Canned material is OK to use as a SUPPLEMENT to your own social skills .
Relying too heavily on memorized lines will hinder your progress. This is about learning how to go with the flow and adapt, not reciting ‘correct answers’ by rote.
Pickup lines are DEAD for a reason .
True alpha males don’t spend time worrying or talking about how alpha they are .
Focus instead on bringing quality to any situation: be the catalyst for good times and laughter.
Be VERY CAREFUL when exploring the ‘teasing/cocky’ route with a woman .
Most guys just end up insulting her or being unintentionally rude. If you are going to try this, remember that the focus is on playfulness and good humor, not ‘negging’.
Be irresistibly compelling to women by evoking FEELINGS in your conversations
.
Don’t just talk about weather, work, and ‘small talk’. It’s OK to be unusual.
You are a man .
Part of being a man is experiencing attraction towards particular women. Be OK with showing this attraction in the way you talk and act.
Learn how to talk about interesting stuff .
The best way to do this is by leading an interesting life that you are passionate about, and that involves hobbies other than ‘being great with women’.
Use humor .
Don’t be the ‘clown’, but learn to make people laugh.
If she deserves it, or if you feel like it, challenge her .
Don’t be compliant; be the dominant one, instead.
You will usually have to interrupt women to get their attention .
This is normal. If you’re one of those guys who lurks around, hoping for a woman to detach from the group before ‘making your move’, your progress will move so slowly as to be imperceptible.
When talking to a woman, have something to say that is not ‘conventional small talk’ .
Use time constraints .
That way, she won’t worry that you’re going to hover over her, and she can open up and relax.
Honesty is difficult, but is seen as STRONG and SEXY .
Learn how to be radically honest with women as a way of demonstrating strength of character, dominance, and creating ATTRACTION.
Get her attention .
Be interesting to her by using feelings-based words, paying attention to your/her surrounds, and being very perceptive of her. Look for the root words that she uses.
You don’t have to make it work .
If a conversation isn’t panning out, that’s cool. Just say, ‘Well, nice talking to you,’ and move off. Don’t put pressure on yourself to make it work – remember your abundance mentality. It’s NO BIG DEAL.
Daydream to retrain your brain .
Count on setbacks and obstacles .
This is about progress, not perfection. Don’t get too attached to the outcome.
When getting her information, act like it’s no big deal .
When the time comes to get her information, be cool and offhand about it. Don’t ASK her for it; instead, use casual, declarative statements. If you’ve been doing your homework and creating the right atmosphere, it will be a natural, easy progression – and she will actually
expect it of you.
Only jack-asses ‘wait 3 days’ .
Reestablish contact soon after getting her info, and don’t expect the same level of rapport as you had the last time you spoke. You will probably need to rebuild at least a bit; that’s normal and to be expected.
Keep all non-facetime contact with her
brief.
Use your face-to-face time to get to know her and create attraction; the phone is not a great medium for doing this. Texts and emails are OK, and can be a great way to flirt … but again, keep them brief and light.
Section 4: Female Psychology
‘Was will das Weib?’ – Sigmund Freud
Sigmund Freud, the father of psychoanalysis, asked the million-dollar question, ‘What do women want?’
Despite a long and illustrious life spent churning the muck of the human psyche, he was still unable to answer that question to any satisfying degree, even on his deathbed. Today, men are still trying to answer that same question for themselves … with about the same degree of success.
The problem that most guys have with figuring out how to please women is that they leave two important factors out of consideration:
- Factor one. Women themselves do not know, consciously, what it is that they want. Therefore, no amount of questioning will induce them to elucidate further on the matter in a way that’s actually helpful to men, since they are literally unable to. What a woman thinks she wants, and the things that will actually attract her, are completely different. For example, a woman may think that she wants a ‘nice, dependable guy’ who will bring her 3 dozen roses and always call her at the end of the day; but, when she actually meets a guy like this, she’s not attracted to him … she’s bored by him. The things
that women THINK they want are DIFFERENT to what will actually ATTRACT them.
Factor two. Women don’t want guys who need to be told. They don’t want to -
explain to you how to please them. They want you to already know. They want
So even if you get a roomful of willing, helpful women, and ask them to explicitly state what it is that they desire and find attractive in men, they won’t be able to help you.
They’ll just confuse you more. And unfortunately, asking a woman how you can please her is likely to turn her off you as a potential mate, even if you follow her advice to the letter. In the following section, we’re going to take a look at the ‘behind the scenes’ needs and desires of most women, with a view to being able to meet them spontaneously and in a way that sparks attraction and demonstrates your own, unusual quality.