MIND – LOQUACITY

MIND - TALKING - one subject; of nothing but

L: So he talked for ½ an hour and J. says it was only 5 minutes. Okay, we are at age 4 - 5. What did you see next?

S: Anger and upset.

L: When did that appeared first?

S: When he was younger about 3 years L: What did he become angry about? S: About everything?

L: Was it violent anger or what did he do?

S: Different. Sometimes he was coming to me timid, but sometimes he was really angry.

L: Irritable!? About nothing?

S: Yes, mama, can I have a cookie? No, we are going to eat. Then he started screaming for a quarter.

MIND - CONTRADICTION - intolerant of contradiction MIND - DEFIANT

L: Was it just because you refused him something, or was it otherwise too? S: It was about everything. You never know when it comes.

Also when you say: do you want a cookie? And he doesn’t have cookie in his mind, he became angry also.

When it is not in his mind, he became angry.

And every child of 3 can get angry, but this was extreme!! I never forget when he was so angry, lying on the ground, banging with his head and then I put him in the hallway. I said you can come back when you are quiet. He was so angry he came in the room with the whole door!! I stood with my back to the door and he was kicking at the door. And my other children said: mama, he is breaking the door. So, this is how angry he was.

MIND - ANGER – violent

MIND - AILMENTS FROM - anger

L: And this is still now?

S: Yes, but it is different. I can see when it is coming. L: What do you see?

S: Restlessness, more restlessness. In his whole body, but mainly in his hands and fingers. And a little bit blinking of the eyes. And now I can say: Jorick go to your room, I think it is better for you. And he knows now by him self that when he goes away it is better. So he knows more about his own.

L: So, you just say, go to your room and he doesn’t protest? S: Yes, he is just sitting there for ½ an hour and then it is okay. L: What makes him angry now?

S: Also everything L: Still everything?

S; Yes, if he doesn’t understand what is happening he becomes angry L: This can happen in school too?

S: Yes, in school everything is strange and there are always happing little things. He has a plan in his head, how things should be going. And when it is not like that, he becomes angry.

L: So anything new, like you said. Does he refuse to do something when it is new? He needs your help?

S: His first answer about everything is: NO. I always say he is born with the word: NO.

MIND - CONTRADICTION - disposition to contradict

L: And then you help him, what do you do? S: Be very calm.

L: You have learned it. You’re a good mom

S: I don’t talk about feelings with him only talk about what you see. So: I see you have to make some homework/ Lets start, you begin here. And then he says in a loud voice: No, I don’t want that, and then I don’t say anything about that, just say okay I hear you, you start here with your homework. And then it goes. If I try to have a discussion with him, I will loose.

L: Do you help him with his homework?

S: No, he is very clever. He is very good at mathematics and also English. L: What happened when you said he has to come to this place?

S: I told him yesterday, not too far because he makes himself angry. Because what is happening there and how many people are there. I decided to tell him yesterday

evening and then he said: why? I told him it is for your headache and eczema. He said: okay! And I said there are a lot of people but the man who is speaking to you, he speaks Dutch, and he’s from Belgium.

MIND - AILMENTS FROM - anticipation

My husband came with us, and it was okay for him. But when we were sitting there it was to long for him and he said to me: I go home.

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L: You always have to inform him about what is going to happen?

S: Yes. It is a funny thing. I never till now cut his nails neither fingernails, nor toenails, because he always bites them and eats it. And when he was little we couldn’t cut his hair. This was a drama, he didn’t want it.

L: Why not? What was it? Touching?

MIND - TOUCHED - aversion to be

S: Touching, and something (hair) was leaving from him. This was terrible, we couldn’t do it. So when he slept in the night I cut a little of his hair. I did this till he was about 6 year old. After that we lived nearby a hairdresser and I took him everyday to this place and he was playing there and sitting in the chair and the barber was combing his hair and after 3 months the barber could cut a little bit of his hair. And now he goes once in 2 1/2 months to a special barber and he is not sitting still, he is always moving in the chair. But this barber is very funny and makes jokes with him and cuts very quickly.

L: Does Jorick make up his own stories, we know he likes swords. Does he like to play by himself? Is he entertaining himself?

S: Well, what he is doing is exactly what he sees on television or video. It is not that he is phantasising on his own knight’s play but he is copying what he has seen. Even in his speech, sometimes he says something and I think: ah, Lord of the Rings, ah, Sponge Bob

L: Lord of the Rings is probably his favourite? S: And of course his computer games

L: He is very comfortable when he does this at home?

S: Yes, when we go on holiday we always take the Play station with us. Then he is a very easy child.

L: OK, I am now at age 5 – 8. He has restlessness and anger and this changes a little bit but is still there.

How old is he now again? S: He is almost thirteen.

L: What happens from age 5 – 6? Anything new from there on? S: No.

L: Do I have the whole picture?

S: There is something else. He was about 8 years and then he was pulling out one hair after another. So he had a big bold spot on his scalp. And with a pen and a scissors he was making marks on his arm and hands. Hurting himself

MIND - PULLING – hair

MIND - PULLING - hair - desire to pull - her own hair

L: Puncturing himself? Age 8.

S: Yes, He was at a regular school then and he was also depressed. L: Tell me about the depression.

S: He said: nobody likes me, I do everything wrong, everything goes to quick for me. I try to do well, but I never succeed. I hate school and I don’t have friends. He only

had 2 friends. And he cut his own clothes with scissors. Also his blankets, the carpet.

MIND - DELUSIONS - right - doing nothing right; he is MIND - UNDERTAKING - nothing, lest he fail