Daytime Pick Up Revealed

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The Art of Meeting, Connecting and

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First of all, I want to congratulate you.

You’ve taken the first step toward improving yourself. I know there’s a lot of information out there and, quite frankly, it can be overwhelming.

Rest assured that your dating life will take on a positive spin after you’ve absorbed and integrated the information in this e-book.

What you’re about to read is a product of years of trial and error. Anyone, regardless of age and experience, can benefit from this manual.

Over the years, I’ve piled up all the useful information that I’ve discovered in my pursuit to perfecting daytime pick ups.

In the process, I came up with over 2,000 pages filled with discoveries, theories, and tactics on meeting women during the daytime.

2,000 pages? Yes.

I’ve compressed it all into this book. I don’t want you to take a year to see results. I want you to succeed now.

So I came up with a manual that anyone, even my 8-year-old cousin, would understand.

I learned the natural [**hard?**] way. I learned from my past failures, hanging out with guys that were good with women, and trial and error.

It was a long and painful process but, at that time, I really had no other option. Worst of all, I had to learn how pick up women from scratch.

Back then, there were no resources on meeting women outside of the “bars and clubs” context. There were no gurus, books, videos, or workshops that focused on daytime pick-up.

It didn’t stop me though. I knew I had the passion and motivation to get this part of my life handled. I just needed to know how to operate in the field.

After thousands of interactions and years of going out to the malls, streets, beaches, coffee shops, and college campuses, I’ve developed a step by step system that will allow anyone, with the right combination of passion, dedication, and perseverance to become successful with women, by choice.

There’s a catch though… You have to want it.

You have to desire success and do whatever it takes to become competent in this area of your life.

So now, I want you to sit back, relax, and keep an open mind. You’re about to begin your journey.

I promise you won’t regret it.

Do you want to know the secret to seeing results fast? One word: consistency. You can have the best techniques, the best system, and the best coach out there, but without consistency, it’s all worthless.

Over the past three years, I’ve talked to hundreds of people who have successfully transformed their dating lifestyle. Eventhough they were from different walks of life and trained differently, there was always one common denominator. Day in day out, they each followed their pre-determined plan, consistently, without fail, and without excuses.

There are many ways to achieve your goal, but you will never reach it unless you consistently exert the effort to put one foot in front of the other. You must find the determination, passion, and drive within yourself to see this through. If you don’t get this part of your life handled right now, then when will you?

Treat this like going to college to get a degree. You won’t be in college forever, and you will not be figuring out this part of your life forever - only a few months! This is a short-term challenge to you! Ask yourself, would you be willing to

experience a slight inconvenience and break through your comfort levels to achieve the lifestyle of your dreams - or will you continue to be an “average Joe” for 70 more years? Which path will you take?

It’s time to make a decision. This manual is my helping hand to all those guys who want to learn how to successfully meet women during the day. Now, make a stand, and choose wisely.

First of all, this book isn’t some magic pill that will solve all your problems overnight.

It doesn’t work that way.

You’ll need to take sometime to try out the tactics that you learn.

I want you to approach this as you, would when you’re trying to develop a skill. The more you practice, the better you become.

It’s similar to learning a sport. You need to practice several times a week, if you want to become competent.

There are two things that are directly correlated to your success. You need the right information and the ability to put that information into practice.

I will spoon feed you with knowledge on daytime pick-up but that won’t be enough. You need to go out there and practice the things you learn.

It’s a repetitive process that will propel you toward success.

I’ll constantly be throwing new concepts at you, so be prepared. Some of them will be helpful to your current situation. Most of them, you will need in the future. Treat this book as a reference or encyclopedia. Read through it once or twice and absorb whatever you can. Come back and read the individual section from time to time.

Read, absorb, and integrate the information you learn.

Don’t ever, ever be satisfied with just learning this stuff, practice it! Don’t go jump right onto another book or program right away without practicing the things you learn here.

Keep practicing, reading, and using it until you have it all down!

Please feel free to e-mail me with your ideas, comments, complaints, or just a simple “Hi” note if you will. I want to know what you think. You can drop me a line at [email protected]

Let’s Rock n Roll!

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Now that we’re finished with the warning, let’s learn how to be successful with women during the daytime...

Section 1:

the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen

thAn You cAn hAndle

In this section, I’ll discuss some interesting things about the different steps before the approach, and how I’ve used this information to solidify my game and make myself more successful with women.

Have you ever experienced seeing “your type” of girl walk down the street? Most likely you have. The question is, ”What Did You Do About It?

Did you start giving second glances? Scratch your head in awe? Smile at her as she passed by? Or did you just look down as she walked by?

If you didn’t do anything, then that’s normal. I have yet to meet someone who knows exactly what to do and how to do it when he sees a woman that catches his eye.

I’ve met a couple of men that can pull it off, and believe me, they are rare. What exactly is your reason for buying this book? Tell me, I’m sure you wanted to accomplish something. Did you want a girlfriend? Did you want to expand your social circle? Or did you just want to have new dates every single day?

If you answered yes to any one of those, then day game just might be the answer.

Why? Day Game is the ability to meet any woman, outside of bars and clubs, build an emotional connection, get them on dates, and have the possibility of starting a relationship with them.

It’s not luck, as most may think, it’s a skill set.

Have you ever stopped to wonder how many hot women you see everyday? Women of all types of beauty are not hard to find, they roam around malls, beaches, supermarkets, and coffee shops every single day.

Thousands of women go out during the day to run errands, shop, relax, have fun and a whole list of other reasons. The best thing about it is that YOU could

potentially monopolize and have access to ALL these women if you knew how.

What if I told you that it’s possible to approach these beautiful strangers and have something positive result from almost all of your interactions?

Would you think I’m nuts?

Cold approaching is walking up and talking to a complete stranger. I should know. I’ve had a history of being a salesman.

Several years ago, I’ve spent a couple of months standing inside a phone booth in the middle of a mall, trying to get people to buy our products. I’d always be shouting “Hey sir, do you want to sign up for our service today?” yada yada yada.

It rarely worked because I was already asking for the sale before I even got a chance to get to know the customer. Heck, I didn’t even know their name. I learned that building a relationship before asking for the sale was a must, and it did make sense.

If selling something was possible without building a relationship with the customer, then there would be no need for salespeople.

Occasionally, people would stop by for a minute to check out the things I had to say. But, more often than not, they’d just continue walking.

What does sales have to do with being successful with girls? Everything.

If you think about it, the one thing that’s similar with salespeople and guys that are successful with women, is their ability to communicate with people.

Communication is key in everything that we do. I’ll talk more about this in the upcoming chapters. Now, let’s get back to my story…

After failing to produce results in my job, I tried and experimented with a lot of different techniques, and that’s when I learned something… If my initial approach was unique, then people usually gave me a bit of their time. Remember the time someone tried to start a conversation with you? What happened?

You probably heard them open with a familiar line like: “Hey what’s going on?”

“Nice weather…”

“It’s a pretty long line, isn’t it”

Chances are you reply with some sort of answer, depending on your mood. Then the conversation comes to an end and you either say “Nice talking to you” or just simply turn around and carry on with your business.

Looking back, why did you talk to that person? Was it out of politeness or were you interested in getting to know them as a person?

Chances are it was out of politeness.

How often are you approached by a homeless person asking for money? How do you deal with it? Are you polite or do you brush them off?

I’m sure it comes to a point where you just have a set of prepared answers that you say when you get the same question. If you can relate to this scenario then...

Women get approached or hit on all the time. They’ve developed tolerance to men and the ability to be emotionally detached from the interaction.

It’s not their fault and I certainly don’t blame them for being rude sometimes. There are a lot of whackos out there.

The first thing you need to do is find a way to bypass her social filters. What does that mean?

You’ve got to approach her in a way that she’s not accustomed. Your goal is to get her into a state of mind where she’s susceptible to be led.

Make or Break Moment

The first couple of seconds after you meet a person is what I call the make or break moment.

It’s probably one of the most crucial moments of the interaction simply because it opens the door for escalating the conversation.

It’s like going to someone’s house and pushing the doorbell. Just because someone opens the door, it doesn’t mean you get to go in and do whatever you want.

Women will usually, if you’ve got your whole presence and communication skills down, open the door for you a little bit. But don’t expect them to be all over you after you’ve initiated the conversation.

That’s just setting yourself up for failure.

I’m going to go with the assumption that everyone’s time is special. We all have things to do and people to see. Most of the people you meet out there will have a very short attention span.

Most women will give you somewhere between three seconds and three

minutes to captivate their interest. That’s your window of opportunity, there are no second chances if you mess it up.

A lot of your time, when you first start out, will be focused on perfecting the first few minutes of the interaction. It will be your first road block to success.

Do you know where you’re heading?

If you don’t then you might want to start brainstorming.

If you want to be successful with women, there’s one thing you need to do first. You have to set a goal for yourself. If you don’t have one, then by the end of this section, you should have one.

Goal setting is very important for various reasons. It gives you an overall direction so you know where you’re going. It’s always a good feeling knowing you’re working toward something that will benefit you in the long run.

It motivates you and keeps you on track. If you have a vision of what you want your life to be then that is your incentive to work harder. If it’s something you really want then you WILL achieve it.

A lot of people out there are like chickens running around with their heads cut off. They have no goals set for themselves.

So I want you to take sometime to answer these questions. Have a pen and paper ready. Don’t skip this part. You’ll find it very useful on your journey.

Realistically speaking, what do you really want to accomplish? You’re obviously investing a lot of your time and effort into learning how to be successful with women. What’s in it for you in the long run? Like, in 10 years, where do you see yourself? What kind of person will you be by then? What kind of girl/girls will be with you? What’s your lifestyle going to be? What’s the difference between who you are now and who you want to be?

How long do you think it will take you to accomplish your overall goal? Have you set daily, weekly, and monthly goals to ensure that you’re

constantly improving you skill set? How much time and effort do you need to put into this? What strategies do you have in order to stay consistent and committed to getting this part of your life handled?

That’s just for starters. These questions should aid you in coming up with a solid vision of who you want to be and what steps you need to take in order to accomplish that.

Okay you have your plan, now what?! Anything on paper is just writing unless you put it to work.

I know it’s a good feeling to have so much information that your brain begins to swell. One piece of advice though: Information isn’t power, it’s potential power. Once you’ve figured out what you want, the next step is to stick to your plan no matter what happens until you start to see results.

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Know exactly what you want to accomplish. If you haven’t done this by now, then don’t continue reading. Put the book down and start working on it.

For example: “In six months, I want to have the ability to date three new girls that I meet in the mall, every single week” or “I want to have a smoking hot girlfriend that’s half my age, and has a kick ass personality”.

Devise a plan on how you’re going to accomplish your goal. What steps are needed in order to accomplish your plan? How long is it going to take and what does it require of me? Make sure to always stick to that plan. For example: “In order for me to be able to date three new girls a

week, I should get my skill set to that level. I need to interact with seven new girls three times a week for six months. I should always be pushing the interaction as far as it can go every time. I shouldn’t commit the same mistake again. After six months, I’ll be able to hold a conversation with a girl for 30 minutes, and schedule a date with her at the end.”

Or “If I want a hot girlfriend I should be more experienced with hot

women. I will surround myself with the kind of women I’d like to date and learn how to be comfortable in their presence. I’ll try to go on as many dates as I can so I can get experience under my belt. I’m also going to work on the different aspects of my life so that I become relationship material.”

Get all the right information that you need in order to get this part of your life handled. Make sure you use this information as a guideline and makes sure you’re on the right track.

For example: “I was able to talk to several girls today. It was fun but I just can’t seem to get her to open up to me. I’m going to look for resources out there that will solve the problem for me. Or I can look for someone qualified to help me out. I’ll make sure that they can give me personalized and individualized attention. After getting advice, I’ll make sure to

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Review all your results, find the strong and weak points, then make the necessary adjustments. This is the only way to keep progressing.

For example: “Last month, I got five numbers and out of those numbers, three girls called me back. This month I got eight numbers but none of them called me back. So I need to review all my interactions and see where I’m screwing things up. Did I build enough emotional connection with her? Did I convey my personality well enough? Am I giving up easily without following up? If so how can I improve my skill? I should try calling her more often…”

This is a very simple structure you can use in order to assess your progress. You should be able to analyze yourself and construct positive criticism. This is an essential skill to develop.

I’m about to provide you with the most comprehensive information ever

available on how use the 8 Essential Day Game Factors to dramatically increase your success with women.

You see, I’ve identified a total of 8 Essential Day Game Factors that must be addressed if you want to maximize your success rate!

You must first understand all of the factors and how they affect your ability to meet, connect, and date the woman of your choice.

The 8 Essential Day Factors are structured in a way that helps build you up, starting from your core, then slowly focuses on the techniques and tactical part of the interaction.

The main goal of the upcoming section is to provide you with a comprehensive foundation for daytime pick-up. In order to efficiently improve your skills, I

suggest that you spend some time mastering EACH section of the book. Here’s a QUICK PEEK at what’s coming up...

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FACTOR : INNER STRENGTH

We’ll start to build you up from the very core of your personality. I’ll discuss inner strength in depth and take you step by step so that you can develop a solid foundation .

Don’t worry, I’ll only be throwing stuff at you that I know you’d need. I’m confident that by the end of this book, you’ll have a basic understanding of what inner strength is and how you can use it to gain an unfair advantage over other guys.

FACTOR : IDENTITY

Do you know why most guys fail to keep a woman interested in them? Or even worse, why they can’t keep a woman in their life? It’s because they don’t develop the ability to convey their identity.

I’ll go over the key concepts of identity building and how to effectively communicate who you are as a person.

FACTOR : LONG TERM AND SHORT TERM VALUE

This chapter is guaranteed to raise a few eyebrows out there. I’ll explain to you the importance of long term and short term value and how it affects all your interactions.

I’ll show you where most guys fail and how you can avoid most of the pitfalls out there.

FACTOR : COMMUNICATION

Communication skills separate the beginners from the pros. A lot of guys don’t know the proper way of communicating with attractive women. They lose a woman’s initial interest due to their lack of communication or ineffective communication.

I’ll teach you the same principles that I only teach in specialized 1 on 1 VIP seminars. I’ll show you exactly how to communicate with women.

FACTOR : EMOTIONAL CONNECTION

Emotional Connection is what I like to call “The Heart of Day Game”. This is my favorite part of every interaction and you’re about to find out why! I go over specific time-tested tactics that I’ve used to establish a long lasting emotional bond that gets her to dream about you even after you’re gone!

This is a very effective tool that increases the chances of you going on a date with her! I’ll go over the proper way to build an emotional connection and the opportune moment for you to start engaging her in this type of interaction.

FACTOR : COMFORT AND TRUST

Most guys just don’t know how to build comfort and trust with the women they meet. This chapter talks about the things you must do and avoid.

FACTOR : LEADING & LOGISTICS

If you haven’t learned yet, let me be the first to tell you… Logistics is one thing that you do not have full control over. I’ll give you a couple of tips on how you can maximize the effectiveness of the interaction by utilizing our logistic planning method.

In this chapter, I’ll show you specifically how to get the girl from the mall to your bedroom!

FACTOR : INVESTMENT

In order for anyone to be successful with women, he must first master the art of making her invest in the interaction.

Look no further! In this chapter, I’ve compiled the most comprehensive approach to increase control over the interaction and decreasing the number of women flaking on you. I’ve decided to just go all out and reveal four major investment categories.

Section 2:

the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS

I know that most of you just want to learn what to say, in other words, “the lines”. I don’t blame you at all, I was the same as you when I first started out. You want to know what happened several years later?

I sat down and told myself “If only I just build up myself first, things would have been so much easier for me…” So save yourself a lot of time and read and understand this section first before you go onto the next one.

A lot of successful guys, I know, have one thing in common. This is the one thing that fuels them day in and day out. It’s that bright light at the end of the tunnel. It’s the driving force behind all their successes.

I’ve tried to put my finger on it in the past but it took me quite sometime to figure out what it was. I used to think to myself, “What does this guy have that I don’t, I mean, we both have charismatic personalities and great sense of style. There’s something about him that makes him complete as a person.”

I really thought I would never figure it out... Until this one day came.

My friend and I were just chatting about life. I hadn’t seen him in years because he was stationed in Iraq. I admired this guy for his strength and courage. I

always wondered how he was able to do it.

So to make a long story short I asked him “It takes a lot of guts to do what you did. How were you able to handle it? Back in those days when you were stationed in Iraq, what were you thinking of?”

He replied:

“All those days I spent there just help built me up as a person. Most people probably hated being there, I just accepted it. I knew there would be a lot of people who’d be negative about the experience. I had that choice. I had two choices: should I go through all of this hardship, be negative all the time, and be the same person I was to begin with? Or should I just barrel through this period with my head held up high, cherish every moment of my journey, and end up to be a better person? I chose the latter. I just knew that I had it in me to succeed beyond a shadow of a doubt. Failure just wasn’t an option for me.”

I suddenly had one of those “Light bulb popping up in your head” moments. These moments don’t come to me that often but whenever they do, they always hit me hard over the head.

You’ve Been Programmed to Fail with Women and You Probably Don’t Even Know It!

We all walk through this world with our beliefs. These beliefs have been

integrated into our being, probably since we were little kids. What we believe in is a product of the things we were exposed to all our lives. There are a lot of factors that have molded us to be the person we are today. Examples of such factors are FRIENDS FAMILY SCHOOL SYSTEM SOCIETY MEDIA CULTURE ENVIRONMENT

WOOOOWW! That’s a lot of factors influencing us. Sad to say, we’ve been programmed like robots to act in a self-sabotaging way toward women. Let’s start out with media and advertising.

Love makes the world go round and money keeps it spinning…

For the most part, we live in a society that’s driven by money, power, or fame. The ones on the top set the rules so that everyone can follow. Not only that, they set the standard of what is cool, attractive, and desirable.

Let’s take on the subject of appearance.

Contrary to popular belief, appearance isn’t everything. You can still get laid even if you do not look like the guy from the cover of a fashion magazine. You can get a girl even if you’re not rich, not well built, or not tall. You can make a beautiful girl with an outstanding personality fall for you regardless of your race! All of this may be hard to comprehend but it will make sense to you in a minute. Let’s take a good look at magazines for a second. This is true for both men and women alike.

Who do you see on the covers of popular magazines? I’m sure you all know the answer to this one:

Celebrities

Attractive and fit people Rich people

And everything else I forgot to mention

Am I the only one that sees what’s going on here?

Where can you find the hottest men and women? Usually on the front of

a magazine, where there sculpted bodies are exposed and their stunning facial features modified to intimidate almost anyone.

The average girl would think “That’s the girl that everyone in my school thinks is hot! She’s skinny and she wears (Insert brand name of clothing here), I need to buy everything she has and be like her so I can be hot too…”

Same thing for a guy “Oh, that guy has the hottest girl I’ve ever seen. He’s rich, tall, famous… He even has the fastest car around, he has this sick ass watch, and…”

To make the long story short, both the man and woman in this example end up concluding

“In order to be desirable, cool, and up to date I need to have this, be this, and join this…”

And whoever said advertising wasn’t effective? What actually happened was that the media brainwashed people into thinking that they need all of this in order to be cool.

The truth is… YOU DON’T

Yeah being rich, tall, famous helps but it’s not the only way. Anyone armed with the techniques and philosophies I’ll discuss in this book can attract the kind of woman that’s usually reserved for the good looking, famous, and rich!

IT’S TIME TO RE-PROGRAM YOURSELF TO YOUR ADVANTAGE! Have you ever heard of the saying perception is reality?

Your thoughts become your words. Your words become your actions. Your belief becomes who you are.

What if I told you that everything that you believe in, only if you really really believed in it, becomes who you are? Would you believe me?

You better, because by reframing some self-sabotaging beliefs, you too can be successful with women. This is where everyone should start regardless of their goal.

What if you can reprogram your entire self, so you can move through the world naturally attracting people in your life?

Before I hear any objections, you’re not going to be someone you’re not. You’re just going to be a better version of yourself.

You have to live up to your full potential. It makes me sad to see all the guys out there that are still walking through life brainwashed by society. If only I could snap them out of their trance… but then again, that would be too idealistic of me.

Alright, back to my story.

After I talked to the guy and realized everything I just told you, my whole world changed, literally before my very own eyes. I adopted bits and pieces of his philosophy in life, and went on a journey to seek the truth. Ever since then I began seeing some amazing results from all the interactions, struggles, and relationships that I’ve had.

And that’s when it occurred to me that…

YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE, BELIEVE, BELIEVE!

I’ve learned a couple of lessons that I will be sharing with you. These have been very useful for me and hopefully will be for you.

Change will not occur overnight, but the sooner you start believing, the faster you’ll get to your destination. I’m just sharing with you everything that’s worked for me and the thousands of guys I’ve trained after I discovered everything I’m about to share with you.

Here’s how this works. I’ll be discussing 8 Inner Strength Lessons that I’ve found to be very useful in my journey. For the next 30 days, I want you to go over this chapter again and again. Don’t stop reading until you start practicing and believing the 8 Inner Strength Lessons. I will also provide you with exercises so your belief is reinforced with real world results.

INNER STRENGTH LESSON : MY PRESENCE ALONE IS VALUABLE TO OTHERS

Have you ever had the feeling that you’re not worthy to even talk to someone? Have you ever hesitated to approach a woman just because you had that damn “Why should she even talk to me? I’m not her type… and besides, I don’t know what to say” speech playing in your head?

Let me ask you this, how can you be so sure she thinks that way if you haven’t even approached her yet?

Okay, but I’ve approached girls in the past and they’ve shot me down more times than I can think of…

Just because you had one bad meal in your life doesn’t mean you should stop eating right? Every girl is different. Every situation is different. If you believe that everything you say or do is valuable, then it will be valuable to others.

Starting now, I want you to believe that your presence alone is valuable to others.

I’m sure there’s a time in the past when you were yourself and everyone just loved you. The time when, all of a sudden, people were hanging off every word you said. The time when you were relaxed and comfortable with yourself.

TRY THIS OUT

I want you to start looking back and remember the times where you were indeed valuable to other people. I want you to remember the times when you made several people feel good about themselves.

Got that memory? How does it make you feel?

Have you ever surprised someone with something really special before? What did you feel like before you gave it to them? Felt good didn’t it? That’s how you should feel before talking to anyone. You’re doing them a favor by talking to them.

Try this out, next time before you talk to someone, imagine that you’re about to give them a million bucks in the next five minutes, how does that change the way you act toward them? Try it out.

INNER STRENGTH LESSON : TAKE WHAT’S YOURS! NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR WHO YOU ARE AND THE THINGS YOU DO! YOU ARE YOUR OWN BOSS!

There’s one thing that you will realize later on…

You can do anything you want, whenever you want, wherever you want. And you can get away with it.

Once again, we’ve been programmed by society to look up to others for “permission” to do something we want to do.

Remember the time when you were in grade school? You had to ask permission every single time you went for a trip to the rest room. Well, by the time you got to college, you just probably stood up and went straight for the rest room didn’t you?

Another example is the very famous Bill Gates. Do you think he ever asked permission if he could start up a business and drop out of school as it took off? Nope, he just had a plan, executed it, and never looked back.

So what do you want to do? What’s stopping you?

You are your own boss. You have permission to go after the things you want in life. You have permission to be the best that you can be. And you have permission to date any girl you want regardless of what anyone says. You have permission to change your beliefs.

I want you to live life like you own the world. Everything is yours. You do not need anyone’s approval before you do something. You do not need permission to dress in a certain way. You already have it in you.

It’s about time to free yourself from the prison that your mind is in. Here are some tips you can start integrating in your life:

It’s always better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. Next time you go out to the malls and you see a bench with an open spot, just go ahead and sit down. Don’t ask anyone for permission just do it.

Make your own decision and take your own stand. Don’t wait for others to tell you what to do. Don’t look for others to make decisions for you. You can do them yourself. Always voice out your opinions. Don’t be afraid to state your opinions just because someone else thinks otherwise. Don’t be afraid to spark tension. Always say what’s on your mind, if you don’t agree with someone simply say “I disagree” and leave it at that.

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Learn how to say “No”. It’s hard to get used to saying “no” but you have to give it a shot. Just try saying it. It’s not that bad. You’ll notice that people will begin to respect you more because you’re upfront. You wouldn’t want to be known as the “yes” man. If it’s reasonable and you’re up for it then say “yes”. If it will compromise you or for some reason you just don’t feel comfortable with it then say “no”.

I’m not trying to impress you. This boils down to being who you are despite what other people think. Don’t ever change just because someone else wants you to. Don’t be ashamed of your past, background, or status. Be proud, stand tall, and don’t bow down to someone just because you perceive them as being better than you. One motto you can use is “I’m not trying to impress you… And you sure have to do more than that to impress me”.

TRY THIS OUT

Let’s start out with simple exercises. The next time you’re about to line up, and someone gets there the same time you did, don’t hesitate to just smile and take the spot first.

When you’re at a party and someone asks: “Who wants such and such drinks” Don’t hesitate to raise your hand first and say “Over here”.

Wear an outrageous piece of clothing and when someone give you a hard time about it just smile and say “Thank you”.

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Do you know what people think of the first time they meet you?

Do you know the first thing that pops up in a woman’s head the moment you approach her?

Do you know what she will think about the minute she gets home after meeting you?

“Who in the world is this guy?”

So let me throw the question at you… Who Are You?

Trust me, every single person you meet will wonder who you are. They ask you questions for a purpose. They are trying to form a picture of who you are as a person.

Your job is to convey your identity all throughout an interaction. The clothes you wear, the stories you tell, and the way you present yourself to others, all of these play an important role in establishing your identity.

So what exactly is your identity? Continue reading because this whole chapter is dedicated to the subject of identity.

It All Started When You Were A Kid

“There are two great moments in a person’s life: the moment they were born and the moment they realize why they were born.” - Mark Sanborne

So What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven?

When I was seven years old I wanted to be a rock star. I wanted to be that guy that rocked people’s world with his guitar. I wanted to be that guy in the spotlight that made people jump to the beat of his melody.

It seemed just like yesterday, when I’d just jump off the bed with a broomstick trying to mimic Slash from Guns n Roses.

Why did I choose that as a kid? Beats me, I don’t really know. Maybe because it looked cool on television. Maybe I wanted to be a rock star because I’d be famous worldwide. Or maybe it was what everybody wanted at that time.

The truth is, I never really thought about it until three weeks ago when I was in a car with a bunch of friends. Then out of nowhere someone started playing my song on the radio. That’s when it struck me.

I’m an artist! I’m a musician! I really did achieve what I wanted when I was a kid. I didn’t stray away from it.

I thought I would never be an artist because of what everybody said to me… “Being a musician won’t get you anywhere… It’s useless, you’re better of just having a 9-5 job where you can make a constant stream of income”

Unfortunately, when I was a kid, I had no other choice but to listen to what

everyone said. Becoming a musician was a dream. It really came from the heart but at such an early age, I was easily influenced by my parents, peers, and teachers.

Now that I look back, I realize that each and everyone of us had dreams when we were little. As a result of growing up, we tend to stop feeling and just start thinking.

Not that thinking it’s a bad thing, we just need a balance of both.

One of my favorite sculptors, Michelangelo, once said “The Sculpture is already in the stone” and I never forgot that.

It just put the pieces of the puzzle together for me.

It means that every single time that Michelangelo worked on chipping away pieces of his sculpture, he was already done before he started. Yes, the product was already finished, all he had to do was to chip away all the unnecessary stuff.

I believe that the person we want to be is already inside of us. We were all created unique and special. We were born to experience life and with that experience we grow and we learn. We become better versions of ourselves. Success is in already inside all of us.

So let me ask you this: What did you want to be when you were seven years old? How to Discover Who You Are

I’m not going to keep you waiting any longer. Here are several ways to discover who you are.

I want you to pull out a piece of paper and jot down some notes. You’ll need some time to work on this. This is a very important section in this book. If there’s one thing I want you to accomplish after you finish reading this book, then this is it.

What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? Come on, think back, and write it down. Write it all down.

Make a List of Everything You Want to Become. Sky is the limit folks. I want you to write down everything. No one can see what you write. No one will judge what you write.

What are the Three Things You Like About Yourself. You could probably never stop listing reasons here. But please try to restrain yourself. I only want you to write down three.

Make a List of 15 Goals For Next Year. It can be related to fitness, health, business, dating, relationship, and traveling. It can be a big or small goal. Don’t force yourself to finish all these exercises in a day. Some exercises will take time to finish.

List 25 Things That Make You Happy. What makes you smile? What are the things you look forward to in the day? What’s your reward after a long day’s work?

Write Down Some of Your Main Theories, Beliefs, and Philosophies in Life. What are the things that you value in life? What are the important things? What do you stand by? What do you fight for?

What are Your Three Biggest Accomplishments? By listing them, you’ll discover what you’re passionate about. It will reaffirm in your mind that you, indeed, are talented.

When you’re finished writing. I want you to post it somewhere you can see it everyday.

Read it as often as you want for 30 days straight. It always feels nice to remind yourself who you are. Be proud of who you are. Embrace it with both arms. Don’t be afraid to let everyone see.

So how is this useful in social interactions? Simple...

Most men end interactions without really conveying their identity, the things their passionate about, and the things they believe in.

This leaves women with a blank picture on their head of who you are as a person. It’s always good to be mysterious but you should also find a way to convey your identity all through out the interaction.

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So, what do you do when you run out of things to say? An effective strategy is to just talk about something you’re really passionate about. Discuss your perspectives on life, art, travel, music, and anything your heart fancies.

Remember, talk about the things that are interesting to you. If you’re enthusiastic about it then it becomes interesting to her. Bring her into your world. Give her a taste of what it’s like to be in your shoes for a minute.

Discovering who you are and the things that make you tick is something you should work on regardless of your goals in life. Having this knowledge of yourself is so important especially when you’re interacting with people.

It provides them with a window to your being and this makes you interesting. It puts you into a positive light but it’s still not enough to get you into any kind of relationship.

You need to provide value.

TRY THIS OUT

This weekend, I want you to do an activity you enjoy doing but haven’t done in a long time. Invite your friends along and have a blast. Do this at least every two weeks. If you run out of things to do, try something new.

So, I hear that you want to the secrets to dating women of particular quality and beauty during the daytime… In order to learn how to communicate with women, you must first understand them.

Let me start out by giving you a glimpse of what it’s like to be an attractive woman.

It’s no secret that women get hit on all the time.

Just last week, I was walking in the mall with two girls, and a salesman pops up out of nowhere and asks one of the girls I’m with “Would you like to go out on a date with me?”. I think that’s what he said, it was hard to understand him with his accent.

Anyway, we weren’t mean to the poor guy or anything. After all he had balls of steel for doing that. We smiled, waved, and took off. Then I suddenly realized something.

If these girls got hit on twice when they were with me, then I wonder what happens when I’m not even present.

How Women Decide If You’re A Contestant

Most women have several choices of men from which to pick. So why should she give you the time of day? What is in it for her?

I hate to phrase it this way but at the end of the day, it boils down to one question

Are you an asset or a liability? It sounds so ridiculous but it’s true.

In this society, women usually pick the guys that can provide the most value to their life.

Value is determined by a lot of things such as social status, appearance, personality, communication, lifestyle, and all the others I’m about to discuss. Value is broken down in to the categories: short and long term value

Short Term Value & Ways You Can Build It Up!

Short term value is determined by the experience you give women the first time you meet them.

Let’s say you see a pretty woman as you walk into a coffee shop. There’s one problem though, she’s busy reading something. Do you have what it takes to get her to want to slam her book down and just talk to you?

It’s not impossible. It happens most of the time, in my experience. If she

perceives you as being more valuable than what she’s currently doing, then she will go out of her way just to talk to you.

That’s the power of short term value. Now let’s go into some examples of how you can cultivate short term value.

Always provide positive emotions. People tend to gravitate

toward people that make them feel good. Your job is to provide positive emotions like fun, excitement, happiness, comfort, etc. Once you find a way to provide these emotions, you’ll instantly be magnetic to women. You’ll notice that women want to be around you more often. They’ll call you and even pester you to hang out with them.

Develop your own signature presence . Become unique. This is done by conveying a rich and textured personality. It doesn’t specifically mean that you have come up with something super original. There’s a big chance that somewhere in the world, someone’s doing exactly what you’re doing. So the key is to be unique in that given environment. Some ways of doing this are the way you groom and present yourself. Communication is a tool you can use to your advantage but that’s in another chapter.

Laugh, Laugh, Laugh with them… If you have the skill to make women laugh, then you’re already ahead of the game. You will get far with humor. Laughter is a good feeling. It’s addictive. Almost like a drug. It’s the moment when we shut the whole world off for a second and connect with ourselves. Laughter serves two purposes: Builds attraction within a girl and creates an unspoken bond between the both of you. You want to be able to laugh together. Do you remember the last time you shared a laugh with someone? Now, stop, just thinking about that moment…. How did it make you feel? See my point.

Let your inner teacher shine. Intelligence is another tool you can use to captivate a woman’s mind. The fact that you’re educated. You don’t have to be as smart as Albert Einstein, in fact you don’t have to be smart at all to pull this off. All you need are a few interesting topics in which you’re quite familiar. If you can share your ideas with her passionately, then BAM, you’ve got the ability to hold someone’s attention and •

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interest. I know it’s easier said then done. Teach her a couple of things about your culture, traditions, language, a few fun games you probably learned as a kid, a trick, and a handshake.

You can go on with this, the possibilities are endless. Just remember, share your knowledge with the world, teach everyone something. Show ‘em what you got!

You are the leader. Your job as a man is to lead the interaction. If you expect her to lead and even make the first move, then you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. This can be conveyed with your attitude and the right assertiveness. Take her by the hand and make it easy for her. Lead the conversation. Lead the interaction. Don’t be afraid to take a stand and follow it up with an action. If you want her number then just ask for it. Instead of saying “Do you want to come?” say “Let’s go” instead. If she says “I’m not sure about this” say “You’re gonna love it, trust me”. Always lead and reassure her that she’s safe with you.

Classy, Cultured and Worldly. Classy defines someone who has high standard of personal behavior. This is usually learned through your family and the people you’re surrounded by. It’s also an advantage if you’ve done some traveling. Are your outfits coordinated well? Does your belt match your shoes? Do you understand poetry and the different works of art? Do you know the best restaurants in your city? Do you understand the world of fashion? Do you know a couple of classic movies? If you’re equipped with this, then it will be very hard for women not to notice you. Romantic. Women love romance. Don’t believe me? Did you know that romance novels account for majority of the sales in bookstores? And that’s why women just love a guy that can give them the romantic fantasy. If you can be a substitute for a romantic novel then, as my friend Rish would say, “You’re so F****** money and you don’t even know it man”.

Happy, Joyful, and Enthusiastic. Women are drawn to guys that are happy, joyful, and enthusiastic. These positive emotions bring value to their lives. Wouldn’t you?

Decisive. Always have an opinion, decision, and a plan. Never say “I don’t know”. Always make it a point to be a decision maker. If you step into that role she will allow you to play the role. Women constantly test for this. They want a man who knows what he wants. For example, when she says “Where are we going?” say “We’re going to grab some ice cream. Let’s go”.

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LONG TERM VALUE & WAYS YOU CAN BUILD IT UP

So you’ve learned how to demonstrate short term value. Now it’s time to cultivate your long term value.

Short term value opens the door to her life. You have to walk a little bit to get through the door and make sure that you stay in it. Your long term value is responsible for keeping a girl hooked on you.

Remember, a girl decides if she wants to see you again, continue the

relationship, or go on a date with you when you’re not there! These are the times when she probably evaluates you as a package and sees if you’re worth it. As hard as it sounds, these are the things that go on behind closed doors.

That’s why you want to give her the best option so she can make an educated decision.

Sounds like a sales pitch right? Right. The whole courting process is very similar to sales. The only difference is that you’re not selling an actual product.

YOU ARE SELLING YOURSELF!

Here are the features that you can add on to increase your long term value Become a renaissance man. It’s time to rediscover and redefine yourself. Here’s a short description I found on the internet. A renaissance man is considered a man at the centre of the universe, limitless in his capacities for development. Do something new every single month. Do something adventurous, dangerous, or exciting and live to talk about it. Pick up a book every two weeks and read it. Make your life an open book. And don’t forget to make it an interesting book. Make it a routine to continuously be learning. Boredom is the enemy.

Emotional Connection. Coming up in the next couple of chapters. Stay tuned!

Dare to Dream. Ambition is a strong desire to achieve something in life. From experience, I can always tell the people who are ambitious from the ones that aren’t. It’s hard to explain over in text, but it’s sort of like a gut feeling. Lean more toward the energy that they give off. I think this is one major factor for women who are looking for a commitment. Women crave men who are ambitious. They smell this quality a mile away. There are a lot of ways ambition can be conveyed. The most obvious one is the way one talks about life.

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Financially self-sufficient. “I want a guy who is rich, tall, and handsome”. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard that phrase from women. I hate to admit it but money is a deciding factor in the dating game. It’s not a prerequisite for her to date you but it plays a huge role if you want to have a smooth long term relationship. Don’t you wonder what women are trying to find out when they ask “So, what do you do for a living?” They’re trying to get a glimpse of how much money you earn. I’m not saying that all women are gold diggers. All I’m trying to say is that women screen the men to see if they are relationship material. You need to be able to support yourself and show potential for becoming financially stable one day.

Self-assuredness. This is similar to being confident. This is conveyed with the way you speak and carry yourself. How do you move through the world? Are you afraid to take up space in the world? Or are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you let bad criticisms get to you? Or do you accept them confidently? A simple test would be a woman giving you a hard time about something you either wear or do, now how do you respond to it? Do you get all offended and convincing her that you’re a cool guy deep down inside? Or do you just accept it with a smile, say “thank you”, and move on to the next topic?

Keep ‘em Guessing. Unpredictability is the spice of life. Being predictable takes the excitement out of a relationship or interaction. It’s not good to be too unpredictable either. It’s good to create a contrast in your personality. At times be romantic and shower her with attention and the next day treat her like one of your buddies. It’s fun. They get all excited when you do this.

Tenderness and Sensitivity. This can be demonstrated by the way you treat her. Do you listen to her when she opens up to you? Do you act as a protector and make sure she’s always taken care of? Do you steer her around corners when you guys are walking around? Do you make her feel comfortable at times when she’s not?

Assertive, Firm and Strong. Do you assert your wishes on others? Do you make sure that you’ve got everything under control? Do you bargain your way into getting something you really want? Do you take a stand a support it fully?

Sex God. It is no secret that women love men that are great in bed. Women are sexual beings just like we are. They enjoy sex as much as we do. Sex releases endorphins and it relaxes the body. Women like men that can give them a wonderful experience. They also like men that know exactly how to press their buttons and provide satisfaction.

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These are some of the essential components to building long term value. By now, if you’ve been doing everything right, you should have a killer understanding of inner foundation, big goal concepts, and a couple of helpful tips.

Remember, you can have the best line or script in the world but if you can’t present it well, it’s useless. That’s the reason why communicating effectively is a topic I spend several hours teaching at the workshops.

TRY THIS OUT

Read through this chapter again. When you’re done, I want you to take a good look at yourself and your life.

Now go through each quality I mentioned in this chapter and rate yourself from 1-5 (1 being the lowest and 5 the highest).

If you’re below 3 in one of the qualities I outlined here, then take a week to focus on this specific quality. You at least need to be between 3-5 in all ranges in order to be successful with women.

Your communication skills will either make or break you in your quest for success in all areas of your life. Whether you’re working on presenting an idea to other people, describing a movie you watched to your friends, or instructing a cab driver where you want to go, you need to be able to communicate effectively. You must develop strong and effective communication skills in order to get what you want in life. That’s the secret to success beyond your wildest dream. I’m not going to sugar coat it. That’s all it is. Actually, probably not, there’s more to it than that, but it’s a key ingredient my friend.

Let me give you an example. Contestant # 1- Mr. Average Guy

General Scenario: Mr. Average Guy is innocently looking for clothes to buy. And then, he notices something moving from his side. He looks over and notices big boobs, nice hair, a body to die for, and a Mona Lisa smile. In that moment, Mr. Average Guy’s hormones go wild. He starts getting excited or nervous and he knows why. Deep down, he wants her.

Wow, that was fast, she got him all excited in less than a second… Contestant # 2- Ms. Plain or Hot Jane

Scenario 1: Ms. Plain Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. She sees this guy. He’s smoking hot. She’s excited but she’s not going to give it all away because of that. Mr. Hot Stuff makes his way to talk to her. After three minutes of boring conversation and ineffective communication, Ms. Plain Jane starts to slowly face away from Mr. Hot Stuff. Two minutes later, she deploys her killer line: “Oh, I didn’t even notice the time. I almost forgot. I have to rush back home because I left the light on my boyfriend’s room. It was nice meeting you though, tata!”

Scenario 2: Ms. Hot Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. She sees this average looking guy. He seems to carry himself well and has a good sense of style. She heads over to the table to sit down. Next thing you know, he walks toward her and starts talking. Minutes pass by. Hours pass by. She’s enjoying the moment. She stands up and leaves the coffee shop with him. He started out as a stranger and left like her lover.

So what was the component that determined success and failure in each interaction?

Effective communication.

Just think about it, you can live the most interesting life in the world. You can have 99 good qualities about you but unless you know how to effectively

communicate them, it’s useless. No one else will find out all these positive things about you.

You are what you communicate.

When you know how to communicate well you can get ... What you want, when you want it, and how you want it Your message across clearly for anyone to understand

Recognized for your ability to comm-YOU-nicate who you are, your beliefs, and your values in life.

Women to feel exactly any emotion that you want them to feel allowing you to control and predict the outcome of your interactions.

More dates and maintain relationships easily. The Communication Equation

Individual + Effective Method of Presentation + Powerful Content of Presentation =Effective Communication

TRY THIS OUT

Go out to a coffee shop one of these days and order your favorite drink. Does the barista ask you any questions afterward?

Good. Remember what she says. Now the next time you go out, make sure your order is so clear that you won’t be barraged with questions after your order. Just try it out for fun, it’s a really cool exercise.

For example:

“Hmmmmmm... I’m in the mood for a caramel macchiato, decaf, with no whip cream, to go please.

Then hand out your cash or card. Presence is Everything

I’ll share something with you. Most guys I’ve met always ask me for the techniques I use to start conversations with women.

One of the most common question I hear is “What do you say to her to start the conversation?” • • • • •

I’ve experimented with a lot of conversation starters in public places. And believe me, when I say a lot, I mean a lot. Along the way, I noticed that some techniques worked better than the others (more about techniques in the last chapter) but there was always one thing common that made my approach work.

It worked because of the way I presented it.

It’s all about how you present yourself. Have you ever heard the saying “People buy you first before anything else”. I found that saying to be true.

Having said that, here are six helpful tips to increase the power of your presence: Learn how to smile. There have been several studies shown that women prefer men that smile while initiating a conversation, rather than being all serious and mysterious. Smiling makes women feel comfortable. It eases women up at times when they’re nervous. A genuine smile can take you a long way.

Communicate with your eyes. Did you know that there is a way to use eye contact to increase the effectiveness of your communication? It’s very important to hold eye contact at certain points in the interaction. Holding eye contact builds trust and comfort. I guess the saying “The eyes are the windows to the soul” does have meaning.

Facial expression. Your facial expressions can communicate messages of their own. Facial expressions are used to convey emotions like anger, joy, disgust, fear, sadness, and surprise. This helps to get your message across more effectively. Practice using a variety of facial expressions when you tell people stories. It makes a big difference. It really does.

Fashion. How stylish are you? What kind of fashion statement are you making? What can people tell about you by the way you dress up? Does your style leave a good or bad impression on others? Do you command attention?

It’s not what you say but how you say it. How’s your vocal projection and delivery. Do you slow down your pace when you’re emphasizing a point? Do you use pauses to amp up the tension and intrigue? Do you speak loud and clear for people to hear? Do you speak from your diaphragm or nasal? Do you eat your words? Are you relaxed when you speak?

Body Language. Are you comfortable with the way you stand, sit, or walk? Are you relaxed and calm during most times? Do you lean back when you talk to her? Do you move unnecessarily during the conversation? Your non-verbal communication is the window to who you are. Women are masters when it comes to reading body language. They categorize you based on how you stand up, how relaxed you are, and how you carry yourself.

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Body Language Tips for Day Game

“Your body language, the way you walk, and the way you move through this world on a daily basis, will provide women with enough information to categorize you based on the impression you just gave them”

Have you ever thought about the things you convey about yourself based on your body language?

Did you know that women can tell if you’re confident and cool or nervous and inexperienced just by the observing the way you walk, talk and carry yourself? I think that body language is the biggest giveaway when it comes to revealing who you are and how you feel.

So here’s to a good first impression.

The  Commandments of Effective Body Language

Thou shall not shake or move a lot in the presence of an attractive woman. Men tend to easily get intimidated with women that are way above their league. It’s really funny to watch. It usually goes like this: Man sees attractive woman. Man starts to smile nervously. Man starts to make unnecessary movement because of the extra energy he feels. Man gets very jittery. When woman gets close, man tends to change his behaviors and act way cooler then he really is. If you’re nervous all throughout the interaction, chances are she’ll be nervous too.

Thou shall not have thy hands inside the front pockets. Never have your hand inside your front pockets when you initiate a conversation with anyone unless it’s below freezing and you don’t have any gloves. For some reason, I feel comfortable when my hands are out of my pockets. At the same time, don’t move your hands around too much when you talk.

Thou shall not stand or sit too close or too far from her. If you stay to close to her, right from the bat, then she will feel very uncomfortable. If you’re too far from her, then it won’t feel like it’s a conversation. I’ve had success with starting off at about 3-5 feet away, and slowly get closer at specific points of the interaction. Try mixing it up. At high and fun points take a step closer or move your chair closer. At low points step away a little bit. Experiment with it.

Thou shall relax and lean back. I’ve discovered that when you assume a relaxed position, even if you’re nervous, you slowly start to feel more relaxed. Next time you’re in an interaction, just lean back and try to be as relaxed and comfortable as you can. That includes doing things like slouching, placing your feet up on chairs, and leaning against the wall. 1.

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