Women who honor and fear your authority will obey you. They will defer to your judgment, obey your commands and submit to your will. Functional women honor your position of authority, regardless of whether it proves functional or dysfunctional. But obedience should only be given to decisions that do not violate fundamental ethical principles. This means the authority position should always be
honored and preserved; however, the exercise of authority should
meet a minimum ethical standard before it is obeyed.
For example, if a husband tells his wife to buy a gift for a wedding even though the gift may be tasteless or embarrassing, the wife
should obey him. If he asks her to cook dinner when she’s tired or to perform her sexual duties even if she’s not in the mood, she should comply. Even if he asks her to dig a hole in the backyard and fill it back up, she should obey. Such decisions, while possibly foolish or flat out wrong, do not violate any ethical boundaries. They should be obeyed to preserve authority.
If however, a guy tells his girlfriend to rob a bank or jump off a cliff, the woman should still honor his position of authority over her with her attitude. But she is free to disobey his exercise of authority as such a request violates ethical boundaries.
Honoring and preserving authority remains the top priority, not making the best decision.
At times, a man will make the wrong decision. Other times, he will make the right decision. But it’s dysfunctional for a woman to play the
referee, just as it’s
dysfunctional for children to referee their parents’
decisions. Order cannot be maintained if the integrity of the governing authority is compromised by a rebellious attitude. A man may consult with his woman on a decision. But that woman should never presume to replace the governing authority of her man. This leads to a disorderly power struggle within the relationship.
As long as a man’s authority does not threaten his woman’s life or violate any ethical boundaries, it should be obeyed at all times.
GIVER
As a man, you are the Giver. The woman is the Receiver. You are the responsible one providing for her needs. In return, she meets your needs. This symbiotic relationship results in mutual satisfaction. Feminism ruins this natural balance. Instead of remaining in the receiving position, women are now conditioned to fulfill the male gender role. They want to be perceived as the Giver. Such an
arrangement is impossible to maintain. As a man, you must preserve your authority by refusing to allow a woman to compete for your function in a relationship. Nullifying your authority always removes your function.
Your authority must be recognized before you allow others to benefit from it. If a woman refuses to depend on you, at that very point, you should cut off the giving— time, money, effort, attention, resources, all of it.
The receiving position is conditional. Only those under your authority— those relying on you for their welfare—are in a proper position to receive what you have to offer. You can’t properly care for those who refuse to submit to your authority.
As you learn about the nature of authority and how to exercise it to get your
expectations met, you will begin to realize what feminism ignores: authority is a functional tool designed to meet the needs of others. Sure, you can and should use your authority to meet your expectations. But that’s only half the story. For authority to be functional, it must serve those who submit
to it. Your authority is not meant to be a club to get things done your way. Your authority functions primarily as a service to those governed by it. There are innumerable ways to abuse authority, but only one way to functionally exercise it—as a service.
For example, fathers require authority over their children. This allows a father to direct the behavior of his children in an orderly way. He makes sure they do their chores and eat healthy meals. The control he exercises allows him to meet his expectations, but the outcome primarily benefits the children. Thus, the proper exercise of authority always benefits those governed by it.
But if fathers are careless, they can damage their children’s future. A dysfunctional exercise of authority fails to create self-discipline in a child. Consequently, many adults today are incarcerated because they lack self-control. They are the products of dysfunctional authority. Your needs can only be met if your children’s needs are also met. If you use your authority solely to meet your own needs, It becomes dysfunctional.
In a relationship, everyone’s needs are tied together; your need for order is no different than any other person’s need for order. Thus, your welfare intimately correlates with the welfare of those you govern.
However, since the vast majority of men don’t know how to get their needs met, they require authority training. Such men do not yet know how to serve others. Before they can be useful, they must first learn how to gain the submission of others. Once they learn how to gain submission, they can get their expectations met. These men will then be in a position to use their authority as a service rather than a mere social advantage.