Ask people how they're doing!

• This is a wonderful way of impressing a girl and her friends.

• Ask them, sincerely, how they're doing--and again, USE THEIR NAMES WHEN ASKING.

• A simple, genuine, "Hey Lisa, how YOU doin'?" can create butterflies in girls' stomachs. It sounds like you really care, like you really KNOW the girl, and as you know, women are all about emotional connections, relationships, friendships.

• Act like the friend who cares about her welfare, and she'll be sure to become more than "just friends"...

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This is a great movie, and a great technique. It summarizes a lot of the lessons you've learned so far into one simple method:

1-Eliminate your desires. That is, show a woman a man who doesn't need her in the sack, and she'll be instantly drawn to you. She'll be curious--"What's up with this guy? He doesn't seem to need me..."

2-Do something excellent in her presence, thereby proving your sexual worthiness.

• This is a big one. Show a talent and a woman will forever be drawn to you.

• Show her a card trick, or some crazy thing you can do with your elbow because you're double-jointed.

• It doesn't have to be big; even something like being able to touch your nose with your tongue can stimulate interest (in more ways than one!).

• All you have to do is make sure you show a girl you're worthy.

• So think about something you can do that's interesting, then when the time is right--usually a lull in conversation--ask a girl if she wants to see something cool. Make her curious for it before you just ruin the surprise and do it.

ATTRACTION IN ACTION

Say, "Hey, wanna see something cool?" She'll say, "Sure." Then you can tease--further showing your worthiness--by saying, "Well, you'll just have to wait."

Let her plead for a while, then show it to her--slowly. "Weeeeeeell, all right, since you've been good." If she's been bad, say, "Sorry, you've been bad. Can't show you my trick anymore. Such a shame, because it's really cool." When you finally do show it, do it with flair and pizzazz.

• Girls love an entertainer. Just look at David Copperfield! And he's not even a very good-looking guy, yet he got Claudia Schiffer. Not bad, but hardly a surprise: he has talent!

3-Retreat, for as Heidegger said, "We pursue that which retreats from us."

When you show a woman you're not easy, that she has to "catch" you, you drive her emotions wild. A guy who has the restraint, independence, and confidence to leave just when things are getting good, impresses the hell out of women.

So that leads us to the final way of making impressions:

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• The last, and most important, emotion you want to leave the girl with is CURIOSITY.

• Even better is SUSPENSE: make her just dying to see what else you have to offer.

• Just when things are looking good, tell her you have to leave.

• Don’t wait till the moment has passed; leave when the moment is there, when that magic has just sparked.

• That way she’ll remember you for a great time, not the boredom and awkwardness that come after it. She’ll want more, because her brain will link past pleasure to future pleasure.

• Remember, as the philosopher Heideger once said, "We pursue that which retreats from us."

• Additionally, SECRETS are an awesome way to stimulate curiosity and suspense.

• When it comes to learning the deep, untold secrets of people, women are drawn to them like a mouse to cheese.

• Women LOVE to learn secrets. If you can make yourself seem mysterious, full of secrets, then you’re in; you’re practically FORCING her to see you again!

QUOTABLE QUOTE

"The more natural and relaxed you are, the more natural and relaxed the right woman will feel around you, the more she will want to be with you, until she can’t live without you!”

-Barbara De Angelis in her excellent book, “The Real rules”:

ATTRACTION IN ACTION

When you’re talking to a girl one-on-one, say something like, “Mmmm, it’s too bad I have to go, I was gonna tell you something nobody else knows…” or,

“Hey, wanna know something cool I did?” She’ll say yes. “Well, sorry, you’ll have to wait til next time. I gotta go. It’s too bad, too, it’s really interesting.” This is a great way of teasing her, lowering her value, and raising yours, all in one. Girls hate suspense, so she’ll be likely to want to see you as soon as possible! In fact, you can use this for when you arrange a first date: When you call her up, say, “Hey, so I bet you really want to hear my secret. Guess we’ll have to meet up soon to end your suspense.” Then lead her on during the whole date…I’ve done this before and my night ended with me scoring. It’s guaranteed to work, so try it!

Recommended Resources

"Double Your Dating," by David DeAngelo

"The Tao of Dating," by Dr. Alex Benzer

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"The Way of the Superior Man," by David Deida

"Venusian Arts Handbook," by Mystery

Along with these techniques, consult the lessons on "Humor," "Body Language," and "Understanding Women" to discover what you need to know about what women want.

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