WHY PHYSICAL ESCALATION CHANGES EVERYTHING

I wish I knew what I know now. I wish I could go back like in some bad sci-fi movie and whisper in my ear all the things I know now about expressing interest in a woman and escalating with her. I wish I could tell the young, foolish, uneducated me all the things I've now learned and taught to thousands about how much women WANT you to be physically forward with them, about how you can use eye contact, and certain key words, and move your body in ways that let her know clearly that you want her, and you are both going to experience something great.

I wish I could tell the sad, young me how easy it was to guarantee success with women when you apply the techniques of Physical Escalation.

But this isn't a movie. I can't go back. I have to live with that memory, and live with knowing I did nothing.

I have to live with the memory of that last day we worked together. She stood right in front of me. She looked in my eyes. And I couldn't say anything. I... I couldn't say a damn word. The one time in my life I needed words to more than ever, and I had nothing.

She hugged me. I hugged back and closed my eyes tight. I wanted things to be different so badly. I wanted things to magically change. She gave me a book, and told me not to read the inscription until I got home, and drove off.

I made it 30 seconds before I read the inscription. It said, "I will always remember our summers together. Love always, Amy."

I never saw her again. But I think of her every day.

I carved the letter "A" into my forearm one night to make sure I'd never forget that feeling.

That feeling of cowardice.

I think of her every day when I'm teaching men how to get the success with women they deserve. I think of her when I think of the women out there dying for men to notice them, dying thinking that no man has the stones to just take a chance, to want her, to desire her, and to act on it, and be a confident, physical, real man.

If you don't know how to make your move, you will keep missing out on life. I learned this lesson once, and now I'm telling you. Stop missing out now.

You Have to Kiss Her NOW

It's been a great date. It's time to walk her to her car. But I've got a trick up my sleeve. We start walking, and I bend down and pick her up on my shoulder. She's laughing her ass off as I carry her 50 feet and set her down gently at her door.

She looks up, big smile on her face, eyes gleaming. She takes a deep breath. I lean in, and slowly... say, "good night."

And I turn and walk away.

That's the last time I ever saw that girl. Wanna know why? I. Didn't. Kiss Her.

See, I fell prey to one of the most dangerous myths out there in the world. I thought that if I was slick and played a little hard to get, played it too cool for school, she would chase me. I was a tease. I set things up and when it came time to do what was obvious, I instead played games.

I thought I was being sexy. I was being a jerk.

And it really had nothing to do with me trying to be smooth. I wanted to find a way to get HER to make the first move so there was no way in hell she could reject me. And that, my friend, is just plain stupid.

When you like a woman and she likes you, it is totally on you to make all the moves. No matter how much she likes you and no matter how forward she is, she wants to be desired. She wants to be wanted. She wants to be teased, then teased some more, then fulfilled. She wants you to make her emotions run high and get her warmed up, then close it with a kiss that turn her legs into gummi worms.

I remember the first time I ever kissed a girl for real. I was nervous and afraid of goofing it up, but I was also clear on my goal and not playing any games at all, other than "find her lips in the dark." But then when I started dating a lot, and worse, reading about dating a lot, I got a lot of new information in my poor brain, and it started to short-circuit my body.

You have instincts in you that tell you exactly what to do in every situation with a woman. But if you are like a lot of men, those instincts are buried under data and theory like the spring flowers under snowpack in a Canadian winter. You find yourself on a date, or at the club, or walking in the park with a beautiful girl, and think you've finally done it. You set yourself apart from the hordes of common men who don't have the cojones (that's Spanish for giant balls of titanium) to see what they want, recognize it, and do something about it.

You did. You got the girl. But now comes the next critical moment. Now comes zero hour.

Women are constantly sending signals to you to move things forward.

And if you didn't know that, you have already missed out on great women in your life. It's true, it's true, and I can speak from sad experience. I'm finally getting old enough now where I can look back on my past romances and see where I was going from the heart and

gut, and did things right, and where I tried to play this silly game of three-dimensional chess, like I controlled the universe and she was just a piece to be moved around the board, never realizing that all I really had to do was STOP acting like such a control freak and pay attention to every signal she was sending me.

Like they said in "White Men Can't Jump," "you got to LISTEN to the woman. Even if you can't HEAR her, you got to LISTEN to her."

If it's the end of the date, you already missed the signals. If she's looking to see what time it is, you missed the signals. And this goes beyond just new girls. You are missing this all the time with girlfriends as well! If you've ever had a girl say to you, "nothing's wrong," and then ignore you, you missed a giant flag waving in front of your face that was telling you "please kiss me, you fool!"

Women love kissing like men love puppies, football, beer and TV. They NEED it. They CRAVE it. And a man who can plant a great first kiss on her, and then keep that first kiss coming time after time.... after time... is a man that they will do anything to please.

If you know how to please her with your kiss, and with all the steps that lead up to warming up her body, her mind and her lips to get primed for that kiss, you open up a brand-new world of joy for both of you. Whatever you want with your woman, it starts with how you kiss her. That's right... learn what she needs from your kiss, and you will never need to see your internet pharmacist for a prescription of artificial rejuvenation again.

Kissing turns her on more than diamonds and more than words.

Kissing triggers her physical response to you and is the most important part of foreplay. Kissing tells her everything she needs to know about you in bed. How you kiss is how you do everything.

Kissing is the centerpiece of every seduction, of every relationship. It's the slow dance, the tease, the magnetic pull between bodies. Just the idea of kissing you sends shock waves thru her sexy body when she knows that electricity from your lips will ground to hers and pull your bodies together, no matter what your brains are busily barking about. If you can kiss her like a movie star, she will be in your bed.

Don't make the same mistake I did. I can still see that poor girl standing in my driveway as I walked away, smug and stupid and thinking that I was playing hard to get, and just leaving her unkissed. I left her with the clearest possible message. I had NO idea what I was doing, and no idea how to really please a woman.

I thought I was playing hard to get. And I ended up, again, just playing with myself. Learn how to kiss a woman like a movie star, and get the first kiss and more, and spend more time playing with her, and less time alone.

Wishing you peace, love, and classic frickin' women, Sean Messenger

Get the First Kiss and More

Size Matters

That thing is IRRATIONAL self-confidence.

You have to believe you are the very best there ever was. You have to buy into your own amazingness and awesomeosity before anyone else can.

You have to truly love yourself, and everything about you, before you can hope to express that in a way that gets the attention of really great women.

And that means you've got to understand what women

really respond to, and what, THINGS matter the most to them. So I'm going to clear this up for all men right now and

make it so you never have to ask this question again. 1) Every guy wonders if he's "enough" for a woman. 2) Every guy thinks that at some point she must have had a better lover, and better is defined by more

Women only have nerve endings at their opening. That's why they are perfectly capable of pleasing themselves quite nicely without a man at all... just their

fingers.

If if the next time you have doubts about your size, just take a look at your little finger. That's all you really need, basic equipment-wise.

See, the women in your life don't need you to scare them off with your size. What every woman is really looking for in a lover is passion, connection, and the ability to bring out the best in her, and in yourself, so you can please each other.

What she needs is to feel your confidence through your whole body so she can feel comfortable being her best, sexiest self. That's the secret of your Physical

And you do that by really being with her. Let go of your insecurity. Tap into that irrational

self-confidence you have in there somewhere. Tell yourself over and over again just what she wants to think of you...

"I am a sexy mother-****er!"

How Do I Handle Girls Flaking on Me?

As Will Smith said in "Hitch," "she said yes when she could have said no. That means she likes you. So your job now is not to make her like you. Your job is to NOT SCREW IT UP!"

This girl is not flaking on you, genius. You are reacting emotionally based on irrational fears and missing the mark by fucking miles. You are creating your own problem where none exists. You like the girl. But it's early. It's not love. It's not a commitment. You like each other, and you have chemistry. So simply take your time and enjoy each other.

How to Break Up with Grace

You want to date a lot of great women? You will have to confront this reality real fast. They will all end in hurt feelings. You will break her heart. She will step on yours. And you will have the choice to either confront and talk honestly and compassionately when the time comes, or you can slink away quiet and hope to never get caught out in your strange feeling: you think people expect you to be perfect, and if you are not, then you are worthless.

I do not tell her she'll find love someday. I don't tell her about mi vida, mi amo. I don't insult her.

Sometimes, dude, the best thing you can do is shut the fuck up and just BE THERE. I do it. And it's done.

You don't break up with a person. You call out the end of a phase. People will circle around in each other's lives in odd ways... don't think of a breakup as a horrible thing to be avoided. Do it with some grace, and you may just find that you don't end up breaking and broken like you thought.

Breaking Up The Right Way Makes You Both Happy

In the words of David Deida, "I want to bring joy to this woman, and in return, I expect nothing but pain."

I Found a Great Girlfriend. Now What?!?

Do you want to know how to keep her happy? Don't spend every second with her. Keep your own lives. But when you are together, make it TOTALLY about passion and fun. Always focus on passion and fun. Don't let it fall into boring routine.

And get naked and wet as often as possible. That's why I'm moving to a place with a pool and sunshine 365 days a year. :)

- As you can see, I really have a lot of feelings for her, and I am sharing most of it with her (as she does with me), but sometimes I feel insecure if I should talk about these feelings. What do you think?

Let her talk about her feelings 10x as much as you talk about yours. Keep your words short and sweet. "You make me happy, baby," tells her more than an epic love poem. - Especially, I feel I would like to address the topic "are we in a relationship now?"

Should I talk about that, if yes, how and when?

NO. Do NOT talk about your "relationship." As soon as you do that, you have a new person in the room named "relationship." If she wants to talk about what you mean to each other, or whether or not you see other people, then yes, talk openly, but make sure it's always in the context of how you FEEL about each other, and how happy you make each other, not what you OWE to each other and expect in a relationship.

- When do you use attraction, when rapport when building a LTR? How do you recognise the situation?

First, don't call it an LTR. She's your girlfriend. That's a good enough word. Jargon will really mess you up here.

Second, spend most of your time teasing and playing with her, and being sweet and sexy. No need to get deep unless the emotions are running strong. Rapport is there physically all the time you are together. Focus most of your energy on communicating without words. Try to tell her how much you love her with just your eyes. Practice for 3 minutes with her every day. Don't tell her what you are doing, just look at her. Once you can send her love with your eyes, you'll never worry about your words again.

The concepts of attraction and rapport really have no place with a real girlfriend, and no place in love. The point is to relate to her completely at all times, be with her completely, and focus on doing things to make her and you happy and smiling and giddy as much as humanly possible.

- How often do you call?

She's your girlfriend. Follow golden girlfriend rule. Call or text every day, and say something to make her smile. Do that, and she will give you all the love you can handle. Don't play games.

What Do You Want? "What do you want?" "What. Do. You. WANT?"

Sounds simple, right? But I'm sittting there listening, meditating on it, and realizing I never asked, much less answered, this question before.

What do I want? Women. Then what? What do I do with them? What kind of

relationship? Do I want committment? Dating? Girlfriends, hookups, random hot monkey sex, harems, a wife, a wife and a girlfriend, a wife with her own girlfriend?

There's a line in the great movie "Clerks" that says it all.

"There's a million fine looking women in the world, dude. But, they don't all bring you lasagna at work. Most of 'em just cheat on you."

I know what I want. The fine looking woman is not enough. I want the best, and I want to make it work so I feel loved every single day.

You Are One Ass-Smack Away from Fixing Approach Anxiety "Hey man,

I am very interested in learning the game. Not to pickup strippers, or be able to

manipulate women. I want to walk into any social situation, and if I find a girl attractive, I want to be able to analyse the situation and approach, chat her up and get to know her. I dont like the fear of not being able to talk to women. The feeling of 'paralysis' is what I hate. I have been working on inner game, self confidence, style (I have received many compliments lately on this). In sum, any advice for me?"

I think that most men really want to learn how to get better with women so they can have the ability to talk to any woman who interests them, not to only be able to have a shot with certain types of women in certain situations.

And I've got some really good news for you here. Most women dream every day of having a cool, confident guy approach them and make them smile in their day-to-day lives. They don't want to have to wait until 1:15 at the bar on a Friday for some drunken fool to make his move before the lights come on.

They want you to come talk to them at the gym, the coffee shop, and the supermarket. They want you to approach at happy hour and when they are at dinner.

Basically, there's never a bad time to sweep a girl off her feet.

Raw Notes on The Art of Wealth and Abundance, Day 3 - Inevitability

To make something inevitable, find what is preventing it, remove it, and leave nothing in its place so you have to do something.

Jonathan posted a great summary of this at

http://teambuffet.blogspot.com/2007/01/inevitability-efficiency-rewarding.html. Thank god we are sharing note-taking on blogs. Here's what he wrote.

Make the goals seem Inevitable and then everything falls into place. * Forcing yoruself to deal with something can create inevitability.

Faster the better.

* Grab what is inspirational, use it as a symbol.

* Share the goal story with people close to you as if it has already happened. Email, SMS,