BE AS SPECIFIC AS POSSIBLE Pretty simple, huh?

So how do you move forward toward your goals?

The first and most important thing is knowing what you want.

If you don’t know what you want how can you ever expect to get there?

I’m now going to give you one tip that I was given a long time ago which skyrocketed my success. This one part of planning is probably the most frequently overlooked cause for failure and the reason why men don’t succeed at their goals.

Are you ready for it?

BE AS SPECIFIC AS POSSIBLE Pretty simple, huh?

This may seem like a short, quick and easy thing but if you can be as specific as possible you will achieve the results you want.

Why is this advice so valuable?

Because the more specifically you know what you want, the more closely you can analyze what you’re doing and know if you’re headed towards the result you want to achieve.

Dealing With Criticism

There are many habits an alpha male does not indulge in. This is the kind of behavior that low self-esteem and no confidence and in order to make themselves feel better they make it their life’s goal to get others to approve them and tell them they are right even if that means

annoying the hell out of everyone around them; they need to be superior in every way.

Criticism is a disease – that’s right a DISEASE.

It breeds depression, worthlessness and selfish behavior. As humans we try to rationalize our critiquing nature in order to prevent being wrong.

Not only do these habits make your life worse, they also parade your insecurities for the entire world to see. Your negativity makes you look like an ass every time you open your mouth and drives others away from you.

People who fear the opinions of others are afraid of being rejected or brushed aside. They are afraid to take risks and are afraid to express what they really think, feel or desire for fear of being rejected or ignored.

In the case of attraction and relationships, a man who is afraid of criticism is afraid to express how he feels about a woman (to any degree) out of fear of blatant rejection or being told they were a pervert or a sleaze.

Guys who are afraid of criticism often talk to a woman and indirectly go for what they want, usually because they have major hang-ups about how they convey their intention to a woman as a means to preserve their ego. This sort of behavior is far from the most ideal way of doing things but is nonetheless effective.

The reason why this is not effective is because you are going after your desires and core needs but with a delicate and protective touch by delaying gratification, being careful and being scared to show your true self because you are either afraid it won’t be effective, afraid of

changing what you are doing or afraid of having to deal with trying something you’ve never tried before.

I’m sure you have heard the guy who walks around gloating about how he is much smarter or better looking than everyone around him and how easily he can achieve things or get things because of his status…

But what he is really telling a woman in doing this is that he doesn’t feel his core personality is enough to maintain a woman’s interest.

He’s basically telling a woman that he needs to cover his true

personality with pick-up lines, cockiness, money, looks, fame, power or whatever else.

Doing this makes him feel better and gives him a sense of pride and security which makes up for what he lacks in his core personality.

The problem with this type of behavior is that it is not going to get a woman attracted to you – all you are going to end up doing is

ultimately making yourself miserable while making everyone else feel miserable as well.

Confident people do not need the reactions of others (good or bad) to feel validated. In addition to this, confident people also tend to get along well with everyone around them as a result of their non-judgmental behavior.

Confident people see everyone as something separate of themselves – they respect the dreams, goals and ambitions of others.

If you truly want to be confident you don’t be worry about what others think of you.

When you go out of your way to try to justify and prove yourself to everyone around you all you are going to ultimately do is destroy your confidence.

When you criticize and try to blame others all you are going to do create a bubble around yourself to avoid owning up to your own actions in your life.

Case and point: don’t worry about what others think of you and your potential to achieve.

Don’t let those who think less of you or are jealous of you bring you down to their level just because they secretly want to see you fail.

Don’t Be A Quitter

You should never give up on your dreams and goals.

No matter how much you have to suffer the only way you are EVER going be happy is through persistence.

Most people are not born with raw talents nor do most people have success handed to them like socialites such as the Hiltons or the Olsen twins.

If you’re unhappy with your life for the moment you’ve just got to accept that.

But you’ve also got to recognize that the only way you’re EVER going to be happy is if you’re willing to do whatever it takes to change and make your life better.

Maybe your life is bad… hell mine was terrible growing up. But you’re going to have to be miserable for now and unless you’re willing to do whatever it takes to change you’re going to be miserable down the road unless you totally commit yourself to achieving happiness down the road.

You can only work from where you are and as much as that sucks it’s the best you can do.

It will make you a better person in the long run because you will

appreciate the value of success (I didn’t say the value of hard work) and you will understand that anything is within your reach.

… and I can tell you from experience there is NOTHING like having hard work (if necessary) behind you and in your past.

The only time that it is worth folding your deck of cards is when you are faced with a situation that is impractical.

A popular one guys email me about is how they want to get back together with their estranged ex when in reality it would simply be easier to just meet a new woman who will love you the way you

deserve – you can always find someone else to make you happy in this situation.

In the overall scheme of things though, you should NEVER give up your dreams, goals, ambitions or life for someone else especially if they are going to treat you like shit or not live up to your standards.

Following The Herd

“The greatest difficulty is that men do not think enough of themselves, do not consider what it is that they are sacrificing when they follow in a herd, or when they cater for their

establishment”

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Did you ever stop to think about how much or your beliefs, views and personality was crafted by things you were told, taught or read?

It is really striking when you consider that most of the average human’s personality is estimated to be comprised of 95-99 percent external teachings. That means more than 95% of the stuff you think or believe was taught to you by someone or something else.

The problem with this is that people are so accustomed to having their ideas, beliefs and views spoon-fed to them from childhood that they don’t stop to ever figure out the world for themselves and essentially become drones.

What is even more fascinating is that, like most other things, the only reason we do this is because it is what we were taught to do from childhood, and we never really stopped to think about it.

Following others beliefs has a profoundly negative effect on a person’s life and creates behaviors that are characterized by:

Self-destructiveness Fear

Failure

Self-confidence issues Self-esteem issues

If you’re not willing to change however there is not a damn thing I or anyone else can do for you.

There is only one person who can get you to change.

Have you ever heard people talk about drug addicts? Well it’s not much different here; if you’re not willing to admit to your problems and

change there is nothing I can help you with.

Setting Limits

As a man you are expected to be in control of your own actions and your own destiny. As such, you should never let a woman decide how

you should live your life. You should always be responsible for whatever happens to you in a relationship. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “no one can make you feel inferior without your consent”… And this is true of relationships as well.

If a woman is mistreating you or disrespecting you call her on it and take whatever actions are necessary to correct the problem – change yourself, not her. When I say correct the problem I don’t mean correct it the way your 6’7 airheaded friend would it by beating her into a bloody pulp because that would be blaming her.

What I mean is if she is mistreating you don’t be afraid to lay down the law or even walk out on the relationship. You are your own person;

your feelings and your life are your choice.

Another common thing that goes along with setting limits is jealousy.

As a confident male who recognizes that if his relationship doesn’t work out he simply needs to go out and find a new one, you have no need to be jealous.