As you know now from reading this book, I am very much at peace with the concept that the Completion Process is one that you can use to heal yourself.
You are the one with the power to put yourself back together again; your healing is not dependent on anyone else.
That being said, while I am confident that an outside facilitator isn’t absolutely necessary for the majority of individuals in this world, I also know that there is comfort and benefit in having a trained practitioner to walk a person through the Completion Process, which is, without a doubt, a rather intense emotional experience. For this reason, I have chosen to create a certification course to train and certify practitioners of the Completion Process.
It is important to note that outside facilitation is recommended in specific circumstances, such as if someone has been involved in ritual trauma and was mentally programmed. For someone who faced this level of extreme abuse, they may not be familiar enough with their own programming to feel confident that the Completion Process will not set off a subconscious program. It might be possible in this case that a trigger could send them into a dissociative fugue state;
therefore, I highly recommend that a certified practitioner be on hand to assist these individuals through the Completion Process.
Remember, your subconscious mind exists specifically to keep things from interfering with the conscious mind. Your subconscious mind is intact with all kinds of tricks, walls, barriers, and loopholes. A certified practitioner who attends and completes the certification course is trained to deal with these defenses that the subconscious mind erects. This helps the individual to progress completely through the process and not worry about fighting his or her own mind along the way.
I have found that very few people have had the opportunity to be truly
supported by unconditional, focused presence in their lives. The very experience of having someone be unconditionally present with us while we are going through our process is healing in and of itself. It also provides us with a support person we can call on if the process itself (or if our life) gets tough enough that we feel we need or would benefit from some assistance while going through the Completion Process.
All Completion Process Certified Practitioners are familiar with the process, not only because they have been trained to facilitate other people through the process, but also because they are committed to the process themselves. We are only capable of being completely, unconditionally present with other people if we have learned to be completely, unconditionally present with ourselves.
In the certification training course, we must develop a certain level of intuition and empathy in order to work with whoever might approach us for help. Because of the mental uniqueness that people exhibit, I know I could never write a comprehensive book about everything you might run into while facilitating this process. I can only speak about tendencies and then address unique circumstances with facilitators as they come up.
To learn more about the Completion Process, to find a practitioner in your area, or to find out more about becoming a Completion Process Certified Practitioner (CPCP), visit www.thecompletionprocess.com.
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
This process was birthed by years of desperately trying to find a way to put myself back together again. I am eternally grateful to so many people who have influenced me and helped me on this particular journey, including so many followers worldwide who continue to support the spiritual healing work that I now do. I truly thank you from the bottom of my heart.
With regard to the Completion Process specifically, I have discovered that a big part of putting myself back together again involved the unconditional presence of others, and it’s my pleasure and honor to acknowledge them here.
The first person I would like to thank is my first ritual trauma therapist (who for the sake of her own safety must remain anonymous). I was delivered into her capable hands by a rape crisis center, and it’s because of her that I reconnected with my own inner child and began the process of saving myself. I have never met a warmer or more empathetic therapist in all my life. Therapists who choose to stand as advocates of the victims of ritual abuse risk more of themselves than most people can imagine. Those of us who have benefited from this bravery are eternally grateful to you.
The second person I would like to thank is Lauren Stokes. Regardless of the challenges thrown in front of us, she has remained my most loyal and consistent friend. We became best friends as children. She was my only friend for years.
Her dedication to people and her dedication to me is a thing of beauty.
The third person I would like to thank is Blake Dyer. Blake is the most unconditional person that I have ever met. After helping me escape from the abuse, he has been unconditionally with me ever since. Blake has been the bedrock that I built my new life upon; a bedrock without which none of this would have been possible.
The fourth person I would like to thank is Graciela Hernandez. She came into my life at a time when I needed support the most, and her unwavering heart has held me. I thank the Universe that she wandered into my life.
The fifth person I would like to thank is Ale Gicqueau, who came into my life as a result of using the Completion Process on myself to resolve my own deep
wounds of loneliness and shame. I have never met a man that is full of more unwavering faith in all my life. And I have never met a man more capable of love. Je t’aime mon amour.
The sixth person I would like to thank is my son, Winter. To be a mother to the innocence of his gentle soul, I had to face myself. I had to tie up the loose ends, and I had to commit to becoming the person I wanted him to remember me to be. For his sake, I decided that I had to find the answer to becoming whole, and so I did. He has been the single biggest catalyst for healing in my life. I hope that one day he grows up to feel the beauty of our destiny together as mother and son, as I do.
The seventh thank-you is to my parents. Some years ago, my mother was watching the Oscars, and she started crying as winner after winner came up on stage to thank their parents. She cried with the realization that I would never do that in tandem with a career success of my own. There has been unspeakable pain between us for years as a result of what happened in my childhood. And my career is largely focused on overcoming the harm done by parents. But my mother was wrong. I am now standing on stage, thanking my parents, because there is a bigger picture to the saga that has played out in our lives. Each one of us had a role in that saga and, therefore, what is to come as a result of it. All the pain that we have been through over the years has enabled us to completely go beyond the petty stuff. Our lives are rich with meaning. And as groovy, lifelong activists, their never-ending desire and commitment to create a better Earth will now be carried on . . . by me.
I would also like to thank Simone Graham, my wonderful editor, who has held my artistic hands through the process of structuring and polishing my works so they can be offered to the world.
And to all the clients and friends over the years who I have involved in my various experiments to try to find and design a process to rival all other processes, be assured the world will thank you for being open enough to participate in this quest with me. The nutty professor in me looks back on our time together with fond sentimentality. I will never forget a single one of you.