' I bodies, you won't necessarily understand exactly how spirit intends to help you. But if you remain alert, expecting help she daily repeated her request for help, but she never lost hope.
Then one Sunday in church her meditation was interrupted
Again she smiled, and they exchanged a few pleasantries before the service. By the fourth Sunday he asked her to join him for coffee before going home. It wasn't what we would call a whirlwind courtship, but it did develop into a warm and happy
marriage that has added much pleasantness to the later years i
pass the time. Along the way a local newspaper that he seldom read caught his eye and he was impelled to pick it up. He was still looking at the new batch of help wanted ads as he boarded the bus. He noticed a particular ad just as his bus reached the
. Now you are doing beautifully, attracting new and interest
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ople a�d opportunities into your experience. But every o�
ce m a while you seem to attract someone who proves very d1ffi:ult to. get along with. How shall you handle yourself?FirSt adjust your attitude toward the situation. Be thankful aura that :v!ll_ help blend with the other's and protect you from an� negative mfluence. Then mentally will your psychic centers adjust under your teachers' direction. Now set your own atti
tude. Remember that no matter how offensive a person may
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HOW TO USE ESP TO BUILD A DYNAMIC PERSONALITYseem to you, he or she is an expression of the same God and the same life that you are. Mentally salute the God-self in the other, put on your warmest smile, and walk out to your meet
ing.
If you are caught off guard by a chance meeting, mentally go through the whole process while you are exchanging greet
ings. Use your smile liberally, and constantly keep in mind the simple fact that it takes two people to disagree or argue.
Here is a perfect opportunity to practice selling your ideas.
You will never be sure of your effectiveness in this area until you can consistently sell your sound ideas to the acquaintances you consider the most difficult. You can enjoy a happy rela
tionship with
anyone
you meet if you will take the trouble to make it that way.A company had contracts with several unions but seemed to be having particular difficulty wit.l-t a small local which cov
ered only a dozen of its employees. There was a running battle for almost two years which consumed enormous amounts of time for both sides. Every meeting seemed to break up with threats and bitterness, and strike preparations were underway almost constantly. When a new beef developed over the company's refusal to take a man sent over by the union hiring hall, the young vice-president decided to attend this meeting along with his usual set of negotiators. Just before leaving the office, he sat for a few minutes in the rest room making his mental preparations. He asked his spirit teachers for help, and resolved to see only the God-self in the business agents through
out the meeting. His friendly smile and warm handshake started things off on the right foot, and he seemed led to say exactly the right thing at every tense moment in the dis
cussions. At the end of a two-hour meeting, the union repre
sentatives were convinced that the company had acted in good faith, and a friendly ending to a meeting took place for the first time. This marked the beginning of a long period of peaceful relations between the two sides, all because
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body took the trouble to be spiritually prepared for a difficult meeting.
You can win understanding and sympathetic consideration from
anybody, if
you will conscientiously use what you !mow.Never hesitate to call on your spirit friends for help. Helping you helps them also! Let spirit participate in making your daily round of experiences more pleasant for you and every
one you contact. It's fun and profitable, tool
The give and
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of real friendshipNow that we can get over the rough spots, let's take a look at what we should expect from a real friendship. When auras naturally blend and produce the happy sensation of effortless comfort in another's presence, you have discovered the basis for a deep and lasting friendship. True friendship is character
ized by the absence of dependence or need. It
is
a special relationship for the simple sharing of experiences which en
rich both lives in the process, or it is something else.
It is
the same with earthly or spirit friendships, the sharing of experiences and mutual striving for growth and the good of mankind helps all parties.
Either an earthly or a spirit friendship can of itself be an expression of the mystic experience. When auras blend in the deeper relationships, the light of each is strengthened and a
new plateau of spiritual consciousness may be attained. Sitting in near darlmess with your friend, you may actually light up the room, or produce such a spiritual vibration that one of the higher spirits can bring a special manifestation. Your totally unsellish admiration for each other may lead to a momentary flash of consciousness where you literally think and feel, not as yourself, but as
your friend.
Welcome any such sensation, because the surest way to the experience of complete oneness with God is directly through the ability to think and feel as someone else. The ability can then be expanded so youthink
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HOW TO USE ESP TO BUILD A DYNAMIC PERSONALITYand feel as the whole planet, and finally the universe; and thus you find the ultimate in spiritual companionship with the God-essence itself. We will discuss the mystic experience in detail in Chapter 9, but let's close this section with one quick brush at how to find a true friend.
The secret of finding true friendship lies in your answer to the question: What do you expect to get out of a friendship?
If you are looking for material gain, prestige or the like; you must realize you aren't seeking true friendship at all. But if you can say you want just the happy sharing of warmth and unselfish affection for the sheer joy of the experience, you un
doubtedly have many friends already. So you'd like to have more?
O.K.
If you don't hide in a box under the stairs all day, . you must regularly find yourself around people. They are your new friends. Treat them that way! Greet everyone you encounter with a warm smile and a friendly hello.
For you ladies ( and sometimes even gentlemen) who say,