for a child of eight
requested by the parents
We see that this one needs to learn how to create a kind of self-possession that will serve this one as a focus for her sense of identity and her sense of being able to relate to the external world. This one has difficulty distinguishing between herself and that which is outside of herself and we see that concentration exer- cises would be of benefit to her in being able to make this kind of distinction. We see that it would be of benefit for this one to be able to separate herself from other people, to sepa- rate her thoughts and emotions and activities from that of others for we see that they often
encroach upon her and this one becomes confused. This one does not distinguish or discriminate between what is her own and what is some- one else’s. Would suggest that this one take whatever steps necessary to make this kind of distinction and to recognize that she is not her environment but she is becoming her own person. (02-22-1994-BGC-03)
engaged in active observation producing an understanding from an experience which had earlier provoked frustration. This realization is a triumph in Self determination.
The child has discovered the key that will serve her in any situation in life. Progress in Self-determination is a process of learning how to open doors. As long as the individual has a high level of Self respect, Self reflection will encourage learning and improvement. For such a one, life is more than a series of challenges to be met, obstacles to overcome. Life is a series of opportunities to affirm that “the customer is always right.” Sometimes one is the customer, and sometimes one is the producer. Self determination allows you the power to know the difference for it affords the power to learn.
No longer is the producer trying to sell the other something she may or may not want. Through Self recognition, the inner eye opens to similarities between Self and others, common ground can be found. The win-win attitude begins to manifest in interactions. No longer does one person lose while another wins. Through Self determination, one identifies need and fulfillment. Giving and receiving replaces the strength and weakness focus in competition. Esteem grows where ego once ruled. The ability to appraise one’s own significance opens the door to how one person, place or thing is related to another person, place or thing. When we know our relative importance to another, we hold both in high regard. We know that importance through
Self communication
.Our entire lives are built upon stories of our own making. When Self knowledge is at the heart of these stories, we fare well in our lives and dealings with others. Our stories become a blend of Self-and-Other tales, revealing the depths of friendship and humanity possible for us to experience. When we leave a sizable tip to the wait person who gave exceptional service at the restaurant, we are communicating our own fulfillment by acknowledging the part they played in our satisfaction. We have received completely. When we seek to fulfill another’s needs, setting aside any desire to be somewhere else, do
We see that this is one of the inner resources this one does not take advantage of and there would need to be a shift from the dependency upon external resources to an appreciation and respect for the inner as well. There is a tendency for this one to become lost in her own thoughts about life and in this to become innattentive, to cease listening to the inner Self. There- fore the ability for conscious attentiveness to the inner subcon- scious states would require this one to turn the attention in- ward and to be able to do so with a still mind. This one allows the mind to be cluttered often, the elimination of the clutter would aid greatly in the recalling of the subconscious experiences. There is also a need for this one to value those experiences more highly. This is all.
That this one would become aware of the need for change before this one is willing to make the change. This is the misconcep- tion upon this one’s part for we see that this one’s difficulty to the present period has not been from this line of thinking. This one’s
difficulty to the present point has been produced because this one was reticent to change in the conscious mind and was battling the Self in that regard and this has been a process of shutting out the inner Self. It is the shutting out of the inner Self that has produced the battle. Therefore when this one begins to create the
mental conditions necessary in the outer consciousness for there to be attunement to the inner, the battle will cease and there will be an entirely new level of experience that this one has not had since childhood. (05-10-2003-BGC-01)