Some readers may be amazed by the fact that by making a few simple inner changes, outer reality matches up perfectly and delivers what you want, every single time. But this is really all that is necessary for outer manifestations to take place. Give up the need to engage in more convoluted, forceful or desperate outer-directed actions.
Give up the need to search and look for more advanced techniques! There is nothing more
“advanced” than the subtle inner work which one can do, and it is always this inner work which is the most advanced — because so few people ever take the time and effort to do them. We are always looking for outer man-tras, chants and even magical steps to take that make it seem as if lots of things are
happening… when in actual fact, the sole purpose of all those outer-directed steps is to convince us that something is happening on the inside. The whole purpose of various outer-directed techniques is to help an indi-vidual get past his own manifestation stuck points.
Once you have successfully worked / thought around your inner manifestation stuck points, it does not mean that your de-sires will come to you through the manner specified. Let me explain using the previous example. When Mark successfully thought around the manifestation stuck point that his monthly income was fixed at a particular level, his income actually doubled within the short span of a month. But his corresponding increase in income wasn’t entirely driven by the fact that he managed to group several coaching students together as suggested by me. That wasn’t the full story of how his
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income actually increased. In fact, once he had successfully moved past this stuck point, he started getting more calls and inquiries about his services seemingly out of the blue!
He started booking more coaching clients and people started approaching him. There-fore, getting past one’s manifestation stuck points does not entail dictating to the Uni-verse a particular course of action to take.
When we successfully overcome our mani-festation stuck points, we are not dictating that things have to happen in a certain way.
We are not trying to send any message to the Universe. All we are doing, is to overcome blind-spots in our own thinking. Once we are able to overcome these blind-spots, we open ourselves to the good that the Universe has in store for us. It may be through the means we have imagined, or it may be through even better means.
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Some of our manifestation stuck points can be very pervasive. One of the biggest ones I’ve seen is this: “I don’t think it is pos-sible for me to have this thing or outcome.”
As a result of this pervasive stuck point, we find that some people don’t even bother ask-ing for the thask-ings they want, because they think they will not get it… or that it is im-possible for them! This happens for every-one, even advanced students of this material.
Upon writing the previous chapter, I examined my own life and realized that even I had certain things in life which I
“accepted”, because I thought I wouldn’t be able to change them. That is alright as long as you are at peace with these things and conditions in your life. However, don’t fall into the trap of thinking that a particular condition is unchangeable and therefore one has to grit his teeth and bear with it. Anytime you are not at peace with something and find
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it a struggle to “bear” with anything, your discomfort is an indication that it can be changed. It is providing the impulse, the im-petus you need to change it. However, many of us do not even bother asking for an im-proved situation because we are caught by a big manifestation stuck point, which is that the particular condition cannot possibly be changed.
The good news is that once we are able to allow ourselves to think around that stuck point, the outer situation will usually resolve itself very quickly. Sometimes, a mere shift in perception (from moving past the stuck point) will cause a perceived problem to fall apart on its own accord. We may no longer perceive a problem that we perceived in the first place. We have transcended a previous level of understanding. This happens to me all the time. For example, I used to be very hung up when I wrote a nice greeting card to
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an old friend and did not hear back from them. In fact, I would walk around for days wondering if they received the card, and why is it that they have not replied! The desired outcome that I was asking for was to have my friends reply to my letters and cards, which can’t seem to be that difficult in the modern age!
When negative feelings started stewing in me, I decided to do something about it.
Remember that any type of negative feelings have an effect on your current and future manifestations, since the Universe is always picking up on the sum total of your thoughts and feelings. Therefore, even though the neg-ative feelings you feel are not directly related to what you are asking for, throwing in these negative feelings into the mix upsets your vi-brational balance. As I sat down and ex-amined this issue closely, I realized that I had a major manifestation stuck point
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surrounding this issue. One that was so big and obvious that I did not realize it in the past. The manifestation stuck point was: “My efforts are unappreciated because my friend did not reply to me.”
Once this stuck point was laid out in plain view, it was easy to see why I felt negat-ive feelings when I did not recenegat-ive a reply. I felt unappreciated! I felt that my efforts were going to waste! Now please understand that manifestation stuck points are always about us, and nothing about the people that are in-volved or even named in our stuck points.
Therefore, this manifestation stuck point pointed to something inside of myself that needed to be resolved, and nothing about my friends who did not reply to my messages. It is very easy to identify a manifestation stuck point and then cite reasons why these stuck points exist by pointing to the various ex-ternal parties involved. But doing so would
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be falling into the very common trap of giv-ing our power to external events and factors.
In other words, if I had continued to put the blame on my friends for making me feel those negative feelings, I would not have re-solved this stuck point at all.
Once the stuck point was identified, I began looking for ways to think around it.
Recall it does not matter whether any of the alternative possibilities we come up with are true. What is important is that they allow us to sort out the kinks in our own thinking and feelings. How should one think around the stuck point previously identified? First, I no-ticed that I equated a non-reply with being unappreciated. This strong association made it impossible for me to experience any other reality.
Second, I began to ponder alternative realities. Is it possible that non-reply equals
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appreciation? Definitely! Since there were many times in my life in which I received a greeting card and didn’t have the time to reply. I was certainly thankful and grateful to the sender in my heart, but just didn’t get round to thanking them in writing or in per-son. I should have, but I did not, and I still felt thankful and appreciative of their well-wishes. Therefore, my stuck point was that I equated non-reply with not being appreci-ated, when a non-reply can mean so many other things as well! With that, I had created alternative possibilities for myself. I was no longer stuck on that point. I was free.
With that one single realization, I was completely free. All the negative feelings dis-solved and dissipated. This is a perfect ex-ample of perceiving a problem when there is none. There was not even an issue in the first place, but I perceived one due to my own stuck thinking. I conditioned my good
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feelings on whether my old friends replied to my greetings or otherwise. The moment I got past the manifestation stuck point, it was like a whole new reality. I felt so happy and elated for sending out the card. I felt pure joy in imagining that they received my card and were uplifted by the messages within. I felt pure joy for them and for myself. I was com-pletely free. This has never been about any-thing or anyone else… but only about myself.
The only work to do is always on ourselves.
The moment I had this realization, I knew I had cleared another major manifesta-tion block in my life. Sometimes all of our stuck points share a common thread or theme. In this case, the common theme is one of “not being appreciated by others.” In other words: Doing things for others and not being appreciated for them, expecting some kind of “thank you” or reciprocation. But why should our good feelings be conditional
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on whether others reciprocate? Why should we bind them with our own expectations of what’s appropriate or inappropriate, right or wrong? Let us give up all expectations of how anyone else should behave, and cut off all these binds that we have unconsciously im-posed on others. The moment we do that, we are free.
I dropped this whole issue from my mind and went about my day. The very next day, I received a phone call out-of-the-blue from a new client wanting to engage my ser-vices and book me in advance for the new year. I have no way of confirming it, but I know deeply that it happened as a result of me letting go of yet another self-imposed limitation from my life. When we free ourselves from negative feelings and emo-tions, especially recurring ones, we return back to that peaceful and pure state that we have always been. There is another ending to
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this story too. Two days after I successfully dissolved this manifestation stuck point, I did hear back from my old friend. It turned out that he was away and did not receive my card in time. I also know that had I not over-come that manifestation stuck point first, this new reality would not have emerged.
Outer reality could only match up when I lived a new level of understanding.
I hope I have convinced you about the importance of taking a good look at your manifestation stuck points. Some of them will seem very logical or “obvious” to you, so much so that we dismiss them at first glance as valid obstacles. They should be, since they have always been there since the beginning!
That is why our desired good cannot even come through to us! But these perceived obstacles are often manifestation stuck points that need to be addressed, and we handle them not by making them disappear
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on the outside (for example, not by taking outer actions to “force” my friends to reply to me so that I could feel appreciated), but by making them disappear on the inside. Re-member — It is always an inside job! Al-ways. AlAl-ways. AlAl-ways.
When you understand that it all hap-pens on the inside, a very empowering and peaceful feeling comes over you. The day I realized that everything happened on the in-side, and that outer reality simply mirrored everything I felt or perceived on the inside (a saying I had previously heard many times), I felt totally free. I knew, in that moment, that I could manifest absolutely anything I wanted… and it was an exhilarating feeling!
For the first time in my life, I was free from other people’s expectations, antics and ac-tions. I knew I could not longer be affected by them if I did not allow myself to. At the same time, I was freeing other people from
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my expectations. They were free to be who-ever they were and I still accepted them wholeheartedly for what they were. When you realize all of these, you are indeed seeing through the eyes of the Universe.
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