1. Set the Bagha whenever you feel listless, tired or down, and act as if you are a person who has energy; its simple, easy, and effective.
2. When you act as if you are the person you choose, you set up a mental image that stimulates the cells in your body, when you are through acting as if, just act as if you were back to your old self again. This allows you better control over your attitude and actions.
and you are more likely to get the correct answer.
Try this yourself. Take a person you know, someone you are not that friendly with, someone who is just an acquaintance. Tomorrow, call or meet the person in question and act as if you were great friends. But first, listen to the meditation exercise on the next track of this disk; that will help immensely. Long ago, when I first began to use these methods myself I discovered the real power was in acting out the problems and then the solutions with a ‘what if’ attitude. And lo and behold, it worked. What if? That’s the secret. And when you combine that with the Bagha you get a virtual instant success. This training track of CD-4 is quite short because there is no point in going any further, the track containing the meditation on friendship will help to guide you in the right direction. After that, you will have to decide for yourself. How many friends do you want?
CHAPTER FIVE
SECRETS TO OVERCOMING GRIEF & DEPRESSION
Grief is the normal and natural reaction to something gone from one’s life; mental suffering over real, or perceived loss. This would include loss of money, health, a relationship, or a person in one’s life. Money can be regained, health can be restored, and severed relationships can be brought back, but when a person dies, there is no regaining, no restoration and no coming back. Let’s examine one of the basic reasons some people feel a profound sense of that loss while others accept it, cry a bit, and then get on with their lives. To understand the attitudes of different people with regard to grief it is necessary to be aware of the complex of sin-guilt-punishment.
A very basic definition of the trio of emotions that cause havoc in so many lives is that sin is a missing of the mark, guilt is a compulsion to repeat the act correctly, and punishment is a reminder.
There are many marks, or goals, or ways to do things that are set by authority figures in our lives. Many shall and shall not’s have been pounded into you from the time of infancy to your full maturity. Each of these commands, (set first by the parent, then by institutions, both religious and educational, then by professors, friends, the media, books, governments, peers, and employers,) when accepted by the individual becomes a mark, a goal, to do, or not to do.
Generally, these things you are told to do, or not to do, are set to help you. Some are logical, (don’t play with fire it will burn you) and some are illogical, (don’t eat meat on Friday) but all of them, ostensibly are set to help you, (the faction setting it up believes.) When you miss the mark, when you do the thing you feel you shouldn’t have done, or when you do not do the
thing you feel you should have done, a feeling of having done something wrong comes about. The depth of the feeling is dependent upon the degree of the sense you have about the event. There are people who feel more remorse over the killing of a rabbit then they would over that of a human being.
When you miss the mark, nature has implanted within us an emotion to succeed that we call guilt. Guilt is simply a compulsion to repeat the act correctly and thereby alleviate the feeling of having done something wrong. Undo the wrong and you feel better about the thing. However there are many things that cannot be undone, what of them?
When the implied wrong is not made right, the third member of the trio comes into play, punishment, and that is the segment that wreaks havoc in so many lives. Punishment generally comes in the form of limitations—I only deserve so much. I only deserve so much in the way of relationships, of friends, of income, of health, of freedom, of good things, and on and on. Limitations prevent us from utilizing the natural talents we have when those feelings of self sabotage are instigated by a sense of having done something wrong, and not correcting it. The limiting factors invariably come about after a loss of some kind. (More on this concept in CD #-8.)
Death is the greatest loss of all, since it is perceived as irreversible. When a friend or a parent dies, all kinds of guilt’s come up. What’s lost can no longer be found. How now can you repeat the act correctly? How now can you say all the things you should have said, how now can you apologize for all the things you did and did not do, all the things you said and did not say. How now can you tell the departed you loved them? The heartache that comes about is seemingly insurmountable as one grieves not so much for the departed, but for the self that cannot eradicate the guilt. Grief comes about due in main to the obvious fact that the situation, whatever it may be, cannot be corrected by an action. Things can no longer be said, words can no longer be taken back. Or could they? Could there be a way to do the undoable? Let’s see.
Guilt is a mental feeling, an attitude, a point of view. Attitudes, when observed, can be changed. All one requires is a technique of the mind to diminish, or to destroy the feeling that the implied wrong must be set right. All things that have happened are memories only. They no longer exist except in the mind. The future has not happened therefore all thoughts of future occurrences are fantasies. Now is the only reality, and there is no now. Whatever is happening is already in the past. Now is a flow from memory to
fantasy. Memories can be controlled; fantasies can be organized, influenced, and managed. Here is how it’s done.
There is a concept, accepted by more than half of the community of physicists, that embraces the idea of an infinity of universes or dimensions. This is a basic premise of quantum physics and the belief has been around since the time of Albert Einstein. Still another basic quantum premise is that when an event is observed, it changes. We, as observers, have some control over events when the concept is understood and utilized. When observing at the mental level, you can change your fantasies at will.
Grief, that unrelenting feeling of remorse and guilt can be diminished and dissolved simply by visiting the departed and doing, or saying the things that can no longer be said in this dimension. The quest in this case is for the departed. You visit another dimension via a Meditation Journey; a dimension where the departed is both active and involved with a counterpart of yourself. The meditation guides you to the spiritual dimension where you bid the departed a fond farewell, with a loving send off, and get a sense of the immediate recovery from grief.
You may well ask if it works? I’ve been doing it for more than twenty years, with hundreds of grief stricken people, and with hundreds of successes. Our method is not only for recovery from grief but a myriad of other things as well however here I will address only the relief of grief. Here are specific instructions for you to diminish the grief you feel, perhaps even eliminate it entirely. The way is simpler than you might imagine. It requires you to take a journey; an interior journey, a journey of the imagination, a journey of fantasy. But as grief resides in the imagination, you will find the solution there as well. I call this the Converse in Spirit Technique.
This requires a short trip to the spiritual dimension via that great imagination of yours. The road is one that has always been there but perhaps hidden from view. Fling aside the curtain and there you will find the answer. First relax and allow yourself to go to the Meditation level of mind for deeper concentration. You concentrate on the person you are grieving for. At first you will note a memory, a mental image of the person that was, the person you knew.
When the picture is clear in your mind say, ‘now the spiritual dimension’ and the image will change. You now sense the person as they are, not as they were. At that point hold your mental conversation with the person you had been grieving for and say the things you should have said, imagine doing the things you should have done, ask the person’s forgiveness, and hear the person forgiving you. Then relax and come back to the present. Whenever you think about the person after that, imagine the person happy and satisfied with their new life in another dimension.
Do not concern yourself with the question, “Am I really at the Spiritual Dimension? How do I know this?” Your mind does not differentiate between the real and the imagined. Only the logical, outer conscious you does that. And it is important in the general working of things. Deep seated beliefs are real for the individuals who have those beliefs in their mind. Seldom are these beliefs taken out into the light of day to be examined by the logical outer conscious. At the meditation state of consciousness whatever you project on the screen of your mind is. If you think you are at the spiritual dimension, you will be.
During the following meditation exercise of CD-5 you may well ask yourself another question. After the completion of the Journey to the Spiritual Dimension meditation do you feel better? If you do, then you were there. It’s as simple as that
Overcoming Depression
There are many different types of depression. From Clinical depression which has been considered to be a chemical imbalance in the transmitters of the brain to a general feeling of unease, of being depressed; of “being blue”, “feeling sad for no reason”, or “having no motivation to do anything”. Clinical depression is generally acknowledged to be more serious than normal