Using The Insurance Statement, I ask my Unconscious for something to drink and immediately, I see a wine glass with some red wine in it. Okay, that’s a glimmer but which wine, I ask my Unconscious.
Then I see a bottle of one of my favorite wines pop up and immediately the taste of it, a 2003 Barolo. Wow!
Okay, that does it. My Imaginary Experience now is a 10. It is complete, vivid and just right.
If those less vivid or less complete aspects of your Imaginary Experience don’t rapidly become much more complete, see below. You’re probably hitting a Blocker.
Bottom Line
Cycle through these four steps until you’re getting a least an 8 rating with respect to each of your visual, auditory and kinesthetic experiences. You should be able to get there unless you’re encountering a Blocker.
Framing Any Blocker That Is Making This Difficult
If you’re unable to tune up your Imaginary Experience to at least an 8 with respect to the visual, auditory and kinesthetic aspects or you’re unable to fill in the missing elements or you are unable to get it to a 10 in perfection, you’re probably running into a Blocker.
For now, your job is to Frame that Blocker. Later, in Chapter 9, I’ll show you how to resolve that self-defeating Unconscious habit pattern into a self-supporting one.
For now, on a separate piece of paper, record what was going on when you tried to tune-up your Imaginary Experience and “couldn’t.”
For example, Michael was upset because he’d yelled at his daughter, Avis, when she wouldn’t clean up her room. So, having read Volumes 1 and 2 of “Eye to Eye”
(Gloria’s and my book on successfully parenting 3 to 5 year olds), he decided to do two things.
First, he’d do a BA Base Reframing or an SA Root Normal Base Reframing (see Chapters 4 – C and 10 ) to resolve the Blocker that caused him to act reactively. Secondly, he would do the Cybernetic Transposition Three-Step to implement the way of handling this type of situation as described in Volume 1 of our book (“Making Clean Up Fun” in Chapter 5).
Having performed the BA Base Reframing, he wrote the following BA Target, which is the first step of the Cybernetic Transposition Three-Step (See Chapter 2.)
His BA Target was:
When Avis’ room is a mess and it’s time to clean up, I sit on the floor with her and gently and lovingly say, “I’ll put the first thing away if you agree to put the second thing away. Please point to the thing that you'd like me to put away” She smiles at me and points at something so I put it away. Then I ask, “What are you going to put away?” She says, giggling, “That one,” pointing at something very small. I say, “great” and she puts it away.
We continue doing this “I’ll do it then you do it routine” but I’d like things to go a little faster. So I say, “I’ll bet I can get my things put away faster than you can put yours away.” She laughs and says, “No, I can do it faster,” grabs a toy and puts it in the
appropriate bin. Pretty soon, the room is clean and I say, “What a great job we did, didn’t we?” She smiles and says, “Great job!”
Then I ask Avis, “What can we do so that next time cleaning up is a lot easier.” She smiles, thinks briefly and makes a great suggestion. We discuss her suggestion and consequences of forgetting (we recommend corrective actions rather than punishments) in case she forgets until we get something that seems right for both of us. Then she agrees to carry it out.
We’re both smiling and happy.
But when Michael tries to create a 10-level Imaginary Experience of this happening, he has a feeling that it’s all a pipe dream. It just won’t happen.
So he writes on a paper, “When I try to imagine my BA Target actually occurring, I get a strong feeling that it is impossible.”
This Frames the Blocker situation so that he can resolve it once he has learned how to do so (in Chapter 4- C).
Don’t beat yourself up about the Blocker that you identify and Frame in this way. See it as an opportunity to make things easier and more successful for yourself once you have resolved your Blocker into a self-supporting Unconscious habit pattern.
The Tune-Up Process
Any process that involves the following steps is what I call a “Tune-Up Process.”
1. Frame an Imaginary Experience by describing it in writing and rate how perfect it is with respect to whatever is the relevant measure, using a 1 to 10 scale.
For example, in coming up with my perfect Imaginary Experience of dinner that I described a couple of pages ago, I hit several minor Blockers but, because they’re so familiar to me, I didn’t have to formally go through all of these steps.
To give you an illustration of this Process, however, I’ll show you the way I would have done one of those Tune-Up’s if I were doing the formal version of the Tune-Up
Here we go.
At a certain point, when reviewing my Imaginary Experience of tonight’s dinner, I concluded, “Something’s missing.”
So, as step 1 of my “formal” Tune-Up, I would have rated my Imaginary Experience in terms of how vivid, complete and perfect it was for me, using a 1 to 10 scale where 10 equals terrific, exactly what I want. My rating was 8.5. I recorded that.
2. Frame how your Imaginary Experience needs to be changed in order to make it a 10 and record that in writing.
I focused on my Imaginary Experience looking for what was missing. Almost
immediately, I realized that the missing element was the food smells which, to me, are among the most important aspects of cooking. I recorded that.
3. Focus on your Heart Chakra, tell your Unconscious what your rating is and ask it to make the changes noted in step 2 “in ways that are for the highest good of me and of all
concerned.”
Focusing on my Heart Chakra, I said to my Unconscious, “I rate this Imaginary Experience of dinner tonight as only an 8.5. It is missing food smells. Please change my Imaginary experience to include food smells and anything else needed to bring it up to a 10 rating. Please do this in ways that are for the highest good of me and of all concerned.”
I breathed that all in and imagined making it a part of me. Then I blew out and, immediately, the smell of the meat searing popped into my Imaginary Experience.
That was the first time through, the first iteration of the Tune-Up Process. To get my rating up to a 10, I’d go through at least one more iteration.
The Tune-Up Process is a simple and powerful way of effectively Dialoguing with your
Unconscious to modify your Imaginary Experience until it is very vivid, complete and perfect
for you. In this process, you tell your Unconscious what you would like changed and it responds by giving you a modified Imaginary Experience.
We will use Tune-Up Processes extensively in doing what I will show you in the following Chapters.
IMPORTANT: The Insurance Statement
When instructing your Unconscious, it is imperative that you always include what I call “The
Insurance Statement.”
Your Unconscious controls everything in your life. The Insurance Statement ensures that it interprets your instruction in a way that works for you rather than against you.
The Insurance Statement is “…in ways that are for the highest good of me and of all concerned.”
IT IS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT TO ALWAYS INCLUDE THE INSURANCE STATEMENT WHEN GIVING INSTRUCTIONS TO YOUR UNCONSCIOUS.