Setting frames that implicate the Meta-Frame

For one, women often times have a gnawing fear that a man is only sleeping with them because they chose or accepted him—and that maybe, he does not even really like them.

For two, often times if a man views a woman too much as the PRIZE and is willing to jump through a bazillion hoops for her in hopes of winning her over, she will begin to see him as having little value and self-worth. She will begin to think to herself, why does he feel the need to do all of these things for me? Thoughts will begin racing through her mind such as, do I really want to be with a self-worthless needy desperate man? Many women refer to what I am talking about as “trying too hard”.

For these reasons, it is my feeling that when a man first meets a woman, one of the best things he can do is to not choose (or only tentatively choose or accept) her, before she has a chance to decide if she is going to choose him.

This is one of the best ways to set our meta-frame:

That you are the PRIZE.

That she is trying to get you to like her or trying to win you over—whether it be in the sense of attraction, acceptance or validation.

That she wants you so bad that she is trying to make you sleep with her.

The both of you are going to sleep together, but only if she lives up to your standards and expectations.

Furthermore, even if she does not buy into your meta-frame right away, “not choosing her” preempts her from not choosing you.

Perhaps this sheds light on why many women are attracted to guys who are assholes.

Often times when a man ignores women and acts like an asshole, they think: why doesn’t he accept me, what is wrong with me, how can I get him to accept me?

We will talk more about how to do this in proceeding chapters (especially the chapters in the third part of this book, which relate to the art of coquetting).

Guys, this took me years to figure out. But seriously, it is so powerful.

Okay…moving forward….

Step 4: Setting frames that implicate the Meta-Frame

Do you remember what frames are? They are the underlying meaning of behaviors and actions. You might also remember that frames implicate the meta-frame.

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Put in other words, the way in which the underlying meanings of peoples’—whether it be yours’ or the girl’s or both—behaviors and actions get defined, implicates an overall underlying meaning of the interaction.

What this means is that you need to be conscious of how you set frames: that is, how you define the underlying meaning of the behaviors and actions of both you and the woman you are interacting with.

There are probably countless frames or ways of defining the underlying meaning of behaviors and actions that imply or fit inside of our meta-frame.

Here are some of the ones that I use:

Framing one or more of her actions, behaviors, or things about her as meaning that she is not good enough for me or cannot handle me (this implicates that I am the PRIZE and that I might not go for her because she falls short of my standards and expectations).

Framing one or more of her actions as her being interested or trying to pursue me (this implicates that I am the PRIZE that she is trying to win me over, that she wants to sleep with me, and etc.).

Framing one or more of her behaviors or actions as her being a little crazy (when a woman is trying to get you to buy into a frame and you view it as her saying something really out there, or as something that has no place in objective reality, it inoculates the frame and Let’s her know that you are unwilling to buy into it).

When framing her behaviors, actions, or something about her as meaning that she lacks class, it implicates many great things, one of which is that I am the one who is the PRIZE in the interaction.

Framing her behaviors, actions, or something about her, as meaning that she is a goober (slang for someone who is socially inept), implicates lots of good stuff. One is that since I am cool and she is a goober, I get to judge her behaviors but, since she is a goober, she is ill fit to judge mine. Two is that it sets me up as being the one who is the PRIZE in the interaction.

Accusing her of not really living the life that she wants to live (or accusing her of being envious of me). Both of these are great ways of implicating that I am the one who is the PRIZE.

Framing some of her behaviors, actions or things about her as meaning that she is a little creepy (girls often times call guys creepy and there is nothing that messes with a girl worse than me letting her know that I think she is a little creepy. God I love this one).

This one can be used to implicate that she wants me but that I would never go for her because she falls short of my standards and expectations.

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Framing some of her behaviors, actions, or things about her as meaning that she is a sleaze ball (this is another great way to implicate that she wants me but that I am not so sure if she will live up to my standards and expectations).

Framing her behaviors and actions as being rude or insensitive (this implicates that she is not living up to my standards and expectations).

Damn this is good; I am getting excited just writing about it.

Notice that many of these frames are the frames that women set with guys. So, I am taking many of the frames they use to turn guys into frustrated pathetic beggars, on them.

This is extremely powerful—especially if you can get them to laugh while you are doing this. As I mentioned earlier, when they are laughing, their guard is down meaning that they are more apt to go along with the frames you are setting.

Onward!

Review

There are four steps to setting the meta-frame. The first one is to set the meta-frame:

define the overall underlying meaning of the interaction. The way I define it (and you are welcome to custom tweak it) is this: That I am the PRIZE, that she is trying to get me to like her, that she wants me so bad that she is trying to make me sleep with her, and that we both know that we are going to sleep together, but only if she lives up to my standards and expectations. The second step is to assume what the underlying meaning is before even interacting with the woman. The third step is to not choose or only tentatively choose her. The fourth step is to set frames that fit inside of or imply the meta-frame.

Homework

At least once a day rehearse the definition of the meta-frame out loud. This will help you internalize it to the point that you will become conditioned to assume it even before you begin an interaction with a woman.

Also, after interacting with a woman, write down things you could have done to frame some of their behaviors as implicating our meta-frame.

At least once a week, record an interaction between you and a woman, so you can review it and see where you began loosing control of the meta-frame.