An Intro to Texting
Once contact information has been exchanged on Tinder, you want to switch to the phone. When contacting women with your phone, you can text or call them. We will cover both methods.
Texting: Less Is More!
With regards to texting, less is more. Always remember this, but always keep the interaction playful!
This section is meant to be a brief guide on texting girls to set up a “date” after you give them your number online. This is not the holy grail of texting. These tips will help, but texting, like Tindering, can be an art form.
There have been numerous books written specifically about texting girls. If you find yourself struggling with text game even after reading this guide, check out:
The Player’s Guide to Text Game by Christian McQueen Magnetic Messaging By Rob Judge
Texting Keys
In order to quickly iron out the details of the date, stick to these tips for texting a girl you just “met” online:
● Keep your text messages short, concise, and to the point. Less is more.
● Avoid trying too hard to make a connection over the phone. That happens in person. A quick joke before setting the date is fine, but texting her all day is wasting your time.
● Your only goal when texting girls is to set up dates. That's it!
● When texting, think of how Brad Pitt or James Bond would text a girl. (Hint:
They would set up a meeting ASAP and would avoid bantering with a girl over text.)
The Rules
There are three major rules to follow when texting girls from Tinder:
1. Never send more than three texts without proposing a meet-up.
2. Send mostly statements when texting. Avoiding asking too many questions.
This is especially true when proposing a meet-up or date.
3. Avoid making plans too far in advance. Your goal is to set up a “date” that day.
Setting the Date Through Text
Once both parties have sent the introductory texts, you move on to ironing out the details of a date.
Every text conversation will be different, as each and every girl is different. The key is to be playful but keep the banter to a minimum while proposing a meet-up.
After your initial intro text, a girl may ask you “what you are doing” or “how you are.” Reply to either question in a manner that portrays you in a good light. Even if you are vigorously masturbating in your parent’s basement, you do not tell her this.
Tell her you just got a workout in ;)
If you want to banter quickly, you can—but often you can get straight to the point.
This depends on how much banter you had while messaging on Tinder.
The easiest way to banter while texting with a girl you just “met” on Tinder is to ask her for a recommendation. Ask her to recommend a restaurant, bar, club, store, whatever… Just get her to do something for you.
Anyway, here are a few examples of beginning texts to set up a date for tonight.
After the intro texts and the recommendation texts, you can pass “Go” and proceed to set the date:
● You should come over for a drink when you get off work.
● Thinking of downing a bottle of wine or three tonight. You should join.
● Ughh just sitting here in gridlock…this city has the worst traffic ever! How’s your day looking?
● Just finished at the gym…thinking we need to get together some time soon.
What’s your evening looking like?
● So I know of this new place with great mango sake…if you can handle it, let’s do drinks tonight.
● Just got done at the gym. Anything exciting on your agenda today?
● Doing good. Do you want to hang later today?
● Just relaxin’…Let’s grab drinks tonight. There’s a new place I want to try downtown.
After sending a text like one of the above, the girl will either be available that day or she will not. If she is available and interested in meeting, iron out a plan with her to meet and then stop texting her once the date is confirmed.
If she denies your initial suggestion and offers no counteroffer, she is probably not as interested in meeting you as you once thought. You should propose one more time, and if she rejects it again and doesn’t propose something else, move on. She is not interested…
Confirmation Texting: The Art of Avoiding the Flake
By setting the date or meet-up for the day of, you almost assure yourself of avoiding the flake. Still, there is a possibility she could flake. The only way to counter this is to text her once she agrees to the time and place of the date:
Sounds good. Text you when I’m on the way.
Then do not text again, in case you are…
Dealing with a Serial Rapist, I Mean Serial Texter
This is probably not a surprise to many of you. While having a text convo with a girl is fine, you usually will do yourself more harm than good if you haven’t actually met yet.
Once you have the date set, try to eliminate texting as much as possible.
So how do you deal with a girl who is continually texting you prior to your date? A girl who continues to text you question upon question…?
You have to slow her roll. If you run into this situation, throw this text at her before she gets too carried away:
That sounds like a great first date topic to me. I’ll tell you more on tonight.
This should slow her roll and allow you to avoid texting again until after you’ve actually met.
Catfish
Occasionally, you might have reservations about a certain girl. You will want to ask her to send you a picture to confirm her identity (and weight). Now I am not talking about a nude photo, I am simply talking about a picture to verify that she is a real person.
The easiest way to ask for this is by playing off the TV show Catfish about fake people using online dating. To ask for a pic of her after your quick intro text(s), say something along these lines:
Send me a pic or three so I know I’m not being Catfished lol
Most girls will get the joke and have no issue sending you a few photos. Just don’t push for nudes before you meet up, gents. We are here to get laid, not create a nude photo scrapbook of chicks we never got to bang.
Final Thoughts on Texting
Never sit around waiting for her text. You should genuinely not care if she replies.
Never make it seem like you were sitting around waiting for her text. To do this, you need timing. If she takes 10 minutes to reply, you take 15. If she takes an hour, you take 2 hours. If she takes 3 hours, you take 4. Always one-up her on the bullshit and you’ll stay in the game.
You’ll also cherish the times a bitch can text you back every 15 minutes when you’re trying to set up a date.
Contacting Her Through Calling
Calling a girl’s phone is an underutilized way to set up a date with her. Most of you reading this will completely avoid this section, as phone calls are a foreign concept to you.
But, for the 5% or so of men who read this book and decide to call girls whose numbers they get from Tinder, you may see lower flake rates and a higher number of numbers turned into dates.
To each their own—but if you are bold enough to call a girl in 2014, you set yourself apart from the pack.
Calling is awesome because you quickly eliminate girls who are not serious about meeting up. If they cannot answer or return a phone call, they do not want to meet you. If they are not interested in you, you will be able to tell on the phone.
Using a phone call is more efficient at screening girls than text messaging. Since we are giving our number to girls online, when they text you, immediately respond with something like this:
● Hey Teresa, is it a good time to call?
● Hey Jane, nice “meeting” you! I’ll give u a call soon.
If she says it’s a good time to call, then call her. If not, give her a ring within 24 hours of getting her number. If you don’t want to wait for her to reply, just call her
immediately anyway…
When on the Phone
When they pick up, enthusiastically say “hi” or “hey” to set the tone of the conversation.
Next, ask them how their weekend or week was/is while acting like it’s the most important thing to you in the world!
From there, make a bit of small talk and banter with them. Then break this chain of conversation and ask them what the rest of their day looks like.
As she telling you her plans for the rest of the day, determine if there is any possibility of meeting up with her that day. If so, pitch the date to her with gusto.
She will say yay or nay. If nay, she may suggest another. If she does, you are golden.
If she does not, try one more suggestion. If she goes with nay and no counter offer, politely exit the convo, as she does not want to meet up with you.
Once the date is set tell her you have to go, but you look forward to meeting her tonight.
Going on a Tinder Date
Look at you, you stud muffin! Scoring a date through Tinder! Now what…
Well, Tinder first dates are no different than a “normal” first date. You are still dealing with a female, a girl, a woman, and a rationalization hamster. The only difference is that you have not actually met this woman in real life before…
It does not matter. You treat a girl you met on Tinder like any other girl you meet.
Why? Because you are going to fuck her just like any other girl too!
The first few minutes may be a bit slower paced than a first date with someone you already met and know, but any awkwardness quickly fades to the background after 10–15 minutes if there is any chemistry whatsoever between the two of you.
Top 10 Tinder First Date Ideas
If you have trouble coming up with good first date ideas, have no fear! Here is a list of the 10 best first date ideas when meeting up with that cutie you got off Tinder:
1. Drinks at a bar near your place 2. Drinks at a bar near her place 3. Drink at your place
4. Drinks at her place
5. Coffee at a coffee shop near your place 6. Drinks at a bar with a secluded back alley 7. Coffee at a coffee shop near her place 8. Smoke at your place (weed/hookah) 9. Mini golf followed by drinks at your place 10. Bowling followed by drinks at your place
Logistics
You may have noticed “dinner and a movie” wasn’t on that list. You may have also noticed that getting drinks may be a pretty decent first date option.
See, “dinner and a movie” is possibly the absolute worst first date idea, while
grabbing drinks is the absolute best. Grabbing drinks on a first date is a great option for numerous reasons.
First, getting drinks is easy and low pressure. You both throw on a casual outfit and converse for an hour or two. Second, the greatest thing getting drinks provides first
someone there is nothing else to do but have a conversation. And third, by having a couple alcoholic beverages, both parties will be able to open up a bit.
Venue Changing
When you are getting drinks with your date, you may want to speed “things” up a bit. One easy way to do this is to change venues on your first date.
Simply grab a drink or two at one bar for an hour or so. Then, if you sense the vibe is good, suggest heading somewhere close for another. If the next drink goes down easy and the vibe is still right, make an excuse to try out one more place.
By being all over the place with your date, she “feels” like you have been around each other and known each other for longer than you have. And remember, women only care about how they “feel”—reality is irrelevant.
By venue changing, you increase her feeling and connection with you. You can use this however you see fit. I typically prefer the third venue to be back at her place or mine…
In Conclusion…
I hope you have picked up some information in this guide that will help you achieve your “dating” goals through Tinder.
Always remember that Tinder is a numbers game. Never give a flying fuck about any one girl in particular.
As well, keep experimenting and figuring out what works best for you.
Experimenting is the only way to truly find out what works best for you on Tinder.
Cheers,
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