The most mysterious part of normal human life is love. People are constantly falling in and out of love, and to the casual observer, it seems as if it’s all happening randomly.
But, I assure you that there is an underlying reality, even SCIENCE, to how love works both emotionally and energetically.
A major part of love, is attraction. People WILL NOT be in love romantically unless they are attracted to one another.
Now, they could be in love as FRIENDS... but that’s different...whereas REAL love, that is, falling in love and staying in love with somebody, requires the element of ATTRACTION.
So to have romantic love, two people must be attracted to one another... this is called “sexual chemistry”... it’s what makes the sparks fly.
If you know what it’s like to fall in love, you know what I’m discussing.
How does attraction work? Human, and energetic attraction, works the same way metallic magnetism works. If you take two magnets, a strong one, and a weak one, and place them within magnetic range, the weak one will actually MOVE like magic toward the strong one until they touch.
Human attraction is the SAME WAY.
The human mind and emotions, tend to be
IRREPRESSIBLY DRAWN toward other people who are more mentally and emotionally intelligent, or
We FALL IN LOVE with people who challenge us to grow.
And the opposite is true. human beings are
energetically and sexually TURNED OFF by people who they consciously and unconsciously consider to be grossly “less intelligent” than them.
We are designed to be attracted to people who are smarter, better, and more effective than we are in certain ways. This EMOTIONALLY COMPELS us to MOVE TOWARD evolution, and improve ourselves. By feeling drawn to be AROUND and MORE LIKE higher quality people, we
naturally increase our own quality through their influence. Think of the last time you fell in love, or were
STRONGLY ATTRACTED to somebody in your life... I bet there was something “mysterious” and “challenging” in their personality and their behavior toward you... some of the things they did were FASCINATING to you...
And if you had the pleasure of them falling in love WITH YOU, then I guarantee something about YOUR personality and style was beyond interesting to them... so they were turned on to you...
So if that’s the case, then why do people fall OUT of love? Because the person they were attracted to,
STOPPED doing those “mysterious” and “challenging” and “fascinating” things! Over time, that person became
predictable... and you discovered their deeper flaws... and they became less “amazing” in your mind... and they stopped flirting with you... stopped seducing you... and became BORING.
So the magnetism wore off... and you lost interest... and fell out of love... and maybe somebody ELSE started
doing all those “attractive” things, and you felt yourself falling for this NEW person...
If you want to set up a relationship that lasts forever, what’s the secret to making somebody STAY attracted to you?
Keep being mysterious, challenging, and fun
throughout the length of your whole relationship. Never stop flirting with, and seducing each other. And FOCUS ON THEIR *STRONGEST* QUALITIES, not their
weaknesses.
Remember, an energy body is attracted, like a magnet, to any other energy body that is
ENERGETICALLY STRONGER than it. And this
energetic attraction quickly turns into EMOTIONAL LOVE.
It’s simple science.
Now, for TWO people to love each other, they EACH must have qualities in their personalities that attract, and challenge, and entice one another.
There can be parts of one person that are “greater” than the parts of the other, and vice versa. So in this way, two people can attract EACH OTHER.
See, the conventional wisdom on love is all wrong. It says that when two people have things in common, that they fall in love. But I believe that’s completely false.
If that’s the case, then why aren’t you in love with everybody at your gym? Or in your class? Or at your job? Or why aren’t you in romantic love with your family members? Or why do people fall out of live with those who have things in common with them.
Because it’s not the things in COMMON that cause attraction and love... it’s also the DIFFERENCES we see in each other that are attractive.
When we encounter a *difference* in somebody... we go... “Wow, they’re *DIFFERENT*. They don’t make me FEEL like everybody else...”
We’ll often hear people who are falling in love say to their best friends...
“When I’m with him, he makes me FEEL DIFFERENT. I’ve never felt this way before.”
And this also explains why we always find “confident” people so attractive... it’s because they are emotionally STRONGER.
Your energy body is like a giant magnet, and it will PULL YOU toward any other magnet that is STRONGER than you.
When you see two people in love, you’ll find their energies tend to blend. But not equally. Whichever partner has stronger energy, will overtake the weaker person’s energy. And that weaker person’s energy body will start harmonizing with the stronger person’s energy body, like a musical instrument.
So how do we apply this in the real world?