what about those other statements?
1. use the following eft statement (instead of the one you have been using) for one round of tapping:
"even though i'm stuck at (intensity level "x"), i choose to move along easily."
often this is all you need to do to remove the block, so that in the next round (back to using your original eft statement) you find your reaction to the situation improving once more -- automatically.
2. if the "even though i'm stuck..." strategy doesn't work, then it's likely that a new aspect of the situation has now come into play, one that was not apparent before.
this aspect will have to be addressed directly.
aspects
it is important for you to realize that as you reduce your intensity rating by applying eft to the emotion you have chosen to deal with, other emotions that have been hidden underneath the original one may surface -- for example, underneath anger there may be hidden fear, grief or guilt. as each of these comes to the surface (as the first one lessons) the new one must be dealt with.
the way to do this is to locate the section of this program that deals with this new emotion that has just appeared, and work on it. this will greatly enhance the value of this program for you and increase the scope of its healing power.
(see the discussion of aspects in appendix c — knowing about them will greatly increase the effectiveness of eft for you.)
using the intensity rating
tracking with the intensity rating is the way you will monitor your own progress as you do each eft exercise. it is much like a thermometer that you use to take your
temperature to see whether you are recovering from an illness. it is important to take this measure before you begin any exercise and again, if possible, after every eft sequence. you will be reminded to do this by the prompts on the screen.
essentially you will be rating how the emotions evoked by your negative phrase
change as you use eft. a rating of "10" represents the most intense negative emotion (fear, anger, sadness etc.) that you can imagine feeling about the issue at hand. a rating of "0" indicates that you are perfectly at ease with this issue now. the numbers between
"0" and "10" are gradations along the way and should lower as you use eft. as your reactions to the situation improve your intensity rating will go down.
as a rule of thumb, you should continue doing rounds of eft until your intensity rating comes down to a "1" or a "0.", or at least to a “4”. if it has not come down that far and you think that you are stuck, you may want to take a break from eft and come back to the issue you are working on later (it may start going down again after the break!), or you may elect to use eft for another aspect of this issue by tapping on another emotion that is surfacing (see instructions above).
important: notice how the positive phrase often seems more possible to you as your intensity rating goes down. this is an important benefit of eft.
customizing eft
you will want to make eft as comfortable as possible for yourself by adjusting it to suit your individual needs. fortunately this is simple to do. there are several parts of the process that lend themselves to alterations that may increase eft's personal meaning for you. here are a few:
1.the final round of the eft sequence (round #3 where you alternate the negative with the positive) is optional. you can choose to omit it if you want to.
while this round has proven valuable for many people because it trains your mind to move automatically from a specific negative thought to its positive counterpart, it is not essential for you to use this step to still get excellent results from eft.
2.a good chance to customize eft comes into play when you type in your negative and positive phrases into their respective boxes. at this point, if you have a need to change a word or two in your chosen eft statement, you can do so.
for example, an eft statement might begin: "even though i feel angry at (him/her/them)….", but you might feel that including the actual name of your spouse, child, boss etc. would describe your own reaction more vividly. in that case, type in their actual name!
or you might feel that substituting the words "furious" or "outraged" for the word
"angry" in the above statement would make it more convincing to you. if so, type in the word that really speaks to you in place of the one in the given statement.
be creative… but please observe the following caution…
make your alterations in the eft statements sparingly. these statements have been carefully constructed to be of particular use for weight loss issues.
generally speaking, you should not be creating the choice itself, but simply personalizing it to suit your own situation.
in the future you can, if you wish, learn how to generate your own choices statements from scratch. the resource section of this book tells you more about this.
u s in g e f t r em in d e r c a rd s
one of the ways to get the most benefit from your eft weight loss program is to use daily eft reminder cards. we highly recommend them. to find out how to make and use such cards, see appendix b.
r ea l l y g o o d a d vi c e
while the screen prompts give you the standardized way of using eft (very useful to know) keep in mind that everyone is different. because you are an individual with your own special needs, you may find yourself automatically making slight modifications in the procedure without realizing it. you may, for example, find that you are not tapping on the exact spot indicated but only approximating that spot. all of this is fine — if you are getting results. the founder of eft, gary craig, emphasizes that eft is a "very forgiving"
method, meaning by this that you can be doing it not quite "right" (i.e. not exactly the standardized way) and still get amazing results.
so – above all — be flexible. don't blame yourself if you modify the method slightly to suit your instinctive way of using it. that can often be very useful.
just watch what it does for you. if it's working, then everything you are doing is okay – the results are what we are after.
and also — have fun! if this is your first time using eft you are in for an adventure! if you already know eft, this program will greatly enhance your use of it.
you are now ready to use eft to target your weight loss issues.
start by going to the table of contents; choose the eft chapter you would like to begin with and click on it. since the anxiety chapter applies to just about everybody who has ever had trouble losing weight, why not start there?
to go to table of contents click here.