Objective 1: Build more desires with kissing and light body con-tact. Avoid intercourse unless her desire is that strong. Tease her with a couple of strokes. Your will power to be able to stop may have to be as strong as her desire for you to keep going.
Objective 2: Bring your lover to at least one orgasm without in-tercourse.
Rules:
q Always communicate with your lover, if you want her to switch positions, move, stop, or start something.
q Never assume she knows what you are trying to get her to do until she becomes familiar with some of your non-verbal ges-tures. Lack of communication could cause confusion and fear of not doing something right, which may interrupt the atmos-phere.
q Keep in mind that some women don't seem to be multi orgas-mic or have never had multiple orgasms, so do not expect your partner to have orgasm after orgasm if she is not typ i-cally multi orgasmic. Contrarily, I believe all women can be-come multi orgasmic once they learn to let go and trust their lover.
q Unless your lover reaches orgasm easily, never ask if she has come yet, which can be an extreme hindrance to her enjoying herself.
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Start with kisses and light body contact
Now that she desires the mood you've created, move from the shoulder massage to the kiss. Cover her entire body with kisses, sucks, licks and nibbles. Every once in a while, describe to her what you are experiencing as you kiss and massage. Tell her how it makes you feel to do what you are doing and how her na-ked body is driving you crazy. If she sighs with pleasure, mention what a turn-on it is to hear her little noises. Express how you like to see the different expressions on her face when you hit the sen-sitive spots. Continue this type of communication lightly throughout the entire experience.
Start kissing her neck and work your way up and down each arm, all the while lightly brushing her nipples and giving her a deep French kiss every so often. Slowly work your way towards her nipples as you circle around each one switching back and forth. Finally give a quick, wet kiss on one of them just to tease her.
Move your kisses down across her ribs, stomach and hips.
After spending some time on her front side, tell her to roll over.
Start kissing the back of her neck then move across her entire back until you get to her lower back. Stop kissing and start mas-saging her calves briefly then up to the back of her thighs and butt cheeks. Now start kissing, sucking and nibbling all over he r butt.
Tell her to roll back over and continue kissing on her inner thigh as you work towards her crotch. Massage and kiss the most inner part of her thighs as you brush and tease her clit. (If she grabs the back of your head and buries it in her crotch, go with it.) Stimulate her entire crotch area, concentrating on her clit. Always make sure she is thoroughly lubricated when rubbing her clit. Use lubrication if you don't go down on her orally. (I recommend
"Vagasil Intimate Moisturizer” and "KY Liquid Gel”. They seem
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to be odorless and they don't foam up like other stuff.) Use your thumb or fingers if your mouth gets tired. Stimulate her G spot and clit at the same time with one hand and use the other to mas-sage and tease her breasts. If you have the will power, slowly in-sert the head of your penis with a couple of short strokes. Don't go over half way in. If she pulls you in, resist once, to strengthen the desire, but not the second time. Penetrate her as deep as you can with just a couple of strokes to get real deep, the n stop and rub your pubic bone against her clit. Press her breasts firmly against your chest and kiss her with passion. Continue this for several minutes or until she has a clit orgasm. If you feel the en-ergy cycling through your mouths, ask her if she can feel it too.
She may not have realize it until you mention it. Do as little pumping and stroking with your penis as you can. Concentrate on rubbing her clit with your pubic bone and continue deep kissing.
If she hasn't had at least one orgasm by now, gently pull out and continue stimulating her clit and G spot, one or the other or both until she has an orgasm. (Remember an orgasm is simply a slight body spasm. She doesn't have to scream, scratch or ejacu-late to have one and neither do you.) Try different positions. Lie down next to her as you finger and kiss her with her breasts press-ing against your chest. Or when she is lypress-ing on her back, sit down beside her with your feet on the other side of her body and her hips under your bent knees.
Continue giving her all the attention she can handle with-out or occasional intercourse. Bring her to as many orgasms as the mood calls for.
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