Take any or all of the following Resource States & Meta-State yourself with it:
1) Clarity of understanding of the process.
Have I represented it vividly and clearly in my mind?
How much more vividness and clarity would help?
2) Intensity of emotion and energy for the new skill.
Do I feel a need for it or feel excited about it?
3) The Fittingness of the New Frame for our life situation.
Does it fit?
Is it aligned with our highest values and visions?
Am I willing to let this become a part of my identity?
4) Responsibility: Ownership, Initiation
Have I taken personal responsibility for transferring the skill into my life?
Have I owned the learning?
Am I willing to take responsibility for making this part of my life?
5) Willingness to experiment and play.
Am I willing to play around (experiment) with the new skill, pattern, or model until it becomes second-nature to me?
6) Repetition of the skill or pattern.
Will I work with this often enough so that it becomes habitual?
Will I playfully repeat it enough so that I can do it in my sleep?
7) Future Pacing.
Have I imagined vividly how this will play out in my life in the future?
8) Experimenting and active involvement in role playing in the groups.
Am I willing to play around in respectful ways in the small groups using the role playing scenarios to get this installed in my behavior.
9) Skill Reinforcement in groups as experiencer, coach, and meta-person.
Will I take responsibility to get the most out of the group experiences and enable the others to get the most out of it for themselves?
10) State Extending Exercises.
Will I delight myself with the playfulness of extending the parameters of the new states and meta-states that I create?
11) Empowering, Sensory-Based, and Immediate Feedback.
Am I willing to learn how to give and receive the kind of enhancing feedback that makes for reinforcement and installation of these skills?
How
do we take new learnings, insights, processes, patterns, and models andget them inside us so that they make a difference
in how we think, feel, talk, behave, and relate?How do we translate new skills into everyday action?
How do we transfer them to our workplace, home, recreation, etc.?
13) M E T A - S T A T I N G I M P L E M E N T A T I O N
Frame:
What kind of a relationship to you have to the idea ofImplementing What You Know and Learn?
What frames have you set with regard to
putting concepts into action?
Design:
To train and/or learn so that it has lasting and profound impact we have toimplement.
We have to translate intoaction.
Exploration:
What are your current thoughts-and-feelings about implementing knowledge? What have you set as a higher frame about this? To learn enhanced ways to run your brain isn't enough. You have to actuallyrun your own brain with those patterns.
This pattern facilitatesyour own installation
of implementation. It answers the installation questions:8) Bring the Higher Levels down to the PS Behavior to let it all Integrate
As you even more fully step into all of this awareness, experience it completely, snapshot it and honor it and let it enrich all of your levels... and now imagine bringing this back down the levels, letting it coalesce into the lower levels to enrich them. How do you now experience the behavior, environment, etc. when you bring this higher level with you? And you can bring each of these levels, in turn, to bear upon your everyday states, can you not?
If you spatially anchored each meta-state,
go back to the highest level of metaphor and step from there to the next one and the next gathering up the resources and bring it down to the behavior. Repeat 3 times until itflows as a Walk of Integration.
14) META-ALIGNMENT Aligning Higher Frames
Are you
Aligned
in all of your higher levels of thinking and emoting regarding a given task?Do you have any parts organized to sabotage your propulsion for success?
The following pattern provides you a way to align and utilize meta-level structures (Meta-States) to generate an overall sense (gestalt) of integration, Congruency, wholeness, and well-being. (This pattern has been adapted from Dilts' "Neuro-logical levels") Do this just standing and talking about each level or spatially anchor each level by back up from the primary state behavior.
1) Identify a Primary State sensory-based Experience wherein you want more alignment
Is there any behavior that you would like to perform with more personal alignment, Congruency, and integrity?
What activity do you engage in that's very important to you but which sometimes lacks the full range of
Congruency, power, and focus that you would like to have? Make a list.
Describe this behavior, activity, experience in sensory-based terms. Describe from a Video-Camera perspective. (Behavior)
Where do you do this? (Environment) Where not? When? When not?
2) Identify the PS mental-emotional Skills and Abilities which enable you to do this
(Capability) How do you know how to do this? Can you pull this off?How do you do that? Describe it for me briefly.
What strategy or strategies do you deploy in doing this?
3) Identify the Meta-Levels of Beliefs & Values that support & empower this
(Beliefs/ Values)4) Identify the Meta-State of Identity which emerges for you
Identity)When you do this, does it affect your Identity? Who are you when you engage in this?
What does engaging in this behavior say about your identity?
5) Identify the Meta-State of Purpose & Destiny that then arises
(Vision, Mission, Spirit) Does this fit into your overall sense of destiny and purpose? How does it?What's your highest intentions in doing this?
6) Identify the Decision that supports this.
Have you decided to do this? You will? You have said "YES!" to this?
7) Describe these Meta-Levels of Meaning with a metaphor or story.
What is this like? Let a metaphor or story encapsulate this matrix of your mind.
As it emerges ...notice its sounds, colors, shapes, music, light, etc.
Why do you engage in this? Why do you believe this is important?
What are some empowering beliefs that support this behavior?
PART V
C O A C H I N G O T H E R S I N L E A R N I N G S K I L L S
In this training, we have sought to demonstrate the following Skills as our understanding of NLP and Meta-States with regard to
effectively coaching for accelerated learning.
What follows therefore presents our understanding of how to effectively work with anybody else in the context of learning and training.1) Begin from a State of Respect.
People are more than their behavior, thoughts, emotions, actions, skills, roles, etc. We separate person from all of these behaviors in order to honor the person above and beyond any particular state,
skill level, set of competencies or lack of them.
We not only respect the person, but also believe in each person's right and responsibility to learn, grow, think, speak, etc.
2) Search for and Speak to Each Person's Highest Positive Intentions
We use the NLP reframing principle that a positive intention drives and governs every behavior and communication. Assuming this, we then seek to recognize, validate, and satisfy those highest positive intentions rather than get caught up (sucked into) the primary level problems, symptoms and complaints.
This leads us to explore with every learner what he or she specifically seeks to accomplish so that we can then align with that higher state of mind. Often we have to move up many levels to find that,
especially if the person has been traumatized or raised with lots of impoverishing toxic beliefs.
This challenges us to manage our own states, to access and use the
empathy perspective
and to truly care about facilitating empowering resources for the person."The biggest obstacle to overcome for a student with ADD symptoms is that they are labeled 'stupid, weird, or different' as though something is wrong with them.
Consistently looking for positive intention and accepting and appreciating them as unique persons with value will go a long way in helping them overcome this belief." (Blackerby, p. 184)
3) Pace and Lead to Empowerment.
NLP and Meta-States is all about facilitating the powers to "run your own brain" and to manage the higher levels of mind. To do that we have to first pace, pace, pace —as we enter into another's world, understanding their mental filters (Meta-Programs), higher levels of mind (Meta-States), values, etc. Then we can
persuasively lead
to coaching the person's greater resourcefulness inlearning.
If you don't pace, you won't have a good connection or basis for communicating. And without pacing, you're likely to deny, judge, or fight with the person's frames. That will more than likely lead
to a Frame War that will only escalate things. Begin by accepting and appreciating the person's highly valued criteria and frames.
4) Set Effective Frames for your Coaching to be an Exploration that takes full advantage of feedback and learnings.
As you meta-model the person's reality structures, do so from the Know-Nothing frame of reference and demonstrate how an expert professionally uses and loves feedback. It's not failure at
all. Every miss provides valuable information about what to do next. Adopt a learner's role to your person, not that of a know-it-all.
Constantly check the higher levels of mind to see if the person is okay with the skills, activities, and processes. If you train a person at the level of capacity, but he believes he is dumb and that it won't work— watch out. The higher level will govern that experience. Continually check for —
Permission Alignment
Comfort Congruence Belief Judgments/ Evaluations
Value Emotions (meta-feelings) Understanding Decisions
Identity Expectation Etc.
5) Layer Pattern upon Pattern until you get the person's desired outcome.
You don't have to know
what
you're going to do, orhow,
you only need to trust that your explorations with the person will reveal the structure and that you will find a way. This empowering belief is essential to be a master at this art.Model how you continue when you get "stuck," and the kind of thoughts, states, beliefs that you set as your own frames when you don't know what to do. Remember to shift back to modeling (meta-modeling) whenever you feel overwhelmed so that you can chunk down the language and structures into small pieces.
Set a frame of playfulness. Enjoy the processes. Elicit humor, wonder, curiosity, trust, confidence, etc. in the person.
6) As a Learning Coach, remember that mastery necessitates practice, rehearsal, and time.
This calls for both you and the person to be patient, disciplined, trusting of the process, etc. Aim to establish a
learning direction
so that the person slowly but solidly begins to build more and more confidence in his or her abilities to learn.ARTICLES