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Introduction: When She’s Laughing...6
• Before We Get to the Funny Business...9
• Why Setting the Right Expectation
Makes Humor So Easy...11
• The “Theory of Expectations” Is Your
Secret to HUMOR...13
• What Your Humor Will Get Her to See In You...15
• Why “Putting Her in Her Head” is So
Impor-tant to Attractive Humor...17
• Finally, Remember: Clowns Don’t Get Laid!...20
• Audio Note: Introduction...23
Phase 1: Breaking Her State...30
• A Brief Word On...Unpredictability....34
• Becoming Shameless Attracts Women
with Honesty...35
• Using Misinterpretation the Right Way....39
• Simple Way to Use Accusations to
Get Her Laughing...43
• A Foolproof Flirting Formula that Instantly
Breaks Her State...45
• Part 1 Templates and Examples...49
• Audio Note: Part 1...52
Phase 2: Establishing You’re A Flirt...55
• When She Says Something Dumb or
Starts Rambling...56
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• Using Misinterpretation to Set Up A Flirty Vibe...58
• How to Mess With Her To Get the Upper Hand....63
• Statement Formula to Overcome
Fric-tion & Get Her Laughing...67
• Part 2 Templates and Examples...72
• Audio Note: Part 2...74
Phase 3: Rapport Through Humor...79
• Cool Vulnerability: The Secret Hack to
Hu-morous Rapport...82
• The 3½-Step Formula to Telling the
Per-fect “Funny Story”...87
• How to Amplify Her Laughter 10-Fold with
Effortless
Details...100
• Create the “Us Vibe,” Role Play It, and
She’s Yours...111
• The Searing-Hot “Partners
in Crime” Technique...115
• Pop Culture Makes Humorous Rapport
so Easy a Caveman Could Do It...121
• Part 3 Templates and Examples...124
• Audio Note: Part 3...125
•
Phase 4: Take Her Back to the Playground...129
• Using Playful Bullying to Turn Up
the Sexual Tension...131
• Play “Games” to Mix Playground
Hu-mor with Rapport...136
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• Callback Humor Amplifies the
“Play-ground
Effect”...141
• Dumbing Your Humor Down to
the Playground Level...143
• Part 4 Templates and Examples...146
• Audio Note: Part 4...147
Phase 5: Sexualized Humor...150
• The Perfect Combo: Sexual Statements
Mixed with Humor...153
• Sexual Priming: The Rejection-Proof Way
to Get In Her Pants...157
• Part 5 Templates and Examples...162
T
hey weren’t lying…Women love a guy who can make them laugh. Prob-ably that’s no secret to you either as most surveys of-ten rank humor as THE most attractive quality women look for in a man.
What you may not know, however, is that ANY guy can get wom-en laughing. And I mean, ANY guy. This isn’t to say that every guy is a comedian—or even funny. You don’t need jokes or elaborate punch lines to women laughing their pants off (quite literally). Before we can even delve into this course, first you MUST un-derstand that “comedy”—as you probably know it—is almost something entirely different from cultivating the ability to “make women laugh.” Here’s why:
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introduction:
When she’s
laughing...
Humor alone will get you a laugh or two; humor in a specific sequence will get you LAID as well
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• Comedy requires set ups, punch lines, and very cre-ative twists and character development
• Making women laugh requires creating tension, push-ing her “emotional buttons,” and unpredictability
Becoming even a mediocre comedian can take a lifetime, whereas becoming good at making women laugh is much, much easier. So easy that you will be a master of it by the end of this course!
If you have any lingering doubts or insecuri-ties about “not being funny enough,” here’s where you leave those insecurities behind. In fact, a lot of the time if you try to use tra-ditional jokes or comedy monologues to get women laughing not only does it NOT work, it also comes across as supplicating and try-hard!
That’s why even guys who can tell funny jokes often don’t come across attractive (probably you know a guy who’s “hi-larious” yet women just don’t seem to like him). On the oth-er hand, you’ve probably seen a guy who can get away with saying absolute to stupidity to women…
...yet women seem to crack up at every word he says. Some-times women even erupt into laughing fits before that guy even finishes his sentences. What’s up with that? Why do women fall for guys like this?
“Making women laugh requires creating tension, pushing her “emotional buttons,” and unpredictability...”
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Simple: these sorts of guys understand how to use tension, know which humor is appropriate in which situation, under-stand women’s emotional triggers, and add a dash of unpre-dictability to whatever they say.
If it sounds easy...then good! Get ready to Make Her Horny with Humor!
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Before We Get to
the Funny Business
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here is a method to the madness of what some people think of as ‘being funny.’ Once you understand how a humorous/flirty interaction is supposed to look, you will begin to see them as I do, and the mystery will be-gin to unravel itself.There is a “code” language that women instantly recognize as ‘flirtation’ even though you’re NOT complimenting her, hitting on her, or asking her questions about herself.
There are ‘loopholes’ that exist as well, and I’ve identified them, and I know precisely when to “exploit” those loopholes. The techniques that Rob and I have discovered and the “templates” we have assembled are going to crack this code that very few men take advantage of… and allow you to capitalize on what we call the “Theory of Expectations” to make her horny with humor.
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Having this understanding will put the odds back in your favor, and give you the control so that you can consistently spark at-traction in conversations.
This “Horny with Humor” course looks at five different “stag-es” that will immediately help you stack your deck in your fa-vor, and crack the code of the humor that’s attractive to wom-en!
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Why Setting the Right Expectation
Makes Humor So Easy
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f you’re anything like me, you can probably think back to a time…...where you’ve been around a girl who thinks you’re shy… or boring... Or even a dork….
...and then, weirdly, did you find yourself “living up to” her ex-pectations?
Don’t worry, you’re not alone. It happened to me ALL the time! When I first meet someone I can be sort of quiet. And if I sense that person has pigeon-holed me as “the shy guy,” I find it much harder to break out of my shell and display other aspects of my personality.
It’s like I let their ‘image of me’ shape how I act. And soon enough… I become “the shy guy.”
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This is what expectations are all about.
To put this in simpler terms: The initial impression we make on someone, dictates the rest of our interactions with them. So if the other person’s first impression of you is that you’re ‘quiet’ or ‘shy’… you’re going to find yourself acting reserved or inhibited to display your personality...
…if their first impression of you is that you’re ‘friendly’ or ‘nice’… you’re going to find yourself acting out the role of ‘nice guy.’
BUT if their first impression of you is that you’re ‘a flirt’… you’re going to find yourself acting fun and flirtatious.
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The “Theory of Expectations” Is
Your Secret to HUMOR
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f you’ve accepted that self-fulfilling prophecies are real, if you can relate to feeling pigeonholed as the shy or “nice” guy, then it leaves you with TWO choices:Choice 1: Let the “Theory of Expectations” become an
obstacle that keeps you from chicks
Choice 2: Use the “Theory of Expectations” to your
ad-vantage
I don’t know about you… but I like to take every advantage I can get when I’m out there talking to girls!
That’s You Need to Immediately Establish Yourself as a Flirty, “Funny” Guy Who Can Get Her Laughing Her Pants OFF!
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joking around with women, the more resistance you are go-ing to face when/if you do and so the harder it is gogo-ing to be to make the transition from ‘friendly conversation’ to ‘flirta-tious conversation.’ In fact, you may never even get a chance to start flirting… because she might have already dismissed you as another boring chump.
You can’t really blame women either… they get hit on by so many guys that they have to make a decision pretty quickly whether or not they want to keep talking to you…
...so if she views you as the boring sort of guy she is going to respond to you in a boring sort of way and give you NOTHING to work with, hoping that you get the point and walk away. (Thus living up to her expectations.)
However…
...if you quickly establish yourself as a fun, flirtatious kind of guy… she is going to respond in a fun, flirtatious sort of way and give you TONS to work with… (Again, because you “lived up to” her expectations.)
Make it your JOB to quickly get her thinking “Oh… this is the type of interaction this is going to be FUN… THIS guy GETS IT.” Most guys don’t “get it.” And so they REALLY don’t get it (Get it?). So when you show her that you do… things get A LOT easier.
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What Your Humor Will Get Her
to See In You
U
ltimately it all comes down to displaying to her that you are the kind of guy who is comfortable and con-fident joking around with hot girls.And that you enjoy doing it. What does a guy like this look like?
• This guy is sure of himself
• This guy is unaffected by what she says • This guy is self-amused
• This guy is slightly childish in an endearing sort of way • This guy is animated
• This guy is completely comfortable with who he is
The quicker she sees you as this sort of guy… the easier the rest of the conversation is going to go. And more importantly, the easier it will be to take a conversation from ‘friendly’ to ‘laugh-ing’ to ‘sexual.’
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The Good News…
The good news is that it is not nearly as hard as you think to establish yourself as “funny.” In fact, it is just a matter of a few well-timed, well-delivered flirtatious banter lines that will flip the switch in her mind… and have her thinking…
“Oh… He’s THAT kind of guy…”
Once you plant that thought her in mind… the “Theory of Ex-pectation” takes over and everything else becomes so much easier. It’s like you begin to swim with the tide… instead of against it.
The Bad News…
The only bad news is that if you haven’t acted like this before, you need to get yourself comfortable being playful and flirty with women, even with girls you’ve just met. Most guys walk on eggshells around attractive women, and espcially attrac-tive women, they’ve just met.
To make the material in this course work, you HAVE TO get in the habit of LEADING the interaction and moving things in a humorous and flirty direction... because when you do, you’ll pull off a little attraction secret we like to call “putting her in her head”...
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Why “Putting Her in Her Head”
is So Important to Attractive Humor
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ave you ever been around someone who just seemedto “dictate” the pace of a conversation? Or maybe you’ve been in a situation where YOU dictated the pace, a time when you immediately feel “in control” of the conversation.
Acting this way is NOT bossy or rude. But it does get people to feel as they need to live up YOUR standards—and not vice versa. Even if you say something the other person doesn’t necessarily find funny, they will probably laugh anyway! That’s the feeling you need to get women to feel around you. Because that feeling almost always leads to attraction.
This is what we mean when we say “putting her in her head.” If you think about it like sports, imagine a team losing to an ag-gressive team who is constantly on the offensive. All the losing team can do is try to scramble and play defense.
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Likewise, with women, you want them trying to keep up with the conversation. She will feel turned on when you’re on the offensive and she’s doing what she can to try and keep up. To think of this another way, if you’ve ever felt nervous or anx-ious around women, you obvanx-iously know what it feels like to be “in your head.” Whenever a guy “can’t think of what to say,” tries extra hard to make a woman happy or comfortable, or fears he might “mess it up,” that guy is stuck in his head! Most women—and especially hotter women—have actually grown accustomed to this! They expect that most men will be in their head, trying to keep up with THEIR converesation. If you’ve ever put up with a woman’s bad behavior, it’s because that woman was on the offensive.
Moreover, if you’ve ever felt like a woman was bossing you around, asking you too many questions, sporadically ignoring you, or even expecting you pay for her drinks or dinner, you have felt what it’s like to be in your head. Just think back to dates or interactions you’ve had with women. Probably you can recall specific instances where you felt this way.
Most guys allow this to happen because it’s easy and it feels like “the nice thing” to do. Indeed, when women have you stuck in your head, you’re less likely to encounter friction or have arguments.
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A woman will feel very comfortable when she’s on the offen-sive—so comfortable, she’ll probably make you her new guy friend... but that’s ALL you’re ever going to be to her: “just a friend.” If you want to become “more than a friend” then you need to put her in her head.
Okay, so how does this relate to humor and, more importantly, how do you do it?
So much of humor depends on tension. This is how you break her state, establish your-self as a flirt, get sexual, etc. We’ll say it again though: you really need to have courage here. Most guys lack the balls to create moments of tension and friction. Not only do you need
the courage to create these moments, but actually must get yourself to ENJOY them.
Rest assured that nothing in this course advocates that you act like an asshole or behave in an antagonistic way. The only “tense” behaviors that we advise you to adopt are those necessary for attraction. Getting her in her head isn’t always easy—but it’s worth it.
“Getting her in her head isn’t always easy-but
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Finally, Remember:
Clowns Don’t Get Laid!
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omen MAY love to laugh, but they DON’T wanta clown or even an entertainer. Even the fun-niest standup comedy routines can fail mis-erably on a date... and sometimes EVEN IF a woman is cracking-up laughing, she’s uncon-sciously losing respect and attraction for the same man who’s making her laugh!
(Sucks, doesn’t it?)
Therefore, it’s crucial that you always remember the golden rule of attractive humor:
The subtext is more important than
the joke.
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That means the subtext of the joke—or what the joke im-plies— is more important than how funny it is. Take, as an ex-ample, two jokes:
Joke A: “What’s the difference between a Cadillac and
a dead baby? I don’t have a Cadillac in my garage.”
Joke B: “I was going to wear a v-neck shirt out, but I
decided not to because I don’t want you staring at my cleavage all night.”
Regardless if you find these jokes funny or not, there are two very different subtexts in each joke. The subtext of joke A is that you find dead babies funny. The subtext of joke B is that you understand how men and women interact. In one joke, you show your apathy and insensitiveness, whereas in the other joke you demonstrate that you understand gender rela-tions and social subtleties.
Most guys find dead baby jokes funny because it’s “cool” to be apathetic and insensitive around other guys—that’s the essence of “being tough.” Women don’t find such qualities endearing, however.
Most women find insensitive men creepy and weird. (Hence why if you tell a woman a dead baby joke, it’ll usually make her think you’re disgusting.)
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Keep subtext in mind whenever you’re flirting with women. Use this chapter (as well as some common sense) and you’ll quickly get sense of attractive subtexts. Subtext is THE most important aspect of humor—it’s what women mean when they say they love a man who can make them laugh. They’re really saying they love a man who can make them laugh using the appropriate subtexts.
It’s what separates the unattractive clown from the attractive funny guy. When it comes to subtext, learn it. Practice it. Use it. As the golden rule states, the subtext is actually MORE im-portant than how “funny” you are. In fact, the other golden rule of sexy humor states:
The bar for “social humor”—the type of humor you use when interacting with women—is set very low. So don’t try too hard to be funny—it’s not complicated.
Making women laugh takes absolutely no talent. It’s simply a matter of understanding subtext, applying a formula, and getting the delivery right...all of which we’ll be covering over the course of the next 5 phases, both in this book and on the audios!
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Module 2
Introduction: The Why of Humor
• Why we created this program
Because most people get humor completely
wrong
• Maybe you’re not naturally funny
• Maybe you are but can’t think quick enough when you’re with a girl
• Maybe your humor doesn’t translate well
• Certain types of humor work best in different phases of an interaction
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Specific sequence of shifting your humor that
makes her horny
• Humor alone will get you a laugh or two
• Humor in a speficic sequence will get you laid
• Knowing this sequence also prevents you from spinning your wheels.
What does this guy look like? How should your
delivery be?
• This guy is sure of himself
• This guy is unaffected by what she says • This guy is self-amused
• This guy is slightly childish in an endearing sort of way • This guy is animated
• This guy is completely comfortable with who he is
The “Greased Slide” of getting her panties off
• Humor “greases” the slide
• Humor keeps her “logical mind” shut down • Laughing and fun are aphrodisiacs
• It creates an environment where a seduction can take place
• Laughing provides chemical reactions that help a seduc-tion along: It oxygenates the brain, it helps the flow of oxygen to various parts of the body, and circulation (so does Viagra)
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dorphins
• Most importantly Humor serves very specific functions in various phases of a seduction. This is where most guys blow it. They stick with humor that is only conducive to one phase and serves only one purpose
Humor should be constantly shifting to serve
mul-tiple purposes; some of the purposes will discuss
are
...• Getting her to pay attention to you • Establish yourself as a flirt
• Create comfort and rapport with her • Loosen her up for the kiss
• Introduce sexuality into the interaction
Humor allows you to display “attractive traits”
and create an “attractive atmosphere”
• It signals social intelligence, confidence, and pre-selec-tion
• It puts her in an emotional state (much more able to in-fluence someone)
• It builds trust and bonds, and gets her feeling like she’s known you
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Introductions: Important Concepts Bobby and
Rob Will Be Covering
• Fun vs. Funny: Why most guys worry about being
“fun-ny” when girls really prefer a fun guy over a comedian.
• Taking her back to the playground: This is a phrase we
use to discuss that elusive space where she feels like she’s back on the playground with her crush
• The Giant Spotlight: Your goal is get the conversation
fo-cused on the two of you. Most guys focus on something or someone else. Humor works best when the humor stems from the back and forth play between you and her
• Shifting styles of humor: You’ve got to understand that
what gets her laughing at one point will not bring you closer to sex later on. Sarcasm is a great example of this. While it can signal social intelligence… later on it actu-ally works against you
• Social lubrication: The primary reason for humor is social
lu-brication. Its to grease up the slide so she continues to move forward towards sex without self doubt, or objections
The theory of expectations
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• Whether it’s the first 5 minutes of meeting her, the date, being back at your place… you need to establish flirtatious humor quickly.
• The initial impression we make on someone dictates the rest of our interactions with them.
“Cool Vulnerability”
• A specific type of humor we’re going to talk about that creates a bond with her.
Introduction: The “5 Phase”
Panty Dropping Method
• Phase 1: Pattern Interrupt
• Phase 2: Establish Yourself as a Flirt • Phase 3: Rapport through Humor
• Phase 4: Taking Her Back to the Playground • Phase 5: Sexualized Humor
Why use this method?
• This will keep you on track and moving forward
• Prevents you from turning into a “dancing monkey” or “court jester”
• It properly lubricates her
• Making a sexual joke might be funny, but if done out of sequence it can creep her out
• Being sarcastic might make her laugh.. but if done be-fore going for the kiss it might kill the mood.
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• Designed to progress towards sex
• Moving towards sex is about balancing sexual tension and rapport
• Keeps you on track and prevents floundering
• Gives you an intention behind everything you’re doing • Is designed to achieve very specific goals in each phase • Is designed to overcome barriers and obstacles and
ob-jections before they come up
• For instance, when you ask her to hang out… her first ob-jection might be to think “I don’t really know this guy...” but if you’ve brought her through the bonding phase… you’re much less likely to get that objection..
The Common Mistakes
• For years my humor worked against me instead of for me
• Most teachers teach this wrong. They suggest using a one size fits all approach to humor. But humor must change through various phases of a seduction. As we go through the program you’ll understand
• The humor guys use doesn’t translate well to girls... or they’re just not as funny as they think they are
• They come off as try hard
• They go into dancing monkey mode and become her entertainer
• Their jokes feel forced
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• They use one style of humor the entire night
• Teasing her is great in the beginning. But if you do it all night it begins to halt the seduction
• They use sexual humor before she’s ready for it • They are too self deprecating
• Cool vulnerability is good. Displaying negative traits about yourself for a laugh is NOT
• They get addicted to her approval
• A lot of times you might be enjoying the approval and response you’re getting so much you begin to fear ru-ining it by making a move or expressing a sexual intent. • Guys create too much rapport; they then can’t make
a move. If you create too much rapport it can become awkward to try to make a sexual move
• She may begin to feel too comfortable around you and the sexual tension diminishes
• Their timing is off and breaks her seduction trance with ill timed joke
• One of the reason sarcasm can hurt a seduction is that one remark that goes over her head or stings a little too much can backfire and kill your chances.
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think we can all agree that women put up sort of a “Bitch Shield” when they first begin talking to guy they are uncer-tain about.These women don’t want to give off too much interest and encourage him to keep talking, so often they will appear bitchy, bored, tired, or uptight. It is your job to use bantering to break through this ‘shield.’
I mean, it’s probably no surprise to you that women love a guy who’s fun and laid back. If a guy seems like he brings positive emotions or can add something to her night, a woman will want such a guy to stay around.
Moreover, large groups of girls are less likely to “cock-block” be-cause they’ll enjoy the guy’s company as well. That means that
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phase 1:
Breaking Her
State
Used within the first few seconds of meeting a girl; the first few minutes of a date; in a
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your attitude HAS GOT to be...
“I’m Going to Make Her Smile No
Matter How Hard She’s Frowning”
Before you even DELIVER a line or try one of the tactics in this phase, it’s important to be high energy and animated. Often the best way to approach this phase is by getting YOURSELF laughing and feeling good BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING!
If you’re getting ready to approach a girl in a bar or nightclub, you should not think too much or hesitate...
Once you do approach or begin an interaction, don’t wait to drop some humorous lines into the interaction! Most guys wait until they have created rapport to begin teasing a woman or bantering with her. But the trick is to begin bantering with a woman as quickly as possible.
Ideally you want to get at least three or four banter lines in before you move on to more ‘normal’ conversation. That way, you can be pretty sure her state has been broken and she’s in-terested in having a fun, flirty interaction with you.
As a quick starter, I’ve listed a few simple banter lines below. When delivering these lines, try to get them in sometime
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ing the first two minutes of talking to her.
While timing and relevance are important to the delivery of these lines, I chose these banter lines because they are the easiest to naturally weave into a conversation. The best way to deliver the lines is as if you suddenly realized something about her after 30 seconds or so when talking to her or the group she’s with:
• “You and I aren’t gonna get along” • “You guys aren’t tourists are you?”
• “Don’t say anything, you’re cute. You’ll mess it all up” • “You’re cool. You can help me pick up chicks.”
• “You usually hang out at the library don’t you?” • “Oh, so you’re one of THOSE…”
• “You don’t have to be nervous, it’s cute.” • “I hate you.”
• “Ok, note to self: don’t date her”
Remember, the only purpose of these lines is to set the tone of the interaction. Timing and relevance will play a big role in the above lines. You’re ptobably not going to get a lot from her to work with, so use these little banter lines to loosen her up and break her state.
Also, don’t dwell on the banter line. If she tries to pry or wants you to explain more… just let it roll off, give her a sly smile, and change the subject.
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Finally, you can always pull a woman or group of women into your party by using a seemingly situational line. For example:
“(While laughing) Hey guys, get this. My friend just said _____ (insert funny situation or comment, some I’ve used are “My friend just said women find handle-bar mustaches sexy” or “My friend just said it’d be a good idea to wear sweatpants to a job interview.”)
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A Brief Word On...
Unpredictability
A
ll humor comes from the unexpected. In fact, all the humor formulas and templates in this course have some element of the “unexpected.” If a girl can pre-dict how a joke will end, she probably won’t laugh. Unfunny people are usually boring, predicable people. There-fore, always remember much of humor simply comes from do-ing or saydo-ing the unexpected.Example: If someone asked what you wanted to drink when ordering at McDonalds and you said, “I’ll go with an aged Bordeaux.” That usually would get a laugh because the person asking would have expected you to answer with a soft drink.
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Becoming Shameless Attracts
Women with Honesty
I
once asked an attractive woman I was dating, who’d heard every pickup line in the book, if there was such a thing as a good pickup line. She said yes, but only if a guy is funny and ironic about it. That way, it seems as if he’s acknowledging the awkwardness of it and, by doing so, makes it funny and not awkward.It’s kind of like when someone says, “I’m going to tell you some-thing but you can’t get mad…” or “I don’t mean to sound racist, but…” and then they say something that normally would have been really offensive…yet it’s somehow less offensive because they acknowledged it!
We like to call sort of humor “radical honesty” or “shameless-ness.” However you want to think of it, get yourself in the habit of using it because it works WONDERS when attracting women! An important aspect of shameless humor is getting a little nerve
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because it takes some nerve to call things out.
That’s because being shameless is the exact opposite of act-ing shameful, which is how most guys communicate their de-sire for women. Most men sheepishly admit they’re attracted to women, or they pretend they aren’t attracted at all.
And since most guys act this way, it sets up a GREAT opportu-nity for humor. Not only is acting shameless unexpected/un-predictable, but it also injects A LOT of healthy tension into the interaction, which is what will get women laughing uncontrol-lably…even if what you’re saying isn’t objectively very funny. The first step to using shameless humor is to stop pretend-ing to be embarrassed that you like girls. Stop hidpretend-ing it—and start flaunting it! For example, if a woman you find attractive ever asks you, “Are you hitting on me?” Tell her the truth: “Of course I am!” Even if she says something like, “You’re just try-ing to get in my pants...” Try respondtry-ing with radical honesty, “Of course I am!”
Don’t be one of these guys who has a hard time admitting to other people—and even admitting to himself—that he de-sires women.
This mindset applies to other aspects of attractive humor, as well. For example, say a girl tells you it’s “girls night out”– which actually happened to me the other day. I was out with
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my friend and the girl said something like, “It’s girls night, I can’t talk to you!”
I responded, “Does this mean you don’t shave your legs?”
The girl and her friend were like, “What? What are you talking about?”
It was kind of a personal question to ask a set of girls that I’d just met, but sure enough, after saying that, I was able to es-calate the conversation, saying, “If you were about to have sex with a guy and you haven’t shaved your legs, what do you do? Do you have sex anyway? Do you care that you’re hairy?” We had this big sexual conversation because I had the nerve to ask a simple question like, “Does girls night out mean you don’t shave your legs?”
Growing up, our parents rejected shamelessness. When a little kid says something that everybody is thinking, parents usual-ly respond, “Ooh. Don’t say that here.” Shamelessness is just saying the unsaid. It’s like a five-year-old kid is standing in front of her, noticed something, and just said it.
You also want to do things like connect the dots. For instance, if she leaves something out, fill it in for her. Maybe she’s telling a story about a guy that she met off Match.com, and it didn’t work out. You can say, “Yeah. So the sex got boring?” or, “No
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sexual attraction? No sexual chemistry?” You’re connecting the dots of what she left out of the conversation. That’s being pretty shameless.
It may take some time, a little practice, and whole lot of hones-ty, but if you can get yourself feeling comfortable about your desire for women, you will keep them laughing while escalat-ing the conversation toward sex.
One final point before we get into a few quick examples: feel-ing comfortable about your desire for women DOES NOT mean you’re chasing them and kissing their ass. Absolutely not! Be-ing honest with your desire doesn’t mean constantly tellBe-ing a woman how beautiful she is, or how much you like her.
Please don’t misinterpret the shameless mindset as an excuse to act needy. Acting needy is NOT humorous and it’s certain NOT attractive. If you’re confused how to communicate your desire in a humorous way without coming off needy, try lines like this:
• “So insert random pickup here. I thought you were cute and wanted to come over and flirt with you, shameless-ly.”
• “Hey, as much as I’d like to revert to the 3rd grade play-book of ignoring girls, I had to come over and meet you.”
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Using Misinterpretation
the Right Way
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magine a woman showing up to a first date with a guy she’s met only once, very briefly, and whom she hardly remem-bers. Imagine her walking into a colorful lounge and scaning the room...A man notices her, smiles, and waves. As she’s making her way over to him, she thinks, “Oh God, I hope this guy isn’t boring. I really don’t want to sit through an hour of bad conversation...” Outwardly though, she beams a friendly smile and sits down at the table, across from her date.
“Sorry I’m late,” she says, preparing to enter into the boring small talk she so hates. “Did the waitress already come?”
The man smirks a little, waits a moment to respond, and says, “I’m not sure, but that would explain why she’s smiling so much...”
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At first the comment confuses the her. She was expecting small talk and...
...did he just say...?
She looks up at him, not sure if she heard him correctly. He flashes her a self-assured smirk. Then she blurts out laughing. While the comment was a bit edgy, the man sitting across from the woman is someone VERY comfortable
around women. He’s a man who understands how to attractively misinterpret something a woman says so that he can playfully get a woman in a flirty/sexual mood without being creepy or too obvious.
This technique—similar to teasing—is accom-plished by misinterpreting something a
wom-an says or accusing her of something in a comical way.
This puts a woman “in her head” because she has to scram-ble to clarify or “defend” herself. If you misinterpret her or accuse her of something—even in a joking way—she will im-mediately feel a need to respond.
This creates tension.
“... misinterpret her or accuse her of some-thing-even in a joking
way-she will immedi-ately feel a need to
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Now, again, this technique should be used sparingly and with caution. If a woman doesn’t realize you’re joking, this can eas-ily create too much tension and become combative (thus ruin-ing the interaction).
Until you get comfortable thinking of your feet, you may find it easier to use a formula to misinterpret things about a woman. I like using templates because if I’m in a jam or she’s not giving me much to work with, I can just use a template answer.
One of my favorite playful misinterpretations also involves an-other comedy concept you’ll read about in this book: accusa-tion. Here’s the formula:
Here are some an examples of misinterpretations and accusa-tions that are “edgy” and work to stoke a woman’s attraction:
She says: “Do you have a minute?”
You say: “Do I look like a minute man?”
“Girls who...” + Thing She’s Doing/Wearing/Etc.
+ “...are total...” + Playful Accusation
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She says: “What do you think of this hat?”
You say: “Girls who wear hats like that are total
trouble-makers.”
In both examples, the tension comes from misinterpreting that she’s sexual and wild. Most of the time, women think you’re the one who has a dirty mind. By reversing that stereotype, you put her in a position where she has to defend herself and “clarify” what she meant (putting her in her head!).
Speaking of which, let’s take a closer look at why accusations work so well in the next section...
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Simple Way to Use Accusations
to Get Her Laughing
P
layfully “accusing” a girl of something is great for so-cial humor.While it may not be “objectively” funny, accusation cre-ates SO MUCH tension in such a funny, flirtatious way that we just had to give it its own section in this book.
Whenever accused of something, most girls’ first response will be to deny it, which as we mentioned in the last section, will put them in their head.
For example, you may say to a girl, “Wow, you’re EVIL!” to which she’ll usually retort, “No I’m not! Why do you think that?”
That’s the perfect “setup” for SO MUCH social humor. For ex-ample you could say…
• “Yeah right! You are so evil. I’ll bet your head twists around like the Exorcist!”
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• Keep a silent, deadpan face, causing her to keep asking, “What? Why do you think that? Tell me!”
Regardless what you do or say after accusing her, it’ll amplify her laughter because she’ll feel tense. And she’ll want to re-lease that tension through laughter at your joke. This is the essence of attractive humor!
The reason we introduced the concept of accusation in the last section on misinterpretation because the two together make a killer tag-team! Personally, my FAVORITE time to make an ac-cusation is right after intentionally misinterpreting something a woman said. This way, I can use my “misinterpretation” to justify the accusation.
It doesn’t even really matter if your misinterpretation or accu-sation makes “logical” sense. It’s more important to let your imagination run wild and have fun. As long as you do it in a playful, non-creepy way, she’s going to enjoy it. Just be sure she sees you’re NOT seriously trying to accuse her of some-thing.
You know you’re doing it right if the girl plays along— even if she acts offended or indignant. She might say, “What?! I didn’t say that! Why would you think that?” but if she’s saying it with enthusiasm or a little smirk, she’s enjoying herself.
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A Foolproof Flirting Formula that
Instantly Breaks Her State
W
e hate canned pickup lines. Most are just notfunny. And the few that are typically DO NOT contain the type of humor that’s going to get you laid because the subtext is all wrong. Pick-up lines ooze with the subtext “I’m trying to impress you” (at best) or “I’m sleazy” (at worst).
Yet there ARE times when having a few “lines” up your sleeve can be extremely effective. One of those moments is when trying to break a woman’s state. Breaking her state so she flirts with you is CRUCIAL. Unfortunately, most guys strike out because they’re either NOT using humor at all, or using the wrong type of humor, to do that.
You want to make a woman’s decision to flirt with you as easy on her as possible. It usually only takes between 30 seconds to 2 minutes to do this. But to do it, you HAVE TO be a guy she’s in-terested in learning more about.
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Reaching that “hook point” moment can be a simple as saying a single sentence or phrase. Often it will take a little more, but rest assured: as long as you have a woman’s attention, you can keep throwing out phrases and lines until something “hooks.” A very consistent way to create this vibe is by
using “bait”—conversation topics you know will get an emotional response. These con-versations are based on leading her into an “invisible thread.” A thread is anything she says that you can use as a talking point. For example, if she says, “I drive a red Honda Ac-cord,” there are plenty of threads in that sen-tence:
The car—why does she drive a Honda Accord? Does
she like it?
The color—why did she pick red? Does it describe her
personality?
She drives—when did she learn to drive? Is she a good
driver?
You too can probably think up dozens of threads without breaking a sweat. Thus, the issue isn’t finding “threads”—it’s about finding humorous threads that get her flirting with you. Finding a “flirty” thread about a Honda can be challenging, es-pcially when you’re on the spot. There’s only so much you can say about driving a red Honda Accord that’s attractive or that will spark a vibe.
“bait:conversation
topics you know will get an emotional
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And so that’s where the idea of “invisible threads” comes into play. You don’t have to make breaking her state any more dif-ficult than it already is. Trying to improvise attractive threads on the spot is nerve-wracking—so why do it if you don’t have to?
You can set yourself up for a flirty exchange just by steering the conversation toward an invisible thread. Here’s one way to do it... once you begin talking to a woman, get yourself in the habit of teasing her by saying:
“Oh wow, you have a bit of an accent—don’t you?”
Then follow up your tease by saying something like, “Hmm... lemme guess where your accent is from...”
Even if a woman tells you, “I don’t have an accent,” just chuck-le as if she were lying and say, “Stop. You totally do. Lemme guess where it’s from.” This is a surefire way to lead to the invisible thread, which is to set yourself up to make a humor-ously wrong guess about her “accent.”
So, if I were talking to a Caucasian girl who obviously grew up in New York, I’d say, “Sounds like you’re from the jungles of Vietnam.” If I was talking to an Asian girl, I’d say, “You’re to-tally German, aren’t you?” I know this might sound weird, but this sort of shtick is all you need to spark a vibe. Women are almost always going to laugh and tease you back. If you don’t like the accent example, come up with an invisible thread you
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like better. Point is: figure out a surefire to always spark a flirty vibe, right from the start. Here’s a flow chart that spells out the formula to create a flirty vibe...
Part 1: Breaking Her State
Unpredictability
T
ips
>“You have an accent! where’s it from? Lemme guess. Guam…”
>“______ _____ is EVIL!”
>“What’s new in _____(Ironic Place)__?”
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1. Set her up to think you’re going to guess something (e.g., Accent); twist expectations by guessing something off-the-wall
2. Saying anything is “evil” usually gets a laugh
Radical Truth
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ips
>“I’m going to flirt shamelessly with you for the next 32 seconds...” >“I’m taking you on a speed date!” >“...you can’t really blame me...”
1. Hitting on women creates tension, which often leads to laughter... use that to your advantage!!!
2. Don’t “hide” sexual intent; highlight it! 3. Girls often find the idea of “going on
a speed date” funny if said at a bar or party, try it!
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Misinterpretatio
ns
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ips
>“If by ____ you mean ____, then yes!” >“You are such a (badass/flirt/diva/nerd/ dork)!”
>“I’ll bet you are” (if she says, “I’m wet...”)
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1. The easiest way to inject humor into a “weird” situation is to reverse it with the “If by...” template
2. You can misinterpret her behavior however you want...and the less logi-cal you are, the funnier it usually is...
Pop Culture
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ips
>“Wait, I’m calling a Zack Morris timeout.”
>“I kissed a girl…and liked it!” >“Bling, bling!”
1. Making a funny pop culture reference can instantly get her laughing as
well as create rapport
2. be on the lookout for funny lines and sayings from TV and movies! 3. Be on the lookout for
“female-friendly” references... popular ro-mantic comedies (e.g. Wedding
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Incongruence
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ips
>“It’s guys’ night out!”
“You’re going to be my new body-guard!”
>“Stop staring at my man-cleavage!”
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1. Playing on “gender humor” is great because it shows that you “get” the difference between men and women so much you can make it into a joke 2. To do this on-the-fly is easy! Just
reverse a “stereotype”
Specific details
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ips
>“A girl drinking an Appletini WOULD say something like that.”
>“Wear that dress you know I love!” >“What are you doing at 8:03 tonite?”
1. For whatever reason, specifics are funny. get in the habit of noticing de-tails and commenting on them!
2. Specifics are great to combine with other humor aspects (e.g., Radical truth: “Let’s go on a speed date, fall hopelessly in love, have 2.5 children, find our dream house with the white picket fence...all in the next 37 sec-onds! ready? Let’s go!”
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Introduction: Why you need to interrupt her
pattern...
• Goal of this phase is to capture her attention and snap her out of her ‘boredom trance’
• Laughter and smiling feels good scientifically
• Your trying to get her to pay attention long enough to create an inkling of attraction
• She’s got ADD. We all do. It takes an emotion to get us to focus in on something… (anger, surprise, laughing- think about if you’re flipping channels)
• You’re trying to distract her from the hundreds of other thoughts flowing through her mind
• You can also use this to quickly move her from one emo-tion to the next… Rob’s piss her off with a tap on her
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back… then make her laugh
Characteristics: What are the elements of this
first phase
• You’re going for a smile not a belly laugh
• Have you ever been in a fight with someone, and they say something just funny enough to make you lose your concentration and smirk...?
• It has to be basic and can’t require her to have to think too much
• It also must be self explanatory and can’t need a long set up to a punchline
• It needs to be blatant. Subtly won’t work here
• Remember, you’ve only got half her attention at this point… so its got to be obvious
PRO TIP: We’ll talk more specifically about going into a
char-acter in a later phase.. but something that will help is to put yourself into a comedic character… Barney from How I Met Your Mother is an example…
How you know it worked
• She laughs • Giggles
• Smacks you playfully
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Examples: What are some examples
of phase one humor
• Unpredictability: Bordoux example
• Radical Truth: “I’m trying to pick you up”
• Playful Misinterpretations: “I’m wet.. I bet you are” • Pop Culture tie in: Mr. Belevedere
Mistakes to Avoid: What are some
mistakes to avoid in phase 1…
• Using jokes that depend too much on her knowing you without setting up the expectation of humor
• If you’re hanging out with a girl who’s known you for awhile this isn’t a problem.. but if you’re just meeting her she might not get it if it depends on your “charac-ter”
• Jokes that kill the mood • My “lesbian” slip
• Being too sarcastic or coming off as an asshole
• The “I’m above you” attitude doesn’t work in first few minutes unless she knows you well.
• Not going into humor quick enough
• The longer you wait to introduce humor the harder it gets. This is because of “The Theory of Expectations”
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aving a fun vibe is essential because it’s the “ultimate currency.” It’s why we go out to bars, clubs or pret-ty much any place that we can go out to have fun. It’s how we choose our friends and even why people drink or do drugs–because they want to have fun and are craving to be around people that allow us to have fun...Fun is the Ultimate Currency!
So let’s talk about how to make your conversations with women fun and funny. You have to begin the roller coaster ride of a con-versation that creates an emotional response and leads to physi-cal attraction–the kind that gets her to come home and follow you to your bedroom... so use the ideas, tactics, and techniques in this phase to establish that YOU ARE A FLIRT!
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Establishing
You’re A Flirt
Maintained the first few minutes of the interaction; no matter if this is your first time meeting her, or you’ve hung out before, you should also re-establish yourself
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When She Says Something
Dumb or Starts Rambling...
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f you learn to what women are saying and you get a feel for bantering then you’ll see that women give you all the mate-rial you can possibly need to get them laughing.Here’s the thing though: once you establish yourself as a flirt women treat you that way (as I discussed in the introduction). When she does, she’ll unconsciously give you material to use. Here are a few quick lines to quickly get her to see you as a flirt. The best way to deliver the lines is to exaggerate how little sense she is making. This is a good time to be animated, and a slightly childish.
• “Are you just making shit up as you go along?”
• “It’s a good thing you’re pretty, because once the looks go you’ll be in trouble...”
• “Let’s play a game. It’s called how long can you hold your breath.”
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• “I don’t know what you’re on but I am sure they offer rehab for it...”
• “Bartender, I think you need to cut this girl off!” • “Now you’re starting to scare me...”
• “You are a total blonde fluff ball.”
Remember, you don’t want to come across mean or insulting with these lines. You’re just trying to be playful and fun. If done correctly, she will probably tease you or bust your balls a little. That’s a GOOD thing. It means she sees you as a flirt!
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Using Misinterpretation
to Set Up A Flirty Vibe
I
n the last section, the idea of misinterpretation was intro-duced as a great way to break a woman’s state. You can also use misinterpretation to ensure she immediately sees you as a flirt...You need to get really good at listening to things she says that you can use for misinterpretion material. The best kinds are sex-ual misinterpretations, but you can also misinterpret her as be-ing ditzy, a bad ass, sex crazed, trybe-ing to impress you, paranoid, dorky, or even a cute little puppy dog.
Anything you can do or find to misinterpret works because it sets a “romantic comedy vibe,” which is something you’re going to hear us mention often during this course.
In Phase 2 though, you can take your misinterpretations even fur-ther by adding in exaggeration/absurdity and then repetition. All these comedy elements together create really powerful humor
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that you can use and reuse throughout your interaction or date. To do it right, let’s begin with exaggeration. You want to take the misinterpretation and make it even more absurd. Maybe you’re talking to a girl and she says she came out together with her girl friend. You can misinterpret it as if as she meant a lesbian girlfriend by saying, “Oh, you have a girlfriend. That’s
so cool that you’re open-minded like that. Do you have more than one? Do they get jealous? I’m not going to get jumped by like ten jealous crazed softball players am I?”
You took what she said (being out with her girl friend) and misinterpreted it as a lesbian relationship. You then exagger-ated it by saying, “Do you have more than one? Do they get jealous?” Finally, you made it absurd by saying, “I’m not going to get jumped by ten jealous crazed softball players am I?” Later on, you can bring it back up, by saying, “I’m a little ner-vous I’m going to get beat up by your jealous softball-playing girlfriend...”
Misinterpret + Exaggerate
(or Absurd) X Repeat
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You can do this with just about any topic you’re talking about, just listen for opportunities...
For example, say you’re talking to a girl and she says, “Man, I really need a drink.” Well if she needs a drink, you can mister-pret that as her being a raging alcoholic who’s going to beat her red-headed step child while streaking naked through Times Square wearing only a cowboy hat.
Then you can just keep going back to it later, like if somebody comes over to talk to you guys, you can say, “You don’t have any step children do you? You better keep them away from her.”
Or maybe she says she’s sick of guys. You can say something like, “You should draw a big smiley face on a pillow and carry it around and then just scream at people how they don’t under-stand the love you feel. Either that or you can get some cats.” And then later, bring it up again. (But ONLY repeat these sorts of teases if she laughed the first time!)
Then later, if she’s talking about wanting to travel, you can go back to your original misinterpretation by saying something like, “So is that where you and the pillowcase are going to go on your honeymoon and make little pillowcases.” Just con-tinue with this absurd, borerline-stupid humor. As dumb as it may sound now, it usually injects a fun and playful energy into the interaction. If done right, she’ll even begin to play along.
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Another way to misinterpret and exaggerate, and repeat is through “speculation,” which means you guess or presume why she did or said something.
Say you’re talking to her and she calls you out on a pickup line by saying, “Oh that’s a good pickup line.” Here’s how you could speculate: “Oh, are you saying that because no one usu-ally talks to you? Cute.”
Or if she tells you, “I’m going to law school,” you could say, “Are you just saying that to impress me? Are you just trying to get me home?” And then later, to exaggerate it, you can tease her by saying, “Stop thinking about getting me home.”
That example brings us to one of the easiest ways to execute this sort of humor, which is also a GREAT way to establish yourself as a flirt. You just begin a sentence with the phrase, “You’re just saying that because...” and then make up some absurd story that you can exaggerate and repeat. This is SO effective, we put it into a formula:
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Other good misinterpretions in this phase is when you finish statements for her. Say she says, “I’m going to go...” you can finish her sentence by saying, “...get me a drink?”
Or, maybe she says, “For your information...” you can finish it by saying, “...That pet rock really was your best friend?”
Another good one is when she says, “I hate that...” and you finish with “...you can’t wear pajamas to the bar and carry your stuffed animal friends around.”
The more absurd, the better. As she starts to say something, jump in and finish it with something absurd. If she has a good response, go right into the old “misinterpret + exaggerate/ aburd x repeat” formula! The beauty of this is it gives you ma-terial you can go back to throughout the conversation.
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How to Mess With Her To
Get the Upper Hand
I
n order to put her in her head and get the upper hand, it re-ally helps to “bullshit her” a bit. This is so great because it shows her that you’re in control of the conversation. Women love guys who challenge them. Not in the, “I’m much smart-er than you way,” but in a way that keeps them on their feet. You want her not sure if what you’re saying is serious or if you’re messing around.One way to do this is by testing her gullibility. At some point in the conversation I like to say something like, “I have to be hon-est with you, I’m married with five kids at home,” and see if she believes it.
The great thing about that particular line is that it serves two purposes. One, it tests her gullibility and lets you mess with her a little bit, but you also get to see her reaction because, if you’ve established yourself as a flirt and then you tell her that you’re married, there’s SHOULD be a weird reaction from her. The more
offended or shocked she seems, the more interested she is in you... and the better you’re doing at making sure she sees you as a flirt.
Another way to mess with her is to play dumb when she’s ex-plaining something. You can just keep saying, “Can you repeat that?” and, at first, she’s going to be thinking you’re serious and she’s going to repeat it. Eventually she’s going to catch on and be like, “You asshole.”
Another great way to mess with her is by “escalating the ab-surdity.” Maybe she asks you to name something like the jobs you’ve had. You can start off with your normal jobs, like, “I used to wait tables, then I worked in a bank for a little bit, then I was the guy that who cleaned up the sperm at the sperm bank.” You start off normal and create an escalation of absurdity.
This is what Rob calls “the 3-step and spin” move, which you can use when a woman asks you “interview-style” questions. Examples of an “interview-style” question is something like where you’re from or what you do for work. As tempting as it may be to answer these questions with real, logical answers, it’s your job as a man to make sure the conversation doesn’t get boring.
Unfortunately, for most of us, we’ve gotten burned in the past because we let a conversation with a woman get TOO logical. She becomes bored and wants to leave...
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....EVEN IF SHE WAS THE ONE TO BRING UP THE INTERVIEW-STYLE QUESTIONS!
That bring said, you also don’t want to give answers that are completely off-the-wall and only get her emotional. You want a nice balance, which is 3 logical statements (“3-step”) followed by an emotional joke or tease (“and SPIN”). The “spin” de-pends on the humor element of unpredicability (mentioned in the introduction). Here are some examples 3-steps and spins:
Don’t, however, mistake “3-step and SPIN” formula for a rule—it’s just a framework! Depending on the situation, you could make it a “1-step and SPIN” or a “5-step and SPIN.”
All that’s important is striking a balance between logic and emotion. By ending a string of logical statements with an emo-tional tease, you keep the conversation lively and playful.
Just be careful! If used too much it can come off as scripted and try-hard. Keep her guessing (which keeps her in her head!) by answering a few of her questions ONLY with emotional state-ments or ONLY with logical statestate-ments. Remember: unpredi-cability!
Not only is “3-step and SPIN” an excellent way to volley her questions and keep things from becoming boring, you can also use it as a “conversational jujutsu” strategy, as well. If you’re telling a story or explaining something, and you catch yourself droning on with logic, simply add a “SPIN” to spike the con-versation with emotion!
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Real Answer + Real Answer
+ Real Answer + Absurdity
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Statement Formula to Overcome
Friction & Get Her Laughing
O
nce you get in the habit of putting yourself on the offensive with women, you’re ALWAYS going to hit some friction. She might say something nasty, tem-porarily lose interest, or something might just go awry for a moment. This happens to every guy in every interaction......and most guys let it ruin their chances with a girl…
...the pro move, however, is to use these moments to get her laughing.
This is huge. A big difference between guys who are good with women and guys who are NOT is this: can he keep his cool in mo-ments of emotional friction? When a woman’s behavior sudden-ly becomes difficult does the guy make a big deal over it? Does he get frantic? Or can he transform that moment into something that will get her laughing?
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The easiest way to get women laughing in these situations is by using a specific statement. It’s what we like to call a “bum-per statement.” We call it that because you don’t go along with her bad behavior or cave in to the friction... but you also don’t fight her objection…i nstead you BUMP it!
The word “bump” is important because it’s not supplicating like a wimp, yet it’s also not being a hard ass like a dick—it’s somewhere in between. This is the sweet spot for attractive humor.Basically, she’s trying to put YOU in YOUR head and bump statements make sure you continue to pace the conver-sation.
Here’s how to do it: the first half of a bumper statement is to AGREE with whatever she says. I know might sound strange, but if you disagree with her when she’s acting like this, it’s only going to create MORE friction. Since the purpose of flirt-ing is simply lettflirt-ing thflirt-ings FLOW, you DON’T want anythflirt-ing to disrupt that.
If she says your shirt looks terrible, you say it really does. If she calls you immature or dumb, you say that you couldn’t agree more. No matter what she says, your response is that she’s absolutely right.
After you glide over the friction with an agreement, THEN you state your REAL opinion in an absurd or light-hearted way. This part might be a little tricky for guys who aren’t yet comfortable
improvising on the spot. If that sounds like you, then you may find it helpful to have a few “go-to” bumper statements up your sleeve. Often guys who seem rock-solid confident (even when a girl is acting like a complete bitch) maintain their cool by having a few bumper statements in their back pocket to use in common situations.
As an example, imagine you ask a woman for her a phone num-ber and she says, “I don’t give my numnum-ber out.” Some guys would freak out and start saying all sorts of weird things like, “Why not?” or, “Okay, then can I give you my number?”
Weak.
You, however, know to “bump” her objection with a cool, con-fident response: “Oh cool, I have the same rule. So we’ll make an exception for each other.” You’re not forcing an outcome by being a hard ass and trying to “coerce” her into giving up or number. Yet you don’t slink away with your tail between your legs like a wimp. Here’s the formula for bumper statements:
