When people hear the phrase female ejaculation, they sometimes don’t take it seriously—perhaps because they’ve never experienced it and can’t imagine it’s pos-sible. It may also be because female ejaculation contin-ues to be poorly understood—or not understood at all—by many in the medical community. It doesn’t ap-pear in medical texts or curricula, and you can still find any number of “experts” who insist that it’s anatomically impossible, or even that the urethral sponge doesn’t ex-ist. This can be frustrating for women who ejaculate during orgasm and have nowhere to turn for informa-tion—or confirmation that they’re perfectly normal.
As recently as the 1980s, it was difficult to find a single self-help book on sex that even mentioned female ejaculation. Today, although more researchers acknow-ledge its existence (see accompanying sidebar), books broaching the subject remain few and far between. The shortage of information is no doubt compounded by the fact that not all women ejaculate—or are aware that they do—during orgasm.
Because female ejaculation hasn’t yet been adequately elucidated, it deserves extra attention here. Let’s look more closely at what happens when a woman ejaculates during orgasm, what leads up to it, and which organs are involved.
Earlier in this chapter we described how to locate your G-spot, and pointed out that it’s situated directly over your urethral sponge (your G-sponge). In a sense, your G-spot isn’t a separate entity, but simply the place on your vaginal wall where you can most easily reach your G-sponge and stimulate it. Many people don’t real-ize that the G-spot earned its reputation for triggering orgasmic ecstasy only because pressing on it during arousal means directly stimulating the sponge.
As you become aroused, your G-sponge, which con-tains erectile tissue and glands, becomes engorged, not only with blood but with the fluid it produces. This is why you can most easily find your G-spot during arous-al, by reaching your finger inside your vagina to feel your swollen sponge; you can further stimulate its fluid buildup by pressing directly on the spongy surface via your G-spot. Ejaculation happens when intense contrac-tions of the PC muscle during orgasm “squeeze” the built-up fluid in the sponge into the urethra (which the sponge surrounds and presses closely against) and out of the body through the urethral opening.
The fluid that a woman ejaculates, which has been called amrita, or “female nectar,” has a clear, watery quality and a pleasant, musky smell. It’s not easily con-fused with the vagina’s naturally secreted lubrication, and noticeably different from urine. But because it emerges from the urethral opening and many women, as well as many doctors, are unaware that it’s produced by paraurethral glands in the G-sponge, it’s often mis-takenly believed to be urine.
As mentioned previously in this chapter, the G-sponge is sometimes called the female prostate because it’s the female counterpart of the male prostate gland, and a woman’s ejaculatory fluid resembles male prostatic flu-id, although more diluted. It’s worth noting that a man’s ejaculatory fluid correspondingly contains prostatic flu-id, which is produced in his prostate.
Depending on the degree of G-sponge stimulation and the intensity of orgasmic muscle contractions, some wo-men release copious amounts of their female nectar. It can spill out in sudden warm gushes that bathe a wo-man’s vulva, or it can actually squirt like a fountain into the air, projected several inches or more out of her body.
Some women release smaller amounts that trickle out less conspicuously.
All women have the potential for ejaculation, but it may require an unusual amount of sexual energy, a high
state of arousal, and consistent G-spot stimulation for 20 minutes or longer. When sexual pleasure builds to a sufficient crescendo at orgasm, a woman may arch her back and hold her breath at the point of ejaculation, her pelvic muscles tightening forcefully and propelling her nectar from her body. Some women find that the more G-sponge stimulation they receive, the more ejaculatory they become, and experience multiple ejaculations in se-quence without needing a recovery period. It’s also pos-sible for a woman to ejaculate before, after, or without any other type of orgasm.
Some women ejaculate naturally, with no extra G-sponge stimulation. Many may do so without realizing it because they’re distracted by pleasure, or not adequately in touch with their bodies to recognize what’s happen-ing. Many others may be aware of what’s going on but concerned that something is “wrong” with them because of the dearth of information on female ejaculation.
The bottom line: If clear fluid is released from your urethral opening when you’re aroused—whether it dribbles from your vulva or bursts out like a geyser—you have no cause for fear or alarm. To the contrary, this can be a completely healthy part of your sexual response, and a source of immense pleasure.