THE POWER OF A QUESTION

Before we continue, let’s just delve a bit more on the ancient wisdom of Socrates, the Greek philosopher, and source of what is referred to today as The Socratic Method. The underpinnings of these principles require respectful listening in response to questions asked. It is based on honesty, something you have embraced since Day-1, right? When you look within for your answers, you

become empowered as you realize there is more to you than you thought. As you begin to interact with another, and yourself, you realize the power in respect and taking responsibility.

It is about understanding, rather than yearning to be understood. When you feel safe you can share your insights to others and again, can feel the power behind that action. Personal trust and honesty is what this lesson is created to instill.

Dig deep with the pickax of wisdom to unveil the beliefs that may keep you stuck, insecure, and searching for contentment through another. Do not give up. Keep probing without judgment.

As I pose questions as the focus of this unit, they are intended to make you think, reflect and examine. Trust your first answers. Ignore nothing. Include it all. You learn from your own answers and can then write your own course. Again, the requirements are having the integrity to be committed and honest. Get out your journal and really involve yourself in the questions. I will frequently offer free Q

& A tele-classes on this subject, so write down your questions when they surface.

Relationship is the most in-depth subject, because through relationship you learn how to get along with people, be more successful in your profession, achieve a state of lasting happiness, develop a right attitude towards family life, enjoy your own company etc., etc., etc. It’s crucial to understand relationship, so let’s get started.

THE ASSIGNMENT

1. Why don’t you have the relationship you desire? What does it take to acquire it and keep it? What do you bring to a relationship? List both your strengths as well as your weaknesses. Why would someone want to be in relationship with you? Get in touch with your shadow (the dark part of you that you don’t want to own). What are your idiosyncrasies? Why did your prior relationship terminate? What about the one before that?

Do you notice a pattern?

2. What are your expectations in a relationship? How many people do you truthfully believe will be able to fulfill your list? Are these expectations realistic? Or do they set the other up for failure? Maybe you don’t have any? What does that tell you? Record in your journal a list of beliefs you have about relationship, commitment, long-term marriage, sharing life, freedom, giving. You could even write a short story.

3. How willing are you to improve yourself in order to bring forth a partner that would be a desirable one? Counseling, reading, personal growth seminars, intimate sharing with a friend, make changes?

4. The last one is a big one! Are you willing to take a risk and discover what you would be like if you gave up your critical nature and became more accepting? Are you willing to see that the criticism you extend just might be towards yourself?

5. On a scale of non-existent to excellent, how would you describe the relationship you have with yourself?

6. Non-existent…Poor…Mediocre…Connected…Pretty darn good…Excellent 7. What is the quality of your communication? Do you like who you are? If

so, why? Are you overly familiar with your own cranky attitude and righteous point of view? Are you becoming more defensive the more time you spend out of relationship? Is it okay with you to be out of

relationship?

8. Describe your very worst relationship and what you learned from it. Come on now, you must have learned something. Close your eyes and see that person with a dazzling red bow on, standing in front of you as a valuable gift. If you can see that experience and feel “no response,” you are free from it. If you have any “energy” on that person, there is work to be done in order to move beyond it. Otherwise, it acts as an anchor. You must be clear to move on.

9. Explain and portray your parents’ relationship in detail. If there were stepparents involved, continue with the question. From your experience, divulge your deepest beliefs about relationship based on your early years.

10. Describe your perfect relationship, then, visualize it in a quiet time meditation, allowing yourself to feel the joy, harmony and ecstasy of it.

Feel how it positively influences everything in your life. What would it look like if you were in relationship and it was working – everything was in the flow, and magic was an everyday occurrence?

11. Do you have space in your life for relationship? Stop and look before you answer this one. In other words, is your life so full with work, stress or self-absorption that there is no time for relationship?

This was a slightly different unit because I asked you a plethora of questions. As you now realize, after answering these questions, you have a more expanded sense of your self, yes? Continue to review prior units and Lessons learned. Be open to the unexpected – shifting your mindset even more, or being bored to tears. Being unattached to the results, in a state of interest and observation, will also take you to greater heights. Take it seriously yet don’t be hard on yourself

with your findings. My Attitudes, Beliefs, and Choices book (downloadable ebook) is a terrific and helpful supplement to your 21-day course. Just have fun as you learn, grow and evolve perfectly.

AFFIRMATION

Today I am grateful for the gifts that come to me in all forms. I learn from all of them, as I am committed to trust the process of life. I accept the wisdom of my wholeness.

D A Y 1 1

SUCCESS

We get older when we let go of the ideals, dreams, passions and lose track of the vision we had as a child.

Linda Chandler

ATTITUDE CHOICE

Everything works for me OR

I never seem to get the good breaks

THE LESSON

Success is an attitude, a belief and a choice.

REALITY CHECK

What does it mean to be successful? Write in your journal your definition and notice how you are feeling while you are writing it. Who is and is not successful in your reality? What feelings do you have surrounding the word ‘successful’? How does the word relate to money? Who do you know who is successful? Why? Are you happy for them, or resentful that it is not you? Write a paragraph describing someone with an attitude of success.

In document 21 Day Course (Page 59-63)