is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other it lies in the ability to get the other it lies in the ability to get the other it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things person’s point of view and see things person’s point of view and see things person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from that person’s angle as well as from that person’s angle as well as from that person’s angle as well as
from your own.” from your own.” from your own.” from your own.”
makes all the plans and bookings for our family, so this was very different. I waited until that night, and then I told him I had arranged everything and we were going out. We went to a lovely romantic restaurant by the sea and when we arrived I placed the glass with the small frozen white rose on the table. I told him “I hope the coldness between us will melt by the time this ice melts, and release the love that is frozen within.” It was only a gesture, but it was all I knew to do. Perhaps because it was so unexpected, perhaps because I stopped trying to fix things, but by the time that ice melted we were warmed too. It gave us the chance to begin again and reconnect with the love we have for each other. I still have that rose tucked away and it reminds me that sometimes just being, and expressing our love is the only answer.
Until I became aware that the highest gift given to us by our Creator is Free Will, my unconscious desire was to control others so that I could do things my way. This caused much of my earlier heartache and conflict. My father was married 10 times and through observing the whole of his life I could understand how devastating and destructive his will to control others was, both in his sad life and the lives of those he touched. When I realised that the expression of love and appreciation was more important than doing things the way I thought they ‘should’ be, more and more peacefulness opened up around me. It also gave me the freedom to allow others to be responsible for their own choices. Yet I could still stay with my personal values if I felt strongly enough, and choose to disagree while still serving my needs for my highest self. Now, I prefer to allow others to be who they are, not who I expect them to be. Sometimes I may find it challenging to be around someone because we are vibrating at different frequencies, but then I can allow them to be, or choose to be someplace else without them.
Relationships with children can be incredibly challenging at times, when you have expectations of behaviour, codes of morals, and your own values separate to theirs. Book 3 of The Celestine Prophecy2 (Secret of Shambhala) suggests that our children choose us, that they are our teachers; and that we have it backwards. Our role is to express our love and care for them, protect them and teach them how the physical world works. They come to us as our spiritual teachers. Children are here to allow us to grow. They reveal ourselves to us. They are like a mirror and we get to see where we need to expand and grow by our feelings or reactions around children. They also are the perfect teachers for reconnecting us with our natural state of love and joy in a moment of perfect presence. The awareness of this spiritual relationship has transformed my family life.
Relationship training deserves to have much more time and priority in our early education, but any sincere effort at personal growth that teaches appreciation, encourages free will and explores self responsibility is worthwhile and helpful and builds an abundant life with others.
Self
Self Wealth represents your physical body as your temple and your alignment with the holiness of
your body. How do you treat it? How do you feed, decorate and develop it? Your body needs full use to give back to you. It is always giving, and when your mind is in alignment with the miracle that is your living physical entity, then you have balance and support for all that your Highest Self is seeking.
Most people treat their vehicles with more care and attention than their body. Review how you feel about your body. Do you think about it? Could you see it as a living physical entity that is you, but not all of you? Do you see the pure service that your body exists as, for your benefit, awaiting the next request by the wonderful tool called your mind?
Imagine if your body was a baby that you were given to look after. How would you judge your care so far? Would you be thrown in jail for abuse or punishment of it? Would you be guilty of pure unconscious neglect? Would you at the very least be guilty of over indulgence, or ruining it by spoiling it? In a way, your body is your baby, and you have that responsibility for the rest of your time in this physical life. With Free Will you have full domain over what happens to your body, but you can understand more about being a good steward of the vessel that is a part of you by relating to it in a caring, compassionate way.
Self Wealth also means taking care of your personal development. To continue learning and
growing intellectually, with yourself, your potential, is just as important as developing other relationships. It means taking care of you, and knowing that you deserve it. You are the potential for perfection and the expression of perfect love.
“You cannot travel within and stand still “You cannot travel within and stand still “You cannot travel within and stand still “You cannot travel within and stand still
without.” without.”without.” without.”
Quantum Physics has shown that there is an energy that makes up the Universal fabric of life. This energy exists in the dense matter of physical life, and the space in between. That means within your body and your mind; with both the seen and the unseen. You are a spiritual being living in a physical body. You are thought energy and emotion directed by your individual perspective of the universe. The results will be great when you begin to direct your mind, thoughts and actions toward your own highest good within your physical and spiritual self and experience ‘Self Wealth’.
Nature
All personal growth and self help processes talk about areas such as: physical, spiritual, health, financial, family or career. My experience is that all personal growth cannot be complete and balanced without the connection to Nature as well as all these other areas.
Wealth in &ature includes enjoyment and contribution to the plant and animal kingdoms. It is also
an appreciation of the energy and life that is in the elements of water, air, earth and fire as well as the skies above. Nature includes all things before we change, manipulate and transfer them. Before we create tools and convert materials into secondary materials there is an untouched world of energy to enjoy.
Nature is the master of life’s analogies, and as I worked in my flower gardens over the years I solved every conceivable corporate problem or challenge I had. As a divisional manager of a major computer company, I thought I was getting away from the stresses of work by getting out in my garden. However, as I saw the weeds taking over untended sections of my garden, and as I saw the new flowers failing when I forgot to water them, I got a multitude of problem solving messages from my greatest teacher, speaking through the perfect analogy of a living, growing garden.
“Every nat “Every nat“Every nat
“Every natural fact is a symbol of some ural fact is a symbol of some ural fact is a symbol of some ural fact is a symbol of some spiritual fact. Every appearance in nature spiritual fact. Every appearance in nature spiritual fact. Every appearance in nature spiritual fact. Every appearance in nature corresponds to some state of the mind, corresponds to some state of the mind, corresponds to some state of the mind, corresponds to some state of the mind, and that state of the mind can only be and that state of the mind can only be and that state of the mind can only be and that state of the mind can only be described by presenting that natural described by presenting that natural described by presenting that natural described by presenting that natural
appearance as its picture.” appearance as its picture.” appearance as its picture.” appearance as its picture.”
The Universal Law of Similarity states that “As above, so below. As within, so without.” Once you attune yourself to the messages of the world around you, you can learn and use this in your own life. Whether it is looking up at the stars or down into a powerful microscope the same rules of life apply.
After being raised as an ‘urban chic’ in Toronto, living in New Zealand for 17 years helped me to connect back to the beauty of the planet. New Zealanders still kept their own vegetable gardens and they planted flowers all year around. The countryside is untouched in many places. It is an awesome experience to see the Remarkables at sunset, fly around the snow capped Mount Aspiring and enjoy the sunrise over eastern beaches. With the full moon rising I have stood on the beach in awe of the Moeraki boulders. I have taken in the incredible energy walking the fern valleys of the Canterbury bush and then been gifted the view of a perfect triple waterfall. I have seen the retreating glacier at Frans Josef and the fiords of Milford Sound. I have been blessed to swim with the dolphins in Kaikoura and to immerse myself in the shattering cold of the Pelorus River. I have been to the mud pools of Rotorua and seen the perfect cone of Mount Egmont in Taranaki. In New Zealand, Nature is so accessible. It draws you in. The energy is reviving and transforming.
What around you can you relate to? Using Nature as an experiential teacher can expand your awareness and connection with life so you can be drawn to enjoy it and learn to enhance your emotions of joy, love and satisfaction. The experience is one difficult to describe because Nature’s language is feeling and it does not completely translate to words. To accept this part of your wealth, celebrate and learn from All-That-Is in its original physical form.
Being ‘Wealthy in Nature’ means experiencing life as it was in first creation. Can you enjoy going out to the beach, the forest, the mountains and the plains? Do you know where the moon rises, and when? Do you stop and acknowledge the magic and magnificence of the sunrise and sunset, like the birds do in their birdsong? Can you wake up each morning and feel the glory of a new day on planet Earth?
Our lives can move smoothly through different obstacles with ease and flow, just like river water moves around and over rocks. We need to pay attention to all FOUR areas of life and make sure that we have tuned all of them. When we are deficient in any of the four areas of a wealthy life then, like a spinning top, our lives feel out of balance and it shows up in constant unhappiness. Look at each of these areas and ask yourself out loud, "Is there anything I need to do, say or complete in this area?"
Money is an exchange of energy and value and provides for us to further experience the
physicalness of life in this dimension. To have more than enough creates more for others as we share and spend. It is ok to be wealthy and you are free to challenge any beliefs you have that say something different. Money wealth is a reflection of your ability to give value and accept value from others.
Others includes relationships, and each relationship reflects ourselves in our reaction to the
actions of others. Respecting Free Will and practising tolerance teaches us the gift of choice and giving. To create abundant wealth in this area, practise appreciation.
Self includes physical health and touch, learning and growth, knowing our own values and
principles, standing up for ourselves and our needs, being true to our self and our purpose, and experiencing joy and peace within. To increase this area we need to fully experience love.
&ature includes connecting to anything living on the planet; plants and what we eat, our pets and
animals, the cosmos above and mother earth beneath our feet. It means being able to enjoy a sunrise or sunset, listen to the birdsong, be in tune with the cycles of nature and feel the energy of the planet. Balanced wealth with nature shows in a connection with the Divine Spirit within all living things.
The secret to money-wealth is providing value to others. The secret to relationship-wealth is appreciation. The secret to self-wealth is expressing love. The secret to nature-wealth is experiencing Divine connection. Be abundant in all these areas and your life will be extraordinary.
Exercises.
1. When was the last time I saw the sun rise?
2. How often do I treat myself to something special?
3. If I could change one thing about my relationships, what would that be?
4. What would be different in my life if I had as much money as I wish?
5. Where do I think I may be in or out of balance in each of the four areas?
(Use this table to identify areas of balance in your wealthy life)
Others
Self
Nature
Money
Relationships Family Children Workmates Employers Parents Partners Friends Acquaintances Associates Cultures Sports friends Exercise
Feel well and vital Eat raw foods Meditate Give love Receive love Healthy Sex Have quiet time Personal Growth Body care time Music Art Pets/Animals Experience the earth Tend garden Plant new life Walk in nature Enjoy rain/snow Buy flowers Sunrise/Sunset Moon awareness Beaches, forests, mountains
Pay bills with ease Circulate money Travel Gifts Donations Free spending Future savings Luxuries New items Decorative items Useful items Entertaining items
Beliefs or Universal Laws?
The Universe is made up of a perfect matrix of pure energy. Everything is energy. Matter and mass are composed of energy. The space in between matter is energy. This energy is an intelligent energy and can be affected by thoughts and emotions. Understanding of this energy comes through awareness of Natural Laws or Life Principles that become obvious once we begin to distinguish them as working behind everything we do.
No matter how many times you drop a pen on the floor, it will never, ever float upwards (unless you tie it to a balloon). No matter how much you believe it would float up, the Law is incontrovertible. That is what determines Gravity as a Physical Law of the Universe. It is not about right or wrong. Rather, consider it useful to know these Laws when, for instance, you need to walk in high places. They cannot be changed or broken, and you would only break yourself if you try to go against them.
In any sport the players must know the rules. If you are a spectator you can get by with only superficial knowledge. But in your own life, are you a spectator or a player?
Early in 1988 shortly after I arrived in New Zealand my husband was trying to explain the game of Cricket to me. The World Cup was on and Sir Richard Hadlee was the captain. I was an avid baseball fan in Toronto and had watched almost every game the Blue Jays played since they began in 1977. So I thought Cricket looked a lot like baseball. He explained about overs and bowls and innings and ducks. He told me about LBWs and sixes and even tea break. After a
“The way to powerfully use both Beliefs and Universal Laws is to know the difference.
Be willing to challengechallengechallengechallenge your Beliefs, while surrendering surrendering surrendering surrendering to “The Way Life Works” – which is called Universal Law.”
while, I was still confused and frustrated. I could not understand why they just kept running back and forth, never really getting anywhere. So I asked my husband what was the purpose of the game. He said “to win, of course.” “No,” I said, “I mean, what are they trying to do?” He said, “To get the most runs.” He didn’t understand why I couldn’t get the game. Even more frustrated, I stopped asking questions and just watched. After a while, I asked another question, “what are those three sticks behind the batter?’ Incredulously he looked at me then explained about the “wicket”. After both of us had some hearty laughter I understood more. What I understood was that I should switch to Rugby, so I did.
In the game of life, most of us were not educated in the real rules. Instead, through trial and error you learned some hit and miss rules intended for spectators. The rule book somehow got lost a long time ago and ever since, our teachers were doing the best they could but they were missing many pages. Are you willing to continue living your life with only the spectator’s incomplete rule book, when you are a player? If you don’t volunteer, life will draft you. Unconscious living is the level of the spectator, and as your awareness grows you can choose to get into the game, your Game of Life. The Universal Laws are for the Players in Life.
Beliefs
My first revelation of Belief Systems happened when I was 12 years old moving from Detroit to Toronto. Flying one hour east we crossed an invisible line called an international boundary, and everything changed. People spoke with a different accent and sometimes they used different words; “rubber band” became “elastic”, “tennis shoes” became “running shoes” and most sentences ended with “aye?” Strangers spoke to us in elevators, they made eye contact walking down the street, and even people we did not know smiled at us. Everyone was friendly. The place was clean and safe. It was odd that things could have changed so much and I thought about this from time to time as I grew up. Cultures may appear similar, but because of differences in their laws, their history and their perspectives they have different beliefs, different behaviours and different outer circumstances.
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How We Form Beliefs
When we are newly born we begin to perceive and construct a view of the world through our experiences. As we do, our belief system is built and this allows us to create an individual perspective to interact with and relate to our world.
A new baby lives in a world of no-belief. She is absolutely present, just being in the moment of wanting, needing, observing or just in total satisfaction and bliss. As she grows and learns about her physical body and the physical world around her she learns about cause and effect – action and reaction. Through this experience she learns about some of the Universal Laws. She uses her perception through her Five Senses and then interprets this from her growing life experiences.
After a period of experience and repetition, when cause and effect are replicated she creates a “First Thought” about something. This is how Beliefs are born. As she grows and gains more life experience this First Thought provides a useful tool for survival and building on what she has already learned. Each time she experiences more evidence to a particular cause and effect she interprets the evidence and has further thoughts layered on the First Thought.
This is the natural way of designing and developing the Mind for safety and collecting data, to be able to learn and grow in this physical world. The interpretations of this storage of consecutive, repetitive experience of cause and effect are called “Beliefs”.
However, once she develops language and through interactions with others she begins to acquire
other people’s experiences. She may be told or shown what others expect of her behaviour, or
what they have already experienced and believe. This is taught to her so that she may use the experience and knowledge of others to hasten her learning time.
Beliefs cause problems when personal experience or observation is replaced by someone else’s previous beliefs (interpretations) and worldviews generation after generation. We are told to believe their ‘cause and effect experience’ because they experienced it and so it must be true. When we blindly follow others because, “that’s the way it’s been done before” we are giving up our own Free Will.
This attachment to a personal belief as Truth is righteousness. It becomes an oppressing disregard for Free Will when one says “you are wrong and I am right”. This is unconsciously saying “I do not live in the awareness of Free Will”.
There is another way. This is a three way perspective on your personal beliefs: there is your way,
my way and a way that works for both of us. When you can say “in my experience I believe...”
then you are expressing a positive approach to using the strength in your Beliefs.
Changing Beliefs and Values
When your personal beliefs and values are close to your family culture, ethnic culture or national culture you will be in agreement with those around you. When you question those views which came before you, then you have disagreements. The teenage years are the transition between what values you have accepted without question, into assimilating a blend of your parents’ or society’s previous values, with your own experience and needs, forging your own, new values and beliefs. You continue to build on these unconsciously more or less for the rest of your life.
In the book Conversations with God it is suggested that we keep our beliefs and values, because these make up the ‘structure of our life’ and the ‘fabric of our experience’ and it is not a good idea to ‘unravel the fabric of your experience’. “Examine them one by one” it is advised. “Review them piece by piece. Do not dismantle the house, but look at each brick, and replace those which appear broken, which no longer support the structure.”4
Once in a while we will have an experience or a new teaching which differs from our own beliefs and values, and we sometimes ‘shift’ our beliefs or values to a new understanding. This is what you feel as an ‘aha’ moment, an epiphany or sometimes even a crisis. Nothing is ever the same to you again because you have restructured a belief, which leads to a change in behaviour and therefore, results.
Many years ago I was perpetually late for everything. Every appointment, every commitment and even every morning to work was a struggle to be on time. Stress surrounded most of my life as I lived this way. I learned that planes don’t wait. I learned that no matter what your good reason or excuse was for being late, sometimes you missed out.
night. I started being on time; all the time; without stress. I learned to easily say “I have to go now”. I learned to leave the phone if it rang just as I was due to walk out the door. I set up a pattern and planned to be early. When I needed it I used the emotional pain of that night, that mistake, and immediately received the discipline to carry out my new value. That was over 15 years ago, and I have had many demands on my time since then. I have had multiple responsibilities and conflicting business and family needs. But now my value of respecting my agreement with others has overruled any moment of indecision. If I am late, it is an odd, unusual experience that could not be planned. This change was and still continues to be a strength, because I had an immediate and complete shift in my beliefs and values and I chose to act differently.
Beliefs are From the Past
Beliefs are based on personal, changeable perceptions and are as unique as a fingerprint or a snowflake. Each of us puts together our interpretations of life and builds a supporting belief system to perceive and relate to the world. As your programming is laid down in your memory circuits they become automatic ways of being. Using only your Beliefs to guide you through Life is like driving down the street and trying to steer the car using your rear-view mirror. Awareness of particular beliefs will become essential when you need to do things differently from the past.
A woman was talking to me about “The Secret” movie she had just watched. She thought it was great, and began to discuss it with me. She explained that she had been a practising Pagan (Wiccan) for over 30 years, and she started to compare The Secret teachings to her faith. Pagans believe in a connection with Mother Earth, and there are rituals and tenets helping and directing life. As she talked about what her faith said compared to The Secret (the Law of Attraction) I found that we were having difficulty. Before we could have a useful and constructive conversation, I had to first help her to understand the difference between Universal Laws and Beliefs. Once she saw the difference she felt free to explore the teachings about Universal Laws and still hold to her personal beliefs, without feeling that she had to choose between them.
Beliefs can be the hidden, unseen filters that hold you back. In your unconscious attachment to them you become stuck in a recurring creation of the past. If you would like to create something different for yourself, then it is essential that you open up your mind to new possibilities and continually challenge your current beliefs.
There was a time when I thought I knew how to make life work and how to be successful. When things stopped working it became apparent that I was missing something. My family life was very unhappy, my health and finances were going backwards and my marriage was stressed. I thought I was still doing all the same things. Yet I was missing some key wisdom, knowledge or
information and it showed. It was a mystery to me and I began to study, understand and embrace the Natural Laws of the Universe.
When everything finally improved for me, this time I knew why. I was in the flow of Life, understanding and using the Universal Laws. If something stopped working, or I got off track or slowed down, I was able to review the basics about the Laws. Then I was free to review my current beliefs, challenge them and actively change my thinking and feeling, which then changed my behaviour, my results and therefore my world.
Universal Laws
Law of Attraction
Energy vibrates at difference speeds, or frequencies; slower vibrations producing physical matter, faster vibrations producing thoughts, fastest vibrations existing in the frequencies of emotion and light.
One of the properties of energy is that each frequency attracts and tunes to all other energy waves of the same frequency (like a tuning fork). Therefore thoughts and emotions attract like energy. This is the primary Law of humanity.
Law of Rhythm
Life unfolds in cycles; everything has its season; tides flow in and out, day follows night, things get worse and things get better. Go with the flow.
Law of Gestation
Every seed planted has its unique gestation period. Linear Time is a concept used by Man as a way of organizing activity and agreement. Patience and Faith assist in allowing the Universe to work out its perfect creation time.
Law of Relativity
Everything just is, until related to something else. “Here” cannot exist without the reference point of “there”.
Law of Polarity
Everything has an equal and opposite. There is no bad without good, no hot without cold, no dark without light, and no problem without a solution. Therefore the moment a desire is conceived in your heart, its counterpart, form, exists in the thinking formless substance ready to be born following the Law of Gestation.
Law of Similarity
As above, so below. As within, so without. Analogies are a powerful way of teaching because of the Law of Similarity. The way you observe life in one situation you can apply to others for a greater understanding of yourself within. We can use Nature to learn about ourselves and our current obstacles to overcome and develop yourself.
Law of Order
You live in an orderly Universe, and by reflecting this principle you are working with the Universe to help you toward your Intentions.
Law of Motion
Nothing stands still; nothing stays the same. Life is in continual motion. Do not fret about current unwanted circumstances. Appreciate what you have. It is an illusion to try to hold on to things, for “even this shall pass”.
Exercises
1. What beliefs have I been taught by my family?
2. What does my family believe that is different from my experiences of life?
3. What things do my friends believe that are different from what I believe?
4. What would I like to have as a new belief about an abundant life?
5. How can I use this new distinction about the difference between my Beliefs and the Universal Laws?
Section 2. The Process
“7 Steps to Abundance”
What’s all this got to do with SPEED?
Have you tried manifesting what you want, and wondered why it was not working? Have you pondered what ingredients were missing? Has your past success been like a start-stop cycle? Do you have areas of confusion in any part of your life?
The following section is your manual on manifesting your desires in life. These seven steps are the steps to build the life of your dreams. Each is an incremental step and yet all must be included. Individual steps are not necessarily ‘speed’. As you focus on your intended outcome you can bring the next step and the next quicker, with the result being a fast manifestation of your Intentions on an ongoing basis. Once you have completed the 7 Steps you will find a further chapter on how to turn your knowledge into SPEED.
Depending on your Intentions, SPEED could be creating the next step tomorrow, or within a year, or within ten years. Working with the Law of Gestation, SPEED Manifesting™ is about working with the Universe to receive your Intentions in the quickest, most direct method.
If you find any stumbling blocks as you work through SPEED Manifesting™ Section 3, “When Is it Going to Happen?” will help you explore what might be the cause and inspire you to continue to manifest powerfully and quickly. You will be astounded, amazed and in awe of your own power to create, create, create once you apply these principles.
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and accept.” and accept.” and accept.” and accept.”
The feeling is the start of creating and the action is the completion. In each step along the way you must pay attention to and direct what you are feeling, as you take actions and direct your thoughts. When you are feeling good, you are on the right path for your own good. When you feel fearful look within and get back into the joyful expression of everything you do. Choose to be happy in whatever you are doing. Complete and master all the steps and finally infuse the special key. You will quickly release the abundance that is around you into the fortress of beliefs you have built until now.
Step 1. Know What You Want
Begin SPEED Manifesting™ by setting your Intentions in a definite, written format of the desired end result with a firm completion date. You start to communicate what you want by writing it
down as if you can see it in a picture. Stay focused on your end Intentions, rather than listing a
step by step plan. The ‘How To’ is to be provided just in the course of Life itself. It is considered the part of the Universe to provide the way. Until you master SPEED Manifesting™ the practice of writing your Intention reveals whether you actually know what you want, or if you need to go through a process to work it out.
When I arrived in New Zealand I had US$15 in my pocket and two suitcases with all my belongings. I got a job at a computer company within 6 weeks. At 26 years old I had telephone sales experience in Canada and in my new role I earned $25,000. That year I created my new Intention list for my new country. As always, I wrote what I wanted, not what I thought I could do. The list was put away and I got on with settling in with my new man in a new home. Over a year later I found that list and I was astounded to see that I had accomplished something that had seemed an impossible Intention when I wrote it. It read, “Be a manager with salary of $40,000.” During that year I had worked diligently and when someone moved on I took her role handling all the computer supplies for the branch. Then the structure of the company changed and it took over eight other offices. I was offered the role to manage the complete supplies division, and the new salary was exactly $40,000. That possibility was created out of simply writing it down, because I knew what I wanted.
Writing About the Outcome
If you have not been used to writing down what you want, I recommend that you start generally and move to more specific desires about the type of life you would like to live. Start with a fanciful wish list. There is no need to share this list with anyone, just write things you have always wished to do, to be or to have. As a wish list it gives you permission to daydream without the commitment of having to do anything about it. The Wish List time frame can be over your whole lifetime, to give you a starting point for writing. Sometimes when you begin the process of
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deliberate creation you don’t know what you want. This could be for many reasons, including:
• Habit of focusing on what you don’t want • Taught that dreams are not real life
• Too busy dealing with current stressful circumstances • Current beliefs about worthiness
• Afraid to explore what you want • Unclear on your Values
If you are stuck and only come up with what you don’t want, just take note of your present state of mind, and allow yourself to move on. Write the list of what you don’t want, and then cross it out. This is important to show your subconscious to disregard it. Then go through each item and think of the opposite, and write that down. If you have had many failed relationships, for instance and you say what you don’t want in a partner, use the Universal Law of Polarity to re-design it. “I don’t want someone who smokes” then becomes “I am spending quality time with my partner who is committed to health and fitness and loves to breath clean air.”
Your wants and desires are based in Values, and values drive beliefs. Finding out what you really want starts with becoming aware of what also drives your wants, needs, desires and emotions. Uncovering our personal Values can turn the light on to the Why’s of your decisions and reactions. When you can stand clearly on knowing your Values and using them to choose, rather than react without knowing why, without knowing why others that we love are making ‘bad’ choices, then you can follow your heart. You can look at what you want with a clarity and purposefulness that will guide your life effortlessly. Your decisions become simple, even if they inconvenience others around us, because you are following your own principles, or Values.
Firstly you can write down what you think may be some of your highest values, and then prioritize them. Use the exercise at the end of this chapter to define and order your values. One thing to consider is that values are not Virtues. Some of the values you may find you have are not necessarily a moral statement. They are just your values; they are your way of deciding and choosing between going toward things and going away from things. Use the exercise at the end of this chapter to distinguish some of your values and their priority in your life. Then look at
I bargained with Life for a penny
And Life would pay no more...
However I begged at evening
When I counted my scanty score.
For Life is a just employer
It gives you what you ask
But once you have set the wages
Why you must bear the task.
I worked for a menials hire,
Only to learn dismayed,
That any wage I had asked of Life
Life would have willingly paid.
Playing Big
Are you are ready to play a bigger game? When you are, it is better to be unreasonable. Create Intentions that you or others would say are unreasonable or even unattainable, but you really want them to happen. Then begin to enjoy the ride.
Dream big, if you are ready to take the actions to receive in a big way. Write about what you want with no boundaries or limits. The point of an Intention is not so much the achievement; it is what the achievement makes of you along the way.
Julie had a childhood dream to be the first woman on the moon. She had not done well in science in school and she had grown up and moved on in life but gave up on this unsuitable ‘dream’. When she looked at doing this Wish List writing exercise without limits, she put her childhood dream back on the list because after all these years she still wanted to go into space. She said she felt a little silly putting it there when it was ‘impossible’. Within a few moments of contemplating it, she suddenly got very excited. She realised that maybe it was still a possibility 30 years later, because she had recently read an article about Sir Richard Branson’s bid to take a commercial flight into space.
Remember you do not have to know how to do it to begin. You don’t even have to do it all by yourself. You may not even finish the job before you pass it on to the next generation of creators, but is that a reason not to use all your talent to get it started? I encourage you to reach for the stars. You might just make it to the moon.
One of my Intentions may be considered big and others might say totally unreasonable. I will share it with you so you understand big
Intentions. My Intention is to assist in the transition from the current calendar to a 28-day calendar so we can shift our consciousness and synchronize with the rhythm of the universe. I have not lost my mind, because after researching the idea for two years and trying it out, to me this is totally
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dignity of man.” dignity of man.” dignity of man.” dignity of man.” Mahatma Gandhi Mahatma Gandhi Mahatma Gandhi Mahatma Gandhi
orderliness of the Universe. This is my desire and you can choose any Intention you truly desire if you can be free from figuring out how to accomplish it before you commit to it. Just be willing to surrender to the work you are called to do out of your Intentions.
Now, for your Intentions choose some that are worthy of you. Make some fun, make some personal, make some transitory and simple, and finally make one or two that you cannot possibly do. Then, after you have set them, spend time contemplating and meditating on how you might possibly start.
Ideas for Writing
1. Wish List & Intentions List. These are your main lists. Start with your general desires. Then once you have created a list, choose the ones you would like on this year’s Intentions List. Write in the present or past tense, like “I am”. &ever use a future tense like “I will...” Use the suggested page worksheets at the end of this chapter to brainstorm your desires and turn them into definite orders.
2. Diary Planner. Write what you desire within the next year and put it in your diary. Regularly look at it, read it and feel the joy each item brings.
3. Intention Card. On a wallet sized card write one or two short term intentions and carry it with you to remind your subconscious. Read it out loud each day with grateful thanks for already receiving.
4. Dream Day. Write or record a detailed story of your Dream Day. Start with It is...(the date) and I am...(with...) (doing...) (at...) (in...). You are allowed to make it an unusually long day, with all your ultimate heart’s desires to experience, have, do and be. Use emotive, descriptive language. Read or play this often and feel the happiness and joy as you read. Do you remember the old movie, Groundhog Day with Bill Murray? He had to repeat the same day over and over again. If you had to live out this Dream Day for the rest of your life, what would it need to be for you to love it?
5. Family Wish List. We keep a sheet of paper inside our kitchen pantry door. When anyone in the family wants something substantial to buy or do, we put it on the list. We have completed several since we started this in 2005 and it has been fun and inspiring to watch as we realise our wishes. We check off accomplished items as we go. It also teaches my children to focus on what they want without the instant gratification of “thoughtless procurement”. Yes, I teach them
