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Note to the readers:
Friends,
I have tried to be as accurate and relevant as I can, through my
extensive research and surveys, online and offline. But still you know how the subject of human psychology can be very tricky and when I say all this stuff, it is always best to take them as advice and NOT any hard-fixed rules.
Just understand and feel what I have to say. But your ultimate guide is Real Life! So, take action and gain experience. Perhaps, you can even teach me a thought or two.
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Introduction
Hello,
Welcome to the Modern
Manās World and Iām your
host for today. Well, since you have already
downloaded this free
blueprint report, I am sure you have the zeal to get what you want. And thatās where we are same. We both know what we want and we go for it.
Back to the topic, let me tell you something. Letās break a myth here. You will find women say that they donāt like flirts and flirting. But do you know what they actually mean by that? What those women mean is that they donāt like when somebody āplayā with them. Yes, thatās right.
Normally, the word āflirtingā is actually associated with being a player. And hereās the biggie and breakthrough idea. Women donāt like
players.
Okay, before you go ahead and think that it might be better to be the ānice guyā then, let me clarify it for you. Different women come with
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different mindsets. Some come with an insecure setup while others are stable inside and want a stable man. When some are inhibited, others prefer being more open (read āsocialā). So there it is.
If you are a player and your being a player works on her, she is basically insecure and seeks your validation. If she is turned off by you, she is assured on her own value and disqualifies you because being a player signals lack of commitment. And lack of commitment is a dent on your social or sexual value.
Now, I know you are completely confused and you will probably be thinking that this person is actually preaching NOT TO FLIRT in a
Sexual Flirt Mastery eBook.
No, itās all about flirting, not about playing. What I am asking of you is to have an open mind and absorb as much as you can from this book. And I promise youā¦
By the end of the report, you will become a much more Attractive Man who women chase after, a head start you never thought you could get.
Best of luck, Ron
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Table of Contents
A. Introduction...pg.3 B. Table of Contentsā¦ā¦ā¦..ā¦ā¦ā¦..pg.5 C. What is Flirtingā¦ā¦ā¦.ā¦ā¦ā¦..pg.6D. Why You Should Flirtā¦ā¦ā¦.pg.9
E. Prerequisites of Flirtingā¦ā¦ā¦..pg.12
F. How to Flirt!...pg.15
G. Universal DOās of Flirtingā¦ā¦ā¦.pg.20
H. Universal DONāTs of Flirtingā¦ā¦ā¦.pg.24
I. Why Do Women Flirtā¦ā¦ā¦.pg.27
J. How to Understand if a Woman is Flirtingā¦ā¦ā¦pg.30
K. Is She Real or Fakeā¦ā¦ā¦..pg.32
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What is Flirting
The funny thing is that while men are being labeled as āflirtsā, hardly do they ever know how to flirt with women. Sometimes, stupid cheesy lines are considered to be flirting with women. See the examples below:
āBaby, is your father a terrorist? Sure, you are a BOMB!ā āAre you straight out of the oven?ā
āI have no homeā¦can I spend the night at your house?ā āI miss my teddy bear. Would you sleep with me?ā
Please, men...this is NOT called Flirting. If you think being this cheesy means being a flirt, you could not be more wrong than this.
Yes, the very first thing that you need to know is what flirting actually means.
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- To make playful sexual overtures at a person - To fiddle with something.
Thatās what the Oxford Dictionary says.
In essence, Flirting means conveying your sexual interest in someone. Flirting is all about subcommunication. Note that I used the word āconveyingā instead of āshowingā. And one thing must always be remembered in āpicking up womenā is how to effectively flirt with women.
Flirting signals that you are ready to mate and you find her as a potential mate. Two important aspects of the game here: one, that you increasing your value and you are increasing her value as well. This is called the Mutual Value Escalation. This is SO different to the other pickup methods where you are told to decrease the value of women to pick them up. Thatās not what love, dating and
relationships is all about. You NEVER suck value from someone but you ADD value to someoneās life. And flirting conveys just that.
It is scientifically that almost all animals flirt to attract potential mate when they are sexually ready. This is the rule of the biological world. And likewise in the human world, we also engage in flirting when we are sexually ready and remember, when you are flirting the RIGHT
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way, you are just being NATURAL. In fact, as born in the masculine sex of the species, you are supposed to act like that.
An important note here: Some of the men out there get SO socially
conditioned that they lose the touch with their innate sexual being. They stop flirting. In simpler words, they stop sending out mating signals even if they are sexually ready and they come across a
potential mate. These types of men are called āNice Guysā. And we all know that these people finish last!
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Why You
Should Flirt
In the game of pickup women,
Unless you learn how
to create the sexual tension, there is no chance of any chemistry. And unless thereās any chemistry, thereās absolutely nothing inside you. You two are brother-sister at most. So, now you understand the gravity of the situation...
I know what you are thinking right now. You are thinking what this sexual tension is and how to create sexual tension.
Well, sexual tension is a very tricky topic. Either you get it or you donāt. To make it easier for you, letās say sexual tension is when there is an unsolved sexual vibe in the air. You can say thereās an unsolved and controlled aroused state on both side. She feels it and you feel it, and both of you enjoy it nonetheless. Some advice you to use NLP (credit Ross Jeffries of Speed Seduction) while some espouse the focus of intense sexual state (credit Gunwitch and Vin Di Carlo). Yes, there are many who think teasing or cocky-flirty creates that much-required sexual tension. I cannot say that all of them are wrong but
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they are not totally right. And you know why? Itās because all of them are busy championing their own method and most of them are trying to earn money from their products and services. Itās very unfortunate that they have changed this beautiful Art of Seduction into some business.
Well, back to the topic anyway, we know now that sexual tension is
that sexual charge in an interaction but without resolution of any sort. But how do you do that? Of course, one of the best ways to create sexual tension is through effective flirting with the woman.
Flirting infuses sexual polarity in the air, thus, leading to the
ULTIMATE factor in any game, ATTRACTION. Flirting shows her that you are a MAN and that she can be a WOMAN. She feels THAT thing for you. I bet that many a times when you have heard this phrase from a woman, you have been baffled a bit ā āI want you to make me feel like a womanā. She didnāt mean that you should instantly hump her. She wanted to create that sexual tension, give her that sweet painful pleasure. Yes, flirting creates attraction. And thatās why you should flirt.
Remember I told you, flirting essentially signals TWO things, that
you are sexually valuable and that you find her sexually valuable.
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basically pushing her down (because you are pulling yourself up). When you are conveying about your sexual interest in her, you are pulling her in (because you are pulling her up to your level). Now, this is very subtle and this doesnāt work on her conscious mind but on her subconscious mind where flirting is actually supposed to affect.
When you flirt, you are pulling her with your energy, your
demeanor but you are pushing her by being playfully challenging her. Challenge is a big part of flirting with women, and when you
challenge her, you create that unsolved dissonance in the sexual atmosphere that you have created.
This works on the mind of the woman. She feels the sexual vibe, she seeks to solve the confusion in the air and she ends up helplessly chasing you. Isnāt that what you want, huh?
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Prerequisites of Flirting
Ahā¦this is one of the hardest sections of write! Prerequisites of flirting with
women! Now what can be the
prerequisites of flirting with women? You just go and flirt, right? NO. If you just go and flirt with any woman out there, you would come across as any other chump
who tries to express their interest in a woman. If you think you can flirt because you can express your sexual or romantic interest in a woman BOLDLY, think again because you are wrong.
Flirting is an art of sexual communication. I am not asking you look upon it as some sort of science but donāt disregard it as some sort of petty technique as well. Itās more than that. And you know why? Itās because flirting is all about HOW YOU COMMUNICATE. Yes, it does regard what you say but it focuses on how you say it. As they say, 93 percent of any communication is nonverbal and ONLY 7 percent is verbal.
Anyway, what do you NEED to do before you can successfully flirt? Here are the most important things listed out:
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ļ Body language ā What is body language important? Body language transmits your sexual and social value, conveys your level of confidence, tells her if you are trustworthy and
conveys how much of a MAN you are. Isnāt that enough? Have you heard of the phrase before that she knows you even before you open your mouth? This is SO true because she knows you through your body language. Your body language is the vibe that you send out. Make sure it is always POSITIVE. You donāt need to show that you are more valuable than she is. You should rather focus on conveying yourself as someone, who can add VALUE to her life.
ļ Grooming and Fashion ā Well, many a times, men want a woman who will like them as they are. What do they actually mean? Do they mean that they should fall in love with them when they are lying on the couch watching football in shorts? Do they mean that they should swoon over them when they find him brushing his teeth once a week and leaving his hair unkempt just like that? Get real, guys! Remember one slogan ā
Women want men who can ADD VALUE to their life. Take
proper grooming sessions and work on your fashion. Just TAKE CARE of yourself. If you value yourself, she will value you.
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ļ Social Lifestyle ā To be honest, friends, I have seen most of the dating gurus, apart from the likes of Cameron Teone, Stephen Nash, Carlos Xuma, etc, are so concerned about different dating techniques and tactics to attract and pickup women. But they NEVER bother to improve upon the quality of the man to change him into that MAN who women are naturally
attracted to and fall over to let them pick them up. And you know what, that only happens when you have an attractive social lifestyle that you follow. Your lifestyle conveys to her that you have social value and that attracts her to you. You see, you are not using any NLP tactics or running any negging routine on her. You are rather building an intrinsic permanent value in her eyes, rather than creating some transient
superficial attraction. So work on improving your life as a whole. Do what you always wanted to do. Start today. Add value to your life first and proceed to add value to her life after that.
These are the most BASIC prerequisites when it comes to flirting with women. Ask me and I would suggest you that even before you think of flirting, start working on these aspects first.
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How to Flirt
No, if you are thinking that I will be givingyou some āTop Fiveā list (which will there later on) in this one, you are wrong. In this section, I will teach you how to flirt with women. Now, thatās a bird-view that I am rendering you. You always wanted to get inside the head of women, donāt you?
Thatās what I am doing in this module. Proffering you with a view on how a woman thinks normally.
Here is a survey chat that I had just now with one of my female friends. She is 21 and she is pretty much experienced when it comes to the matter of boysā¦lol.
Me: Do you flirt with men? She: Yes, I doā¦sometimes.
Me: What kind of men do you normally flirt with?
She: Intelligent, witty, the ones who are a bit out of controlā¦not the
weak, clingy ones, those you can match up with me.
Me: What do you mean by flirting?
She: according to me flirting is a bit intimated friendship with a pinch
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Me: Do you like the boy to initiate the flirting or do you initiate it?
And how would you normally like him to flirt with you?
She: it actually depends for the first questionā¦it is best when it JUST
happens. Normally it will start with some intimate talking, and then wherever it goesā¦as it normally happens, but NEVER too exposed!
Me: thanks mam, for your answers ;-)
Now, hereās another girl, of 21 yrs. She is my friend and she can be regarded as a HB7 or HB8. If you donāt know what that means, HB stands for āHot Babeā. By the way, this girl claims that she is ādifferent from the other girls.
Me: Do you like to flirt with men?
She: Neverā¦Have some friends, all of them are sameā¦and one of
them just got specialā¦thatās it.
Me: Do you like when somebody flirts with you? Even if he does that
in a nice graceful way�!
She: No, it bugs me now that Iām committed but previously it was
okay.
Me: What do you mean by flirting? She: ummā¦donāt know
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Now, letās discuss both the conversation. Look at them. The first girl seems quite open about the whole romance thingy. She loves flirting with men and is basically up for an adventure it seems. In the second case, the girl is bit more restrained and she doesnāt seem to support flirting, isnāt it?
Well, before I proceed, let me say something. I know these girls very well and they are my very good friends. In each of the conversation, I asked them to be completely honest with themselves and then
answer me. If you ask me, I would say that they did.
And let me tell you something, the second girl also loves flirting, BECAUSE she texts me naughty messages in the middle of the night and I reply to them.
So, what do we learn from the two conversations?
Firstly, when you are flirting, there should be some sexual charge in
the conversation. Without that charge, itās no flirting at all. And it normally starts with exchanged words and your flirtatious vibe, thatās it. It cannot be too obvious or you are coming on too strong. She wants to enjoy the whole thing and not be crept out by your
uncontrolled sleazy advances. Itās in the anticipation that the fun lies. If you kill the anticipation, you donāt have fun. If thereās no fun, itās not flirting. Itās plain disturbing or annoying the girl. Flirting equals to
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Two of the best ways to flirting or sexual tension are:
ļ You convince her to think in a way. And when she does, you suddenly make her feel she is wrong. This confuses her and she is compelled to work to SOLVE YOU. Thatās called Active
Flirting. Just take this example. The first time when you meet a
woman, you use a lot of sexual innuendos, have fun and totally convince her that you are into her. And then, when she feels like you will make a move, you suddenly tell her that she is like your āsisterā and tease her on something. It is just playing with her mind. You got it?
But in this case, you NEVER overdo it. If you overdo it, she might lose heart. And the trick to this kind of flirting is NOT to try. If you seem like you are trying, you are āsolvedā to her. And then itās no flirting at all.
So, be CONFUSING but in a more subtle manner.
ļ You bait her to establish rapport with you, but then you reject her moves. You DONāT actively break rapport but you donāt let her build rapport as well. This is actually called Passive Flirting. In this, letās say, during the conversation, you tell her how you enjoyed the ski riding in Switzerland, and when she asks about that more, you digress to another topic. It just creates more mystery in her mind. That impels her to act!
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Hereās a very important note though. I have many guys who take this to extreme and they NEVER divulge any information about themselves. Listen, breaking rapport or denying her moves to establish rapport should be in the early phases of the game. If you keep on doing and you NEVER express your real side to her, you two wonāt be able to connect. And unless thereās any connection, there can be no game at all.
Secondly, not all girls are so clear about what they want. It is like that
customer who goes in a showroom but doesnāt know what he wants. He is actually led to the right purchase by the savvy salesperson. Well, he is normally led to the most expensive purchase!
In many cases, you will find that she doesnāt consciously comply with flirting but when you have gained comfort and trust, she is complying with that. Well, you see the whole flirting thing is what creates THAT tension. Now, if she is adventurous and confident, she will be up for it. If she is rather shy and diffident, she will most likely refuse that. If she is a horny cougar, she will be open to that but if she is a
newlywed bride and satisfied with her husband, she wonāt. It all
depends on the person and the situation. But remember, you HAVE
to flirt if you wish to initiate a sexual relationship with ANY woman. And thatās why we are here, isnāt it?
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Universal DOs of Flirting
For the people who like to move in the fast lane and they donāt bother my rambling so much, hereās a list of what to do when flirting
with women.
ļ Confidence. Itās no secret. Ask any woman and she will tell that the most important quality in any man is his confidence. If he is confident, that means he is confident in himself as a man. That decreases his perceived value in the eyes of the woman and she instantly rejects him as a potential mate. And when it comes to flirting, o man! You cannot flirt unless you are
confident, because flirting is all about challenging the woman. If you are not confident, you are not a challenge.
ļ Smile. I cannot stress this enough. If you donāt know how to smile, you tell her that you are nervous and scared of her, you are not happy with your life or you just have BAD TEETH. A genuine smile is adding value to her day and making her life better. A smile can be the best opener and one single bright smile is enough to send her that POSITIVITY that nothing can. ļ Personal Hygiene. How many times will I have to tell the men
that they need to take care of their daily personal hygiene? If you have big dirty nails, donāt comb your hair or have stains on
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your trousers, it all shows that you donāt care much about life and that life doesnāt care about you. Lack of personal hygiene (brushing your teeth, taking regular baths, cutting your nails, etc) brings a sense of negativity into the conversation, which if you are that hopeful to get into. It is very likely that you blow you off even before you open your mouth.
ļ Dress Well. Yes, your sense of style is what reveals your personality to her. It shows that you value yourself and you proudly carry yourself through this world. Not only that, a glimpse of your real inside, how you think and what you are made of, all of these come out through your dressing sense. If you are not being able to decide what you should wear and how you should wear, get your female friend to choose for you. Well, if you have any gay friends, they will also suit for the job. Itās a peculiar thing that these gay folks have a marvelous sense of style.
ļ Workout. Well, yes I agree that your attitude and personality is the most important weapon that you have to attract women. But your physique does carry some importance, at least in the eyes of your female counterparts. Hereās why. If you have a well-toned body, your dress fits you well and you certainly have a youthful look and stamina, which makes you more
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attractive as a potential mate. If you work out regularly, you tell her that you value what you are and she should respect you as well. You donāt have to be all bulked up, since hereās the biggie. Women donāt like big muscles. Women want you to look manly. Thatās it.
Note: You have to look approachable. Tell you what, girls have grown
balls and DO approach nowadays.
ļ Approach Women. You flirt with women means you have to convey your interest in women. And it is impossible unless you MEET women. In fact, when you approach somebody, you are in a way expressing your interest in her. That is the essence of flirting.
Note: Almost 95 percent of all the interactions will ONLY happen
when you approach her. She will most likely NOT make the move. So, be ready to stand up and make the move.
ļ Conversation. See, during the conversation, itās all about keeping the sexual vibe. I will not tell you any routines or gimmicks because THEY DONāT WORK. The most important thing while you talk to women is to be playful and challenge her as you are messing with her. You donāt mean to annoy her but you are just forcing her to come up to it. Of course, it is
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not the only thing that you do. You have to build some rapport as well because unless you have the necessary level of rapport, you cannot be playful.
To get some rapport, you should ask open-ended questions, but itās NOT as the conversation is all about her. You lose the sexual tension if you do that. I would suggest you to JUST talk about BOTH you and her, and have fun over the process. One of the most important things here is to listen to her.
Remember, it takes consistent work on both rapport and attraction (read flirting) that leads to seduction.
ļ Observe what signals she gives out. Watch her eyes and her facial skin tone. Do her eyes dilate? Is her face blushing? Is she facing you? You might not want to focus TOO MUCH on this but sure getting a cue or two from it helps you in the long way.
Note: Pay attention to her. She tells you what she feels inside and
wants you to understand her.
Remember, flirting is all about making yourself and the other person feel good about themselves. So, keep it light and enjoy it. NEVER put too much pressure on yourself or on the woman.
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Universal DONāTs of Flirting
In the game of attraction, there are TWO aspects that need to be considered. One, that CREATES attraction and two, that KILLS
attraction. Letās see, what the specific things that you should NEVER do when you are out to flirt with a woman, are.
ļ Donāt Seek Approval. If you want to effectively flirt with her, you should always come from a place of power. You cannot kiss her ass while flirting. It only shows that you are there to suck value from her and you are a weak chump, who doesnāt deserve a second glance from her. Women never want
insecure or diffident men. So, donāt ever seek validation from her.
ļ Donāt be Obvious. When you are being too obvious, remember you are killing the tension and that you are being straight
vulgar. Flirting is not about being vulgar or sleazy. Itās about getting across the vibe in a smooth sophisticated manner. So, try to maintain some mystery instead.
ļ Donāt be FAKE. You know what women hate the most. They HATE fake people. They HATE wannabes. Many a times, I have seen boys who try to act so tough and arrogant, but it
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are. Donāt be afraid to show your real personality. People fall in love with your weaknesses, not with your strength. Show your vulnerability at times.
This applies to approaching as well. Donāt use any cheesy
pickup line on her. Just be natural. Thatās what shows her that you are a real man and not any fake personality.
ļ Donāt be Self-Doubting. Firstly, if you are self-doubting, you show that you lack confidence. Secondly, if you are self-doubting, you cannot have fun. You will too self-conscious to be in the moment and enjoy the interaction. So, ultimately she loses interest and goes away. Flirting is all about letting you go and having fun. You cannot be stuck up somewhere and hope to attract your mate.
ļ Respect her Space. Donāt try to obtrude your presence on her. Thatās really odd and uncomfortable for the girl. Even when you flirt, she needs to be comfortable and do it on her own choice. So, give her the necessary space to feel like doing it. ļ Never Lie. I donāt know what other men think. But personally, I
donāt like to take anyone for a ride. I flirt with a woman ONLY when you REALLY like them. Donāt lie to them. Playing with someoneās emotions is a sin. Donāt do it.
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Applies even to you⦠Donāt lie about yourself. Why would
you? Just get to know other while having fun all the way. Thatās it. If you break her trust, she might NOT be able to trust you again. And itās a matter of ethicsā¦anyway.
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(Revised Addition)
Why Do Women Flirt
Since this report seems to have got some good response from its readers, I thought I should revise it and add one more fundamental
chapter to successful flirting with women.
In this chapter, you will find the answer to one of most complex problems in history ļ why women flirt!
Of course, we, men, donāt understand women, not even when a woman seems to show us interest. One moment, she is eyeing us or smiling at us. The next moment, she acts as though we donāt exist. This has happened to almost ALL MEN!
And it has happened to ME too!
I thought about it for a long time, bewildered, and ultimately, I realized what was taking place underneath.
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Women are highly emotional creatures and there is no logic behind their actions. They feel through their actions, and we, men, think through our actions. There is the difference.
Now, a woman can flirt for two main reasons, namely, for herself or
for you. To clarify what I just said, a woman will flirt with you, either
because she cares about herself or because she cares about you. The reason is either her or you.
In the first case, she does not care about you. She only cares about herself, what she wants. Perhaps, she flirts with you to have some fun, to feed her stupid ego or she might have had a bet with her friends that she will kiss you by the prom night, whatever!
Sometimes, some of them are just naturally flirtatious. They love being the center of attention of the men around them. Phew! In the second case, she is actually attracted to you and wants to know you more. Her flirtatious actions are just what she feels. Here is the difference. While in this case, the girl is concordant with her feelings, she is discordant with what her actual motive in the previous case.
But why would you bother? If a beautiful woman is flirting with you and you treat it as fun all the same, then it is cool for both sides, right?
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But the problem lies somewhere else. It is when you get a bit serious about her, when you want something more from her. That is when the time comes to decide whether she is being a fake or she is being real.
Well, I believe we men do have emotions too and we do NOT want to be played with either. Look, if both parties treat it as just a game, there will be no true emotional intimacy and that is not the main motive behind true flirting.
You donāt win or lose in the process of flirting. You just enjoy the company of the other person, and when you are flirting, you are projecting your affection towards her.
But the question isā¦
Does she really like you or not? In the next chapter, we will deal that.
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How to Understand If a Woman is Flirting
Before we go on to understand whether a woman is real or fake, we must first understand whether a woman is flirting or not. That means you should be able to recognize her signals.
Now, in many books and manuals, you will find the authors enlisting out specific actions for you. Somewhere you will find hair flipping is a kind of signal. Somewhere else, the pointing of toe towards you is a sign of interest. I am not against that, and I believe, most of them are either result data of some scientific medical survey or hypothetical psychology study.
But I never want my report to be some nerdy, techno-medical manual for you. We, the naturals, never think in those lines. While those nerds (not trying to disgrace them) try to draw out scientific algorithms, we go on infusing the art form in our very character throughout our lives. We do not look at the technical details. We FEEL the process.
So, how do WE know when a woman is flirting? We FEEL it. It is not her flipping hair or pointing toe, but her look, her smile and her touch, everything tells her what she thinks, what she feels.
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Remember one thing. You should NEVER think while in the process. You should learn how to feel the woman. Feel her femininity, feel her warm energy, feel her vulnerability, feel her submissivenessā¦feel her love towards you.
When she talks with you, do not try to judge her each and every word. Rather try to feel the energy that she is giving out. What do you feel? Is she trying to desperately tell you that she has always wanted someone like you, or do you feel a person who is taking on a ride? Remember, the game is all about feeling!
Well in this case, I follow my own definition. Flirting is only when she is totally true with you. Or else, she is āplayingā with you. If you donāt feel the truth, she is NOT flirting with you.
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Is She Real or Fake
Now, this is a tricky question, and the answer to it is even more complicated.
One thing I must say here⦠Nothing is immortal, and that is so true in the field of dating.
One moment she can be fake, another moment she can be totally true to you. And that is why, you cannot rest assured knowing she is either fake or real.
I always say to my students, dating depends on the momentum. Try to understand the momentum in the first place.
She might be flirting to feed her ego in the beginning but after a couple of days, it can change into something serious. Or she might have been serious at first, but over the time, something got to her and she became more frivolous over the time. So, it ALL depends. How do you know if she is real or fake?
The answer: FEEL IT.
Try to get into her soul and find out what her true motives are. Just focus on her.
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The second part of the solution is NEVER let your heart rule your
head.
You find her teasing you and then going out with someone else. Your heart might be screaming out that she is just being friends with that person. But is that what your head says too?
Go by the reality.
Donāt reign in your imagination, in your dreamland.
You can find out whether she is real or fake through her ACTIONS. Notice her actions. And if her actions confuse you, TEST her. Yes, you heard me correct. Thatās what women do.
Make her prove herself to you. If she continues to prove herself to you, then you can believe that.
So, observe her actions, and if you find something contradictory, test her. If she passes, hang on. She MIGHT be real. If she fails, move on. She MIGHT be fake.
Note: I used MIGHT in both cases. Remember the rule of the thumb.
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Final Words on
Flirting
You are now
internationally certified to FLIRT!
Go and have fun.
Flirting brightens someoneās day. Flirting brings about fun in your life. Flirting makes you new friends.
Flirting makes her fall in love with you.
How can you NOT flirt then?
But you see, you now have a lethal weapon in your collection. Go use it but CAREFULLY!
Remember what you have now is meant to beautify the lives of you and others.
And hereās what I believe in: Women are to be cherished, to be
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So, FLIRT to surrender to the essence of womanhood, to the charm of femininity and the whole universal nurturing force that lets us alive.
PLAY IT HARD!
Signing off,
Ron C.
Visit my dating blog: Menās Online Dating Guide - Attraction, Sex and Relationships
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