You CAN Heal
with
(Emotional Freedom Techniques)
By Jo Hainsworth
“True emotional freedom is
being able to be and do
anything that you desire,
from the bottom of your heart,
to be and do.”
Disclaimer: This book is not intended to be a substitute for the services of health care professionals. The author takes no responsibility for any consequences incurred by those using or misusing the information presented herein. Any application of the material set forth in the following pages is at the reader’s discretion and is his or her sole responsibility.
2008
This book has a heart symbol where you would normally find a copyright symbol. The heart symbolises the author’s gratitude for having healed using EFT and her desire for everyone who desires true emotional freedom to be empowered with the tools that can enable that. Please share this book with anyone you know who you think may benefit from it. It
This book is dedicated to my two doggie friends, without whom I may have never discovered the power of EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). When first introduced to EFT, I was a real sceptic. I thought it was a strangely mechanical method unlikely to be of much use. When I rediscovered EFT a couple of years later, I was still very sceptical. I decided to put it to the test. Flop and Tuft were abandoned at around 4 months old. When I came to live with their adoptive Dad, they were terrified of going in the car. I wondered whether perhaps it was because they had been thrown out of a car when abandoned. I didn’t really expect it to work, but decided to use what I’d read about EFT for animals, to try to cure their fear of going in the car.
Tuft became my first of what is known in EFT circles as a “One Minute Wonder”. After two rounds of tapping, I jokingly opened the back of the car and asked him if he’d like to go for a drive. He jumped in and, wagging his tail furiously, looked at me as if to say, “Well what are you waiting for?”
Flop became my introduction to the world of aspects, and how it’s not all about one minute wonders. After a couple of weeks of tapping, clearing all the issues that I could think of, Flop started happily joining us on our adventures in the car.
I will be forever grateful to my two doggies pals for opening my mind to the power of EFT. And to their Dad for introducing me to it (and them!).
Introduction... 6
Setting the Scene – Symptoms as Warning Lights ... 6
Section I – What is EFT?... 8
Introduction to EFT... 8
What can you use EFT for? ... 8
How does EFT work? ... 9
Section II – How to do EFT... 11
The Basics... 11
Step 1 - Estimate severity ... 11
Step 2 - The Setup Phrase... 11
Step 3 - Tapping the points ... 12
Step 4 – Continuation ... 13
Alternatives to Tapping... 13
But that’s way too simple… ... 13
Simple and Powerful Method for working alone... 14
How long should I tap for? ... 14
The Generalisation Effect and the Table Top... 16
9 Gamut process ... 17
The Choices Method... 18
The Writing on our Walls... 18
Specific uses for EFT... 18
Using EFT with Physical Illnesses ... 18
Using EFT to Lose Weight... 18
Using EFT to Stop Smoking ... 18
Using EFT to heal Chronic Physical Pain... 19
Using EFT for Depression ... 19
Using EFT to heal a Major Trauma... 19
Using EFT for Phobias... 21
Using EFT for Kids and Animals... 22
Using EFT for Hayfever and Allergies... 22
Section III - When EFT is Not Working ... 23
Common Challenges... 23
Why aren’t I a one minute wonder? ... 24
When you want to heal but… ... 24
It’s just not working for me…... 26
Concentrating too hard ... 26
But I don’t love and accept myself ... 27
I just want to get rid of this ... 27
Not feeling safe enough to heal ... 28
Escaping into our imagination... 28
Need for Testing ... 29
I’m tapping and it’s getting worse, not better… ... 29
Using the Choices Method to clear Blocks ... 29
Forgiveness as Healer ... 30
A word about guilt... 32
When nothing else is working... 32
Section IV - Why I am so passionate about EFT... 34
Section V – Reflections on Healing Chronic Illnesses & Patterns ... 36
Section VI – Where to Learn More... 38
Section VII - About the Author and Acknowledgments... 39
Appendix B: The "Tell the Story Technique” ... 41
Appendix C: The Movie Technique: A tool for being specific ... 43
Appendix D: Asking the Right Questions ... 45
Appendix E: Questions to Ask for Physical Symptoms... 48
Appendix F: Dr Carol Look’s Compulsive Overeating and Weight Loss Protocol... 51
Appendix G: Dr Carol Look Stop Smoking Protocol... 55
Appendix H: Clearing Blocks to EFT ... 57
Appendix I: Finding Core Issues... 59
Appendix J - Resolving Self Sabotage - Healing Parts That Don't Want to Heal ... 61
Appendix K – Tips for when you are having difficulty accessing your feelings... 63
Appendix L – The Benefits of having a Healing Buddy ... 65
Appendix M – Surrogate Tapping... 67
Appendix N – Difficulty using SUDs Scale... 69
Appendix O – Sample Self Healing Session... 70
Appendix P – A Structure for Healing - The Personal Peace Procedure ... 74
Appendix Q – Healing and the Inner Child... 78
Appendix R – When it’s just too scary to go there…... 80
Appendix S – Aspects Diagram ... 82
Appendix T – EFT Approaches – How to be your own creative practitioner ... 84
Note: All the articles sourced from www.emofree.com are included in this book in accordance with Gary Craig’s Copyright rules, which can be found at the following location on the internet:
Introduction
This book contains information about a powerful method of healing that you can learn to free yourself of painful emotions and physical symptoms. If you want to gain an overview, or find information on a particular topic, you can simply print the sections that you are interested in. For ongoing reference, print and bind the whole book to refer to over time so that you can continue to add to your knowledge about and experience with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). If you are new to EFT it is recommended that you read Sections I & II to start off with, and only read the other sections once you have used the basics a few times and are comfortable with them. EFT is both an incredibly simple and a more complex tool. In many cases the simple instructions are all that is required to resolve issues.
Section Title Description
Introduction Important information to set the scene
I What is EFT? An overview of what EFT is and what it can be used for II How to do EFT All you need to get up and running with the basics of
EFT, and ideas for using it for different types of issues III When EFT is not Working Information on how to approach EFT if you have been using the basic information and are having difficulties IV Why I am so Passionate
about EFT
The author’s story of her healing a chronic physical illness and other issues with EFT
V Reflections on Healing Discussion on other ingredients often needed in our healing toolkit, alongside of EFT
VI Where to Learn More Information on where you can access further free resources to learn more about EFT
VII About the Author & Acknowledgments
About the Author notes and Acknowledgments VIII Appendices Various articles referred to throughout the main text of
the book
Note that if you reading online you can click on any Blue Highlighted words to go directly to the section mentioned. If you are reading a paper copy you will find all the highlighted words on the contents page, with a page number reference.
Setting the Scene – Symptoms as Warning Lights
It can be helpful when learning about any new method to set the context of what we are trying to achieve with it. Most people come to a technique such as this because there is something in their life which is not working the way they want it to; be it physical symptoms, depression, a lack of something they want in their life or one of the myriad of the other challenges we face in our daily lives. One helpful analogy is to see anything in our life that is not as we wish it to be as being like a warning light on a car dashboard. If you have a warning light coming on in your car regularly and take the car to the mechanic, the last thing that you would want the mechanic to do would be to disable the warning light mechanism. Unfortunately when we take painkillers or some other medication on a regular basis, without doing something to heal the cause of the symptoms, that is exactly what we are doing in our bodies – we are simply disabling the warning light that is there to tell us that there is something wrong.
Rather than working on disabling the warning light EFT, is a method which enables you to do for your body what you would expect the mechanic to do for your car – to get under the covers and resolve what is causing the symptom to appear. So rather than simply doing something to make the symptom go away, EFT gives us the tools to clear the underlying emotional causes of the symptoms, so that they are no longer needed. Seeing symptoms, whether physical such as pain or illness, or other symptoms like anxiety and depression, as warning lights on a dashboard is a new way of looking at them for many people, however it is a powerful way to orient ourselves to true healing.
It can be difficult to comprehend that physical symptoms could have emotional causes, so here are a couple of examples to illustrate how EFT enables us to get behind the cause of a symptom:
Strawberry Allergy
Two young children, who previously loved eating strawberries, suddenly developed an allergy to them. Their mother took them to see an EFT practitioner as she wasn’t sure what had caused it. She suspected that the strawberries might have been sprayed with something toxic, and that perhaps that might have caused her children to no longer be able to eat them without their lips and gums swelling, causing them to no longer want to eat strawberries.
On questioning the mother about when the strawberry allergy appeared, and then what was happening in the family at around that time, the mother realised that the very first time the children reacted to strawberries was after eating them while the parents were having a huge argument. The practitioner had the mother tap for the children on the fear and worries that were caused due to them witnessing the argument, and from then on the children could once again enjoy strawberries without any reaction. Back Pain
In a case reported in the EFT newsletter Jasmine Bharathan narrates the following: Here is a stunning account of how EFT can be helpful even in a structural problem.
As a result of an accident around 8 years back, my client was completely bed-ridden and paralyzed from the hip down for a year and a half. After 3 months of Homeopathic treatment, he was able to walk; however, he suffered from constant agonizing pain in his lower back.
An MRI scan of Lumbo-Sacral spine showed partial destruction of lower discs in the spine and even some compression of a nerve root due to narrowing of the spinal pathways. He was keen on trying EFT for the pain as he was unable to sit on a chair, could not bend down to pick up anything from the floor, had great difficulty getting into a car- in short, constant, agonizing pain- day and night with no respite at all.
Jasmine goes on to detail the things they applied EFT to, which included:
• The physical symptoms of the pain
• Current emotions about the pain, including his anxieties about what would happen in the future if it continued
• Specific events from the client’s past on the theme of his current emotions
• The client’s beliefs about the pain Jasmine then writes:
He has been pain-free since then! It has been a year and a half. He ran 6 km at the local marathon with absolutely no pain or discomfort! I checked with him just before submitting this article and he continues to be pain-free. His x-ray to date shows no further damage or destruction. In fact, there is no change at all. This was a structural problem and was “supposed to cause pain”. However, the gentleman is living a completely pain-free life enjoying easy and effortless movements in daily living. He continues to treat his back with love and care although it does not hurt anymore.
(Source: http://www.emofree.com/Pain-management/back-pain-no-pain.htm)
This is a typical example of where EFT has been able to help someone with a physical issue, which clearly had a physical origin (an accident). In many cases despite surgery and medication, until the emotions around an incident such as this are resolved, pain continues. After the emotions have been resolved, despite the physical abnormalities caused by the accident sometimes remaining, the pain ceases.
Section I – What is EFT? Introduction to EFT
Based on the same ancient principles as acupuncture, EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is a simple method where we focus on an issue in our life while tapping gently on easily accessible acupuncture points on our face and upper body and hands. EFT can help us to heal from traumas, physical illnesses, phobias, limiting beliefs, allergies – in short anything that we can possibly have a belief or emotion associated to.
EFT was introduced in 1995 by Gary Craig, a Stanford engineering graduate who trained in several methods that were predecessors of EFT. One of the methods was developed by psychologist Roger Callahan. Here’s how Gary describes what lead to Callahan developing his method (Source: the free EFT manual available from www.emofree.com) :
In 1980 Dr Roger Callahan was working with a patient, Mary, for an intense water phobia. She suffered from frequent headaches and terrifying nightmares, both of which were related to her fear of water. To seek help, she had been going from therapist to therapist for years… with no material improvement. Dr Callahan tried to help her by conventional means for a year and a half. He didn’t make much headway either.
Then one day he stepped outside the normal “boundaries” of psychotherapy. Out of curiosity, he had been studying the body’s energy system and decided to tap with his fingertips under her eyes (an end point of the stomach meridian). This was prompted by her complaint of some stomach discomfort. To his astonishment, she announced immediately that her phobia was gone and she raced down to a nearby swimming pool and began throwing water in her face. No fear. No headaches. It all went away… including the nightmares. And it has never returned. She is totally free of her water phobia.”
Many people feel uncomfortable with methods that have not yet had a lot of scientific studies done to prove that they work. Studies have shown that only around 14% the population are able to embrace new methods, with most preferring to wait until they have been proven over time. Fortunately for all of us who are suffering from the pain of past traumas and current physical illnesses, Gary and Roger and countless other practitioners and self helpers have used EFT for all manner of issues, and shown time and time again that it is an extremely simple to learn and very effective method. While studies over the longer term are important and planned (see http://soulmedicineinstitute.org/researcheft.html#Anchor-The-49575 for details), there are many of us who are very thankful for having been able to use EFT to heal minor and major emotional and physical issues in our lives, despite the current lack of scientific studies or explanations as to how it is that it works at all, let alone so effectively.
What can you use EFT for?
EFT can assist you in any area of your life where you don’t have true emotional freedom. True emotional freedom is being able to be and do anything that you desire, from the bottom of your heart, to be and do. Anything that stands in the way of that is limiting your emotional freedom, and is a candidate for EFT. An example of where EFT is really leading the way is working with war veterans who have been crippled by nightmares and horrendous memories for 30 – 40 years, who with the help of EFT, are finding true emotional freedom and being able to move on from the trauma that they have suffered. Many of these veterans have been in conventional therapy for decades without being able to resolve the issues, and have found freedom from them using EFT. There can be a tendency to think that EFT can only heal what are obviously emotional issues, such as with those suffering from PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). However it is being shown time and again that unresolved emotions play a major factor in physical illness and many people have completely healed physical illnesses as a result of using the tapping. As we find emotional freedom we tend to find freedom from what restricts us and causes us pain physically at the same time. See the Introduction for a couple of specific examples.
A common phrase in EFT circles is “Try it on Everything”, because as we do that, we discover more and more uses for EFT. EFT can assist with a wide range of emotional and physical issues, including:
• Fears & Phobias
• Emotional/Physical/Sexual Abuse
• Stress & Anxiety
• Trauma
• Headaches & Migraines
• Allergies & Sensitivities
• Addictions
• Weight Issues
• Financial Blocks
• Relationship Issues
• Self Esteem Issues
• Sleep Issues
EFT has been shown over and over again to be useful in areas where people have been searching for answers for a long time, or who are resigned to never being able to move on from trauma so big that they cannot see a way forward. For example, it has helped people to heal the emotional components of cancer, which has resulted in them healing physically as well; many people have healed the wounds of childhood abuse; and many have healed from PTSD after years and years of disabling memories and emotions as a result of something too big for them to handle.
If you would like to read an example of how EFT has helped someone to heal a chronic illness see
Section IV - Why I am so Passionate about EFT. You can also read many, many case studies of people who have healed from all sorts of challenges by using EFT at www.emofree.com.
How does EFT work?
The short answer is that we still don’t really know for sure! However since most of us also don’t really understand how electricity works, and yet we learn as a result of the light coming on when we flick the switch that it does, that needn’t stand in the way of us using it.
EFT is based on the foundational statement that:
“The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body’s energy system.”
We have many channels of energy that run throughout our bodies, the channels that, using acupuncture, are unblocked via inserting needles into certain points along the channel. Whenever we suffer something too difficult for us to resolve emotionally it can result in a disruption in the free flow of energy throughout these channels. If blockages to the flow remain over many years physical illness can result. Clearing the blockages allows us to release all the pent up emotions that we were unable to process at the time of the event and doing so often results in healing of any physical illnesses that the stress contributed to.
An alternative to inserting needles into the acupuncture points to clear the blockages is gently tapping on the points while using the EFT procedure. While acupuncture is an excellent method, it takes many years to learn. One of the advantages of EFT is that it is very simple and quick to learn, and can in many cases be applied as a self help tool without assistance from a trained practitioner. In some cases EFT is also able to assist someone to heal even though they have previously had acupuncture treatments with no success.
Fortunately we don’t really need to understand how EFT works to be able to get up and running with it. If however you have a burning desire to understand more of the theories behind how it works, you can read some of the (very technical) articles on the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology site at: (http://www.energypsych.org/displaycommon.cfm?an=1&subarticlenbr=85). If you would like to read results of some of the preliminary research into the Energy Psychology methods (the group of methods that EFT falls into), you can read “Energy Psychology – A Review of the Preliminary Evidence by David Feinstein, Ph.D (http://www.innersource.net/energy_psych/epi_research.htm).
Doesn’t it just stir up old stuff better left alone?
A common response to EFT goes along the lines of, “Doesn’t this dredging for old emotional wounds just stir stuff up that is better left alone?” It is important to address this up front for anyone considering EFT who has this concern. To answer it is important to look at it from two angles:
1. With EFT there is no need to “dredge up” old emotional stuff. We simply tap on the current challenges we face and follow the trail of what comes up. Where we need to we ask ourselves what the earliest memory of feeling like this is, in order to be able to tap on specific events and memories that could be contributing to our current challenges. As we do this there is no need to re-experience the old emotions, we are simply tapping on the events to clear them. If you find it difficult to do this without being upset by old emotions surfacing read the section on Healing a Major Trauma.
2. It is very common for us to believe that we have dealt with something already, and because we are not consciously aware of it still causing us challenges, that it would be better left alone. Unfortunately our conscious mind is only aware of a fraction of what our subconscious mind stores for us, so our not being consciously aware of a problem does not mean that there isn’t one. It is very common when tapping to find old memories surfacing that we thought we had dealt with, that in actual fact still have an emotional charge. When the emotions that we were not able to process around the event are still stored in our subconscious mind and body, they have a tendency to cause us to react to things in our lives or experience emotions, despite us not realising what is going on. When we clear the emotional component of these old events they are no longer able to dominate our emotional landscape, and we become free to live with true joy. It is interesting to note that those with serious auto-immune illnesses, by way of example, tend to be people with high levels of emotional trauma in their early childhoods. While this is an extreme example of how unprocessed emotions continue to haunt us until we clear them, by showing up as physical examples, this can be a factor for all of us with the everyday challenges we faced growing up, which can eventually manifest as symptoms in our bodies.
An example of this can be seen in the author’s own life:
When I heard on an EFT training DVD that allergies are often caused by not feeling safe in the world, I struggled to comprehend how this could be relevant to me. I had been on large amounts of prescribed medication over many years as a child and teenager, and I was convinced that my allergic reactions were a result of damage done to my immune system by both the illness and the drugs I took in an attempt to heal. I had no conscious awareness of not feeling safe in the world, and basically wrote this off as being irrelevant.
A little while later, while tapping on something unrelated, I remembered my mother saying that I was born in a lot of distress, and I wondered whether perhaps I might have arrived into the world feeling unsafe. When I tapped on my birth I had no conscious memories of it (obviously!) and felt that it was a waste of time. However while tapping I felt a lot of emotions surface and resolve, and the end result was that I have not had an allergic reaction to anything in the 18 months since (and in the past I reacted severely to a lot of different foods and chemicals.)
Section II – How to do EFT The Basics
There are four main parts to the EFT process, and it’s really important not to skip any parts when you are first starting. The method presented here is the shortcut method, there is a longer method that you can learn from the free EFT manual at www.emofree.com if you want to, but practitioners rarely use it now, and find the shortcut just as effective in most cases. If you would like to watch a short demonstration of the tapping sequence you can watch EFT Master Judy Byrne demonstrating the sequence at:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b15Zhu6fEdg
If you would like to tap along with some audio files with the author leading you through the process, to help you to learn it, after reading the basics below you can download and listen to four short files from
http://www.selfheal4me.com/Books.php
Step 1 - Estimate severity
It’s a good idea to start by estimating the severity of the problem on a scale of 0 to 10, 10 being serious distress or pain, and 0 none. A lot of people get hung up on this but it’s just the first number that comes into your mind, as a benchmark so you can see if it’s going down. For more detail on this if required, see
Appendix N.
Step 2 - The Setup Phrase
We all have aspects of our subconscious that are not ready to heal, because part of us thinks it’s safer to stay as we are. The setup phrase is designed to help all parts of us to be ready to heal.
(Note that this concept is covered in more depth in the section entitled When you want to heal but…
When first learning EFT the best thing to do is just use the standard phrase and see what happens when you do the tapping. You will only need to explore this further if you find that the standard approach is not clearing issues for you quickly.)
With the setup phrase, you tap on the Karate Chop point (see picture on next page) with the index and middle fingers of your dominant hand (or any other way that feels right), while you say (preferably out loud, but in your mind if necessary):
“Even though I have <this problem> I completely love and accept myself” 3 times
For example “Even though I have this throbbing pain in my lower back, I completely love and accept myself.” Or
“Even though I have this fear of heights, I completely love and accept myself”.
This is often an important step. Some people want to miss it out because they feel its crazy accepting something they don’t want, but if we don’t accept ourselves the way we are, we often can’t get to where we want to go. It is also really important to be as specific as possible with this. So for instance, instead of “this pain in my back”, describe it as exactly as you can, for example “this throbbing and pulsing pain in the centre of my lower back” etc. If you find yourself very resistant to saying “I completely love and accept myself” read Appendix H and try the process there.
Step 3 - Tapping the points
Now go through and tap each of the spots in the diagram below, about 5 to 7 times on each spot, while saying <this problem> at each spot. For example, “this throbbing lower back pain” or “this fear of heights”. Note that the points start at the top of the head and then you move sequentially down the body, finishing under the arm. (The gamut point is for another process detailed later in the book). Alternatively some people like to start with the eyebrow point and finish by coming back up to the top of the head. Either way is fine.
Note that once you have mastered the basic tapping sequence, you don’t have to stick with saying the same thing on each point. You can simply say however it is that you are feeling about the issue as you tap through the points. Say whatever comes to mind, and really let yourself go with the flow.
Top of head - the highest point if you trace your finger up the midline from your nose
End of eyebrow
Side of eye (on bone)
Under eye (on bone directly under pupil) Under nose
Chin (midway between
bottom lip & chin) Collarbone (the junction
where the sternum,
collarbone and 1st rib meet
Under arm (on side of body, at a point even with nipple (for men) or in the middle of bra strap (for women)
Karate point (anywhere on part of hand you would do a karate chop with)
Gamut (see text for description)
Important: As you are tapping on the points, be mindful of any memories or emotions or thoughts or feelings in your body that surface, and incorporate them with either the current or the next round of tapping. As we tap our subconscious mind often gives us clues on what we need to tap on next, and even if they initially seem unrelated, it pays to trust that they have come up for a reason and tapping on them will most likely be useful.
Step 4 – Continuation
Now you estimate the severity again, and if it has gone down, but isn’t zero, you do another round, but for this and any subsequent rounds you adjust the wording as follows:
For the setup phrase it becomes “Even though I still have some of <this problem>, I completely love and accept myself”, and the reminder phrase becomes “remaining <this problem>” (each time with <this problem> replaced with your specific pain or fear etc).
So to continue the above example you would tap on the karate point with: “Even though I still have this throbbing pain in my lower back, I deeply and completely love and accept myself”. Then continue as above with all the tapping points, saying “this remaining throbbing lower back pain”, and keep going until it’s down to 0, which often only takes one or two rounds.
Be sure to incorporate any memories, thoughts, emotions or feelings in your body that come up as you are tapping, into the current or subsequent rounds.
Alternatives to Tapping
In some situations it is easier to use the Touch and Breathe Method instead of tapping. To do this simply touch each point with your fingertips and take a deep breath, as you go through the sequence. Another alternative that is particularly useful if you are in a public place is to simply imagine that you are tapping on the points. Studies have shown that the same parts in the brain light up whether you are actually doing a particular activity or simply imagining yourself doing it. It can be useful to do the tapping physically several times before trying this technique, so that the body already knows the activity.
But that’s way too simple…
Many of us tend to write the simple off as not being powerful enough to really help us. The author was guilty of this the first time she was introduced to EFT, and is so incredibly thankful that she had an opportunity to revisit it several years later. After searching for many more answers to her chronic illness in the intervening years, three sessions of EFT, without the assistance of a practitioner, completely resolved her physical illness! If you would like to learn more from this story see Section IV Why I am so Passionate about EFT.
When we first learn EFT many of us tend to be concerned about what language we should use for the part to replace <this problem> in the standard phrase. It is important to understand how EFT works and then you can relax when it comes to the language you use. EFT works by you tuning in to an issue in your life, and tapping while you tune in to it. The words that we use in the tapping phrases are simply to help you to tune into the issue. We generally do the setup phrase just to be sure that we are ready to heal, however in a lot of cases this isn’t necessary. It is generally quicker to do the setup at the start of each round than to use a method to determine whether or not it is required. If something has just happened that has made you very angry, it pays to still say the setup statement to be sure that all parts of you are ready to heal, but as you will already be tuned in to the issue, it’s likely that you won’t need a reminder phrase. By simply tapping you will probably clear the blockages associated with it. If however you are not really tuned into an issue when you tap on it, the phrases help you to tune in to what you want to work on.
It can be really helpful to have a couple of sessions with an experienced EFT practitioner by phone or in person to get up and running with EFT, however this is often not necessary at all. One of the great benefits of working with a good EFT practitioner is simply that you will realise that more often than not, all they are doing is taking the words you said to them and reflecting them back to you as tapping phrases. (See Appendix L for helpful ideas for when you can’t work with a practitioner.)
Simple and Powerful Method for working alone
For a simple way to start working on your own, sit down and write all you can think of about an issue, as if you are describing it to an EFT practitioner who doesn’t know anything about you. Write everything you know about the issue, using the following questions as guidelines of areas to explore:
• Describe the challenge you are having in as much detail as you can
• How does it feel to have this challenge in your life?
• What is your theory as to why you still have this challenge in your life?
• When did the problem first occur in your life?
• What was happening at that time (see above question)?
• What fears, worries or concerns do you have in relation to this issue?
• Is there anything else that comes to mind as you write about this that you could include?
The next step is to take every sentence you have written and turn it into a tapping statement as detailed above (simply add “Even though” to the start of each sentence, and “I deeply and completely love and accept myself” to the end of each sentence). Then look through the sentences and group them into groups of up to three statements that seem to go together, and tap through each group, being sure to note what comes to mind as you are tapping and incorporate that into the tapping. This can be a very simple and powerful way to do your own healing.
How long should I tap for?
A common question when someone first learns EFT is, “How long should I tap for on each issue?” The answer to this is basically as long as you need in order to clear the issue*, however simply tapping the same thing over and over when you aren’t seeing any movement isn’t the most effective way to work. If you have a forest full of trees that you want to cut down and you are trying to fell them with a blunt saw, it will be hard work and slow going. Just as with cutting down trees it pays to stop and sharpen a blunt saw, the same applies to EFT – if you have been tapping several rounds on something and the intensity isn’t coming down, it pays to stop and “sharpen the saw”. There are several ways you can do this:
1. Ask yourself whether you are being specific enough. If you are tapping on a very global issue (for example, “Even though I have bad self-esteem…”), it’s often the equivalent of trying to cut down a tree with a blunt saw. Make your phrases more specific and you may find yourself making much quicker progress.
2. Is the setup statement working for you? When you tap with “and I deeply and completely love and accept myself”, does it feel OK, or are you finding major resistance and a feeling that you are just saying the words but don’t really buy into them? If the latter, try the process in Appendix H
“Clearing Blocks to EFT”.
3. If you’ve been tapping through various aspects of an issue over a period of time and are finding that the issue itself just doesn’t seem to be budging, try reading the Common Challenges section to find some new approaches.
4. Some long term issues really hang in there and it just requires persistence to keep tapping and keep dealing with aspects. In this case it can be useful to tap three times a day on the issue for a while and watch how things change over time. Consider doing an Aspect Diagram in this case. 5. Remember to listen to your body to know when you’ve done enough tapping for the particular
session. If you are feeling tired, it may be that you need to rest to integrate the changes taking place in your body as a result of the tapping that you have done.
Tapping Tips
The most important thing with EFT is that you tune into the issue you want to work on and you tap. If you have any concerns about being able to do this, then use that as the focus of your initial tapping statement (“Even though I’m worried I’m going to do this wrong, and I won’t be able to find the right words, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.”) The more you can be aware of the subtle thoughts going through your mind surrounding the healing of the issue you are working with, the more you will be able to shine the light of EFT on them and move forward with greater emotional freedom.
It is also important to remember that while we like to think that our conscious mind can resolve everything, that is not in fact the case. If it was, no-one would be reading this book! As we work with EFT we learn to respect the immense power of our subconscious, which stores so much information for us, information that our conscious mind cannot possibly process in it’s entirety in each moment. With EFT this translates to needing to be open to things arising into your mind that you may not have previously been aware of, which could hold the keys to your resolving the issue you are working on. The reason you are having difficulty moving on from some event, or have a physical symptom, may well be entirely different to what you consciously believe it is!
Here are some tips on getting the most from your tapping:
• Be as specific as you can. Instead of tapping with “this pain in my back”, describe it as specifically as you can, for example “this throbbing pain in the bottom left side of my spine…” Instead of “low self-esteem”, tap on specific examples of things in your life that could have contributed to this issue, like “my teacher told me I was hopeless in front of the class when I was 7”. It may be helpful to do an Aspects Diagram for the issue (see Table Top and Appendix S for more information.)
• If you were just starting mountain climbing, you probably wouldn’t take Everest on with your first climb. As with any new skill it pays to start with smaller more manageable issues and gain confidence as you see things changing, instead of starting with the biggest issue in your life.
• There can be many aspects to some issues, and some people stop after a few rounds and say it’s just not working. That usually just means you haven’t got to the core of the issue and need to keep searching for it. Simply tap on whatever comes up, knowing that as you follow the trail, you will uncover the aspects that need to be addressed.
• If you are working on something physical you may need to find the emotions or beliefs associated with it. Doing this can be a real art. There are some very effective questions in
Appendix D and Appendix E which could help you to find the issues to tap on if you are working on your own. If you are having difficulty with this, try posting a question on the emofree forums to see if one of the practitioners or people using EFT for themselves can help you out. (http://www.emofree.com/forum_landing.htm) Sometimes no matter how much we want to, we cannot see what is in our blind spot without help.
• When working with physical symptoms, including pain, a common phenomenon is to find that the symptoms or pain move to a new area in the body as you tap. This is known as “Chasing the pain” and is a very good sign. If you had a throbbing head and a slightly aching tooth, you may well not have even noticed the aching tooth until the headache diminished. As you remove the pain in the head, the toothache will come to the forefront of your attention. Simply keep tapping until you no longer have symptoms or pain coming to your attention.
• If you are having difficulty clearing issues, see Section III – When EFT is not Working
• Sometimes people have great success with EFT then just suddenly stop using it. This is sometimes to do with that part of them that doesn’t feel ready to heal. A good way to deal with this is to tap on “Even though I don’t want to do EFT right now…” Many people using EFT for their own healing have used EFT to get past this and go on to incorporate EFT really successfully into their daily lives, whenever they need it.
• If you would like a structured approach to healing, the Personal Peace Procedure is excellent for giving us some structure to work through. You can find the PPP in Appendix P. Alternatively you could pick one of the items on the summary to EFT Approaches in Appendix T.
The Generalisation Effect and the Table Top
Often when we start tapping on an issue, we start with something very global, like “Even though I have low self-esteem”. Sometimes we are lucky and the issue collapses with the global tapping, but in many cases with long term issues that have many aspects, this global tapping is insufficient to clear the whole issue. A metaphor that Gary Craig uses to explain this is the “Table Top”. Imagine that the issue you are working on is a table top, which can only stay up if supported by a certain number of legs under the table. With the self esteem example the table top may be “I have low self esteem”. You could pound on the top of a table for decades and still not cause the table to collapse. However, if you sawed off a leg or two (depending on how many legs there are holding the table up), the whole table top would crash down. It’s the same with the issue of self esteem – the table top of low self esteem is being held up by a number of specific events that happened earlier in your life, which resulted in your low self esteem. Simply tapping on “Even though I have low self esteem…” can be like pounding on the top of the table. A far more effective way of working with EFT is to find the legs that are holding the table top up, and collapse them one by one. So you would ask yourself, “What is my earliest memory of feeling bad about myself?” and work on whatever memory comes to mind.
There are two important things to note about this metaphor:
1. Simply tapping a little on each memory or event without completely clearing the emotional charges associated with it is like sawing a little off the bottom of each table leg – the table top is still supported, and the table doesn’t fall. Lowering the emotional charge a little on several events is not as effective as completely clearing one event.
2. There can be a tendency to think that because some issues have many, many events holding them in place, no matter how much tapping you do on an issue, like low self esteem for example, you’ll never clear it. Fortunately there is something in EFT known as the Generalisation Effect whereby once we’ve cleared a certain number of the events holding the issue in place, all the rest of the events seem to clear with them. There is no way to know how many events need to be cleared to heal a certain issue, but it is usually only a handful of them, and even in the case of major issues is rarely more than 5 to 20 events. A good example of this is some war veterans’ who had hundreds of very traumatic memories, none of which caused upset any longer after tapping on and clearing 3 or 4 specific events.
Another way of looking at this is to draw a comparison with gardening. If you have an overgrown area of your garden in which many weeds are competing with each other, and you want to grow flowers there, simply chopping the tops off some or all of the weeds will not enable you to successfully grow the flowers. However if you pull the biggest weeds out, roots and all, they will not only not grow back, but most likely you will find a whole lot of small weeds come out with the big weeds as you remove them. With EFT, simply tapping a little on a wide range of issues is like chopping the tops off the weeds, they just grow back. If instead you can work on specific events that resulted in the challenge you face, you will find yourself making lasting progress much more rapidly. Like with targeting the biggest weeds in the garden, it pays to target the biggest contributors to the issue in your life, which tend to be the earliest memories you have associated with the challenge.
A good example of this can be seen in the EFT Course DVDs, where a woman works with Gary tapping on the earliest memory she had of ongoing sexual abuse, and after clearing that memory (which was very traumatic to her and caused her to be so upset she couldn’t say the words as she tapped), she was unable to get upset thinking about any further instances of the abuse. (Note that in this case Gary was working quickly on the side of the stage at a conference and did not have the luxury of time to approach it more gently. When working on your own or with a practitioner, you do not need to work in a way that results in you becoming upset by thinking about the specific memories. See the section on Using EFT to heal a major trauma for more information on this.)
9 Gamut process
The 9 gamut process is a part of the long form of EFT that was originally taught, which is not used a lot these days. However this process can be very powerful in removing all the links in our brain to traumatic events, and some practitioners believe it is very important to perform this process when clearing traumatic events. The most common initial reaction to the process is that it is too complicated, but once you’ve done it one or two times, you soon get the hang of it. The second most common reaction is that it just seems too strange to even consider! The process involves moving your eyes in certain directions, counting, and humming, and does seem rather strange. It is designed to activate the left and right hemispheres of the brain, and to clear all the different areas of the brain, as you perform the actions while simultaneously tapping on the gamut point (see below) and tuning in to the issue.
The gamut point is on the back of either hand and is 1/2 inch behind the midpoint between the knuckles at the base of the ring finger and the little finger. If you draw an imaginary line between the knuckles at the base of the ring finger and little finger and consider that line to be the base of an equilateral triangle whose other sides converge to a point (apex) in the direction of the wrist, then the gamut point would be located at the apex of the triangle. (See diagram of tapping points.)
In most cases you will find that this process is not necessary. If however you are finding an issue is taking a long time to clear, it would be well worth trying. As you follow the directions, take your time, tapping gently and spending several seconds on each step, and making sure that as you move to each step you bring the issue to mind again to tune in to it.
Here are the 9 steps which are done, while simultaneously tapping on the gamut point and tuning in to the issue:
1. Close your eyes. 2. Open your eyes.
3. Turn your eyes hard down right while holding the head steady. 4. Turn eyes hard down left while holding the head steady.
5. Roll eyes in a circle as though your nose was at the center of a clock and you were trying to see all the numbers in order.
6. Same as #5 only reverse the direction in which you roll your eyes. 7. Hum 2 seconds of a song (suggest Happy Birthday).
8. Count from 1 to 5.
9. Hum 2 seconds of a song again.
If you find that you are clearing issues without using the 9 gamut process, then there is no need to use it at all. If however you are having difficulty clearing something, or are working with a very traumatic event, it is recommended that you try this process. If you haven’t done it before, or are having trouble remembering the 9 steps while being tuned in to the issue you are working with, you can follow an audio file with the author leading you through the process. The file can be downloaded from
The Choices Method
Dr Patricia Carrington has developed a variant of EFT that is used widely by practitioners and those using EFT for themselves, and is highly endorsed by the creator of EFT, Gary Craig. With this method, the setup statement is modified, and in place of the “I deeply and completely love and accept myself”, we use a choice that reflects where we would like to be with the issue. For example, if you are upset about something, and want to be able to calm down and move on from it, you could tap on the karate point with:
“Even though I’m so upset about this I can hardly think straight, I choose to relax, breath deeply and calm down.” This method is such a powerful way to move through issues quickly, and is well worth learning. You can learn all you need to know to use the Choices Method for yourself from Dr Carrington’s e-book, which is available to download free of charge at
http://www.masteringeft.com/PDFs/TheMagicofChoicesinEFT.pdf. The Writing on our Walls
This metaphor, which is a favourite of Gary Craig, is a powerful way of thinking about what limits us, and aiding us to track down beliefs that we can tap on to release ourselves from what is holding us back from achieving our dreams. It is also a very important concept to understand from the point of view of using EFT to heal. If you are not familiar with this concept you can read about it in Gary Craig’s series “The Palace of Possibilities”. (http://www.emofree.com/palaceof.htm) Once you understand this concept, you will be able to use it to search out the writing on your walls that is resulting in you not achieving your dreams, including great physical health.
Specific uses for EFT
Using EFT with Physical Illnesses
The best place to start with any physical illness is to work specifically with the symptoms. EFT Master Rue Hass has a great series of questions that she asks to help find things to tap on for physical symptoms. You can read these questions in Appendix E. Dr Carol Look also has a very useful series of questions available to assist you with healing physical illnesses. You can read the questions in Appendix D.
If you are struggling with understanding how it is possible that emotions can contribute to a physical illness, it may be useful to read an article written by a doctor explaining how cancer can develop as a result of repressed emotions, you can read the article at http://www.alternative-cancer-care.com/The_Cancer_Personality.html
Using EFT to Lose Weight
EFT has been used successfully by many people to lose weight. Dr Carol Look has written down the protocol she has used to help a lot of her clients to achieve their ideal weight. Ideally you would work through this protocol with a practitioner or a friend you can rely on to help you to be objective, but people have also had success working through the protocol on their own. The protocol can be found in
Appendix F.
Using EFT to Stop Smoking
Dr Carol Look has used EFT very successfully to help many people stop smoking. She has generously shared the protocol that she uses. Ideally you would work through this with a practitioner or a friend you can rely on to help you to be objective, but people have also had success working through the protocol on their own. The protocol can be found in Appendix G.
Using EFT to heal Chronic Physical Pain
For many of us with chronic pain, we have either been told it is due to an abnormality on a scan, the result of a physical accident that we were involved in, or that it’s all in our head because no abnormalities have been found. In an interview of pain expert Dr John Sarno by Medscape, Dr Sarno stated:
Here's an example: There was a paper published in 1994 by a doctor and her colleagues in the New England Journal of Medicine. They performed MRIs on about 98 people who had no history of back pain. The researchers found normal discs in only 36% of the people. Everyone else had bulges, herniations of various kinds, and so on, and yet no pain.
Dr Sarno has shown in thousands of cases that an abnormality in the spine does not necessarily result in pain. He has had great success in helping people to heal from chronic pain, by clearing the emotional issues associated with the physical pain, and helping them to be free of it whether they have some abnormalities in that area of their body or not. EFT is an excellent way to heal chronic physical pain. EFT Master Rue Hass has written an excellent series of articles that has been published on the EFT website (http://www.emofree.com/Pain-management/chronic-pain-rue.htm), that is very helpful in working through any issues with chronic pain. If you are serious about healing chronic pain, it is recommended that you study this series of articles and work through the tapping that arises as a result of them. This series of articles is very long. If you would prefer to work with a printed book, all the information in these articles and more is available in Rue Hass’ inexpensive book “Opening the Cage of Pain with EFT.”
EFT Master Paul Lynch has also written an excellent article entitled “The Colour of Pain” which is available from http://www.emofree.com/Pain-management/color-of-pain.htm.
For an example of how someone has healed chronic pain with EFT, see the story about Back Pain in the
Introduction to this book. Using EFT for Depression
Another area where there has been a lot of success using EFT is with depression. In some cases people are able to clear the sadness and underlying emotions simply by tapping on how they are feeling on their own, others find that support from an experienced practitioner is invaluable. Like with most issues with EFT, there is a wide range of stories, from incredible one minute wonders where years and years of depression has been resolved in moments with tapping, to cases where a lot of persistence is required to track down the causation and clear it with the tapping. A search on the emofree website returns many cases with suggested approaches on working with depression using EFT.
Using EFT to heal a Major Trauma
If you are interested in learning EFT because you have experienced a major trauma in your life – anything that has been difficult for you to move on from, for example the loss of a loved one, an accident, sexual abuse – it could be a good idea for you to work with a practitioner if this is at all possible. If this isn’t possible for any reason, then following the guidelines on the next page may make the process easier for you:.
• If you are new to EFT, try working on a few smaller issues for yourself before taking on the big ones, so that you are comfortable with the tapping and have found ways that work best for you. This can help you to build confidence with the process, and make it easier when you sit down to tap on the major issues.
• There is tremendous power in there being another person there to support us in our healing. Sometimes it is simply not possible for us to feel safe and supported enough to heal a major issue if we are working alone. A supportive way to work can be to sit down with a trusted friend who knows a little about EFT, who you can support you. Be sure to have your friend read the emofree tutorial on the Tearless Trauma Technique (see Appendix A) and understand it prior to you starting the tapping. The tutorials on the Tell the Story Technique (Appendix B) and the Movie Technique (Appendix C) are also both important ones for you and your friend to understand. Also ensure that you and your friend have read Appendix L, which gives guidelines for being a supportive healing buddy.
• It is NOT necessary to re-experience the emotions and details of the trauma in order to heal. The best way to heal trauma is to take it very gently, and avoid re-traumatising yourself as a result of thinking about things that really upset you. If you are easily overwhelmed by emotions, really take the time to tap on this with EFT with the help of your friend before even considering tapping on the trauma. Tap with all your concerns about how you might feel when you tap on the trauma, and don’t continue to work with the main issue until you feel ready to.
• Sometimes when we are doing EFT, no matter how gently we tread, we find ourselves in the midst of strong emotions. If at any stage this happens for you, simply stop talking, and continue tapping, and focus on your breathing. While it's uncomfortable to be overwhelmed with tears or emotion, it does mean that you are really tuned in to the issue and is a real opportunity to keep tapping, and to let go of a lot of what has been causing you pain.
• It is important to realise that when we go through any major trauma, it is quite common for a part of us to be frozen in time, unable to move forward and process what happened to us. For this reason it is very important to work very gently with EFT with any major traumas, taking the time to hear the feelings inside of us, and if necessary dialogue with the different parts of us to hear how they feel. If, for example, you sit down to do some EFT with a friend and you find yourself saying that a part of you doesn’t want to even go there, then that is the place to start working – “Even though a part of me doesn’t want to go there, I deeply and completely love and accept myself”. Tap on this or any similar thoughts that are coming up and deal with all the feelings associated to these thoughts prior to even considering working with the Tearless Trauma Technique.
• Sometimes we may consciously decide it is time for us to move on from something that has happened to us, but a part of us isn’t ready to do so. The more we can bring compassion to the parts of us that are not ready to heal, and listen to their stories with empathy, the gentler our healing process is. Listen carefully for the ways you talk about what happened to you, and ask your friend to listen carefully for any beliefs that you may have taken on as a result of the trauma. Often, for example, when a parent has lost a child to an accident, they have a belief that it should have been them instead. Sometimes it is very difficult for us to see these beliefs, and that is why working with a practitioner can be supportive. However if that isn’t possible, by working with a friend you trust, and talking through how you are feeling (preferably while tapping), you may be able to identify the points of view and beliefs that you took on as a result of the trauma, and therefore tap on them.
• If you aren’t able to get any intensity around something that you are sure is still affecting you, one possible approach is to ask yourself whether you are able to forgive everyone involved in the trauma, including yourself. The purpose of this question is not to be able to answer a particular way, but rather to help you to see any issues that may still be standing between you and peace on the issue. In most cases where we feel that we are unable to forgive, it indicates that there are still emotions blocked in our system that we need to tap to release. If you aren’t sure what the emotions are, simply tap on how you are feeling, for example, “Even though there is just no way I could even consider forgiving John for this, or myself, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.” For more on forgiveness, see the section Forgiveness as Healer.
Using EFT to release Limiting Beliefs
Sometimes instead of working with physical illness or pain or trauma, we simply have something that isn’t working in our lives the way we want it to. Perhaps we are struggling to earn a living doing something we love, having difficulty finding a long term partner, struggling financially, or simply feel that we are not living the best life we could be. EFT is great for working with limiting beliefs and releasing them and enabling us to create the sort of life we desire. An excellent way to work with limiting beliefs is to use a process that Rue Hass kindly shared in an article on the emofree website. Here are the statements Rue suggests working through to find leads to tap on
(sourced from http://www.emofree.com/Articles2/wild-pony-within.htm): "I had to __________ or else___________"
A BELIEF (behavior, outlook on life, self-image...) about this that I got from my family is... That has created a problem in my life because (or when - )...
A good example of that was that (particular, specific) time when... The worst part of that particular incident was...
That made me feel... It made me think I was... I feel that in my body here:
Sometimes I even think maybe I don't deserve... But deep inside, I yearn for...
If I had that I would feel...
So now.... I forgive myself. I was doing the best I could. I choose to ___________ instead. Using EFT for Phobias
Another area that EFT has been very successful is in clearing phobias and in doing so, giving many people the freedom to do something that they formerly would have been terrified to even consider. There are lots of stories about phobias on the EFT website.
Sometimes phobias clear rapidly, just after tapping on the basic phobia (for example, “Even though I’m terrified of flying…”) and other times a phobia is found to have a number of aspects which need to be dealt with, before the phobia clears. The easiest way to work with phobias is to just keep imagining yourself doing the activity, and see what comes to the forefront as the worst part of it, and tapping on that, then imagining it again, repeating as many times as necessary.
Sometimes it is also necessary to ask what your earliest memory of a response to whatever is causing your phobia is. Often when we tap on the earliest memory we have of something, which may have been quite traumatic to us as a child, even if it seems silly looking back on it as an adult, this can result in us letting go of a phobia we’ve had for many, many years.
Using EFT for Kids and Animals
Children and animals often respond rapidly to EFT. Obviously for babies, very young children and animals it is not possible to teach them the process themselves, but you can tap for them in one of two ways:
• Tapping on the points on their body for them as you say the phrases
• Tapping surrogately for them, on your own body, while saying the phrases.
While theories abound as to why it is possible for someone to tap on themselves for another, none of us really understand how it works. It is one of the seemingly strangest parts of EFT, and yet it has been shown time and time again to be highly effective, so many of us use it regularly.
To tap for someone else, simply tap on yourself intending for it to be for the other person or animal. If you would prefer, you can change the phrases to use their name (“Even though Mary is upset and just can’t stop crying…”). For children, instead of using the standard “Even though … I deeply and completely love and accept myself”, the phrase “Even though... I’m a great kid and my parents love me very much” is more suitable. A search on the emofree website will reveal many, many cases where children and animals have benefited from someone doing EFT on their behalf. There are also articles giving ideas of how you can teach children to do EFT for themselves once they are able to follow the tapping, and many children are able to clear the issues of the day rather than letting small upsets become big ones.
For more information on Surrogate Tapping, see Appendix M. For some excellent ideas on tapping to clear any birth trauma for your children see http://www.sageenergetics.com/EFTforParenting.html Using EFT for Hayfever and Allergies
EFT is a powerful way to heal allergic reactions, including reactions to foods, and hayfever symptoms. There seem to be two different types of allergies, from the perspective of using EFT:
1. Reactions to a specific substance, or a limited number of specific substances, whether a particular food or pollen etc.
2. Reactions to a wide range of different substances.
For the first type, simply tracking down when the first reaction occurred, and asking what was happening in the person’s life at that time, and tapping on whatever comes up, is often sufficient to clear the allergy. An example of this is where someone had experienced hayfever symptoms for the last 15 years, each spring, and it was traced back to a particularly emotional time during spring in the year that she first had the reactions. Tapping on the emotional issues from 15 years ago resulted in the person going through the next spring without any symptoms of hayfever at all (much to the amazement of her family, who like she had in the past, all suffered from these symptoms each spring.)
For the second type of reactions, some more investigation is often required. Many practitioners who work with clients with environmental illnesses and allergies have noticed that nearly all of these clients have a deep subconscious belief that they are vulnerable and cannot keep themselves safe. This belief often goes back to early childhood experiences, including in some cases a traumatic birth. Working on the theme of “I’m not safe” can result in all the reactions clearing (see the section Why I am passionate about EFT for an example of this.”) Also see Appendix H for some ideas on exploring the safety theme. NB: For serious allergic reactions, it is probably better to work with a qualified practitioner. DO NOT test a serious allergic reaction without taking appropriate cautions (for e.g. having medical staff available).
Section III - When EFT is Not Working
Note that it is recommended that you don’t read this section until you have tried the basics as outlined in Section II, a few times on some simple issues for yourself. In many cases, that is all that is required to heal an issue. This section details ideas for working with more complex issues, and is best read after trying EFT on simpler issues a few times.
Common Challenges
Here are some common challenges with EFT, with suggested approaches to deal with them: I have no idea where to start 1. Try the Simple and Powerful Method for Working Alone
2. Read the example of how a tapping session might unfold in
Appendix O.
3. Once you’ve worked with EFT on something simple and had success with that, consider trying the Personal Peace
Procedure (Appendix P), which gives a structured approach to healing that can help us to clear a few issues each day. Alternatively, pick something from the EFT Approaches Summary in Appendix T, or try an Aspects Diagram (Appendix S).
Nothing I tap on seems to be clearing
1. Read through the whole of Section III, noting anything that might help you to use EFT in a fresh way.
2. Consider working with a trusted friend (Appendix L) 3. For more ideas, read EFT Master Lindsay Kenny’s excellent
“10 Ways to Ensure Success with EFT”
(http://www.emofree.com/Articles2/ensure-eft-success.htm) I’m frustrated that I’m not a one
minute wonder
Read the section below entitled Why aren’t I a One Minute Wonder?
I can’t use the 0 - 10 scale Read Appendix N. I’m tapping and it’s getting worse
not better
Read the section below entitled I’m tapping and it’s getting worse, not better…
I want to heal but I just don’t want to do EFT for my issues
1. Read the section below entitled When you want to heal but...
2. Try working with a trusted friend (Appendix L) I’ve hit something I don’t want to
deal with, or am afraid to deal with
1. Read the section below entitled When you want to heal but...
2. Read Appendix R – When it’s just too scary to go there…
3. Try working with a trusted friend (Appendix L)
It’s just too traumatic … Read Healing a Major Trauma and consider working with a friend I have real difficulty accessing my
feelings while tapping
1. Read It’s just not working for me…
2. Try working with the Inner Child (Appendix Q) It’s too overwhelming to know
what to work on, I need some structure to help me do this
1. Read Appendix P – A Structure for Healing – The Personal Peace Procedure
2. Try an Aspects Diagram (Appendix S) I’ve been tapping on everything I
can think of and I’ve still got the problem
1. It’s just not working for me…
2. Read Appendix I – Finding Core Issues
3. Read the section Using the Choices Method to clear blocks
4. Try the 9 Gamut process
5. Read Section V – Reflections on Healing
6. Try a conversation with the Inner Child (Appendix Q) 7. If you haven’t already, try the process in Appendix P – The
Alternate Personal Peace Procedure or an Aspects Diagram (Appendix S)
