The following principles should help pump up the blood volume and bring a lightning pulse to your inner charm.
1. Charm’s best friend is “Eye Contact”. Remember, they are dependent on each other. Whenever you’re talking to anyone, establish
eye contact. Eye contact equals confidence. It shows that you are attentive and respectful to the other person.
2. Charming someone involves the act of complimenting. What you
want to compliment is easy to figure out. Just think of what makes you feel “complimented”, and do the same for others.
You can easily compliment someone simply by what they wear. Doing this also suggests that your date has a great “fashion sense” – which consequently makes them “feel good” about themselves.
Don’t flatter others or throw any fake compliments. The difference
between charm and flattery is that flattery has an agenda. “I'll flatter you so you'll give me what I want later.” Charm is a way of being, rather than a means to achieve something.
3. Charm requires sincerity. The effect of charm is strongest when you
believe what you're saying. If the girl is rocking nice earrings, compliment on how it sparkles perfectly on the side of her face.
If you enjoy the presence of her smile, tell her you “you have a beautiful smile”. That line alone makes any women melt!
4. Don’t be selfish. Again, don’t start expecting anything in return. Not
even a feedback. When you’re dining out with women, make sure you offer them a portion of your food when it arrives. Being a “gentlemen” is charming.
5. Charm is nothing sexual. It is genuine warmth and comfort. 6. Charm is all about exerting confidence.
7. Charm at its simplest just says, "You are terrific. Thank you for joining me." – in a non-submissive manner.
Well, it’s time pull the blankets off your inner charm and get it to shape.
Start practicing with the list now so you don’t come across as rehearsed – or simply putting up a front.
Who can you practice your charm with? Simple. Your parents, siblings, dog, neighbor, friend.
You’ll be amazed at how “charming” people will be in return.
Remember, you want to draw her interests out instead of self- absorbedly droning about yourself.
In short, charm is like a butterfly's touch on a rose petal. The key is to not overdo it. It can be a VERY fun and a profitable tool in interpersonal relationships and the dating stratosphere.
THE KEY TO REALLY TIGHTENING THE BOND.
Make her feel like you and her on the same team. When you’re out on
a date, get her involved in your activities. Play verbal games. Sync date. Ask her who she thinks will be ‘getting some’ tonight. Take turns, and explain your reason behind your answer.
Another great chemistry inducing game is to ask what she thinks of other people that are around you guys. The state of emotions you want to feel is:
YOU+HER AGAINST THE WOLD.
Once a woman becomes emotionally invested, she’ll convert these feelings into indicators of comfort around you.
YOU CAN BE GREAT A ROLE MODEL
You know how everyone has at least one role model? Become your date’s role model. Better yet, BE a role model to the world, starting with your neighborhood. Women will be deeply drawn to your well-defined qualities.
All women want a man full of life. People are vicariously living other’s people life. You want her to be in yours.
Role models are very addictive people to be around as they enlighten you. They add value to people’s life and give inspiration. Learn to inspire others with a sense of greatness. Push others to elevate into new heights.
The secret: People are drawn to people who have things that we wish for
ourselves. Health, power, success, energy, drive.
THAT’S WHY YOU MUST GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE. GET BUSY.
If you’re living your learning how to attract women, or win over their approval, stop immediately. What you want to do is make women
FIGHT to live with you.
Stop clocking in absurd hours researching on the latest pick up technique. Stop trying to be a pick up artist.
Start being productive guys. Pursue your dreams. Is it earning more
that you should undervalue the importance of your sexual needs; I just think it’s silly to spend half a day fantasizing about women, or how to preparing to impress them.
When you think less about having to impress women, they become less of a priority. When something’s less of a priority for you, you lose that sense of nervousness, or chances of “freaking out” when it comes to dealing with it.
You see, the more you want something badly, the more emotionally involved you become. When dating women, you can’t let your emotions
overwhelm you.
When you believe that you need a woman – again, I’m not saying that you don’t – you become more frustrated and angry when you are deprived of having a girl in your life. This then disrupts and weakens your calm and cool demeanors, which are pillar emotions during the process of creating attraction.
Women are not attracted to men who fall for them too easily. They
have guys falling for them left and right so stop blending in as a blur with the rest that are trying to “qualify” for her. Stand out by making her “qualify” for you.
WHY AND HOW SARCASM WORKS ON WOMEN
One very powerful and coveted skill I think most men should learn is SARCASM. In short, sarcasm is making light of a negative situation for
comedic effect. Trust me, despite what you’ve been taught about other dating coaches about sarcasm, it’s VERY powerful and can streamline the process of creating heavy attraction.
However, be careful how you use it. Why? Because it could make you come across an insensitive jerk, or actually hurting someone’s feeling if you can’t play it right.
Sarcasm is kind of like a doctor’s scalpel, it’s a razor sharp tool that should be used with extreme skill and precision. If you slip when you’re using it, you could end up slicing yourself or the person you’re using it for.
If you are capable of handling sarcasm, WHICH I know you have the potential to, the results can be extremely rewarding! I am actually a master of this subject and known for shooting healthy doses of sarcasm into your system.
Here are a few examples to how I put sarcasm to work. It’s really easy.
Imagine this.
When a woman sneaks up behind in attempt to scare you, tell her “Ohh...
that was almost as scary as walking in the dark” Then, pretend to
If you notice her walking at a fast pace, playfully cough and tell her “Ahem,
are we in a race? You’re walking kind of fast.”
If she’s trying to sing to a song – and her voice just isn’t vocal coaching material, playfully tease her. Tell her: “Hey, I think you should be signed
by a record label.” All you’ll suffer is a punch to the shoulder.
Sarcasm works best when conveyed in an exaggerated intonation of voice to over-accentuate and DRAW attention to whatever you’re trying to make humor of.
For example, if you see an oversized jean on display in a store, joke about how you can “fit your whole family in there.”
Warning: Stay away from sarcasm when you’ve come to a tragic accident –
plane crash on the news, child abuse etc. You don’t want to see a car crash and go “how lovely”.
I advise you to test sarcasm with your close friends or people who know you already. This will help refine your skills before anything is really on the line.