Many experiences, events and situations we create in the present moment in the obvious way:
1. We constantly make free will decisions, choices and take actions.
The bigger ones like what we will do, e.g. we decide to go shopping, for a walk, watch TV, read a book and the tiny ones like what we will look at, what we will listen to, taste, touch etc.
These then bring our experiences and what happens. And we co-create (=partially create) our external reality this way, e.g. the way we arrange our home and everything in it.
These events and experiences may come straight away or later - e.g. when we decide to go on holiday abroad in 6 months, or when somebody doesn’t brush their teeth and eat a lot of sweets, they are likely to develop tooth decay..
But we often don’t take actions and make decisions freely according to how we decide right now, how we feel right now.. Our decisions and actions are strongly influenced by our beliefs, emotions, resistances, attachments
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and fears. Often we are not even aware that these old beliefs, attachments, resistances & fears are behind our decisions and actions.
Some of our other decisions and actions are intuitive. They are not the result of our thinking, logic and reasoning, whether we realise it or not. Here we make them together with higher parts of ourselves.
The funny thing is that we do not really know what experiences and events will many of our decisions and actions bring. For example we do not know what we will see on TV after we decide to put it on. We do not know what we will find out in the book we bought or when we go shopping. We do not know who we will meet on the walk after we decide to go for a walk.
This is where our internal reality or/and the other side get involved . Most people are not aware of this..
2. We interpret the external reality according to our internal reality
According to our beliefs, views, intentions, desires, linked personal qualities, fears etc.
We perceive what happens in our own way (especially what other people say & do ). We also perceive physical objects around us in our own way. This way each of us may perceive the outside world differently.
And this can go so far that each person sometimes almost sees a different, their own reality around them. We often see what we want or expect to see, what we believe in and so on. This “own reality” then creates our individual experience. This individual experience is then different to somebody else’s experience even if we both look at / hear the same thing. And it is all about experiences, the whole life is a journey of experiences.
Here are some examples:
-If if somebody carries a lot of fear inside, they may find something to be fearful about in many things, whilst others would not experience fear in the same situation. Some religious authorities teach people to fear God. So when somebody say in India, who fears God, sees a statue of godly figures, they may perceive them like on the first picture. Whereas a tourist visiting India without any knowledge of local traditions may see the statues as nice colourful figurines, just like on the second picture. Yet they are both looking at exactly the same statues..
Pict.[ ] Different perceptions of the same thing
-If one person believes that people are generally selfish and the other person believes that people are generally nice, then very likely the first person will think that they are meeting a lot of selfish people and the second person will think that they are meeting a lot of nice people. What really happens is that they will either imagine or actually see different things in people, even though they may both be meeting the same people..
People’s beliefs and views play a major role here. Once they are formed, they influence us whether we are aware of them or not. In many cases we form them a long time ago and then kind of forget about them, but they stay pretty active in our subconscious mind until we change them.. People form many unproductive beliefs in their childhood and they then still interpret the external reality according to these beliefs in the adulthood. E.g.:
Anna formed a belief in her childhood that it is not safe to be alone outside in the dark. And she still believes that today and is fearful in the dark outside.
Lucy formed a belief when she was 3 years old that people with tattoos are rough and aggressive because two men with tattoos who were rough and aggressive lived in her neighbourhood then. As opposed to Anna, she completely forgets about her belief and the two men later on in life. But same as Anna, whenever she meets a person with tattoos she feels at unease and does not know why.
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Or John formed a view in his childhood that he is ugly. He grew into a sporty and handsome young man but struggled to find a girlfriend. He always felt that the sporty girls that he liked would not want to go out with him.
And when he tried, he was very quick to conclude that the girls did not like him - e.g. he thought that he saw this in their body language, the way they spoke with him, or even just when one girl did not return his call for one day.
This fools people into believing that things are just the way they think they are or the way they want to see them because they virtually see it that way with their own eyes. And so it is hard for many people to change the way they see things and to be convinced by other people that things are different. And this often leads to disagreements and even arguments between people because both are convinced they are right in what they see..
Because people interpret external reality* differently they also react to things differently, behave in common situations differently etc. The way somebody else reacts to what we both see or are told may be so different to our way that we are left in disbelief.
3. We attract external reality that resembles our internal reality.
Welcome to the world of magic. We virtually attract experiences and events that just happen to us seemingly out of nowhere and resemble our internal reality... Our mind magically co-creates our experiences and attracts many events that reflect “the person” who we built with our mind up to that point. So powerful it is..
We attract experiences and events linked to our dominant desires, intentions and prayers.
Here is an example: Emma is getting bored at work and has strong desire to find a great new job. She also longs to fall in love. One day she meets Tom, they fall in love and Tom offers Emma to become a business partner in his exciting own business.
On the other hand people who have strong desire to win a lottery usually do not win because it is not part of the bigger plan for them though.
Of course not all of our desires, intentions and prayers come true. There are many reasons for that, like they may not be in line with the bigger plan for us or they may not be strong enough.
We also attract experiences and events linked to our dominant personal qualities, beliefs, views, attachments, resistances, dominant thoughts, values. These are less obvious.
E.g. if we are generally positive, we attract positive things that happen to us, we attract positive people etc.
The same thing when people are generally negative. They attract more negative people, or when they believe they have bad luck, they tend to attract bad luck.
When somebody complains a lot about all sorts of things, they tend to attract real things to complain about (not just things that they interpret as worth complaining about).
Good imagination is a great tool which assists us in attracting external reality. Creating images in our mind that represent our desires, intentions, thoughts, beliefs, views etc. give these more power. I give guidance on how to improve imagination in the Improving intuition and imagination section on pages [ ].
A word of warning. The mind / internal reality attracts to some extent what we concentrate on.. In other words, it struggles with the word Not. It still attracts to some extent the things that we do not want, that we fear etc. if we strongly concentrate on them..
Here is an example: Maria fears dogs and does not want to see them. Yet she seems to attract more dogs. She often tells her friend - “why is it that whenever I go to the park, there is usually a dog there, but when you go, you hardly see one?”
So always imagine the positive side of things. Do not imagine what you do not want like being ill, lonely, late, failing exams.
You may have heard that life gives us a mirror through various events and experiences. This mirror reflects who we are. That is another way of saying that we attract an external reality that reflects our internal reality.
There are many reasons why it works this way. It is kind of fair. We have element of freedom to create what we like (even though we don’t realise it) and we then live with that. And the mirror is the opportunity for us to recognise in these events the similarity to our inside – to our internal reality. To those things that we may not be fully aware of about us, we may not like, we may be denying etc. And if we recognise it, we can then change it.
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Please note though that only some events and experiences have been attracted by our dominant internal reality.
Like we said above, other events and experiences are results of our present and past actions & decisions and organised purely from above.
How does it actually happen when we attract events and experiences with our internal reality?
You may be wondering how this can work, how can our internal reality attract what happens in the future. It is pretty sophisticated process and only our dominant potential materialises. I will simplify it for now and explain more later (on pages [ ]):
We start it off in our mind, like we strongly wish for it. The other side /our Higher self then organises the outcome (if it is our dominant potential). We then receive the outcome through synchronicity / coincidences. We need to be out there so that coincidences can happen though. We can’t just sit at home and hope that we receive a letter offering us the perfect job . We need to actively search for it. And when we do, we then coincidentally find the perfect job at the right time..
The important thing to bear in mind here is that we do not attract these things overnight and sometimes they never happen. When? If they are not in line with the bigger plan, if in the meantime we significantly change our internal reality like a desire and with it our dominant potential...
Staying with this thought, this also means that:
We can change our future and our external reality by reshaping our internal reality
This is a great idea and we can achieve miraculous things this way. But it is actually pretty hard to do..
We tend to think that we freely decide our intentions, beliefs, desires in the present moment. But many of these have been:
-heavily influenced and formed by our previous experiences, various people like our parents, relatives, teachers, society & friends, by our environment, society, culture, religion; and
-we formed many of these a long time ago as far back as our early childhood.
-Many of our views, beliefs, intentions, desires and linked personal qualities are well engrained in us and are very active in our subconscious mind. Plus if we have a go at changing them, some hold on to us like crazy. This is often because we have been feeding them & building them for so long… So it may not be easy to change them overnight by a thought, a new view, a new weak or short-lived intention and belief etc. But it can be done.
So our internal reality is not just our pure independent creations in the present moment as we would like it to be..
It usually is a pile of everything that we accumulated over our lifetime. It sticks, it is stubborn and hard to change.
Yet it co-creates our reality today and our future tomorrow and so it almost runs our life…
Finally, here is the good bit. We can change parts of our internal reality every minute. We continually do that as we have new experiences, form new views etc.. And there is much faster way. Remember we said that our internal reality is strongly influenced by how much our heart is open. So when we involve our heart, step back and get into the “awakened state of our mind & heart” = closer to who we really are, we can make powerful changes quickly and happily. We will be doing a lot of that later in the book..