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Why you and not me? Expressions of envy in Sweden and Indonesia

Why you and not me? Expressions of envy in Sweden and Indonesia

Why you and not me? Expressions of envy in Sweden and Indonesia destroy Mozart as a person for effortlessly writing the glorious kind of music that Salieri was able to recognise, but could not produce himself. In envy, the urge to reach out becomes the urge to destroy (Grow, 1996). There seems to be some consensus that the definitions of envy emphasise that it is ‘an unpleasant, often painful emotion characterised by feelings of inferiority, hostility, and resentment produced by an awareness of another person or group of persons who enjoy a desired possession, object, social position, attribute, or quality of being’ (Smith & Kim, 2007, p. 47). When Salieri compared himself with Mozart and realized that he never would be able to produce anything close to Mozart’s music, the comparison was devastating for him. He knew that Mozart was superior and this raised his feelings of inferiority, and envy. The example of Salieri also shows the hostility that follows with envy, a discontent so deep that he was able to destroy his enemy. Ill will is an important quality of envy and this is a deeper emotion than merely begrudge (Maijala, Munnukka, & Nikkonen, 2000; Miceli & Castelfranchi, 2007; Parrot & Smith, 1993; Smith & Kim, 2007). It distinguishes from resentment and sense of injustice, which often is considered as a part of envy. Ill will has a component that is characterised by the envier’s inherent wish that the envied suffer harm. Epstein (2003) described ill will of envy like ‘malice that cannot speak its name, cold-blooded but secret hostility, impotent desire, hidden rancour and spite, all cluster at the centre of envy’. The ill will that the envious person is showing is coming from frustration (Smith, Parrott, Diener, Hoyle, & Kim, 1999), knowing that the desired attribute (object, position, etc.) is out of reach. From this point of view, the deepest feelings of pure envy cannot be a good feeling.
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Do You “Like” Me?: Reassurance Seeking on Facebook and Depression

Do You “Like” Me?: Reassurance Seeking on Facebook and Depression

Differences in the nature of reassurance sought in online versus offline contexts may contribute to their discrepant relations with depression. According to Joiner et al., (1999) ERS comprises the persistent tendency to seek assurance that one is lovable and worthy. Given the emphasis on receiving feedback to specifically affirm self-worth and lovability, ERS reflects underlying doubts about lovability and self-worth. In contrast, Facebook reassurance seeking, as defined in this study, consists of posting photos and statuses with the expectation of receiving comments or likes. It was assumed that the expectation of receiving “likes” and comments reflected a desire to obtain virtual approval and reassurance from peers, in regards to what was assumed to be self-
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Do what sustains you: desire and the enterprise university

Do what sustains you: desire and the enterprise university

Perhaps most concerning is that there appears to be an unquestioning acceptance of continuous appraisal and audit at the heart of the enterprise university. From annual performance reviews to promotion and tenure applications, competitive grant rounds, and the valorization of impact metrics such as citation counts, H-indices, publication quartiles and journal rankings, the work and worth of academics is reduced to what is knowable through such apparatuses. Davies and Bansel (2010) argue that these technologies of audit and appraisal work to “standardise and regularise expert knowledges so that they can be used to classify and diagnose populations of workers and the potential risks in managing them” (p. 7). If knowledge is the new capital, then knowledge workers are the new proletariat, a necessary source of labour for the knowledge- capital machine, but certainly not to be trusted. Shore (2008) argues that the disciplinary technologies of audit are not simply thrust upon academics, but that academics themselves are complicit in its shaping of academic subjects. A colleague from another university once showed me a shiny new continuous improvement matrix that they had designed for their university department. I could barely contain my horror.
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Let me tell you a story: teaching transmedia in HE

Let me tell you a story: teaching transmedia in HE

In production terms we have discovered that many of the large scale practices of transmedia production apply to small scale projects. Our writing group built an extensive, full scale ‘bible’ for the project as advised by Geoff Gomez (2012) in his lectures. This ‘bible’ was stored on a Google drive and every writer/ participant had access to it to make changes. We really did break down the barriers between industry, tutors and students as everyone contributed publicly to the product and each contribution was attributed. As one writing student pointed out ‘I now feel better about feedback and being flexible to change. Having to go through the collaborative process makes me
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Are you talking to me? An analysis of journalism conversation on social media

Are you talking to me? An analysis of journalism conversation on social media

Original Tweets Average Min Max Organisations 7236 62 31130 Individuals 117 1 36417 Retweets Average Min 1571 2 73 1 Max 7681 20066 Table 11 - Number of links shared per user Conclusion [r]

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You and Me Forever: The Shared Ancestry of Empire and the Burdens of Leaving

You and Me Forever: The Shared Ancestry of Empire and the Burdens of Leaving

I proceed with the assumption that at some time in our lives we must have been free, a time when the essential thingness of things was allowed, practically unfiltered, into bare, ungloved hands, and then, into the inner recesses of the distant unconscious. The things you see, touch, and hear, and the little actions of daily life, come to you directly in a kind of pure state of being, in the very absoluteness of now. You walk home from the late night movies, humming a tune from Pyar Hi Pyar, or perhaps a few lines of The Last Farewell by Roger Whitaker, or Distant Drums by Jim Reeves. This is the time before they have reached you – the ideologist and his political friends, the sociologist with academic methods, the philosopher waxing epistemological, the historian with her craft, archives, and commitments, the returnee from England, with his accent, suit and tie, and his tall tales of Covent Garden and the Cliffs of Dover.
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Jean-Paul Sartre on oppression and violence

Jean-Paul Sartre on oppression and violence

Desire is frequently combined with hate. Hate is despising the way the other is. Despising the other for what he is or for what he looks like is denying the fact that the other is not a thing with determined qualities but absolute freedom. Sartre argues that hate — which is for example the underlying feeling of racism — is fundamentally a masking of one’s own failure. Hate is directed at the way the other one is, but is driven by the failing attempt to incorporate the other in one’s own projects. An example of hate is the religious terrorist who kills people because the world does not seem to acknowledge the truth of his religious conviction. Hate is masking the fact that one must take responsibility for the whole situation, including the acknowledgement that his projects are not being realized.
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Jeffries, Ross   How to Get the Woman You Desire Into Bed pdf

Jeffries, Ross How to Get the Woman You Desire Into Bed pdf

As you flit about the room, make casual eye contact with the girl. Try to see from her response if she's interested. If you can't tell, MOVE IN ANYWAY. This is a safe method - he won't get a chance to punch you out. Introduce yourself, TO THE GUY. Be as nice and friendly as you can, and above all KEEP BRINGING THEM BOTH DRINKS. The nastier he should get, the nicer you should be. This increases your stature in her eyes, and decreases his. At some point, Bruiser Boy is going to have to go pee. That's when you make your move. Don't dawdle, for time is of the essence. Move in and pitch for the phone number. Then get out of there fast, before he comes back! Ideally, your bird-dog pitches should be the final ones of the evening as you don't want to be around if she snubs you and then decides to tell him. There are some sicko women who enjoy making their boyfriends angry and jealous. Don't wait to see if she's one of them.
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Why do you lock me up since you think that I will never be good to come out? Better kill me it is cheaper!

Why do you lock me up since you think that I will never be good to come out? Better kill me it is cheaper!

Moreover, hope as a belief and feeling was instrumentally important. For one of the lifers a death sentence was a lesser evil compared to lifelong imprisonment because death was not foreign to human experience. On the contrary, being confined to a place with limited freedoms over one's surroundings, actions and interactions until the end of their natural lives was. In one lifer's words, taking away the hope of being able to experience again freedom in all its dimensions 'allowed the system to create the monster, to make me a monster; to have a date to look for keeps you human.' Amongst the attributes of this created monster were violence, regression and fixation which were exacerbated by the stigma the lifer carried inside prison. Their offences became their sole identity, contributing to the creation of an image beyond redemption. Lifers were not to be trusted, and the ensuing fear alienated them further, this time within the confines of the prison. 35
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Match  Me  if  You  Can:  Matchmaking  Encryption   and  its  Applications

Match Me if You Can: Matchmaking Encryption and its Applications

ME also supports marginalized and dissident communities in authoritarian countries. It can act as an enabler for journalists, political activists and minorities in free-speech technical applications such as SecurePost ([35]) that provides verified group anonymity. Indeed, in their thorough study [35], the authors reveal that, in authoritarian countries, anonymous communi- cation may not be credible and cannot be trusted since sources are unknown. 2 ME provides a comprehensive technical solution for censorship-resistant communication while providing source authenticity and strong privacy guarantees that cannot be obtained with existing tools. For instance, the ability to check ciphertexts against a policy before decryption allows journalists or activists to vet messages and avoid exposure to unwanted information that would make them liable. To this end, in Section §6, we introduce and implement a privacy-preserving bulletin board that combines Tor hidden services with ME to allow parties to collect information from anonymous but authentic sources.
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Knowing me, imagining you: Projection and overbidding in auctions

Knowing me, imagining you: Projection and overbidding in auctions

“symmetric case”, on which I focus). 13 This auction is non-standard for its violation of Assumption 1, i.e. the distribution of the difference between the signals is not in- dependent of the own signal, and for the experimental observation that subjects do not uniformly overbid. Rather, subjects with high values underbid. For these reasons, I consider these two experiments to be suitable out-of-sample tests of projection. As indicated in Table 1, I distinguish behavior of experienced subjects and inexpe- rienced subjects. This follows a tendency in the existing literature, and in particular Crawford and Iriberri (2007), who suggest that non-equilibrium concepts such as level- k are most suitable to capture the “initial” behavior of inexperienced subjects, while equilibrium concepts with say risk aversion or cursedness are most suitable to cap- ture the “converged” behavior of experienced subjects. The comparative analysis of both experienced subjects and inexperienced subjects will allow me to detect paradigm shifts in behavior as a function of experience. I closely follow Crawford and Iriberri (2007) by calling a subject “inexperienced” during the first five auctions the subject played, and by inversion, I call a subject “experienced” during the last five auctions the subject played (usually out of approximately 20 auctions in a session). The lat- ter accounts for the fact that in common value auctions, in particular, behavior has not
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You Talking to Me? A Predictive Model for Zero Auxiliary Constructions

You Talking to Me? A Predictive Model for Zero Auxiliary Constructions

(1b) What are you doing? Who are you looking for? Have you been working? The zero auxiliary is a non-standard feature which for the most part is known to be restricted to speech. A corpus study of spoken British En- glish indicates that in progressive aspect interroga- tives with second person subjects (as in (1) above) the auxiliary occurs in zero form in 27% of con- structions found. The equivalent figure from the written section of the corpus is just 5.4%. Con- sequently, existing NLP techniques - since they are based on written training data - are unlikely to deal appropriately with zero auxiliary construc- tions. We report below on the corpus study in full and use the results of logistic regression to design a predictive model of zero auxiliary occurrence in spoken English. The model is based on con- textual grammatical features and can predict zero auxiliary occurrence in the British National Cor- pus (BNC; 2007) with 96.9% accuracy. Finally, we discuss how this model can be used to improve the performance of NLP techniques in the spoken domain, demonstrating its implementation in the RASP system (Robust Accurate Statistical Pars- ing; (Briscoe, Carroll and Watson, 2006)).
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You Had Me at Hello: How Phrasing Affects Memorability

You Had Me at Hello: How Phrasing Affects Memorability

In particular, we analyze a corpus of advertising slogans, and we show that these slogans have significantly greater likelihood at both the word level and the part-of-speech level with r[r]

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You and me

You and me

would make it inappropriate for her to use “You” in order to refer to Clinton. Minimally, Eliza is not in a position appropriately to address Clinton. By contrast, both Eliza and Flo are positioned with respect to Clinton in such a way as to enable either appropriately to refer to Clinton by means of “That person.” In that case, we can suppose that, since Eliza is capable of entertaining and expressing thought B about Clinton, and since she is not capable appropriately of using “You” to express a thought about Clinton, thought B is not context-bound in the same way as the appropriate use of “You” to address, and so refer to, Clinton is context-bound. Finally, that characterisation of Flo’s and Eliza’s respective circumstances is consistent with the possibility that thought A is the very same thought as thought B: that, in thinking those thoughts, Flo and Eliza are thinking about Clinton in the same way, and so may be thinking the same thought about Clinton. For instance, it’s plausible that that might be so in a case in which Flo and Eliza were jointly attending to Clinton, and governing their respective uses of “You” and “That person” in accord with their jointly so attending. It’s plausible that, with respect to such a case, we would be willing, on reflection, to allow that Flo and Eliza think the same thought about Clinton, so that thought A = thought B. (That judgment might seem to beg the question against views on which there are distinctively second-person thoughts. However, for reasons we’ll come to, it leaves open the correctness of such views.) Arguably, it follows that thought A— the thought, recall, that Flo expressed by her use of “You are a philosopher”—is not context-bound in the same was as the appropriate use of “You” to address, and so refer to, Clinton is context-bound. (One might be willing to allow that the conditions of appropriate use of “You” permit the atypical case of making as if to address someone, for instance when the target is too distant to be addressed. On that basis, one might want to challenge the alleged distinction between the constraints governing “You” and those governing “That person”. I won’t here attempt to plug that hole.)
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Knowing me, imagining you: Projection and overbidding in auctions

Knowing me, imagining you: Projection and overbidding in auctions

To clarify why, let me briefly review existing results. Goeree et al. (2002b) and Bajari and Hortacsu (2005) show that risk aversion captures bidding in private value auctions, Filiz-Ozbay and Ozbay (2007) and Engelbrecht-Wiggans and Katok (2007) observe loser regret, Eyster and Rabin (2005) observe cursedness in common value auc- tions, and Crawford and Iriberri (2007) observe limited depth of reasoning in either con- dition. That is, the results vary enormously between studies. The main reason appears to relate to the identifying assumptions imposed on strategic beliefs, which range from naive beliefs (level-1) over Nash beliefs (equilibrium without anticipating errors) to ratio- nal expectations. To reconcile these results, specific and extreme assumptions on belief formation are to be avoided. I introduce a concept based on quantal response equilibrium (McKelvey and Palfrey, 1995) that nests the three belief models above and endogenizes the assumption on belief formation. While this solves one problem, Haile et al. (2008) suspect that generalized forms of QRE may overfit and lack robustness themselves. The data used here allow me to directly address this issue by evaluating robustness, i.e. the accuracy of predictions across experiments. 3 In addition, this analysis verifies whether the models are applicable across data sets, e.g. in (future) analyses of different data.
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You Talking to Me? A Corpus and Algorithm for Conversation Disentanglement

You Talking to Me? A Corpus and Algorithm for Conversation Disentanglement

Our annotation scheme requires annotators to mark each utterance as part of a single conversation, and distinct conversations are not related in any way.. If a schism occurs, the annotat[r]

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Sustainable Success

Sustainable Success

All crave for success and happiness in life. The means and methods may vary for different people or business but the final aim is more or less the same. This can be stretched to all fields of human endeavors, including achieving success and finally happiness. People are most certainly now seeking more meaning from their work and from their lives. There are increasing numbers of writers, gurus and now even a few business leaders who advocate greater love, compassion and spirituality for the formation and success of many very large and famous corporations. Some interpretations have a compassionate or spiritual foundation; others are quite rightly incorporated within wider issues of corporate social responsibility and ethical business. The paper deals with various dimensions of living for achieving excellence and success in human endeavors. Today, many of the finer aspects of life are given a go bye by the younger generation especially due to the fast paced life they are made to take up. Many so called seniors also have not been good role models, when it come to the important dimension of successful life and graceful living. Success means you desire completeness, because only the one who is complete is
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Don’t you forget about me

Don’t you forget about me

Earl is a 32-year-old man who has been brought to the emergency department (ED) by his friends. They had been “partying” the previous evening. He slept on the floor at his friend’s apartment for 12 hours after con- suming 12 beers and using cocaine. This morning, his friends have brought him to the ED because he “isn’t himself.” He has a decreased level of consciousness (Glasgow Coma Scale score of 13), but responds to ver- bal commands. He is tachycardic at 176 beats per min- ute and has a blood pressure of 180/90 mm Hg. He had chest pain last night but has none now. On examination there are no obvious signs of physical trauma. The nurse asks what tests you would like to run on this patient.
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Trust me, you will be in better health

Trust me, you will be in better health

Evidence of a strong causal beneficial effect of social capital has emerged: individuals who declare that “most people can be trusted” are about 14 to 18 percent less likely to incur in [r]

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Now You See Me, Now You Don't

Now You See Me, Now You Don't

More recently, in a discussion on race with my students (all of them white), I recount the same anecdotes discussed above and then ask them if they think these anecdotes are examples of [r]

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