As humans, the need for love and connections sits at core of our being. The fear
illustrated by this "emotional roadblock" is different than the our basic emptiness when we are not loved. The fear of rejection or ridicule is a response to the social
conditioning that occurs when we are children. Our brains are great learning machines. So effective that even just one strong emotional event can effect our behavoir the rest of our lives. When a six year old stands up in class to answer a question, her brain makes a connection.
If she gets the answer correct and the teacher praises her, her brain connects standing up in class with good feeling of approval. If she misses the question and the whole class laughs at her, her brain learns that standing up in class to answer a question equals humiliation and embarassement. If this negative event is deeply emotional or occurs repeatedly, a fear of ridicule is developed. If you happen to the one of the millions of people that rank the fear of public speaking higher than the fear of death, you might have some self-conciousness.
In handwriting, a severe fear of ridicule is signified by the humps on the letters m or n. This self-consciousness in their handwriting is show when the second hump is higher than the first hump. . It's interesting, because in handwriting analysis, the opposite of a stroke is not always the opposite meaning. In the letter t, the low t-bar and high t-bar have reciprocal meanings. However, in the m and n, it isn't the case.
For instance, the opposite of the fear of ridicule does not mean you enjoy ridicule. You also can't say, "Just because I don't have a loop in my d-stem, I'm never sensitive to criticism." It doesn't work that way. This is why it may take a little bit of study with more advanced material to bat 100% when analyzing handwriting. In this example, the "m's" that go downhill indicate diplomacy. Diplomacy means you have the ability to say things in a very kind way and be diplomatic.
Diplomacy is a very positive trait. Self-consciousess has no redeeming factors.
Therefore, the decision to exchange one for the other is a no-brainer. If your humps go uphill, it doesn't mean you can't be diplomatic. But it does mean that you have a little bit more self-consciousness than you have diplomacy. In handwriting, the stronger trait will occur in any letter where two or more traits might occur. Often, the letters will alternate one shape to the other shape. This indicates both traits are a significant portion of the personality.
In a sales career, this trait is very detrimental to a success. If you can't make cold calls because you're afraid they might say no. You have a big hurdle to overcome. If you give me a stack of salesmen's handwriting. The one writing with self-consciousness is
invariably the sales manager. Why? Because he has chosen to train and administer rather than deal with rejection on a daily basis.
If you are single, you might experience self-consciousness when you meet someone new. If you feel nervous to speak or a bit uncomfortable about doing the wrong this, you are feeling the fear of rejection. Here is a test. Pick someone across the room that you do not know. Walk right up to them and strike up a conversation. In many people, the level of anxiety in this scenerio is in direct proportion with the level of self-
Fear of Success creates failure by circumstance.
If you have this stroke in your y, g, or j... change it today. This is the ONE trait that I cannot allow in my employees or personal relationships. You can just about guarantee they will NOT finish - or somehow cause projects to fail. At least, they underachieve. The little downturned y is a biggy... watch out!
*** Homosexual Indicators ****
Question: I've read that long tail into the lower zone as off of M in November and K in like is a sign of homosexual tendencies. What do you think?
( This of course is in regards to sample 108 below)
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Long tail into the lower zone as off of M in "November" is most likely creativity or determination. (And, the longer to downstroke is.. the more energy one could have toward sexual activities... thus strong sex drive.) I've never read homosexual inferences in just the long tail. Only triangles, if present and large toward the left, would have any relevance.
Homosexuality indicators as I've read them in many books are not 100% accurate. There are many variations and theory to that lifestyle and behavior. There are as many "personality" types among homosexuals as there are straight people. The "sexual" aspect of that lifestyle does not define who they are... thus handwriting would not be expected to predict it.
Thus, the only aspect of handwriting that I would image being present is ONLY if the particular "homosexual" in question was into really "kinky homosexual sex". In that case, we would most likely see exaggerated lower zone loops and often a triangle or balloon shaped. I have witnessed this in a large percentage of very flamboyant gay men and a few lesbians. But, it is not consistent. Those people engaging in a homosexual lifestyle that are not very sexual... these traits would not show up. As with any vast generalization, there are many exceptions.
****** Second question - same handwriting sample *******
Heavy use of capitals in the first letter of words other than the one beginning a sentence is I've read means a person who over-reacts emotionally. Is this true. Answer: It depends. It would make sense that frequent capital letters indicate the person is making a strong statement on every word. (Such as defiance or bolding a word). Or, seems to need to be heard or noticed more than normal people. A sign of strength, yes. A sign of insecurity hidden, yes.
It does indicate a need to be noticed - or taken seriously. In this case, the all capitals indicates a "control" over her emotions in a way that is quite dramatic. So the printing would offset the tendency to overreact. Oh... and yes, there is someone sexually different about this person as well and a general "red flag" comes to mind. But, as to exactly what kind of "kink" she is into.. I don't know. (I wouldn't date her.)
I would interpret the unusual strokes in the sample to be "whips" - just an exaggerated version of the sarcasm stroke. This person would "whip" you with her comments. Cheers, Barbara Downer, CDE (certified document examiner)