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The Complete Lover

by Neo

© 2007

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Introduction

Have you ever had that nervous feeling of tightening at the pit of your stomach, sometimes even frozen with fear not knowing how to approach a not knowing how to approach a not knowing how to approach a not knowing how to approach a woman

woman woman

woman, what to say on a date, when to go for the kiss, how to undress , what to say on a date, when to go for the kiss, how to undress , what to say on a date, when to go for the kiss, how to undress , what to say on a date, when to go for the kiss, how to undress her, or what to do in bed?

her, or what to do in bed? her, or what to do in bed? her, or what to do in bed?

What if there is a step by step methodstep by step methodstep by step methodstep by step method that systematically leads you at your own pace from beginning to end in attracting, building deep

connection, creating love, and pleasuring women!

Well there is and you are in luck!

This book you are about to read is exactly what I wanted and needed when I was praying to God that I wouldn’t die a virgin.praying to God that I wouldn’t die a virgin.praying to God that I wouldn’t die a virgin.praying to God that I wouldn’t die a virgin. I wanted to be with a girl so badly but had no clue where to even start.

Every master was once a disaster. English was my second languageEnglish was my second languageEnglish was my second languageEnglish was my second language when I came to the US at 10 years old, so just learning to communicate was a huge challenge.

I was also extremely overweightextremely overweightextremely overweightextremely overweight and had three rolls of fat around my stomach that was so big that I couldn’t see my penis when I looked down. I got into fights all the time with kids who made fun of me until high

school. I could not get any dates for the prom throughout my four years of high school.

I remained a virgin and didn’t get any play at all through my four long college years. This was supposed be the wildest years of most people’s

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lives. Not getting any play with women was definitely not out of a lack of desire. I wanted women so badly and had many women friends but just had no clue how to turn them into lovers or girlfriends.

I majored in psychobiology, but I minored in masturbation.I minored in masturbation.I minored in masturbation.I minored in masturbation. There were so many nights that I just got drunk and was hopelessly wondering whether I would ever get laid.

When there is a will, there is a way.

Fast forward to today.

I have intentionally gone out and talked to and approached 70approached 70approached 70approached 70++_{+ women a}+_{women a}_{women a}_{women a}

week week week

week as a practice and experience of applying attraction strategies.

I learned through experience and observation what kind of look, approach, body language, communication, connection, technique, etc. would bring me and various women the most dynamic interaction, pleasure, and fun.

I am part of a consciousness and sensual communitypart of a consciousness and sensual communitypart of a consciousness and sensual communitypart of a consciousness and sensual community and help throw play parties where 20, 50, 100, 200 people get together to explore their sensuality and sexuality.

I have had open relationships with 4 women at a timeopen relationships with 4 women at a timeopen relationships with 4 women at a time while handling all the open relationships with 4 women at a time challenges that can arise from authentically communicating and having them know about each other and still having incredible sensual and sexual play.

I have practiced orgasmic m orgasmic m orgasmic m orgasmic meditationeditationeditationeditation at the One Taste Retreat Center where I was waking up at 5:00am in the morning to practice giving practice giving practice giving practice giving various various various various

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different different different

different women clitoral orgasms while getting feedbackwomen clitoral orgasms while getting feedbackwomen clitoral orgasms while getting feedback on my timing, women clitoral orgasms while getting feedback pressure, speed, location, etc.

I have dated some of the most incredible and beautiful womendated some of the most incredible and beautiful womendated some of the most incredible and beautiful womendated some of the most incredible and beautiful women ranging from the captain of a university tri-athlete team, yoga instructor, go-go dancer, stripper, burlesque dancer, model for Budweiser, etc.

I have given lovers given lovers given lovers given lovers over 30 over 30 over 30 over 30 orgasmorgasmorgasmorgasmssss in one love making session.

What I am the most proud of is that I am still great friends with most of still great friends with most of still great friends with most of still great friends with most of my exes.

my exes. my exes.

my exes. They are incredible people who have added immensely to my life and the mutual appreciation for what we continue to bring to each other’s lives is immense.

Through my incredible desire to master the area of relationships and women, I have devoted myself to the art and science of attracting, connecting, loving, and pleasuring women.

Through my incredible pain and suffering of being a Virgin until I was 23, I am totally inspired to help men like you not just to get laid, but to become a complete lover, because sleeping with a woman is just the tip of the ice burg of what is possible in the art of sensuality and sexuality.

Yes, getting off feels good, but believe me, it is a far greater pleasure to Yes, getting off feels good, but believe me, it is a far greater pleasure to Yes, getting off feels good, but believe me, it is a far greater pleasure to Yes, getting off feels good, but believe me, it is a far greater pleasure to have a woman completely surrender to you

have a woman completely surrender to you have a woman completely surrender to you

have a woman completely surrender to you, and to know that you can lead her to places physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually that she does not even know is possible.

I have worked hard to take myself to the level that I am at now with women and you will benefit by having me clearly delineate the crème de la

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crème practices, techniques, and principals that will turn you into a complete lover!

I started fr I started fr I started fr

I started from scratch.om scratch.om scratch.om scratch. I was not a natural with women, not by a long shot. Everything I have learned you can learn too.Everything I have learned you can learn too.Everything I have learned you can learn too.Everything I have learned you can learn too. All the artistry and mastery that I have gained in the attraction, connection, sensual, and sexual realms you too can have with practice. There is no limit to how great of a lover you can become, and I am constantly pushing myself to the edge of what is possible.

Out of a desire to never be made fun of again, never to be looked down again, and never to be rejected by women again, I have worked hard to perfect myself physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Now that I have accomplished a certain level of mastery in these realms, I have

realized that rejectionrejectionrejectionrejectionssss and failure and failure and failure and failure areareareare part of the game part of the game part of the game part of the game and have enough self confidence to know that only by risking more than other people are willing to risk and falling more times than others fall, do you get a chance at gaining what you truly desire.

Through my desire to perfect myself, I have gained certain mastery in the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual realms that I will infuse into this materials to help accelerate your ability as ahelp accelerate your ability as ahelp accelerate your ability as an incrediblehelp accelerate your ability as an incrediblen incredible lover.n incredible lover. lover. lover.

Physically Physically Physically

Physically I have played four years of college football, competed

internationally in Ultimate and won the championship in Hong Kong against 6 other countries, and spin fire professionally with a troop and have

performed in front of 40,000 people.

Emotionally Emotionally Emotionally

Emotionally I am certified in hypnosis, life coaching, and am a Neuro-Linguistic Programming Master Practitioner and Trainer, and have helped

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people resolve deep emotional trauma from rape, phobias, weight loss, to smoking cessation, etc.

Mentally Mentally Mentally

Mentally I was on MTV for doing math calculations faster than a calculator, I have given seminar tours on human consciousness, and am passionate about accelerated learning techniques that can quickly help me and you embody and actualize the results that we desire.

Spiritually Spiritually Spiritually

Spiritually I was raised in a Buddhist family, went to Catholic grade school, Christian summer camps, Quaker high school and have traveled the world extensively in exploring the truth behind religions from Buddhism in Tibet, Hinduism in India, Taoism in China, Native Maori traditions in New Zealand, Huna in Hawaii, and Catholicism in Italy.

I have taken all of my skills and experiences and applied myself to becoming a complete lover because I knew that I wouldn’t be completely happy even with all the money and accolades in the world, if I could not attract a woman or women whom I adored and loved, who adored and love me, and blew her mind with where I can take her sensually, sexually, and spiritually.

This is what I want for you, to become skilled in the Venusian arts of being an incredible lover so that you can love and pleasure the woman of your so that you can love and pleasure the woman of your so that you can love and pleasure the woman of your so that you can love and pleasure the woman of your choice so deeply

choice so deeply choice so deeply

choice so deeply that you become a pathway for her to the divine.

Seems like a tall order, but this is my intention and the path I would like to pave for you with this book. I am constantly learning, and sensuality sensuality sensuality sensuality and sexuality will be a life long exploration

and sexuality will be a life long exploration and sexuality will be a life long exploration

and sexuality will be a life long exploration for me to take me and my lover or lovers to ever higher levels of play, pleasure, and bliss.

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What you are reading has been built upon the shoulders of giants in the field of attraction strategies, sensuality, and sexuality. I have incredible appreciation for the work that has been done before me and can best express my gratitude through continuing to research, distill, refine, and unravel the mystery that are women.

There are many key influences that accelerated my learning in the various relationship stages you will be learning about. For the attraction stageattraction stageattraction stage attraction stage David DeAngelo and Mystery are my favorites. I spent over $3,000 in studying the PUA materials from many different leaders. This is an underground network of guys called the “Pick Up Artists” and the leaders of this field got to where they are by going out and picking up women 4 hours a day, 7 days a week, for well over 2 years. The underlying primal attraction keys that they have discovered is absolutely dynamite and work incredibly in creating the initial attraction and leading them to the

bedroom.

In my book, I will give you the most effective “techniques” from the PUA community that you can customize for yourself so that you are not memorizing lines and on some level manipulating women to sleep with you. I think that for most men, once they mature past the ego gratification of being able to sleep with women, want to be with an amazing woman/womenwant to be with an amazing woman/womenwant to be with an amazing woman/women want to be with an amazing woman/women who they can be totally authentic with, have an incredible connection, have have have have he

he he

her worship you for the depth of ther worship you for the depth of ther worship you for the depth of ther worship you for the depth of the man man man man whowhowhowho you embody you embody you embody, and for the you embody pleasure that you can draw out of her. To get to this level, most PUA materials will not suffice.

This brings us to the connection stage.connection stage.connection stage. In order to elicit the most connection stage. In order to elicit the most In order to elicit the most In order to elicit the most explosive pleasures out of women, you have to connect with her heart. explosive pleasures out of women, you have to connect with her heart. explosive pleasures out of women, you have to connect with her heart. explosive pleasures out of women, you have to connect with her heart. Romance novel is to women what porn is to men. To get her to absolutely

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think you are a God in and out of bed, you have to know how to open her God in and out of bed, you have to know how to open her God in and out of bed, you have to know how to open her God in and out of bed, you have to know how to open her heart

heart heart

heart, and no amount of “techniques” can get you there. You have to grow and genuinely be the man worthy of her trust and surrender.

Some great influences that have helped me develop the fine distinctions within how to deeply connect with women are David Deida, my soul to soul community, and my consciousness community where we gathered with the premise of interacting with truth, authenticity, and intimacy. Having been with my community for over 7 years, and being called back when I check out, being met by the deepest care and love, knowing the level of depth that is possible, and not settling for any less not settling for any less not settling for any less than my not settling for any less than my than my than my full presencefull presencefull presencefull presence, has been the crucible for the materials that you will be learning in the

connection Stage.

As for the communion stage, which moves from foreplay to sexual communion stage, which moves from foreplay to sexual communion stage, which moves from foreplay to sexual communion stage, which moves from foreplay to sexual exploration to communion

exploration to communion exploration to communion

exploration to communion a great starting inspiration was Mantek Chia. I have viewed over 70 sexual education videos to discover the difference that makes the difference, practiced pink Tantra, and have practiced giving women orgasms at the One Taste Urban Retreat Center. All of this combined with being in a sensual community that regulin a sensual community that regulin a sensual community that regulin a sensual community that regularly hosts play arly hosts play arly hosts play arly hosts play parties

parties parties

parties where 20, 50, 100, and 200 people come together and explore sensuality and sexuality, taking all the learning and fine tuning with my lovers and girlfriends, and infusing the depth of spirituality into my love making. These are the culmination of my experiences and jewels that you will be learning about in the communion stage.

Like anything worth learning, this art of being a complete lover being a complete lover being a complete lover being a complete lover takes takes takes takes desire, dedication, and a willingness to step out of your comfort zone. desire, dedication, and a willingness to step out of your comfort zone. desire, dedication, and a willingness to step out of your comfort zone. desire, dedication, and a willingness to step out of your comfort zone. I have done my part in gathering and organizing the information in the most digestible and easily understandable way possible. It is now your job to

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decide to learn and take the actions necessary to have the success with women that you deserve.

Everything about attracting, adoring, and pleasuring women are learnable learnable learnable learnable and transferable

and transferable and transferable

and transferable skills skills skills, so if you apply yourself to the step by step growth skills into a complete lover, you are going to reap the incredible benefits of becoming a sensually skilled, powerfully attractive, and a holistically loving man.

My intentions for this work is not to just teach men how to pick up women, because often times “pick-up” ends up in a win/lose situation where the woman gets hurt and somehow the woman feels like she is getting played or manipulated into bed.

Being a complete lever is about having a complete model not just for pick-up, but for practicing and mastering deep connection, deep intimacy, and deep adoration. It is about calling forth and drawing out of the divine in the feminine, as well as mastering the sexual techniques, Tantra, and all methods of brining you and your woman to the highest level of pleasure brining you and your woman to the highest level of pleasure brining you and your woman to the highest level of pleasure brining you and your woman to the highest level of pleasure that

that that

that both of both of both of you can experience.both of you can experience.you can experience. you can experience.

In the end, when you are able to incorporate the sensual and sexual energy and have the pure communion of the two of you dancing and merging with the divine, you will know why I want to give you this giftwhy I want to give you this giftwhy I want to give you this gift, because it is why I want to give you this gift perhaps one of the most ecstatic experiences that I know in our human existence.

In becoming a complete lover, you will be In becoming a complete lover, you will be In becoming a complete lover, you will be

In becoming a complete lover, you will be transformed as a man.transformed as a man.transformed as a man. In the transformed as a man. beginning there are going to be techniques, guidelines, and practices.

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Ultimately you will integrate the deepest aspects of attracting women by going beyond techniques and becoming the man who women are naturally drawn to.

The intention of this book is to give you the steps to allow you to go

through the stages of learninglearninglearning at your own pacelearning at your own pace at your own pace.... When you first begin to at your own pace learn, you start with unconscious incompetenceunconscious incompetenceunconscious incompetence, which means that you unconscious incompetence don't know what you don't know. You then move up to conscious conscious conscious conscious incompetence

incompetence incompetence

incompetence, where you know that you don't know, and this is when you discover something that fascinates you, that you are curious about, and you want to learn about. Within this complete lover book you are learning to find distinctions to further hone your ability to attract, adore, and pleasure women.

As you learn and put your learning into practice, you begin to move to the stage of conscious competenceconscious competenceconscious competenceconscious competence, where you are able to consciously exercise the attraction, adoration, and pleasuring techniques with increasing

mastery. Then you move into unconscious competenceunconscious competenceunconscious competence, where the being of unconscious competence the complete lover is integrated into who you are and the artistry of your ability to adore and pleasure women naturally flows from you without needing to consciously think about it.

Reaching unconscious competence does not mean that you stop

practicing, because in increasing you understanding, foundation, and fine distinctions, the range and artistry of your unconscious competence also expands.

Like I have mentioned before, attraction, attraction, attraction, attraction, connection, connection, connection, sensuality, connection, sensuality, sensuality, sensuality, and and and and sexuality,

sexuality, sexuality,

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the universe, the universe, the universe,

the universe, a mystery that will continue to unfold into infinite possibilities of exciting exploration. This is an art and a science, and I will lay down the foundation for you so that you have a step by step path to follow in reaching your fullest potential as a lover.

The level of your competence will grow and deepen if you practice the principles and exercises that I share with you on a consistent basis, and the amazing part is that there are always higher levels that you can obtain.

I would recommend taking on the art from of being a complete lover as a taking on the art from of being a complete lover as a taking on the art from of being a complete lover as a taking on the art from of being a complete lover as a long term journey

long term journey long term journey

long term journey because the rewards of eliciting the most juicy and luscious aspect of the feminine Goddess will continue to blow your mind along the way. Furthermore, the Goddesses will thank you for it in the most pleasurable way imaginable!

Overview

Overview of

of

of the

the

the Three Stages

the

Three Stages

Before I go into the overview, I’ll say that if you feel a need to jump ahead to a certain section (usually the sexual exploration section) go ahead! Just know that the power of any sexual technique is limited by the power of any sexual technique is limited by the power of any sexual technique is limited by the power of any sexual technique is limited by the foundation of attraction and connection that you

foundation of attraction and connection that you foundation of attraction and connection that you

foundation of attraction and connection that you createcreatecreate with a womacreate with a woma with a woma with a woman.n.n.n.

The degree she will open up and surrender to the pleasure that she chooses to experience with you will hinge on the foundation of passionate magnetic attraction, trust, and feeling deeply chosen by you which are covered in the earlier sections.

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As you go through this book, make sure you do the exercisesmake sure you do the exercisesmake sure you do the exercises and action make sure you do the exercises and action and action and action steps

steps steps

steps under each of the 3 stages and 9 phases of the relationship dance. There is power in applying the principles that I share with you. ReadingReadingReading Reading will get you started in understanding the principles. WritingWritingWritingWriting things down will help you accelerate your learning. Taking actionTaking actionTaking action will integrate the Taking action learning into your body. Make sure you take the time to do the exercises so that you can continue to grow and round out your capabilities as an incredible lover.

I have divided the relationship dance into 3 major stages. Stage I is Attraction

Attraction Attraction

Attraction. Stage II is ConnectionConnectionConnectionConnection. Stage III is CommunionCommunionCommunion. Under each Communion stage are three phases that further delineate the step-by-step

progression and distinctions within each stage.

Stage I is AttractionAttractionAttractionAttraction. The three attraction phases are:

1.1.1.1. Initial ContactInitial ContactInitial ContactInitial Contact

In order to connect with a woman, at some point you will have to approach and talk to her. This is the phase where you prepare yourself so that you can initiate contact with any woman with confidence and finesse.

2. 2. 2.

2. Conveying ValueConveying ValueConveying Value Conveying Value

Unless you can effectively add value to your desired woman, there is no reason why she should interact with you. This means that you have to become clear about the value and gift you offer. There will be exercises that elicit and extract the story of the amazing person that is you.

3. 3. 3.

3. Dynamic Tension Dynamic Tension Dynamic Tension Dynamic Tension

This section is about creating an incredible magnetic attraction between you and your chosen woman. To do this, you have to allow her to come

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toward you as much as you move toward her. The two of you get to create dynamic tension by both desiring each other passionately. Through the first two phases, you have given her ample reasons to feel incredible attraction toward you for the gifts you can bring into her life.

In the dynamic tension phase, you have to get clear on your criteria on what you truly desire in a woman and have her qualify and prove herself worthy of being with the rare jewel of a man that you are developing into. When you can genuine choose her for qualities that you desire and she chooses you for the qualities you embody, this will create the foundation for mutual passion that can be intensely pleasurable.

Stage II is ConnectionConnectionConnectionConnection. The three phases are:

1.1.1.1. Building ComfortBuilding ComfortBuilding ComfortBuilding Comfort

In this phase you are just getting to know each other, and people who are like each other “like” each other. So first you find things that you have in common and begin to play on the same team and infuse these common interests with energy, fun, and excitement. You are feeling each other out, sharing experiences that you have had, and finding common ground and rapport with each other so that you have something to build on.

2. Deepening Connection 2. Deepening Connection 2. Deepening Connection 2. Deepening Connection

The deeper the connection that you can make with you desired woman, the more pleasurable and dynamic your sensuality and sexuality will be later. You will learn how to ask her powerful questions to find out the core of what inspires, satisfies, and fulfills her. The more connected and comfortable you feel with each other, the easier it is to shed the façades, pretense, and protection that will lead to her pleasurable opening later.

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3. 3. 3.

3. ProfoundProfoundProfound IntimacyProfound Intimacy Intimacy Intimacy

The word “intimacy” can be transposed into “in to me see”. You are

seeing into the depth of each other past the idiosyncrasies and necessities of life into the dreams, passions, purpose that we all hold deep within. When you achieve intimacy, you will feel that her well being is as important as your own. You will also find out each other’s idiosyncrasies, shadows, fears, and doubts, and choose to adore and love each other through it all which sets the stage naturally for even deeper sensual and sexual

exploration.

Stage III is CommunionCommunionCommunionCommunion. The three phases are:

1. 1. 1.

1. ForeplayForeplayForeplayForeplay

This section will go over how to progressive lead your woman from kissing to the intricacies of exploring her secret erogenous zones and how to smoothly transition from one sensual area to another. Every step of the way, you will be able to progressively check her comfort level so that you will know how and when to explore sensitive areas such as her breasts and inner thighs. Combining this with the true care and adoration you have for her, and you can have hours of juicy exploration moving from one

erogenous zone to another with artistry, grace, and passion.

2. 2. 2.

2. Sexual ExplorationSexual ExplorationSexual Exploration Sexual Exploration

You will learn the most essential aspects of using your fingers to give her mind-blowing orgasms, pleasuring her clitoris, giving her oral pleasure, exploring her G-spot, deep spot, and fornix as well as play with different sexual positions, how to stimulate her clit while making love to her, and practice sexual exercises for having more ejaculatory control. When you continue to build upon the foundation of trust and connection from earlier

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phases, practicing all the distinctions here will allow you to draw out the most incredible pleasure out of your Goddess.

3. 3. 3.

3. CommunionCommunionCommunion Communion

Here you will fine tune your sensitivity to subtle feelings and energies so that every touch becomes amazingly pleasurable and potent. You will also merge more and more with your Goddess so that you get to feel every orgasm you draw out of her as well as knowing where to lead her next. The merging will bring you to a place of so much ecstasy that you both become portals for each other to the divine. With that, you get to take this level of joy, bliss, and rapture into your daily life and complete the circle of the relationship dance.

Stage

Stage IIII Attraction

Attraction

The attraction stage is most pertinent from the time when you first approach a woman to about the first fifteen minutes of interaction. This might seem short, but most women are sensitive, and will read into

everything about how you dress, stand, walk, talk, interact, etc. and will either feel an attraction to you, be curious to find out more, or cut the interaction short.

This stage is where you you you you willwillwillwill learn to learn to learn to create enough attraction and intrigue learn to create enough attraction and intrigue create enough attraction and intrigue create enough attraction and intrigue that

that that

that shesheshe wants to know more about you.she wants to know more about you. wants to know more about you. wants to know more about you. You are creating your first impression. If you were to encapsulate the most fun, exciting, and amazing experiences that you have ever experienced as well your successes, talents, and gifts

successes, talents, and gifts successes, talents, and gifts

successes, talents, and gifts would you be able to convey it in 30 seconds?

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Do you have enough clarity about the value, stimulationvalue, stimulationvalue, stimulationvalue, stimulation, and adventure, and adventure, and adventure, and adventure that you

that you that you

that you cancancancan add to any woman add to any woman add to any woman add to any woman’s life’s life’s life’s life? Have you sat down and written out the best parts about yourself? Do you think it would make a

difference before you approached a woman if you knew exactly what you could offer a woman and exactly what to say?

We all tend to judge a book by its cover if we knew nothing about the book. Superficiality is all we have got when we walk up to a woman who we have never met before, so the attraction stage is about polishing and polishing and polishing and polishing and presenting yourself in the most

presenting yourself in the most presenting yourself in the most

presenting yourself in the most appealingappealingappealing way pappealing way p way possible way possibleossible so that you pique ossible her interest.

Before going further, let’s examine some of the often unconscious aspects of attraction that taps into raw, ancient, raw, ancient, raw, ancient, raw, ancient, and and and and primal energyprimal energyprimal energyprimal energy. In Maslow's hierarchy of needs, attraction and sex is the first driving need and

motivator. Sex sells because it is one the most primal forces that has kept our species alive through the generations.

Regardless of how many bizarre, fear based, and guilt inducing religious and human constructs that have been put upon sexuality, the primal forces of attraction have continued to pull men and women together. If a belief system successfully convinced the human race to abstain from sex, abstain from sex, abstain from sex, abstain from sex, then that belief would destroy the human species in one generation, faster then that belief would destroy the human species in one generation, faster then that belief would destroy the human species in one generation, faster then that belief would destroy the human species in one generation, faster than any

than any than any

than any diseasediseasedisease, deforestation, or pollution.disease, deforestation, or pollution., deforestation, or pollution., deforestation, or pollution. Artificial taboos to natural, divine created, biological functioning is what creates the blocks, confusion, and mixed messages that then manifest as sexual dysfunction such as rape, molestation, and mutilation.

The key is to reclaim the natural primal energreclaim the natural primal energreclaim the natural primal energreclaim the natural primal energy that is our birthrighty that is our birthrighty that is our birthrighty that is our birthright and harness this great reservoir of raw energy and be able to direct this direct this direct this direct this

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energy with wisdom. energy with wisdom. energy with wisdom.

energy with wisdom. Without the proper understanding, application, or mastery over one's primal energy, you cannot easily create the explosive attraction that you deserve with women.

Many men teeter between being afraid of owning their primal energy and being too overbearing with their libido, neither of which are attractive to women. Throughout the attraction stage and the book, you will learn fine distinctions that allow you to liberate the wild, passionate, and primal liberate the wild, passionate, and primal liberate the wild, passionate, and primal liberate the wild, passionate, and primal animal within you

animal within you animal within you

animal within you whilewhilewhilewhile funnel funnel funnel funnelinginging this energy to adore womening this energy to adore women this energy to adore women this energy to adore women which will have them naturally flock to younaturally flock to younaturally flock to younaturally flock to you.

Imagine if you were transported back to the time of cavemen and

cavewoman. If you were a cavewoman, who would you pick as a caveman to increase your chances of survival?

You would probably pick someone who is visually symmetrical which indicates genetic strength and health, someone who can fight off wild animals and other cavemen, someone who can procure the resources of food and shelter, and someone who is willing to stick around to provide for and help raise your baby.

This gives us some hints to what modern women are still attracted to. The primal selection and attraction process are still at work today. I will give these qualities to you in the order of importance. Women want someone who is an alpha malealpha malealpha malealpha male (fighter/protector), someone who is emotionally attached

emotionally attached emotionally attached

emotionally attached to her (connection), someone who has moneymoneymoneymoney (resources), and someone who is good lookinggood lookinggood looking (health). good looking

Over thousands of years, women have continually refined their ability to choose men with these four main survival characteristics. Out of all the

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qualities selected for by women on a primal level, the alpha male the alpha male the alpha male the alpha male characte

characte characte

characteristic is ristic is ristic is usually the first oneristic is usually the first oneusually the first one selected forusually the first one selected for selected for, because on a primal selected for and survival level, an alpha male can kill someone who is better looking, kill a male who is willing to stick around for a long time with the baby, and take resources and territory away from another male.

This is why many women will choose to be with "bad boys" although many of them reap the emotional havoc from the lack of nurturing and

commitment. Many women stick around despite of abuse because their primal attraction mechanism for an alpha male has been ignited and they don’t even know “why” they feel so attracted or take the abuse.

Many women still desire to be "taken" because an alpha male can take her while beta males hesitate, check around, and ask for permission. However, if they could pick, they would choose to have a “bad boy” who is deeply choose to have a “bad boy” who is deeply choose to have a “bad boy” who is deeply choose to have a “bad boy” who is deeply connected to them emotionally.

connected to them emotionally. connected to them emotionally. connected to them emotionally.

Developmentally, a women’s emotionally sensitivity is especially heightened because she needs to have the almost psychic ability to sense whether a man is connected to her emotionally enough to stick around. Any time she has sex, on a primal and biological level, she can get pregnant.

If the man is not emotionally connected to her, then he will not be there for her and she could die during childbirth, or at the very least be stuck with taking care of and providing for the child by herself for the next 10+ years. All this can result from one wrong decision, or one bad judgment.

Emotional connection is more important than money or good looks on a Emotional connection is more important than money or good looks on a Emotional connection is more important than money or good looks on a Emotional connection is more important than money or good looks on a primal le

primal le primal le

primal levelvelvel because a baby with good health and genes can still die if the vel man leaves and she has no way to gather resources. A man can also

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have resources and choose not to “take care” of the woman if he is not emotionally invested.

As a result of these intense evolutionary pressures, most women have super antennae hard wired into their DNA for alpha male qualities and super antennae hard wired into their DNA for alpha male qualities and super antennae hard wired into their DNA for alpha male qualities and super antennae hard wired into their DNA for alpha male qualities and acuity

acuity acuity

acuity for emotional connection for emotional connection for emotional connection that can judge whether most guys make for emotional connection the cut within the first 15 seconds.

So regardless of whether you are rich or poor, good looking or plain, have a big penis or small, if you can master the art of becoming an emotionally art of becoming an emotionally art of becoming an emotionally art of becoming an emotionally mature alpha male

mature alpha male mature alpha male

mature alpha male, solid and confident in knowing that you can handle yourself in any situation and develop the emotional depth, connection, and refinement, you can light up a woman's primal attraction circuitry like a light up a woman's primal attraction circuitry like a light up a woman's primal attraction circuitry like a light up a woman's primal attraction circuitry like a Christmas tree!

Christmas tree! Christmas tree! Christmas tree!

Now that you know what qualities she is looking for, we will move on the first phase to help you begin to implement, prepare, and grow the qualities that are naturally attractive to women.

Stage I Phase I

Stage I Phase I Initial Contact

Initial Contact

One of the most frequent questions that guys ask is “how do I approach a woman?” or “what are some good pick up lines that I can use?”

The underlying fear is usually “how do I nonchalantly walk up to a woman without making a complete fool out of my self?”

Attraction is primal. Attraction is primal. Attraction is primal.

Attraction is primal. You can grow to like someone, but there are some people who you are just “hot” for right off the bat. Biologically, attraction

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is a survival or genetic mechanism to bring the male and female genders of the human species together to create strong and healthy offsprings who are most likely to survive.

In the animal kingdom, this is why brilliant colors in peacock feathers, large antlers on stags, large and elaborate nests in birds, etc. are continually selected for and passed on to the next generation. Even though we now live in a "modern" society, these primal drives are still circulating within our genes and to overlook these drivers is to not fully utilize fully utilize fully utilize fully utilize one of one of one of the most one of the most the most the most powerful sexually magnetic forces available to us.

powerful sexually magnetic forces available to us. powerful sexually magnetic forces available to us. powerful sexually magnetic forces available to us.

The more conscious we are of the underlying reasons for why we feel attracted to women or why women are naturally attracted to certain males, the more we can intentionally amplify that aspect we can intentionally amplify that aspect we can intentionally amplify that aspect of uswe can intentionally amplify that aspect of usof usof us, turn up our desirability to women, and utilize the beauty of being human to grow and transform ourselves. With the proper understanding, application, and implementation of the principles I am about to introduce, you canyou canyou canyou can grow grow grow grow and

and and

and integrate any integrate any integrate any integrate any attraattraattraattractivectivectivective qualities into who you are. qualities into who you are. qualities into who you are. qualities into who you are.

Unlike peacocks which are limited genetically to the size and brilliance of their feathers, the attraction in for the human male goes beyond mere physical appearance and is a learnable and transferable skill.learnable and transferable skill.learnable and transferable skill. learnable and transferable skill.

Furthermore, by becoming the most attractive man you can be, you are also giving women the gift that they naturally want on the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual level.

As I mentioned earlier the four primal factors of attraction that women filter for are being an alpha male, emotional connection, resources, and health in that order. Being a leader or alpha male is first because he can kill and take away the resources of any other male. Second is emotional

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connection because without this, the woman can be in survival danger if the man does not take care of their baby. Resources and health are then bonuses for survival.

If you have doubts about this order, think in terms of survival dynamicsthink in terms of survival dynamicsthink in terms of survival dynamics. I think in terms of survival dynamics will take you through the thought process for looks which is last on the list. It is last because a man who is healthy or good looking can be killed by the tribal leader, leave the woman with the baby, and have no resources to take care of the baby. This is why the other three trumps the last one because what good is a good looking baby if it doesn’t survive?

Although we live in the modern times, these dynamics are still very much the subconscious keys for attractionsubconscious keys for attractionsubconscious keys for attraction. This is good news for you because subconscious keys for attraction you don’t have to look great or have money to attract incredible women. You just have to become a leader and be able connect

You just have to become a leader and be able connect You just have to become a leader and be able connect

You just have to become a leader and be able connect and fulfill her and fulfill her and fulfill her and fulfill her emotionally to have more success with women than you ever dreamed emotionally to have more success with women than you ever dreamed emotionally to have more success with women than you ever dreamed emotionally to have more success with women than you ever dreamed possible

possible possible possible.

With all this in mind, I will address one of the major blocks to making the initial contact. In order to be with a woman, you have to take the first step of going up and talking to her. This is where most men get stopped. This is also where you have to grow into being a leader and an alpha male. If you were an alpha male, would some fear of re

If you were an alpha male, would some fear of re If you were an alpha male, would some fear of re

If you were an alpha male, would some fear of rejection stop you from jection stop you from jection stop you from jection stop you from going for the woman you want?

going for the woman you want? going for the woman you want?

going for the woman you want? Not likely. Hence, if you simply go up to women and talk to them, you are already exhibiting the primary attractive factor of being a dominant male.

If it makes you feel better, your fear of approaching women is justified. In ancient times, we lived in tribes of 30-100 people. Within a small tribe, if you approached a tribal chief’s woman, you might be beat up or even killed

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out of pure survival instincts. Also, if you approached a female and she rejects you, she might tell the few other eligible women in the tribe and it’s over for you in terms of passing on your genes. Although we are far past those times this “safety mechanism” still remain with us that can hold us back.

One of the keys for growing ourselves in empowering ways is to feel the fear and go up to women anyways. Start now in growing yourself into a powerful man. Make this statement your new motto: “F“F“Feel the fear and “Feel the fear and eel the fear and eel the fear and do it anyways.

do it anyways. do it anyways.

do it anyways.”””” Know that you might get rejected and do it anyways. Feel secure enough about yourself that if a woman turns you down that it is her loss. FFFFeel the fear and draw forth your courage to go for what eel the fear and draw forth your courage to go for what eel the fear and draw forth your courage to go for what eel the fear and draw forth your courage to go for what you desire!

you desire! you desire!

you desire! Even the best of us are going to feel some fear in

approaching women, but with practice you can develop the habit of feeling the fear and going for it anyways.

Start by just saying hello. Practice makes Practice makes Practice makes Practice makes perfect.perfect.perfect.perfect. We now live in a much more forgiving time with millions of people around us where you could walk up to 20 different women a day and not run into them again. Over time you will feel the fearful emotion come up just before you initiate contact and perhaps call it excitement. There will be many exercises to prepare and polish you for this so that you can walk up to a woman being as prepared and with as much finesse as possible.

Pitfalls of Initial Contact

Before I go over what to do to best prepare yourself, I will go over some pitfalls to watch out for. If you find yourself falling into any of these

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pitfalls simply correct course. There is more danger in thinking that more danger in thinking that more danger in thinking that youmore danger in thinking that youyou you are

are are

are perfect and resisting change, then to have an open mind and being perfect and resisting change, then to have an open mind and being perfect and resisting change, then to have an open mind and being perfect and resisting change, then to have an open mind and being flexible

flexible flexible

flexible in shifting oneself to align more with what works.

Thoughts create patterns create habits create identity creates Thoughts create patterns create habits create identity creates Thoughts create patterns create habits create identity creates

Thoughts create patterns create habits create identity creates youryouryouryour life. life. life. life. This means that if some of these pitfalls are part of your habits and identity, then they stemmed from consistent thought patterns that

probably no longer serve you. So make up your mind to shift into patterns of thought that empower you and I will be giving you exercises throughout the book to assist you.

Our minds are amazing. ItItItIt will find will find will find will find whatever evidence to support our whatever evidence to support our whatever evidence to support our whatever evidence to support our beliefs

beliefs beliefs

beliefs and answers to questions that we ask ourselves consciously or unconsciously. Like search engines on the internet, you can type in “war” and millions of web pages will come up. Similarly, you can type in “love” and millions of web pages will come up as well.

You can spend the rest of your life reading and experiencing the terrible things that happen in this world, or you can spend the rest of life

celebrating the amazing journey that is life. It all comes down to

consciously choosing the filters of your beliefs. What does this have to do with approaching women? Everything.

Women are extremely sensitive. Desirable women can be approached 20+ times a day. That’s 7300 times a year. That’s 35,600 times in five years. They will make a judgment about you hey will make a judgment about you hey will make a judgment about you hey will make a judgment about you in in in the firstin the firstthe first 3the first 3 3 seconds 3 seconds seconds before seconds you say anything just for time management. Your underlying belief about yourself is what they will be first picking up.

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Since your body language will reflect subconscious beliefs held by you over time, I will go over pitfalls in body language that you can correct as well as thought and behavior patterns that are natural indications of survival weakness that will reduce attraction and have her decide not interact with you.

Pitfall #1 Nervousness

Nervousness can be indicated by speaking too fast, walking too fast, twitching, fiddling with your fingers, fast movements of most kinds, not being able to sit still, darting your eyes, etc. Nervousness indicates that Nervousness indicates that Nervousness indicates that Nervousness indicates that on some level you feel unsettled within yourself, that you feel uncertain, on some level you feel unsettled within yourself, that you feel uncertain, on some level you feel unsettled within yourself, that you feel uncertain, on some level you feel unsettled within yourself, that you feel uncertain, unworthy,

unworthy, unworthy,

unworthy, and that the woman you are interested in is above you or out of your league. Most women do not want to be with a man who she can’t trust and count on. She wants a man who has his stuff together, can protect her, and can lead her, not someone she has to mother.

If you're nervous, then when a situation comes where she needs protection, are you going to hesitate in protecting her? Probably. When you express nervousness, she's likely going to weed you out. This is not to say that nervousness makes you a bad person. WWWWith practice you can turn your ith practice you can turn your ith practice you can turn your ith practice you can turn your nervousness into calmness with

nervousness into calmness with nervousness into calmness with

nervousness into calmness with just just just just a few deep breathsa few deep breathsa few deep breaths. Practice noticing a few deep breaths anytime you are reflexively nervous and allow yourself to become centered and grounded in those instances. This practice will allow you to grow into someone who can choose to remain calm and clear in the center of a storm and develop the confidence in knowing that there is nothing you cannot handle, including the woman you are interested in.

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The second pitfall is having a closed posture. This occurs whenThis occurs whenThis occurs when you are This occurs when you are you are you are hunched over

hunched over hunched over

hunched over, , , , your hands or feet are crossedyour hands or feet are crossedyour hands or feet are crossed,,,, and yoyour hands or feet are crossed and yo and yo and your body is ur body is ur body is ur body is rigid.

rigid. rigid.

rigid. Closed posture indicates some levels of tightness in your body and can also indicate some nervousness. It also communicates that you are not going to be as much fun and playful. Women love excitement, fun, play, juiciness, and lusciousness. So, if she's going to interact with you and you're going to add some stiffness and rigidity to her life, then there's not a lot of incentive for her to choose to be with you.

So open up, breathe deep, and relax. Anytime you realize that you are becoming closed off or contracted, consciously open yourself up more on the physical level, and you will be amazed at the space that gets created for you mentally. Make this a practice by taking 10 seconds to change taking 10 seconds to change taking 10 seconds to change taking 10 seconds to change your state whenever you are not reflecti

your state whenever you are not reflecti your state whenever you are not reflecti

your state whenever you are not reflecting your deeper possibilitiesng your deeper possibilitiesng your deeper possibilitiesng your deeper possibilities, and be prepared to be amazed, not only at how many more women find you

attractive, but also in how you feel about yourself.

Pitfall #3 Trying to Win Her Approval

Pitfall three is trying to win her approval which can happen when you are buying things to get her approval

buying things to get her approval buying things to get her approval

buying things to get her approval and giving her compliments from a place and giving her compliments from a place and giving her compliments from a place and giving her compliments from a place of supplication

of supplication of supplication

of supplication. Women feel cheapened by this, as if you can buy her into bed. There’s a fine line between buying things for her because that’s who you are, and you love to adore her in that way, versus being uncertain about what you have to offer as a person, so using money or compliments to fill the gaps hoping she will like you better.

Another indication that you're putting her on a pedestal is when you are “trying” to cater to her every whim and being a yes-man to whatever she wants. Most men will suffocate a woman because he is afraid that she

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will leave him otherwise. Women want a man who has his own direction, is Women want a man who has his own direction, is Women want a man who has his own direction, is Women want a man who has his own direction, is certain about his ability to create, and who sh

certain about his ability to create, and who sh certain about his ability to create, and who sh

certain about his ability to create, and who she can truste can truste can truste can trust. So take her opinions into account and then decide and lead her into amazing

experiences.

When you are supplicating to her whims and desires and saying "oh, whatever you want", she then has to lead and make the decision. You were trying to be “nice” and not risk making a wrong decision, but now she has actually access the masculine aspect of herself access the masculine aspect of herself access the masculine aspect of herself in making the decision access the masculine aspect of herself in making the decision in making the decision in making the decision which turns off her feminine flow and surrender

which turns off her feminine flow and surrender which turns off her feminine flow and surrender which turns off her feminine flow and surrender.

When you're putting the woman on the pedestal it also indicates that she's above you, that you are not playing on a level field. An incredible, desirable woman does not want that. Unless they are really drunk or desperate, women want an equal playmate who can meet her, who will be there for her, who she can trust and have tons of fun with even if it is just for one night.

Pitfall #4 Over-Proving Yourself

A similar pitfall to seeking her approval is trying to prove yourself too much. If you're trying to impress her with your money and

accomplishments rather than just knowing what you have to offer, then you are trying too hard. Once again, there’s a fine line where you know and love what you've accomplished and where you are insecure and need her approval for those accomplishments.

Needing her to like you is a sure w Needing her to like you is a sure w Needing her to like you is a sure w

Needing her to like you is a sure way to turn her off because it’s a sign ay to turn her off because it’s a sign ay to turn her off because it’s a sign ay to turn her off because it’s a sign that you do not have a strong sense of yourself

that you do not have a strong sense of yourself that you do not have a strong sense of yourself

that you do not have a strong sense of yourself and that she can knock you off your direction and purpose easily just with a little frown. She will

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then be running the relationship which is fine, but most women if they are “strong” have a underlying desire to have a man who can “take her” who is “stronger” and can lead her to her feminine opening and surrender. Be the man who clearly knows his worth and share your greatness through your being.

As you talk with your woman, note inote inote if you are bragging note if you are bragging f you are bragging f you are bragging rather than rather than rather than rather than sharin

sharin sharin

sharing.g.g.g. Once again, this is a fine distinction. I like to brag sometimes, it is overdoing it to hide some underlying insecurity that you have to watch out for. Sometimes, it is much easier to wear our successes on the surface hoping to draw attention away from what we fear the woman will reject us for, rather than owning our shadows solidly and sharing both sharing both sharing both sharing both your accomplishments and your idiosyncrasies with equal pride.

your accomplishments and your idiosyncrasies with equal pride. your accomplishments and your idiosyncrasies with equal pride. your accomplishments and your idiosyncrasies with equal pride.

The practice of being a complete lover is not just about picking up women, it is ultimately a transformation of you into the highest vision of who you can be. The attractiveness that you develop, hone, and simmer within yourself in the process will be a crucible where you are transformed into a man who women are naturally attracted to.

Pitfall #5 Being Defensive

Being defensive and uncomfortable about your short Being defensive and uncomfortable about your short Being defensive and uncomfortable about your short

Being defensive and uncomfortable about your short----comings icomings icomings icomings is another s another s another s another indicator of low self

indicator of low self indicator of low self

indicator of low self----worth.worth.worth. The “shame” can be anything from being a worth. bad lover, being fat, having no money, no friends, etc. as extreme

examples. None of us are perfect. We all have things about us that can use a little improvement. No woman is perfect either, so how your handle how your handle how your handle how your handle your own imperfections is going to show her how you

your own imperfections is going to show her how you your own imperfections is going to show her how you

your own imperfections is going to show her how you will will will handle her will handle her handle her handle her imperfections

imperfections imperfections

imperfections.... Are you going to make a mountain out of a mole hill, or do you have enough maturity to acknowledge and accept what you can’t

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The Complete Lover

The Complete Lover

The Complete Lover

The Complete Lover

by Neo

by Neo

by Neo

by Neo

© 2007

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Table of Contents

Table of Contents

Table of Contents

Table of Contents

Introduction

Introduction

Introduction

Introduction

Overview

Overview

Overview

Overview of

of

of

of the

the

the Three Stages

the

Three Stages

Three Stages

Three Stages

Stage

Stage

Stage

Stage IIII Attraction

Attraction

Attraction

Attraction

Stage I Phase I

Stage I Phase I

Stage I Phase I

Stage I Phase I Initial Contact

Initial Contact

Initial Contact

Initial Contact

Pitfalls of Initial Contact

Pitfalls of Initial Contact

Pitfalls of Initial Contact

Pitfalls of Initial Contact