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go in for a kiss.
This is an obvious one, but it can actual-ly be subtler than it seems. You can give a kind of light peck on the cheek or on the lips and just see how she responds.
A lot of guys might not have the balls to do this during a first conversation, but, if you’re not sure where you stand, it is the most straightforward way to find out.
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When you go for the kiss, you’ll know.
But be aware: even if she turns away or puts up a hand, it might NOT be a bad sign.
If she kind of turns her cheek but keeps talking and flirting with you, you're still all right.
If she turns away and gives you a clear indi-cation: “Hey, you got that totally wrong idea, I was just being nice to you,” then you’ve got a clear cut answer as well. If you don’t
want to wonder where you stand, a kiss is the way to go.
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here have been quite a few times now that girls have rejected sev-eral of my attempts before finally allowing the interaction to move forward. Hell, I can think of one time the girl slapped me twice (playfully) before I wound up sleeping with her later that night...Even if she denies you again…as long as she still seems to be enjoying the interac-tion you can go for it again later in the night.
Many times, even when a woman wants to kiss you, she has a clock in her head that determines when she’ll kiss you. And it isn’t until that clock goes off that she will accept your advance.
In that case, just follow the two steps forward, one step back method of physical escalation.
Another extremely effective way to handle getting the cheek is to call out the elephant in the room.
This means that right after she gives you her cheek when you go for the kiss…simply say out loud:
“She slipped me the cheek? Damn!”
Or say something else that humorously ac-knowledges the fact she turned her cheek.
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I have a friend who was just telling me a story where a girl turned her cheek when he went for the kiss, and he said (in a Sein-feld-like- voice, almost doing self commentary),
“That was a little awkward… totally wasn’t expecting her to give me the cheek.”
He said she quickly played along doing her own commentary, “Yea… A little too fast…
maybe if he seduced me a little bit more…”
Two hours later he slept with her.
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make an offhand comment like, “we should hang out sometime.”
Make the comment and then see how she responds. You may not even have an actual plan for a date, but you can learn a lot from her response. A quick, “Oh, yeah, definitely,”
is a very good sign. On the other hand, if she kind of ignores it, or acts weird when
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you say it, it means you probably haven’t built enough attraction and you’ve got to either continue building attraction or you’ve got to cut your losses and move on.
try the high five test.
Sometimes, I like to stop a conversa-tion and just say something like “Oh, you’re cool” and then give a girl a high five and grip her hand lightly. (Not in a creepy, weird way, just very lightly.) Then, I’ll see how long she lets her hand stays there. If she lets her hand linger in your hand, it means there’s some chemistry that she is feeling.
If she pulls her hand back right away, it means there’s not enough attrac-tion there or she doesn’t feel
com-fortable enough with you yet.
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take her hand and lead her somewhere.
One thing you can do is lead her somewhere by the hand. So if you’re at a bar or party.
Say, “Come with me” and take her hand and lead her into another spot. You’ll notice how she reacts to you holding her hand. If she’s into you she’ll probably grip your hand a bit. And when you get to the destination she won’t pull away her hand right away.
make a joke about your wife and kids.
I sometimes do this: I’ll just say,
“I gotta get back to my wife and kids” and then judge her reaction.
If you say something like this and a girl really likes you, she’s going to say “WHAT!
What do you mean your wife and kids?”
Then you can say, “I’m just kidding.” She has shown that she is into you and that
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your comment caught her off guard. On the other hand, if you say “I’ve got get back to my wife and kids,” and you get no reaction out of her, then it probably wasn’t going as well as you thought it was.
ask personal Questions.
This is something you can use on a date, or when you go back to her place to see if she’s wants to sleep with you. The more personal question she’s willing to answer, the more likely she is to sleep with you.
Rob’s personal favorite strategy is to ask her about her first kiss. After she’s answered that, the he’ll ask her ,“When did you lose your virginity?” He says that every single girl who’s answered that question he’s gone on to sleep with. If they won’t answer the question, it means you have to work a little bit more at creating attraction and comfort.